Sulaiman Moola – Martital Reconcilation

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The segment discusses the issue of peace between Muslims and non- Muslims, the need for cooperation in reconciling issues such as war and de-personization, and the importance of history and actions towards emotions. It also touches on the negative impact of actions and emotions on women, including the use of drugs and alcohol, and the potential for conflict and love in relationships. The segment also touches on the rainbow's potential for conflict and the importance of love and happiness in relationships.

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			jihad.
		
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			Eden okoma. colonias. Salatu was salam, honorable Allah microm respected brothers and held his Islam
by its very nature and temperament advocates and promotes peace and reconciliation between with
one's Friend or foe, a lot of police that makes mentioned in the Quran, what in general is selfish
enough Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, that if the enemies at any stage inclined towards peace, they know
Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam you also inclined towards peace? What do you do if the ruca innospec
Allah and if you are afraid that perhaps they will deceive you under the pretext of peace, then put
your trust in Allah Allah will be sufficient for you. Amongst the many contentious issues which the
		
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			Western media ideally must interpret to air to the anti Islamic campaign is the critical issue of
jihad. Among the many issues with the ideally must interpret the quotation of Satan Aryan or the
olana, which appears in a letter to Dalia very clearly illustrates the Muslim viewpoint on the issue
of jihad. Secondary Romani used to say, naka de Kandahar boo boo Lita manana Allah amoraim, Dr. Omen
and tozawa Dina woman and whenever the Muslims fought a legitimate war justified war, it was for one
of two reasons. Either the land was being invaded or the deen was being trampled. Otherwise, the
Quran says for any
		
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			fellow McCarthy lucuma alko in a coma salam, Sonata Allahu Allah subhanaw taala that if the enemies
withdraw, and they surrender, and they make peace, the option then all Muslims, Allah has not given
you any legitimate grounds to wage war against them. Now very seldom dispatch a group of Sahaba in a
particular direction. They were about to smack the enemy when one amongst them stood up and he says
all Muslim, please do not hit me I'm a Muslim, and he recited the kanima sabhas debated amongst
themselves is this man genuinely a Muslim or easy reciting and pronouncing and articulating the
kalama to protect himself? After much debate, they decided that no, this man is leading the caravan
		
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			with ulterior motives. And they went ahead and they hit this person and they killed him. When they
return in the narrator. He told me on a Salam he was extremely disturbed and perturbed, and
subsequently the verses were revealed, while articolo por la como salam, Allah Stumbo Amina and
don't ever say you are not a Muslim to a person who surrenders to you office peace to you and recite
the Karima whether it is genuine or verbally from his tongue, Allah is responsible. But as soon as
the person negotiates with peace, it is the duty of a Muslim to drop down his weapons on the
occasion of a via Livia creme de la Salaam, said I swear by Allah in whose control is my life. I
		
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			will surrender to any police proposal made by the kuffar provided it does not infringe on the orders
of Allah tala and with regards to reconciliation amongst ourselves as the Quran says, What in effect
Are you mean? I mean a potato for us a probe a llama that Muslims are currently in amongst
themselves, then it is the duty of other Muslims to come and to reconcile between these two
quarantine parties. There is a hadith which Imam Hakeem Rahmatullah is narrated Satan Allah and so
they are allowed to say we were sitting with Libya Kareem sallallahu wasallam when suddenly there
was a broad smile on the face of nobility Salam said nama, sigma haka, Sula, La Jolla. Very strange.
		
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			What is the wisdom of your smile? the VNA, Salam said, Omar, what can I tell you? I am actually
visualizing a scene that is to prevail on the day of the AMA rajani mean Almighty Jessa yada, yada,
yada, Eliza, on the day of the Arma two of my followers will kneel before Allah, one will say to the
other in the court of Allah Yara behold, Lima Lima team in a z. Allah my brother had oppressed me
and you had promised that justice will prevail on the day of Tiamat ally when justice to prevail in
the matter between me and my brother, Allah will intercede on behalf of the other person
		
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			insane. Martha's not will be a fake one. I mean her sanity he say, What are you trying to claim from
your brother the man has absolutely no credit to his account. So the letter person will answer by
saying our law with respect to his situation, but I am desperate. If he cannot give me his credit
fernleaf mill Min nozari, then he must lighten my burden by sharing some of my son's net here is Sam
said this, and he started crying profusely. Well, Father Dinah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam a bill buka and then he said in the valley, Kayla Yamuna abeam indeed that will be a great
day, that desperation of men will know no bounds. They will get so desperate if you cannot take my
		
