Suhaib Webb – HIkam Four Stop Overplanning
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The speaker discusses the importance of letting oneself breathe and allowing others to see what comes to mind. They explain that anxiety is a monster and that it is a result of not realizing that success is a given. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of not letting one's mistake or failures cause a negative reaction and offers advice on how to handle it.
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Means give yourself a break.
Give yourself
give yourself an opportunity to, like,
to breathe.
To breathe.
Give your spirit
a
break.
He says,
and this is how you can see it
relates to the 4th. He says, give yourself
a break
from constantly
thinking about what happened in the past.
So
my passionate
hem
my passionate drive
did not materialize
in the throughout my life.
I I I asked myself why? Why didn't
God do this? Why this? Why that? Why
this? Why this? Why this? God hates me.
Blah blah blah blah blah blah.
Or the opposite, God did this for me.
I'm so great. I'm so amazing. How many
people have we seen, you know, who think
they have a special relationship with God, and
that special relationship
causes them to fall into a state of
delusion, where they begin to harm people and
harm themselves.
Don't think too much about the past. When
we think about the past, there is an
eda for that, and that is number 1,
if things were difficult, we ask Allah forgive
us Allah give us patience. And if we
think about successes that happened in the past,
Alhamdulillah,
Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah,
SubhanAllah.
So
we we we greet the past not with
not in a way that destroys us and
wrecks us and causes anxiety
and stress,
but we meet it with dhikr and fiqh
for Allah.
And what he's getting at here in this
5th hikm
is anxiety.
And anxiety is a monster, man,
and depression. And we know that if these
are clinical needs is perfectly acceptable.
One time a person came to me and
she said the imam told her, he wasn't
an imam, actually was like a content provider.
Provider. We have a lot of people out
there giving content that have no training, and
you can find them how I trace them
is I see that the bodies they've left
in the way of bad answers
and bad advice
and bad treatment.
Whereas if perhaps she had gone to a
qualified imam, maybe the answer would have been
different.
But subhanAllah, she said to me, she went
to a content provider and asked that person
like why am I suffering through depression and
she was told because your iman is weak.
I told her go back to that person,
cut him in the face. And as he
starts to bleed, say, hey, man. You're bleeding
because your iman is weak. Does that hurt?
Well, you hurt because your iman is is
is weak. This This is nonsense. It has
nothing to do with the iman.
Has nothing to do with iman. So if
it's clinical, you Ibarit Tataawi, the prophet said,
Oh, servants of Allah, seek remedies.
It's okay to go and try to find
help, man. It's okay to go to therapy.
There's nothing wrong with that. Alhamdulillah.
So he says, arikhnasakamina
tadbiri, but here he means when it's not
reaching a state where it's, you know,
becoming counterproductive
and it's wrestling me from functioning as a
person. What he means here is like the
normal kind of struggles we have sometimes with
thinking about the past. He says give yourself
a break from that.
Because what?
What was established for you?
What was furnished for you? What was given
to you to help you function in life?
On your behalf.
You can have done it for yourself anyways.
So one thing we can think about is
if you go back and you realize like
there's no way I could have done any
of this. There's no way that I had
any real control over this. This is from
a superior power. So I take it to
Allah, and at that moment, I greet
difficulties and precede failures
with a trust in Allah's wisdom and knowledge,
and I greet, perceive success
with sugar. That's why the prophet
said,
I'm amazed at the affair of the believer.
Both the the affairs of the believer are
always good. If he or she is inflicted
with a hardship, they're patient. That's good for
them. And if they are blessed, they are
thankful, and that's good for them. So, masha'Allah,
the 4th 5th hikm, we want to look
at them together.
Your your competitive passions cannot pierce the fortress
of Qadr.
And then
give yourself a break from thinking about the
past. Don't let it cause you to fall
into depression or giving a hope up hope
in Allah.
Because what was established for you on your
behalf,
You couldn't have done it for yourself.