Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 02 – L030D

Taimiyyah Zubair

Al-Baqarah 221-228 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 224-228

Share Page

AI: Summary ©

The speakers discuss the importance of avoiding false accusations and slaying behavior in Islam. They stress the need for people to avoid harms and avoid harms in speech, including "lee," and the natural cycle of divorce. They also emphasize the roles of women and men in power, including their responsibilities and authority, and the need for models to be models in their authority. The conversation touches on the natural cycle of divorce, the legal process, and dressing up for women.

AI: Summary ©

00:00:02 --> 00:00:05
			I was a bit late to the ship on Elysium Bismillah Ar Rahman AR Rahim
		
00:00:06 --> 00:00:09
			will begin from Isaiah 224.
		
00:00:10 --> 00:00:31
			Whenever the jar the law of button the a monocle and do not make your oath by Allah, and excuse, an
excuse for what? untouchable? What a Deku. Were to see humaneness against being righteous and
fearing Allah and making peace among people.
		
00:00:32 --> 00:00:45
			Let them do not make, do not make who, Allah, Allah. What does it mean by do not make a lot of
meaning do not make your oath In the name of Allah.
		
00:00:46 --> 00:00:59
			Meaning do not swear by Allah. Why? robot sadly, a monocle as an excuse against such and such, the
word urba is from the roof letters, I'm wrong, but
		
00:01:00 --> 00:01:58
			an OVA is used for a shield. It is used for an excuse. Basically araba literally means to present
something What does it mean? to present something filmer out of the home? lol melodica then he
presented those things to the angels. So I don't know literally means to present something and Allah
is anything that is presented as a shield that a person puts in front of him as a shield. Why? So
that the other who is attacking him does not attack him does not manage to harm him, but instead his
attack his assault, where does it go on the shield? So roba is a shield something that a person
presents in order to defend himself in order to save himself so that he does not get the blame. He
		
00:01:58 --> 00:02:12
			does not get hurt. So this is what our look literally his robot is basically something that comes
between two things a hindrance a shield, and excuse something that stops
		
00:02:13 --> 00:02:21
			so do not make your swear by a lie your oath by Allah and a shield and excuse for who the a
mannequin for your
		
00:02:23 --> 00:02:28
			a man is a plural of you mean any images from the reflectors? Yeah, me *.
		
00:02:29 --> 00:02:48
			And what do you mean is used for an oath, it is used for a swear and the word you mean also is used
for right hand. Why? Because the Arabs whenever they would swear, when they would swear Alliance,
they would use your right hand either to shake the hands. So the right hand is involved in making a
note.
		
00:02:50 --> 00:03:08
			So do not make the name of Allah, a shield for your oath. What does it mean by this being do not
make or In the name of Allah, to stop you from doing what and who from doing bed or from having
taqwa.
		
00:03:09 --> 00:03:19
			So basically, do not make oaths In the name of Allah, to prevent you, to stop you from doing that
which is good.
		
00:03:20 --> 00:03:26
			Do not make oath do not swear oaths, that you will not do something good.
		
00:03:27 --> 00:03:32
			Do not make an oath, viola. Do not make a swear by Allah, that you will not do something.
		
00:03:33 --> 00:04:15
			So do not vow in order to refrain from doing good things, to refrain from doing good works. Many
times what happens when people become upset? When people become frustrated? They say, Fine, I'm
never going to pray again. I'm never going to make the organ. I swear. I'm never going to give
Southern login. I swear I'm never going to give anything to this person again. So when people become
angry, what do they do this were awed by Allah. And they stop themselves from doing good. So don't
make the name of Allah and excuse a shield. Something that stops you from doing more good.
		
00:04:16 --> 00:04:18
			And tomorrow with a taco
		
00:04:19 --> 00:04:51
			tomorrow, as you notice from the root letter is bad law bitch which is used for good deed fair
little play a lot doing good things with that Dakota tacos from taco and what is taco to stay away
from evil? What does the humaneness and you do Islam between people to see who is from Islam and
Islam is to reconcile between two disputants so that they can do common terms and they agree with
each other. They don't have any enmity or any strife between each other anymore. But mostly
humaneness.
		
00:04:53 --> 00:04:59
			Basically, under Babu What the Who? What to slay Habana ness is understood in several ways.
		
00:05:00 --> 00:05:04
			First one ever said that underbar root actually means a letter?
		
00:05:05 --> 00:05:07
			What does it mean? Unless
		
00:05:08 --> 00:05:11
			Unless, unless to slay him?
		
00:05:12 --> 00:05:21
			And how can you give the meaning of law, because you see the word rule should actually have a noon
at the end, technically should have known it.
		
00:05:22 --> 00:05:26
			But when it doesn't have a known that means that something is affecting it, eliminating that noon
		
00:05:27 --> 00:05:49
			and many times it's the law that eliminates the noon from the end of the word. For example, let the
guru lead the coup. The word is actually the cooloola. The word is actually that coluna the saya
Turin is well known, isn't it? But when love comes, what does it do? It removes the noon
		
00:05:50 --> 00:05:54
			so this is why many scholars have said that until Babu actually means a letter.
		
00:05:56 --> 00:06:23
			So don't swear by Allah, that you will not do. That you will not do good. Or don't swear by Allah,
that you will not have Taqwa that you will not stay away from something that is bad. Or do not swear
by Allah, that you will not do Islam between people. Just because you have become upset, just
because you're frustrated. No, don't misuse the name of Allah. Don't use the name of Allah to stop
you from doing good.
		
00:06:24 --> 00:06:31
			So the name of a lot the swear by Allah should not come between you and a good deed.
		
00:06:32 --> 00:06:38
			The name of a lie should not come between you and between doing something that is good.
		
00:06:39 --> 00:06:55
			Other scholars have said that antiviral with a taco or towsley Habana ness, what it means is that do
not take false or false by Allah in order to do good in order to have the court in order to do
Islam.
		
00:06:56 --> 00:07:06
			For example, many times people swear oaths and their falsehoods, they don't actually mean it. And
what do they say, by Allah, I would use either
		
00:07:07 --> 00:07:10
			I swear I'm going to do this, I swear I will do is laugh between these people.
		
00:07:11 --> 00:07:14
			I swear, I'm never going to do this thing again.
		
00:07:15 --> 00:07:21
			And they use the name of Allah just to satisfy the other person. But in reality, they don't do it.
		
00:07:22 --> 00:07:27
			So don't misuse the name of Allah. The name of Allah is not so cheap that you can use it in a false
way.
		
00:07:28 --> 00:07:37
			Then this has also been understood as that antiviral was a tougher to slay humaneness, that do not
swear by Allah all the time.
		
00:07:38 --> 00:07:50
			Even though you may be very righteous, you may be very pious, do not swear by a lot all the time
that you will do bit that you will have the code that you will do is like between people just do it.
		
00:07:51 --> 00:08:11
			Because many times people have the habit of saying what law he law or law he but our law, he, I
swear I swear, even in our language in English, even people don't say, by allowing you to say, I
swear, I swear I saw that I swear she said that, I swear I hate that. So don't swear all the time,
even for something good.
		
00:08:12 --> 00:08:20
			Because when you swear all the time, when you swear by a lot all the time, then what happens? What
happens words, they lose their meaning they become cliche,
		
00:08:21 --> 00:08:31
			and they don't have any effect anymore. People don't believe you. And you don't realize the
importance of what you're actually saying. It becomes very casual.
		
00:08:32 --> 00:08:35
			So don't swear all the time. Just do it
		
00:08:36 --> 00:08:41
			will last me on it. And Allah is hearing and he is also knowing.
		
00:08:42 --> 00:08:53
			So he's hearing of what you say meaning he hears every oath that you swear. And he is Aleem, he
knows about what you do. He knows about the actions that you commit.
		
00:08:54 --> 00:09:04
			So basically, we see over here, that we have been discouraged from swearing oaths from taking notes
all the time, unnecessarily.
		
00:09:05 --> 00:09:13
			And we have also been discouraged over here, from swearing odds, do not do something good.
		
00:09:14 --> 00:09:16
			swearing odds are not doing something good.
		
00:09:17 --> 00:09:23
			Therefore, if a person took an oath of not doing something good, then what should he do? He should
break that
		
00:09:25 --> 00:09:42
			he should break that out. And instead you should do that which is good. There's a hadith which is
mentioned it's a Muslim, in which the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that whoever makes a vow, and
then finds what is better than his vow, what should he do? He should break his vow, he should break
his awesome
		
00:09:43 --> 00:09:58
			he should pay the cafaro and perform the deed that is better. So don't worry about Allah and say
that you're not going to do something good. And if you have done this, then what should you do?
break that oath and do that which is
		
00:09:59 --> 00:10:00
			the
		
00:10:00 --> 00:10:03
			ambivalence should not come between you and a good deed.
		
