Shadee Elmasry – Sh Mikaeel Ahmed Smith Commanding Right & Forbidding Wrong
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As I've announced Shrek, Mikayla became Muslim, as a teenager in
Buffalo, New York.
There there was a senator or the daughter alone. It happened to be
the daughter alone. So they when he asks, After his shahada, they
taught him how to make Salah will do. So Richard Fatiha he stayed he
said what's next as a Muslim? They said you sign up for hips
10 years later, he came out of the Marisa Masha Allah haven't
completed his hips study of Arabic grammar, mastery of halophyte phip
aka Thida and all of the Allume that go with the study of the
deen. So he then taught and spent many years as an imam in a small
time Masjid in Maryland. And then he is now teaching with Gollum
Institute which is very well known reputable Institute in Dallas.
And hamdulillah we're able to bring him here is a good friend
and I think it will be the love this whole weekend Shala this is
just going to be like a basically a startup and then tomorrow is
more meat and potatoes.
Alright, so not a man or him hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu
salam ala Sita and I want to be in our Madonna Muhammad wa ala alihi
wa sahbihi wa salam O
Allah Houma in ns a Luca who Buck will hold them and you have book
will hold the Amani Yukari, buena, Illa Obake era Bananaman or Allah
we ask you for your love. We asked you for the love of those people
who love you, or Allah we ask you for the love of those actions
which will bring your love yada but on them in
or Allah, we ask You for element Natvia beneficial knowledge, we
ask You for knowledge that will get us closer to you through
understanding. So our intention and coming to these type of
gatherings is to learn something that will increase our
understanding of Allah subhanaw taala it will create increase our
connection and our closeness to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
salam and, and through that gain some love of their suicide, Salem
and through that gain some love of Allah subhana who wants to honor
this evening Inshallah, first and foremost, I want to extend
JazakAllah clap. I sent her Jessa to Safina society and to the
entire community for inviting me. You know, Dr. Shadi is a great
friend. And when my wife was asking me where I'm going this
weekend, and I told her, she's like, Oh, you're just going to go
chill with your friend up there. Because I you just you're not
going to give lectures, you're going to go chill with your
friend. Just call it that Why are you acting like you're going to go
give talks and teach and stuff. So it handled a lot. What I want to
talk first and foremost is that first thing I want to share with
you guys is you really have to understand the blessing of having
scholars that can relate to you and understand the context and the
text, the context within which they live in the text itself, the
Quran and the Sunnah. There are very, very, very few communities
around the country who have scholars like Dr. Shadi that they
can go to who understand the context that we live in as, as
American Muslims, number one. That's extremely important.
There's a rule and fix that says, Men, Jehovah money for who Ajah
hit, the one who is ignorant of the time in which they live, they
are completely ignorant. So you have people who've mastered the
tradition, they've mastered and learned that tradition under great
scholars, and they have great amounts of knowledge, but what
they lack and it's no fault of theirs, what they lack is the
understanding the context within which we live, and thus how to
apply that knowledge which which they have, and you guys are
blessed with an amazing community in a in an amazing facility.
Subhanallah I mean, the size of this, just alone is such a
blessing, right? Subhan Allah like such a blessing, and not only the
size because a lot of Muslim communities are so impressed with
brick and mortar. They're so impressed with the size of a
masjid, the size of minaret and the prophesy Salam in a hadith. So
he told us that there will come a time when the masjid will be very,
very large and very beautiful. But they will be devoid of any any
guidance any leaders. They won't have that. So MELHEM Yes, get in
NASA Muscarella whoever isn't thankful to people, and today's
football was about what I don't know if everyone is here for
today's clip, but I spoke about entitlement right and
entitlement versus a feeling the sense of
indebtedness to Allah right. And I think sometimes as a community
member, you feel that I'm entitled to have an imam that understands
the shitty authority who knows all the recitations and someone who
can take I'm entitled to that. You are not entitled to that. You are
blessed to have it. The moment you think you're entitled for
something, you won't be grateful for it.
The moment you feel entitled for anything, you lose the ability to
show gratitude for that thing. Because you say what happy is my
right I'm supposed to have that. So to have a leader that
understands the deen and have a imam who understands the religion
in the context, that is a great blessing of Allah subhana wa Tada.
You can sleep at night because you know, I can go to the machine go
ask. And I have someone who understands where we're at and
understands the deen. So that's the first thing I just wanted to
share. You guys are a blessed community. And it's a blessing
just to sit with you and discuss the prophesy sometimes Dean and
discuss something that may be of benefit for us in sha Allah to
Ana. With that said, tonight's topic, insha Allah to Allah,
tonight's topic, inshallah is going to be based off of a very,
very well known Hadith. And the hadith is the suicide Salam he
said
in one Hadith that the example of my nation and the example of what
I have been given
is like the example of a group of people is to hammer Allah Safina
right to a group of people who drew lots to board on to a, a
boat, a large vessel. It's a well known Hadith, well known Hadith.
So the prophets I said them said they drew these lots, right. And
when they drew the lot, some of them pasaba Allah wa Saba above
them, as far as when they drew lots to board this, this this
ship, some of them when they picked out their name, they got
they were under the deck. And some of them they got to sit in first
class on top, really comfortable, fresh air, get to see everything,
all of that.
And the prophesy send them said that as they were traveling every
time the people in the bottom of the ship needed some water. Every
time they needed to get some water. They had to go and use the
men folk a home, they had to go above and they would have to
bother. You know, like when you're flying. And you got the window
seat like today when I was coming, I had the window seat, and I
really had to go to the bathroom. But you know, you don't want to
bother people sometimes. No, you guys just like get up, get up, get
up. I gotta go. I am the only one that feels that. I guess I am
okay, Clara Sharla. So these people were like me, I guess in
that sense that they didn't like to bother the people on the top
deck. So they said to themselves that every time we need water, we
have to make these people get up so that we can walk paths. So they
said hey, why don't we do something? Why don't we just hook
now? Like why don't we just make a hole in the ship.
And and just take water from right there.
Now the prophets of Allah who it was setting them he says that
we're in aka goo Allah ID him.
If the people on the top who know what these people want to do,
if they grab their hand and they stop them
and the Jo when a GA me and then they will be safe at the bottom
and those on top will be safe as well.
But we're in Taku wa Raju, but if they just leave them
you do what you like. We're okay in first class, we don't care what
happens down there. They just leave them the prophesies settle
them he said hello, cool. Hello cool Jimmy and they will all be
destroyed by the actions of these people. This hadith itself is one
of the primary Hadith which speaks about an A very important aspect
of the deen which is the concept of AMR minima roof and Nahanni
LaMancha which is enjoying the good and stopping or prohibiting
the evil.
