Suzy Ismail – #41 AlHaseeb
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The speaker discusses the importance of judge in relationships, particularly in the context of family relationships. They emphasize the need for care and guidance in giving advice without showing disappointment or disgust. The speaker also mentions the importance of being a good judge in order to avoid negative consequences.
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Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the
divine into the daily by understanding how we can
incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily
lives to improve our relationship with our spouse and with our
children. The name that we're going to discuss today in Episode
41 is L Hasib, which means the bringer of judgments. Now we've
seen in our past episodes how Allah subhanaw taala in his hikma
in his 99 names, creates this balance. So for example, we spoke
about a hakken when I had the one who judges but the one who judges
with fairness or that that justice, and we see and it has
seemed the bringer of judgment. There was also of course, the
sense of justice. Now as human nature would have it, we tend to
judge one another, whether it is our children who may look at their
classmates or their peers, and judge what someone is wearing, or
what they're eating for lunch, or what they're how they're carrying
themselves, or how they're interacting, or whether we
continue to judge one another in adulthood as well. It's very
common, we see in circles in gatherings and get togethers, even
in our message at times, that sense of judgment where we look at
one another, and we feel like it is within our right to judge
someone or to bring them to judgment, which would be giving
them that hisab which is of course reserved for l hassy. For Allah
subhanaw taala, who is the bringer of judgment. Now what happens in
our marriage relationships or in our parental relationship with our
children, when we try to consistently be the bringer of
Judgment, when we try to bring that hisab to our family life.
Oftentimes, when we are exhibiting intense judgment towards our
children, our children begin to feel that we are being critical,
and that anything we say to them is something that is judgmental.
When we do the same with our spouses, it may again carry that
same weight. How do we avoid that? How do we give Nasi How are advice
without turning it into his head? It has to do with the way we carry
ourselves and the way we interact with our spouse and with our
children. beginning a conversation with kindness with pointing out
what is good with extrapolating what is is best about the
conversation about the way someone's carrying themselves. But
then bringing the Naseeha kindly, gently without humiliating without
making someone feel bad about themselves, and most importantly,
without showing disappointment or disgust. And this is so important
for us in our family relationships, in our relationship
with our children, in our relationship with our spouse,
because when we bring that hisab and we act like we are the bringer
of judgment. And of course we know that is reserved for Allah
subhanaw taala we become super critical. And that criticism is
interpreted often as a lack of love or a lack of caring. So
checking ourselves, watching ourselves, ensuring that we give
advice we give Nasi hat for those we love because we know we want
what is best for them. But do it with kindness, do it with care. Do
it in a way that does not make the person feel like you're
disappointed in them or that you feel like they didn't reach your
expectations. And in that way in sha Allah, we will be a better a
much stronger ummah. I pray that Allah Subhana Allah Allah has seen
the bringer of judgment is brings into our lives that ability to
give the nasiha without showing it as if we are the ones bringing his
app does that come a little higher and I look forward to seeing you
again as we continue to bring the divine into the daily and I pray
that during these blessed days of the hija you all spend time with
your families. You enjoy these Buster days and that may Allah
subhanaw taala shower you all with the blessings and have peace and
mercy the Samadhi