00:10:05 --> 00:10:15
			Then Allah says, Now you are free to qumola, who Allah will not call you to account you actually do
is from the root letters Hamza ha, then
		
00:10:16 --> 00:10:18
			what is asked me to take something.
		
00:10:19 --> 00:10:34
			And air whether you actually do is to hold someone accountable, to seize, to hold someone
accountable, to punish someone for what they have done, to impose blame upon them.
		
00:10:36 --> 00:11:19
			So laying you off in a coma, Allah will not call you to account, meaning Allah does not impose any
blame on you. You're not sinful. If you do this, you're not going to be punished. If you do this.
You don't have to pay the cafaro. If you do this, you don't have to pay any expiation. If you do
this, if you do what? billowing fee a monocle with regards to vain or useless when it comes to your
oats. So basically, an intentional or unintentional vows. Allah will not call you to account for
that. What does it mean by this word love?
		
00:11:20 --> 00:11:49
			No, is from the root fetters lamb lane well, and literally the word love is used for a shame
yourself. Meaning something that is unnecessary socket is one that is dropped, meaning you don't pay
any attention to it. It's unnecessary. It's not counted. It's not listed. So level is what?
Something that is unnecessary. It is not counted. It is not listed. You don't really count it.
		
00:11:50 --> 00:11:53
			And especially this is in speech in words.
		
00:11:55 --> 00:12:10
			For example, sometimes when people talk, they use some words unintentionally. Why? Because they're
part of their speech. For instance, some people have a habit of saying like, or, actually, or
really.
		
00:12:11 --> 00:12:21
			So when people say really are actually you're like, Do you notice all those words? You don't, you
tend to ignore them and you focus on what they're really saying.
		
00:12:22 --> 00:12:31
			So, love is that which is unnecessary, it is not listed, it is not counted, it is not given any
importance. And especially this is in speech.
		
00:12:32 --> 00:12:35
			It is said to be a Swati
		
00:12:36 --> 00:12:41
			What are birds. So when they make noise when they're chirping, do you count every
		
00:12:43 --> 00:12:45
			holiday, you know is that the birds are chirping, that's it.
		
00:12:46 --> 00:12:48
			And the word love is used in several ways.
		
00:12:49 --> 00:12:52
			First of all, the word love is used for useless,
		
00:12:53 --> 00:13:06
			useless conversation that is meaningless, that does not bring any benefit to people. You can talk
and talk about those things for hours. And at the end of the day, there's really no benefit when
you're tired by talking,
		
00:13:07 --> 00:13:09
			or the other person is tired by listening to you.
		
00:13:10 --> 00:13:13
			So love is used for useless conversation.
		
00:13:14 --> 00:13:18
			And it's not just used for useless conversation. It is also used for useless action.
		
00:13:19 --> 00:13:24
			Something that a person is indulgent. And it's completely useless. It's not bringing them any
benefit.
		
00:13:25 --> 00:13:53
			For example, a person is playing a game for like three hours, a simple game on his phone, or on her
phone. And if you play that game once or twice, okay, you know, you learn about it, you find it
interesting, but if you play the same game over and over and over again, at the end what happens
when you get bored of it. So this is what love is useless conversation. Useless action, useless
indulgence, not just in speech.
		
00:13:54 --> 00:14:00
			The word love is also used for making noise. And it's also used for an unintentional statement.
		
00:14:01 --> 00:14:13
			So over here, love gives the meaning of an intentional, amen yummy because we love Wi Fi a manickam
a man again is the plural of you mean what is your mean? an oath as well.
		
00:14:14 --> 00:15:00
			So belong with a monocle, meaning Allah will not hold you accountable, Allah will not punish you for
those odds that you swear unintentionally. For those odds that you make spontaneously, carelessly,
why? Because it's your habit. It's a habitual statement. You said out of habit. And you said without
thinking. Now what is included in this? Some have said that this means swearing on every little
thing. For example, some people say that Allah He but Allah, He will law he in every little thing.
And they don't actually mean that they're swearing. It's just a part of speech. And they said was
		
00:15:00 --> 00:15:46
			thinking they're not actually swearing like they would swear in a court. So this is what it means.
And I show that on her, she explained this as a novel phillium in her column with virtually fever,
it colorable law, what the law one law, he, that alone an oath is that a person would speak just at
his house, in his home, that no By Allah, rather by Allah. So when a person says that this is what
love is in a man, but this does not mean that a person should adopt this manner, that a person
should make it a habit to say, well lucky all the time. Because we know from the Quran that the
successful people are those who whom are a lovely mortal wound, those who turn away who leave on
		
00:15:46 --> 00:16:07
			love, even if it's in speech. However, if a person has that habit from before, and if he's trying to
get rid of it, or he doesn't realize, and he says it, because it's habit, that's what he hears all
the time. And so he ends up saying it as well, then in that case, he's not going to be held
accountable. Because it's a part of speech, he says it spontaneously, he says, without thinking out
of habit.
		
00:16:08 --> 00:16:33
			Secondly, they said, that we love Wi Fi, a manickam. Log in a man refers to a person swearing an
oath, while he's angry, or while he is overcome by his emotions, he's not really thinking properly.
And in the state of anger, he swears that I swear, I'm never going to speak to her again. I swear,
I'm never going to do this again.
		
00:16:34 --> 00:16:56
			Like, for instance, you cook food, and people don't eat it like that's it. I swear, I'm never going
to cook food for them again, you do cook, you have to cook. So when a person becomes angry, and he
swears, then this is what law, and this has you been even our best with it. He said that the law
well, includes vowing while a person is angry.
		
00:16:58 --> 00:17:01
			So now you asked me to come along, we'll be left with a medical
		
00:17:02 --> 00:17:18
			other opinions are also there. But basically, these two are the main important ones, that when a
person vows without thinking unintentionally, he doesn't realize what he's saying. It's just a part
of his speech. It's a habit and he says it. So in that case, a person is not held accountable.
		
00:17:19 --> 00:17:47
			However, Allah says one that can but meaning rather, you asked me to come He will definitely call
you to account you are accountable, you will be punished you have to give kafala in the case when we
make cassava for that which has earned what has earned pulu bukem your hearts. cassava is from cause
and what does that mean? To earn something to do something to do some action in order to gain some
results at the end whether it is positive or negative.
		
00:17:48 --> 00:18:05
			So he will call you to account for that which your hearts have earned. What does it mean by this,
your hearts have earned meaning what you swear deliberately, what you swear intentionally,
knowingly.
		
00:18:06 --> 00:18:15
			So the odds that you swear with intention, with determination, those you are responsible for them.
		
00:18:16 --> 00:18:20
			And this can be understood with another eye on the colon which is sort of the 989
		
00:18:21 --> 00:18:29
			where Allah says lay you off into como la will be left with a monocle, when I can you Fado can be
matched up to a man
		
00:18:30 --> 00:18:40
			Allah will not impose blame upon you for what is meaningless in your own words. But he will impose
blame upon you for breaking what you intended of words.
		
00:18:41 --> 00:19:00
			So, any or any swear that a person makes intentionally, knowingly, consciously, then he is
responsible for that, he will be called to account for that he has to fulfill it. And if he goes
against it, he has to give kafele for it.
		
00:19:02 --> 00:19:08
			Now one important thing that we learned from this ayah is maca Sabbath, kulu buco
		
00:19:09 --> 00:19:14
			what your hearts have earned, what your hearts have acquired.
		
00:19:15 --> 00:19:15
			Hope is it true
		
00:19:16 --> 00:19:32
			that just as our limbs, our hands, our body, it performs certain actions, our tongue performs
actions. Similarly, our hearts also perform actions.
		
00:19:34 --> 00:19:37
			And some of these actions a person is accountable for them.
		
00:19:39 --> 00:19:59
			If a person writes something with his hand, that's an action that he's doing with his hand. If he
goes somewhere, if he walks with his feet, it's an action that is feat that performed and he is
accountable for that. Similarly, there are some actions of the heart for which a person is
accountable.
		
00:20:00 --> 00:20:02
			And what are those actions of the heart?
		
00:20:03 --> 00:20:06
			The actions of the heart include, first of all, intention.
		
00:20:07 --> 00:20:08
			Nia,
		
00:20:09 --> 00:20:11
			when a person intends to do something,
		
00:20:13 --> 00:20:17
			when a person makes the intention to do something or to not do something.
		
