Sulayman Van Ael – The Divine Names 14
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The transcript discusses the meaning of La ilaha illallah, the holy grail of Islam, and the importance of the holy grail of the beast. It also touches on the confusion surrounding Islam and the need for people to perform deeds to avoid confusion, and the importance of knowing one's deeds and learning to judge oneself to avoid mistakes. The segment also touches on the negative impact of scratches on cars and the importance of forgiveness, and provides advice on finding the right people to deal with problems, finding a partner who has good behavior, and avoiding negative behavior.
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Okay.
When we speak about the names of Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala, we are actually talking about
the true meaning of la ilaha illallah.
I mean, without knowing the names of Allah
jalla wa'ala, we will never be able
to understand la ilaha illallah.
And knowing Allah jalla wa'ala is one
of the many things that Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala has commanded us to do.
He said, fa'alam annahu la ilaha illallah.
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala said, and know that
there is no Allah, no ilah, no God,
no one who has the right to be
worshipped apart from Allah.
So now when Musa alayhi salam asked Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala, ya rabbi, ija'ali shay
'an adhkuruka bih.
Give me something through which I can, you
know, commemorate you.
He wanted some special words.
So Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala said, ya Musa,
kul la ilaha illallah.
Say la ilaha illallah, oh Musa.
Then Musa alayhi salam, he said, ya rabbi,
kullu ibadika yaquluna la ilaha illallah.
He said, ya rabbi, all of your servants
are saying la ilaha illallah, meaning like give
me something special.
And then Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala told Musa
alayhi salam, ya Musa, la wud'a la
ilaha illallah fi kiffa.
Oh, sorry, if the world, the heavens and
the earth would be on one side of
the scale and la ilaha illallah on the
other side of the scale, then la ilaha
illallah would weigh more heavy than everything which
is in the heaven and the earth.
Now, in another hadith, we see that the
message of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
that yawm al-qiyamah, there will be a
man that will be brought forth, will be
brought forward.
And he will have as many sins that
are written on a paper and that if
it's rolled out, it goes as far as
the eye can see, meaning it is like
very long, all of his sins.
Then when this man looks at his sins,
he says, khalas, I'm destroyed, I have nothing
left.
You have looked at this, you've spoken about
that, you didn't give back a pen, you
broke your promise, you shed some tears, maybe
you shed some blood, you slapped someone, you
broke someone's heart, all the sins.
He said, I'm destroyed.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, 99,
99 rolls filled with his sins.
He says, khalas, I'm done.
And then the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam says that Allah jalla wa ala tells
the angels to come and they come with
a little tiny piece of paper, a little
tiny piece of paper.
And the man says, what can this paper
do for me?
One paper against 99 rolls of sins.
And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
la zulm al yawm, today there is no
wrongdoing.
And the angels will say, la zulm al
yawm, today there is no wrongdoing.
This is your hasana, so I have to
wait.
So they put the 99 scrolls on one
side of the scale and they put la
ilaha illallah on the other side of the
scale, fawuzinat bihimna la ilaha illallah and la
ilaha illallah weighs heavier on the scale than
all of these sins.
So the meaning of la ilaha illallah is
something very strong.
La ilaha illallah is the reason why the
sky was created and elevated.
La ilaha illallah is the reason why we
exist.
La ilaha illallah is the reason why prophets
were sent and some prophets were killed.
La ilaha illallah is the reason why all
this universe exists and why there is Jannah
and Nahr.
I mean when you say la ilaha illallah,
you are actually reminding yourself of something very
important.
And that is that we all do belong
to Allah and to Allah will we return.
He is our master, we are the slaves.
This is la ilaha illallah.
So today we want to have a look
at la ilaha illallah.
What is the meaning of la ilaha illallah
in the world of the divine names?
La ilaha illallah.
So the first thing, barakallahu feekum, is the
messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he spoke
about la ilaha illallah, he said, khair maa
kuntuhu ana wal nabiyuna qabli The best thing
which I and all the prophets before me
have ever said is la ilaha illallah.
And the prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, man kana aakhiru kalamihi la ilaha illallah
mukhlisan min qalbihi dakhalal jannah If someone dies
and his last words are la ilaha illallah,
sincere from his or her heart, then he
or she will definitely, without any single doubt,
enter paradise.
And this is why the majority of people,
they don't die while saying la ilaha illallah.
The majority of people, they might be dying
and saying, where is my coffee?
Other people will say, oh, how will I
leave you behind me?
Other people will say, I'm in pain.
But who says la ilaha illallah and die?
If someone says la ilaha illallah while he
or she is facing death, then this is
the very proof that this person died as
a sincere Muslim.
Why?
Because we, Allah, doesn't allow us to fake
a pious death.
Can you imagine?
Now amongst people, we can fake our Islam.
We can fake being generous.
