Suzy Ismail – #41 AlHaseeb

Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily

lives to improve our relationship with our spouse and with our

children. The name that we're going to discuss today in Episode

41 is L Hasib, which means the bringer of judgments. Now we've

seen in our past episodes how Allah subhanaw taala in his hikma

in his 99 names, creates this balance. So for example, we spoke

about a hakken when I had the one who judges but the one who judges

with fairness or that that justice, and we see and it has

seemed the bringer of judgment. There was also of course, the

sense of justice. Now as human nature would have it, we tend to

judge one another, whether it is our children who may look at their

classmates or their peers, and judge what someone is wearing, or

what they're eating for lunch, or what they're how they're carrying

themselves, or how they're interacting, or whether we

continue to judge one another in adulthood as well. It's very

common, we see in circles in gatherings and get togethers, even

in our message at times, that sense of judgment where we look at

one another, and we feel like it is within our right to judge

someone or to bring them to judgment, which would be giving

them that hisab which is of course reserved for l hassy. For Allah

subhanaw taala, who is the bringer of judgment. Now what happens in

our marriage relationships or in our parental relationship with our

children, when we try to consistently be the bringer of

Judgment, when we try to bring that hisab to our family life.

Oftentimes, when we are exhibiting intense judgment towards our

children, our children begin to feel that we are being critical,

and that anything we say to them is something that is judgmental.

When we do the same with our spouses, it may again carry that

same weight. How do we avoid that? How do we give Nasi How are advice

without turning it into his head? It has to do with the way we carry

ourselves and the way we interact with our spouse and with our

children. beginning a conversation with kindness with pointing out

what is good with extrapolating what is is best about the

conversation about the way someone's carrying themselves. But

then bringing the Naseeha kindly, gently without humiliating without

making someone feel bad about themselves, and most importantly,

without showing disappointment or disgust. And this is so important

for us in our family relationships, in our relationship

with our children, in our relationship with our spouse,

because when we bring that hisab and we act like we are the bringer

of judgment. And of course we know that is reserved for Allah

subhanaw taala we become super critical. And that criticism is

interpreted often as a lack of love or a lack of caring. So

checking ourselves, watching ourselves, ensuring that we give

advice we give Nasi hat for those we love because we know we want

what is best for them. But do it with kindness, do it with care. Do

it in a way that does not make the person feel like you're

disappointed in them or that you feel like they didn't reach your

expectations. And in that way in sha Allah, we will be a better a

much stronger ummah. I pray that Allah Subhana Allah Allah has seen

the bringer of judgment is brings into our lives that ability to

give the nasiha without showing it as if we are the ones bringing his

app does that come a little higher and I look forward to seeing you

again as we continue to bring the divine into the daily and I pray

that during these blessed days of the hija you all spend time with

your families. You enjoy these Buster days and that may Allah

subhanaw taala shower you all with the blessings and have peace and

mercy the Samadhi