00:20:18 --> 00:20:22
			Similarly, another action of the heart is hate,
		
00:20:23 --> 00:20:24
			hatred,
		
00:20:25 --> 00:20:31
			when a person hates another, which leads to jealousy, envy, jealousy is also an action of the heart.
		
00:20:33 --> 00:20:39
			Similarly, love loving someone is an action of the heart. Eman is an action of the heart
		
00:20:40 --> 00:20:47
			isn't action of the heart yaqeen certainty is an action of the heart. Fear is an action of the
heart.
		
00:20:48 --> 00:20:54
			So all of these feelings, emotions, what are they? Their actions of the heart.
		
00:20:55 --> 00:21:09
			And for some of them, a person is accountable for which is when he firmly intends to do something.
Or when he consciously says something knowing about what he's actually saying.
		
00:21:10 --> 00:21:14
			So for example, the person makes an oath, while he's conscious of what he's wearing.
		
00:21:15 --> 00:21:22
			So Allah will call you to account for that which you swear deliberately,
		
00:21:23 --> 00:21:27
			will lower foreign hellene and allies forgiving, and he is also forbearing.
		
00:21:28 --> 00:21:29
			Who is the food?
		
00:21:30 --> 00:21:31
			One who forgives
		
00:21:32 --> 00:21:36
			and notice her food. It's not just half
		
00:21:37 --> 00:21:42
			life it is one who forgives, but of a food shows me about over and what is
		
00:21:43 --> 00:21:56
			the excess in the action, or that the quality of the action is very intense. So food is not just one
who forgives once or twice, but he is one who forgives again and again.
		
00:21:57 --> 00:22:04
			And one is offered. Then there is a full and then there is a love
		
00:22:06 --> 00:22:08
			affair is also one of the names of laws.
		
00:22:10 --> 00:22:12
			So Allah is Forgiving, forgiving a What
		
00:22:13 --> 00:22:16
			are the odds that you make unintentionally,
		
00:22:17 --> 00:22:20
			of just what slips out of your mouth, unintentionally.
		
00:22:21 --> 00:22:23
			And he's also halleen.
		
00:22:24 --> 00:22:41
			This name of Allah had him. It's a very beautiful name from the root letters had on me, Helen and
Helen is to control oneself. It is the ability to have self control at the time of extreme anger
		
00:22:42 --> 00:22:46
			at the occasion of extreme anger upsetness.
		
00:22:47 --> 00:22:50
			When a person is angry when someone is angry, generally what do they do?
		
00:22:51 --> 00:23:09
			They express their anger. They say words that they shouldn't say they sometimes hit, sometimes beat
the other person. They scream. They hurt themselves. They hurt other people, they hurt other things.
Sometimes when people become angry, they throw things on the ground, children throw tantrums.
		
00:23:10 --> 00:23:18
			Him is the ability to control oneself at the time of anger. At the time when you're upset with
someone.
		
00:23:19 --> 00:23:24
			And when someone controls oneself at this situation, what does he do?
		
00:23:25 --> 00:23:27
			He does not show the anger.
		
00:23:28 --> 00:23:32
			He does not take revenge.
		
00:23:33 --> 00:23:36
			He does not inflict punishment.
		
00:23:37 --> 00:23:44
			Just imagine if a child has made you angry. What do you want to do? Slap him across the face. Or say
that you're grounded. You're not going
		
00:23:45 --> 00:23:55
			but hidden, is to say, that's it. I'm not saying anything. I'm not doing anything else. You just
close yourself. That's it.
		
00:23:56 --> 00:24:03
			So when Allah is Helene, what does it mean by that? Because people can also be Helen. But when Allah
is hiding, what does it mean?
		
00:24:04 --> 00:24:08
			Allah, who is most tolerant
		
00:24:09 --> 00:24:29
			that we sin day in and day out? We upset a lot of panel data. We do those actions which invite the
anger of a law which invite the punishment of Allah. But is it that the moment we sin, the moment we
utter a lie? The moment we do something wrong immediately we're punished.
		
00:24:30 --> 00:24:31
			Does it happen?
		
00:24:32 --> 00:24:59
			If that were the case that nobody would be alive on the earth? Nobody at all. Allah is Helene, that
despite the power and ability that he has to impose blame to take revenge, to inflict punishment.
What does he do? He forgives or he delays. He gives more and more chances to people more and more
time to people
		
00:25:00 --> 00:25:15
			So that they can realize the wrongs that they're doing and they can repent. So he is highly, you
misuse the name of Allah. You swear all the time, but still allies highly needed as a punishment for
the one who deserves it.
		
00:25:17 --> 00:25:22
			So alone will afford and haleem Allah is Forgiving and he's also most tolerant
		
00:25:39 --> 00:25:43
			long Nani
		
00:25:45 --> 00:25:46
			como la
		
00:25:54 --> 00:25:57
			casa de una was a long.
		
00:26:04 --> 00:26:08
			So, we see that the end of the day, the matter of every person is with a loss of
		
00:26:09 --> 00:26:16
			Allah knows about what we have said deliberately and what we have said by mistake unintentionally
		
00:26:18 --> 00:26:22
			and depending on the intention, Allah will deal with people
		
00:26:24 --> 00:26:26
			lilla Dena, you Luna made me say him,
		
00:26:27 --> 00:26:32
			for those who swear, ILA with their lives.
		
00:26:33 --> 00:26:36
			Linda, Dina, you Luna minister,
		
00:26:38 --> 00:26:42
			you Luna is from the root letters Hamza lamb well,
		
00:26:43 --> 00:26:50
			and one means do not do something, or to neglect doing something,
		
00:26:52 --> 00:26:55
			a person should do something, but what does he do? He doesn't do it.
		
00:26:56 --> 00:27:01
			Or a person can do something, but what does he do he neglected, he doesn't bother doing it.
		
00:27:02 --> 00:27:08
			So, this is what is it is to not do something to neglect doing something.
		
00:27:09 --> 00:27:18
			And ILA literally means, to fall short, in doing what a person must do.
		
00:27:19 --> 00:27:24
			There is a particular action, which somebody must do. What is ILA do not do it.
		
00:27:26 --> 00:27:28
			It is that allowed to feel I'm
		
00:27:29 --> 00:27:40
			allowed to, is from Isla, Phil, meaning I fell short. In doing such and such. I didn't do it
properly, or I didn't do it completely, or I didn't do it at all.
		
00:27:41 --> 00:27:44
			ILA as a technical term, as determined fit,
		
00:27:45 --> 00:28:02
			is used for the swear, or the odds that a man takes the swear, or the oath, the vow that a man makes
of what of staying away from his wife.
		
00:28:03 --> 00:28:08
			And staying away means not approaching her sexually.
		
00:28:09 --> 00:28:18
			So it is a vow of sexual abstention by a husband, from his wife, for a period of time.
		
00:28:19 --> 00:28:34
			For example, a person swears that I will not approach my wife, for the next year, I will not have
any physical contact with her, I will not have any sexual * with her for the next year, or
for the next week, or for five years, or for five months,
		
00:28:36 --> 00:29:15
			we see that the relationship between a husband and wife is a very normal relationship. It's human
beings. And just as in any relationship, human beings have ups and downs. Similarly, husband and
wife also have ups and downs. They have fights, they have arguments, sometimes they love each other.
Sometimes they hate each other, sometimes want to talk to each other, sometimes they don't want to
see each other. And sometimes in the state of extreme anger, or at the occasion of extreme anger.
Some people what they do is, or rather, this was a custom in the Arabs, that they would make an
order with swear note that said, I'm not going to have any sexual * with my wife for the
		
00:29:15 --> 00:29:18
			next year, for the next five years.
		
00:29:19 --> 00:29:21
			And when this would happen, who suffers?
		
00:29:22 --> 00:29:24
			It's the woman who suffers
		
00:29:25 --> 00:29:34
			because neither is she divorced, that she's free to marry someone else. Nor is she married in a way
that she's getting her help. That she's getting her right.
		
00:29:36 --> 00:29:42
			And for men, especially in that culture, it wouldn't make a difference. Why? Because he would have
other wives.
		
00:29:43 --> 00:30:00
			So this poor wife is being ignored all the time. And she's neither married, nor is she divorced. So
this would make the woman suffer a lot. So now the ruling is being given for those people who would
swear to stay away from
		
00:30:00 --> 00:30:01
			From their lives.
		