And so what I want to talk about I want to go into tonight's Holika I
want to go deeper into this concept. And I want us to get a
deeper understanding and appreciation for this topic, but
actually raise our level of understanding on how we go about
doing this important aspect of the deen. First thing we need to
understand is this before we go forward, the first thing you need
to understand is as event family, Josie Rahim Allah explains. He
says the primary way by which evil comes into our lives is through
disobedience of Allah subhanaw taala and the primary way through
which good and fair comes into our lives is through the obedience of
a
Subhan Allah to Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala has created this
world in a way that it's as bad as suburban Musab a cause and effect.
Allah has created us in the realm of cause and effect. And one of
the things that he highlights in the Quran over and over again, is
that the effect of disobedience in sin is hardship. hardship, the
Imam read in Salam today, man out of the indicati for in Allah
Houma, Isha 10 dunka Allah subhanho wa Taala again,
highlighting this cause and effect, that the one who turns
away from my remembrance, this person gets a life of constraint
and depression and tightness inside. And another place Allah
says, I know who as if the person is going up into high altitudes
that their their chest gets tight, their chest gets tight. My point
here for us to understand before we go forward, is you have to
understand how detrimental and harmful sins are and how much good
obedience of Allah subhanaw taala brings into our life. Even family
Josie, he says this is the primary thing we need to understand that
obedience and goodness brings clad disobedience and matzah bring shut
and evil to you. First thing to understand, first and foremost,
after that, we need to understand that the entire role of prophet
hood, the entire purpose of Allah sending prophets to nations is to
correct they're wrong and enjoined, they're good
to pull them away from that thing which is destructive for
themselves.
The sins and disobedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala and to encourage
them towards those things, which which are beneficial for them.
That is the entire purpose of prophethood. So the reason why
this concept of AMR Bill Maher, Ruth, and joining what is good and
prohibiting what is evil is so it's so such it has a it has a
such a pivotal and central aspect of the deen is because that is the
entire purpose of prophethood. And those who understand that
preserve the ethos of the society and preserve the community.
It's very important for us to understand that how important it
is for us to can maintain and encourage the good and keep people
away from that which is evil that which is harmful. And there are so
many verses so many verses where Allah subhana wa Tada encourages
us to do that, and tells us that it is our responsibility. And
unfortunately, we live in a time. I mean, we live in a time now.
Like I was
Subhanallah Can you tell your story? So I went shopping for some
new boots before I came to visit Dr. Shadi because he looks fly all
the time, right? So I can't I told him I can't go to Jersey with
those old old chapel Joe hair. Oh man. I can't wear those chapels.
Man. Those slippers, I gotta come with some nice boots. So I just
got those boots just to come visit you. So we were shopping for the
boots, guys. And I tried them on.
And I asked my wife, I said how do they look? And she's like,
right, so we're in Texas, which is like down south. Okay. So this
African American sister she's working there. She's old auntie,
right? She's like, Girl, I'm not joking is how she
you gotta tell you a man's he looked good.
Man's
man's need to hear that. They're like little boys man's like to
shoot. I'm sorry. She says man's man's like to hear that. They're
like little boys. They want to be patted on, you bet. And she pulled
my wife to the side and start giving her a Holika on how to
treat me.
And I'm like
what's up? And so what my wife brought up to me is because we
were talking about how, you know, back 20 years ago, the community
was a community in that down the street. I couldn't act up. Because
I would get corrected by just the lady down the street.
And we pray we had this understanding of what was good in
the community and what was not good in the community. And we
collectively upheld that.
But we're at a time now where it seems like the kids don't even
play outside no more.
It seems like why are you correcting in the masjid? Why are
you correcting my child
in the masjid?
Who are you to tell my child to be quiet?
Well, we don't even in here share that same understanding of what is
good and and a communal understanding. So what
I want us to understand is that we, as a community have an
understanding of what is my roof? What is good and the word mod
roof, which means good is also what's known. What's recognize.
It's what's recognized in the word monka, which is evil is that which
is strange, and that which isn't correct, but it will only be
strange if we as a community, keep it as strange.
The moment we stopped speaking upon it, the moment we stopped
saying anything, all of a sudden, we ended up where the prophesy
Selim said, the Moncure becomes my roof, and the roof becomes Mancha,
the thing which is strange becomes normal, and that which was
supposed to be normal becomes a strange thing.
So we have a collective responsibility to maintain that
standard. And guess what, even if you yourself, don't hold up to
everything, you owe it to the to our community to hold up those
standards. So So I want us to really understand what this role
of AMR Bill maruf the prophets I send them he says that one group
of the community will see another group of the community doing evil,
and they won't say anything. And when and the prophesy some said,
they won't wake up in the morning, allow Kulu bois hit Allah kalbi
worried that they will wake up in the morning and all the hearts
have become one heart, not good. Those who knew what was good have
now lost that.
Because they sat back and just let it go.
They sat back and just let it go. They didn't correct it. They
didn't speak on it. They didn't think that there was a a hawk of
Allah that has to be spoken on. And now that effect has come to
the whole community. This is our marble maruf. This is not Han and
Monica, this isn't joining the good. And this is prohibiting the
evil. And this is why this is why Islam values the community so
much.
And that Auntie in the store met she was just don't ever build
models.
That's what's up. But you see, like, in order for her to do that
she had the trust that my wife would accept that.
She had, she said, Girl, let me talk to you. Let me talk to you.
Did you understand the level of trust that has to be there in
order for her to give that advice? Such personal issue to
me, my wife loved it. She said that's, that's amazing. The
Sisters is real. That's beautiful. And then she said it was coming
from an elder so it felt like advice to it felt like she was
just sincerely caring about who I was. But hey, so today, what are
we going to talk about? The thing is this. Although many of us have
probably heard lectures about enjoying the good and prohibiting
the evil, I feel that many of us have not actually studied how to
actually do it. So today's halacha is not going to be just one of
kind of inspiration but one of knowledge, because I'm going to
teach you I'm going to take you step by step through Imams, Azadi
Rahim Allah has advocates for how to enjoin the good and how to
prohibit the evil because Omar bin Abdulaziz he says, Whoever acts
without knowledge corrupts more than they fix.
Whoever acts without knowledge corrupts more than they sometimes
I'm in the kitchen cooking in my wife's butt job battle. Just get
out of here. Go. And I'm like, I'm trying to make it. No, because
when you leave, it's gonna be a mess. I'm trying to help No, no,
no, you don't know how to help. Just leave
you guys. No, no. Never happened to you. Okay. Wow. Chatter you
don't cracking up jokes, man. It's a tough crowd, bro. sha Allah,
clad in sha Allah Sharla.
So do you understand that example, Ibn Ahmad bin Abdulaziz, he says,
Whoever acts without knowledge, they mess up more than they fix.