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			credit that at least lightened my burden of sense. Allah will then tell him Okay, leave your brother
do me a favor glance in that direction. He will lift his glance he will lift his gaze alone ask him
what can you see in that direction? It says La da da, da
		
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			da da da
		
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			da da da da da da da da da da. I would like to see penances of gold and silver. I can see rivers and
beautiful lakes over lava. Which property Have you designed this? For? Which muttering have you
built this for which Siddique is this exclusively designated? Allah says no no in and out the
summit. It is for the person who can give the price this palace belongs to him. Kala Mamma mia Casa
de como la who has the price for these palaces, kala anthem Lika who Allah telling you have the
price allow me Tell me what it is and I'll give it to you now. Allah will then tell him forgive your
brother in the * yours. This is a life I forgive him It's mine. Allah says yes. It says okay
		
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			ally have forgiven him. Then Allah will tell him now you hold your brother's hand and both of us
going back Jeanette levy I said and then set it up a lot of us live without a nickel for in Allah
useless for being a Muslim in fear Allah and reconcile between the Muslims. This is such a noble
action, even Allah will do it on the day of the ummah. Brothers when reconciliation is so desired,
with our friends and even foe, can we imagine how desirable it will be in our marriage in relation?
It is often the day's antagonism. There is some rough day some misunderstanding, but this is the
ideal opportunity where we compromise and come to reconciliation. More so when the hadith of Libyan
		
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			a Salaam in Muslim Syria who narrates Libya, a Salam said in the Ibiza yada
		
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			yada, yada Yahoo daily the devil displays and puts down his throne. He sits on his throne and then
he dispatches his agents to go and cause evil on this earth. For the noun mean human skeleton album.
		
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			The closest to the devil is the one that can perpetrate the the greatest wrong in the evening, they
come in return and report back to him. So one person comes in. He says, You know what, I managed to
influence this man into something toxic and the devil says okay, you did something but not very
impressive. What about you? I managed to convince this man to commit this crime. He praises him but
he says that's not ultimately what I wanted. A third person comes in he says mazzara to
		
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			obey number 80. I seen a couple they were united and managed to show enmity between them the seeds
of enmity and hatred. I provoked one got him angered, upset and in a fit of anger he divorced his
wife. The devil stands up embraces him salutes him congratulate him. He says you have understood the
object of my mission. The Quran says in it Karima that I recited before you were innumerable
		
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			shows and if a woman feels this inclination from her husband phenomena Halima
		
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			masala, then there is no harm upon them that they should try to amicably resolve their disputes was
soulful, higher and elite conciliation is the ideal situation, the league conciliation is the ideal
situation. Now let us look into the life of nearly Salaam ideally, the husband and wife should try
and resolve their problems internally amongst themselves. The Quran speaks about bringing an outside
arbitrator, but that is the second option and not the first option. Ideally, they should resolve it
amongst themselves. Let me give you a balanced perspective from Quran and Hadith where the wife
compromise to safeguard the relation and likewise the husband also compromises to safeguard the
		
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			relation and to keep this marriage intact. When sodar Viola one one of the honorable consulting
spouses of wt Salaam had aged and for whatever reason which the Hadith does not disclose Libya,
Islam intended divorcing her. Now look at the compromise this woman made reconciliation demands
compromising. If we are not ready to compromise we cannot reconcile this woman the wife of nearly 17
and she said you're sued a lot. Have I hurt your feelings? Nearly Sam says No, you haven't hurt my
feelings. Whenever you ever lie, have one request not to get the vision of this woman.
		
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			Have you ever let do not divorce me what I Kinley, Oba,
		
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			Oba manisa, Yama, Yama. It is my desire that I die is your wife and I stand up as your wife on the
day of the omelet. I am ready to make a compromise to save this relation don't divorce me. The night
that you were to visit me you can go visit your otherwise I shall be Allah wa Khadija to Yomi min
Kenya, Libya, Karim salatu salam accepted the proposal on the sentiments kept her in his Nika for
Ghana Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam yuck Simoni Ayesha yo main Yo mama yo Masuda they often very
seldom used to visit I shot of the olana twice. One was her night and the night of sodaro de la
Mancha. Another incident compromised from the wife I will explain the other aspect is when
		
