Suhaib Webb – Tafsir Surah alHujurat (Part One)
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The speaker discusses the benefits of learning the 49th chapter of the Quran, which is the words of Allah's title, and how it can restore a relationship with the Quran. They stress the importance of restorative engagement in achieving a functional relationship and the importance of learning from the holy Bible and "we" in creating functionality. The speaker also discusses the use of "has" in the Quran and how it can be distorted by actions, including praying for the deceased and maintaining healthy relationships with family. They emphasize the importance of not compartmentalizing Taqwa and not allowing anyone to take responsibility for his behavior. The importance of healthy behavior and family is also emphasized.
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We praise Allah
We send peace and blessings upon our beloved
messenger,
Muhammad upon
his blessed family, his companions, and those who
follow them until the end of time.
First of all, before you start, I just
wanna thank everybody. So many people
reached out to me,
concerned about my wife and the new baby,
and it's been a very
interesting month.
Actually interesting summer. And it's always a blessing
to
become
aware of our own vulnerabilities.
And then at the same time
to be appreciative of
the blessings of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
One of the greatest blessings we have is
that Allah's
the Quran. So every Wednesday night
around this time,
10:30,
we will be learning the 49th chapter of
the Quran.
The 49th chapter of the Quran
is called
means the apartments. So the houses or small
apartments of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam where
his wife lived.
And if you've been to the Masjid in
Medina
and you look up in that area by
the grave of the prophet
you'll see some markers.
If you have a guide with you, they
can show you this is where the actual
apartments
of the wives of the prophet
The Quran,
what we hope to take from this Wednesday
gathering is how we can apply the Quran
to our lives
and how we can restore our relationship with
the Quran.
So first of all, let's talk about what
is the Quran.
He said
that the Quran
is the words of Allah
sent to the prophet
to be identified as a miracle
and for something that we can worship with.
So that's the Quran.
And this famous poem
written by this great African scholar, which means
the Quran is the words of Allah
revealed to Muhammad
as
a miracle and for us to use as
worship and that last part is very important.
That means that when we recite the Quran,
it's an act of worship.
And also we can we pray with the
Quran in the
Quran.
Right? Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says in 17th
chapter of the Quran
that the Quran at Fajr time is witnessed
witnessed by the malaika.
Also, the word Quran is something that we
wanna talk about because the word Quran
as we try to build a functional relationship
with the Quran, I want you to think
about
our engagement with
is 1 to build
a restorative relationship with the Quran
as well as a functional relationship with the
Quran, this 49th chapter. So those of you
who are here, feel free to open up
the 49th chapter of the Quran and follow
along.
The word Quran is from a Quran
and many of you perhaps have been taught
that Quran is from which
means to recite
and that is one opinion, but that is
not the strongest opinion
The stronger opinion is that the word Quran
is from a word, which means to bring
together
to join.
That's why
in his famous poem, he says,
Excuse me. Which means that
the
the embryo
in the womb of the woman has not
yet attached itself.
It has not attached itself to the womb,
the uterus of the woman.
So the the strong opinion amongst many scholars,
ancient scholars, is that the Quran means to
bring together.
And that's very important as we begin this
message or this this, series of lessons.
As many of us may feel broken,
We may feel shattered.
We saw what happened in Arizona. It's very
impactful. We're gonna talk about that as we
go through
how we have to reframe
the understanding of Ummah so that we will
stop hurting each other, stop engaging in violence
towards one another. How can we lead the
world if we're broken
and we're we're harming ourselves?
Perhaps some of us have had really bad
Quran teachers
that hurt us,
that maybe the reinforcement,
their attempt to try to motivate us to
study the Quran was counterproductive.
Maybe some of us, we had unfortunate
experiences say with even parents or caregivers,
right, who
their attempts to motivate us to study the
Quran and join the Quran
were very harmful.
So what I would like us to look
at is this this Wednesday nights at 10:30
as an opportunity
for restorative, a restorative engagement of the Quran
and then to achieve a functional
engagement with the Quran
to make us whole again.
That's why
the menstrual cycle of a woman is from
the same word.