We can fake, like in prayer, going like
this, like to give the impression that we
are submitted to Allah.
When we are alone, Allah Akbar, Subh'anaHu
Wa Ta-A'la, nothing.
So at the moment we die, the moment
we die, Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A
'la doesn't allow us to fake being pious.
Now we come into the mosque, everybody loves
us.
Hi, brother.
Hey, how are you?
Oh, that's the brother that always prays in
the first row.
Oh, that's the sister that never gossips.
That's all mosques.
When we die, there is no mosque.
Because the fear is too big.
You can't.
All mosques are removed.
So this is why, when we die, Allah
Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la doesn't allow
people to think that we are pious if
we were not.
The messenger Muhammad ﷺ, he gave a very
good example.
He said, وَإِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ
حَتَّ مَا يَكُونْ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلَّا ذِرَاعٌ فَيَسْبِقُ
عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ فَيَعَمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْنَّارِ فَيَدْخُلُهَا Subh
'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la.
And some amongst you, he says, perform the
deeds of the people of Paradise.
Some amongst you, perform the deeds of the
people of Paradise.
Until there is an arm length between them
and Paradise.
فَيَسْبِقُ عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ And that which has been
written will come forth.
فَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْنَّارِ And this person will
then perform a deed of the people of
Hellfire, and he enters Hellfire.
People will look at him.
Maybe how many people, how many men at
home were protected by their wife and their
daughters, and had a very bad death?
They won't tell you.
People won't say like, oh we found our
dad and he died in the toilet.
We found our dad and he was insulting
when he died.
We found our dad looking at Haram.
They won't say this.
They won't dishonor their dad.
But how are we going to die then,
really?
So the Messenger ﷺ said, So if Allah
ﷻ knows that that which you are hiding
in your heart is not sincere, He will
expose you the moment you die.
He will expose you.
He will squeeze it out of you, and
you will not want the people to know
it, but you might say it the moment
you die.
Done.
So now.
But on the other side, the Messenger ﷺ
said, وَإِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ النَّارِ And
some amongst you perform the deeds of the
people of Hellfire.
حَتَّى لَا يَكُونَ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلَّا ذِرَعً Until
between him or her.
And Hellfire is nothing but a rambling.
Everybody says, look at that sinner.
He's smoking weed.
He's going out, doesn't care about prayer.
He runs behind haram drinking and doing haram
things.
And everybody says, this man is going to
die in a very bad way.
We have this kind of people that we
say with our heart or with our mind.
We don't share it with people.
But we think, look at this guy.
How disgusting is this?
But Allah ﷻ says, the Messenger ﷺ said,
Some people perform the deeds of the people
of Hellfire.
But He said, فِي مَا يَبْدُو لِلنَّاسِ According
to the people.
Wallahi.
We don't know what the worshipper in the
mosques do at night.
And we don't know what the sinners during
the day do at night.
Maybe someone in the first row is looking
at haram in his house when he's alone.
And maybe the sinner in public is the
one that goes back home on his knees,
crying, O Allah, forgive me, please.
What do we know?
What do we know about people?
Maybe this person says, Ya Rabbi, I want
to get rid of smoking weed.
Ya Rabbi, I don't want to live in
zina.
Ya Rabbi, I don't want to drink khamar.
Ya Rabbi, take it away.
It's killing me.
I don't want to be the person that
I am.
This grief of that person is elevating him
in rags.
It's lifting that person up.
These tears, these fears, these worries.
But the worshipper that pretends in front of
people, Here I am, look at me, reading
Qur'an, doing my dhikr.
I have my date with me on Thursday
and Monday.
Look, it's maghrib.
Bismillah.
What if this person is doing haram at
the end?
Not meaning that showing your good deeds for
Allah is wrong.
You are allowed to show your good deeds
if it's for Allah.
But if you pretend to be someone who
you are not, and if you are doing
deeds when you're amongst people, which you wouldn't
do when you're alone, good deeds, then you're
faking it.
So the Messenger ﷺ, he said, and some
people sin during the day, which doesn't mean
that sinning is good.
I'm not inviting towards sinning.
Sinning is haram.
We should stay away from it.
But only Allah knows how we will finish.
Only Allah knows this.
And this is why.
What should we do if we don't want
to be exposed the moment we die?
That's the most important question.
Allah ﷻ, He told the Sahaba, and the
Sahaba were the best of people.
He said, And do everything which is in
your might and power to die as Muslims.
We take it for granted.
I'm a Muslim now.
Here I am.
And I will be a Muslim tomorrow, and
I will be a Muslim when I die.
What do we know?
We are not Muslim by choice.
We are Muslim by His choice.
Allah ﷻ says, It is Allah that reminds
you of His blessing, that He has guided
you towards Islam.
You are not a Muslim thanks to your
parents.
You are not a Muslim thanks to your
environment.
