Shadee Elmasry – NBF 51 Discipline Your Nafs
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The speakers emphasize the importance of school events like MCAT and the need for people to fulfill obligations. They stress the importance of success and failure, the importance of fulfilling obligations, and the importance of finding the right behavior. They also emphasize the importance of following Sunlight's culture and practicing, following Sunlight's culture, and trusting Allah's knowledge to avoid confusion. The conversation then shifts to heartbreak and avoiding wasting time, and the importance of avoiding negative comments and not being surprised by negative comments.
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Manuela welcome everybody to nothing but facts episode. Allah
Allah I think it's 50 or something 5151 episodes, so that's really
Masha Allah hamdulillah a pretty nice milestone to hit 50 Last
week, we had 50. And then today we got Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday,
and then I got to check my calculations. If Wednesday is one
of the last 10 Nights, if it's the 21st of Ramadan, then we won't be
doing Thursday.
But if Wednesday night is not irregular, not last night of 10
nights are not that we will do Thursday I didn't just my
calculations to get my mind on that. So also our min Ryan is
going to be going away. It's going to be going for Ramona so Charla,
he remembers us in his dry ombre in the last 10 days of Ramadan is
so powerful. And so major, that it's going to firstly, it's going
to be so busy, it's going to be so packed, and you're going to feel
like a touch, even if it's not hard, but you're going to feel
like a touch because you got a hedge you have haram the whole
time. And it's a heightened state of awareness. But this time,
you're going to be fast and the whole time. I'm only for 90
minutes of camera, but then you're going to be fast and the whole
time, you're going to be sort of in a state of I won't say
exhaustion, but it is sort of tiring. And then you have Tata we
all night. You're going to be up all night, pretty much no doubt
about it. And that's what we do here at NBC. Alright, and this
weekend, it seems to be the weekend of all the youth events
like all the youth attic apps, and it's become like a Sunday now, you
have to have wrestling matches around 1am. And we had wrestling
matches from basically 12 to like 130 We had some epic epic
wrestling matches. Of course, it's always better to watch than to
actually participate
when you retired from that stuff, but it was fun. I did that. We did
that in our mustard here at mbyc in North Brunswick. Ryan did that
and Piscataway with YM. So, I heard a lot of people a lot of
different masajid chose this weekend for their youth at decaf.
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And anything you get from there, you know that it's going to be
something that's vetted from scholars of medicine, and then
you're going to have professors one to one, if you're not doing
well in school, and you need to do well, you need to take the MCAT
and you need to take one of these exams, then that's your place to
go. LSAT, MCAT, algebra two trig, all that stuff that you need help
with in high school, Intermediate School, you can get tutors in
person, if you're in New Jersey, or online, virtual. Alright, so I
want to actually tell you a story about
before we begin, we're in terms of the MCAT. So a brother, he reached
out to me and he said, Can I break my fast? Did I say the story
ready? Can I break my fast? Because I'm taking the MCAT many
people say this, right? Like, can I break my fast because I have to
do schoolwork. So now there's one spiritual answer, but it's sort of
I guess sort it's true. But it's sort of obnoxious saying basically
like people want to
people want to do
you know, there was skip fasting for school?
Shouldn't you Why did you skip school for fasting? Some guys said
there was good. He was like, Oh, well, I'm in public school. Not
awful. Austin isn't like skip school, you get six days absent,
right? Don't you get six days that they don't count against you?
Right.
And then they get more and more like up to 20 that you have to
repeat the grades. So it's very generous offering skip school,
right? Take a couple of days off, what's the big deal. But anyway,
people skip, they're fast. They think about skipping, they're
fast. They don't really think about like a skip school. Anyway.
This brother, he says I got the MCAT. It's a seven hour exam to
get into medical school. So I know that because all my family members
and friends they've taken. So then I said to him, Well, you can't
skip break your fast just for the MCAT. But you can break your fast
for traveling. As long as the trip is Hello. That's the only
condition. So where's the MCAT? He said Atlantic City, Atlantic City
from where we are is two hours away. I was like, Oh, you're
definitely within traveling distance. I was like, What are you
planning to do? He's like, I was planning to have Soho at 430 in
the morning, drive down. Be there by 645 636 45 beat the traffic and
then take the exam at seven o'clock. I'm like while fasting,
all while fasting. I was like that's like insane. Even if it was
outside of Ramadan, I would have traveled the night before, settled
in, had a nice dinner, go to some Italian restaurant or go to get
some seafood or something or comes to find out how that restaurant
eat their sleep super early like 8:30pm Even that means you have to
wake up pressure even even though it's my crew, but if you have some
circumstance, you have to do it. Sleep early, sleep super early,
and then wake up. You know 530 Have a nice breakfast, and then go
off for your exam at seven. Right exam starts at seven and it's a
seven hour exam. So it's like even outside of Ramadan. I would have
done the he's like, Oh, I never thought about this. I was like
Subhan Allah Hamdulillah that you asked, you know someone who has
experienced dealing with this issue. And he did it. He went all
the way down the night before
And then he was considered a traveler the next day. Alright, so
that's in terms of these exams. So today's topic we're going to look
at some ads of the Quran
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gonna read a little bit from such an important idea that's just I
talked about it today at fetch but I want to talk about it again
today just briefly, because it's so important for everybody to be
aware of and then we're going to talk about some amazing stories
mostly they're their chains are weak like or non existent even but
even a doji the CITES them as really interesting stories. Okay,
so
yeah, your AlLadhina m&r O you who believe
through wasabi roo What are better but taco Allah, Allah, Allah
completely. This is so important because anytime that Allah
subhanho wa Taala says, Lala come to flee Hone, someone should write
a book just on those 11 areas. So that you may have success, right?
When Allah says Allah, Allah, for us, that Allah means maybe, but
for ALLAH SubhanA which Allah it's a guarantee from him. But the
reason it's put as a maybe is if you fulfill the condition, so he
will certainly fulfill his condition we His promise, but will
we fulfill the condition? That's why the verse says, Lulla come to
flee Hone. Allah calm, alright, so
perhaps that you may be successful, perhaps you may be
successful on our side if we fulfill the conditions. And for
Allah sight, it's a promise, okay.
It's visual, we'll solve it. What's the difference between this
video and sub who is middle is for us to be patient?
Sub, it'll make others patient like what are we doing here? On
this livestream, we're reading from books, we're reading from
classical that reading, you're hearing from the Muslims reading
from these different books. That's what we do here. We just we're
going to go through every we just read books, reading, reading,
reading, and learning. That's how we learn. And our point is to
strengthen ourselves as a group. There's an age old adage
that a teacher came and he said, Take a tweak, like this stick
right here. And he tells his young students who haven't heard the
story before, they're like nine years old, right? And he said,
break it. And they break everyone breaks their twig, easily, many
scabs is all get all the twigs together, and he puts like, 40
tweaks together. And he said, break that. And they're all like,
oh, wow, we can't break it. Right? He said, You could break every
single one individually. But put all together, you can't break it.
Right? It's like an old thing that mentors gift a little kids when
they're like eight 910 years old. 11 years old. Okay. Ryan, had you
heard that one before? Yeah, yeah. So that's the power of unity,
right, and the power of togetherness, which is why the
word society is part of our organizations, because we have to
be together all the time. So it's middle is for ourselves, but sub
it'll make everyone else patient, try to try to encourage each other
to fulfill some of the difficult obligations. Ramadan is a great
month for this, nobody would do this amount of fasting, this
amount of PM, this amount of tahajjud this amount of recitation
of Quran if you had to do by yourself, because you would feel
like I'm doing all this, but the world is passing me by. Like, my
competition is working. I'm fasting. My friends are going out.
I'm doing PM, you would feel left out.
When a person when the whole community is doing it, how easy is
it to do? Because the whole community is in sync now. Right?
Every all the masajid are going to turn into night operation soon.
And you know that the Christians oftentimes find this so bizarre,
right? They because they say everything of the night is from
Satan. And we pretty much agree with that statement except for to
hedge it. Right. And except for the month of Ramadan because the
province lies to Kandiyohi Laila, he would give life to them not to
his night. And the phrase your he in the Sunnah refers to doing all
sorts of a bad debts. So it's Tom Tom feeding people, a Sahaba.
