Shadee Elmasry – When is Divorce Allowed in Islam What Should I Do
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Is there such a thing as a valid reason to get a divorce?
No, we could say that all any if a man wants to get a divorce, he can
get a divorce at any time.
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man get a divorce at anytime. Question The Doors it's valid,
right? The question is, he's not sinful to do that but he may be
sinful for damaging his kids, his family, all of that. Okay?
hurting them such as a divorce with no reason. Okay?
Such as I'm going to divorce a woman and marry another person
just because I feel like it. So that injury that you're doing to
another most Muslim, you may be sinful for? What's the punishment
for such a sin? It's going to happen to you. Right?
It's gonna have in the biography of Muhammad Ali. He married his
childhood sweetheart. When he got to the top, he pushed her to the
side and he married to supermodel
what what do you think she did to him? When he got old in the 80s.
And he's no longer the wonderful Muhammad Ali. She pushed him aside
and married another guy.
The punishment for hurting others is that you yourself will get
hurt. Don't hurt others. Okay? So for a woman, it is sinful is for
her to seek a hula on a whim. Hula means listen, I'm done being
married with you. Let's make a deal. I'll give you the dowry
back. I'll give you some mother amount of money back divorce me
why?
I'm not feeling
it will be a valid Hola, but she's sinful to same reason. Like why
why just this disruption. But if there's a reason.
There a reason is divided to two categories.
Abuse and non abuse. What's the non abuse reason? Let's say he
gained so much weight.
I can't fulfill his rights anymore. I started now despise
him.
Okay, or his finances dropped. I married him at the level that I
thought he would I would live with the normal level of all son of
businessman or daughter of businessman and I expect to live
at this level. He can't afford it. He used to be rich, now he's poor.
I just cannot be a grateful wife anymore. I cannot serve him
anymore. My heart cannot
be grateful anymore. Because that's the wording that the
companion of the Prophet use. She said, I fear Cofer meaning the
cover of gratitude, I won't be grateful.
So he did nothing wrong. There's no abuse there. There's no
shortage of fulfilling his rights. But she can't fulfill his rights
anymore.
So she she has to pay money, give back the dowry or some similar
amount of money, and he gives the divorce. Okay.
Next.
There is abuse or not fulfilling rights. Like what? My husband he,
I go home, and he's mean to me. He doesn't talk to me. Right? He
ignores me, and he doesn't sleep with me. And marriage is supposed
to be sticking. Or worse than that. He no longer pays any bills.
I have to go work and pay the bills. Now what what does a man
Oh, does a husband Oh, a woman everything? No. He owes her the
roof, the food and the clothes on her back? Oh, he didn't out paying
my bills, my cell phone bills. He doesn't have to pay for your cell
phone. We have to be honest here because some people they think
there's a mistake that's going on that the man has to pay for
everything.
No, he doesn't. He doesn't have to pay for your roof, your food and
the clothes on your back at the level that he married you.
So he married you that you are a woman who came from a middle class
background like many of us know that we have a home. We have a
bunch of clothes for the different seasons. Right? We eat, you know,
Acral martyred and maruf that which is known in the people as
normal. And yet he comes to me and he says, Well, according to the
book of FIP you're gonna live in a studio apartment. There's a sack
of rice over there. You can cook it if you get hungry. Right and
here's a jacket for the winter. And that's all you get.
And he says he says, Well, that's what the books say. Say no, not
acceptable. What motivated? It's by the ORF. So if he stops
providing precepts protecting let's say this, he's a good guy.
But the neighbor keeps walking into the house and gazing at me
and touching me sometimes hugging me and my husband can't stop him.
He doesn't have the power to stop
him. So you he has failed on the level of security. Okay.
He's failed on the level of securing his wife. So she takes
any of those grievances. These are objective grievances. And she says
to the judge, my husband, he failed in this regard. The judge
says, Okay, I divorce you from him. So it's out of the hands of
the husbands at this point. And she doesn't have to pay any money
back, because she has a valid reason, an objectively valid
reason. Okay.
