Suzy Ismail – #37 AlAliy
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The speaker discusses the use of the "centenial" label in the title of Allah's message, which refers to the most high person in a relationship. They explain that the name is a recognition of the man's role as the provider and protectors of the woman, even in the marriage relationship. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of incorporating this into one's own lives, and mentions a beautiful lectures online that can help people understand the concept.
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Assalamu alaikum. It's nice to see you again
as we continue to bring the divine into
the daily by understanding how we can incorporate
the characteristics of the 99 names of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala into our daily lives to
improve the relationship with our spouse and with
our children.
The name that we're going to discuss today
is Al-'Alai,
which means the most high or the most
sublime.
Now often when we think about
being high
within a relationship sense or being the highest
person, it tends to fall into the category
of comparison
where there becomes a situation of priority
where possibly a spouse may say, well, my
wife doesn't prioritize me or my husband doesn't
prioritize me on the list of priorities. I'm
not the Most High. And yet when we
look at the name of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala in using that sense of the most
high, we understand that it's not a matter
of priority, but it's a matter of recognizing
that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is Allah is
the most high is the one that is
most sublime.
Now, it's really beautiful about this name of
Allah
in regards to the marriage relationship
is that we see that
the 99 names of Allah have been used
in different places in the Quran and in
different verses of the Quran.
We see that, this name, the most high,
this characteristic of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
used in the Quran in Surat An Nisa
in verse 34,
which is the verse that begins
by reminding us
which means the men are the protectors or
the providers
for the women.
Now this is a verse that comes up
quite frequently in our work in marriage counseling.
It's a verse that comes up quite frequently
in the question and answer sessions
when I'm discussing marriage or the relationship between
men and women. And it's because it is
the verse that,
has the word,
that that is translated often in English
as striking.
And it talks about the resolution
of an argument or a difficulty or a
problem between husband and wife. Again, this is
Surat Al Nisa which is chapter 4 verse
34.
And
we recognize in that verse that Allah
is not in any way
demeaning women or putting down the role of
the wife, but instead it's a recognition
that in the marriage relationship, the men are
the providers, are the protectors of the women.
That doesn't lessen from the woman's role. It
doesn't take away from who she is or
what her role is in the marriage,
but it
kind of creates this relationship
dynamic
of recognition and understanding between husband and wife.
Now there's a a so many beautiful lectures
online from those scholars who have studied the
words of the Quran and who are very
well versed in the fiqh and the usool.
And I I strongly urge you to review,
some of these lectures to gain a better
understanding
of what this particular verse means.
Sheikh Harima Youssef has a beautiful,
explanation
of why this verse is sometimes taken out
of context and how culturally
people will use this verse to sometimes
try to advocate for things that are not
of Islam. Because remember, we said our marriages
are built upon,
care and mercy, when there is no room
in that care and mercy for,
taking a verse out of context
and utilizing,
this verse as a form of oppression
or a way to keep a spouse down.
And so we recognize that the use of
the 99 name of
Allah here, the name that is used in
this verse is the most high.
And it's a recognition, a remembrance that
despite what is happening between husband and wife,
despite arguments that may occur, despite difficulties that
they may encounter,
Allah
is the Most High. He is the one
that has the most priority
and He is the one that
and looks over everything and judges all. And
so we keep that in mind and we
see the beauty of the verse in that
the verse that begins with Arjal Qumun An
Nisa,
which is verse 34 again in chapter 4,
ends with a reminder that Allah is the
Most High and that is a reminder to
us to incorporate
that Mawatta ur Rahmah and that mercy as
one of the characteristics of Allah into our
own lives, even in the marriage relationship.
So I pray that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
blesses our marriages, allows us to understand our
roles and recognize the divine justice and the
divine wisdom behind
the marriage relationship.
And I look forward to seeing you again
as we continue to bring the divine,
into the daily. Assalamu alaikum.