If Muslims would be Muslims thanks to their
parents, well, then the son of Nuh would
have been a Muslim.
If Muslims are Muslims thanks to their husbands,
or, yes, then the wife of Lut and
the wife of Nuh would have been Muslims.
If a Muslim man would be a Muslim
thanks to his wife, then the wife, the
husband of Asiyah, Pharaoh, would be a Muslim.
We are Muslims by His choice, nothing else.
So now, when you know that your Islam
is entirely dependent upon Him ﷻ, then how
are we going to hold on to it?
That's the most crucial question that you need
to ask in your life, because you're only
going to die once.
There's one death, not two, one.
So how are you going to give your
life away?
You know, when we look at these great
people, like this lady that was fasting for
40 years, and when she died, they told
her to break her fast.
She was an old lady, 60, 70 years
old.
They told her to break her fast.
Why?
Because it appears that you are very thirsty
when you die.
She said, don't you dare to ask me
this.
I've been fasting for 40 years, hoping that
Allah would take my life while I am
fasting.
They said, why 40 years?
She said, because I don't know when I'm
going to die.
Apart from Eid, I was fasting every day.
She said, don't you dare to take this
away from me.
And then they left her.
And then at that moment, she said, And
then she died.
Which means, the people of Jannah, in brief,
today they are very happy.
And then she died.
40 years she was preparing for that day.
We prepare ourselves for our holiday a year
in advance, six months in advance.
We prepare it, we calculate how much money
we need, how long the road will be,
how long will it take, what will we
do, where will we stop, where will we
land, where is the transit, what is the
hotel we will be going to.
About Eid and death, nothing.
While it's the only destination that we can
be sure of.
The only thing that we have in common
here is one thing.
If we're married, maybe tomorrow we're divorced.
If we have children, maybe tomorrow they're taken
away.
If we have a job, then maybe our
job can be taken away as well.
If we have honor and status, this can
be taken away as well.
So the only thing that we can be
sure of, the only thing is that we
have an appointment.
And the appointment is the day that the
veil will be lifted and that the unseen
world will all of a sudden be tangible.
You will see it before you die.
Not after you die, before you die.
The Messenger of Muhammad ﷺ said, there is
no one amongst you or he will see
his or her place in paradise or *
before their soul leaves their body while you
are alive.
This is when you're on your deathbed and
when people hear you say, because now that
you see the unseen, you are no longer
allowed to talk to the world of those
who do not see the unseen.
Otherwise, everybody would believe.
If everybody who dies would say, I see
the angels, then everybody would believe.
So now you're not allowed to speak and
you see it.
What if you know that you're at this
instance being told that your destination is *?
You can't go back.
You can't go back.
You're trying to keep your soul to yourself
in your body.
This is when nazi'ati gharqa.
Nazi'at means pulling out with force.
It's the angels that pull out your soul
with force.
Why with force?
Because your soul is holding on to every
part of the body because it knows that
the pain which will follow is unbearable.
So she prefers to stay in the body
while she's beaten by the angels.
يَدْرِبُونَ وُجُوهَهُمْ وَأَدْبَارَهُمْ They are hitting their faces
and their backs.
But this pain is more beloved to them
than giving their soul.
Because when they leave their body, it's worse.
وَجَاءَتْ ثَكْرَةُ الْمَوْتِ بِالْحَقِّ ذَلِكَ مَا كُنْتَ مِنْهُ
تَعِيدٍ And the agonies of death come to
you.
Look!
Taste!
This is what you were running away from.
So now, when everybody will see the hereafter,
the world of the unseen before dying, and
if it's bad, you don't want to leave
your body, and if it's good, you know
what the Prophet ﷺ said?
That it will be like your soul will
be poured out like water from a can.
You know, it goes...
That.
It just goes like that.
There you are.
This is how your soul will leave your
body.
Slowly, gently, without any problem.
So now, if this is our appointment, what
are we doing to prepare ourselves for this
moment?
If this is not what concerns us, if
this is not what we are busy with,
then we are losing very precious time.
We are losing time.
Because our appointment can be now, can be
tomorrow, can be tonight.
You might not wake up.
We don't know.
So, I'm going to give three keys, in
sha Allah, which will help us to die
while saying la ilaha illallah, the best of
death, while saying la ilaha illallah, or, as
we said, not being exposed when we die.
The first thing is, one, don't have any
hidden rooms in your life.
Look at your life as a house, and
at your deens as rooms.
You should be so pure, so genuine, that
at any instance in your life, during day
or night, if the walls were to collapse,
and the world would see you, that you
would have nothing to be ashamed for.
This is when you know that you are
pious.
Pious outside is for everybody.
Even the munafiqun were pious.
Even the hypocrites, in the time of the
Messenger ﷺ.
What did Allah say about them?