3 periods. Is when the blood gathers together
in the uterus. The the word Quran is
from the same word.
Also the word Aria.
The word Aria
is a village, right? Because a village is
a place where people come together,
where people come together
so people come together because
they live there they function as a civilization
as a society.
So the Quran is something that brings us
together
internally.
It brings our heart
in a sense of wholeness. It centers our
heart in a way that's very impactful.
It brings our mind together through through righteous
teachings
and and thoughts, and then it brings our
actions. It aligns our actions with what Allah
has commanded us.
So that's why we say the Quran
is a great blessing.
So the word Quran, there is 2 opinions,
and I'm glad that, someone asked this question
Feel free to ask any questions.
And that is that
the strong opinion is that the Quran is
from a word which means to join together,
to bring together in demand.
So, for example, we say
the Quran brings letters and words and sentences
together.
That's why it's Quran.
The other opinion that many of you have
learned is the word Quran is from
qira, which means to recite, and there's a
there's a close meaning there. And also there's
the opinion that the word Quran is made
up Tiran.
I don't wanna make things too difficult for
you.
And that's why SubhanAllah,
Imam al Shafi'i, his opinion was it's from
remember here.
I'm trying to expose you
to a higher level of understanding that you
may not have heard before so we have
to realize that this is very important. Just
because I haven't heard something doesn't mean that
it it's not there. Islam is a ocean
in my experience as someone who embraced Islam
and studied Islam
and and someone who embraces Islam is Islam
is very much about exploration.
Oftentimes, I find people say, I never heard
that before, but none of us are that
special.
None of us are that special. I haven't
heard this before. I haven't learned this before.
So therefore, it doesn't exist. We have a
great axiom actually
that forms the foundation of our studies.
This is Adam and Marifa.
Right? That not knowing something doesn't mean that
that that thing doesn't exist.
Let you feed the other
that I don't know something doesn't mean that
it doesn't exist so
you know, we want we want to
understand
at a deeper level and and and I'm
not here to,
give you
what you already know. Right? That's not what
what I what I do.
And, you know, feel free to question and
probe, but but we should never say, well,
I never heard that before.
It doesn't no. If that's the case, man,
we we'll all be in trouble with our
spouses.
I never heard that before baby, I can't
do it man that would be an amazing
out of my so
the world and there are 3 opinions. Actually,
I mentioned 2 of them and one of
them I I I I we can talk
about it in the future,
but the first opinion is the word Quran
is from to bring things together. That's the
strong opinion because the word in the Quran
in
right?
That there are 3 periods,
that a woman goes to before her divorce
is finalized.
So here it's brought together. That's why you
call it
in a is a is a place where
people come together and also when we recite
the Quran, we are reminded
as men
to be respectful to the wounds that bore
us
into the wounds that we have married
into the wounds that we raise as men
because the Quran is is coming from this
idea of bringing together.
That's why
he said, as I mentioned, this is an
ancient poem before the time of the prophet
that the the embryo has not
has not joined the uterus.
There's a lot that we can take from
there. The other meaning of the word Quran
is which means to recite, which of course,
when you recite, write letters together so you
can see the relationship between the two meanings
and the third is mentioned by saying the
Imam
and others because Imam
he used to recite
as we know with the because Imam
is
he's his family is from Palestine, but he
was raised in Mecca
and we know that the imam the 7
imams and I don't wanna make this too
complicated for you guys. One of them is
Imam, not the
writer, but another.
And the Imam,
his narration because it's it's carrying the dialect
of the people of Mecca is not Quran,
it's Quran.
And
the actual meaning is Quran, but the the
people of Mecca because hamza is so far
in the throat, they they would've say a
Quran.
Sometimes you may notice you struggle, you say
a
or
because it's so far.
So the Arabs, the ancient Arabs, they had
different ways to recite
to
for example,
have for example.
So the narration of Imam Ibn Kathir, which
is
from the 7 authentic
ways of reading from the prophet is.
Is
Quran
Quran
Quran without a.