00:30:02 --> 00:30:25
			So Linda, Dina, you luminesce him, those people who make the swear or who swear not to have sexual
relations with their wives, what do they have to do? There are those who are barty assure, they have
to wait for how long four months, the boss is from the new federal law, the side
		
00:30:26 --> 00:30:33
			rubs and rubs literally means to wait to wait for something, to be on the lookout for something.
		
00:30:34 --> 00:30:43
			And that is to wait for a time period to be over. What does it mean, to wait for a time period to be
over?
		
00:30:44 --> 00:30:48
			It is to wait for some work to be completed to come to an end.
		
00:30:50 --> 00:31:01
			So for example, something takes a year to do some course takes 18 months to do. So what is the
purpose that you wait for the end,
		
00:31:02 --> 00:31:08
			that when this is over, when this is completed, then I will move on to this. This is what the
purpose is.
		
00:31:09 --> 00:31:16
			So for those people who swear that they will not have any sexual relation with their wife, they are
to wait for four months.
		
00:31:18 --> 00:31:20
			But does anybody is there to wait for four months?
		
00:31:21 --> 00:31:30
			Meaning the maximum time period that is valid for ILA is four months, not more than that.
		
00:31:31 --> 00:31:49
			The husband cannot make a lab for one year, for five years for five months, for four months and 10
days? No, he can only swear to stay away from his wife for a maximum of four months, not more than
that at all.
		
00:31:50 --> 00:32:08
			And if he swears for more than four months for like a year for six months or five years, then what
is he supposed to do? At the end of four months, he has to decide, he has to decide, what does he
have to decide, either he is keeping the wife or he is going to divorce.
		
00:32:09 --> 00:32:17
			And if he does not divorce her, then the law will step in. And the judge, he is going to make that
marriage contract invalid.
		
00:32:18 --> 00:32:39
			So that also assure the maximum waiting time is four months, it's only valid for four months. And
after that, the man has to decide either he's keeping the wife or he's letting her go. She cannot be
just tied up in a wedlock, and she's not treated as a married woman. Nor is she freed to go marry
someone else.
		
00:32:41 --> 00:32:50
			For infertile, then, if they returned Pharaoh from the Confederates via Hamza, fate is to return
fair Illa is to return to something.
		
00:32:51 --> 00:32:54
			So for info, if they return?
		
00:32:55 --> 00:33:03
			Who does they refer to the men because it's a levina. You Luna. It's the men who swear or
		
00:33:04 --> 00:33:10
			so for info if these men meaning who have sworn the ILA, if they return if they return to,
		
00:33:11 --> 00:33:27
			if they return to their wives, meaning if they give up their oath, and they resume normal
relationship with their wife, when, at the end of the four months, or at the end of the ILA, even if
it was less than four months, but remember, it cannot be more than four months.
		
00:33:28 --> 00:33:33
			So for info for in the law of afford over him, then indeed a less forgiving and merciful,
		
00:33:34 --> 00:34:13
			forgiving the merciful to, to the men, because they have done good upon themselves, and also upon
their wives. But let's say that there is no mutual understanding either. It is something that is
wrong. Which is why when they do return, then Allah forgives them. Forgiveness As for what for a sin
for wrong that is committed for an action that is incorrect. So they're swearing, and ILA is not
something that is correct, which is why when they return when they repent, then Allah is Forgiving
towards them for the sin that they have committed.
		
00:34:14 --> 00:34:51
			Now, over here, we see that the man, he swears an oath, that he will stay away from his wife. But
what if a man and woman, husband and wife they're living together? And they don't necessarily the
man does not necessarily take a note, but for four months, they don't have any relationship. for
four months. They don't have any relationship or let's say, a man and woman they're made, but the
man is traveling. He's out of the country. He's out of the city and he hasn't met his wife for more
than four months for more than a year. Does it mean that their marriage has to come to an end?
Either divorce or comeback?
		
00:34:52 --> 00:34:52
			No.
		
00:34:53 --> 00:34:59
			As long as there is a mutual understanding, for example, the woman is sick or the man is sick.
They're ill
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:22
			And it cannot be thought of they would have any sexual relationship. Or they're living in two
different countries, they're married, but they're living in two different countries. So, with mutual
understanding, it is allowed to not have any relationship. But if a man swears that he will not have
any relationship, then in that case, he cannot mistreat the woman like that.
		
00:35:24 --> 00:35:26
			The maximum time that he has is four months.
		
00:35:27 --> 00:35:31
			But let's say that there is no mutual understanding either.
		
00:35:32 --> 00:35:42
			The man does not have any interest in his wife, he stays away from her, or the Liberty leaves, he's
always traveling, he's always out. And the woman feels neglected.
		
00:35:43 --> 00:35:55
			The woman feels it's unfair for her, her right is not being given, the man does not give any time to
her, then in that case, the woman has a right to take the man to the court and get that whole
problem solved.
		
00:35:56 --> 00:35:58
			Because a woman cannot be mistreated like that.
		
00:36:00 --> 00:36:10
			So, the first case is off. ILA. Another case is of mutual understanding. And a third case, is
neither of ILA nor is it a mutual understanding.
		
00:36:11 --> 00:36:17
			So, then in that case, a woman will go to the court, and the court will decide, the judge will
decide as to what they're supposed to do.
		
00:36:18 --> 00:36:19
			What interests me.
		
00:36:20 --> 00:36:43
			And if they're resolved, upon divorce, they decided to have divorce as long as again, they in other
mood refers to the same men. Okay, the plural does not refer to men and woman because it's a man who
gives divorce not the woman. So for inner as omotola, but the word as always from a meme. And as it
is to firmly intend to do something,
		
00:36:44 --> 00:37:06
			to decide to make a decision, but that's it, this is what I'm going to do. So if the men upon the
completion, or upon the end of the term of the four month waiting term, if they decide that they're
not going to keep the woman, they're not going to keep that wife, if they decide to give divorce,
and for in a loss, immune, Arlene, Allah is hearing, and he's ultimately
		
00:37:08 --> 00:37:20
			the word of Fallout, is from the roof letters for lamb off and Pollock is divorce. What does it
literally mean? It literally means to clear what does that mean?
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:24
			Remember this clear the two meanings of fescue, the fee and the holy
		
00:37:26 --> 00:37:39
			from Halla, Yahoo, to empty something, to take something out to make a position vacant, it's empty.
You see vacancies, whether it's a position or a job or whatever, it's when something is empty, it's
made vacant.
		
00:37:40 --> 00:38:07
			And secondly, for lack means literally it means what does it mean? To let something go to send
something it is said, to know what is an outcome or she can open it up. She was set free. She was
released from the bondage. Just imagine a camel that is tied up with a rope to a pole. She's tied a
fuse restricted, she can go around. So
		
00:38:08 --> 00:38:15
			you open her up, you untie her and you let her go. She's free to wander about this is the literal
meaning of the word.
		
00:38:17 --> 00:38:22
			And because once the cabin is free, it will go and that place will become empty.
		
00:38:23 --> 00:38:25
			Remember the meaning of nikka
		
00:38:26 --> 00:38:26
			what is Nikkor
		
00:38:27 --> 00:38:29
			up Dominica
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:51
			to tie together to join together man and woman in a relationship. And Pollock is to untie that knot.
It is to dissolve that contract. It is to dissolve that relationship so that the man and woman who
were related before are not related anymore.
		
00:38:52 --> 00:39:10
			The man and woman who were the best for each other are now strangers for each other. This is what
bollock is. So, in Orissa Mottola, if these men who have swarmed the ILA against their wives, if
they decide to give up then you need Allah is hearing and he's alternately
		
00:39:11 --> 00:39:37
			What does it mean by this? That after the passing of four months, the man has to decide, either he
is going to keep the wife or he is going to give divorce. And if he says the divorce, that Allah is
hearing, he has heard his words often up and he is our name. He knows about the situation.
		
00:39:38 --> 00:39:44
			Sometimes people verbally pronounce the buttock they say Pollock,
		
00:39:45 --> 00:39:47
			and other times what do they do?
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:59
			They send documents. So, if the man pronounces the divorce verbally, Allah has heard it and if he
sends a written document a lot knows it.
		
00:40:01 --> 00:40:07
			enamel ponnappa for in Iran, Allah is hearing and he's also
		
00:40:09 --> 00:40:10
			listen to the recitation
		
00:40:12 --> 00:40:13
			levena you
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:34
			in a long as me
		
00:40:40 --> 00:41:12
			long, but four months is basically the limit that has been given so that the man can decide if he
really wants to keep her or not. Because he cannot just keep her like that for a year for two years.
Without any relationship, the maximum that a person can stay away from his wife is four months. But
there could be many wisdoms behind that. For example, if a woman is pregnant, and Amanda realizes,
oh, my god she's pregnant, then he might have some feelings of compassion for her. And then he might
think that he should keep that relationship.
		