وَإِذَا رَأَيْتَهُمْ تُعْجِبُكَ أَجْسَامُهُمْ مَا يَقُولُوا تَسْمَعْ
لِقَوْلِهِمْ When you look at them, their appearance
pleases you.
And when they talk, you listen to their
words.
But they're hypocrites.
They were praying amongst the prayers.
They were praying amongst the people who used
to pray.
They used to read Qur'an.
So what is it all about?
Well, no hidden rooms.
Allah says in Qur'an, يَوْمَ تُبْلَى السَّرَائِرِ
That day, that which is in the heart,
will be exposed.
It is no longer about did you pray?
For whom did you pray?
It's no longer did you give a sadaqah?
It's about for whom did you give the
sadaqah?
Who were you longing for when you were
doing this?
For whom were you being pious?
Were you more pious when you were in
public than when you were alone?
Well, that's a form of hypocrisy.
So the first thing that we need to
do is have no hidden rooms.
That's one.
Two, get rid of a sin that you
can't get rid of.
Everybody has a sin that he or she
can't get rid of.
It can be sins of the heart, not
being pleased with the decree of Allah.
It can be gossiping.
It can be insulting.
It can be breaking promises.
It can be breaking hearts.
It can be listening to haram.
It can be looking at haram.
It can be so many different things.
And do you know what's dangerous?
If you have a sin in your life
that always keeps on showing its face, then
the possibility of this being a sin you
might perform while dying is very true.
If you keep on committing the sin, then
you might die while committing this sin, while
gossiping or while slandering or whatever that you
have in your head.
Imagine that you die like that.
You know, a sin can also be not
paying attention, not giving the right to your
wife and children or husband and children.
I mean, would you like to die when
you leave your house and your wife says,
where are you going?
Ah, just leave me alone.
Boom.
Slam the door.
Go away.
Come back.
Wife is dead.
That were your last words.
Or what if that were your last words
and you died?
Your wife says, please come home soon today.
I don't want to see you tonight.
Boom.
Drive away.
You die.
Last thing that your wife heard was, I
don't want to see you.
Even if she's going to miss you, but
it will be very bitter.
Not bitter like some.
Is it bitter?
Yeah.
It will be very bitter.
She will always remember this moment.
So when you go out like that and
you come back, you say, I'm so sorry.
I shouldn't have gone like this.
Like the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ, he
would hug his wife before going or whatever.
And then he would go.
If you now die, the last moment she
thinks of was the last thing he did
was hugging me.
I think he really loved me.
You know?
That's the last thing.
Or your child, your daughter, your son, before
you're going out, Daddy, please, one hug.
Daddy, please, one hug.
Not now.
I got to go to my job.
Boom.
Last thing.
When a child is five years, it will
say so.
Daddy died.
She didn't want to hug me anyway.
Last thing.
Never leave people behind in a way that
you would regret to find them after they
die.
I mean, don't do this.
Don't.
Okay?
So what are we going to do?
So the first thing was no hidden rooms.
Get rid of the sins, of the sin
that keeps on coming back every time, every
time.
Sometimes it's a week, then it's two weeks,
then it's after six months, then it comes
back.
This sin, crush it.
Get rid of it and throw it away.
Second thing is, what was the second thing?
What was I explaining?
No hidden rooms.
Free keys.
Yes.
So the second one was that you, at
any time that walls would collapse in your
life, that you wouldn't have anything to be
shameful or that you would regret.
That's the second thing.
So this is a very important one.
Know that, as I said, the sin that
we keep on committing is a sin that
might knock on our doors when we die.
And we don't want to leave people with
a bad opinion of us and we don't
want people to die while having a wrong
or negative opinion of us.
Then, number three, is begging.
Begging.
You know what Allah likes most?
Acknowledging that you know that you don't deserve
anything.
This is when Allah loves you.
When you acknowledge, Ya Rabbi, I'm no one.
Ya Rabbi, I'm nothing.
Ya Rabbi, I detest the bad qualities, the
bad traits that I have.
Ya Rabbi, I detest them.
Some people go so far to say, Ya
Rabbi, because sometimes you might ask Allah something
but you don't feel it.
You say, for example, you gossip.
Ya Rabbi, please let me stop gossiping.
But while you ask it, you feel nothing.
So you say, Ya Rabbi, you dig deep.
Accept my dua like someone who means it.
Because I don't even have the pure heart
wherein I am aware how bad it is
what I'm trying to get rid of.
So the more sincere, the more pure you
are with Allah, the more true you are,
the more likely your dua will be accepted.
Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, like the Messenger
ﷺ said, Allah accepts the supplications of the
broken-hearted.
Allah accepts the dua of the broken-hearted.
None of the ones that sit there, they
go, Ya Rabbi, this and that.
You feel this is nothing.
It's when you dig.
You say, Ya Rabbi, please, come on.
I want to dig.
I even don't feel that I'm talking to
you.
Ya Rabbi, please open this door.
I've been longing for it for so long.