So when we talk about, um, urban models, if you don't actually know
how to do that, then that correction can actually be very
detrimental. Very, very detrimental. You can cause deep
emotional problems with the people you're trying to actually correct
and cause more harm than benefit. So, so what I'm going to do is I'm
going through email even Imam Ghazali is a Illuma gene, which is
a gem it has such beautiful lessons for for us and he actually
goes through the the etiquettes of how to correct wrongs in sha
Allah. Okay, and while I'm doing this at any time, please ask a
question. If you miss up miss a point asked me Can you repeat that
one? If you want more explanation, then ask and we'll go through it
inshallah. But Claire Inshallah, let's
Speak in sha Allah. So even Kamal Josie Imam decided Rahim Allah to
Allah, he looks at this issue from different perspectives. He says
the first perspective is about the one who's correcting the wrong.
Okay, that's the first perspective. We're going to talk
about the person who is actually doing the correction the
correcting and what things need to be present in that person. Okay,
first perspective
the very first thing I mashallah brothers in Brothers is not the
best memory yo
the brothers in every Holika they always have like this like memory
Subhanallah right so is this you know, I'm talking about brother
right
huh? It's a chat
my brother's got great memories man. Mashallah, you go back home?
Yeah, by and kiss Mozu pay buzz. I'm robbing mouth.
You ask the sisters. What was it about? This is it right here? Ma
sha Allah Masha Allah, Allah you were fic Allah you look like if
you Tofik brothers mashallah
I conditions, conditions for the one who's correcting the wrong
you got phones brothers, you can still take them out in sha Allah.
And number one, he says that
first and foremost, the one correcting the wrong for it to be
obligatory for you to correct the wrong this person must be what's
called Michaelis. Michaelis means legally responsible, meaning not a
child, not a child. Okay, Michaelis is the first thing the
person has to for the for a person to be it binding on you to correct
a wrong binding by Shinya that you have to correct it. Number one
condition is that you yourself must be someone legally
responsible. What do I mean by legally responsible? Do children
pays the cat? No. Do children have to pay the someone with mental
illness have to pray to someone who have mental illness have to
pay zakat? No. These are people that are not legally responsible.
So the first thing for it to be binding on you is that you must be
McCullough you must be legally responsible from the shittier
perspective. Number two, the next necessary necessary aspect of the
person correcting the wrong is that they must be Muslim in order
for it to be binding on them. And for you to be held accountable
before Allah, you must believe in Allah subhana wa Tada. That
doesn't mean a non Muslim can't correct the wrong we're speaking
from the perspective of Sharia that when the shit ESA that it's
binding on you when these conditions are found, okay? So the
person is legally responsible, the person is Muslim. And the next
condition is the person has a generally
upright character,
upright character. What he says here is that if you yourself are
indulged in sin,
you still have a responsibility to correct wrong, listen closely. You
still have a responsibility to correct wrong because if we made
it a condition that only the person that has no sense start
correcting wrong. No one's correcting anything. No one's
correcting anything. So he says that even if you are a sinner, you
have to still correct or wrong. But he says something very
powerful which is which he says that I'm an fossick Bill Maher
roof when Nahan mancha you feed he says when the person who's
drenched in sin tries to encourage good and prohibit evil law you
feed he says it doesn't do much.
It doesn't have it doesn't have the weight behind it. It doesn't
have as much kick in and weight behind it. Okay, and then he
continues with the next condition which is that
this is a very important one. Number four.
Now number four, number four brothers see his memory Masha
Allah
kono who Kadir he says you have to know you actually have an ability
to change that wrong now this goes back that's number four the
ability to actually change it I'm gonna break this one down. He says
that you know the Hadith min Rahman ko mancha whoever sees that
moniker for fell yoga year who let him change it for Ilam aesthetic
for what is the Hadith
for Brd for LM Estetik family Sani Vietnamese the tip for people be
with Africa full Eman. There are suicides Selim, he said Whoever
sees the wrong let that person change it. If he cannot do so, or
she cannot do so, first try to change it physically.
Then try to change it through your tongue and the least of which is
to hate it in
Your heart. Now, before I go forward, I want to stop and
digress for a moment. hating it in your heart is becoming difficult
for your children.
Please understand this,
they are losing that ability to hate certain sins, through
desensitization and through the norms of society. And that is very
dangerous for our faith. The lowest level is I see a wrong and
I go that is wrong and destructive for our society. And my Allah has
told me that, but slowly, slowly, slowly that even hating here is
going away. The in one Hadith, a beautiful Hadith, the Prophet SAW
Selim said that the one who witnesses a wrong but hates it in
their heart, Allah Subhana Allah will reward that person as someone
who harbor Anna was not even present in the one who wasn't
present but hears about a sin, but misses it. Man, I wish I was there
last night. Oh, I heard it was lit.
I wish I was there. The Allah will give that person that reward as if
they were present. And they weren't even there, just because
what the heartfelt when it heard about it.
You understand what I'm saying here. So one of the things we
really must protect is that the heart stays sensitive to wrong and
not desensitized from it. It's a sensitive. So here he breaks this
one down. And this is very, very, very important section. So please
listen closely. He says that, this this fourth one that you actually
have the ability to change, he says he teaches it on four levels.
Listen closely. If a person knows that the wrong will be removed by
my statement or my words.
Then it is necessary for that it's watching for that person to remove
that wrong. Example your own small child, your own 12 year old child,
your own even maybe 13 year old child 1415 You know that My Word
or my action will stop this wrong. In that situation? What is the
outcome? What's the hokum?
It's wajib meaning you must change it. Everyone with me? That's the
first level second level. Imam Ghazali says an alum and neck can
ama hula yen far. Well, I know who inter kendama volleyball for Jada
tough it will job and who he says second level? You know that if I
speak? It's not gonna do any good. No good at all. I know, based on
my experience, that my words in this situation will do nothing.
Number one. And number two, if I do speak, there'll be physical
harm to me.
What does Imam Ghazali say in this condition? Sakata unka? Will Jube
Sharia says you don't have to speak up on anything. See, I want
you to this is an urban model the rulings of it. You need to
understand on a deeper level people say well, such my cousin
was doing this. And it was I supposed to stop him? Well, listen
closely. I'll tell you. Does everyone understand? So what's the
second level? Yes.
The first level, the first level is you know that the evil will be
removed by your statement or words
in that case, and no repercussions, no repercussions at
all.
At all. In that case, you have to speak up. So you know your
grandson, your your son, you know, maybe not your brother. I don't
know. All right. So someone who you know if I speak it will stop
it.
Everyone understand level number two, you know, if I say something
doesn't do anything, and not only that, if I say something
I might get physically hurt.
Right? I might get physically hurt.
What does Imam Ghazali here say?
It's not watch up anymore. There is no obligation for you to
correct is wrong anymore. Is everyone with me and understand
any questions?
Hit Inshallah, level number three.
Yeah, and um, you know, and in Cavalia up, you know, your word
won't do anything. You know, I speak is not going to do anything.
It's my brother. You're not gonna listen to me. Right? However,
however, I know nothing's going to happen to me either.
There's no threat. It's not going to harm me. Nothing, no harm is
going to come to me whatsoever. What do you think it is here? Your
turn?
Why'd you have to correct it?
