Suzy Ismail – #62 AlMumit

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The speaker discusses the concept of "comes" and how it can affect the way people interact with their loved ones. They explain that loss can be difficult to recover from, but it can also be a stressful experience. The speaker advises against seeking help and seeking immediate attention to deal with the loss of loved ones and instead lean towards working through their struggles together.

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			It's nice to see you again as we
		
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			continue to bring the divine into the daily
		
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			by understanding understanding how we can incorporate the
		
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			99 names of Allah
		
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			into our daily lives to improve the relationship
		
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			between us and our spouse and our children.
		
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			The
		
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			The name that we're going to discuss today
		
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			is Al Muit,
		
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			which means the bringer of death.
		
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			We all know that part of, sunnit al
		
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			hayah, the cycle of life, is that we
		
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			will experience birth and we will experience death.
		
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			And those are the 2 certainties that exist
		
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			for all of us. But what happens to
		
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			the family dynamic and the family structure
		
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			when death touches us
		
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			in those who are closest to us, in
		
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			those we love the most.
		
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			Whether it is the death of a parent
		
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			after old age
		
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			or the death of a child
		
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			unexpectedly
		
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			due to illness, due to stillbirth,
		
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			due to,
		
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			difficulty in pregnancy,
		
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			whether it is the death of a sibling
		
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			or the death of another close relative, a
		
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			spouse even,
		
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			this can severely affect the way that we
		
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			interact with our family.
		
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			Any form of loss
		
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			can often leave an emotional
		
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			scar that is difficult to recover from.
		
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			So what do we do when we experience
		
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			death and it touches us very close to
		
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			our hearts in someone who is important to
		
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			us, someone who is in the family structure?
		
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			Dealing with the death of our parents is
		
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			often a a very scary reality
		
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			as we grow older.
		
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			And again, it's a reality that we can't
		
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			really escape
		
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			but recognizing that Allah
		
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			is almuhi
		
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			and al mumit, he is the one that
		
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			brings to life and also the bringer of
		
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			death,
		
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			helps us put into perspective
		
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			that natural process that we all go
		
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			through. While
		
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			navigating the stages of grief may be difficult
		
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			for some,
		
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			knowing that
		
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			that grief will have an ending point. It
		
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			will have a period where, yes, we may
		
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			always experience a sense of sadness when thinking
		
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			of our loved one that we've lost. There
		
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			will also come a time
		
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			where the pain lessens,
		
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			and we can think of those times of
		
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			joy that we spent with the parent, with
		
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			the sibling, with the relative who is close
		
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			to our heart
		
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			without feeling that same sense of emptiness, that
		
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			same sense of loss.
		
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			When you do experience the death of a
		
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			close one, a parent, a sibling, someone who
		
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			may be older, who raised you when you
		
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			were a child,
		
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			don't try to deal with it alone.
		
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			Don't lock yourself up in your sadness and
		
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			try to isolate yourself to deal with your
		
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			grief by yourself.
		
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			Because we're not meant to be alone. We're
		
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			meant to work through our difficulties together
		
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			with our family, with our ummah, with a
		
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			counselor if needed.
		
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			Now the loss of a child can sometimes
		
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			be even more difficult to fathom or to
		
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			understand
		
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			because we often think of the process of
		
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			life as the parent will go before the
		
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			child goes.
		
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			But again, this is the hikmah of Allah.
		
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			And just as our children may be a
		
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			test in the dunya in their lives if
		
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			they,
		
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			show us difficult
		
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			times, our children may also be a test
		
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			in the recognition that they are an amenah,
		
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			that they are a trust from Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			And he is al Muhi and mumit and
		
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			as he brings the children into this world
		
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			in his hikmah, in his infinite wisdom, sometimes
		
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			these children are taken out of the world
		
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			as well.
		
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			Again, don't try to go through the stages
		
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			of grief alone.
		
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			Seek help, talk to someone, reach out to
		
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			your spouse,
		
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			know that you are in this together,
		
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			and that just as you have felt the
		
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			loss acutely,
		
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			your spouse has as well.
		
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			I pray that Allah
		
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			protects all of our loved ones and protects
		
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			our hearts from going down the path of
		
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			darkness
		
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			when we struggle with loss in our families.
		
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			Jazakum Allahu Khayr, and I look forward to
		
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			speaking to you again as we continue to
		
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			bring the divine into the daily.