Sulaiman Moola – Reflections – Keep The Flame Of Love Burning

			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were bad. No human is an island. We are social creatures. And part of
our social interaction is we have a family network. We have friends we have associates we have in
laws and so on and so forth. Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks in the Quran, Allah, Allah comin Allah
in Bashara fudger Allah who nessa Ben was so raw, that Allah has created man from a fluid,
privileged him with an ancestry and extended his family with in laws. And we all develop bonds and
relationships and attachment with individuals at some point or the other in our life. But the key
question is, what can we adopt to sustain the relationship so husband and wife prior to marriage
		

			prospective couple, they had a crush over each other. They had an infatuation over each other, they
got married, but unfortunately it was a short stint and then it fizzles away, or brothers were close
together and then at some point, the relation becomes sour and it takes pear shape and it's
unpleasant. I share with you today a very amazing quotation of aroma hatari Allahu anhu, who used to
say that there are three qualities youth bitonal would the face of a Sikh if you can imbibe that,
then it will preserve and sustain the relationship, it will keep the flame of love and affection
burning between you and your beloved. Now what are those three qualities briefly of Satan, Amara,
		

			the Allahu anhu. So if I maintained this with my brother in sha Allah, the relationship will only
grow stronger and healthier. And if I internalize this in my house with my spouse in sha Allah, it
will put an end to bickering and unpleasantness, and it will it will strengthen the relation in sha
Allah. The first thing that said now I'm gonna Katara the Allah Allah mentioned in this regard, and
Tabitha, who is salam, and Tabitha, who is salam, that whenever you meet your beloved, your
neighbor, your brother, your friend, your spouse, your partner, whoever it is, then being the first
to initiate a greeting, be the first to initiate a greeting. We do know that the messenger
		

			sallallahu wasallam entities house were two things. It was Salam and seawater. So they would be
using a miswak and that is indicates how particular he was about oral hygiene. Because we know the
Prophet sallallahu wasallam is blessing teeth would clean his blessed entire body gave a fragrance
and I often say this without fear of contradiction, that when the messenger sallallahu alayhi
wasallam got up in the morning, his blessing mouth was more fragrant than our mouth is after
brushing our teeth. And that is no exaggeration that's a reality. But he sallallahu wasallam would
enter the house with Salaam what Salaam what Salaam and with Miss one, there is innovation in Muslim
		

			Mohammed where Saudi men are bad or the Allahu anhu says that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam came
to greet him and he knocked on the door as we learn in Surah Noor in the 18th Jews is the than the
adab of is the land seeking permission. Yeah, you have Lavina Amanullah to the Hulu boo tiecon Hi,
Stephanie. So what to send lemo Allah Allah, they do not enter into any home other than your own
home until you do not see consent. you familiarize yourself and of course you greet the occupants of
the house. So the messengers analyze them knocked on the door and Sarah Salam aleikum, there was no
response. He knocked for the second time and greeted, there was no reply. And he repeated it for the
		

			third time and nobody replied. So he sallallahu Sallam was returning as he has taught us in the
Hadith, that you would seek permission thrice. And if somebody consents, then you will enter and if
not, then return. And after the third Salam when he got no reply, he was just about to leave. When
Saudi Arabia or whether the Allahu anhu opened the door, and he then welcome the Prophet sallallahu
wasallam in and ushered him in, and the messenger sallallahu Sallam said, I greeted once, twice and
thrice and I got no reply. And Subhana Allah, what was the reply of sodre the olana he said, O
Messenger sterilized him, of course the homes was small, it was not a doorbell that was ringing. It
		

			was not a camera system in which he was seen. It's simple, small, basic average. I heard your
footsteps I heard your pleasant voice. And when you greeted, I responded discreetly, so that you
could greet for the second time and you could invoke the blessings of Allah upon me again, had I
responded The first time you would have not greeted for the second time. Of course, the scholars
teach us and tell us that that was driven by the overwhelming desire to attract the blessings in his
home. Otherwise that is not the ideal etiquette to subject your
		