For Sayyid Neshef, he said the word Quran
bidun
a is from Ibtiran
Ibtiran, which means
to be paired together.
But the strong opinion of is that it's
Quran
even the of Imam even which we learned
from our teachers
it's Quran,
but those
those Arabs in Mecca specifically like say and
others,
they didn't they didn't say a. And maybe
you notice this sometimes now,
in in even in in slang, like the
Egyptians, they say,
and so on and so forth. Oh, that's
not our purpose. What we wanna take is
the stronger opinion
that the Quran means to bring things together,
and we want to ask ourselves tonight a
question. This is the question I wanna ask
myself
and ask you as I learned from your
wonderful questions and it's been so long since
we've been together and I really I realized
you know when I was sick and then
my wife
had a baby and my wife was was
very difficult birth. May Allah bless her and
give her a complete.
The baby is good, but you know things
that we may take for granted are very
valuable. So I miss you know the time
that we spend together
but realize you're gonna hear things you never
heard before, right? And that's that's not a
bad thing. You wanna challenge yourself to grow
and increase your intellectual capacity
with the hope of creating functionality.
Right? Our goal is
and we can see that's very important,
in the Muslim community these days. We ask
Allah to give us inshallah
so the word Quran we wanna ask ourselves.
This is the question.
Do I feel whole with the Quran?
Do I feel whole with the Quran?
And if so, how? How how does that
wholeness come into being?
Because
Allah
says,
we have sent a
undefinable,
healing in the Quran.
And that's why it says. It doesn't say
means every way you can imagine.
The Quran will will heal you.
That's very important because maybe some of us
in in the deep recesses of our mind
and our soul, the Quran is a source
of anguish.
Maybe for some of us, the Quran reminds
us of being intimidated.
Maybe for some of us, the Quran
is a bad experience.
We want to
engage in a restorative relationship with the book
of Allah
So
that is our anchor,
the great Afghan. We ask a lot to
help the people of Afghanistan and America. They
should free the money
that is owed to the Afghan people
who are struggling
to survive,
but a is a great. He's a poet,
he said.
He said, clean to the Quran because it's
the only anchor that you'll have when all
of the other anchors disintegrate.
So the goal of this, Insha'Allah, is to
motivate us. I'll encourage many of you to
try to memorize the 49th chapter of the
Quran
and to study it, as we go through
it. So the 49th chapter of the Quran
is is called sort.
And is the plural of
And sometimes I may say things that some
of you don't understand because some of my
students are here, and and they're studying sort
of in a different way with me at
my school.
But is
Right? That's why Imam Ibrahim Arabic he says
And the is this plural, the apartments
of the wives of the prophets. We learned
something here too that the name of the
chapter
as well as the word has
a fiqh implication in marriage.
And that is that
the housing
is an obligation upon the man to provide
for his wife.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi was sent within that
man's means, though.
Though.
Says, let every man take care of his
family and spend in his family according to
his means.
So
implies that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
think about this really quickly,
is the most religious person to ever walk
the face of the earth
the most beloved of Allah.
But his responsibility to his family is not
compromised by his religious
adherence.
We have a chapter that reminds us of
the housing
that the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Salam
provided to his wives, Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam. That's the lesson for us to think
about as men to be responsible.
So.
There's another name for this chapter
and it's called.
Al Adeb means etiquette.
So this chapter is gonna teach us about
Islamic ethics,
about Islamic
morality,
about how we should locate ourself and our
akhlaq,
especially in this time when there's so many
things out there that
pull the heart and pull the mind. It's
very important as a
mentioned
that we anchor ourselves in teaching.
This chapter is the last complete chapter
revealed to the prophet
not not not the last verse
the last complete chapter sent to say.
Sallallahu
alaihi wa
sallam.
Very near to the passing of the prophet
sallallahu
alaihi
wa sallam.
And I wanna ask you guys a question.
Why would the last chapter,
the last complete chapter
sent to the prophet
deal with character.
And this is a pattern we see in
prophetic teachings.
The prophet
What's the last thing he said to
and he began to weep
as related by Imam Malik and the Muwata.
