Sikander Hashmi – Save & Spend KMA Friday Message

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The importance of balancing one's spending is discussed, which is not just a wasteful or inaccurate one, but rather a middle path that is an inherent quality of one's life. The speaker emphasizes the importance of avoiding wasteful spending and finding a moderate way to buy things that are not needed. The importance of finding a balance between personal and family needs, being reasonable and understanding, and not wasting one's money on things that are not needed is also emphasized.

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			My young friends,
		
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			We begin by praising Allah
		
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			our creator,
		
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			our nourisher, our sustainer, our protector,
		
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			and that of the entire universe. And we
		
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			begin by praising,
		
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			sending peace and salutations upon his beloved messenger,
		
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			Muhammad, the son of Abdullah,
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam.
		
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			My brothers and sisters,
		
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			if you think about
		
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			all of the morsels of food that you
		
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			have eaten
		
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			since you were a child.
		
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			If you think about
		
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			all of the wealth,
		
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			the money that has come into your wallet,
		
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			into your bank account,
		
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			into your investment accounts.
		
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			Think about all of the spending that you
		
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			have done.
		
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			Whether it was a chocolate bar, or a
		
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			car, or a house,
		
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			or a plane ticket.
		
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			All of these, my brothers and sisters,
		
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			is from the rizq that Allah
		
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			had written for you.
		
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			Every single penny
		
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			was what Allah
		
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			had destined for you. Because indeed, Allah
		
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			is the ultimate provider.
		
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			And Allah
		
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			gives
		
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			some
		
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			more
		
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			than others. Allah
		
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			gives preference to some
		
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			over others.
		
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			Allah
		
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			grants risk to whom ever he wills
		
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			without
		
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			hisab,
		
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			without account. Allah
		
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			is the one who is in control of
		
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			the input,
		
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			the source
		
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			of
		
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			our risk.
		
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			Allah
		
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			has given us that sustenance, that risk, that
		
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			wealth
		
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			as a blessing, but also as a test.
		
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			And with that wealth, we seek
		
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			to fulfill our needs
		
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			and the needs of our dependence.
		
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			In the Quran, Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala describes the Ibadul Rahman.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala describes
		
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			the faithful servants of
		
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			the Ar Rahman.
		
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			Meaning of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			And amongst the multiple apologies that are mentioned
		
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			in Suratul Furqan,
		
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			at the end of the surah, Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala says,
		
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			That amongst the qualities
		
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			or amongst the Aybaddur Rahman are those
		
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			who
		
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			when they spend
		
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			neither do they do do they do Israf,
		
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			nor
		
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			do they do Iqtar.
		
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			And they hold a medium
		
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			in between.
		
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			And they hold the middle road between the
		
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			2. They hold a medium between
		
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			the 2 extremes
		
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			or the 2
		
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			ends.
		
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			Now, in a number of places, Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala talks about israf.
		
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			And that he doesn't like the musrifoon.
		
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			Those who do israf.
		
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			The words israf
		
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			and iqtar in this verse
		
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			are used
		
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			as two opposite traits,
		
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			two ends of the spectrum.
		
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			Israf means
		
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			to cross the limits.
		
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			It means
		
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			to cross the limits.
		
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			According to
		
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			Sayedid Nabbas,
		
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			and
		
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			others,
		
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			they say that it is any spending on
		
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			something that is sinful.
		
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			That Israf
		
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			is spending on something which is sinful no
		
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			matter how small
		
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			it may be.
		
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			Others say
		
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			other scholars say that even overspending
		
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			in
		
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			the rightful
		
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			and allowed things
		
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			which is wasteful,
		
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			would also fall under the definition of Israf.
		
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			It is because any wasteful spending
		
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			is by itself
		
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			a sin and is therefore
		
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			Israf.
		
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			The simplest translation, my brothers and sisters, that
		
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			we can find
		
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			is excessiveness
		
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			or extravagance.
		
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			Going beyond
		
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			an accepted limit.
		
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			It is not just applicable to spending or
		
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			consumption,
		
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			but that is what we will focus on
		
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			today. See, we're entering a time of year
		
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			when there is a lot of temptation to
		
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			spend.
		
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			There is a lot of marketing.
		
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			There is a lot of spending that people
		
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			will be doing around us.
		