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			the divine comes in Bukhari. I sorry, Ilana is the narrator of the Hadith. In Libya, Nissan's fatal
illness which had lasted for approximately 10 to 12 days where his health was deteriorating.
severely. Sarah was a very bashful person, he would not explicitly emphatically plain his need, but
he would make some certain indications. And again, this is the wisdom of a woman if she can
understand the indications of a husband and grasp it before he actually verbally expresses himself.
Maybe Elisa asked his wives aina haina ANOVA. And tell me tomorrow by Who am I going? And the night
after that it is by Which one? In other words, indicating I passionately anticipating the night of
		
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			Isaiah. For Athena who has what you all the wives understood the indication of literally
		
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			all the wives understood, and they willingly consented. They don't have your vanilla we forfeit our
right and willingly you can station yourself at the house of ice or via levada. Now this again is
wisdom from from a woman for Ghana if you beat the long run ha ha Tama Tonga, Libya, Sudan stayed at
the house of Ayesha until he is blessing janaza left from the left of Isaiah in the house of is one
of the olana the third Hadees appears in Ebony Amazon Nikita Monica listen to the compromise the
compromise that has to be made
		
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			via a Sam said laser me nah man ha Baba him rotten Allah zoji ha is that person is not part of my
alma who incites and provokes a woman against her husband. That person often this happens now there
are various ways of of provoking a woman wants to come to a woman what you're doing. I'm not cooking
for my husband you met to do things like this. Gone are the days you must serve your husband me,
I'll never allow my husband to do it like this. Now Vla Salam says that person is not part of my
alma who provokes a woman against her husband, or comes and then praises other men before this woman
and she'll feel that I'm in an oppressed relation. I'm a victim of abuse in my relation. My sister
		
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			says that our husband is so kind. Oh, I better not sad. Or that person who provokes a slave against
his master and employee against the employer.
		
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			becomes angry with his wife Stephanie has to be alone. Hmm. But look at how concerned she was. She
came twice out of the Atlanta she says you know what, myself in the visa we had an argument and he's
not talking with me. I'm prepared to give you my night. Understand the sacrifice. Every second in
the company of mine is better than 1000 years of evidence. Understand the sacrifice this woman made
to patch up the religion. I'm prepared to give you 24 hours which was exclusive to me divinely
allocated to me by your law. I will give it to you if you can patch up with Navy SEAL awesome for
me. I Sharia law said I seize the opportunity. She enjoyed the closeness for the peace to him and
		
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			can I mean the bus bhuvan I had one beautiful scarf which I kept for occasions. I said let me give
them a viola surprise. I adorn myself put on this new scarf for jealous to Elijah rasulillah I came
in and sat down by his side. Let me listen and glanced at me and he said LA County for NAACP Yomi go
from your eyes. So what are you doing today is not your time. So I smiled and I said but that's the
mercy of Allah for me. The mere assumption What do you mean I said Danica further like neodymium Ah,
then she said I told le Salaam I believe you in Sofia not talking Subhana Allah have we taken time
to explore the social life of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam unfortunately, we are reading the lives
		
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			of Immortal celebrities. That is why it is jeopardizing our marriages. You won't find a more normal,
you know, the kind caring, loving maybe and husband and then maybe have a lot. So she says I
narrated it to nearly Sam and I said oh no, we have a lot. Sophia told me that I must split up and
she gave me this one day. Then we got up and he was so impressed with Sophia the alarm on her on the
proposal of peace and reconciliation that he spent the night with the long run ha and he pardoned
severely Ilana permanently. Now you're against something very important brothers. That when either
of the partner comes to us for apology can be over law says a believer is one who forgives him. I'm
		
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			Sophie Rahmatullah used to say Minister,
		
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			Mr. Minister via Phantom Yoda, who was a pawn, that person who is pro
		
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			vote and incited and he doesn't become angry. He's not a human. He's some other creature. It's
totally normal to become angry. Of course Islam says control your tongue and your hands, but it is
human to become angry because it is external situations that provoke you. But furthermore Imam Shafi
says woman is that person whose pleasure is being sought and people come in apologize to him, and he
frankly, you know, elegantly refuses, then he is not a believer, he's the devil himself. And in the
words of nebia, Li salat, wa salam, men,
		
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			penicillin, that person to whom his brother comes in apologizes, the wife comes to apologize to the
husband or the husband comes to apologize to the wife, then to be over law says
		
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			Danica Murphy
		
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			then accept the apology of your wife or your husband, whether he or she is innocent or guilty for in
lamea file. If you will not accept the apology of your husband your wife or your brother loved me
dearly Danielle How dare salon says the entire oma will drink water from my hands at my pond, you
will be deprived of water from my hands. Such a person will not be privileged with drinking water
from my hands. So this is the one side of compromise to make this relation work. Let us look at the
situation from men. What can we contribute to make this marriage work? How we can look at mutual
common grounds.
		
