Suzy Ismail – #62 AlMumit
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The speaker discusses the concept of "comes" and how it can affect the way people interact with their loved ones. They explain that loss can be difficult to recover from, but it can also be a stressful experience. The speaker advises against seeking help and seeking immediate attention to deal with the loss of loved ones and instead lean towards working through their struggles together.
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It's nice to see you again as we
continue to bring the divine into the daily
by understanding understanding how we can incorporate the
99 names of Allah
into our daily lives to improve the relationship
between us and our spouse and our children.
The
The name that we're going to discuss today
is Al Muit,
which means the bringer of death.
We all know that part of, sunnit al
hayah, the cycle of life, is that we
will experience birth and we will experience death.
And those are the 2 certainties that exist
for all of us. But what happens to
the family dynamic and the family structure
when death touches us
in those who are closest to us, in
those we love the most.
Whether it is the death of a parent
after old age
or the death of a child
unexpectedly
due to illness, due to stillbirth,
due to,
difficulty in pregnancy,
whether it is the death of a sibling
or the death of another close relative, a
spouse even,
this can severely affect the way that we
interact with our family.
Any form of loss
can often leave an emotional
scar that is difficult to recover from.
So what do we do when we experience
death and it touches us very close to
our hearts in someone who is important to
us, someone who is in the family structure?
Dealing with the death of our parents is
often a a very scary reality
as we grow older.
And again, it's a reality that we can't
really escape
but recognizing that Allah
is almuhi
and al mumit, he is the one that
brings to life and also the bringer of
death,
helps us put into perspective
that natural process that we all go
through. While
navigating the stages of grief may be difficult
for some,
knowing that
that grief will have an ending point. It
will have a period where, yes, we may
always experience a sense of sadness when thinking
of our loved one that we've lost. There
will also come a time
where the pain lessens,
and we can think of those times of
joy that we spent with the parent, with
the sibling, with the relative who is close
to our heart
without feeling that same sense of emptiness, that
same sense of loss.
When you do experience the death of a
close one, a parent, a sibling, someone who
may be older, who raised you when you
were a child,
don't try to deal with it alone.
Don't lock yourself up in your sadness and
try to isolate yourself to deal with your
grief by yourself.
Because we're not meant to be alone. We're
meant to work through our difficulties together
with our family, with our ummah, with a
counselor if needed.
Now the loss of a child can sometimes
be even more difficult to fathom or to
understand
because we often think of the process of
life as the parent will go before the
child goes.
But again, this is the hikmah of Allah.
And just as our children may be a
test in the dunya in their lives if
they,
show us difficult
times, our children may also be a test
in the recognition that they are an amenah,
that they are a trust from Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
And he is al Muhi and mumit and
as he brings the children into this world
in his hikmah, in his infinite wisdom, sometimes
these children are taken out of the world
as well.
Again, don't try to go through the stages
of grief alone.
Seek help, talk to someone, reach out to
your spouse,
know that you are in this together,
and that just as you have felt the
loss acutely,
your spouse has as well.
I pray that Allah
protects all of our loved ones and protects
our hearts from going down the path of
darkness
when we struggle with loss in our families.
Jazakum Allahu Khayr, and I look forward to
speaking to you again as we continue to
bring the divine into the daily.