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			And it doesn't mean that that spending is
		
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			necessarily bad.
		
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			It doesn't mean that it is bad to
		
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			purchase things,
		
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			or to sign up for services that you
		
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			need,
		
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			or to find deals.
		
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			There's nothing inherently wrong with that. As long
		
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			as what you are spending is halal, and
		
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			you're spending it in a halal manner for
		
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			things which are permissible
		
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			or things which are
		
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			not looked down upon.
		
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			In the verse
		
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			means to spend
		
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			with
		
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			miserliness,
		
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			to be stingy.
		
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			In Islamic jurisprudence,
		
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			it means
		
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			to be tight *,
		
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			where a believer is directed to spend.
		
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			It's actually quite interesting because Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala on the one hand tells us not
		
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			to be wasteful,
		
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			but on the other hand Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala also gives us virtues of those who
		
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			spend.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So on the one hand, we're told not
		
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			to be again, not to be wasteful,
		
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			careful about spending. On the other hand, there's
		
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			virtues about spending.
		
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			So the question is which type of spending
		
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			are we talking about?
		
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			So in the case,
		
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			when one does not spend at all, or
		
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			spends
		
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			very little when one is capable,
		
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			where
		
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			a person has been directed to spend,
		
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			then that is the worst of situations.
		
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			That a person has
		
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			the means, is able to spend, but in
		
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			the matters in which they are supposed to
		
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			spend, they don't. They hold back.
		
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			So Allah
		
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			is telling us
		
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			that these
		
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			are the people
		
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			who
		
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			do not spend excessively,
		
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			they are not extravagant,
		
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			yet at the same time
		
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			they aren't miserly either. So they have a
		
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			balance in between.
		
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			They are not
		
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			on the extreme on the extremities of one
		
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			extreme or the other, but rather they take
		
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			a middle path
		
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			which is actually an inherent quality of the
		
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			deen of Allah
		
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			It is an inherent quality of this deen
		
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			that whatever we have been taught
		
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			is a balanced approach.
		
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			The teachings are balanced
		
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			because Allah
		
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			has created this world and the entire universe
		
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			with balance.
		
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			Everything is in a perfect balance.
		
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			And therefore,
		
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			Allah and his messenger salallahu alayhi wasalam
		
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			have also taught us balance in every matter.
		
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			How to live
		
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			this life
		
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			with balance.
		
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			So that we live in harmony with the
		
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			system of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			When we become disbalanced,
		
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			then we are not able to many times
		
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			live in harmony. And that is when the
		
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			problem start.
		
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			So if we live a balanced life, in
		
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			harmony with the balance of Allah
		
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			that we find in nature all around us,
		
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			then that gives us the most optimal
		
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			method
		
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			of
		
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			making it through
		
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			this life.
		
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			And of course, in a way which is
		
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			best for us in the hereafter. Insha'Allah.
		
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			Ibn Kathir comments
		
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			on this
		
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			ayah, on this verse. And he says, regarding
		
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			these, Ibadul Rahman.
		
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			That they are not extravagant,
		
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			spending more than they need to, nor are
		
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			they miserly towards their families,
		
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			not spending enough on their needs.
		
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			But they follow the best and the fairest
		
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			way, and the best of matters are those
		
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			which are moderate,
		
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			neither one extreme,
		
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			nor the other. In another verse, Allah
		
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			tells us,
		
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			And let not your hand be tied to
		
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			your neck.
		
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			What does it mean to have your hand
		
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			tied to the to your neck? Of course,
		
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			it's not take to be taken literally because
		
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			nobody does that.
		
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			But
		
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			it is a metaphor, an example for someone
		
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			who is stingy,
		
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			someone who is miserly.
		
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			His hand does not go anywhere near his
		
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			wallet.
		
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			It's always up here.
		
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			He's so scared that he's gonna go and
		
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			something's gonna come out of his wallet. He's
		
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			gonna end up spending,
		
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			a stingy person.
		
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			Nor stretch it forth to its utmost
		
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			utmost
		
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			reach. Forget about the the wallet, the pocket,
		
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			it goes there, and it's constantly doing this.
		
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			Nowadays, it's buttons, of course,
		
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			or tops.
		
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			But you get the idea.
		