So he says that it's Mr. Hub. To correct it. It's good to correct
it so that you uphold the standards of the dean, but it's
not watch it because it's because there's no point. You know, for
sure. Remember when we say no, you know, I know my brother's not
going to listen to me right now. Not maybe he will know I know he's
not going to listen to me.
Everyone understand the situation. So he says it's not watching,
however, because you're upholding the standards of the deen because
you're reminding him of of Islam and you're upholding that it's
still desirable for you and Mr. hub that you you speak on that
wrong.
Okay, inshallah. All right, what number was that show?
Huh? We on for that was for? Okay, we're on for mashallah, when you
sit in first row, brother, you're gonna get it.
Okay, okay. Don't be angry with me. You notice they've kept the
front row empty, right?
Yes, exactly. Exactly. This is three levels to the fourth or
fifth one. Exactly. Great job. Okay.
Next one, number four. Number four situation. I am Anna, who you saw
will be my crew when
you know.
There'll be some harm to you. But you can stop it. Well, I can Yep,
two little Moncure be fairly. I know I'm gonna get some hardship.
Some some some some. Something's gonna come back at me. But I can
still stop it.
Like he says here. You break the bottle of alcohol. You just throw
it out.
You grab the thing out of his mouth. You know he's doing some
drugs or something. You * it away you break it.
But you know what's coming next?
You know what's coming next.
So he says
for Jada tougher utami
Your turn.
Your turn? Yeah.
He says there's no obligation on you.
Number one, no obligation. However, it's most the hub because
the prophets I saw them in a hadith says Kalama to hawk in the
soul Tanja are the one who speaks truth in front of a tyrant. That's
the best jihad.
So it's not logic, the Dean see how beautiful the dean, the dean
is to say you have to do it now risk your life. They say no, you
don't have to do it. However. Ah, yes.
So we're gonna get to that right now.
So the question asked is what's next?
And he says here, when we say, you know, he says your holiday better
than your, your your? How would we translate that?
Your
the overwhelming likelihood? We don't know anything? 100% Sure.
Right. So are we saying the overwhelming likelihood is is what
we're considering here. Like, I'm very, very short. My Words won't
hurt. I'm very, very sure this guy is going to try to hit me if I do
something, so on and so forth. Everyone understand, cool. Now the
question that was asked here is,
he says, when not only bill makura what do we mean by repercussion?
He says that about gotten physical harm, physical harm, or extreme
emotional harm to you.
physical harm or a serious emotional harm. He says As for sub
was shut them angry face and golly one curse word one. What do you
Why are you correcting me? He says for they said the opposite and
Allah so good. This is not an excuse to stay quiet. Lee and then
Ahmed bin Maluka Buddha al Qaeda, cada Lika he says physical harm
someone's gonna hit you. Someone's gonna harm you physically, or
emotional, serious harm. emotional pain hurts. We'll talk about that
in tomorrow's workshop. Emotional Intelligence. emotional pain can
be very serious and that emotional abuse can be worse than physical
abuse. Far worse, far worse. In the brother goes I didn't touch
her. We didn't even touch her. You destroyed her heart.
That's even worse. That's a little too.
Anyways, he says. But if it's just a
word someone says who you think you are, or someone getting angry
at you is a no no, no, no. This is normal. You have to put up with
that. Does everyone understand?
Everyone get this any questions?
Yes, yes, please.
Please.
So yesterday we had
I was in a similar situation.
Were the person I was speaking with.
And he had a very open opinion on religion and
there were two other
main.
And where was this at work? Okay
escalated into the ledger, and
it got to the point where he started bashing religion.
So it can transfer that, you know, I tried to include all the
religions.
Because he was saying, you know, maybe there is
no, I have to say, you know, if you look at Islam
the message will be revealed, or what people want you people to
hear was their character. You know, the same thing with Jesus,
Moses and with all the prophets that came before him, for sure.
And that that was of course, like, that was one thing that I was able
to say.
When the negativity,
you know, was still within the plan, yeah.
Just just backup, there's no benefit. That's a beautiful
example. There's some times you know, when people aren't in a
receptive mood, and that's what I want you to learn from this is
there's times where me and you know, you have children, and you
know, when your child is most receptive and when they're not
receptive. And you you say something at a time, or I should
do it the other way. Children know, when their parents are in a
receptive mood. They know when to ask you for something they know
when you're not receptive. So what you mom's is out of here is
teaching us is so beautiful, because the Shadia doesn't put a
burden on you for no reason. And if you know that there's
absolutely no fica no benefit, then she is like, no, there's back
off, you don't have the necessary necessity. You're not obliged by
the Cydia to now speak up and correct that wrong.
Okay, and sha Allah say, Okay, now, any other questions about
what we're, we talked about so far, because we're gonna go on to
the next part of it. Insha Allah. Okay. So,
yes, yes, yes, yes.
Okay, so, I'm going to come back to that when I talk about the
levels of how you correct or wrong. Is that okay? Okay. All
right. Sure. Okay, now,
the next thing, is this.
The next section in your notes or memory should be,
what
types of wrongs Can I correct? That's the next section. What
types of wrong? Can I correct? So, Imam Ghazali. He says, Here are
the conditions for the wrong that you're trying to correct. And this
is a very important one for our communities. Very important.
Listen closely. He says who are coolamon como Jude and Phil had
warhead Lael matassa be lady to justice. Ma illumine Kony HeMan
current be lady HD hard for her the Aruba to shoot NAB hat and her
he says number one condition is that kono who mancha that thing
has to be number one a wrong that is
B Grady he had has to be considered a wrong that is
so so let me explain it this way. Bear with me. You all know we have
different mother hip. Right? We have different methods. Right? And
for the most part, the big things there are things that are wrong,
according to everyone. Right. Zina comer think there are things that
are wrong to everyone. Agreed. There are some things that one
month have might say this thing is one card not good to do. And
another month have may say no, it's totally fine.
You understand what I mean? Let me give an example. And we're not
about to have a fifth class here. Okay. We are not about to open the
door and fifth here. I'm just giving an example.
This Shafi they eat everything from the ocean. Right? So at Red
Lobster, they in there cracking it up, pulling out everything.
Okay, the Hanafi we don't really eat the lobsters and stuff. We say
no, it's only fish that you can eat from the ocean.
The key here for correcting wrongs. Is you need to know
conclusively is that thing actually across the board wrong.
That's the next one. You need to have
knowledge to know is that thing conclusively across the board
wrong. You can't walk up to someone and start pulling the
lobster from their plate and saying what are you doing?
And he's like, What are you doing? I'm eating lobster.
And you like, that's haram?
It's like, Yo, please leave no it's not
cracks open another claw you know? So you need to know for sure and
and what happens is many people come from a country that CC fic is
a geographical phenomena. Fit is naturally before Internet is a
geographical phenomenon. A scholar moves to a place all those people
follow his method as a hobby moves to India, and now everyone follows
us a hobby they weren't gonna let me check another opinion on this
issue.
