Shadee Elmasry – #SafinaQA 8 Why did the Prophet marry Aisha at such a young age

So

this question was is very important, and people should

really memorize this answer because this question comes

all the time to people. And this question is about, it's just ah,

so the premise of the question or the basis behind the question is

that we recognize and admittance is in Sahih Bukhari that I showed

the Allah who was married to the Prophet peace be upon him at a

very, very young age. Right. So the contracts will marriage at age

six, and then consummation, the various opinions 12 or nine,

right? So I mean, that's shocking for everyone who's not used to

that. Right. So now the question comes up to all people, right? How

could there be a man is 52 and a woman? Who is that young girl?

Okay. So the first we're going to take a couple of looks at this,

the first look, we're going to look at

how are people? What are the attitudes that people have when

they asked this question? What are the attitudes? Okay, the first

attitude is that if it's simply you're just inquiring, well, then

it's just that's their culture was it was acceptable at the time? All

right, in their time, it's acceptable. If the attitude is

that,

you know, this is Is it healthy?

Is it healthy? Well, the answer to that is that firstly, is

physically healthy or emotionally healthy? Is it physically healthy

for a woman girl to be married at that age? Right? Well, people,

people's bodies are changing all the time. And we know that today,

for example, girls are actually maturing hitting puberty a lot

earlier than even 20 years ago. Right. So but physical bodies are

changing all the time.

Now, if the question is, well, emotionally, is she emotionally

ready? Okay. We say to this, like, any emotional preparedness

in a civilization, which doesn't have organized education, K

through 12 Plus college plus grad school, right? Everything is

speeded up. You'll be a man by the age of 12 and 1513. That's why you

have Osama bin Zayed is a general of an army. Right at age 17, or

even medic. He's the Mufti of Medina at age 17. Right? People

matured mentally a lot faster. Why? Because there was a lot less

going on, there was a lot less there weren't. They didn't have to

learn about the IRS. They didn't have to sign property rental

agreements. They didn't have to get car insurance. They didn't

have to apply for jobs. They didn't have to go to grad school,

take SATs take GRE they'd have to do any of that stuff. Okay. So

their lives. There was a lot we were more rudimentary. Okay. And

it was very quick to basically get everything there needed. You

needed to get I know, what's your goal? What are you going to do

from age 12 to 17 in the desert, there's nothing else to learn.

There's nothing else to do. People all people got married at a young

age. Check this out.

One of the format's in what many Her name is ohm, sedima, ohm

selama, when the Prophet came to propose to her, okay, he was 29

years old. She was 29 years old. And she said about herself, oh,

messenger of Allah. I'm an older woman. Right? She was 29.

And she consider herself an older woman. So what does that mean?

That means like by, by her time 1314 And 15 was an age that the

average woman was getting married. For those who are questioning if

it's unhealthy. There's another element to this, and that is that

you think that you care more about issues, emotional and physical

health than her parents, okay. And this links into the

epistemological element of epistemology, like where do we get

certain knowledge? Those if you're saying that if you're married a

young age, you are at that point, accepting the narration as true

that she did get married at that age, where are you getting that

information from? You're only getting it from Ducati and milk

and Muslim sources. If you're accepting it, then you all

Don't have to accept everything else that those sources give us.

You can't selectively pick and choose what you accept and what

you don't accept, right? So if you accept that you also have to

accept that her parents were there. Right? I will buck and her

mother, they were there from the beginning to the end, right? They

were there way after her marriage. They were there the whole time. So

you are going to, you're actually coming in here with some concern.

What's your concern is brimming with arrogance and assumptions,

and other ideation and Barbara's ation of the other. You think

you're gonna be more concerned with her than Abu Bakar

enrollment, they were there and they approved of it and they

prepared her and they celebrated it right. Now, the other aspect of

it is that your your sort of

other rising a BB rising Abu Bakar enrollment by claiming that they

to you anyway, they too, were harsh and mean to their daughter,

as if what they didn't have human concerns, even if you're the enemy

of Islam, Abu Bakr and Omar Oh, man, they're not going to care for

their daughter. They're not going to Auntie make sure she's happy

and she's safe and she's healthy.

So from an epistemological standpoint, we're going to come to

the fact that their parents were there, if you're still clamoring

about it, and we tell you, what do you think they are you? Are they

barbarians? They didn't care for their daughter. Alright, so that's

another element. Now, the third

aspect are people who are telling you it's morally wrong. Like that

was morally wrong. And it's really curious for anyone in our, in our

day and age and our society to tell us that

anything is morally wrong. Because this is the father this this

country is like the father and mother of moral relativism, right?

Morality is evolving debate with a guy on Twitter the other day,

okay. He said, I said, Well, what's your source of morality?

