Shadee Elmasry – When is Divorce Allowed in Islam What Should I Do

Is there such a thing as a valid reason to get a divorce?

No, we could say that all any if a man wants to get a divorce, he can

get a divorce at any time.

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man get a divorce at anytime. Question The Doors it's valid,

right? The question is, he's not sinful to do that but he may be

sinful for damaging his kids, his family, all of that. Okay?

hurting them such as a divorce with no reason. Okay?

Such as I'm going to divorce a woman and marry another person

just because I feel like it. So that injury that you're doing to

another most Muslim, you may be sinful for? What's the punishment

for such a sin? It's going to happen to you. Right?

It's gonna have in the biography of Muhammad Ali. He married his

childhood sweetheart. When he got to the top, he pushed her to the

side and he married to supermodel

what what do you think she did to him? When he got old in the 80s.

And he's no longer the wonderful Muhammad Ali. She pushed him aside

and married another guy.

The punishment for hurting others is that you yourself will get

hurt. Don't hurt others. Okay? So for a woman, it is sinful is for

her to seek a hula on a whim. Hula means listen, I'm done being

married with you. Let's make a deal. I'll give you the dowry

back. I'll give you some mother amount of money back divorce me

why?

I'm not feeling

it will be a valid Hola, but she's sinful to same reason. Like why

why just this disruption. But if there's a reason.

There a reason is divided to two categories.

Abuse and non abuse. What's the non abuse reason? Let's say he

gained so much weight.

I can't fulfill his rights anymore. I started now despise

him.

Okay, or his finances dropped. I married him at the level that I

thought he would I would live with the normal level of all son of

businessman or daughter of businessman and I expect to live

at this level. He can't afford it. He used to be rich, now he's poor.

I just cannot be a grateful wife anymore. I cannot serve him

anymore. My heart cannot

be grateful anymore. Because that's the wording that the

companion of the Prophet use. She said, I fear Cofer meaning the

cover of gratitude, I won't be grateful.

So he did nothing wrong. There's no abuse there. There's no

shortage of fulfilling his rights. But she can't fulfill his rights

anymore.

So she she has to pay money, give back the dowry or some similar

amount of money, and he gives the divorce. Okay.

Next.

There is abuse or not fulfilling rights. Like what? My husband he,

I go home, and he's mean to me. He doesn't talk to me. Right? He

ignores me, and he doesn't sleep with me. And marriage is supposed

to be sticking. Or worse than that. He no longer pays any bills.

I have to go work and pay the bills. Now what what does a man

Oh, does a husband Oh, a woman everything? No. He owes her the

roof, the food and the clothes on her back? Oh, he didn't out paying

my bills, my cell phone bills. He doesn't have to pay for your cell

phone. We have to be honest here because some people they think

there's a mistake that's going on that the man has to pay for

everything.

No, he doesn't. He doesn't have to pay for your roof, your food and

the clothes on your back at the level that he married you.

So he married you that you are a woman who came from a middle class

background like many of us know that we have a home. We have a

bunch of clothes for the different seasons. Right? We eat, you know,

Acral martyred and maruf that which is known in the people as

normal. And yet he comes to me and he says, Well, according to the

book of FIP you're gonna live in a studio apartment. There's a sack

of rice over there. You can cook it if you get hungry. Right and

here's a jacket for the winter. And that's all you get.

And he says he says, Well, that's what the books say. Say no, not

acceptable. What motivated? It's by the ORF. So if he stops

providing precepts protecting let's say this, he's a good guy.

But the neighbor keeps walking into the house and gazing at me

and touching me sometimes hugging me and my husband can't stop him.

He doesn't have the power to stop

him. So you he has failed on the level of security. Okay.

He's failed on the level of securing his wife. So she takes

any of those grievances. These are objective grievances. And she says

to the judge, my husband, he failed in this regard. The judge

says, Okay, I divorce you from him. So it's out of the hands of

the husbands at this point. And she doesn't have to pay any money

back, because she has a valid reason, an objectively valid

reason. Okay.