In the absence of the judge, any man can do it. But Imams today,
they're too afraid to do it, because they don't want to destroy
homes. But what they've done, they started to form councils. And on
top of that, the problem with it is that
they're not recognized authorities. So they could say,
Yes, federal, you're divorced from him. But the husband says, well,
take your photo and I rip it up. It means nothing to me. We have
that's why they don't do it. That's another reason they don't
do it.
Okay.
Would mile limit and traveling Fick apply to space travel? Since
it's vertical? Yes, it does. And on top of that, you would be a
musafir the whole time. You're moving around unless you station
once you station, call us you're not gonna suffer.
So that answers the question on space travel. Also, they're gonna
have to have a whole book on this, but also was not even finished
yet. Yeah. That answers the question on the valid divorce and
the types of divorce.
But then also, like the earth is rotating, right? So wouldn't you
have to go to the same space station? So you have to be the
same exact or no? What sounds like if you're out in space, you're a
traveler the whole time. Because the Earth even if you're
stationary, the Earth is still moving. So your house is moving,
and technically your distance is changing. No.
That's true, but it'll definitely be more than 36 miles.
But the moon being a rock from the earth, we can't say it's absolute.
We can't say that is a specular is a speculative factor, an absolute
fact. I guess, like chemically like it's probably the same No,
like you would like to compare this. Yeah, it's quite the same
exact thing. But anyway, when you go to the moon, you're wearing all
these gloves anyway. Oh, yeah. Right. So take it off. You can't
take it off. Yeah.
Also, there's a whole discussion on prayer off the Earth, right?
suspended in the air like that, but we're not going to get into
that.
Some lay Muslim says FTL saying you can marry someone as young as
one year old?
Well, the a man look, marriage has a couple of aspects, one of the
facets of the marriage contract is merely the transition of
responsibility of protection and
support financial support. So technically, if if a father sees
fit, when he in order for him to transfer
the protection of this child
to another man, that is that is a marriage contract. And he may do
that. Because the Sharia assumes that the unlike today's society
that makes the parents demons, no shit, he assumes parents want the
best for their child, the guy on his deathbed and there's another
man there that says he's known for the whole life. I'm gonna marry my
daughter too. Did that means merely that her protect she's now
under your protection as for the actual
fulfillment of the marriage, okay. Then in that case, it is only when
she can bear it.
Alright, so yes, in the city. This is like a very controversial
thing. But I'm here to tell you what the video says.
A father is assumed that he wants what's best for his daughter. So
he may contract make a contract with another man, which is a
marriage contract that whew take over the care of my daughter
because I can't do it anymore. Good.
And the food the support, the protection of the girl will be on
that meant. Then when the girl comes of age, and is physically
capable, then we can discuss now, the issue of the conservation of
the marriage, the conservation can only have so marriage is not just
*. It's not just having * with the girl. It is the protection of
the girl. We don't we don't understand that now. But she did
not just come from modern Americans and British and
Europeans. The city I came for people who lived in very small
villages where it is very possible that a man has a daughter and is
is dying and there's no one else to take care of the daughter,
she's like four years old, he is going to contract the mayor can
make a marriage contract on her behalf to another man in the
village that he trusts
okay
after she marries, if a girl marries
or she has reached a certain age where she is very she understands
the world
okay,
then he has to consult her
and even that I have to check where the conditions are, but
there is a limit to when a man can marry off his daughter and the
limit is when so what is the purpose that Allah has allowed
this is because sometimes that is necessary. Right for protection.
All right.
Could you call that marriage? Betrayal? No, betrothal is a is an
agreement to do something in the future. Engagement. Okay, we
agreed to marry in the future. That's an engagement. But this is
no an actual marriage. Why? Because a betrayal does not have
any Sharia rulings attached to it, except from other men to propose
to the woman. They're not allowed to propose her anymore. All right.
So you got a very beautiful woman. And you need to eliminate the
competition real quick, because you're not that great of a guy.
But for some reason, she's accepting you. Okay, let's get
engaged. As soon as we get engaged, basically, no one else
can can come in to propose to her.
Happens all the time. In small societies. In small communities,
you can have a girl who's like, a 10. And a guy who's like a five.
But she didn't know many other guys. She's like, I'll take this
guy.
He gotta get engaged quick, right? Because if another 10 walks
through the door of the masjid, you're in trouble.
Right? So he gets engaged quick