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			The first exam which appears in both Bukhari and Muslim Libya is Salam says Alma Touka villa. The
woman Allah has created like a robe, looked at a lightness created indicate that the metaphor the
parable, the explanation of liberalism, which naturally is curved, naturally has a sense of
crookedness, that is not a blemish, this is not criticism to that rug, not to that woman. But this
is the perfection of that love. That rug will function normal and efficient when it is in the manner
that a line is created. And it is naturally crooked. A person says you know, I love bananas. It's a
wonderful fruit but I don't like it. It's dented, I need to straighten it.
		
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			No, no the beauty of a banana is that this is not a defect tree. Likewise a line is created a woman
she has certain weaknesses but there is a beauty. There is a perfection. You know in English they
say women are not meant to be understood they meant to be loved. Women are not meant to be
understood. They are meant to be loved. This is the beauty of a woman. Allah has created her. The
Vla Salam says if someone straightens that love, that love will not function. If you try and
straighten that woman and try and remove from her what is really in her nature in the habita to play
Maha cassata. Walk us through la de la cuchara. You will break that woman and you will break that
		
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			marriage. Let me explain to you how the NaVi over line itself interacts on these sensitive issues of
a woman. Brothers Allah has favored a man with intellect with competence what skills he is mature,
he's responsible, but when it comes to the aspect of woman is he not weak? Is he not feeble is
enough hopeless. He has no control over himself. So what he's weaknesses is part of the overall plan
of Allah Allah. Allah has created a woman unique Allah His designer, she has certain weaknesses.
Allah has given the men the sense of maturity, nearly Salam de soie jatoba only spouses join him. I
shall see because Elena also joins him in his farewell hug as they are traveling in the caravan.
		
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			saphira The Elena's dating was very heavy, and I showed her the Elena's begin was very light. On the
contrary Sofia the Alanis kemin was very slow and sluggish. And I showed the aloneness between was
like in a camel was very swapped. For the first thing the viola did not compare between his wives he
didn't tell Sophia look at your baby look at ISIS bidding why you traveling so heavy? All he did was
so that the pace of the caravan could be faster. He said how we know Madonna Sophia, Allah Germany
Isaiah. Well, how do we know Mata Isola Germany Sophia, he told the Sahaba do me a favor. Take
anxious bedding and put it on Sofia's camel, and take Sofia's bedding and put it on ISIS camel. Now
		
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			this is where I want to draw your attention to understand what maturity and what role they played in
in cementing the relation. When he did this ice out of the olana did not like the idea. And she said
avala Patna hottie Helio de la la la just yahoodi woman this wife of nice awesome once again she got
her way and she's dominating what she wants to do. I don't know why she comes with other options and
motors and then she has to use my camera.
		
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			Now we know severely Elena's father was a yehudah very staunch your hood so she made reference
towards that and look at the statement and how emotional she got married at a salon said young man
Abdullah in the Mata Ki phone. What matter was Sophie he said pollun Don't get so emotional. Your
baby was like Sophie has buried was heavy. Your camel was faster Kimmel was slow for her well no
matter
		
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			what. Have my ta anabolic. All I did was I changed the bacons and that's all to get the competence
and the composure of nearly Salaam. She then looks at me on Instagram and she says
		
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			rule of law, but in don't you claim to say you're a prophet?
		
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			So nobody says and said yes, I am a prophet why you doubt me Ayesha? fala Delta if you're a prophet
wastelanders in which justice Mike mlms I carry somebody else's load.
		