00:41:14 --> 00:41:33
			Remember, Eli is different from divorce, either is not pronounced in divorce, it is that you are so
my wife, but I'm not going to have any relationship with you. They're living under the same roof,
but he doesn't have any relationship with him. So, the four months is the limit that has been said
you cannot go more than this time.
		
00:41:34 --> 00:41:51
			Because sometimes out of anger out of becoming very upset, sometimes the wife has done something
that is completely unacceptable to the man. So in that case, what does he do? I need time, I need
time away from you. Let me think on my own, so four months has been given for not moving
		
00:41:52 --> 00:42:02
			even if the woman is okay with that. Still, if the ILA has been pronounced and the rule is the law
that Allah has given us that it should only be from four months, and not more than that.
		
00:42:03 --> 00:42:14
			We have is different from that, which is back, which is when a man would say to a woman that antilia
kuzari ami, so I'm not going to have any relationship with you for life.
		
00:42:15 --> 00:42:24
			But ILA has a specific term that a man fixes, two days, one year, five months, it's a little
different from the year
		
00:42:25 --> 00:42:37
			before because when a person says you like to me just as my mother What does that you're completely
haram upon me. I will not divorce you, but you're completely haram upon me. But this one has a time
limit.
		
00:42:39 --> 00:42:49
			Wasn't local law to divorced women? What about them yet or Vesna be unforeseen fella that
		
00:42:50 --> 00:42:53
			they should remain in waiting for three periods.
		
00:42:54 --> 00:42:58
			Admiralty law court is a Florida motor
		
00:42:59 --> 00:43:04
			and motor law. The Buddha at the end indicates feminine
		
00:43:06 --> 00:43:14
			and Mopar laco is the woman who has been divorced the woman to whom divorce has been given.
		
00:43:15 --> 00:43:19
			And as we know that Allah is from the real pleasures thought lamb cough
		
00:43:20 --> 00:43:34
			Pollock is when the marriage contract has been dissolved. The marriage contract has been finished.
And palapa means to set free to let loose, to send someone away.
		
00:43:35 --> 00:43:45
			So a woman when she's divorced, she's free to marry someone else. She's not bound with her previous
husband anymore.
		
00:43:46 --> 00:44:19
			So I'm not a la carte, meaning those women who have been given divorce by their husbands divorce has
been pronounced. What should they do? Once their husbands have pronounced divorce for them? Yet our
abasement yet our burstner the noon at the end indicates feminine plural. And yet our bosma is from
the rotators law that saw we did the word the boss before therapist is the master, and yet are
abasement. They should wait.
		
00:44:20 --> 00:44:34
			What should they wait for? They should wait for the end of the term they should remain in waiting,
be unforeseen with themselves. How long do they have to wait? Set a set of
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:53
			three periods. Now what does it mean by yet our bus NaVi and fusina they have to wait with
themselves. They have to wait with themselves means that they have to wait throughout this period
alone in the sense they're not going to remarry
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:59
			for three periods after the divorce has been pronounced for them. They have to stay away
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:01
			From remarrying.
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:07
			So in other words, there it is three months.
		
00:45:08 --> 00:45:47
			And notice how it has been said yet or does not be unforeseen. They have to wait with themselves as
if they have to keep themselves back. Because it is the natural desire of any person of a human
being to get married, and especially for a woman who needs the support of her husband who needs the
protection of her husband who needs an identity. And just imagine a woman who has been divorced who
doesn't have her parents who doesn't have siblings, or everybody settled in their own homes once
she's divorced. She's going to think of where she's going to go next. But for three months, she
cannot remain despite the natural desire to me yet or a banana we unfussy him.
		
00:45:48 --> 00:45:51
			And how long is a waiting period three periods.
		
00:45:53 --> 00:46:00
			The word Kuru is a singular have the word power and call is from the root letters off or Hamza
carbon.
		
00:46:01 --> 00:46:39
			And the word car basically means to read. Cora Jaco, what does it mean to read to recite from the
same root is a word called an what is called an literally mean? recitation. However, another meaning
of the word call is to collect together, to put together to arrange together, which is why they sent
the word Quran called and it's called Quran. Why? Because in it, the sutras the IRS, they're all put
together, they're arranged together, the way that Allah sent it is arranged together. So what does
that mean? But
		
00:46:40 --> 00:47:00
			what does it refer to we know the linguistic meaning is to collect to join to put together to
arrange together called is basically understood in two ways. First of all, it is at the top refers
to the menstruation period itself. menstruation itself, the hailed
		
00:47:01 --> 00:47:13
			when a woman is menstruating, so she has to wait for three menstrual periods and at the end of her
third period, where it comes to an end,
		
00:47:14 --> 00:47:15
			and why is it called
		
00:47:17 --> 00:47:26
			because what happens when a woman is menstruating. The blood that had been collected in her uterus
what happens it leaves the body.
		
00:47:27 --> 00:47:37
			Other say that the word actually refers to the time period that is between two menstrual cycles.
That is between two menstruation.
		
00:47:38 --> 00:48:00
			So it is the period of thought it is the period of purity or cleanliness between two menstrual
cycles. So they have to wait for three Kuru, either for three periods, or for the three periods that
are between the menstruation.
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:09
			Now, when a man divorces his wife, then she has to wait for the spirit of time.
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:14
			How about a woman who does not have her period anymore?
		
00:48:15 --> 00:48:19
			Or how about a woman whose menstruation whose spirit is irregular?
		
00:48:21 --> 00:48:30
			Or a woman who is pregnant? Or a woman who is too young or too old? And because of the age? She
doesn't have her beard anymore? What about her?
		
00:48:31 --> 00:48:44
			Basically, in this case, it has been said that a woman who either does not have her period, then in
this case, what is she supposed to do? She's supposed to wait for three months, and which three
months lunar months.
		
00:48:45 --> 00:48:52
			It's not January, February. It's Roger and Siobhan and Chihuahuas, etc. It has to be three lunar
months.
		
00:48:53 --> 00:49:08
			And as for the woman who is pregnant, we learn from other parts of the Quran and from the Hadith,
that she waits until she gives birth. Once she delivers her child, then her waiting period comes to
an end.
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:20
			So basically, a woman who has been divorced, she has to wait for some time. And she's not allowed to
remain until this time period is over.
		
00:49:21 --> 00:49:29
			And during this time, during this waiting period, the woman is actually supposed to stay in the
house of her husband.
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:33
			This is the law. This is the command that Allah has given
		
00:49:34 --> 00:49:59
			once the divorce has been pronounced where she she's going to stay in the house of her husband.
She's not going to leave she's going to stay there. And during this time, it is permissible for men
to take her back. But if the three months are over, or if the three periods are over, and he hasn't
done a jerk to her, he hasn't gone back to her
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:04
			Then she will leave, and the marriage contract will be dissolved.
		
00:50:05 --> 00:50:10
			So basically, putting an end to a marriage is not as simple as saying, I divorce you.
		
00:50:11 --> 00:50:13
			It's not as simple as saying I divorce you.
		
00:50:14 --> 00:50:15
			There is a lot.
		
00:50:16 --> 00:50:21
			And the first thing is that the woman has to wait for three months in the house of the husband.
		
00:50:22 --> 00:51:06
			And meanwhile, while on your halo tahuna, it is not permissible for them. It is not allowed for them
your Hello is from Helen. So it is not helpful for them for who for the women, which women, those
women who have been divorced by their husbands that in there that they don't know, they hide, they
conceal yocto now again is from gafta meme, and the noon at the end is for feminine. So during this
waiting time, they are not allowed to hide. They are not allowed to conceal mahakala who fear of
harming him, that which Allah has created in their wounds,
		
00:51:07 --> 00:51:10
			or how is a plural of rhyme or reason,
		
00:51:11 --> 00:51:17
			which is used for the womb, or the uterus. And in the womb, as you know, what happens in the womb?
		
00:51:18 --> 00:51:20
			the fetus is there, right? The pregnancy is there.
		
00:51:21 --> 00:51:28
			So whatever that Allah has created in their wombs, they must not hide it, they must not conceal it.
		
00:51:30 --> 00:51:52
			Now, what does it refer to mahakala, who fee or Hamming. This refers to two things, first of all,
human pregnancy, that if during the three months, the woman realizes that she's pregnant, she hasn't
had her period, then she should not conceal that pregnancy, from the husband from the man
		
00:51:53 --> 00:52:08
			that he has divorced me, I'm not going to tell him that I'm pregnant. And as soon as I'm free,
that's it, I'm going to marry somebody else, and my life is going to be changed. So basically, she
cannot hide from the husband, if she is pregnant.
		