Please don't hold back on me.
You know?
And when you dig, and you keep on
digging, digging, digging, then at a certain moment,
there will be a little tiny tear coming
out of your eyes.
And then you know, okay, my soul is
living again.
It's feeling.
It's breathing.
It's connecting.
So these three things are one of the
most important things.
You know?
And the fourth thing, I said three, but
the fourth thing which will actually protect you
after begging is the Prophet ﷺ used to
ask Allah ﷻ for a good ending.
Ask Allah ﷻ always to let you die.
تَوَفَّنِي مُسْلِمًا وَأَلْحِقْنِي بِالصَّالِحِينَ It's even a du
'a in the Qur'an.
تَوَفَّنِي مُسْلِمًا It was a du'a of
a prophet.
تَوَفَّنِي Excuse me?
Yes, Ibrahim ﷺ.
So he said, Oh Allah, let me die
as a Muslim.
I mean prophets were asking it.
So why don't we?
Another thing is if you're a true believer
heading for your judgment, you don't have time
to judge people.
You don't have time.
The moment you are judging people, you are
forgetting to judge yourself.
And this is why Imam Sha'arani رحمه
الله عز وجل He said in his book
تنبيه المخترين He said, I'm really amazed or
astonished or you know surprised that some people
who have more than 10 shortcomings and flaws
and they know that they have them, right?
Like we know what our shortcomings are, isn't
it?
We all know.
And there are some that are hidden for
us.
And the closer we will get to Allah,
the more we will see them.
This is what a pure soul does.
It exposes to you your shortcomings.
So the closer you are to Allah, the
worse you will think of yourself.
Because you see more mistakes.
So now, it's the same thing.
When, for example, you do karate or judo,
you have the white belt.
You don't see all the details.
You just go this, this, this.
You don't see your mistakes.
But then when you go to a black
belt, for example, you say, how was I
doing that?
And I was thinking that everything was all
right.
Now, and when you have a black belt
and you compare yourself to a first dan,
second dan, third dan or whatever, you will
feel small.
So the bigger your knowledge of something, the
more you are sure of your shortcomings.
So Imam al-Sha'aran, he says, some
people have 10 flaws and they keep on
loving themselves.
And they think that they see one flaw
in their brother and they kick him out
of their lives.
Is this justice?
You have 10 flaws and you love yourself.
In the mirror, oh, subhanAllah, we all think
that we still look the same as we
looked when we were 20.
I'm sorry, are you 20?
19.
So for you, I'm actually talking in the
future.
Okay.
Anyway, how old are you?
23.
Okay.
So it's for the other generation.
So anyway, sometimes when we look into the
mirror, we don't see how much we have
changed, right?
Because we see ourselves every day.
But then when we meet a friend that
we hadn't seen for 10 years, we say,
oh, he really changed.
Well, he thinks the same about us, but
we just don't know it.
You know, that's the way we change.
So Imam Shahrani just says, like when you
have 10 flaws and you keep on loving
yourself, oh, look at me, look at me.
And then the belly sticks a bit out,
but we don't see it.
It always looks smaller than it really is.
You know, the gray hairs are not as
much as we need.
Gray hair is beautiful, by the way.
So mashAllah.
So when you see these flaws in your
brother, you kick him out of your life
for one mistake.
But you keep on loving yourself while you
have 10 mistakes.
And Allah says in the Qur'an, be
just even towards yourselves.
So why did you kick him out?
Why don't you kick yourself out?
So this is barakAllahu feekum.
There is no time to judge.
Life is too busy.
Don't judge people.
Educate people, of course.
If you see your child sinning or doing
wrong things, you correct your child.
But it's really about looking for mistakes in
people.
Okay.
Another one, which is very important, is subhanAllah.
Once there was a man of Bani Israel.
A man of Bani Israel, like Ibn Abid
Dunya, rahimAllah azawajal, mentioned in al-riqat wal
buka, or al-manamat.
And he said a man of Bani Israel
died.
And he was a young man, 19 years
old.
May Allah give you a long life.
And he was known for his worship.
But when he died, people saw him in
a dream.
And they asked, what did Allah do with
you?
He said, I don't know yet.
I don't know what my destination will be.
Usually in your grave, you see Jannah, you
see now.
He said, I don't know.
They said, why?
He said, well, one day, I was collecting
some wood for someone.
And there was a small little tiny branch.
How do you call these tiny branches?
Twig.
There was a small little twig that fell
on the ground, which I picked up.
And I cleaned my teeth with it.
And when I gave the wood to that
man, after that, I didn't think about it
anymore.
And he said, and when I died, it
was this twig that Allah mentioned.
He said, I will not show you your
destination until you see if this person has
forgiven you or not.
Because his forgiveness can get you to Jannah.
And he not forgiving you can get you
to Nahr.