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			your guests to any form of inconvenience. And we do know that sadly nobody Alon whose motive was
absolutely pure and noble. His aim was not to prolong the weight of the messenger sallallahu
wasallam. But the point that I'm trying to impress via this incident which Mr. McMahon has quoted,
is the value of salam, the value of Salaam, Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions in the Quran, where
either you don't retaliate in the accent Amina or Doha, that when you greeted with a greeting, then
reply with a similar greeting or something more wholesome. So if a person says that Salam aleikum,
reciprocate with the same or extended by saying Ronnie como salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato will
		

			you invoke in the mercy the blessings of Allah upon that person. So the first thing we need to do
and we need to become conscious about this, and like I always say if the sub is important, if this
app is the mental awareness of the reward promised in executing this action, and he's still alive,
he was Selim has also told us that the one who initiate the Salaam is free from pride is free from
pride. So the formula to keep a relation active sincerely because you're asking Allah for blessings,
so in your heart, you don't want anything unpleasant to grip or inflict this individual. So that's
the first thing we ought to do and Tabitha will be Salam. The second amazing quality that we need to
		

			internalize which will preserve and keep the flame of love active towards say, Allah who Phil
imagine is that you prepare a space for him, or you reserve a space for him without inconveniencing
anyone. Let me qualify that statement in a gathering in a function in a get together. So the Quran
speaks about this in the 28th Jews in Surah mujer de la that either de la la quinta fossa, Whoville
majority say FAFSA, La La con. Wow, it looks so simple yet look at the reward. Let me give you a
verbatim translation what is that the lender can and when it is said to you? The first salvo filled
majorities that make some room in a gathering just move up slightly, you know, move forward, inch
		

			forward, make some room and space so other people can come forward and allow them the space give
them some room make them comfortable accommodate them. Look at what does the Quran say? The first
hopefully majorities FAFSA who gives a high level exam when you are told to make room and space and
accommodate, then oblige and comply and allow will give you space? FAFSA, whoa, that's an imperative
a command that makes space and the positive outcome of this will be ef sokola hooligan that alone
will make space for you. And all the scholars of the theater say what does it mean we will allow
make space for you allow will reserve a spot for you in Jannah alone, I'm just certain thing imagine
		

			somebody comes to you and says give me a rupee and I'll give you $1 or give me a Rand and I'll give
you a pound or give me a polar and I'll give you a Kuwaiti dinar like you give me one I'll give you
one but you've given me something you know in monetary value which is much cheaper and inferior. And
I'm going to give it to you back in a currency more wholesome with greater value. Align saying make
space make space for your brother for your colleague for your companion for your spouse in a
gathering and along will give you space in general. Now this is such a rich teaching of the Quran.
Your father in law one Latina man, woman common Latina otolaryngology. The benefit of this is great,
		

			Allah says that the believer station will be elevated and those who have those who have knowledge,
they will enjoy multiple status, because they will execute this injunction with deep vision and
understanding the context and the text of the Quran. So it will just not be sheer compliance to the
head of the gathering, but rather they will do it with an added level of basura understanding that
this is an injunction of the Quran. So let's take this into practical scenarios. You're going for a
walima you're going for a family get together, or you're going commonly with your brother to a mall
you find in a spot where there are two bays, you are occupying one Bay and you are reserving it and
		

			I must qualify without inconveniencing or imposing or encroaching on anyone. Because if you're
trying to accommodate someone and you are offending another person, you're telling somebody else to
move from his space, then that is not the right way of doing things. But within reason you reserve a
spot for someone who comes late. This is something that might look simple, basic, average and
insignificant, but said naramata the alarm rang who says this will preserve the relationship?
Imagine we do this year? You tell your wife or the wife tells her husband no I'm waiting for you. We
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			Together we will find a common spot, we will sit together in a setting that is conducive and
palatable for for that type of, you know, get together, etc, what it is. So the message here is that
these are things that's going to strengthen the relationship. And last but not least, that's it no
matter what the Allahu anhu says that the ruler who may have been a smart he lay Subhana Allah, that
you address your beloved with a name that he or she loves the most. This is going to keep the flame
of love going. Now, recently, I was involved in a particular marital case, and it's a reality. And
the marriage was on rocks and it was still Bulent, and I'm not sure if it was dissolved or it was in
		

			the process. And the one spouse asked me to speak to the other spouse so I said Okay, no problem
just forward me the the contact details of your spouse. And so that particular spouse and I'm just
using the word spouse so that I'm gender neutral, because it could happen in both cases. Sometimes
the husband offends the wife or the wife offends the husband both could be either the victim or on
the receiving or the inflicting party. So when the spouse forwards me the contact details, what does
it show on the phone, the number and the name of the that spouse best? Best? Yet in another
instance, I was involved in a case Earth. That's the name he irks me or she owes me or he's the best
		

			She's the best. Now if we refer to our partners as a best, right as a leech is legion of machines
leeching off me. Those are not those are not good words. those are those are going to create venom
they're going to create poison. They're not going to reduce the level of discord they are going to
compound and exacerbated that there will be a smart he lay that use a pleasant name. Now quickly I
want to share with you some reflections. In Arabic we refer to nada Mora hum right monada Muhammad
Rahim which, which is an easy way and that is a hassle out there. Sometimes you don't have to use a
very romantic expression for your partner, or for your friend. You don't have to use something very
		

			hilarious or something you know full of humor. You just drop an omit the last letter. This is also
an expression of affection in Arabic. So the messenger sallallahu wasallam. would say yeah, I wish
Yeah, I wish. Right there are rules in Nagoya, in matsubara. In you know, in terms of how you will
address a person where you drop off, walk on your sofa little feet, when they tell me their
different reasons where you are met the last letter of a person's name, just out of love, just out
of love your eyes or eyes. This is Gemini conveyed salons to you.
		