No, it's not possible. Abu Musa actually goes to Yemen, everyone's
following up with Musashi. Even Massoud goes to Kufa. Everyone
powers in Kufa even Masood. Correct, cool. So what happens is
when people come here,
they've only seen one Islam. And when Imam goes Allahu Akbar
when the email goes, Allahu Akbar they like
when the Imam goes Maliki, oh, Medina they really bought the
flip.
I went in this masjid, they were reading some weird Quran. I ain't
going there no more.
Yeah, I'm saying that person has little knowledge because they grew
up in a place they saw that as Islam, they come to America and
see this melting pot of different cultures and different
representations of the same Deen. And now they're really really
having this eye crisis of self avoid what was wrong the whole
time.
And they start changing and this and that, and whatever, follow the
Quran and Sunnah only. And then whatever, right, whatever. That's
a whole different issue, whatever. The point being, I'm trying to say
is that you can't go around correcting wrongs that are not
across the board wrongs. Now, I will add a caveat to that though.
When I'm talking to my daughter, or my family,
then I can go on with that.
She's not telling me well, this method says this. Because in this
house, this is how we roll. Do you understand what I'm saying?
Yeah, I didn't get that.
Okay, so there's a norm in our house. There's a norm of so my
daughter walks in, but she's only five right now. Okay, so I'm just
saying, maybe one day, maybe I'm talking big before she actually
like, you know, anyways, she walks in with some some red lobster. And
like, Dad, we cook in this today, I'm going no, we not know, get
that out. Maybe when she grew, she grows up, she can do her own
thing. But the point I'm trying to say is, I think a caveat there is
within a community, within a community of close community.
Then you can correct those wrongs in the community, when it's
understood. Now in a community as diverse as your community as large
as your community. No, go with the rule we just learned. Everyone
understand the caveat I'm giving here? No,
you don't agree?
Yes, I'm asking you. Because you don't seem convinced.
Do you understand why? It'll be? It'll be chaos in the house.
I know for sure. Like the kid with the boys bodies were really long
braids and stuff. And it's an Indian family. And it looks very
strange. The dad says, Hey, you have a valid opinion that allows
you to do that. Meanwhile, you try to do anything. But is that even a
Moncur though? Is that any methods that you can't have breaks?
Like
okay, that's a different okay.
And we stopped him and told him we're going to cut your hair
really? Subhanallah
is that he's dead. He's okay with him. He told him I'm okay. All
right, so that's a family. Yeah, definitely. Definitely understood.
That's why I said me in the lobster. That's how we That's how
we roll. Everyone understand this one. This will save you a lot of
trouble in the masjid.
Does everyone understand and it also raises your knee to learn
more. You have to learn more before you just assume a wrong you
have to Imams as it used to say that I don't I see very people
seldom people doing wrong because I know how diverse the opinions
are. Meaning when I see someone praying a certain way, then I'm
not assuming automatically I'll give you an example.
You ever walk past someone and they pray and and they catch eye
contact with you.
You know I'm saying you pray. You walk past and they
I lock eyes.
Right? Like what do I do right now? Do I Do I say hi? Say hi. Do
you like, Hey, are you doing? Or do I look down? What do I do?
Who knows the opinion of the HANA biller? I've been humbled. What is
their madhhab? Say on were you supposed to look? Anyone know?
Straight ahead.
Straight ahead. And he says at nothing though, you know, when you
wake up for Fudger how you pray, where do you look at Fajr time
your eyes are open, you're looking at none.
You know what I mean? He says you look straight ahead and not
nothing. So you see someone looking around he like showing you
know how to pray it following up correct opinion.
You just raise yourself up right there, bam, through knowledge. You
I'm saying you have to keep learning, you have to keep
learning you have to keep learning. Okay.
The next thing about the wrong action is that the action has to
be done publicly in order for you to be mandated to correct it. It's
necessarily wrong, you know what's wrong, and it's happening
publicly. Meaning you don't have to spy to find out.
You understand what I'm saying? If you have to go out of your way
that wasn't watchable upon you to even correct in the first place.
That which is done in the in the closeness of the home is not
necessary for you to correct so long as that doesn't spill out.
Yes.
He says once it comes out of the home that's not in the home
anymore. Once it comes out, and that action is still going on, it
needs to be corrected.
It needs to be corrected. Now this happened with Omar been caught Bob
though and would have been caught Bob he heard something going on
inside someone's San courtyard.
So during his Khilafah he was Khalifa he heard you know interim
is planning something's going on inside they're like they get down
over there like not in my head. It's a lifer. They don't go like
that. So he jumped over. He jumped in and when he addressed the man
he said I'm doing wrong but you're doing two wrongs
you're doing two wrongs you're doing two justice spying on me.
And you've come in without permission and old metal top
backed up.
He backed up I guess you're right. I wasn't supposed to do this. So
what he says here he's he says on your corner law he then literally
just said Be ready to justice. That for you. The thing is, this
is for me, I need to know. When do I have to buy hola correct the
wrong?
This is what I'm teaching you. When do when is it obligatory?
wajib on me to correct the wrong when it's done openly in front of
me. But I'm not obliged to go and correct things done in private. Do
you understand the language we're saying here? It's about when the
what when it's wajib for me, necessary for me to correct the
wrong does that make any sense? Sharla?
Yes, in terms of
what about cases of abuse that somebody so when it comes to
that's come out now.
That's a lie you hit Billa Giada de su Ilam and do them Allah does
not like for us to openly talk about
su evil except for people who have been oppressed when you've been
oppressed you come out the prophesies or the Hadith someone
was wronging someone the prophesy some said was put every put your
stuff on the lawn. So that when people walk past they say what
happened? Why is your stuff in front of your house? Because this
person is wronging? me that's not in the house anymore. That's out.
So when the community finds out about abuse, that was he was
trying to keep quiet and hidden. When it when that comes out we
need to correct that. That has to be corrected. It is wiser for us
to correct that. Collectively. That is our responsibility to
correct. Okay. So then he says
yes, he says the next thing is this on your Kunal Moncure. Phil
had, I think I may have mentioned this that is happening right now.
He says like, if the action is happening right now you have to
correct it. And if you know it's about to happen, you have to
correct it. But if it's just maybe it might happen in the future
that's just sort of done or bad suspicion and we're not supposed
to have suspicion. So if it's happening now, or you know, based
on circumstantial things that is bound to happen, you have to
correct that thing. Okay.
All right.
We're good on time shall 500 Okay, now we want to talk about
the methods for correcting evils and the levels of correcting
evils.
The method and the levels and the methodology for going about
correcting evils, meaning, the scale to what you do first,
second, third, fourth, what are the scale so that from an Islamic
perspective, okay, now Yes?