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			Who came in he the one who held Abubakar Melania Baba creme Ababa can leave her
		
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			wallet but only be able to look at the home she's talking How can she you know blatantly speak to
you and back and say you know, we only Sam said no, Abubakar. Don't you know when a woman is
overpowered by the sentiments that is natural in her she cannot see right from wrong or top from
bottom. This is natural leave her alone. Look at the patience. I sort of Yolanda says when Libyan
Islam got married to Nestle Mara de la Mancha has into first name shalida I became so sad so sad
that I became sick and the only reason for this was that we openly tell you I said of the Ilana
sales people told me she's a very beautiful woman. So I said I cannot enter the school today I
		
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			enjoyed the privilege of now often this happens brothers you know for me to put it in a crude way in
my understanding the greatest problem or the greatest reason of problems with the mother in law and
daughter in law is because of jealousy. In a nutshell. It is a bitter pill for a mother in law to
see the prosperity of her daughter in law. What irony of a situation we have when my son in law buys
for my daughter What a nice sunny Lola reward in such a good person. But when my son buys for my
daughter in law, you know not nice to say but the woman of today they put a lot of demands on the
men if my daughter in law can only learn to love what little silver inshallah My son will be happy
		
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			for son of mine just to run everywhere but on the contrary when my son buys for my daughter for my
daughter, Allah reward my son in law What a nice person is it not jealousy that a woman but no this
is natural? Now law has given men sense of understanding some people in every argument there was a
lot features in every in every argument the word how immature are you?
		
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			She says I went to go have a look at Mr. Mara delana when I looked at her for a long lie to haha for
my Lucifer to live in and I found her to be 1000 times more beautiful than what I heard I got even
more depressed and my depression made me sick. I couldn't contain myself I then spoke to one of my
co workers I said haha you know what I'm going into a depression Yeah, my this other one she's very
beautiful. So hacer con so I'm not talking of any sort. I'm talking about the concerts of nabire
salaam Hassan Yolanda says no no you know what you becoming emotional ICU Miss Alma nothing to shout
about. She's a good woman, but don't get too emotional about it. She says we went back to see
		
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			Michelle Maria, Lana, and then I realized it was my emotions that got the better of me and it was
nothing else.
		
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			But this was the tolerant nature of nivia creme sallallahu wasallam.
		
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			Said save now Maria Landry is busy sitting and speaking with his wife. And then his wife tells him
Why don't you do this? So he gets upset and he says you demand into me and you dictate into me. So
his wife back and says he will tell him the divine comes in Buhari
		
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			atop Margarita entourage. Ya never know Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Omar I'm really astonished at
you. You don't we must get cancer you but you know your daughter vacances Marisa Larissa miss you
don't know you must go and find out. He says I live this and I went immediately to my daughter. I
knocked on the door. My daughter opened up I said What's up? Your mother is telling me that you can
send me an exam and sometimes he doesn't speak to you for the day. Is this true? She says nothing to
hide one lie in Mandarin. raggio of course we back answer him. She says he says I want and I said
well Hiroki obatala evoko Batasuna here. I am warning you that don't ever become a victim of the
		
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			displeasure of Allah. And then he also told his daughter, listen, I don't want you to get ideas from
Ayesha lever she must do what she wants to I don't want you to make Ansanelli salatu salam then went
to the other way who miss Alma and from behind the curtain. He tells me sama My daughter is telling
me that oh you whines you beckons and the reason about insulin, do you also get cancer? So missile
Maria lonicera japonica Omar you like to interfere in everything now you want to interfere between
us in the results and leave us with your daughter and go.
		
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			Amara Yolanda says I left and I came out Imam nawawi. commentating on this hadith of Bokhari says
two things, a lot of things. One is we learned that a man makes effort to discipline his daughter
even after she is married. Nearly Sam Tony's daughter, Lata coonan Mara, oh my daughter don't ever
become that woman who constantly complains about her husband. And the second thing we learn is the
tolerant nature of liberalism that he overlooked. He allowed his wife to bet on him and he was
coping with the situation.
		
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			There is a beautiful incident written, you know, with regards to patience and tolerance, about one
one bedroom that got married when a when a man would, you know, give that peace and understanding to
his wife that is the greatest gift that he can give. Like one person when he got married, he gave
his wife to advisors, he said was a lot for me to study me my wife at home my wife overlook my
faults and I promise My love for you is permanent. While our turn TP
		
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			You walked in.
		