As we said, like last week, it was our last Saturday was all the
events for the youth and I'm telling you they really had an
impact. Some of these youth came in showed up at seven o'clock.
There was a pre Iftar to talk.
They left at around six o'clock when fed was over and the Epcot
are over. That's 11 hours in the masjid and 11 hours dealing
interacting with basically
That's a 50 guys put in there. Is there a sister section? But I'd
say 50 Guys, and a couple of them are older mentor types. After the
first hour, you're like they're strangers, right? By the 11th hour
you know them, especially tweens. sixth grade, seventh grade, eighth
grade, there, they get to know you really quickly. Like they don't
have as many formalities, they don't have the barriers. Some of
the high schoolers, the older high school age is not so fun. They're
a little off aloof. And the older high school age, I found that they
do really well, in a gathering where they're actually the
minority. And the adults are the majority. I actually found that
they do. They're, I think they're more comfortable with that. So
went rather than, like seven high schoolers and one adult, like
chaperone or something. There. It's like, awkward. But when it's
like, let's say, three of three guys and three high schoolers, or
six guys and six high schoolers, it seems like there's a better
communication. And we do this all the time, because we go out for
the,
for these youth nights, sometimes before COVID. Right now, it's open
up again, pretty much. We would go to different games and things like
that, and anything light really super light, right? Where it's
just, the only intention is Sabah, right is to get to know these
people just to talk to them, etc, etc. And that's what I found with
that. But the tweens, grade six, seven and eight, they have less
formality. Right? They're still a little bit awestruck by, you know,
everything in life. So actually, I liked that age, in terms of the
youth youth type of work, and I was taking cell phones all night.
That was my thing. I had a stick, I found a table edge of a table,
right the leg of a table, I picked it up, it was like it's a good
stick. Anyone I saw with the cell phone, boom, you got poked and you
hand it over yourself on some kids, I'm telling you, it's
literally I sell the same, the same exact reaction as a crack
addict.
And I was telling you I've been at I was at a bus stop in London one
time coming back from fetch coming back. That means it's 530 in the
morning or something. And a crack addict kames comes up to me
totally the face just what this drug destroys human beings. Right?
Begging, begging, like, she was like on her knees for five p
which is five cents to get, you know, she needs are not hurting
her next fix begging someone at 5am This drug has totally
destroyed the human being. Right. So
I saw the same reaction from kids, like begging, like their life was
on the line. I'm like, Hey, it's 11 at night, who do you need to
talk to? I was checking in on my mom. Oh, really, you checking in
on your mom, you think I'm gonna believe that? Right? And I'm
telling you no less than 20 times every hour to three times begging
me.
Right for their cell phone.
This is really, really bad. And this is a bit of a Sabu we're
doing with Sabata here which is to to try to encourage each other to
to do something that's difficult, which is control this issue of
cellphones, especially if you have you. I think what happened there
on the phone so much their brain rewired right. It's completely
rewired happiness and and normalcy is, is on the phone. It's not out
in the world anymore. And so you when you take that away that
brain, it's their brains are malleable, right? So as youth as
kids, their brain completely rewired so much so thoroughly.
That that's the only whatever you he knows for happiness now. Right?
So I took all the cell phones, I locked them up in the store. We
have a little store in the masjid locked it all up.
They went crazy, right? They went crazy. I said, Listen, no problem.
I'll call your mom she'd come pick you. Oh, no, I don't want to
leave. Right. But I need my phone said the answer is no. And I held
their phones for about the entire time until fudge. But if you have
kids out there and youth out there, take the advice of a
psychiatrist. That I is a Muslim psychiatrist. He said,
after studying the like, the neurology of this thing, like the
study of the brain connected to this thing, this phone is a drug.
It's a poisonous drug. Because what it's going to do, it's going
to completely rewire a child's brain. And that child will not
know actual real life reality anymore. Although their happiness
and their stimulation will come just from that little screen and
all the little pop up widgets and downloading and circles, going in
circles and on all these little reactions that they create in
social media to get you excited to get you suspenseful, right? All
that stuff.
It's a poison. So if we're going to do Masaba this is what we need
to do more Sabra about is to control this snake. We'll let him
it's nothing
Other than a snake. And then once they're adults, even adults in
their 20s and 30s have trouble with this, I would venture to even
say, if you haven't been conscious of it, you have trouble this in
their 50s and 60s. But it's going to be less harmful because your
brain is more developed. Plus you have memories, the idea of having
a
basis in reality, or having like, a standard or something that is
your default setting. So all adults will have a default setting
of what real life is how to deal with people, that's your default
setting. And then this is a new thing. But when you have a kid,
this is his first introduction to life. And that's what you're
bringing him in on. So what's his point of reference, that's the
word point of reference, which is point of reference on existence,
he has no point of reference, it's the phone. So highly, highly
recommend everybody control this issue with yourselves. And if you
have kids, it's oppression, in my opinion, to deprive them of a
point of reference of the actual real world. Right. And their point
of reference is mainly the phone now. So that's a bit of a sabido.
Is Server is on four things, essentially patients is on four
things.
Num, three of them are related and one is a bit separate.
The of the first three, one is the root, and two are the branches.
The route is the sub on the matter of knowing what you believe.
That requires patience, anything that requires thinking requires
patience, anything that requires to be up or investigation requires
patience. Nether Nether is thought. So the people of another
antibiotic. This is a type of patience, which is the patience of
the brain, which is essentially
asking yourself the tough questions of what do I believe in?
What is the source of truth to me? What is true to what do I believe
in? Alright, what do I consider true? Now? It's not what you
consider true is what is the rather the RET the better?
Question is what is true?
Right? And what's my conviction? What's the basis of my conviction?
So that's what our shift tells us here. The study of optina is the
first place of sub patient patients the study of what we
believe in. Secondly, is that What did Allah subhanaw? What's the
second hardest one, what has a lot to Ana forbade us to do? And he
proceeds that ahead of what he's obligated us to do, because what
he's obligated us to do is a lot of good things. Okay. But whenever
15 caffeine, everybody loves to do good things, it makes you feel
good to do good things. So there's a second motive in terms of doing
good things. And there's no harm, right? Like how am I being harmed
by doing good things. It's much harder now. To avoid bad things.
And only then would jump in will truly care about avoiding bad
things, especially in private. Right? When you're home alone with
your wife, and you get angry, holding in your anger, or with
your kids, nobody sees it. It's only you who see it. But that's
where the Tuckwell comes in telkwa is when nobody's you, there's not
going to affect you publicly. Something between you and Allah
all the stuff that goes on privately now between people
online
that requires Taqwa. So, the harder of the two things in terms
of doing and not doing is the avoidance. Anything that you have
to avoid for your ego is harder than anything you have to do. And
that's why a lot of the the New Age types, they have no problem
whatsoever.
Meditating thanking the universe, right? They have no problem being
or having all that what they do I promise anybody who says no, to
your ego, no to Zina, no to things like that. Okay, it's a river. For
some people River. If River was permitted for them, they could
open up just to really be successful in their life. But
river is an issue. Zina is an issue. Prophesy sudden said,
another Altrusa one miss Momo Mincy. Hemi bliss, the gaze is a
poison arrow from the era of bliss, with which he never fails.
He never fails. Someone wants asked an elder from the Muslims.
He said, When does a person lose their shahada for women, their
desire for women? He said about six hours after they've been
buried in their grave. Right now even when he's dead, he has shower
subpanel it's never gonna go away. Why isn't that gonna go away?
Because if it ever went away, human human population would be
decreased. That's what I truly believe personally that anytime is
Allah
Will's to annihilate a people. He lets the ideas spread ideas spread
that are destructive to the, to the recreation of the human being
the repopulation of the,
of the people, all of the thoughts, and all the ideas about
when it comes to sexuality that are not that do not end up with a
human being are bad. Okay? In the sense that, in general, not in
specific is how that is to take birth control, for example, it's
allowed to do that it's held out for a husband or wife, say, plan
out and say, You know what, let's, let's have a kid here, right?
That's at this in two years, we were traveling, now we're busy,
we're not be able to give it our due attention. That's Hello.