Well, there's no stopping and evil if it's done already. So we're
specifically talking about stopping an evil. You got I'm
saying, so the person it happened already, of course, we're going to
address that. But you won't call that stopping an evil because it's
not present right now. Yes, we will still address something that
happened in the past, to make sure it doesn't happen in the future or
something like that. But we're talking right now specifically
about when is it necessary, necessary for me to stand up and
stop something? And that's when it's happening right now are about
to happen? Okay, someone was drinking and driving. Just give an
example. Right. Then while they're about to do that, you got to stop
it right there. They did it yesterday, while it was yesterday.
What can I do right now about that particular action?
That's all okay.
Okay, Imam Ghazali. Here, he gives us
around eight levels of action that will be taken. Okay. Now, first
thing you need to understand in Islam, there is no vigilantism in
Islam. Okay. Without without a Khalifa or a government, there are
certain things that can't be corrected with force. Understand
that. All right. So obviously, if there was a Khalifa, if there was
a Kazi, then some of these these will fall under the executive
branch of that government, right. So what he says here, there are
eight levels, the highest levels I'm going to give you don't even
apply to us because we don't live in that type of in that type of
theocracy, you could say, do you understand what I mean? Okay, let
me give all the examples, you'll know exactly what I mean. Level
number one
is explanation, explaining to the person the wrong that they're
doing. I'm gonna go through each one, but I'm gonna give you all of
them right now. Number one is explaining the wrong
number two,
gently.
No, no, no, you won't work. No, it doesn't.
Okay.
Okay.
Number three, number two was telling the person to stop. So one
is explanation. You tell your child, son,
that thing is not allowed. That's bad that you just explained to
them number one, number two. Number two is a Nike. Okay, stop.
Stop it, you you admonish the person and advise them. So you now
you you talk to them? No, you have to stop this. You have to stop
this you can't do this.
Next number five, using harsh language within the bounds of
Sharia
harsh language. Within Sharia though, obviously, you can't now
do haram to correct the wrongs. Right. So strong harsh words. You
show your anger without
without going outside of the bounds of Sharia number what
number five.
physically changing the wrong so you grab that thing, you break it,
you grab that thing, you take it away, you grab the keys to the
car, you physically now use your your your your your hand to stop
that thing.
Number six,
though,
hmm.
Okay, so next one.
Warning of physical punishment. Now this is where it's not
vigilantism. This doesn't apply to us. But I'm just teaching you all
of it. Okay. We don't do this warning, a physical punishment.
And the next one is physical punishment. All right. And again,
this is not this is not in the con those last two, Imam Ghazali he
says that if there's no Khalifa soltana Imam, you don't even get
into that. Because you don't have jurisdiction to actually
give someone corporal punishment or anything like that. You don't
have that. Now, let me explain each of these levels, okay.
The first level is the explanation.
And what he says here is you have to understand that many times out
of ignorance a person is involved in a certain action that's wrong.
So we automatically assume that they
must know so we jumped to level two and three
and all you had to do is just explain to that person that this
thing was wrong Do you understand what I mean by that?
So he says that's the first level which is this just explanation of
that he says for many people either out of UCLA and UCLA and he
says many people when they just know they'll stop Oh, I didn't
know I didn't even know we weren't supposed to okay and they stopped
right right after that okay
he says though about this one listen closely for either
candidate tidy through cash funnel our more than the little fella
Buddha and you Alija who either be looked for roughly he says because
when you're explaining to people, you're exposing them to their
ignorance you must make sure this level happens with a lot of
gentleness and care this level of explaining when you tell someone
you to know you're exposing their ignorance, he says exposing cash
fee he says cash up this is more embarrassing sometimes than cash
you have older
he's like this is very embarrassing, this is hard for
people to deal with many times. So you have to be extremely gentle
and extremely careful about how you how you go about explaining
just explaining that wrong to the person
okay.
Okay height inshallah. Next one,
which was telling them to stop. And included in this kind of
actually guys is the admonishment and advice. He says.
This one, also Kulu Baraka be chuffed button will look fun, he
says, This one also has to be done with gentleness, and with love
men, Lady Antifa. Here's the deal. This is very important. Please
listen, mark this down. You must have love for the person you're
trying to guide. If you don't truly love that person, and you
care more about just getting your message across, then you may do
more harm than good. Think of it this way. If it was your mother
stuck in that thing? How would you explain it to her? Would you just
drop the hawk on her? Mom, I told you now you do what you want to
do?
No, you want her to actually take that in. So the key ingredient
with this advice is the person you're talking to must feel true
love from you.
That's why my wife, I told you Oh, she's like girl, yo man's got to.
She said I felt love for her. And she's telling her how to
compliment her husband. And she's so willing to take if you came
late, you have no idea what I'm talking about was a joke from
earlier. So good. Like was he talking about but she felt loved
from that woman. That's why she was so willing to accept such
personal advice. Because it was out of all out of love for that
person. So the key thing that I find the problem is people are
more concerned with dropping the hook.
Then getting the hook through to a person's mind and heart.
And if you truly cared about the person, you would find the most
strategic way to place that message in their heart.
The most strategic way
and that's how the prophesy Selim did it.
He found the most strategic way to place a message in someone's
heart.
Okay, he says
Subhan Allah bhayandar La he another la hemlo Who you look at
this person when mercy and love you have to have that, that
feeling inside.
And another thing here too, I'm going to add something that Imams
as Ali doesn't put here, Imam Shafi says, Whoever corrects a
person publicly, has not corrected them, but rather humiliated them.
And whoever corrects a person silently, quietly, has given the C
has given true advice.
So many we all understand if that advice comes to me in front of
everyone. It's our that's what am I going to do? Everyone's looking
at me right now. But if you came to me quietly and secretly, Imam
Shafi says that's in the sea. Hmm. Not allowed. Not not not in
public, telling someone What are you doing? That's just humiliation
of people? Okay.
Say it in sha Allah. And then he talks about sometimes people want
to correct people publicly. And he says in really in reality, you
just got a dirty heart. You just got issues in your heart. Those
who are
just concerned with openly correcting people and publicly
correcting wrongs of individual people. You just like to feel over
people you get you get joy out of making someone feel bad and you
have issues in your heart you really need to take care of. You
really need to go to someone and get that corrected.
Okay. He goes on the next one about harsh words, harsh words. He
says when Ebrahim spoke to his people, he said Oh, Fiddler Kumari
Mata boo Dune, and dune in LA. Ooh, Fiddler calm is like, like,
it's a harsh word. It's, it's, it's, it's using more force. So
when Ibrahim was was was after explaining to them, after talking
to them gently, he's like, offended. Look, I'm like, What's
wrong with you guys? What's going on? Stop this. And he's getting
harsher with his statement. So he's saying that
it's necessary for you to now go to the next level, you are a bit
more harsher. You emphasize more, but he says again.
One second, have fun. Remember not to break the bounds of shittier
though.
