Shadee Elmasry – #SafinaQA 8 Why did the Prophet marry Aisha at such a young age
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The importance of acceptance of the Prophet's proposal to propose to a woman as it is a sign of her proposal to propose to her, okay, and her Her is 29 years old, consider herself an older woman. She is concerned about emotional and physical health, and the third aspect is that people who are not accepting information from certain sources, like her parents, are not going to care about issues, emotional and physical health. The "backward movement" is focused on "refuting" and "refuting" negative emotions, and conservative Islam is a movement that is focused on "refuting" and "refuting" negative emotions. The conversation ends with a discussion of "ivapability" of men and women in society and the "backward movement" that is focused on "refutting" and "refuttingting" negative emotions.
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So
this question was is very important, and people should
really memorize this answer because this question comes
all the time to people. And this question is about, it's just ah,
so the premise of the question or the basis behind the question is
that we recognize and admittance is in Sahih Bukhari that I showed
the Allah who was married to the Prophet peace be upon him at a
very, very young age. Right. So the contracts will marriage at age
six, and then consummation, the various opinions 12 or nine,
right? So I mean, that's shocking for everyone who's not used to
that. Right. So now the question comes up to all people, right? How
could there be a man is 52 and a woman? Who is that young girl?
Okay. So the first we're going to take a couple of looks at this,
the first look, we're going to look at
how are people? What are the attitudes that people have when
they asked this question? What are the attitudes? Okay, the first
attitude is that if it's simply you're just inquiring, well, then
it's just that's their culture was it was acceptable at the time? All
right, in their time, it's acceptable. If the attitude is
that,
you know, this is Is it healthy?
Is it healthy? Well, the answer to that is that firstly, is
physically healthy or emotionally healthy? Is it physically healthy
for a woman girl to be married at that age? Right? Well, people,
people's bodies are changing all the time. And we know that today,
for example, girls are actually maturing hitting puberty a lot
earlier than even 20 years ago. Right. So but physical bodies are
changing all the time.
Now, if the question is, well, emotionally, is she emotionally
ready? Okay. We say to this, like, any emotional preparedness
in a civilization, which doesn't have organized education, K
through 12 Plus college plus grad school, right? Everything is
speeded up. You'll be a man by the age of 12 and 1513. That's why you
have Osama bin Zayed is a general of an army. Right at age 17, or
even medic. He's the Mufti of Medina at age 17. Right? People
matured mentally a lot faster. Why? Because there was a lot less
going on, there was a lot less there weren't. They didn't have to
learn about the IRS. They didn't have to sign property rental
agreements. They didn't have to get car insurance. They didn't
have to apply for jobs. They didn't have to go to grad school,
take SATs take GRE they'd have to do any of that stuff. Okay. So
their lives. There was a lot we were more rudimentary. Okay. And
it was very quick to basically get everything there needed. You
needed to get I know, what's your goal? What are you going to do
from age 12 to 17 in the desert, there's nothing else to learn.
There's nothing else to do. People all people got married at a young
age. Check this out.
One of the format's in what many Her name is ohm, sedima, ohm
selama, when the Prophet came to propose to her, okay, he was 29
years old. She was 29 years old. And she said about herself, oh,
messenger of Allah. I'm an older woman. Right? She was 29.
And she consider herself an older woman. So what does that mean?
That means like by, by her time 1314 And 15 was an age that the
average woman was getting married. For those who are questioning if
it's unhealthy. There's another element to this, and that is that
you think that you care more about issues, emotional and physical
health than her parents, okay. And this links into the
epistemological element of epistemology, like where do we get
certain knowledge? Those if you're saying that if you're married a
young age, you are at that point, accepting the narration as true
that she did get married at that age, where are you getting that
information from? You're only getting it from Ducati and milk
and Muslim sources. If you're accepting it, then you all
Don't have to accept everything else that those sources give us.
You can't selectively pick and choose what you accept and what
you don't accept, right? So if you accept that you also have to
accept that her parents were there. Right? I will buck and her
mother, they were there from the beginning to the end, right? They
were there way after her marriage. They were there the whole time. So
you are going to, you're actually coming in here with some concern.
What's your concern is brimming with arrogance and assumptions,
and other ideation and Barbara's ation of the other. You think
you're gonna be more concerned with her than Abu Bakar
enrollment, they were there and they approved of it and they
prepared her and they celebrated it right. Now, the other aspect of
it is that your your sort of
other rising a BB rising Abu Bakar enrollment by claiming that they
to you anyway, they too, were harsh and mean to their daughter,
as if what they didn't have human concerns, even if you're the enemy
of Islam, Abu Bakr and Omar Oh, man, they're not going to care for
their daughter. They're not going to Auntie make sure she's happy
and she's safe and she's healthy.