Because Allah says in the Quran, وَمَن يَعْمَلْ
مِثْقَالَ ذَرَّةٍ خَيْرًا يَرًى وَمَن يَعْمَلْ مِثْقَالَ ذَرَّةٍ
شَرًّا يَرًى And someone who does an atom
weight of good will see it.
And someone who does an atom weight of
bad will see it.
So these things can get you into Nahr.
When you park your car, and you go
kick, and you feel it, but you do
as, you look around, okay, nobody saw it.
Alhamdulillah.
Nobody saw it?
Nobody.
This is very problematic.
Okay, good.
That little scratch, that scratch on the car.
When the person is going to sell the
car, maybe a scratch on the car can
reduce the value of the car.
Can it?
My car trader?
It can.
So you drive away.
One year later, maybe this person didn't see
it, but it's a scratch.
And then one year later, he sells the
car.
People say, I'm sorry, this scratch here, it's
minus 100 pounds.
I don't know.
He's going to, you know.
So you actually were the cause that this
person lost money.
These 100 pounds will turn into Siyyid.
And he will lose them on the Day
of Judgment.
He will have no compassion, even if it
was your own mother or father.
Nobody will have any compassion on the Day
of Judgment.
So that scratch on the car will turn
into Siyyid on the Day of Judgment.
And these 100 pounds might turn into Siyyid
that drag you to *.
And this is why Imam Al-Muhajir, Rahim
Allah Azawajal, mentioned, like in his introduction to
his Fath Al-Bari, that Imam Al-Bukhari,
Rahim Allah Azawajal, one day was practicing, you
know, how to shoot.
How do you say that?
He was practicing archery, right?
And one of his arrows, yes, touched a
wooden pole, a wooden pillar of a wooden
bridge.
You know, it just went like this.
There was a small scratch on the bridge.
Nobody would see it.
It was nothing.
The face of Imam Al-Bukhari turned pale.
He said, whose bridge is this?
He said, Imam Al-Bukhari, it's just little,
you know, it's wood.
It's little scratch.
He said, no, whose bridge is this?
They didn't know.
So he was looking for weeks to find
the owner of this bridge.
He stopped teaching hadith until he found the
owner of the bridge.
And they said, is that your bridge?
He says, please, let me, you know, pay
you.
This man was astonished.
He said, but I even don't see it.
He says, the one that does an atom
weight of bad, we'll see it.
So all these little, little atom weights are
following us.
They're like a tail behind us, a trail
that we have left behind us.
And Wallahi, it's following us and it might
strangle us.
What are we going to do?
Wallahi, every little gossip, every little thing that
we have forgotten about, following us, waiting for
us to be either forgiven.
But if we have forgotten, we can't be
forgiven.
Because Allah doesn't forgive sins between servants.
He does not.
He forgives sins between you and him.
But sins between you and creation will only
be forgiven if the one that you have
wronged either forgives you or either that you
establish the wrong or that you rectify the
wrong that you have done.
How are we going to do this?
How we are going to do this is
by, one, going with our minds over everything
we did in our lives.
Now, you're still young, 19, 23.
I'm 42.
And you try to think about so many
things, as many things as possible.
You write them down.
One day I said this to that person.
You write everything down.
Next day, new things.
You try for a long period of time,
and then you're going to rectify all of
it.
And then you're going to think about the
things you did, but who you've forgotten the
owner of or that you don't know.
Like in a car, for example, you're driving
your car on a highway, and a person
drives by and does something really stupid.
You know, instead of, you know, he just
comes in front of your car, and then
he pushes on his brake, and then he
continues.
He doesn't hear what you say.
I will say the most gentle thing.
Oh, you stupid driver.
I'm sure people say different things.
Oh, you stupid driver.
Alas.
Oh, you stupid driver.
This person goes away, maybe without any say
yes, yes, he was driving the wrong way.
But when you insulted him, it follows you.
And the biggest gossip is the family gossip.
When wife and husband are together, because they
feel they are one, they feel that they
are allowed to gossip.
Because they're one.
A little bit strange today.
Yes, I think so.
Or you leave a family, right?
And everything, you sat at the same table.
Thank you so much for your hospitality.
It was so good food.
Really, may Allah bless you, bless your hands,
bless your life, your children.
You go away, you leave that family, and
that family thinks, mashallah, they love us so
much.
First thing in the car, you slam the
door, boom, boom.
Really, their biryani, I don't know what they
did with it.
And then she said that she made the
chicken spicy.
Did you see?
Subhanallah.
All of this, we think it's okay.
Because we are husband and wife.
Did you see how their child behaved?
Yeah, it was running around like a monkey.
Yeah, really, yeah.
So, now what you are doing, this family
husband and wife gossip, is the killer.
If now you have the strength in your
own family, when your husband or your wife
wants to gossip, you say, la.
You say, la, hold it.
If you want to gossip, gossip with the
walls.