Okay, now you're getting serious with your brother. You're getting
more you already explained to by John, you already gave him the see
how you sent a Bian to him for a YouTube talk. And now you're
actually talking to him and you're like, brother, bro, you got to
stop this now. He says don't go beyond Shadia though. As you get
harsh. You can't you have to stay within the means of Sharia. As you
become harsh and speak to him in this way. Next one, changing it
physically with your hand physically changing it with your
hand. He says like breaking the Battle of shut off.
breaking something that is just there using haram, you just break
it? Nope. I'm breaking it. No, he didn't. He says you know what's
better, though? Listen, this is beautiful. He says what's even
better is you don't break it. But you make them break it.
You get them in and my mom used to do this to me right?
Like she was punishment or something? No, you break it like
me. You break it you break. I can't break. No, you're gonna
break it. I gotta break it.
So he says it's better that instead of you breaking it,
instead of you pushing them out. You say no, you get up you walk
out. Get walk out of here. Is that you making them leave somewhere?
How are you making them go to the masjid? He says Don't drag them.
Make him stand up. And you walk.
And I'm my mom used to use all this all the time. She knew it was
more effective. If I did it, then if she made me do it. Everyone
understand?
Okay.
So the last one, the higher levels are to warn someone a physical
punishment. Like if you don't do this, then I'm going to give you a
spanking or something. I don't know if you I don't know yours.
thing on
the issue. I know that's a touchy issue. Everyone's all. You don't
hit kids, you hit kids, whatever. So I don't touch the issue. I know
what my mom did to me. And I was okay.
That's all I'm gonna say. You can have your perspective. I respect
that. But it was good for me. Um, the law. Anyways, but I know
there's different pedagogical thoughts and ideas now regarding
that, so I'll respect that. But he says this is not for us. This is
for like, as I said before, guys, when there's like actual, like a
government or something like that this is the end for us. This is
the end there's no more we can do in a wrong in these cases. All
right. Brothers and sisters, there's just one more. One more
thing he says. There are three general if you want to summarize
he says there are three general things that need to be in the
person who's correcting it's kind of a summary but it's good, he
summarized it. He says knowledge
piety and good character. These three things have to be in the one
that's offering the correct the correction knowledge and we
already explained that piety so that you're doing it for the right
reason. And number three is a good o'clock that o'clock is what will
actually get the message across inshallah.
Brothers and sisters. This was the content I wanted to cover with
you. And I want us to understand how important correcting wrongs is
a morbid model for Nahan. And Monica, how essential it is to our
deen. But remember the statement I started today? Whoever does action
without knowledge Omar bin Abdulaziz says Men amela B lady el
absurdum akademin my useless the one who acts without knowledge
will mess up more than they actually fix. So I want to open up
the floor for questions and comments at this time inshallah
Tada
Yes
What happens if the action keeps on happening? I think we have
authorities now and we have institutions that exist in our
country that you call in don't come to the masjid many times much
is not gonna be able to take care of that problem. We need to go to
professional and get serious help for those issues. Abuse is a crime
you don't come to the mom for abuse you know, I'm saying serious
abuse needs to be taken to authorities and take handled the
correct way. You know, I'm saying I think we need to go the pathways
that other people go when they really want to correct these
wrongs. You know, that's how I would go at that. These are not
things that we just come in and the Imams office and talk about
when there's serious abuse happening then we need authorities
is that we need action to take place.
It was yesterday about us so like as an attorney, so I think that's
beautiful
Oh, that was yesterday. Oh, Mashallah. Okay.
One of the things he said Oh, you're right there I was looking
for
one of the things he said was that also that they don't take abuse
from the past. They take
Subhanallah we just we just talked about that.
The past as a prior, but they wouldn't even take you as a
plaintiff or whatever. Like the abuse wasn't present. You see
that's what we just covered Imam Ghazali
Subhanallah
yes
been covered up
in the abstract,
but let's say VM has been a pattern because it says
I think that pattern of something that's has a pattern, it should be
treated like the one that's actually actually happening right
now.
That's how I would treat that one. Because of the the likelihood of
it happening again is just like that person addicted to alcohol.
We know what's gonna happen tomorrow. I know what he's gonna
do. So I'm treating it like it's happening right now.
Several
years ago
silence with police officers
Yeah, that's wrong. I mean, it should be it has to be addressed.
I don't know the exact course of action we will take. But that
thing has to be brought out. That has to be exposed and it has to be
the bullet has to be oppression has to be removed. We stand up for
justice. And that we need to be standing up for justice no matter
where it is. Even if it's against our own selves. You Alladhina
amanu Cohen what is it?
No, not that one. Are you adding armor? No.
Yes, but before that, you gotta go back now.
Kunal ko Amina coo ko Amina Bilquis stand up for justice
Willow Allah and forsaken, even if it's against yourself. So
yeah, there's many different happens in police. It happens
different places. But we need people to have courage to speak
out. We need it. We need environments where people can
actually
report those things. Well, Allahu Allah. Allah knows best. I don't
know, what will be the course you want to comment on that. Dr.
Shadi?
That comment was about
what was this which which angles when there's a wrong happening,
and you have groups of people covering up keeping it quiet
things like that, like how do you address those wrongs? And I was
like, you just got to expose those things. The person wants to have
knowledge that they're covering it up.
Yeah. equally as bad as Exactly, exactly.
They you'd like to have certain knowledge and that may necessitate
that we go outside of the community to
that may necessitate that I go outside of this circle of people
covering I go somewhere else. Say this is what's going on over here.
We need your help out here to correct this wrong right here.
Other questions?
Allah make it easy. It's very difficult, Allah make it easy.
Yes.
Yes
yes, of course not. A Yes, ness? Yes, there are levels definitely.
The Kaleo center is doing a lot of research regarding what is
considered Micallef are legally responsible and not legally
responsible from the mental health perspective. So all slight mental
illnesses of course would not absolve you of legal
responsibility. So just
use without proper
Yeah, So Imam Ghazali here says that there is no condition that a
person has to be matched assume or completely free in order to
correct wrongs. No, he does say that you should not correct the
wrong that you are currently stuck in. But he says a person who has
faults here, you should you should correct other wrong, there is no
reason that you should not speak on on other wrongs. If I know I'm
doing wrong, that mean, that means that doesn't mean I'm not going to
work to create a community that doesn't have those those wrongs as
well. So Imams, as Ali said specifically, that the condition
that a person has to have no sin or not not have anything wrong
before they can correct a wrong is a misnomer. That's wrong, that
itself is wrong, we need to correct wrongs, regardless of our
state. But he does say something which was interesting, which was
when you are known to be an open center, then your words may not
have as much effect, they may not have that that power to the person
listening to them.
One of the qualities that came up, and I didn't really have an answer
to was what happened when you accidentally see private business
of someone else. And you know that that private business of someone
else that they're engaged in would harm a third party.
So now they're sort of, but you didn't do justice. You didn't spy?
No, for example, someone says to me, you're given by computer,
right? You take their computer, you open it, you find that they're
actually doing some talking to another guy. And she's married,
right, but you gotta read close to get all that. I mean?