Because morality doesn't exist. He said, it exists. But it's evolved

as we evolved. moralities evolved. All right. So if that was the

case, right? If that was the case, then it doesn't only evolve here,

why don't you expand your intellect, right? And realize that

it's subjective over there, too. And it's morally acceptable to

them to? Right. So limit your own criticism and tell yourself,

right, it's morally wrong to me. Don't apply it to them. Right. So

secondly, we're in a society that's really just

all about the evolution of marriage itself. So who are you to

criticize anyone else's marriage? Right? If you're if we're in the

west and live liberals are telling us that marriage is constantly

evolving, and now * is a discussion now. Even the famous

physicist, astrophysicist, *? I think his name is *, Krauss

or *? I mean, he's a big proponent, that we have to revisit

the * issue, right? We have to revisit it. Why is it morally

wrong if two consenting adults are supporting it? And why should the

government get involved? Let them choose? Right? So that this type

of mentality, are you going to now go and you're all about shock.

America's America's all about shock. We want it we're shocking,

constantly shocking the world with our new

developments in marriage and morality and sexuality. And then

you're going to turn around and be shocked, right? You're shocking

the world. Why should you be shocked by anything? Right? So

that's another thing, it's, if it's going to be if it's going to

come if the criticism is going to come on moral grounds, then you

yourself are not standing on any ground. Alright? Because you

yourself are constantly changing the definitions of marriage and

morality.

A lot of this is part of cultural imperialism. Right? It's really

cultural, and intellectual and moral imperialism. Namely, it's

the white man with no dissing to the general race or of people in

Caucasian. But generally, in our culture, it's the white man going

over to the east and saving the Easterners from themselves. I

mean, this is you're talking about Dances with Wolves. The white man,

he's the one who's gonna say, like, all those Indians couldn't

save themselves, but the lowest of us can come and save you. Dances

with Wolves, which is about a white man who saves the Native

Americans or tries to save them. The Last Samurai Okay, the samurai

cannot do anything, but this drunk white guy, okay, because in the

beginning of the movie, he's drunk, okay. He's a drunk and a

failed soldier. He comes and he's inspired and he can save them. So

again, the lowest of us can save the best of you. Right? Then you

got avatar forget

As a civilization, he saves a planet. Okay? Another soldier goes

to save a planet. Okay, and he's the good guy there. So you're

constantly getting this, the white man's savior complex, and now you

have it applied into feminism, white women going over to the east

and saving these eastern heathens from themselves, right and from

the men of their society. Right. This is cultural imperialism,

Leila Bluecoat and Beth Barron. This is what they made their

careers on, right, refuting this and realizing you are taking your

moral notions, forcing it on others and telling them what to

feel bad about and what to feel good about and what's freedom. And

as Toynbee said, a great quote, he said conquests, physical conquest

is not the greatest power but the power to define right, the power

to define as the greatest conquest. I'll define for you what

freedom means. You won't be free. I'll tell you what freedom is

right as now the West is doing okay. The West is doing now. What

is Islam mean? We will tell you what Islam means and we promote

certain shifts up, right. Promote Ayaan Hirsi Ali up right like this

woman, no education in Islam. She's on all the talk shows. She's

talking to the press club. She's on Jon Stewart. She's on all the

shows. She's got booked books published by the best of the

Western publications. Right. So this is the thing, the power to

define. Okay. And this is what colonizers

what the West and the British in particular figured out before

anyone else. Before that a tribe used to go we're conquering new

people, right? We're forcing you. The Mongols come, we'll just

conquer you. Okay, but no, the British and maybe the French as

well, right? They got it really well. And they said don't just

conquer them. All right, get into their minds and tell them what's

right and what's wrong, how to understand liberty, freedom, how

to understand their own selves. Right. And this is not the

conquest, our people, this is a conquest of their epistemology. In

other words, where they get their truth from feminists really have

to be pushed back. Right, they have to be pushed back and telling

Muslim women how to feel about themselves. And this not only is

this in academic circles, this is deeper. This is a military

circles. In the military. This type of thing is taught to the

soldiers and to the people at large, they're showing videos

they're educated, that this is the founder of their religion. 52

married 952 years old, married a nine year old. That's the founder

imagine all their men now when the soldier looks upon a woman I need

to save this girl right from her debt from her husband. And he

looks at a man I need to eliminate this barbarian so I can free these

poor girls. Right? epistemology of it, if you're accepting it since

when do you accept so Hey, boycott it. Next time a liberal comes and

says Oh,

even Muslims, liberal progressive, progressive Muslim prophet married

a girl aged nine. I said Would you accept Sahih Bukhari since one,

right? They don't accept Hadith. Right? Most of you don't accept

Hadith. Why are you accepting this? Now you're praising us?