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			So so don't tie your hand to your
		
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			neck, don't be stingy,
		
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			nor do not stretch it forth to its
		
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			utmost reach
		
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			like a spendthrift,
		
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			so that you become blameworthy and in severe
		
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			poverty.
		
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			Right? So here Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
		
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			implicitly telling us what?
		
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			That
		
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			our spending can have consequences to the point
		
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			or our decisions can have consequences when it
		
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			comes to spending,
		
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			to the point where it could lead a
		
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			person to a bad situation.
		
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			It can lead a person
		
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			to
		
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			a blame worthy position,
		
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			to a position of poverty. That's not to
		
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			say that everyone who is less fortunate is
		
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			because they were wasteful. Of course not. But
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is telling us,
		
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			teaching us that we must be responsible
		
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			When it comes to spending, don't say, oh
		
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			let me just spend and I'll see you
		
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			later.
		
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			Oh let me just spend and
		
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			Allah will take care of me. Yes. It's
		
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			great to have tawakkul but at the same
		
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			time Allah
		
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			is telling us that our accounts our actions
		
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			have
		
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			consequences. So don't be stingy, but at the
		
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			same time don't go beyond your means either,
		
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			that you're spending drives you to bankruptcy
		
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			and to poverty.
		
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			Imam Ahmad records
		
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			that Anasub Namanik radiAllahu anhu said, a man
		
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			from Banutamim
		
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			came to the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam.
		
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			And he said, You Rasulullah,
		
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			that, oh messenger of Allah, I have a
		
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			lot of wealth.
		
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			I have a family, children,
		
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			and the refinements
		
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			of urban life, of city life.
		
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			That tell me how I should spend and
		
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			what I should do.
		
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			So Rasulullah he sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam gave him
		
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			a a a detailed answer saying, pay the
		
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			zakat on your wealth if any is due
		
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			for it is purification that will make you
		
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			pure.
		
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			Maintain your times of kinship.
		
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			Pay attention to the rights
		
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			of the people of the sa'il, of the
		
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			beggar, of the one who asks,
		
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			and the neighbors, and the poor.
		
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			It's literally like two lines. But he says,
		
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			You Rasulullah,
		
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			make a less for
		
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			me. There's too many things. Make a less
		
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			for me. So Rasulullah he sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam recited the verse,
		
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			and give
		
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			to
		
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			the kinsmen, the relative, their due.
		
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			And to the miskeen, to the poor, and
		
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			to the wayfarer,
		
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			but spend not wastefully
		
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			in the manner of a spendthrift.
		
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			Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
		
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			in Al Mubazirina
		
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			ikhwanu
		
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			ikhwanu li rabbihikafura.
		
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			Squander not your wealth in the manner of
		
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			a spendthrift.
		
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			Meaning, a person who spends
		
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			money irresponsibly,
		
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			extravagantly,
		
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			in a prohibited manner
		
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			to fulfill their desires beyond their need. So
		
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			don't be that type of person.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because he says
		
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			such people, the spentrefs, are the brothers
		
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			of the shayateen.
		
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			Are the brothers of They
		
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			are the brothers of the evil ones.
		
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			And what is they call it the characteristic
		
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			that links them?
		
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			And the shaitaan to is to his Lord,
		
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			ungrateful.
		
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			So this indicates ungratefulness.
		
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			A lack of appreciation for the blessings of
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala If a person
		
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			spends what Allah has provided for them in
		
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			an irresponsible,
		
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			extravagant, and wasteful manner simply to fulfill their
		
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			needs, especially when
		
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			fulfill
		
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			their desires rather, not their needs, but rather
		
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			their desires
		
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			beyond
		
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			their needs and especially beyond their means.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said,
		
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			and without arrogance.
		
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			Sight So to eat and to dress well,
		
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			there is nothing wrong if a person can
		
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			afford it.
		
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			To fulfill
		
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			their needs, to fulfill the needs of their
		
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			family,
		
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			perhaps with better quality,
		
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			you know, materials quality with
		
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			greater longevity
		
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			as an example.
		
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			Not to show off,
		
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			or to feel better than others,
		
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			or to get attached to it, or to
		
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			make it the purpose of their life.
		
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			You know, but Allah has blessed someone,
		
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			and they decide to get a nicer car.
		
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			Alhamdulillah. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't
		
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			mean they always have to buy the worst
		
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			quality, the cheapest one available. No. If Allah
		
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			has blessed them and, you know, a person
		
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			has the means,
		
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			it is actually virtuous.
		