But in general, marriage produces goods, right. That's what we're
talking about. In general, marriage produces kids, anything
that does not produce, it produces kids with Huck with their HAC, of
knowing who their mom and dad is. That's how you get a stable human
being. Anything that produces that is outside of those two
conditions, producing human beings and fulfilling for the kid his
right, that his mom and dad were committed to each other as husband
and wife. And he knows who his mom is, he knows who his dad is, even
if they get divorced. But at least when they produced me into the
world, they were committed to each other. This wasn't like, an
accidental thing that they were doing.
Anything like that is destructive to the human being. And if Allah
wills evil for people, he spreads those ideas and make them love
those ideas, so that your population is going to be
it's going to implode, right? It's gonna, it's gonna go down in any
event,
prohibitions, then obligations, then the fourth thing
is things that happen in the world. And in terms of the
obligations, what's the hardest of obligations,
financial obligations,
is a financial obligation
is 50% of financial 50%, physical Salah and so is 100% physical.
That was the Shahada. Of course, showerhead is one of the pillars,
right of our belief. So financial obligations on your when you get
married to financial obligation, we we have the Quran has set down
certain roles for this,
okay, it is certain things you want to discuss it amongst
yourself and also, husband and wife can discuss how they want to
handle things by themselves. Certain things Allah subhana which
has
made a statement,
for example, your inheritance money. When you die, you get to
move you in your will you get to put 1/3 of your wealth to a non
inheritor. Other than that, it's not your money anymore. You're
dead. It's not your money. Right? It's gonna go where Allah subhana
wa Tada says, it's gonna go, it's gonna go for your burial, then
it's gonna go for your your bequest, anything that are your
debts, first, your debts that you owe people, then it's gonna go to
the bequest, any bequest that you made, the ones that maximum 1/3
outside of the inheritance, then it's going to go to though it
fooled. The people who have a percentage cut or a fraction cut,
like say your wife, she gets 1/8 Your mom she gets one six, you
have only one daughter, she gets one half. Okay? Or, and then after
the flu, they're done. Then it goes to the ASA, but the rest of
the money the remainder goes to the like the sons or if there's
children are mixed sons and daughters, then it's mixed with a
decorate Mr. huddle and the son will get two chairs.
Law has made that decree Hello, game over for you. You don't talk
about it. Likewise, when you get married, so why does the son get
two shares of his sister? Because in the in another chapter of fic.
Allah has obligated the maintenance of the wife and the
children. A woman has never obligated to maintain herself.
Right? She's never obligated to put a roof over her head or
clothes on her back or food on her table. She's never obligated to do
that. Her dad has to do that in the beginning. And then her
husband has to do that afterwards. If she wants to contribute that's
a sadaqa from her. That's optional. We don't have 5050
What does it mean? What is his going Dutch? Right? Is that mean?
5050? You heard of that before Ron? Dutch. I'm not really
familiar with these terms, but I think that's what it is. 5050 We
knew a guy Subhanallah my mom, she had a patient. She was a
pediatrician. She had this this couple, right? And the wife would
sort of laugh it off but she really was secretly like upset
about it. Everything in their life was 5050 Okay. 5050 Even the
birthday card took for her.
You believe that? For her? He got her birthday card. She paying 50%
of what? So how we met a woman. She was a real estate agent and we
were in Connecticut when I was working
They're, and we're looking for a place to get. And this lady, she
takes us around. And she she's like, Well, how do you live over
blah? Well, what's your income? It's like, I'm only one who works
at that time. So it's just going to be on me. So she's like, wow,
that's really amazing. I was like, like, That's why Jesus that it's
like the norm, right? And she's not on for 5050. Me and my
husband, I got to work, right? This woman is like 70 years old.
We sat there talking to her about Islam, She almost got teared up.
She almost teared up, I think it was not just she was touched by
it. But she was also so sad for herself.
here yet 70 years old, right? And she's shown homes to people in
their 30s. Right.
And she's like, I just wish I could just take a day off, or I
can be finished with this work. No concept of financial. So if your
mother or father are in need of money, you can't give them Zika
you're obligated to take care of them. Right? So financial
obligations are the hardest kind of obligations upon most people. I
would say that lowering the gaze is the hardest prohibition. And
paying is the hardest obligation. Right? I would say that's how it
is. And lowering the gaze is really hard from the other
perspective that looking is so easy. When you're walking down the
street, you can't help but look, you have to have your eyes open.
So that's why eyes are never connected to a major sin. But
they're the fastest route to the corruption of the heart. Take that
as a principle, the eye is never connected to a major sin. But it
is the fastest route to the corruption of the heart.
And I, if it's if it's Sins of the eye, if the minor Sins of the eye
are not repented from, they become a major sin. This is what we're
doing here is spirit will sub it'll, we got to talk together
about things that are difficult. They're not easy, because when you
realize, oh, well 50 people in the chat are also trying to do this.
It's becomes easy, right? That's what I say about the Masjid. Go to
massage. If you're Muslim, go to massage. Because when you when you
become Muslim is your your your convert which Hamdulillah we had
to show how to do this this past weekend.
When you start having doubts, like did I make the right decision?
Right? Did I do the right thing. But if if three, four times a week
you walk into a building, and there are 100 other people who are
doing it, right? You're like, oh, yeah, I think I pretty much made
the right decision. And who are these 100 people? Is it like one
sector that they have a bias? No, I'm seeing guys in scrubs, like
medical scrubs coming out. There's an RN, there is a PA there is a
physician, there's a youth, there's a little girl, there's
it's all age groups, the whole society is here. Right? Whereas
you can't always say that about churches, for example. Churches
tend to be ethnic. Like we we had a church next door to us that went
bankrupt during COVID. But that was a church that was solely for
African Americans across the street from me where I live, like,
the main road where I live, there's like a millennial hipster
church, right? Where it's all kombucha juice and stuff like
that. And that's going to only attract a certain crowd. It's like
a club. Right? Then there's the Korean church.
Wait a second. God, supposedly your God did not come down in
Korea. So why would you limit it to the Korean church because the
language they don't have the same thing. The one thing that we have
you cannot alter the language of the Quran, you can translate it
even that was discussed, you should say the meaning of the
Quran.
It's not a translation of the Quran is the translation of the
meaning of the Quran, right?
The Quran the salah must be done in Arabic. So Arabic is one
language. So why they have the Korean church is because they it's
the same Protestant stuff, right? But they do it in Korean language.
So
it's ethnic. So churches don't even have this. So this is one of
the I would say the miracles of Islam, just walking into masajid
anywhere in the world. I know exactly what's going to happen.
And everyone's welcome into it. Nobody's going to come out oh,
this is this is domestic for Syrians only this semester for
Turks only, you will never come out of someone's mouth. They might
not sell them you they might not be friends with you.
But nobody could stop you from showing up. And by the way, I
mean, I don't even blame people. If I go into an all Turkish masjid
and there is a couple in England, there's a whole street called
Seven Sisters. It's all little Turkish operations. And there are
a couple of masajid there. If you go into one of these old school,
Turkish mosque, these are some old Turkish people. They hardly speak
English, right?
It's not I'm not they're not it's not the expectation that they're
going to just be so warmly welcoming. I don't care about
that. I'm not going for them. I'm going to for my own Salah. So when
when you hear people whining about this, I want to domestic nobody
was friendly. Are you going to make friends? Are you going to do
your bed and leave? Go to bed and leave? What's your business?
With with Wagwan you're gonna write a review, a Google review.
Right? This is not a restaurant, this is not a social club, go do
your a bed and move on with your life.
So I never whine or complain about communities and massage if I don't
like it, I just don't go. But why do I need to complain? Right as if
they owe me some kind of hospitality. There's not a hotel,
right? That they owe me hospitality. Now let's move to the
fourth thing.
The fourth thing that you have to have suffered with and you need to
do Musa for others, this middle was sabido is the calamities of
life.