And I'm looking for your answers. The question,
if someone could even type it, it's good.
Why is the the last chapter complete chapter
of sin
to the
prophet dealing with Adept.
Not haram and halal that's important also.
Issues of aqirah, they're in there. They're in
there implicitly and explicitly.
But all that is
brought into this idea of how we carry
ourselves,
How we carry ourselves. So Sayyid
Abu
Anhu, the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he
walked him outside of the outskirts of Medina,
and he said to him, you, Mu'adh,
I may not see you next year. And
then Mu'adh, he begins to cry. Can you
imagine
the last time you would see the face
of the prophet?
The the last time you would look at
the face of the prophet
who
became as a very young man.
He was tutored by the messenger of Allah.
The prophet said the most knowledgeable of the
permissible in the impermissible
is
But the prophet
we see over and over the hadith
with
very rarely do you find him giving instructions
about halal and haram.
Usually the prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is giving
instructions about character because if you know all
the halal and haram, but you're harsh
or you're too soft
or you're a bully
or you're you're you're you're too weak
if your character isn't in order, it doesn't
matter how much Haram you know you will
do more damage with that knowledge
so the prophet
is always reinforcing in the life
of
as well as say the Aisha or the
Allah and her
character
character character.
So what's the last thing the prophet
said to say to
this is the last thing I've heard from
him.
Be good to all people,
and we see the violence
in and outside of the Muslim community. We
are the object of
indescribable
violence
at the hands of
the military industrial complex as it comes out
of the west.
At the same time, there's violence amongst ourselves
as we see
different places in the Muslim world, now even
in the United States.
The prophet
is reminding us that everything you know
everything you know, if it's not coupled with
good character,
it's gonna be and
it's not gonna matter.
It's not gonna matter.
And that's why one of my teachers
he used to say this beautiful poem he
used to read to us when we memorize
the Quran back in the nineties,
He said
a lot of knowledge, but everybody curses him
because his knowledge
is in couple of good character.
So we're going to now engage in a
beautiful chapter, the chapter of character,
the 49th chapter of the Quran.
Allah
says after
it's obligatory to say
before
we recite the Quran.
Out loud, if we're reading it by ourselves,
of course, in salah, that's a different issue.
So, we say
because Shaitan can even try to misguide us
when we when we recite the Quran That's
why Allah says Quran
When you recite the Quran,
seek your refuge in Allah from Shaitan.
And that's why sometimes if you read the
Quran and you start to feel some kind
of way that's affecting your iman, say,
write down the question that you have
and contact me. I'm here to help you,
and we'll find answer for those questions
So begins, yeah, you have all you have
believed.
Is in the past tense, and the reason
it's in the past tense is very important
because
it reminds us that belief is beyond our
control.
Subhanallah. Allah
chose us to believe in him.
And Allah,
he guided our hearts
to faith in spite of ourselves, man.
Allah said, this is the blessing of Allah.
He gives to who he wills.
And we see it repeated
over and over and over in this chapter
because the the sense here is like someone
who cares for you.
So he keeps saying your name over and
over and over again.
Like saying a little man with his son.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh, my son. Oh, my son. Oh, my
son. So the feeling here is
we we can extract from this the love
Allah has for you. If you say,
and the care in this relationship between us
and responsibility
that comes
with that relationship with Allah. Yeah.
This chapter begins, oh, you who have believed,
do
not. You are forbidden to what?
There is a number of
reports as to why this verse was sent,
but the strongest report is that some people,
they got excited.
They got excited on the day of Eid,
and they became so excited that they went
and slaughtered on
before the prophet
gave his sermon.
So they made a mistake,
and I want us to think about this.
Their mistake was not made because they are
too relaxed.
Their mistake was made because they were too
excited.
They were too excited.
So we have to understand that that's why
we say
innovation can be either by neglecting something or
adding something.
A sin can come by either neglecting something
or adding something. I appreciate all those ways,
man. Thank you. I'm waving back to you.
So those people, they actually made
the
they slaughtered before the sermon of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
So their mistake is not a mistake
rooted
in negligence
in the sense of them being too loose.
