Shadee Elmasry – When is Divorce Allowed in Islam What Should I Do

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A woman who wants to divorce her and get a dowry is facing various punishment and divorce. She is also married to a man who is supposed to be a good husband, but struggling financially. The judge concludes that the woman is a good husband but needs protection and not to do anything wrong. The speakers discuss the importance of avoiding abuse, fulfilling rights, and a marriage contract. The conversation shifts to Easter egg and how it is possible for a woman to marry a man in the future.

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			Is there such a thing as a valid
reason to get a divorce?
		
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			No, we could say that all any if a
man wants to get a divorce, he can
		
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			get a divorce at any time.
		
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			Good
		
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			daydream of autumn moment answer
your question in a second.
		
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			But just send your question to
info Josephina cetera dot orgy a
		
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			man get a divorce at anytime.
Question The Doors it's valid,
		
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			right? The question is, he's not
sinful to do that but he may be
		
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			sinful for damaging his kids, his
family, all of that. Okay?
		
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			hurting them such as a divorce
with no reason. Okay?
		
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			Such as I'm going to divorce a
woman and marry another person
		
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			just because I feel like it. So
that injury that you're doing to
		
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			another most Muslim, you may be
sinful for? What's the punishment
		
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			for such a sin? It's going to
happen to you. Right?
		
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			It's gonna have in the biography
of Muhammad Ali. He married his
		
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			childhood sweetheart. When he got
to the top, he pushed her to the
		
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			side and he married to supermodel
		
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			what what do you think she did to
him? When he got old in the 80s.
		
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			And he's no longer the wonderful
Muhammad Ali. She pushed him aside
		
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			and married another guy.
		
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			The punishment for hurting others
is that you yourself will get
		
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			hurt. Don't hurt others. Okay? So
for a woman, it is sinful is for
		
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			her to seek a hula on a whim. Hula
means listen, I'm done being
		
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			married with you. Let's make a
deal. I'll give you the dowry
		
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			back. I'll give you some mother
amount of money back divorce me
		
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			why?
		
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			I'm not feeling
		
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			it will be a valid Hola, but she's
sinful to same reason. Like why
		
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			why just this disruption. But if
there's a reason.
		
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			There a reason is divided to two
categories.
		
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			Abuse and non abuse. What's the
non abuse reason? Let's say he
		
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			gained so much weight.
		
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			I can't fulfill his rights
anymore. I started now despise
		
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			him.
		
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			Okay, or his finances dropped. I
married him at the level that I
		
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			thought he would I would live with
the normal level of all son of
		
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			businessman or daughter of
businessman and I expect to live
		
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			at this level. He can't afford it.
He used to be rich, now he's poor.
		
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			I just cannot be a grateful wife
anymore. I cannot serve him
		
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			anymore. My heart cannot
		
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			be grateful anymore. Because
that's the wording that the
		
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			companion of the Prophet use. She
said, I fear Cofer meaning the
		
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			cover of gratitude, I won't be
grateful.
		
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			So he did nothing wrong. There's
no abuse there. There's no
		
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			shortage of fulfilling his rights.
But she can't fulfill his rights
		
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			anymore.
		
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			So she she has to pay money, give
back the dowry or some similar
		
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			amount of money, and he gives the
divorce. Okay.
		
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			Next.
		
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			There is abuse or not fulfilling
rights. Like what? My husband he,
		
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			I go home, and he's mean to me. He
doesn't talk to me. Right? He
		
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			ignores me, and he doesn't sleep
with me. And marriage is supposed
		
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			to be sticking. Or worse than
that. He no longer pays any bills.
		
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			I have to go work and pay the
bills. Now what what does a man
		
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			Oh, does a husband Oh, a woman
everything? No. He owes her the
		
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			roof, the food and the clothes on
her back? Oh, he didn't out paying
		
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			my bills, my cell phone bills. He
doesn't have to pay for your cell
		
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			phone. We have to be honest here
because some people they think
		
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			there's a mistake that's going on
that the man has to pay for
		
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			everything.
		
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			No, he doesn't. He doesn't have to
pay for your roof, your food and
		
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			the clothes on your back at the
level that he married you.
		
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			So he married you that you are a
woman who came from a middle class
		
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			background like many of us know
that we have a home. We have a
		
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			bunch of clothes for the different
seasons. Right? We eat, you know,
		
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			Acral martyred and maruf that
which is known in the people as
		
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			normal. And yet he comes to me and
he says, Well, according to the
		
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			book of FIP you're gonna live in a
studio apartment. There's a sack
		
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			of rice over there. You can cook
it if you get hungry. Right and
		
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			here's a jacket for the winter.
And that's all you get.
		
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			And he says he says, Well, that's
what the books say. Say no, not
		
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			acceptable. What motivated? It's
by the ORF. So if he stops
		
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			providing precepts protecting
let's say this, he's a good guy.
		
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			But the neighbor keeps walking
into the house and gazing at me
		
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			and touching me sometimes hugging
me and my husband can't stop him.
		
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			He doesn't have the power to stop
		
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			him. So you he has failed on the
level of security. Okay.
		
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			He's failed on the level of
securing his wife. So she takes
		
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			any of those grievances. These are
objective grievances. And she says
		
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			to the judge, my husband, he
failed in this regard. The judge
		
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			says, Okay, I divorce you from
him. So it's out of the hands of
		
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			the husbands at this point. And
she doesn't have to pay any money
		
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			back, because she has a valid
reason, an objectively valid
		
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			reason. Okay.
		