And that is impoverishment, misfortunes, famine, drought in
certain areas. California, always having these forest fires, they're
having drought, there's really a lot of issues out there. Yep.
prices going up. There's an avian
flu. These birds are dying, and they're not producing eggs when
they had the flu. So the price of eggs goes up. Okay, so you have to
have more Sabra with that. It's beautiful Saville, you always have
to, that's why saving it. His son came up to him one time at Hudson,
and said, Father, so and so he's fallen on hard times, can you give
him some money? He said, of course, the man came. And he gave
him some money.
And say Nadi was really upset. And then his father said, his son
hasn't said, Father, you relieved his burden. He said, Yes, but he
came to us, we should have been looking out for him. But he's one
of our companions. He's one of our supporters. He had to come to us
than we didn't do our job, we should have went to him and asked
how he's doing. Right? We should have had our eyes open on looking
at losing weight, he's not coming, whatever is happening, that means
he doesn't have food, etcetera, etcetera. Right? We should have
went to them. And that's the attitude that and that's the value
of the massage. If you go to the massage and you see someone
limping, you know, something happened. You see someone hasn't
shown up for a few weeks. You call them you see what's going on.
Right? That's the MO sobre. It's middle, wasabi, whoo. This is the
Masaba of things that happen to people in the world. calamities of
life, that's what they're now
calamity calamities of life is the bulk of tribulations that people
have. But there's a harder tribulation, the success of life,
the success of life is a much harder calamity to face than the
clump, then then hardships of life, success of life, it softens
you. Successive life makes you feel powerful, makes you feel that
you're the one in charge that you're the one who has power when
you're not. The success of life is extremely dangerous. Right? It's
extremely dangerous to be to have super success. Because you start
feeling that you're in charge, you start feeling that you're powerful
that even the Quran says they think that they're they have so
much success, they think they're in charge of it. Good to Allah No,
no, Cogito nada. They think that they're in charge of it.
Right? It's a big problem. So success is a bigger test than
failure. So these are the four is middle sub, what is Robidoux mean?
Or abito means get ready for war.
A revolt
is extremely important and the result is that
you get you watch out the for the enemy right in the in the old
times, you just have a city and then you'd have the citadels
usually you had one on above each gate of the city. Or
there's eight or four citadels depending on the shape of the city
and you sat there watching okay
you sat there watching
Alright, for people to if their enemies coming. So this is Morava
robots in the province I sent him said what is the robots of the
ego?
You want to let's say you want to get engaged in spiritual war
right I'll tell you how to do spiritual work
ever be offered?
Prophesy seven set and we'll do and then McCurry
will, we'll do when you least want to make we'll
just go for today or tomorrow and never be awful we'll do because
you say to yourself, well, we all say, Hey, I'm a regular person.
What do I have to do with war? Right? I'm never going to see a
war in my life. I'm never gonna be 99% of people in the modern world
will never be part of a war at all in their life. Right. So what what
is my word? So spiritual word, don't ever be awful. Do try it.
See how difficult it is, especially here living in these
western countries where there are no no bathrooms for this so I
always look for the baby changing rooms. Those are good. You get to
go and lock the door, right?
Baby changing room. No one's ever there. You gotta take your jacket
off, roll your sleeves up that cashews off, make a proper will
do. Right then dry it all up, clean it all up and leave and
nobody was staring at you know, weird situations. Just try it to
have we'll do all the time. And then cut through to the hotel and
then massage it go to the massage it a lot. eat once a day.
Go to mustard once a day, pray any Salah in the masjid, see how your
state changes.
And then into bottle Salah by the salah. Then at a higher level than
that, go for one obligate obligatory prayer and stay until
the next obligatory prayer in the summertime, it's usually
not going to go to Asia.
Right and usually masajid they have some nice things especially
if they have land, they'll might have like an outdoor area. And
they might have some courts, basketball courts, for the Shabaab
youth, it becomes a community center. So you go in from at
around 830 hangout all the way till like 930 or 10 or something
like that, or eight to 930 something like that, which is
always nice, right? So from one obligation to the next in the
wintertime, it's Juma and we just wait for us. Right, there's no
point in leaving because you're gonna pray outside anyway, right
in in the window so short, which actually might change because we
don't longer do daylight savings. Right? So we're gonna see how that
affects things. So I think OS will still be at around 330 rather than
230. So, those are the three things the province IS LM said are
the greatest deeds for a person to do, always down will do or will do
in in Dell Curry yet, or where you where you dislike to do it.
Catherine will Jota Elon masajid taking a lot of steps to the
misogyny and then into Latos law by the Scylla. For that he can
worry about that he can worry about that equity but prophesy
centum said it three times that the robots have a moment that he
bought the spiritual war of a believer and got
thorough performances of will do right.
Frequent attendance of the moss and waiting for one prayer to the
next. And Allah subhana wa Tada then says, Oh My angels. Look at
these servants of mine, they fulfilled one obligation and
they're waiting for the next. You think it's a light thing. It's a
big deal to do this. Right out of the box. Whenever you do this and
make the intention of I'm going to be in the masjid for class and
then class is going to end up Maghrib but you're going to like
wait, I'm here for thought than answer, then Maghrib. Right. Make
the intention of it about spiritual warfare against your
knifes, howa shaytaan and dunya if you do this, you're going to find
your your what transforming if you persist upon this, your your how
it will transform what is a sign of widows some people said
and there's even it's it's it's attributed to the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he said this. He says when the
HeLa have upped the whim of the love, the sweetness of abt is in
the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala and an empty stomach.
When that's your whim, when that's what you enjoy.
Right, that's the Hawa of someone who's completed their Amen.
Or he's, he has SN in his email. And the whim of the moon FM
is in
Shaohua his desires his false desires, Zina, this is in New
Jersey's book, his chapter on Zina, right, he quotes these
Hadith now, this is a book on spirituality and, and stories and
wOv. So he does use a lot of weak edits in there, right? But we can
use them. And he says that the the whim of a movement is in vicar and
the empty stomach. And he finds hardship when he has to eat a lot
and talk to a lot of people. He finds us like to cut it off. It's
like
it's really difficult for him to do.
But whenever
he finds salah, and so I'm extremely difficult and
burdensome, but he finds Zina and indulging in food and backbiting
to be sweet. So if you want to ask yourself, What's your state, ask
yourself, what do you think is sweet? What do you consider to be
sweet? And round this point, if you fast properly, and you're
really in a good situation, and you don't have too much food for?
Okay, you don't need it anymore. A little bit is enough, some yogurt
with honey on it, and a cup of water or two cups of water or a
big cup of water. That's enough. What do you need anything more for
a couple of dates.
You should be doing we should be focusing on that to hedge it and
taking advantage of that time. But you're going to wake up and you're
going to find yourself so energy energetic, you're going to find
yourself lean because your stomach's not filled with gunk
You eat a big sore, and you pray, fudge and sleep, your stomach is
filled with gunk, you're some exists, you're like wake up slow
and you don't sleep well you don't wake up well, you're miserable.
But when you keep train yourself in the hunger, you actually enjoy
the empty stomach. Does anyone out there like enjoy the empty
stomach, it's like a great feeling, especially when you do
some push ups or some exercise a little bit of like moderate
exercise on an empty stomach. There's something great that
happens to the human body. It's the empty stomach, you start
loving it. And vicar is a shower. I cannot tell you how many times
and I'm sure everyone, all the other people in the community have
the same idea in the Imams how many times I'm completely just
exhausted, go into the vicar nights, right? Or whether it's any
time I'm just so tired. And you sit for the book. And then all the
people are there. And you start the vicar and all of a sudden, all
your energies back, I go another two hours, right? Subhanallah
that's because the vicar Allah, it gives him
it's it gives energy to the body. Right? It gives you an it puts you
in a whole nother state. So you can go on forever, even though to
get there to do it itself was what that's why it's visual salvadora
to do it all together the prophets. This is saying
altogether, because if I had to do it myself, I would never never
have done it.
But the fact that it's like obligatory as a something on the
schedule of the masjid, you gotta get up, you got to do it. And all
of a sudden, once you see like, all the guys, they're
all your energies back, right? And you can go and other you can do it
another two hours. That's why the work this this work in a gym is so
important. Then he says What's up Allah, Allah come to flown, it's
Akula, meaning that
the motive of the all this, you have to have a motivation.