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			It is actually virtuous
		
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			to spend in a way that honors the
		
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			blessings of Allah
		
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			But without building attachment to it, and without
		
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			wanting to show off.
		
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			It is worth yours to do so.
		
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			And to spend on one's family because sometimes
		
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			we hear these stories
		
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			of
		
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			people,
		
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			right? Generally brothers,
		
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			who are extremely tight *.
		
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			Right? There are stories of
		
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			women as well who are extremely wasteful, and
		
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			men who are extremely wasteful as well. Right?
		
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			But I specifically wanna mention brothers at this
		
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			point. Right? Who are extremely extremely tight *.
		
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			Right? To the point where if the wife
		
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			wants to buy something that is needed for
		
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			the family, for the children, she has to
		
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			call and ask.
		
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			Oh, can you allow me?
		
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			Or there's controls on the card. Say, can
		
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			you allow this amount or this transaction?
		
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			The Prophet
		
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			said,
		
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			that if a Muslim
		
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			spends on his family seeking reward from Allah
		
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			it is charity for him.
		
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			It is charity.
		
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			Right? So if you're spending on your family,
		
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			as you should be,
		
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			make the niya of salakah.
		
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			Make the niya that I am doing this
		
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			for the pleasure of Allah
		
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			And Insha'Allah,
		
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			you will see how beautiful would it be
		
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			that you are thinking, Okay. I have to
		
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			pay for this, I have to pay for
		
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			this bill, that bill, tuition fees, you know,
		
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			tutoring,
		
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			clothing, whatever it is, food, right?
		
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			Rent,
		
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			mortgage, whatever it is that you have to
		
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			pay. And on the day of the judgment,
		
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			you show up in front of Allah
		
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			and you find like all these huge sacks
		
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			of sadaqah in your account.
		
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			And you're like, Wow. Like I never really.
		
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			Yes. I donated to, you know, Khneidah Masjid,
		
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			and I donated here, and I donated there.
		
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			But and to such food bank, and for
		
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			the orphans, and for the needy.
		
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			But I don't know how I didn't have
		
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			this much, you know, wealth to spend
		
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			in charity.
		
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			So how did this happen?
		
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			And then you find out that Allah
		
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			has counted every single penny that you spent
		
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			upon your family members as salaahu.
		
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			And Allah
		
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			multiplied it.
		
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			Right? So, your entire life spending on your
		
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			family
		
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			became a means of your salvation on the
		
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			day of judgment.
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			This is possible my brothers.
		
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			It depends on our
		
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			depends on our intention,
		
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			and that we do it in a good
		
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			way.
		
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			This is not to say that we should
		
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			be wasteful,
		
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			this is not to say that we should
		
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			encourage our family members to be wasteful, absolutely
		
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			not.
		
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			Right? And yes, sometimes there can be differences
		
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			because there are different understandings of what is
		
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			wasteful, what is needed.
		
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			Right? The wife thinks something is needed, the
		
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			husband thinks it is not, vice versa.
		
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			You know, children says, Yes, I need a
		
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			cell phone. You know, baba, mama say, No,
		
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			you don't need a cell phone. Kid says,
		
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			Oh, I need data. Everybody has data. Parents
		
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			say, No, you don't need data because because
		
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			you don't know what you're gonna do on
		
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			your phone, this and that. You also, okay,
		
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			yes, maybe you have differences
		
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			on some matters, right?
		
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			So that is understandable,
		
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			but we should always try to be reasonable.
		
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			Always try to be reasonable and always try
		
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			to be
		
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			understanding.
		
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			And on the other hand, for the sisters
		
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			as well, it's not a blank check.
		
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			The husband is not a blank check. Say,
		
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			in Islam, it's like the best of both
		
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			worlds. So my money is mine, and then
		
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			my husband also has to take care of
		
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			me, but he's gonna take care of me
		
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			not in a moderate way, but I want
		
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			this name brand person, I want these shoes,
		
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			and I want to drive this type of
		
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			car, and I want this and I want
		
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			that, and no, it is his responsibility to
		
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			maintain that. Otherwise, why do you get married
		
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			to me? Please,
		
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			let's be reasonable. Let's be reasonable
		
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			and have mutual understanding, have mutual love and
		
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			respect. So on the one hand, don't be
		
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			so controlling and so stingy, but on the
		
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			other hand, don't be wasteful either, and try
		
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			to find a moderate way because that is
		
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			which is most pleasing to
		
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			Allah So my brothers and sisters, to recap,
		
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			before shopping, think about your purchase. You know,
		
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			do you need it? Is it a want?
		