In the absence of the judge, any man can do it. But Imams today,

they're too afraid to do it, because they don't want to destroy

homes. But what they've done, they started to form councils. And on

top of that, the problem with it is that

they're not recognized authorities. So they could say,

Yes, federal, you're divorced from him. But the husband says, well,

take your photo and I rip it up. It means nothing to me. We have

that's why they don't do it. That's another reason they don't

do it.

Okay.

Would mile limit and traveling Fick apply to space travel? Since

it's vertical? Yes, it does. And on top of that, you would be a

musafir the whole time. You're moving around unless you station

once you station, call us you're not gonna suffer.

So that answers the question on space travel. Also, they're gonna

have to have a whole book on this, but also was not even finished

yet. Yeah. That answers the question on the valid divorce and

the types of divorce.

But then also, like the earth is rotating, right? So wouldn't you

have to go to the same space station? So you have to be the

same exact or no? What sounds like if you're out in space, you're a

traveler the whole time. Because the Earth even if you're

stationary, the Earth is still moving. So your house is moving,

and technically your distance is changing. No.

That's true, but it'll definitely be more than 36 miles.

But the moon being a rock from the earth, we can't say it's absolute.

We can't say that is a specular is a speculative factor, an absolute

fact. I guess, like chemically like it's probably the same No,

like you would like to compare this. Yeah, it's quite the same

exact thing. But anyway, when you go to the moon, you're wearing all

these gloves anyway. Oh, yeah. Right. So take it off. You can't

take it off. Yeah.

Also, there's a whole discussion on prayer off the Earth, right?

suspended in the air like that, but we're not going to get into

that.

Some lay Muslim says FTL saying you can marry someone as young as

one year old?

Well, the a man look, marriage has a couple of aspects, one of the

facets of the marriage contract is merely the transition of

responsibility of protection and

support financial support. So technically, if if a father sees

fit, when he in order for him to transfer

the protection of this child

to another man, that is that is a marriage contract. And he may do

that. Because the Sharia assumes that the unlike today's society

that makes the parents demons, no shit, he assumes parents want the

best for their child, the guy on his deathbed and there's another

man there that says he's known for the whole life. I'm gonna marry my

daughter too. Did that means merely that her protect she's now

under your protection as for the actual

fulfillment of the marriage, okay. Then in that case, it is only when

she can bear it.

Alright, so yes, in the city. This is like a very controversial

thing. But I'm here to tell you what the video says.

A father is assumed that he wants what's best for his daughter. So

he may contract make a contract with another man, which is a

marriage contract that whew take over the care of my daughter

because I can't do it anymore. Good.

And the food the support, the protection of the girl will be on

that meant. Then when the girl comes of age, and is physically

capable, then we can discuss now, the issue of the conservation of

the marriage, the conservation can only have so marriage is not just

*. It's not just having * with the girl. It is the protection of

the girl. We don't we don't understand that now. But she did

not just come from modern Americans and British and

Europeans. The city I came for people who lived in very small

villages where it is very possible that a man has a daughter and is

is dying and there's no one else to take care of the daughter,

she's like four years old, he is going to contract the mayor can

make a marriage contract on her behalf to another man in the

village that he trusts

okay

after she marries, if a girl marries

or she has reached a certain age where she is very she understands

the world

okay,

then he has to consult her

and even that I have to check where the conditions are, but

there is a limit to when a man can marry off his daughter and the

limit is when so what is the purpose that Allah has allowed

this is because sometimes that is necessary. Right for protection.

All right.

Could you call that marriage? Betrayal? No, betrothal is a is an

agreement to do something in the future. Engagement. Okay, we

agreed to marry in the future. That's an engagement. But this is

no an actual marriage. Why? Because a betrayal does not have

any Sharia rulings attached to it, except from other men to propose

to the woman. They're not allowed to propose her anymore. All right.

So you got a very beautiful woman. And you need to eliminate the

competition real quick, because you're not that great of a guy.

But for some reason, she's accepting you. Okay, let's get

engaged. As soon as we get engaged, basically, no one else

can can come in to propose to her.

Happens all the time. In small societies. In small communities,

you can have a girl who's like, a 10. And a guy who's like a five.

But she didn't know many other guys. She's like, I'll take this

guy.

He gotta get engaged quick, right? Because if another 10 walks

through the door of the masjid, you're in trouble.

Right? So he gets engaged quick