If we've So smoking so much on this, it's so important, you have
to have a motivation. And that motivation has There are levels of
motivation of acceptability, they're all there are many
acceptable motives. And there are, there's good and better.
A good motive is I need help because I'm in trouble.
That's a good motive. A better motive is Allah has amazing things
that he created, and I want one.
That's how simple it is. Right? Allah has further Aloma to Fidel
la biphobic, you have a lot of nice things, I want one. But who
are you going to for it, you're going to Allah.
That's better. What's best, the best is, I am worshiping Allah
here, because he deserves it, what he has done, who he is, he just
He's worthy of this worship, he's worthy of this a better, almost a
heck of a lot better.
Just by who he is, as the creator. That's the best. And it's a pure
love for Allah.
There's good, better and best, all of them will be quoted in hate.
All of them are good.
But there's good, better invest. So you have to have a motive. But
what's the motive? You won't believe that Allah Tala will give
you anything if you don't believe he's generous, if you don't know
his attributes, so you have to know His attributes. So what
duckula In this situation, it means keep Allah's attributes on
your mind, keep Allah Himself, on your mind, know his attributes.
That's why it's so important to always read the books about dua,
you read, you get so many attributes out of that, how a lot
to add, is generous, how he's capable of all things. It's
extremely important to always be reading and listening to those
types of lectures that are about dua because it is the more of a
bed, it's the it's the brain or the bone marrow of a bed. It's
usually translated as two different things brain Mauer
marrow or bone. It's the essence of the A verta is I'm in need of a
creation. I'm in need, I don't have anything I didn't, I didn't
even create myself. And you're the one who can supply my need,
or want or desire or anything. That is the essence of this
relationship. We don't have in this relationship, like whatever
they call it in Buddhism, Nirvana where you disappear. If you
disappeared, how are you talking about it? Right? Like so that you
disappear in the Creator? Yeah, we have states like that. We call
that Fennec.
It's a state, but it's not the permanence, if no one's going to
be in a better state than the prophets, right? And the Prophet
says, oh, Allah grant me. So they recognize their own sense of
existence. They didn't have this sense of disappearance, but some
people say, No, there's Bucha after fena, there's Bucha, which
is that his whim and his desire is solely with what Allah has. That's
it. Whatever Allah brings, that's he's going to make sure that
that's what he loves it
Whether it's a command of the Sharia or an event in the world,
in his life, if Allah brings it, I'm gonna love it. So that's his
finot in that and his Bucha is an establishment of the Sharia and
establishment of the Sunnah include, which includes
recognizing himself, like most stuck, making dua not was stuck as
in outside of his cadre, of course, but what they call in
religious studies I thou relationship, me and you, they
call it they they talk, it was sort of like a philosophical
thing, a me and you relationship, whereas there was, it was
basically one of these mystic he was like a Jewish mystic. And he
wrote this book about how,
as, as long as you're saying, Oh, God give me then it's me, and it's
you, then you're recognizing your own independent existence, we say
no, we recognize that we are an independent, not from his power.
But we are a creation that is not separate nor connected to the
Creator, right? We're not we don't believe in this Watson would shoot
that you are just one with the Creator, as if you're not
something that is different from the Creator, no, you are different
from the creator, you are a lair, you are not Allah subhanaw taala
you're not a part of Allah. So when we say disappear and Allah is
disappear with his whim, the * out of his neffs has completely
dissolved into Allah's Will, whatever Allah wills for him, if
Allah wills for him to get sick, he accepts it and he follows, but
his outward action is in accordance to the Cydia, which
says that it's recommended or permissible to take medicine
to make dua. So that's what we're talking about there.
Alright, so that's it for today in terms of that, this these four
things that are the keys to Sofia and to success. And with that, I
promised that I would tell you a story from one of the odia less
sleight of hand. And this is in Josie chapter on Zina. He has a
chapter on on on the necessity of avoiding Zina. And being that this
is one of the most important things that we need for Masaba and
murabaha. Right, which is the idea here that we have to encourage one
another to avoid the things that are most difficult, and Zina is
definitely definitely definitely one of the most difficult things
to avoid.
But
Zina of the eye is extremely difficult to avoid. And
for some people, once they break the boundary of Zina with actual
human beings, that becomes their addiction, and it's a big problem.
The big problem, so
let's read to you this section here on Zina. And it says about a
worshiper from the time of any study. He was worshipping Allah
subhanaw taala in a Soma, Soma Amin's, he built himself a little
hut. Essentially, he had worked on any worshipped Allah subhanaw
taala, day and night. So well, he fasted every single day. And Allah
has caused some grapes to grow a grape vine to grow over his hut.
And the grapes would fall down, and he would drink and he would
eat. From that end, he had a little stream of pure water that
Allah had made and created, then he would drink from that stream.
He ate very little. And he was known his drive was answered,
people loved him, et cetera, et cetera. And then
one time, oh, a young lady, a beautiful young lady, but she was
a woman of the streets, which means a woman who was not raised
properly. And she came and she said,
can I spend the night because I'm traveler, I'm a traveler, I'm
traveling through and the only place I could spend the night is
out here in the woods. And if I do that, then I'm going to be
attacked by the wolves and the Cougars, etc. So he said, If
that's the case, then fine. So she comes in, and then she starts
removing her clothes one by one, and she says, let's have some fun,
right? That's what she says, Okay, let's, let's have a good time.
He said,
so he went to a corner and he said, Oh, nefs What do you say?
He's talking to himself? My knifes, what do you say?
methacholine. My enough set Wallahi. I would want to enjoy
myself with her. Like, I want I want to do it. Right. He said No.
Who's Who's he talked to his his intellect is talking to his ego.
His ego says I want to write.
He says okay, you will be allowed to enjoy her
If you can withstand the punishment of the fire, so he goes
out and he gets some wood and he starts lighting up a fire.
And he says, oh, knifes, if you can withstand the pain
of one finger going in the fire, then you can enjoy her. So he put
his finger in the fire and he took it out.
It was fine. Like it burned a little bit. You ever read a
restaurant and you put your finger over the flame? And the kids are
like, wow, and you're like you're doing it so fast that you don't
even feel anything.
He said, Okay, then four fingers, put your like your four fingers
like this, put it in the fire. He put it in the fire and he took it
out a little bit faster, but he still survived. He said then put
your whole hand in the in the fire. He put his entire hands and
he held it in the fire until the smell of the flesh came out.
The woman came looking what happened. He pulled his arm out
and it was completely destroyed his entire hand. She screamed so
loudly, she died.
She got the shot. She was so shocked. She died right there on
the spot naked in his house.
People heard the scream and they came running.
What is the guy look like? He's got a naked woman dead in his
house. Right.
And they immediately arrested him. They tackled him. They said you've
been your fraud all this time. You're a liar. And you're a
murderer. Then they put two and two together. They said it's
obvious. He just committed Zina. He doesn't want to be seen. So he
punched her and killed her. Right? Or he killed her in some way.
So they went out and the word spread far and wide. That that's
what he did.
And he benched his arm. He never told anyone the story. He just has
to be alone. Mm. Okay, it has to be there's this thing is too big
for me to defend myself. Only Allah can defend me. So instead in
their law in that time, all we do is we take someone who does who
was a monk who commit Zina, because you've not only have you
corrupted the society by doing Zina, you corrupted the monkey,
the monastery, you've corrupt, corrupted religious worship. So
you should have the worst punishment of all. It's true.
You're claiming to be the doctor, and you're actually poisoning
people. That's far worse than being a criminal and poisoning
people. We expect the criminals to do that. We don't expect the
doctor to that. So the punishment for that person is to be sawed
with his head. Right.
And as soon as the saw came down, he said, Ah, then he received it
in him, which if he had if
I had to have came down on him, and they had already changed him
and the dead woman was there and the whole town was watching. And
Allah and ahead of khamsum voice came to him. And he said, Don't
make another noise, because the angels of the heavens cannot bear
to hear your moans. And if you make another noise, we will
destroy the whole city and save you. That's how much Allah loved
him
is that they said the angels in the heavens cannot bear and if
they can't bear it, then we will command for their sake, destroy
the whole city and save my appt. So don't make another noise. And
he calls his mouth he didn't make another was when we're talking
about Fennec Fenner is the disappearance, we're seeing the
disappearance of my will and my desire in Allah's Will and Allah's
desire. That's what Scott and Bucha is the establishment of the
Sunnah outwardly with our bodies, and inwardly and outwardly.