Their mistake is that they tried to do
more
than what the prophet taught them.
And they thought they could do more. They
could put themselves in front of the teachings
of the Messenger of Allah.
So Allah says,
a
few points and I don't wanna make this
too hard for you.
But there are
you know something nice about this
because we hear that the Quran is an
everlasting miracle.
The Quran is an everlasting miracle,
but we should ask how when people say
the Quran is an everlasting miracle
You should ask those people, like, how does
that happen?
And one of the ways that it happens
is oftentimes
the object of the verb is not mentioned.
And the reason that that happens, and I
want you to think about this,
is that
that forces you and I to insert ourselves
into the Quranic narrative.
We are no longer a passive
reader.
What? Doesn't say don't it says, oh, you
who believe, oh, believers,
do not put forward
in the presence of Allah and his messenger.
That's that verb needs an object. The question
is where is the object
The object is to be inserted by each
and every one of us.
Exactly.
Because times change.
Actions don't change,
but times change.
So for example,
maybe I backbite somebody.
Don't put forward backbiting in the presence of
Allah and his messenger.
May maybe I have left praying.
Do not put forward leaving prayers.
Maybe I'm doing something wrong. Whatever I'm doing,
I can insert my own
sin
in the verse,
and that immediately makes me part of the
QURANIC narrative.
So from the time of
till the end of time,
whoever sits in front of that verse he
or she has their own drama
their own challenges that they can insert in
the verse and they become part of the
narrative,
part of the Quranic
Narrative That's incredible man.
For some of my students.
From the
Asha.
Demo. But the majority of the
Quran.
They both have this idea that I put
myself in front of
and if we think deeply about this first,
it doesn't mention an action
because maybe it's implying
intellectually. I put myself in front of the
Quran
intellectually. I put myself in front of the
Allah intellectually
internally
I have put myself in front of
Allah and his messenger.
So the first verse, if you think about
it, is dealing with the add up of
the nuffs
in the mind.
My perception of Allah,
my perception of saying
how do I feel about Allah? How do
I feel about the messenger of Allah?
One of the major reasons that people sometimes
fall into having a bad
assumption of Allah.
A
bad assumption of Allah a bad assumption of
the messenger of
Allah
is they feel alone.
I mean, let's be honest. It's it's hard
to be Muslim sometimes man Like, I know
I converted
in 1992
in the United States.
And oftentimes people ask me, can you tell
us your conversion story? I'm like that's
easy. What you should ask me is how
how did I stay Muslim right like how
how do you maintain your Islam?
Of course, there's mistakes. I've made mistakes in
my Islam, but I'm saying, how do we
maintain
faith?
And oftentimes
people around us, man,
they
they
inadvertently
reinforced
this idea that we're alone.
They reinforced this idea that we're alone.
Allah doesn't care about you. Allah will never
forgive you. Allah is angry with you. No
doubt. We'll talk about Allah's anger is real.
Sin is something we should try to avoid.
This is not you know all lovey dovey
but Allah
says.
The word
actually means like if you were sitting so
close to me, you would be a hands
distance from me. Like, if we're sitting in
front of each other like this, like, I
put my hands like this, you would be
there.
This is called in Arabic
again, this is for my students.
This is
and what that means, we say
right? That that is using rhetoric to give
an idea and image
to give an idea and image because you
may be feeling alone, you may be feeling
hurt. You may be feeling broken and you
feel like Allah is so
far away from me. I'm so away from
the message of Allah.
No no
and. Allah
is closer to you than this distance.
That's why that's used to give you the
sense of closest.
Allah says I'm close to you than your
jacket vein. So here there should be this
idea that you're never alone man
that you're never alone
and also if someone is sitting like this
in front of me and I have my
hands, I can move them.
I can do what I want with them.
So also there's a subtle lesson here that
Allah is in control of all things even
you and me everything we do.
So this one word.
Insert
ratchetness
here insert sin here, insert struggle here.
And then when I identify that struggle, I
repent,
and I try to do better.