00:52:09 --> 00:52:13
			Secondly, they said that mahalo calligraphy, or hermina, refers to help.
		
00:52:14 --> 00:52:17
			It refers to menstruation,
		
00:52:18 --> 00:52:20
			because the blood is from there.
		
00:52:21 --> 00:52:26
			So the woman should not hide from her husband, if and when she gets her period.
		
00:52:28 --> 00:53:11
			This ayah basically leaves it to the woman, that it is her responsibility to keep track of her
menstrual cycle, to keep account of her periods. And she should not hide the pregnancy or the period
from her husband. Why? Because if she is pregnant, and if she does not tell her husband, if she does
not have anybody. And as soon as it dies over, she goes and marries somebody else, then what's going
to happen, the child is going to be attributed to the wrong father, the child is going to be
attributed to not his biological father. So in this case, there's one that the woman would be doing.
		
00:53:12 --> 00:53:23
			Also, if you look at it, that if the woman if she hides her period, then what's going to happen, the
man will not be able to do to do or to her, if he wishes to.
		
00:53:24 --> 00:53:37
			It is said that the women sometimes what they will do is that if she wants a divorce, and she didn't
want the man to approach her, if the man wish to approach her, she would say, I have my period, and
the man would stay away from her.
		
00:53:38 --> 00:54:03
			And like this, she would lie about her period, until eventually, the three month waiting time would
be over. And the divorce would occur and the men and the woman would be separated. So because it is
of the hidden matters, it is of the private matters of the women. Therefore it has been left to the
women that they know about their matters, and they should not conceal them from their husbands
		
00:54:04 --> 00:54:11
			in corner, if they were your min Avila he will he will ask if they really believe in Allah. And the
last.
		
00:54:12 --> 00:54:26
			What does it mean by this? This is basically a warning, a threat that is being given to the women,
that if you truly believe in a lie on the last day, if you truly believe in a line that they have
judgment, then you should not conceal what is in your room.
		
00:54:27 --> 00:54:31
			You should not hide the pregnancy. And you should not hide the period.
		
00:54:33 --> 00:54:59
			And sometimes we see that because it's a very private matter. Nobody else can know whether you're
having your period or not. Sometimes young girls, they lie about having their periods or not having
the period and like this, what happens they don't prefer that and the period goes on for months. And
they don't fast and the period goes on for like 1015 days. So this is a matter that
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:04
			is private that only a woman knows about? And in this case you should fear
		
00:55:05 --> 00:55:11
			not the people around her. But who should she fear? Allah nlst
		
00:55:12 --> 00:55:20
			it Okay, fine, I can lie about it today. And nobody will ask me as to why I'm not praying or why I'm
not fasting. But Allah knows the reality.
		
00:55:21 --> 00:55:28
			And on the Day of Judgment, the reality will be exposed. I can hide from people, I can fool them
today. But I cannot fool Allah.
		
00:55:29 --> 00:55:46
			Because at the end of the day, the matter is between who the slave and Allah, not between people. So
over here, Allah says that they should not hide whatever that Allah has created in their rooms, if
they believe in Allah, and the last day.
		
00:55:48 --> 00:56:07
			So before we move on, we see over here that there is there has been mentioned, for the divorced
woman, there is the for divorce is how long, three periods, three menstrual cycles, those women who
do not have their menstrual cycles anymore, what about them three lunar months?
		
00:56:08 --> 00:56:10
			What about a widow? How much is her?
		
00:56:11 --> 00:56:23
			How much is her waiting period for months and 10 days. And in the case of holder in the case, when a
woman takes divorce from her husband, then in that case, the waiting period is one month.
		
00:56:24 --> 00:56:30
			And in the case where a woman is pregnant, then the waiting period is until she delivers.
		
00:56:32 --> 00:57:00
			Then Allah says what were Runa to hoonah and their husbands whose husbands, the husbands of the
divorced women, they are helpful. They have more help. They have more right there are more deserving
than who then the women so their husbands have more right than the women, Overwatch, Bella Dena to
take them back, feed ellika in that.
		
00:57:02 --> 00:57:03
			What does it mean by that?
		
00:57:04 --> 00:57:07
			The word baru is used for husbands.
		
00:57:08 --> 00:57:10
			Another word that we use for spouses was
		
00:57:11 --> 00:57:13
			zoning or as wedge which is the plural of zoning.
		
00:57:14 --> 00:57:23
			Remember that the word zone which can be used for husband or wife, however, the word Varun which is
the plural of Baron can only be used for husband.
		
00:57:24 --> 00:57:25
			Remember that
		
00:57:26 --> 00:57:32
			zone which can be used for husband or wife. But the word borrow is only used for husband?
		
00:57:33 --> 00:57:34
			What does the word borrowing me?
		
00:57:35 --> 00:57:40
			borrow in Arabic, anything that has superiority over the other is called by
		
00:57:41 --> 00:57:57
			a lord or someone of high position. Which is why we see that one of the previous nations they named
one of their gods by as we will study in the Quran. At the Runa. Berlin Do you call upon bang?
		
00:57:58 --> 00:58:07
			So barrel is anything or anyone who has superiority over others, a lord or someone of higher
position.
		
00:58:08 --> 00:58:17
			Now, why is the husband called bar over here specifically, he's been called bar because he has the
right to pronounce divorce, and the woman does not have that right.
		
00:58:19 --> 00:58:41
			And also, we know that the husband is the one who is responsible for the wife. He is the one who
spends on the wife, he is the one who looks after the wife, the woman is not responsible to spend on
the husband. It's the responsibility of the husband to provide for the wife and the children.
Because he has that responsibility. Therefore, he has a higher position as well.
		
00:58:42 --> 00:58:44
			So therefore, the husband is called bar.
		
00:58:45 --> 00:58:50
			So their husbands have more right below Dean, what does rod mean to return?
		
00:58:51 --> 00:59:10
			Over here it means to take them back. So basically, the husband has the right to do rejuva do his
wife meaning to return to his wife to take his wife back during fy velyka? In that what does that
equal refer to during the waiting period.
		
00:59:11 --> 00:59:16
			So during the waiting period, the man has the right to take the woman back
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:24
			for now is basically given two times and the third divorce is final.
		
00:59:25 --> 00:59:49
			Their vocable divorce meaning if a man gives a divorce to his woman the first time, first time ever,
then he has the permission to take her back in the waiting period. If he divorces the woman the
second time, then again he has the permission to take her back in the waiting period. But if he
divorces her the third time, then he's not allowed to take her back then they're separated forever.
		
00:59:50 --> 01:00:00
			So over here, fee there. Lika Delica refers to this therapist meaning this waiting time and it
refers to the first or second divorce it refers to the removal
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:13
			divorce. And if, after the waiting period, after like about a year or two, both are living
separately and they decide, you know, it was a mistake, we should get married, we should be
together. So then they have to perform the Nika
		
01:00:14 --> 01:00:17
			but within the waiting period of demand does reduce, then there is no nikka.
		
01:00:19 --> 01:00:25
			The first divorce is completely different and separate from the second divorce, which is completely
different and separate from the third one.
		
01:00:26 --> 01:00:39
			It's three different occasions, three different times completely, this return void, taking them back
is only possible in the first and second divorce, okay, in the revocable divorce.
		
01:00:41 --> 01:00:47
			So over here, we see that the husbands are more right to take them back in this time being in the
waiting period.
		
01:00:48 --> 01:00:54
			But there is a condition, and what is that condition in Urdu?
		
01:00:56 --> 01:01:22
			Only if they wish, reconciliation only if they wish, things to be better, only if they want things
to be better than they should take their wives back. But if the situation is going to be the same,
that the husband is still going to do well on her, these are fixing the problem, which is what
caused the divorce, then in that case, what's the point of doing would you If life is still going to
be miserable? Then why do you do
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:33
			in Islam and remember Islam is to put things right to put things proper. So if they really want
things to be better than they should do to do.
		
01:01:35 --> 01:01:51
			And over here, you see a haircut that the men have more right? What is even more right that even if
a woman does not want, even if the woman does not want Still, if the man wishes, that he has more,
right, the woman does not have any right over here, it's the man's decision.
		