Because there's a wisdom for the Sunnah, and we're not going to
know anything better than what the Prophet brought. So he remained
silent until he was sawed and half completely and dead. Okay, now,
here's where the story becomes something else.
said that they brought the woman to bury her, and they left him to
rot. And as they were washing her, she woke up.
And she looked and saw the men's side and half she said Wallah, you
oppressed him. He didn't touch me. And he didn't even look at me. And
he warned, and I heard him speaking to himself saying that,
Oh, neffs you can enjoy this woman who has taken her clothes off for
you. And she's basically wants to have a good evening. But if you
can, he wants to have a good time, if you can bear the fire.
And he burned his hand. When I smelled the flesh. I came running
and I saw a barren hint, like a hen no skin on it. I screamed, I
died.
And so check his hand. He's innocent. They checked his hand.
And he found him totally to be innocent. Or her story checks out.
So they put him together again, wrapped him up, wrapped her up and
they buried them together.
A bird him together. Right? And then Allah subhana wits, announced
that her Toba, her sins were forgiven by her testimony for the
truth. She testified to the
Truth. So she was forgiven. And he was going to paradise. And they
were both granted marriage in paradise that they'd be married in
paradise. Because she wanted her him. He wanted her. They ended up
not doing the sin. And she ended up saying the truth. Right. So
it's very similar to Satan the use of Angelica in that respect.
Because Judaica wanted him, he stayed away. But Zuleika she told
the truth. 10 years later, she framed she she lied in the
beginning. But later on, she felt bad. She told the truth. And in
the Jewish story of it, we don't have this part. But in the Jewish
story that ends up getting married afterwards, like after the years
of wealth, and then the the drought and the famine, then say
the use of moves on with life, and he sees her on the side of the
road Zelenka and he recognizes her, but she's become so poor,
right? She's been divorced from the, from the z's, she's extremely
poor and haggard, and he feels bad for her.
So he has the caravan pick her up and take care of her. And then he
makes dua, overwater and he sends it to her, she washes her face
with that water and some of her youth comes back to her like all
the stress is removed, and she's got her beauty again, and they
marry. That's the story of Joseph and Zulu. I don't know what they
call Zulekha in English, or in the Hebrew, but that's what they say
happened. And this is very similar to that story, that they wanted
one another. But they stayed in the huddle.
And they abstained, then Allah Tada brought them together in
paradise ins use of story was in the dunya. But in this story, it's
in paradise. I'm telling you some amazing stories here.
But that was in terms of a suburb of Cebu and Zina suburb for
lowering the gaze. And the issue of the gaze is so difficult in
this world. In the time that we live in today, that some people
have even said that all you need for Wilaya to be worthy of Allah
is if you lower your gaze
Subhanallah and then she died again, immediately after she gave
the witness she died again. Right, then they buried her and him in
the same grave, or next to each other meeting in the same Jonnie
burial event.
All right, folks.
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open q&a today.
All right, let's start with muda and muda and says is it
permissible to pray the Toorak as before fad that if your regular
praying all your Kabbalah prayers.
You can Yes,
H VAs three that is by Fetzer, not by the ruling the ruling is no but
the Feds what is that as long as you you have a set limit of of
prayers that you do all the time. And like a word of it and you
fulfilled your wit your daily routine,
or you're always fulfilling it then you may do the Sooners that
have names to them like tahajjud Saadawi. Eve even the Rebbe, the
rebuttal fudge because the prophesy Sam said about it that it
is greater than the heavens and what's in the earth all of what's
in the earth. And
but you won't do that or watch that or watch the bar like the the
Sooners before and after the prayers that don't have names you
won't do those.
H bas three says I have a decision to make between two options Law
School Allah I keep praying staccato but I can't decide oh,
between two different law schools so he's set on law school.
But he wants to know which two schools to go to which which of
the two schools to go to so remember is Takata is only half of
the battle. The other half is called is to Shara and is to shut
up in
is something where you're going to talk to people go to both schools.
Here talk to graduates of both schools, go visit the campuses of
both schools. Jada is talking to the people who are involved.
So once you do is Takata and is to shutter you'll get a good result.
Mohammed says, Is water permeable nail polish, okay for EAD and
occasional use to have on and pray? Well, technically, if it is
water soluble, you have to decide that and check and do an
experiment yourself. That's number one. But putting it like on a, on
a paper, piece of paper, and then put some drops of water there and
look at the opposite side of the paper. If it's wet, right, then
it's water solid permeable.
If it's not wet, if the paper didn't get wet, then it's false
advertising.
But you also have to realize that there are some Xena rules
regarding makeup and things outside of the house. And you
could look at the women's fit on that, because there is some things
that are warned about in terms of going outside the house with
with with makeup and that stuff, and you could go to the different
pages of the
people who talk about that, because that is an issue. And
it's disallowed. And if it's if it's in a way that what's going to
get people's attention, people will be looking at you it's one of
those things is disallowed, and
next question says
what does it all be to mean and get ready for war? Robbie to get
ready for battle. That's what it means because your neffs is gonna
fight you back. Your ego is gonna fight you back. Dunya is going to
tempt you shaytaan is going to fight you.
It's war, spiritual war, we're here.
That's what we're in. We're in a spiritual warfare.
dikkat is so important.
Samira says this Ramadan, I'm left alone to make if it's odd for my
parents and seven brothers, including some of the guests
because my mother is sick and is unable to help me in the kitchen.
I feel like I missed out doing a lot of a better due to being busy
with my college course and cooking for the family. I was wondering
how I can make the most of the last 10 days of Ramadan with this
busy schedule.
You are I'm assuming here that Samira you're older and you have
these seven little boys running around, right? Seven little
brothers running around. If that's the case, then you're like a
second mother to them. That's the truth.
But if they're older than you are, they're of age, if they're past
blue, like past 14.
They can go feed themselves. To be honest with you. I would never
expect for example, my daughter to make food for her brother who's of
similar age anywhere around that age. Okay, unless maybe they're
not allowed to turn the oven on maybe is that what it is, they're
not allowed to use the oven. But cooking for seven other guys. As a
sister, you're technically not obligated to do that. If you do
it. It's a sadaqa, though, but But what what I do understand from
cultures is that sometimes there are some guys who are just lazy
bums. And I always make sure I don't want there to be a
resentment. So the young man in our family, he's got to do a lot
of stuff himself. No one's going to serve him. Okay. So because
otherwise you have this resentment that happens of you're not even my
husband, you're not my dad. I'm not even what am I even doing
this? Right? Go deal with yourself. Okay, so do things
yourself. So if there's there if there's some kind of imbalance of
things here. That's eight people you're cooking for as a lot of
cooking. I'm not It's not saying like one guy, one brother, two
brothers seven. So I'm not here to start a family revolution for you.
But at the same time,
we have to look at what the obligation is and what is what is
not an obligation so that there shouldn't be this resentment and
waste of time.
Waste of time.
She said, Two are older than me in their mid 20s. And culturally,
it's either my mom or me that makes it food.
Well make the food use you guys serve it and you clean it up.
50 I mean, right. Okay, well, you're not allowed to use an oven.
You're 20 years old. You're not allowed to use an oven fun. I'll
cook the food. You're serving it, and you're cleaning it up, and
you're going to buy it.
I'm telling you this kind of things. It will make someone
crazy. I remember one time. This isn't exactly related, though. But
after all these years nights, I had to drive one of these kids
home who was like 40 minutes away. And it was gonna be late for
tarawih and Sheikh Murad was with me but he's
I'd like to reward for making sure that your Muslim brother gets home
safe is very high. Yeah. So there's still a reward and there's
still a reward. There's still a reward. And but you agree, though,
that, that, that boy, he needed a ride.
Right? He didn't, like, have an entitlement for a right.
It can't fly says hospitality can drive people out of Islam, lack of
hospitality, totally. You have to have hospitality.