The second thing.
The nearness of Allah to us.
You know,
how valuable is to be close to Allah.
Look at the wife of.
The wife of.
Who's
when she was being tortured,
she saw her place in Jannah.
She saw her place in Jannah
and she said
the the the wife of pharaoh when she
was being tortured.
And we also understand that there's a lesson
there that anyone who abuses
his wife. He is like anyone
who abuses their spouse. They are like pharaoh
that is the of the
not the of the say that the
said.
The prophet never hit anybody, never hit a
woman, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
But what does the wife of Firaoun say
when
she sees Jannah, her place in Jannah?
She said, my lord,
near you
a home
Jannah. Oh, Allah, give me near you
the house in Jannah. Most of us, we
just want the house. I don't I don't
care why I get agenda. I could be
the last, you know, or the last part
of Jannah. Just give me that. I'll take
it.
But
the righteous people,
the most incredible blessing that they can ever
have is the nearest to Allah so, she
says my lord near you
a home
in Jannah. The first thing she asked for
is not what's in Jannah.
The first thing she asked for to be
close to
Of course, it's beyond any type of physical
nearness Allah.
But you see it's like
it's very beautiful man
So
in the presence of Allah, how we in
in the presence
of the messenger of Allah?
Of course, we ask Allah to bless Palestine
and
Palestine is in our thoughts and certainly we'll
post this later inshallah.
Because the messenger of Allah, his teachings are
still here,
and the messenger of Allah, his teachings will
be for us or against us just like
the Quran and prophet said. Quran.
The Quran is a proof for you against
you
So even though the prophet is
alive, of course, in his grave, he returns
our salaams, but he's not with us here.
But we will be held accountable as though
his teachings are in front of us right
now, his sunnah, sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
and also the love the messenger of Allah
has for us.
So this first verse, what do we take?
That the first verse is talking about where
our minds and hearts are, and how do
we restore our minds and hearts with faith?
Number 1, Allah addresses us with this caring
address.
Yeah. You
have. This this is nida.
There's there's a honor, there's a shutoff. Allah
is calling us, and he reminds us, I
decree that you would be a believer
before you were even created.
Personal
accountability.
It's not just simply a relationship based on
I feel great, Allah loves me, everything's fine,
everything's gravy. No. There's personal accountability.
What what am I upholding in this relationship?
Don't put anything in front of Allah and
his messenger of sin or disobedience.
The third,
how near Allah is to us. We're not
alone. We're being watched.
And that everything that happens is under the
control of Allah.
What taqwala?
Maybe someone asks, how do I how do
I align myself to live this way? It's
taqwala.
Imam Al Khazari Rahim
said, if you took all good in the
dunya
and all good in the
after worship
and sincerity,
you'll find taqwa.
What does taqwa mean? It means to obey
Allah and stay away from sin.
Obey Allah and stay away from sin.
Allah
hears and knows
and he hears and knows when I do
evil.
So the first verses we finish inshallah, now
we can take any questions.
The first verse from
Mashallah,
it's a mind
of lessons.
And we said that this chapter is called
the chapter of Edeb.
It was the last complete chapter sent to
the prophet
and
that the first verse after talking about what
the Quran is
allows us
to locate ourself
in a way that we begin to restore
our relationship with the Quran.
Number 1 Allah's
love for us Number 2, our responsibility in
the relationship to stay away from evil, to
identify our evil, to own it, and try
to do our best to repent in. One
time a man,
he he lived at a time of sayinari
and
that man his son died and his son
was known to have been you know someone
who had some challenges in his life
and at his grave at his grave,
there were some people who are saying like
Allah will never forgive him. You know, Allah
will never have mercy upon him and so
on and so forth. And that man, he
became despondent.
So that man, the people brought him to
sayayna Adi
And Subhanallah,
say,
when
that man came to him and the people
said, this is what the people are saying
to him,
say,
he said,
those people who are causing you to despair
of
Allah, they are your enemies.
They are a greater enemy to you than
anything else.