So from an epistemological standpoint, we're going to come to
the fact that their parents were there, if you're still clamoring
about it, and we tell you, what do you think they are you? Are they
barbarians? They didn't care for their daughter. Alright, so that's
another element. Now, the third
aspect are people who are telling you it's morally wrong. Like that
was morally wrong. And it's really curious for anyone in our, in our
day and age and our society to tell us that
anything is morally wrong. Because this is the father this this
country is like the father and mother of moral relativism, right?
Morality is evolving debate with a guy on Twitter the other day,
okay. He said, I said, Well, what's your source of morality?
Because morality doesn't exist. He said, it exists. But it's evolved
as we evolved. moralities evolved. All right. So if that was the
case, right? If that was the case, then it doesn't only evolve here,
why don't you expand your intellect, right? And realize that
it's subjective over there, too. And it's morally acceptable to
them to? Right. So limit your own criticism and tell yourself,
right, it's morally wrong to me. Don't apply it to them. Right. So
secondly, we're in a society that's really just
all about the evolution of marriage itself. So who are you to
criticize anyone else's marriage? Right? If you're if we're in the
west and live liberals are telling us that marriage is constantly
evolving, and now * is a discussion now. Even the famous
physicist, astrophysicist, *? I think his name is *, Krauss
or *? I mean, he's a big proponent, that we have to revisit
the * issue, right? We have to revisit it. Why is it morally
wrong if two consenting adults are supporting it? And why should the
government get involved? Let them choose? Right? So that this type
of mentality, are you going to now go and you're all about shock.
America's America's all about shock. We want it we're shocking,
constantly shocking the world with our new
developments in marriage and morality and sexuality. And then
you're going to turn around and be shocked, right? You're shocking
the world. Why should you be shocked by anything? Right? So
that's another thing, it's, if it's going to be if it's going to
come if the criticism is going to come on moral grounds, then you
yourself are not standing on any ground. Alright? Because you
yourself are constantly changing the definitions of marriage and
morality.
A lot of this is part of cultural imperialism. Right? It's really
cultural, and intellectual and moral imperialism. Namely, it's
the white man with no dissing to the general race or of people in
Caucasian. But generally, in our culture, it's the white man going
over to the east and saving the Easterners from themselves. I
mean, this is you're talking about Dances with Wolves. The white man,
he's the one who's gonna say, like, all those Indians couldn't
save themselves, but the lowest of us can come and save you. Dances
with Wolves, which is about a white man who saves the Native
Americans or tries to save them. The Last Samurai Okay, the samurai
cannot do anything, but this drunk white guy, okay, because in the
beginning of the movie, he's drunk, okay. He's a drunk and a
failed soldier. He comes and he's inspired and he can save them. So
again, the lowest of us can save the best of you. Right? Then you
got avatar forget
As a civilization, he saves a planet. Okay? Another soldier goes
to save a planet. Okay, and he's the good guy there. So you're
constantly getting this, the white man's savior complex, and now you
have it applied into feminism, white women going over to the east
and saving these eastern heathens from themselves, right and from
the men of their society. Right. This is cultural imperialism,
Leila Bluecoat and Beth Barron. This is what they made their
careers on, right, refuting this and realizing you are taking your
moral notions, forcing it on others and telling them what to
feel bad about and what to feel good about and what's freedom. And
as Toynbee said, a great quote, he said conquests, physical conquest
is not the greatest power but the power to define right, the power
to define as the greatest conquest. I'll define for you what
freedom means. You won't be free. I'll tell you what freedom is
right as now the West is doing okay. The West is doing now. What
is Islam mean? We will tell you what Islam means and we promote
certain shifts up, right. Promote Ayaan Hirsi Ali up right like this
woman, no education in Islam. She's on all the talk shows. She's
talking to the press club. She's on Jon Stewart. She's on all the
shows. She's got booked books published by the best of the
Western publications. Right. So this is the thing, the power to
define. Okay. And this is what colonizers
what the West and the British in particular figured out before
anyone else. Before that a tribe used to go we're conquering new
people, right? We're forcing you. The Mongols come, we'll just
conquer you. Okay, but no, the British and maybe the French as
well, right? They got it really well. And they said don't just
conquer them. All right, get into their minds and tell them what's
right and what's wrong, how to understand liberty, freedom, how
to understand their own selves. Right. And this is not the
conquest, our people, this is a conquest of their epistemology. In
other words, where they get their truth from feminists really have
to be pushed back. Right, they have to be pushed back and telling
Muslim women how to feel about themselves. And this not only is
this in academic circles, this is deeper. This is a military
circles. In the military. This type of thing is taught to the
soldiers and to the people at large, they're showing videos
they're educated, that this is the founder of their religion. 52
married 952 years old, married a nine year old. That's the founder
imagine all their men now when the soldier looks upon a woman I need
to save this girl right from her debt from her husband. And he
looks at a man I need to eliminate this barbarian so I can free these
poor girls. Right? epistemology of it, if you're accepting it since
when do you accept so Hey, boycott it. Next time a liberal comes and
says Oh,
even Muslims, liberal progressive, progressive Muslim prophet married
a girl aged nine. I said Would you accept Sahih Bukhari since one,
right? They don't accept Hadith. Right? Most of you don't accept
Hadith. Why are you accepting this? Now you're praising us?
