Suhaib Webb – Lesson Seven Resilience

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The speakers emphasize the importance of gratitude, faith, and devotion in life, rather than just gratitude. They also discuss the difficulty of assessing one's character and the importance of patient trials and tests in learning one's character. The importance of knowing the consequences of past events and showing gratitude and resilience to avoid negative consequences is emphasized, along with the importance of acceptance and resilience in showing gratitude and resilience to avoid negative consequences.

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			Welcome back to Sanitation of the Soul.
		
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			Great to be with you guys. And last
		
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			time, we were talking about gratitude,
		
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			and that was the second foundation of the
		
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			10 foundations of living a life a life
		
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			of faith and devotion. The first we said,
		
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			of course,
		
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			was toba, repentance.
		
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			The second was gratitude, and now the third.
		
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			The sheikh, he says,
		
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			And this is the second half of that
		
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			line. The line says,
		
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			So after thankfulness
		
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			is gonna be what? Resilience. In fact, many
		
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			of our teachers used to say that faith
		
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			resides between these two qualities.
		
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			Gratitude
		
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			and resilience.
		
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			Gratitude
		
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			and resilience.
		
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			SubhanAllah. So the sheikh, he says
		
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			That you should be upon the blessings of
		
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			Allah,
		
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			grateful. And that you should be on the
		
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			test and challenges that Allah has provided in
		
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			your life
		
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			resilient.
		
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			Allah
		
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			uses the word bala in a very interesting
		
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			way in Suratul Mulk. He says,
		
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			the one who created
		
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			death and life. He mentions death first because
		
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			the dunya is death. This is where we
		
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			die. And he mentions life second because that's
		
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			the akhira where there's no death. SubhanAllah. Are
		
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			we living to die or dying to live?
		
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			This verse
		
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			forces us to ask that question.
		
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			So you will be tested.
		
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			Means a test and we're unaware of how
		
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			the person being tested will react. That's.
		
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			Of course, this is not talking about Allah.
		
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			Allah knows. But it's for you and me
		
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			to see how we react.
		
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			So sometimes difficulties
		
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			and challenges are there so that we
		
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			can truly gauge ourselves.
		
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			When my daughter was born, she was born
		
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			sick.
		
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			It was Ramadan
		
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			almost 2 years ago,
		
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			and
		
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			I've never dealt with a sick child and
		
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			may Allah make it easy for all of
		
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			us, but man it rocked me.
		
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			I I was devastated.
		
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			My daughter was in the Nikku,
		
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			and I was terrified,
		
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			you know, and felt like, wow, I'm I'm
		
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			I'm in this position where I have to
		
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			be the one that's receiving
		
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			the imam coming or the sheikh coming or
		
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			the teacher coming. I can't give now. I
		
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			can't give anything. I need.
		
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			I was so weak.
		
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			And at that moment I said, you know
		
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			what? This is a test from Allah to
		
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			see to see the true content of your
		
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			character. My wife, Allah bless her, she was
		
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			a soldier.
		
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			Everything worked out. But that test
		
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			taught me a lot about myself. When I
		
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			lost my mother,
		
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			I saw my mother die in front of
		
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			me
		
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			and that brought out things from me that
		
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			I never knew were there. It took me
		
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			a while to recover from that.
		
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			So the bala comes
		
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			not because Allah needs to know what we're
		
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			up to,
		
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			but so we can honestly
		
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			assess ourselves.
		
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			And in many ways, that's a blessing even
		
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			though it's hard.
		
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			Even though it's hard.
		
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			So the sheikh, he says
		
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			and also we understand something. And we have
		
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			to be careful of the current furnishings
		
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			of contemporary Christianity in America, the feel good
		
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			Christianity, the Joel Osteen stuff.
		
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			And sometimes this spills over into the Muslim
		
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			community, like, if you become Muslim, everything's gonna
		
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			go great. Not necessarily.
		
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			The early Muslims in Mecca, things didn't go
		
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			great for them.
		
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			The dunya is not promised to anybody. Jannah
		
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			is promised.
		
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			* is promised.
		
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			So what we understand, he said,
		
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			we're gonna talk about this in our classes
		
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			on Aqidah and theology. Is it also trials
		
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			and tests and difficulties
		
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			can come from Allah. It's not always gonna
		
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			be good.
		
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			So he says,
		
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			upon
		
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			the traumatic test he sends you away.
		
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			Resilient.
		