And he began to encourage him to have
the best
opinion. Allah will forgive your son. Allah will
have mercy on your son. Maybe your son,
he did some good,
that Allah will accept inshallah from him. Look
how he
counters
the negative reinforcement,
and a lot of us have been exposed
to that.
Then
reminding us of the nearness of Allah and
his messenger.
The key to all this to centering ourselves
from this night forward,
we should rededicate ourselves to being obedient to
Allah as best we can in a balanced
way
and avoiding evil as best we can. We
all I'm I'm with you in this.
Allah hears everything.
So I see there's one question from from
a a dear sister whose mother whose grandmother
passed away.
We ask Allah
to bless your grandmother,
to accept her and to illuminate her grave.
She said that her grandmother did 30 years
of really incredible work, and she's asking, like,
you know, it's difficult to deal with death,
but we believe
and and and and and it can be
hard. Right? It can be difficult,
but we believe that when Allah takes a
soul, that's the best time for a soul
to go and that what is waiting for
your grandmother Inshallah is better
than what's here. There are some things you
can do, though. Number 1 is the strong
opinion, and I talk about this in the
in in my in my
highlights on on Instagram
about death and dying. We believe that the
dead can hear us.
Strong opinion of is that the dead they
can hear us.
And that's why the prophet he
taught us that when we go into a
graveyard, what do we do? Assalamu alaikum
We say salaam to the deceased because they
can hear us.
So you can go to your grandmother's grave,
Alhamdulillah, you can speak to her, to make
dua for her recite the Quran for her.
He was asked. Should we recite the Quran
at the grave of people? The Sayyidina Sheffi
said if you could read a little Quran
it's good, if you could read all the
Quran it's amazing.
I had the imam Shafi.
So you can you can have that therapeutic
moment of engaging
your your grandmother.
We ask a lot to bless her, to
accept her, and then think about how you
can be the legacy that continues to live
through your grandmother's teachings
and how you can carry on the light.
That ancestral
noor, those of you who are so lucky
to be born Muslim man.
You're so lucky because you carry within you
the DNA of the Sahara
you carry within you the DNA of the
righteous You may have the DNA of.
You may have the DNA of.
You may have the spiritual DNA of.
You may have the spiritual DNA of say
that I should say now I'm gonna say
now he said, you carry
a light in you.
So how are you gonna now be an
extension of the light,
the sun,
the the ijazah that you have, the best
ijazah that you have as you say.
How many generations of people
has that now come to you and been
encapsulated in your blessed heart?
So how can you live a legacy? Then
the the other thing you can do is
you can do charity on behalf of your
your grandmother.
You can do any kind of charity, and
that's the opinion of the majority of of
of jurists.
And some people they say, but what about
the hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallamah
that every actions of people every action of
a person stops except 3
except 3.
This hadith has to be understood with other
actions of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
because don't we pray
for the deceased
when we make
for people who have died? What do we
pray for them for for their forgiveness
that is outside of the hadith that every
action stops except 3. So therefore, we understand
that there is a special relationship with the
believers
that we can do higher on their behalf
and
with the that that will go to them.
So you can also do charity
on behalf of your blessed grandmother. May Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala give her light and bring
you
healing
because it's very difficult when we lose people.
And we're here to support you, sister,
and to work with you.
I saw some other questions. Maybe if they
people can type them again.
I wasn't able to see
that question.
Can you pray over a grave and read
Quran over a non Muslim relative? So you
can pray for a non Muslim.
This is mentioned by also many great scholars
and what you pray for is that Allah
will
the good that they did will treat them
justly by that good in the hereafter.
That the good they did will will be
a means to reduce
any amount of difficulties they face in the
hereafter.
That's that's the mention that that's mentioned by
a number of jurors like saying the imam
ought to be
as well as Masha Allah.
And water Kashmiri.
I talk about this also in my
my highlights.
So maybe people say, what about
asking Jannah leave Jannah to Allah? But you
can ask Allah, especially if they were not
exposed to the dua that Allah will make
them from the people of
and that he will accept them and through
his justice.
How do we maintain with a busy life
and little kids?