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			And don't ever back check me when I'm angry. When I'm angry don't ever get checked me. I read a
beautiful couplet. Yeah Hassan attell what he talks till Hannah love to within a Xena piscine a
beautiful lady a harness your loose tongue. Don't take your beauty with your loose words. Or
beautiful lady harness your loose tongue. La La to be doing a Z nabeshima Well, you
		
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			know an attractive lady look after your tongue don't combine two negative traits within yourself.
Nevertheless,
		
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			what happens here he gets married he tells his wife don't ever answer me when I'm angry, and love to
finish Sequa don't constantly complain photos have been hard this will put an end to our religion.
When you're about a 31 coup de la boo. Let it not be that my heart turns away For verily hearts
fluctuate. I haven't even spoken about the other aspect. My time is coming to two left. The other
aspect is when we bring the negotiating parties when we bring an arbitrator into Yeah, again the
Quran says in Uri the Islamic State Allahu Allahu Ma, the arbitrator should have the common goal of
reconciling. If the intention is reconcilement. Allah says through arbitration Allah will reunite
		
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			them. Now I often mentioned this when we have to arbitrate in marital problems, both the parties
come and give the grievances and that is why they separated rightfully so. But let us not give our
grievances to justify a separation because then Allah will not unite, give our grievances to see how
we can come to common grounds. That is the reason then Allah says he will unite. Now vlsm comes to
the house of Fatima de la Mancha. Allah the alarm is nothing he asked Fatima is Ali. She says he's
going to the masjid. Now this is also wonderful brothers in an argument if we walk out it is
splendid, so that we do not utter anything incorrect. But remember, if you walk out you rather go to
		
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			the mosquito den stay in your house because the devil will exploit that situation. You walk out of
your house angry with your wife, the devil is not going to leave you it is not a woman outside.
temptations are greeting you rather staying in the house and back and said That's better. Satan came
away to the masjid. This is something very important brothers. You are provoked you walk out but we
are you going now? You say No, I'd rather leave it and make supper but what are you doing outside
you've defeated the whole thing. He came and you lie down in the courtyard of mustard in Abu Dhabi
or a Salam came and then seen him he used the gentleness and he said to me as a backdrop of
		
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			lightheartedness, humor stand up or father of sand, you know, because there was little sand traces
on him. Satan, it stood up now. vlsm took him home and then spoke to him and patched up. One day you
heard Fatima and Ali had an argument. So immediately he came to the house. And then he said and then
he reconsidered and he always encouraged his wife, his daughter did you give him Is your husband
after all, after he picks up he walked out? Saba Selfridges dolla dolla dolla Han in Bucharest
dystrophy what he, whenever you ever lie you entered said you came out happy. He said, Well, now you
have not only love to be in a business. Why should I not be happy when Allah made me the means of
		
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			uniting those two that are most beloved to me. And I swear by Allah if you can give your wife this
peace and happiness and forgiveness, we have given us the greatest gift. I leave you with this
beautiful couplets. There was this big one that got married to a very wealthy woman. And then he
went into poverty the father took his daughter away. Anyway, the metro went to the governor Marwan
Marwan looked at it woman he fell in love He forced a bedroom divorcing when he got married the
bedroom now this is the weakness of a man the bedroom took the metro to the senior authority to the
cozy into the church in Syria. He calls the governor the governor apologizing he says you know what,
		
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			this is my problem. The judge looked at that woman he fell in love with that woman the bedroom and
said you know what? I gotta take my wife and go from one after the other. You falling in love
cutting a long story short, the judge then asked this woman look I want you the governor once you're
in the bedroom once you make a choice, what do you want? You now have a salami Rufus reverse
Sharpie, gossipy ohada Arabi up.
		
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			But these are thought provoking words. And this is when you give your wife patience and love. You've
given her the word. She said I'm either in Carnegie jointly was married.
		
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			To a woman, Jerry, this husband, even in his check in his poverty is given me such love that he's
more beloved to me than my own parents. wasafi Budaj Omar Juan romulo. What will be their HMI
minimum machinery? This King what is going on his head? Or this governor? They can only give me
Well, a palatial home with no love. There's nothing that can replace the love. I want this bedwin in
his poverty. But as I leave you with the words of Nepali Salaam Salaam said a man is a pauper
without a woman, even if he's a multimillionaire, and a woman is a poor girl without a husband, even
if she's a multimillionaire. I swear by Allah your wealth is your wife, and all my sister your
		
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			wealth is your husband. Let us embrace one another, overlook the flaws of one another. May Allah put
happiness MacBook and berkat and strengthen our relations and save us from talaq in divorce. Walk
through that one.