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			Not every want is necessarily long or bad.
		
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			But what would happen if you didn't get
		
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			this item? You know, what would you gain
		
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			if you did get it? Or is there
		
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			any real benefit? Is it simply to fulfill
		
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			your desires?
		
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			Are you trying to gain happiness through shopping?
		
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			Just think about these few questions
		
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			before you make purchases, especially if they're larger
		
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			purchases. You know, if you're gonna do that
		
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			every time your kid says, well, I want
		
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			a hot chocolate and then you sit there
		
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			and say, ma'am, said okay. You're sitting in
		
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			the drive through and you're thinking, okay. What
		
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			is the gain gonna be? What is the
		
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			benefit? I'm gonna do a cost benefit analysis.
		
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			Okay. Obviously, that'll be going a little bit
		
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			too far. So that's not what I mean.
		
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			That's not what I'm trying to suggest.
		
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			So again, be reasonable,
		
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			but
		
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			when you're doing especially major purchases that will
		
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			have an impact on your finances or especially
		
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			monthly
		
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			subscriptions or costs that are done monthly because
		
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			you don't realize they look small, but actually
		
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			they add up over the course of 12
		
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			months and 24 months and 36 months, so
		
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			things which will have an impact.
		
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			If you do have a need, a family
		
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			has a need, don't keep ignoring it because
		
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			of Syngeneus. Don't be like, no, no, no,
		
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			it's winter, you don't need boots, use the
		
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			boots from 3 years ago Even though they're
		
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			tight and they're leaking, no, because we need
		
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			to save money.
		
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			Unless, of course, it's a dire situation, may
		
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			Allah help us all. But
		
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			again,
		
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			be reasonable. If you like buying, buy for
		
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			your needs, buy for your family, then buy
		
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			for others if you're able to afford it.
		
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			If you have too much, give gifts.
		
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			There's plenty of people who can benefit, even
		
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			family members, they're encouraged to give gifts because
		
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			it increases love.
		
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			For
		
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			our children,
		
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			try to put in good spending habits,
		
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			you know, teach them financial literacy,
		
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			teach them how to manage their wealth, right,
		
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			so that when they grow up and they
		
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			get married, they are able to to manage
		
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			the affairs, especially as costs go high and
		
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			as, you know,
		
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			as things get somewhat more difficult. May Allah
		
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			grant us true contentment of the heart. May
		
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			Allah
		
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			make us all givers. May Allah
		
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			make us attracted and attached to that which
		
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			is permanent. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala purify
		
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			our hearts and guide us to that which
		
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			is best. May Allah provide us with all
		
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			the halal, the risk that we need. May
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us from the
		
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			burdens of debt and of poverty
		
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			and of hardship.
		
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			My brothers and sisters, let us just make
		
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			dua for our brothers and sisters who are
		
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			ill.
		
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			Oh, Allah. Please grant
		
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			completely and quickly to all of our brothers
		
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			and sisters who are ill. O Allah, our
		
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			elderly sister who is living in pain. O
		
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			Allah, our brother and sister who are living
		
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			with long term injuries. O Allah, those who
		
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			are living with various types of illnesses. O
		
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			Allah, please grant them shifa which is ajil
		
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			and kamil You're Balameen.
		
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			O Allah, You are the shafi. O Allah,
		
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			You are the cure. O Allah, anyone who
		
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			is in pain, who is in distress, who
		
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			has anxiety,
		
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			O Allah, please cure it from them for
		
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			them, You're Balameen.
		
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			O Allah, all of those who have returned
		
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			to You, Oh Allah, please accept them and
		
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			grant them the highest station in Jannah, You
		
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			Rabbalameen.
		
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			Oh Allah, please grant relief to all to
		
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			all of their loved ones and grant them
		
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			subujamil, You Rabbalameen.
		
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			Oh Allah, please widen their graves and, oh,
		
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			Allah, please make this entire journey from this
		
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			point till Jannah easy for them.