Gossip with the door, but don't gossip with
anything which has a soul.
Because it will testify for you or against
you.
So, the family gossip is the most easy
one.
And that's where the majority of people go
wrong.
We gossip about what we see.
So, what are we going to do?
Well, from now on, one, we're going to
rectify what is behind us.
How many atom weights, man?
I can't even imagine myself.
When you really try to imagine all of
our wrongs, being transformed into atom weights, like
a tail, I go, everywhere I go.
And they might come the moment I die.
Then I want to say, la ilaha illallah,
but the atom weights are so many, that
it pushes on my chest, and I, and
I die.
So, let us get rid of them.
That's one.
Two, look into the future, and let us
say from now on, I won't wrong anyone,
an atom weight.
And if the sword of justice, figuratively speaking,
if the sword of justice, is against me,
let it be against me.
Because Allah's justice towards me, is more beloved
to me, even if it breaks me down,
than my justice, which will eventually be my
demolisher, on the day of judgment.
A brave man and a brave woman, is
so brave, that they use the haq against
themselves.
That they use the truth, against them, when
they know that they are wrong.
This is a very difficult one.
Because very often, when we talk about rights
and wrongs, we always think that we are
right.
We have a dispute with people, they're wrong.
Something went wrong in the deal, they are
wrong.
They didn't appreciate me, they weren't on time,
they changed their face, they this, they that.
Like we are a king on a throne,
and everybody's wrong.
I'm never wrong.
We have to go by the justice of
Allah.
And submitting to his justice, is an honor.
If this is where I went wrong, your
haq, is more important to me than mine.
So this is another way to, what's the
time?
So this is another way, how to prepare
yourself, to die in the best of ways.
So these things are very important.
And by Allah, the cure for everything, is
in fasting and night prayer.
Fasting and night prayer.
Night prayer, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, that qiyam al-layl, is da'ab
al-salihin qablakum, was the, the habit of
the pious people before you.
And he said, it removes you from sins.
It elevates you in rank.
And it expiates your sins.
See this?
That's what night prayer does.
And this is why night prayer, at the
very beginning in Islam, was obligatory.
Do you know night prayer was obligatory?
Praying at night, not the five prayers.
Qiyam al-layl was obligatory, and the scholars
differ.
Was it six months, or was it 18
months?
18 months, people had to pray during the
night.
Why?
Because it transforms your soul.
Because you learn to give up things, to
find the one you want.
You want to find Allah?
Well, wake up during the night.
Fast during the day.
And behave well, and stay away from haram.
If you are able to do the last
things I've said, pray during the night, even
if it's 15 minutes.
Fast during the day, even if it's three
days a month.
Stay away from haram.
And what was the other thing I said?
I mentioned four.
Ask for forgiveness.
Ask for forgiveness.
What about other human beings?
Have you drawn them?
None.
So, fasting during the night.
During the day.
Yes, not during the night.
Fasting during the night is not accepted anyway.
So you pray during the night, you fast
during the day.
What was the third thing I said?
And forget what I say.
Stay away from haram, and behave in a
good way.
Don't wrong anybody.
If you do these four things, you are
a very, very, very strong believer.
Even if you don't memorize the Qur'an,
you don't have a lot of knowledge, you're
not an imam, you're not a sheikh, pray
during the night.
Of course, you're five prayers and so forth.
But pray during the night.
Fast during the day, even if it's three
days a month.
And?
Stay away from haram.
Three, four, and behave well.
In your business, in your family, with your
neighbors, with people.
If you do this, mashallah, you are my
example.
You already are, but you would even be
more.
These are the people who are looking for
Allah.
I'm, you know, after 24 years of studying,
which I've been doing, I'm studying until today.
I started when I was 18.
I study every day.
If you now ask me, what impresses you?
For me, it is not somebody knowing the
10 qiraat.
It is not someone memorizing thousands of hadith.
It is not someone reciting the Quran in
a very good way.
For me, it is someone with a good
behavior that doesn't lie, doesn't cheat, doesn't break
promises, is patient, controls his anger, doesn't make
you cry, doesn't do wrong, smiles, even when
things go wrong.
Wallahi, this is the person.
And this is why the messenger sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said, إذا جاءكم when someone comes
to you whose deen and whose akhlaq and
whose well behavior impresses you, then marry him.
This is what he said.
He didn't say when a scholar comes to
you.
He didn't say when a rich man who
spends his money comes to you, when a
Quran reciter comes to you, when the Imam
of Mecca comes to you, when the hadith
memorizer comes to you.
No.
He said someone with deen, meaning he sticks
to the deen, he does halal, stays away
from haram, and his akhlaq is good.
That's it.
If he found those kind of men worthy
to marry a daughter, that means that they
are the best of people.
Those who do halal, stay away from haram,
and have a good character.
For the rest, it's not important.