Look, I had a teacher
one time
he had children.
Actually, he had twins.
His wife gave birth to twins. So he
became very busy
so I used to go to his house
and read to him
and he was changing diapers and you know
rocking a baby and you know, taking care
of his wife while I wrecked him.
And then he was really busy. So I
said to him, Sheikh, like, I don't have
to come anymore. You know, right now, maybe
it's not a good time. He said, no.
No. Because the knowledge reading will bring light
into the home, right, newer into the house.
And then he said, do you see me
taking care of my family? Do you see
me looking after the needs of my my
wife? Do you see me? I said, yes.
He said, this is the sunnah.
He said, this is the sunnah of the
prophet. And this, he said, if you could
learn this, this is the true sunnah of
the Messenger of Allah.
And that's why when people came to say
to Aisha radiAllahu
ta'ala Anha,
and they asked her,
how was the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in
his home?
What did she say?
He used to serve us.
So sister, we don't wanna compartmentalize
taqwa,
but you looking after your children, that's the
most important
taqwa you can exhibit.
Subhanallah.
Your husband taking care of you as you
manage these little children and dropping everything to
look after your family and spend time with
one another and scale your family and build
those strong relationships
between husband and wife and children, that's taqwa.
And of course, the foundational taqwa, we wanna
be observing the farat.
We wanna be observing the farat.
So at least we have the 5 daily
prayers, Alhamdulillah.
We have the month of Ramadan that we
observe.
We observe zakat if we're eligible for zakat.
We have good care to other people that's
foundational
and then we have those priorities
in our lives.
That's why
He said to have priorities, to look after
the priorities in your life is the sign
of the righteous people. So you shouldn't feel
guilty, mom,
that you're looking after your children and you're
not able to read the Quran. That's the
most important thing you can do right now.
Fathers. We shouldn't feel bad. Oh man. I
can't I can't be with a brother right
now. I can't hang out. I can't go
to the doors because I have to stay
at home and help my family. That's the
most important after the after the obligations.
That's the most important taqwa
you can live as being good to your
family.
Didn't the prophet say
I'm the best person
to his family?
So we wanna be careful of compartmentalizing
Taqwa in a way where Taqwa is just
in the masjid,
and my learning deen,
and then everything else
is like a disturbance. No. No. How do
you and we're gonna learn this as we
go through this chapter. How do you synchronize
god consciousness
in your work, in your school,
with your children, your family,
everything you do because the prophet
said
Fear Allah wherever you are. We'll take a
few more questions inshallah,
and then alhamdulillah,
we'll let people go. I don't like to
talk more than 45 minutes,
and we almost reached an hour. So I
really appreciate you guys. It's great to see
so many familiar faces.
After
after a few months, forgive me, but
you know,
it is what it is.
We have to do what we have to
do.
Before we close out, we wanna make special
dua for our brothers and sisters in Afghanistan,
as well as in the Gambia, in Mali,
in Senegal,
as well as in the Congo. I wanna
pray for brothers and sisters in Palestine, Afghanistan,
Yemen,
Iran,
all over the Muslim world, Egypt, and especially
in the west where we live. Right? Brothers
and sisters in Malaysia, Indonesia,
our brothers and sisters, of course, in
in India
and Pakistan
all over the globe. We are 1.
We are 1
and and we are brought together by.
We pray for the families of those people
who were killed in Arizona. We're gonna talk
about the dangers of sectarianism
as we go through
talks about what it means to really be
a Muslim Ummah
and how we should think about functioning together
in spite of certain differences. We should acknowledge
those differences,
and we should recognize those differences. But that
shouldn't inflame
violence.
That shouldn't inflame. I don't agree with you
on this. You don't agree with me on
this. Okay. Now what are our priorities?
What are the things that we have to
do? I'm gonna come to Ohio
one day.
I got babies now. You can't travel a
lot with babies. You know, you got babies
and bills, man.
So
and my school that I run online, so
it's a lot happening, but certainly we'll try
to come visit you. I appreciate the invite.
So we will see everyone next week
here every Wednesday
at 10:30 PM.