And a lot of people don't really have a sense. Like what I'm saying
about some of these ethnic mosques. They don't have a sense
of what people need when they're coming into Islam. Like there may
not be convert aware
if you know what I'm saying. I mean by that consciousness of what
the conference life is like, and that's definitely an issue
Sharifa says this comment is about something you mentioned way before
is night activity during Ramadan also easier encouraged because it
sets the intellect up. That's a great point. Yeah, because the
prophesy centum always said once the night comes go home, but it
Ramadan should Athena locked up. Right. So that's why night
activity is there's encouragement there to the point.
What are your thoughts? What's your thoughts on videos demand
side? Nursey?
Elegant Adam, if I can
say something, one of my pet peeves is this grammatical thing.
What are your thoughts?
On bed use Zima and say, bed de Azzaman. That's what it is bediako
Zimin. Right, the the unique
person of the age that do Simran and I have a very good opinion of
videos of it.
We have a podcast it's three parts on evil. In which the main
person in the podcast His name is NAS. Nas gives most of his talks
on evil on that podcast. On the topic of from the source of better
videos, the man side Nursey. So I have a very good opinion of it.
And who and who are we even to have an opinion of him. He's
someone from the, the the forebears of the OMA
harried the OMA in a time of great darkness, his people, at least
modern wills, wisdom tells us take responsibility for everything that
thing that happens to you? What's Islamic view on this? And how do
we reconcile the fact that Allah controls outcomes?
I would say that you can't take responsibility for every certain
thing that happens to you, because certain things are completely
outside of your control. For example, if I get hit by a car at
a red light, how do I take responsibility for that? Right? Do
I still I'm not blameworthy for having gone out and stuff at that
hour, right? I'm just going about my business and someone hits me.
So what we can do is, we can say that we can control how we react
to it.
That's what I would say is, is the method and the idea is
I can take I'm in complete control of,
of how
my heart moves. And what my heart focuses on. I can focus on this
guy, he hit me, I can focus on I lost my car, I can focus on my
back hurts. Or I can focus on who is who allowed all this to happen.
Nothing happens without Allah allowing it to happen. Why did
Allah Allah Azza?
Who is Allah, first of all, he's attacking. He's the wise,
therefore, if he allowed it, there is wisdom. What is wisdom, a
greater benefit later on? It doesn't have to be Now it may be
very painful now. But there's a greater benefit later. Now my
question is, what are the benefits? I'm going to go on a
chase and a hunt now to find out what are the benefits? Because I
know there is a benefit, right? There's a great benefit in this.
I'm going to look for the wisdom. Right, I have to look for it.
Maybe I get to have a new car. Maybe that's the wisdom. Maybe the
wisdom is, I'm going to cross paths with this person. We're
going to exchange information. We may never see we may not see each
other but maybe four or five years from now we'll see each other
again, maybe two years from now we'll see each other again. Maybe
there's something between me and this person that Allah wants us to
know about it. One of the that's it just to know about one another
for the future. Maybe not. But to the degree that you believe
there's wisdom, you'll find wisdom, if you believe it's just
Oh, it's just an incident that happened is meaningless. You won't
find any wisdom.
So that's my my answer to that is that we would say find the wisdom
of this, of this of what happened.
All right, let's go to
Frank Egon 82 He's from Jeddah said I'm on a call
right what do you have
you need a teacher to set you off either Oh yeah, you definitely
need a teacher for our kid
he's definitely the teacher
or reading from students at Enron by the way
do they get a teacher
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there's listening to the Quran have the same reward as reciting
it. The answer is yes. According to a direct Hadith of the Prophet
the listener has the same reward as the recite.
Recite recitation has more learning. So in reward, there may
be one thing but learning, there's more learning. You're learning how
to pronounce you're learning. There's more struggle in the
recitation. And there's more learning. Katelyn geohab says can
you tell us the best, most miraculous vicar or Salawat for
fulfillment of dua
if you're sick? It's the dua of Sybil Kuru Allahumma Salli
ala Sayidina Muhammad, Allah wa Salatu was Salam ala Sayidina
Muhammad and Bill Goobie were the ones who are here to learn it was
you know, love Saudi Arabia one.
If it's for a need it's solid cell Camella which is also known as a
slot in neTea Allahumma salli wa salam ala Sayidina Muhammad, Allah
Masoli salata and Camela, wa salam Salam and ala Sayidina Muhammad
and Lillian Hello Bill awkward within furniture with Kurup top
novel howa what Chanel we are watching Howard, while your sister
grandmama we are educating him while Eddie was
nominated, he will sell him so I think camera two centimeter Allama
Sunday Salatin camera was salam Salam Unterman right.
I know I said it's a long one but go to Salawat hub.org or.com. I
can't remember. But the website is silhouette hub and you'll see the
silhouettes and get busy busy yourself with those. But by the
way, any salon the prophets I send them it's it's your sincerity in
it that matters. It's not the wording but it's your sincerity in
it that matters.
Is the province I send and receive so at that exact moment we send
them some said yes. Some said every Thursday
when is there a collab which comes about that.
Please type the name from the book, The that you read the story
from it's called Bahara duo. We've been reading for two books this
month. Barbara Dubois beautiful book
by YBNL, Josie and the call to the believers
by
lodge me he's a Turkish scholar from the interwar period between
World War One and World War Two. He wrote this book
nudge says my son 15 years old, he has Down syndrome. He accountable
for fasting and Salah he's able to fast and does read the Quran and
pray to the best of his ability. I understand that the people who
have Down Syndrome Oh Ryan, sorry to interrupt but the battery
what I understand is that Down syndrome, they're not McAuliffe.
That's what I understand. No, says can you give us a call to family
members back home? Yes, you can accept. If they are mother and
father, you can give them Zika you are obligated secure of them
and his wife, but together you're obligated to take care of them and
kids, you're obligated to take care of him. But son if your son
has moved on, and he lives his own life now and he works and he but
he's sport you can give him a ticket.
Because your son has once he works and he's of age, you're not
obligated to care.
So far it says
Does the messenger receive Salawat we send on behalf of a deceased
Muslim. So what I understand of this is and it's more accepted in
the Shafi method than in America method is that when you do good
deeds such as salah and the prophet or your set Quran you may
intend or will the hasnat the good deeds to go to a deceased persons
so they will get those good deeds.
That's all I know about that. Revival of Prophets. What was the
man's name in the story? They didn't say they just said a
worshiper from the Ministry
Caitlin says, What's the simplest way to understand that to jelly?
And can you give an example of it? Well, the very simple to Jelly, we
can say is a two jelly from Allah subhanaw taala. This is a big
subject, it's not some kind of light thing.
And one of my favorites and that which is most reliable, and then
Imam Jaffa talks about it a lot and shape on cannot penetrate this
is that when a person is reciting is thinking about a matter. And
then he picks up the most Huff
for no other reason then to do his recitation. He's not doing this
thing, which is like gambling where, let me open up to a random
page and put a random word and that's my destiny. No, we do not
do that.
That's a type of gambling. We just we don't it's not part of our deen
at all. But you're thinking about something, you're sort of
concerned about it, maybe you're making up for it.
And then you decide to do your presentation, and you pick up the
Miss Hough? And lo and behold, where you left off the exact verse
speaks about your situation. Or it gives it a Bushra one of the
verses of Bushra the word Bucha is good news.
That to me, and to coordinate stay in a job for the Sadhak is one of
the greatest of two Juliet because shaytaan cannot come into the
Quran for you. Right she thought could not get involved in that.
And it's not something you were looking for either. Like, we don't
do this thing where, okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna look for
a random verse. So that to me is one of the greatest ones that you
should believe in. And if you have trouble believing it's just the
sins remove those sins. And your Eman will be strong. Alright,
Ryan, what do you got?
And someone probably wearing a wig. Can you pray wearing a wig
and show like
next, le polymath says
what is the next stuffiness at podcasts? It'll be in show well
challah Ramadan is very difficult to anything at night.
Or if not outrightly impossible, but inshallah it'll be in Shaohua.
Alright Ryan, you're up.