A man with a lot of money, with
deen, but a bad behavior, he will make
your daughter unhappy.
A man with a lot of money, with
good behavior, but no deen, he won't make
your daughter everlastingly happy.
Deen and khuluq, and the rest will be
okay.
Allah knows.
If you have any questions about the topic,
then please ask me.
Yes, sir.
You talked about the role of your sins
and everything, and trying to clean them up.
Yes.
I look forward to doing the right thing
from now on.
Yes.
I'm a 68-year-old man, and I
use the word old man with it.
You look very young, by the way.
But to find the people where you sit,
and you know, like you said, everybody sits,
and I put my hand up first, and
said, why she, why me, I don't know,
I can't see.
Yes.
You know, you won't know.
Yes.
I mean, you won't know who they are
now.
That's a car, and I'd be guilty of
that.
You'd say, oh, no, I wouldn't look.
Yes.
That's here, you'd see that, you know, here,
line.
Yes.
Yes.
Yes.
And things like that, so how do you
put those things?
Okay.
So, if it is a wrong doing towards
someone who we can't get hold of, that
we don't remember, then there are two things
to do.
If it has to do with money, like,
for example, that scratch that will decrease the
worth of the car for a hundred pounds,
for example, you estimate it.
Yes.
Then you're going to give away charity of
a hundred pounds in someone else's name.
And you are going to give it to
someone, you said, there is someone who wants
to give you this, it's not mine.
And you give it.
You don't know the name of the person,
you said, but the person doesn't want to
be known.
You give it and your intention is to
give it in the name of that person
that you have wronged, you see.
You can give either sadaqah, it has not
to do with money, for example, saying something
wrong about someone on television or in the
car on the road, then you are going
to make du'a for these people.
Let's say, Ya Rabbi, everybody that I have
insulted, Ya Rabbi, without him hearing me, or
that I have gossiped about, without him or
her hearing me, Ya Rabbi, give them lights
in their lives.
Ya Rabbi, bless them, bless their children, bless
them wherever they are.
Ya Rabbi, if they are having a problem
now, Ya Rabbi, I ask you, by your
most beautiful names, to take away this problem
and to draw a smile on their faces.
You might not know how your du'a
might actually really change their lives.
So either by du'a or by giving
charity.
And you do this for everything you can
remember but that you cannot connect to anybody
in particular.
Just one more, just one more.
Yes sir.
So I went to Umrah and there was
a person, I love Umrah, and there was
a person who was very close to me
and I felt this distance.
Yes.
So when I went to Umrah, you know,
I asked him to forgive me and everything.
He said, I've forgiven you.
Yeah, so, Alhamdulillah, you know, forgive me.
But I don't feel that.
Okay.
He's told me, literally told me, I've forgiven
you.
But I still today sit here to tell
you this.
Yes.
I personally don't feel that.
That's because you have a heart at the
right place.
Because I've done it.
Yes.
So what about that person that didn't forgive
me?
But you can't ask that question, he's forgiven
you and that's the end.
Yes.
Then you have to watch out that it
doesn't turn into waswasa for eventually you taking
your distance from this person.
You see, because you'll say, I don't know
what's wrong.
I feel he's not the same as before.
Maybe, just try to forget it.
Leave it.
Because otherwise, it's an arrow that shaitan or
the nafs will use against you.
Yes, sir.
Certainly.
We're talking a bit about not being close
to Allah, being accepted by him.
And, from what I've heard, that part of
the process often is Allah breaks your love
for things other than him.
And that is a process to get closer
to him as well.
No.
Because he wants you to be equal for
him.
Yes.
If you can see some of that, are
there then, beyond that, are there other, quite
often it's explained as stages.
You go through these stages.
Yes.
Beyond that, are there other stages?
Well, often, when things go wrong, because they're
an obstacle between you and Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, and one perseveres, then Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala will give a person back
what was taken away from him.
Of course, if it is a life that
has been taken away, it can't be given
back unless it is in the hereafter.
But, they say the best thing when you
see that things in your life are disturbed,
you know, like it can be the way
you connect to, the way that one connects
to his wife or husband or children or
parents, then it is by putting barakah in
these things that are being disturbed.
Like trying to use them to come closer
to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And then, very often, like, and when he
decided that he would now use his car
to do good things, well, it never broke
down again.
And we believe that Allah can do this.
I mean, from a scientific point of view,
this can't be true.
But we believe that Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala surpasses these things.
So, actually, maybe I understood your question in
a wrong way.
But, I'm sorry.
InshaAllah, I will be leaving in two minutes.
InshaAllah, if you want me to write down
the email, or should I give it to
you?
Excuse me?
No, it is for someone to connect to
my wife for some translations.
No, I'm not going to mention it like
this.
No, no.
I'm going to write it down.
Okay.
Good.
Are there any more questions?
No?
Jazakumullah khairan everybody.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala reward you
all.