Because you're telling us Yeah, because he was an accurate

transmitter. That's great. You can't selectively pick. So that's

the epistemological element of the question. Okay. Now let's look at

within the deen within the Sierra, there's you can talk about this

issue from within the Sierra now that they've proven and displayed

to us that they are accepting our sources. Let's bring you another

source. We know when in the Sierra Muslims raise their eyebrows to a

marriage. Because when the prophets I send a married Zane of

vintage ash. Okay. She was the ex wife of the prophets foster son,

Zaid Bin Haritha. And in their culture, they're talking about

cultural relativism right in their culture. You cannot marry the ex

wife of your of your of your adopted or foster son. You just

can't do it. It's as if marrying the ex wife of your real son.

Right? But Allah came to tell the Prophet, they have to know that

foster children are not equal to real children. So how do we do

that? Marry them. And he had him marry Xena, Ben to Josh. Okay.

Mary's in a bid to Josh. All right. When he did this, the

Prophet himself hesitated. The Prophet himself because he knows

it's going to be a scandal. And the beauty of it is this from our

civil, it's not a scandal with the Kufa it's a scandal amongst the

Muslims. These are believers who accept him as a prophet. But when

people do things that the morals are

norms, not morals, the norms. It contradicts norms. We hesitate

even if we believe it's a prophet. I mean, we have several examples

at the Hajj at the ombre at her Davia when they actually were

going to make ombre and when you make ometer you shave your head.

While they didn't make ombre if you remember the Kure stopped

them. Okay, so what are you supposed to do? You didn't make

ombre should go back? No. Allah said, Have everyone shave their

head and slaughter as if you did ombre? Why? Because in the sight

of Allah, you did you get the reward of it. So the Prophet went

out and said, shave your heads.

But they didn't make a camera. They didn't do the camera. So what

did he say? What did they do? They didn't do it. They just looked at

each other perplexed why? It contradicted the norms, they

didn't question his authority. They just couldn't do it. They

couldn't bring themselves to do it until finally sewed up exam. I

said, Go and you shave your head, then they'll just emulate you. And

that's that's what happened. So what does that show us? It shows

us when they had an issue with a norm being broken. They spoke

about it. They weren't shy about it. Okay, they did speak about. So

that's one another element. In other words, that if they had a

problem with that issue, we would have known because they had a

problem with Xena, we would have known. Furthermore, it occurred in

Mecca amongst the kofod who are looking for an excuse Zeynep

happened amongst the believers in Medina. Okay. So next thing, the

fifth of the matter.

The fifth in Sharia in our law,

if the prophets I send them is behaving or taking an action based

on Revelation, like this is religion, by law, this is the law,

then it's law for us. Like what? Like Gandhi, the Prophet, Allah

always spoke about how good the miswak is brushing your teeth in

general, and using the miss work in specific. So that's their

custom, but it becomes our stone as part of our religion to

actually use that specific stick, right? But

the matter of marrying Ayesha at her age was not a matter of law

that was acceptable in their audit of their custom. Therefore, the

fuqaha tell us that you are allowed and it is valid for a

Khalifa or assault, okay to set age limits for marriage based upon

order. And we have this in the books and for over 200 300 years,

okay, for three 400 years into the Ottoman times. Okay, there were

actually laws set on age limits for marriage, and the flipchart

did this. Okay? The folk God did this. Okay, so the folk Aha, they

established that no one can marry under the age of 15. In the

Ottoman times, we have records of this. Why? Because it's based on

All right, so just because it happened once doesn't necessarily

mean that this is actually a sunnah to go around looking for

young girls. There's all involved and there's discussion. So that's

another answer. last aspect is the wisdom behind this is really

internally for the Muslims the wisdom of Aisha La Jolla. Firstly,

the Prophet didn't choose said Aisha Alright, she was brought to

him by the prophet, we believe that prophets I send them said

woke up, he had a dream that Jabril la salaam placed a silk

bundle in his lap. Okay, when he lifted his he said, What is this,

this is your wife, he lifted it and it was for the low child and

okay, then a couple period of time later, he actually came married,

she married he was on divine order that the Prophet married Aisha,

and marriages have functions. Not all the marriages were just for

the Prophet peace be upon him. Okay. For his self. There were

tribal alliances that the Prophet made like he married a Rambler to

me, Sophia and the wife of his enemy, right. It was Sophia or the

daughter of his entity, to strengthen a bond to create a bond

to push away the enmity, the animosity. He married Aisha

because she is going to be the teacher of the OMA and the

prophets I sent him said take half of your deen from this little red

here.