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			That's the third foundation
		
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			is resilience.
		
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			Ashaikh Ahmed Dardir,
		
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			he says.
		
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			The third foundation,
		
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			is to be patient patient with traumatic tests.
		
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			The word sabra in Arabic is translated as
		
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			patient.
		
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			I'm not a fan of it. I like
		
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			resilience, but it actually comes from word which
		
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			means hubs,
		
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			to hold back. And, you know, in Oklahoma,
		
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			my grandma would say, hold your horses. Hold
		
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			your horses.
		
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			Right? Hold your horses. Very similar meaning.
		
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			To hold back.
		
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			He says,
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			It's a tough definition.
		
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			He says that resilience is
		
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			to hold back the nafs,
		
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			to
		
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			to stay steady,
		
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			to be resilient.
		
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			And that you do so in a way
		
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			that when it hits you and when it
		
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			happens,
		
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			you show contentment
		
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			with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			It's tough, man.
		
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			And he said, this is what he means.
		
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			He's talking about himself. He does it in
		
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			the 3rd person out of humility.
		
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			But he says, and this is what the
		
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			writer means when he says,
		
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			be patient upon
		
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			his traumatic test and trials that fall into
		
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			your life.
		
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			He gives examples. He said,
		
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			sickness.
		
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			And when you have
		
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			constricted provisions
		
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			and when you lose your property and you
		
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			lose family members
		
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			and so on and so forth. Allah says
		
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			in
		
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			Right? We are gonna test you with a
		
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			loss, family, life, health, property, so many other
		
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			things.
		
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			And give good news to those who are
		
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			resilient.
		
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			This also
		
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			touches on other issues
		
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			that we don't fall into the class system
		
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			of this age,
		
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			that we don't allow ourselves to be moved
		
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			by the opulence,
		
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			our values for people to be impacted
		
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			by the cult of materialism
		
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			and predatory capitalism,
		
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			and that is that we value people regardless
		
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			of what they have.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says to sayna Muhammad
		
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			And stay resiliently with those who invoke their
		
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			Lord all the time, morning and evening. And
		
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			this was sent about the poor
		
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			followers of the prophet.
		
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			Sayna Suhaib, Sayna
		
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			Bilal, Sayna Salman, or the allahu anhu.
		
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			In the narration the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam after this verse came he said alhamdulillahi
		
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			sabbarani. Praise be to Allah
		
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			who made me resilient with these people.
		
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			Because nobody can perform
		
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			in the office of prophethood
		
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			if they don't respect people
		
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			for being people.
		
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			Not based on what they have,
		
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			their wealth,
		
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			their class, their race, their language, their color,
		
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			their shape, their size.
		
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			All that's dunya.
		
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			Anyone that values people by those things is
		
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			someone who has an unhealthy attachment to the
		
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			dunya.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			said
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala doesn't look at your
		
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			shapes and sizes. He looks at your hearts
		
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			and your deeds. So another component of resilience
		
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			is not only with the test and challenges
		
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			of Allah, but in society and with people
		
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			and with others
		
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			and with your soul
		
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			and with yourself
		
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			as you grow
		
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			in your process of iman.
		
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			The sheikh, he says,
		
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			and to be resilient with salah, with fasting,
		
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			the obedience of Allah
		
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			to show that resilience,
		
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			not to give up.
		
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			He said on these things be sabura.
		
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			Sabura actually is a is a noun which
		
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			is a form of which means
		
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			be super resilient. Just like shakurah, be super
		
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			gracious. Have tremendous gratitude. Have tremendous resilience.
		
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			Because Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la loves the people
		
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			of resilience.
		
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			Allah
		
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			says in the Quran so at Baqarah verse
		
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			155. And Allah says
		
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			that the people of resilience, their reward in
		
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			the hereafter is you can't measure it.
		
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			You can't measure
		
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			it.
		
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			And he says that these components
		
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			of gratitude
		
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			and resilience
		
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			are the qualities of the righteous.
		
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			Gratitude
		
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			is the ability to show
		
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			thankfulness.
		
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			Resilience is the ability to hold back
		
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			when needed from evil, which also is a
		
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			form of, like,
		
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			expressing gratitude, but in a different way holding,
		
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			one is doing, one is holding back.
		
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			So Alhamdulillah, we took now the first three
		
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			foundations
		
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			of the path to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			Patience,
		
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			gratefulness
		
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			and resilience.
		
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			We ask Allah