			Yet again, we see when the messengers Allison was wrapped up in his cloth in the early days. And
many of the scholars say the reason for this was because the disbelievers The Infidel, that referred
to him as an Alaia and an imposter and he's analyzed them was sad and depressed. So he wrapped
himself up in a government and Allah subhanaw taala then said he are a Muslim male, yeah, a yo
helmet deathy right respectively chapter 73 and 74 in the 29, Jews of the Quran, and that was the
second revelation of the sutra. So after the next revelation was the sutra, modesitt and Muslim
mill, so from this, the scholars deduce that is ethical Ism meenal harlowton mo Judah, that
		

			sometimes just to extract a name from the current situation is also Mooji Mola Prophet, it is a
cause of affection, love and warmness. So so you don't really coin a phrase or you don't find a new
name, the situation in which your beloved ease is reclining, He's resting, he's walking, and you
just extract a name from that situation itself. Often we don't say always because there are
different dynamics can also be a sense of an affectionate embrace or an affectionate call out so
Allah told the prophets Eliza via a Muslim male Yeah, you helmet. Oh, my beloved Habib's analyzed
them wrapped up in a cloth. And this is not only found in the Quran, we find the same analogy
		

			adopted by the messengers of Allah Islam in the Hadith, that when he came home, and he realized that
Fatima de la Miranda and Alia the Allahu anhu, his son in law and his cousin had an altercation and
had a feud and he inquired from Fatima Ravi Alanna and she said that he was in the masjid. He then
came to the masjid and say da da da da Alon was the rest in in the courtyard. Now when he was
resting in the courtyard of the messenger of the masjid of the messenger sallallahu sallam, he was
envelope in the dust. He was enveloped in the dust.
		

			The province hasn't understood that the moment was rather tense because he had a feud and an
altercation with his respective spouse, the queen of the woman of gender. And you can see how
visibly rahimullah has written extensively, that even the best of marriages have their fair share of
turbulence, that they couldn't be a greater capital and a greater union than any of the alarm and
fathima but Subhan Allah they resolve it with respect and dignity. We learn from this the psychology
of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and it ties up with these words of give good names, give good names
to each other, don't use insensitive names don't make nasty remarks. This is going to burn the the
		

			you know the the lamp of love. It's going to extinguish it. So he said a lot of Salem gay men he
said komiya about old dusty characters stand up. Oh dusty fellow stand up. He didn't say earlier the
Alanna he said dusty characters authentic Hades in all the books of Hadith and say no, and he then
responded, and the narration says it just relax to him. And I know the learning used to go on and
say that if somebody called me Ali, I loved it. But if somebody called me dusty character, I would
just simply adopted why because that was a bad name and a kunia that the profits analyzed and
conferred upon me. Last but not least, in this regard, I share with you an incident briefly when say
		

			that our Moosa journeyed to go to the meeting of the two oceans. Management were in Bahrain as the
Quran says, then in the search of knowledge and to meet with either in Buhari Sharif the third
chapter is kita bowline. So there's the Bible but then the skateable Eman And then the skateable.
And in that anti innovation features, but I want to say is what is called a moose I leave a child
who and remember when Moosa said to his young men, so the year Fatah means you shall evening noon
according to many of the narrations. It was the servant and the helper of Satan are musante salaam.
But the Quran adopted an expression of not worker, helper assistant, no young man, young man skilled
		

			men. So sometimes we use the word for a person who's cleaning my garden or who's who's probably
pruning my trees and you're not attending to the things at home words that are derogatory. The word
Fatah means young, skilled talented, you're Cardona who follows me an asset then yes, go to home in
the context of the Prime Minister and the word fatten was used. So the word fitting is a very
holistic expression of a very mature way. In a nutshell, we need to use good names, pleasant names,
and that will inshallah enhance the relationship may Allah grant us the ability to adopt and imbibe
these amazing qualities and maybe preserve our relationships with our spouses and our siblings till
		

			the end of time.