01:01:53 --> 01:02:33
			Now we see over here that previously, the man used to divorce his wife, and then take her back. And
then he would divorce his wife, and he would take her back. And then he would divorce his wife and
take her back, even if this happened 100 times. And this way, just imagine if a woman is constantly
being divorced, and being taken back, divorced and taken back. This is not a healthy relationship.
The woman is living a life of misery and sadness. So over here, the condition has been said that if
you want Islam only then do you. If you're going to do the same thing, that you're going to take her
back and then you're going to divorce her you're going to take her back and divorce her, then don't
		
01:02:33 --> 01:02:33
			do
		
01:02:35 --> 01:02:41
			let her live in peace. So if the intention is for reconciliation, then you should call her back
		
01:02:42 --> 01:02:48
			when a homeowner and for them, you see the lamb over here, lamb indicates in their favor,
		
01:02:49 --> 01:02:50
			in whose favor
		
01:02:51 --> 01:03:49
			in the favor of hoonah who does not refer to the women. So for them, meaning do to them, due to the
women who does the women refer to the wives, mythical, similar to unluckily that which I lay in is
upon them. What does it mean by this? Luna means they have rights, they have rights, similar to that
which is upon them, meaning that which is expected of them what is expected of them, their
responsibilities, their responsibilities. So just as the women have some responsibilities,
similarly, they also have some rights. Or just as the man has some rights, just as the man has more
help concerning something. Similarly, the woman also has some rights. It's not that all the rights
		
01:03:49 --> 01:04:28
			have been given to the man. And the woman is just to listen and obey and have no rights and demand
nothing or anything like that. No, le Hoon, in their favor or rights due to them or right similar to
those that are upon them being just as the men have some rights over them. How been marked off in a
manner that is approved, what is Morrow maruf is from road for our first set, which is recognized.
So my hope is that which is generally acceptable, meaning it is customary, it is acceptable in the
culture, in the tradition in the religion. It's not something so strange, that shocks people.
		
01:04:29 --> 01:04:50
			So women have rights according to what is reasonable, according to what is approved in a culture. So
we see over here, that the wife has specific rights upon her husband, just as a husband has specific
rights upon his wife. The woman has responsibilities, and the woman also has rights.
		
01:04:51 --> 01:04:59
			Just as a woman is expected to fear a law with regards to the rights of her husband. Similarly, the
men should fear Allah
		
01:05:00 --> 01:05:03
			With regards to the rights of his wife,
		
01:05:04 --> 01:05:30
			we see that no relationship can work. If both the parties do not fulfill their responsibilities, and
do not give the rights of others, no relationship can work. Have an employer and employee of a
husband and wife, no relationship can work unless and until both the parties play their roles
properly.
		
01:05:31 --> 01:06:16
			So over here, although men have more right, it has been clearly stated that the women also have some
rights. So don't think like them. The prophets are allowed to sort of said he advised the men, that
factor could not have been Nyssa. Fear Allah regarding your women, for you have taken them by
Allah's covenant. And we're allowed to enjoy with them sexually by Allah's words, meaning you took
an oath, you made an act, you made a contract. So you should fear a lot regarding the women, you're
allowed to enjoy them and you have taken responsibility. So you have the right of them, that they do
not allow anyone you dislike to sit on your mat, what does it mean? That you have the right that
		
01:06:16 --> 01:06:20
			they should not allow anyone to come into your house without your permission?
		
01:06:21 --> 01:06:29
			If your husband does not like that somebody comes to your house, then you should respect that
likeness or dislike of the husband.
		
01:06:30 --> 01:06:33
			And if they do that, then discipline them, leniently.
		
01:06:34 --> 01:06:39
			That if the woman disobeys, then how should he discipline her leniently?
		
01:06:40 --> 01:06:46
			The women have the right to be spent on and to be bought clothes in what is reasonable.
		
01:06:47 --> 01:07:02
			It doesn't mean that the woman demands that every they want to dress which has crystals on it or
something like that. What does it mean? That which is reasonable. So they have the right to be spent
on and they have the right to be bought clothes, in what is reasonable.
		
01:07:04 --> 01:07:07
			So we see that the men have rights, the women had rights,
		
01:07:08 --> 01:07:25
			and what are the other rights of the women have, that they should be treated with kindness, that the
man should spend upon them, the man should feed them demand should float them, he should not hate
her, he should not dislike him for no reason. And obviously, according to the custom according to
what is reasonable.
		
01:07:26 --> 01:07:30
			In our vessel, Darren, who is he a companion of the Prophet,
		
01:07:31 --> 01:07:39
			he would say, I like to adorn myself for my wife, just as I like for her to adorn herself, for me,
		
01:07:41 --> 01:07:58
			even our best with a companion of the Prophet, he used to say that just as I like that my wife
should dress up for me. Similarly, I like that I should dress up for her. Because she also has some
rights. It's not just me, who has rights.
		
01:07:59 --> 01:08:06
			Many times in our cultures, we expect the women to be dressed up all the time, and the man can go
around the house in his pajamas.
		
01:08:07 --> 01:08:16
			And the woman should be dressed up all the time, she should look nice, yes, she should, of course.
But the man should also give the right to the woman.
		
01:08:18 --> 01:08:23
			Similarly, work here who is working the teacher of in unshare theory.
		
01:08:24 --> 01:08:41
			He related that it had been said that I'd like to take care of appearance for my wife, just as I
like for her to take care of her appearance for me. So it's not just about adorning oneself, it's
about taking care of the appearance.
		
01:08:42 --> 01:09:12
			Taking care of the appearance, it's not just about putting nice clothes, it's about being clean.
It's about having a good breath. It's about brushing your teeth every morning. It's about cutting
your nails, so that when they see you with your long deals, they're not disgusted. So both have
rights, and both have responsibilities. And both must fulfill them in order for the relationship to
be healthy in order for the relationship to work.
		
01:09:14 --> 01:09:18
			However, Allah says over here, that we're literally jelly, and for them in
		
01:09:20 --> 01:09:59
			a region is a plural of Roger, and who is a Roger, a man so the job of that man. So for them and
meaning in their favor or lay when upon them meaning upon the women upon the wives. There is a
donnager there is a wreck. What is the Roger? Roger is from that regime. And the Roger is used for a
rank a degree a stage. The word the Roger is from the same root which is used for a ladder. When you
go up a ladder, you go up several levels. So the men have a degree above the women but this is the
Roger stone
		
01:10:00 --> 01:10:05
			One level, or in one way they are they have a degree above the women,
		
01:10:07 --> 01:10:11
			we see that both the man and woman there to live together.
		
01:10:12 --> 01:10:27
			And if the person is cooking something, and another person comes and starts cooking with them, the
same food, what's going to happen? Too many cooks spoil the broth. Too many cooks spoil the food.
Why?
		
01:10:28 --> 01:10:39
			Because one person thinks she put the salt. And they think that you have put the salt, they thought
you put the Agen and you thought they put the egg in.
		
01:10:40 --> 01:10:42
			At the end, what happens, nobody put the egg
		
01:10:43 --> 01:11:00
			or the egg was put twice. So when there are two people, when there are two leaders on just one
thing, then what happens? It doesn't work there is conflict, there is competition, and the end
product is affected.
		
01:11:01 --> 01:11:05
			The relationship is affected, which is why two women cannot run one kitchen.
		
01:11:07 --> 01:11:18
			So because the husband and wife are living together, therefore, one has been given a level higher
one has been made the head chef,
		
01:11:19 --> 01:11:19
			why?
		
01:11:20 --> 01:11:32
			To make the final decisions. Because if two people are given equal authority, then there would be a
division and split and strife all the time. There will be strife all the time.
		
01:11:33 --> 01:11:43
			And when there is one leader than what happens, even if there's disagreement, if the leader says
okay, this is what we have to do, what do you do? You do it anyway. And the thing gets done.
		
01:11:44 --> 01:11:50
			And if nobody takes charge, if there is no leader there, then it's going to affect the work.
		
01:11:51 --> 01:12:12
			So similarly, the men and women have rights, they have responsibilities, similar to each other.
However, men have a degree higher than the women. And that degree is of responsibility. That degree
is of responsibility. What does that mean by responsibility
		
01:12:13 --> 01:12:18
			that the man has to spend up on the woman, the man has to give them a hug.
		
01:12:19 --> 01:12:24
			When a man and woman get married, the woman does not have to give any money. The man has to give
them a
		
01:12:25 --> 01:12:34
			cylinder. Similarly, when a man and a woman are married, it's not the woman who must bring the
paycheck home. Who is it? It's the men.
		