Yeah, you gotta be like you scrolling.
Scrolling, then I need another example. Because you see, he's
scrolling there.
You see one thing and you're like,
Okay, she says, I love you. So he's like, Okay, what's going on?
Here in this case? inadmissible to you. Right? It's inadmissible
evidence. Yes. However, you are certain that she's about to fall
into a trap, and she's gonna lead others into a trap.
You see what I'm saying? You're like, you recognize this is
inadmissible. Like, technically, I never saw I would privately talk
to these people. I think you got to privately address that when you
privately addressing it expose?
Yes, that's, that's, that's, I feel that once knowledge has come
out, see what Imam Ghazali highlights is you don't search for
stuff. But if it comes out, can you take it out? Now you have to
treat that as as information that's out now.
Allah give us Sophie, it's a very tough topic. I really, I'm happy
that we have so many people here I'm happy that we're able to
discuss this topic in more detail and kind of, because here we are,
we have wrongs happening in the community, and we don't know the
Islamic way to approach it. We don't even know like, we have no
idea how to approach issues from the Islamic perspective. So by
going through this, you can at least say wait, I've studied a bit
of what Imam Ghazali says about wrongs and how you go about them.
So I have some basis of Islamic approach to that. So that was one
of my intentions in doing this so Allah give us tofield
I mean, of course there is can you come sit up here doctor
patient
immediately do you really jumped to like
the police from the government? Or do you
so
when you say do it being wronged it's such a spectrum there's such
a vast what that can apply to and I think some people can go too far
in allowing themselves to be abused and under the the the
pretext of forbearance or patience and I'm being rewarded.
I just remember Arabic saying, don't be so sweet that people
swallow you up. Don't be so bitter that people spit you out. I think
you put up with a bit the prophesy centum would put
What up he was forbearance any wrongs did against himself, he
would forgive those. But you know, he, at the same time a wrong done
against someone else. He'd had no patience for that. You're wrong
someone else immediately. The issue here is when we start
telling people to be patient with wrongs done against themselves,
that information is translated the wrong way in the abuser themselves
starts using that
the person doing the abuse starts telling you
have patience with me. I'm getting better. What?
Yeah, whatever. Like, that's shaytaan right there, man. Have
patience with me.
At what point can a person so just a conclusive, like, I'm very, very
iffy about telling people to be patient with wrongs done against
them. Because that can go too far sometimes. And sometimes you need
to speak up. You know, I'm saying you need to speak up personally.
company that should resolve the issue.
At what point if they're being ignored, and they're armed to the
teeth, of you or your family, for example? And they're saying things
that really bother you in the day? Then you decide to not talk to
them again? And then block them forever? Like, what for forever?
Until they change? No. Well, we know the Hadith says the folk of
Tara is not allowed.
Person, for example, is bringing the duck
is bringing
cardboards not smoking a cigarette? Yeah, no, no, no, I
understand what's right. And he's gonna cause me and my family to go
astray. He's gonna bother continue to bother us completely cut off
contact, not just Yes, out of nowhere. It's not anyone's who
happened to be able to reach my cell phone, for example.
It's not as up to head to my house. True. Right? It's not my
duty to go to his house. That's true. So, so But when a person
says that, I'm not talking to you any more than that, from what I
understand falls under the category of hedge hedge or Muslim.
Like cutting off a person?
I mean, I don't know.
Allah, Allah. We have a lot of cases. I know, I know. It's very,
very cathedral. Cathedral. This is sort of a norm and everything.
Like you got people literally, I don't even know if this person is
a Muslim, ya know that there was a similar sense to which situation
we dealt with, if they keep come letting that cousin come over.
He's actually spreading poison amongst the other little youth. So
I think, in that situation, best judgment is
there's a harm coming from that person's presence is a harm
coming. So I think we all understand what to do in that
situation.
On that note, so what within the family, there's, you try to preach
good. There's family who's lazy, yeah, want to listen and receive
good. And when you do preach good, they respond terribly. And it's
simple. So that goes back to what we said before, the first thing
when you know, there's no benefit and what you're saying. I think in
those places, you just
you know, I'm saying what if it's, for example, something that's
obligatory like prayer, this is all about obligatory stuff. This
is all about bigotry and haram stuff.
Definitely this whole topic was about our Vilma roof, guys we
gotta go pray.
Right. Or let's stop doing this. So it this is exactly what we're
talking about. If you know there's no benefit. Then with Alec other
full Eman, you just in your heart you're like, suffered a lot.
You know, I'm saying because there's no benefit. You're ill
fitting into a shed luminal cattleman. You just calling fitna
you know I mean so that's why I think this is a very practical
lesson man. Allah Mr. O'Neal. Allah Mr. alumnus.
Yes.
Like you said, when you know
and we know they're doing something.
You see the effects of
how do you go about
talking to them? No, no, no. When you say
it's in private. Does this mean so in my house is private, but to my
wife, what goes on in my house is not private to her.
Okay, brother or sister? Yes.
They're doing this
Something went wrong.
And it's warming. Yes, yes.
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, for sure.
I see what you're saying. Yeah. Like drug usage, for example. So
I'm treating that like I see it happening.
I'm calling them people that need to be called. But see the thing
with drug usage, though, let's be real. Unless a person wants to
drop drug uses, you can't do anything. They can walk out to
rehab, you can't do anything to a person who does not want to stop
drugs. There is nothing you can do. You can't call the police.
They don't have it on them. You can't put them in jail. Literally,
we're dealing with a case right now. I mean, there's nothing we
can do. Until that person truly decides that they want to make
that change. drug usage is a very difficult one. Very difficult. So
even if you yell at them, if you scream at them, if you What are
you going to do at the end if this person does not want to stop using
drugs?
You stop giving them money. First of all, I know some parents still
keep giving them money. Why are you still giving the money? Like
take the steps do what you have to do to at least so you're not
eating to that thing.
So definitely you you you use every means possible. But we're
going to there's there's only a certain limit we can go up to, but
we have to use everything possible to kind of
sum things you got to they have to see the effect of drugs they
really need to see what that ends up. You need to take them downtown
and let them see this is where you end up. They got to see that and
perhaps that will wake them up. But drugs is epidemic in the
Muslim community big time. Every community I go to they're like can
you please talk about drugs? Every from Houston to Dallas to Jersey,
every single community drug usage
is doing something like that.
They like it
and maybe they want to do it but
yep, for example.
I know someone who was who's taking cocaine
because there were problems that were going on and then it was also
helping all your drivers Yep.
So then it resulted in just wiping
you're getting yourself around these people
and he would go into rehab yep
there's nothing that we could do to stop that from happening
because
when you want to do
but it has to be you know, so for him he was like okay, well
my wife was harming myself this was fun of me and everyone around
me and
until
did he get over it? Masha Allah
I feel like at the end of the day, there's also words like physical
and emotional
readably So on the law
a lot of
prayer
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