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			In the absence of the judge, any
man can do it. But Imams today,
		
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			they're too afraid to do it,
because they don't want to destroy
		
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			homes. But what they've done, they
started to form councils. And on
		
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			top of that, the problem with it
is that
		
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			they're not recognized
authorities. So they could say,
		
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			Yes, federal, you're divorced from
him. But the husband says, well,
		
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			take your photo and I rip it up.
It means nothing to me. We have
		
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			that's why they don't do it.
That's another reason they don't
		
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			do it.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Would mile limit and traveling
Fick apply to space travel? Since
		
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			it's vertical? Yes, it does. And
on top of that, you would be a
		
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			musafir the whole time. You're
moving around unless you station
		
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			once you station, call us you're
not gonna suffer.
		
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			So that answers the question on
space travel. Also, they're gonna
		
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			have to have a whole book on this,
but also was not even finished
		
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			yet. Yeah. That answers the
question on the valid divorce and
		
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			the types of divorce.
		
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			But then also, like the earth is
rotating, right? So wouldn't you
		
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			have to go to the same space
station? So you have to be the
		
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			same exact or no? What sounds like
if you're out in space, you're a
		
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			traveler the whole time. Because
the Earth even if you're
		
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			stationary, the Earth is still
moving. So your house is moving,
		
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			and technically your distance is
changing. No.
		
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			That's true, but it'll definitely
be more than 36 miles.
		
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			But the moon being a rock from the
earth, we can't say it's absolute.
		
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			We can't say that is a specular is
a speculative factor, an absolute
		
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			fact. I guess, like chemically
like it's probably the same No,
		
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			like you would like to compare
this. Yeah, it's quite the same
		
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			exact thing. But anyway, when you
go to the moon, you're wearing all
		
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			these gloves anyway. Oh, yeah.
Right. So take it off. You can't
		
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			take it off. Yeah.
		
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			Also, there's a whole discussion
on prayer off the Earth, right?
		
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			suspended in the air like that,
but we're not going to get into
		
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			that.
		
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			Some lay Muslim says FTL saying
you can marry someone as young as
		
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			one year old?
		
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			Well, the a man look, marriage has
a couple of aspects, one of the
		
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			facets of the marriage contract is
merely the transition of
		
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			responsibility of protection and
		
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			support financial support. So
technically, if if a father sees
		
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			fit, when he in order for him to
transfer
		
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			the protection of this child
		
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			to another man, that is that is a
marriage contract. And he may do
		
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			that. Because the Sharia assumes
that the unlike today's society
		
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			that makes the parents demons, no
shit, he assumes parents want the
		
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			best for their child, the guy on
his deathbed and there's another
		
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			man there that says he's known for
the whole life. I'm gonna marry my
		
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			daughter too. Did that means
merely that her protect she's now
		
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			under your protection as for the
actual
		
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			fulfillment of the marriage, okay.
Then in that case, it is only when
		
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			she can bear it.
		
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			Alright, so yes, in the city. This
is like a very controversial
		
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			thing. But I'm here to tell you
what the video says.
		
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			A father is assumed that he wants
what's best for his daughter. So
		
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			he may contract make a contract
with another man, which is a
		
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			marriage contract that whew take
over the care of my daughter
		
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			because I can't do it anymore.
Good.
		
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			And the food the support, the
protection of the girl will be on
		
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			that meant. Then when the girl
comes of age, and is physically
		
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			capable, then we can discuss now,
the issue of the conservation of
		
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			the marriage, the conservation can
only have so marriage is not just
		
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			*. It's not just having * with
the girl. It is the protection of
		
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			the girl. We don't we don't
understand that now. But she did
		
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			not just come from modern
Americans and British and
		
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			Europeans. The city I came for
people who lived in very small
		
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			villages where it is very possible
that a man has a daughter and is
		
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			is dying and there's no one else
to take care of the daughter,
		
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			she's like four years old, he is
going to contract the mayor can
		
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			make a marriage contract on her
behalf to another man in the
		
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			village that he trusts
		
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			okay
		
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			after she marries, if a girl
marries
		
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			or she has reached a certain age
where she is very she understands
		
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			the world
		
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			okay,
		
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			then he has to consult her
		
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			and even that I have to check
where the conditions are, but
		
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			there is a limit to when a man can
marry off his daughter and the
		
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			limit is when so what is the
purpose that Allah has allowed
		
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			this is because sometimes that is
necessary. Right for protection.
		
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			All right.
		
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			Could you call that marriage?
Betrayal? No, betrothal is a is an
		
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			agreement to do something in the
future. Engagement. Okay, we
		
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			agreed to marry in the future.
That's an engagement. But this is
		
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			no an actual marriage. Why?
Because a betrayal does not have
		
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			any Sharia rulings attached to it,
except from other men to propose
		
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			to the woman. They're not allowed
to propose her anymore. All right.
		
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			So you got a very beautiful woman.
And you need to eliminate the
		
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			competition real quick, because
you're not that great of a guy.
		
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			But for some reason, she's
accepting you. Okay, let's get
		
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			engaged. As soon as we get
engaged, basically, no one else
		
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			can can come in to propose to her.
		
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			Happens all the time. In small
societies. In small communities,
		
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			you can have a girl who's like, a
10. And a guy who's like a five.
		
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			But she didn't know many other
guys. She's like, I'll take this
		
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			guy.
		
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			He gotta get engaged quick, right?
Because if another 10 walks
		
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			through the door of the masjid,
you're in trouble.
		
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			Right? So he gets engaged quick