Because you're telling us Yeah, because he was an accurate
transmitter. That's great. You can't selectively pick. So that's
the epistemological element of the question. Okay. Now let's look at
within the deen within the Sierra, there's you can talk about this
issue from within the Sierra now that they've proven and displayed
to us that they are accepting our sources. Let's bring you another
source. We know when in the Sierra Muslims raise their eyebrows to a
marriage. Because when the prophets I send a married Zane of
vintage ash. Okay. She was the ex wife of the prophets foster son,
Zaid Bin Haritha. And in their culture, they're talking about
cultural relativism right in their culture. You cannot marry the ex
wife of your of your of your adopted or foster son. You just
can't do it. It's as if marrying the ex wife of your real son.
Right? But Allah came to tell the Prophet, they have to know that
foster children are not equal to real children. So how do we do
that? Marry them. And he had him marry Xena, Ben to Josh. Okay.
Mary's in a bid to Josh. All right. When he did this, the
Prophet himself hesitated. The Prophet himself because he knows
it's going to be a scandal. And the beauty of it is this from our
civil, it's not a scandal with the Kufa it's a scandal amongst the
Muslims. These are believers who accept him as a prophet. But when
people do things that the morals are
norms, not morals, the norms. It contradicts norms. We hesitate
even if we believe it's a prophet. I mean, we have several examples
at the Hajj at the ombre at her Davia when they actually were
going to make ombre and when you make ometer you shave your head.
While they didn't make ombre if you remember the Kure stopped
them. Okay, so what are you supposed to do? You didn't make
ombre should go back? No. Allah said, Have everyone shave their
head and slaughter as if you did ombre? Why? Because in the sight
of Allah, you did you get the reward of it. So the Prophet went
out and said, shave your heads.
But they didn't make a camera. They didn't do the camera. So what
did he say? What did they do? They didn't do it. They just looked at
each other perplexed why? It contradicted the norms, they
didn't question his authority. They just couldn't do it. They
couldn't bring themselves to do it until finally sewed up exam. I
said, Go and you shave your head, then they'll just emulate you. And
that's that's what happened. So what does that show us? It shows
us when they had an issue with a norm being broken. They spoke
about it. They weren't shy about it. Okay, they did speak about. So
that's one another element. In other words, that if they had a
problem with that issue, we would have known because they had a
problem with Xena, we would have known. Furthermore, it occurred in
Mecca amongst the kofod who are looking for an excuse Zeynep
happened amongst the believers in Medina. Okay. So next thing, the
fifth of the matter.
The fifth in Sharia in our law,
if the prophets I send them is behaving or taking an action based
on Revelation, like this is religion, by law, this is the law,
then it's law for us. Like what? Like Gandhi, the Prophet, Allah
always spoke about how good the miswak is brushing your teeth in
general, and using the miss work in specific. So that's their
custom, but it becomes our stone as part of our religion to
actually use that specific stick, right? But
the matter of marrying Ayesha at her age was not a matter of law
that was acceptable in their audit of their custom. Therefore, the
fuqaha tell us that you are allowed and it is valid for a
Khalifa or assault, okay to set age limits for marriage based upon
order. And we have this in the books and for over 200 300 years,
okay, for three 400 years into the Ottoman times. Okay, there were
actually laws set on age limits for marriage, and the flipchart
did this. Okay? The folk God did this. Okay, so the folk Aha, they
established that no one can marry under the age of 15. In the
Ottoman times, we have records of this. Why? Because it's based on
All right, so just because it happened once doesn't necessarily
mean that this is actually a sunnah to go around looking for
young girls. There's all involved and there's discussion. So that's
another answer. last aspect is the wisdom behind this is really
internally for the Muslims the wisdom of Aisha La Jolla. Firstly,
the Prophet didn't choose said Aisha Alright, she was brought to
him by the prophet, we believe that prophets I send them said
woke up, he had a dream that Jabril la salaam placed a silk
bundle in his lap. Okay, when he lifted his he said, What is this,
this is your wife, he lifted it and it was for the low child and
okay, then a couple period of time later, he actually came married,
she married he was on divine order that the Prophet married Aisha,
and marriages have functions. Not all the marriages were just for
the Prophet peace be upon him. Okay. For his self. There were
tribal alliances that the Prophet made like he married a Rambler to
me, Sophia and the wife of his enemy, right. It was Sophia or the
daughter of his entity, to strengthen a bond to create a bond
to push away the enmity, the animosity. He married Aisha
because she is going to be the teacher of the OMA and the
prophets I sent him said take half of your deen from this little red
here.