Suhaib Webb – Marriage Half Your Din A Statement of The Prophet

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The speaker discusses a hadith that states that people should not find the right person because of their lack of married status or divorce. The hadith is not considered authentically established, and the speaker suggests that people should be careful when searching for the right person.

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			Many of us have heard this hadith.
		
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			It's like everywhere.
		
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			It's on the streets.
		
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			You find like conferences called like, you know,
		
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			half your deen and you know, it's like
		
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			a kind of like a bumper sticker, you
		
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			know, it's out there.
		
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			And sometimes that can be harmful for people
		
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			who couldn't get married.
		
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			Or maybe that, you know, they just haven't
		
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			been able to find the right person or
		
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			maybe they're divorced.
		
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			So this hadith, and here's where, you know,
		
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			I've added notes to the book, I think
		
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			that will ultimately be important once I edit
		
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			it after like 12 years, is that while
		
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			a famous phrase, this hadith is not authentically
		
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			reported on behalf of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			It's not a statement of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			You have to be very careful what you
		
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			hear, man.
		
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			Just because it's on a meme doesn't mean
		
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			it's from deen.
		
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			That's the axiom.
		
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			Memorize it, right?
		
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			Just because it's on a meme doesn't mean
		
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			what?
		
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			It's from deen.
		
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			Yeah, keep that in your head.
		
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			Just trust me.
		
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			So while famous, Imam Ibn Hajar, he wrote
		
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			a famous book called Famous Things That The
		
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			Prophet Didn't Say That Everybody Says.
		
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			What do you expect?
		
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			Especially on the minbar and the Friday prayers
		
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			because usually the minbar, the person giving the
		
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			Friday sermon or someone that's like, you know,
		
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			trying to be like evocative, you know, like
		
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			we say, you know, like storytellers, you know,
		
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			like they want to get you pumped up.
		
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			Sometimes those people aren't trained necessarily in examining
		
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			narrations, but in law, you have to be
		
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			very, very careful when you want to make
		
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			a point.
		
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			And we'll go through this.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ, he did not say
		
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			marriage is half your religion.
		
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			There are a few narrations attributed to him,
		
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			but they are weak because there's only one
		
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			chain.
		
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			It's only one chain back to the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			Where this sort of, I think, also took
		
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			on new life is Sheikh al-Bani, Allah
		
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			yurhamu, the great scholar of hadith.
		
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			In his book about marriage, he said this
		
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			hadith is something called, you want to write
		
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			this down, hassan li ghayrihi.
		
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			Hassan li ghayrihi means a hadith that's weak,
		
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			but it has so many narrations that when
		
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			they're all brought together, they like strengthen one
		
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			another.
		
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			So it goes from being weak to being
		
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			what?
		
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			Hassan, if you speak Arabic, bi sabab ghayrihi,
		
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			because of something else, because of all those
		
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			narrations brought together.
		
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			But this is important, you know, if you're
		
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			doing a halaq or maybe you meet someone
		
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			who's really down, like I feel so bad,
		
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			like marriage is, I think the first week,
		
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			right, the sister rose her hand, she raised
		
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			her hand, she was like, like am I
		
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			supposed to feel bad because I'm not married?
		
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			Because like marriage is half your deen, right?
		
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			So she made me, when she said that,
		
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			I was like, let me go and do
		
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			research.
		
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			But there's only one narration of this hadith
		
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			and it has someone named Yazid al-Ruqayshi.
		
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			Yazid al-Ruqayshi is matruk, he's abandoned by
		
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			the scholars of hadith.
		
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			And Sheikh al-Bani, may Allah have mercy
		
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			upon him, his understanding, he thought, oh, there
		
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			must be other texts that support it.
		
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			So it's not weak, but it's attributed to
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			In fact, and I don't want to get
		
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			too technical for you, but if we examine
		
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			and we chain and we trace kind of
		
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			and investigate this statement, it's actually made by
		
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			one of the early scholars, Tawus.
		
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			Tawus is from the Salaf.
		
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			And so he said it, like marriage is
		
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			half your deen, and then it just started,
		
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			you know, like *.
		
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			And after a while, people were like, oh,
		
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			qala Rasulullah.
		
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			So in conclusion, the hadith is not authentically
		
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			established due to the weakness of the single
		
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			chain that exists.