01:12:35 --> 01:12:38
			And this the Raja is also in authority
		
01:12:39 --> 01:13:10
			that the man has the authority over the woman. What does that mean? That in many situations, it's
the man who makes the final decision with regards to something. And in this context, which is of
divorce, it is the man who has the authority to pronounce divorce, the woman does not have that
authority. Because if the woman is given that authority, then perhaps no marriage would last more
than a year, or more than a month. Because sometimes on women, they're overcome by their emotions,
then they don't think straight.
		
01:13:11 --> 01:13:13
			Many of you agree with me.
		
01:13:14 --> 01:13:41
			I'm sure most of you agree with me. Just think of it a woman who goes through her period every
month, during her period, because of the pain that she's going through because of the emotional
situation that she's in. spiritually, mentally, she does not think properly many times she does not
make proper decisions. Similarly, with the responsibilities of childbearing and child rearing.
Because of that, also, the woman is not able to think properly.
		
01:13:42 --> 01:14:08
			Really, after having children, or during pregnancy, women see the effect of how their brain
functions. They forget things they don't remember about important things, sometimes they forget to
praise Allah, sometimes they forget to feed their children. So it affects the woman. And because the
woman is different from the men, the man does not go through any periods, he does not go through any
childbearing. So therefore, he has been given this authority.
		
01:14:09 --> 01:14:27
			And also the men have a degree of women with regards to some rights, and what are those rights, that
women have to obey them, the wife has to be the husband. And also if you look at it in inheritance,
also, the man has a greater share compared to the woman.
		
01:14:28 --> 01:14:34
			Why again, because the man is responsible for spending upon the woman.
		
01:14:35 --> 01:14:59
			If you look at it, the woman is receiving from every end, when she gets married, she receives when a
man gets married, he gives at the time of marriage. Then after marriage, the woman is receiving and
the man is giving. So the one time that a man gets a share the only one time and what is that time,
the time of inheritance
		
01:15:00 --> 01:15:13
			At that time the man has been given more. Why Because again, he has to spend that on who on his
wife. So the men have been given a degree higher a degree above the women.
		
01:15:14 --> 01:15:42
			We don't insult them this Allah says early jello, como una La Mesa, the men are the maintainers over
the women, meaning they're responsible for the women, Why be my fault, but Allahu Allah, whom I
never because of how Allah has given preference to some over others in different ways. how Allah has
given preference to some over others. So for example, men have more physical strength compared to
women.
		
01:15:43 --> 01:15:55
			Sometimes they're more emotionally stable compared to women. Sometimes women suffer from depression,
they're too happy or they're too sad. But the men generally, they remain the same, they remain calm.
		
01:15:57 --> 01:16:06
			And the AI continues, we're Bhima and Falco, minim welding, and also because the men have to spend
upon the women from their wealth.
		
01:16:07 --> 01:16:21
			So the men who have been given a degree higher because of their physical strength, because of their
emotional and their mental stability compared to the women. And also because it is the
responsibility of the man to spend upon the woman.
		
01:16:22 --> 01:16:38
			We see that there are different rights, when it comes to life or different rights. There is a right
to live, there's a right to education, there's a right to marriage, there's a right to worship,
there's a right to freedom. When it comes to all of these rights, men and women are the same,
they're equal.
		
01:16:39 --> 01:16:46
			However, when it comes to social life, then there has to be some leader, there has to be some
leader,
		
01:16:47 --> 01:17:00
			no school can run without a leader, no car can be driven without a driver, one driver not to. So
similarly, no household, no family can run without a leader.
		
01:17:02 --> 01:17:25
			And who has made the leader Generally, the one who has been given responsibility. So the one who has
been given responsibility is the one who is made the leader. So because the responsibility has been
laid upon the man, therefore, he is made the leader, therefore, he has been given a degree above the
women.
		
01:17:27 --> 01:17:43
			Now remember that this does not mean that the men have a higher rank in the sight of Allah, or in
general, know, when it comes to worship. When it comes to righteous deeds, both men and women are
equal. No one will be given superiority just because of their gender.
		
01:17:44 --> 01:17:52
			Well, not Juarez, isn't hacking, and Allah is Mighty. And he is also wise. What does it mean by this
Ally's Aziz,
		
01:17:53 --> 01:17:57
			he can decide whatever he wants, we are known to object.
		
01:17:58 --> 01:18:09
			And this name of Allah is more relevant in this context, especially because someone is being given
more authority more right above another.
		
01:18:10 --> 01:18:21
			And whenever somebody is given more authority, when they're given more rights, what do they think I
can do whatever I want, I can say whatever I want, I can do whatever I want. But what does ally
remind us of
		
01:18:22 --> 01:18:31
			that there is someone above you, there is someone greater than you, there is someone you are
accountable to.
		
01:18:32 --> 01:18:45
			So it is as though the men are being reminded that allies are Z's, don't forget that. And allies,
Hakeem, this is a reminder to the women that there's hikma behind every decision, every command of
Allah Subhana.
		
01:18:47 --> 01:19:01
			Allah is a disease. And Allah is also hacking. So if the person has more responsibilities, what does
that mean? more work. So, if a woman has been spared from extra work, she should be thankful.
		
01:19:02 --> 01:19:43
			Imagine if she had to look after her children and also be responsible for bringing money home. And
in situations where it happens to some women that the situation is such that she has to work, how
difficult it is for her to leave her child every single day, not be allowed to spend time with her
newborn child. Sometimes it happens, the situation does not allow the woman to be with the child to
stay at home. So if the woman was given this responsibility that doesn't matter if she's pregnant,
doesn't matter how she's feeling, she has to work. Then again, who would suffer, the woman would
suffer. We see that all of these commands all of these laws that Allah has given who is being
		
01:19:43 --> 01:19:57
			protected. It's the woman and we have been made to think that all of us commands are against us. If
you look at all of these commands that we have studied in this lesson, from those of menstruation,
to divorce to everything
		
01:19:58 --> 01:20:00
			who's on the
		
01:20:00 --> 01:20:00
			Receiving and
		
01:20:01 --> 01:20:02
			the woman.
		
01:20:03 --> 01:20:40
			If you look at it, men and women are physically different. And because they're physically different,
they're programmed to do different things. Biologically, they're to do different things. And this is
a general thing. Yes, you may find exceptions in which a woman is much stronger than a man possible,
in which a woman is much more intelligent, much more emotionally stable than a man, it's possible.
But generally, if you look at all of the different societies, all of the different cultures in the
world, then we will see that men and women are different. And because of this reason, men have been
given the responsibility and the authority.
		
01:20:41 --> 01:20:42
			That's listen to the recitation.
		
01:21:10 --> 01:21:11
			Whoa, whoa.
		
01:21:13 --> 01:21:14
			Whoa, to be on.
		
01:21:15 --> 01:21:17
			Nikita ninja in
		
01:21:21 --> 01:21:21
			Walla.
		
01:21:28 --> 01:21:28
			Walla.
		
01:21:39 --> 01:21:49
			When it comes to divorce, pronouncing the Pollak is the right of the man or, the woman cannot say I
divorce you. It's only the man who can say that.
		
01:21:50 --> 01:22:00
			But if the woman feels that she cannot live with that man, she does not think that that marriage is
going to work out successful. So what she can do is, she can take hold
		
01:22:02 --> 01:22:02
			Harlem I,
		
01:22:03 --> 01:22:13
			which is basically, that a woman gives back the mother that the man gave her, because the man gave
her the mother at the time of marriage.
		
01:22:14 --> 01:22:26
			And by giving them our he has made her Hannah. So if she wishes to dissolve that relationship, she
has to give them out of bed. And in the case where the man gives a divorce, he cannot take them out
back.
		
01:22:27 --> 01:22:47
			And when the man has divorced his wife, and during the waiting period while she is in the house of
the husband, then at that time, she's not to wear hijab or anything, she's in fact, to adorn
herself, to make herself more beautiful, so that the relationship can work out.
		
01:22:48 --> 01:23:06
			And with regards to the waiting period, because it says the thought of bosma be unforeseen. It means
they should stay meaning in their houses, not leave from there and they should also not get married.
So it refers to all of those women who are in their waiting period, whether they're pregnant or
widowed or divorced.
		
01:23:07 --> 01:23:28
			And by Ruth meaning acceptable, it's culturally acceptable. It's not something very strange. It's
not like something impossible. it's acceptable, acceptable to the woman acceptable to the family
acceptable to the norms of the society acceptable to the religion. First of all, how much should a
woman obey her husband very model for that which is acceptable.
		
01:23:29 --> 01:23:31
			The following verses are all about divorce.
		
01:23:33 --> 01:23:40
			of Hanukkah long movie hamburger and Chateau La Ilaha. illa Anta Mr. De Luca Assalamualaikum
warahmatullah