All right, longer question. What can be done if one has reached
extreme stress, sadness and anxiety where it leads them to be
physically weak and tearful regularly, even in Ramadan and
when making dua pray extreme
anxiety and sadness
is upon you to say the following.
Allahumma how you yaka you be erotica, Esther wreath, women,
other bigger studies are slowly shutting Nicola wala tacony illa
NFC, while Illa had him in Heartbreaker Palatine, while
solidly Allah heavy because most of Sayidina Muhammad, while early
was was selling him to slim, wherever he has Nickleby.
Where did he Robbie, look for coffee? Everyone will Muslim and
that was very long, right?
That was very long. If you want the shortened version of that is
yeah, how you yaka Yom Salia holla Habibi, can most of her while
early he was Sammy was salam. Wherever Hib has Nickleby.
You will find yourself in a very short time, your status, your
state changed. You have to do this at least 40 times a day, if not
400. Yeah, how you Yeah. Klum? Suddenly, Allah Habibie kill most
of us Agena Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam wherever
hippos Nickleby it means at the pinnacle we means take away the
sadness of my heart and to the degree that you're strong in your
intention and your purify your heart, this will work faster.
And if it doesn't work right away, it will keep working at it. It's
you have veils here, remove those veils the medicine works. The
medicine works guaranteed.
Yeah How are you? How are you? I'm sorry, I mean because most of us
say that Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam, whatever he has
Nickleby
password on available says How did the woman in the store come back
to life that's the Kurama from Allah
Mona says doing good has to be for love sake does avoiding bad have
to be to know you can have purely motivated worldly motivation for
avoiding something wrong you just avoiding is not the same. So
you're so when I do something good. I'm doing it because I want
the reward from Allah or I'm doing it for the love of Allah or I'm
doing it from for the protection from Allah, one of three
intentions or all three. I love Allah. I want him to protect me
and I want something nice from him.
To keep me going
an appetizer before it gets a paradise, may Allah get us there.
But so that's for doing good for avoiding haram, you get the real
results, no matter what. So let's say someone says,
I'm not going to drink out, I'm not going to drink beer, because
I'm going to get a big stomach.
He gets the result of not drinking beer, which is he didn't hit no
sins are written against him. And he keeps his intellect
and his Salas, kelp, so he gets the result, the reward of not
drinking beer
is it's in a sense, it's a muda if you're attracted to it, and in
reality, he does not just have to be for anything else. Right? As
long as you avoid it does not have to be with the same intention as
doing good deeds. It does. Any other motivation is enough. Just
avoid it. That's enough.
So that was a good question. All right, Ryan, you're up.
What to do about having Wes was that while you're in the state of
West wasa in the state of voodoo, you ignore your West was
completely forget Wes was a once a day your MOS was and therefore you
totally ignore your requests.
Or Blonko says the salata tests have to shut after the first two
records. Yes, it has to shuffled into second and fourth Raka.
Font says Would you agree with the quote, One often meets his destiny
on the road he takes to avoid it
sounds negative. I don't believe in any of these negative things
the prophesy centum said we have a good opinion of Allah.
We do believe that if Allah wants something to happen, it's gonna
happen. Right?
You don't know what Allah wills. So you we do our business, and we
make dua for what we feel and have assumed and estimated with our own
brains is good for us and made us Takata and it's a shot and then we
go for it. And if Allah wants something else, that's that's for
Allah. What what, that's not my business. That's it's Allah's
choice.
Caitlin says, We know Allah does whatever he wants, how do we stop
ourselves from falling into paralysis? Feeling like nothing we
do matters when Allah makes a final call anyway.
You don't know what the final call is.
Right.
And
you separate yourself from Allah's actions. What is your business
with Allah's actions, your businesses with Allah's commands,
and Allah has commanded, will call a marrow
say, take action. Allah said, take action. Allah said Make dua Allah
has said, have a good opinion of me. That's your business. What
Allah does is that's his business. What is your business? What?
That's not your business? Right? What Allah is going to do and will
it not something you have to worry about? What you have to worry
about is what Allah commanded you to do. He said, take action. He
said Have a good opinion of me. He said asked me and I will give you
so busy yourself with that
can we take rulings from other methods if there's a need? Yes, if
there's a hardship and a need,
is there any coal in America method where delta is not for
nothing? I know it is for in all the books
the definition of washing is pouring water and rubbing at the
same time. Our sins done in Ramadan weight heavier, yes.
Our aristocrat says that I Bessie is the life in the grave anything
like the dunya according to Mohammed had dead the best
explanation I've seen about it is very hard to talk about life in
the grave because we've never been spirits and not bodies. So the
spirit does not have a body in the body. In the resurrection, it's
given a new body so we can describe that there's food there's
couches, those people etc. How is it with when we are souls without
bodies? The time is different spaces different everything is
different. So remember had that ends up saying that becomes almost
impossible to really speak meaningfully about something for
which we have zero reference point.
Right Ryan?
is fun. So many people today
how do you deal with Ramadan burnout? How do you discipline the
next so you keep going when the next is trying to say that you've
done enough era?
How do you deal with Ramadan burnout, I think it's extremely
important that a person
it's extremely important that a person
when they do a better they're doing it with a group and you're
not you don't necessarily have to push yourself to a limit that you
can bounce back from and that you can only know by your own personal
experiences. Your own personal experience will know that I've
pushed myself too hard and now I'm about to bounce back.
And so maybe you might have to go through one or two personal
experiences in order for that to, for you to know that. So
if we're not required to do that we're not required to push
ourselves so hard that we're going to bounce back that's you can rest
so my answer to that person is rest. Eat food Rest up. Don't kill
yourself, you're not obligated to kill yourself
all right, Ryan, by the way, if you're typing the questions, I can
read them I opened up YouTube here
I think I think they're right into a big discussion on YouTube and
kind of
hard to find the questions now. Okay, I found actually a couple
now. Okay, go ahead. What's the view on forex trading without
interest involves
I will have to look into that because financial matters isn't my
forte but I can look at shift
check mirage.
Lamp.
Junaid says
talking about the story, any advice on wasting time and stop
wasting time?
What's your advice?
Someone says what's my advice and stop wasting
a lot, fill your time was good, then you won't be wasting time.
Make a schedule stick to it. If you slip up and you
let's say you made a schedule and you slipped up a couple of times.
Don't use that as an excuse to leave altogether just fall down,
get back up and keep being consistent with your schedule.
Well, you know what I love. I love index cards. And I always get
index cards always by index cards. And then you write your schedule
for the day or your schedule for like your routine. Like every day
after awesome I'm going to do this every day after market I'm going
to do this and then I always look at it. And I drill it in my head
Ryan why's you cracking up?
Because
yeah, what happened?
I think was that
my apologies? MashAllah Murata has a big vocal cords. It's got a big
voice.
Okay, there is a some kind of big discussion going on YouTube.
What's happened here? It was about the brothers cooking. Okay. The
brothers cooking. Yeah, I mean, even in the studio, you're not
obligated. They're older than you. Right?
All right, let me let's get another perspective. Sister said
her mom is sick. She cooks for her mom quit. She has seven brothers.
Two of them are older than her in her 20s in their 20s. And then
some of them are young. I said, Fine. The young one who is not
allowed to touch the stove. You cook for him? You're like a second
mountain? Yeah. The 20 year old 20 year olds is no way bro. Do your
own business, right? No, let's make some pasta. ourselves. We're
split the days, right? Split the days. Like in our household, we
have days. This is so and so's day. Like any chore that comes up.
It's your day. Instead of we're having a debate every single time.
Our days you even days you like that? Or something like that? Or
every Monday? It depends on how many kids you have. Right? So
by days, that means one day that one person gets to sleep on the
couch while this hole is made. Yeah, next day, I make this old
and the other person gets to sleep on the couch. One of the things I
like about the mother Assist system I remember we were in
Turkey was every every we had so many guys. So basically once a
month or like two times a month you're either doing food prep,
cleaning up good. Put my basically Yeah, so you're never going to
feel like you're never going to reach the state where you feel
like all people have to just serve me. Yeah, you know, no, you're
gonna have to chip in and there'll be guys cleaning the windows
vacuuming? Everybody has something to do. Yeah, because you use the
shared space. So therefore it's a shared response. Exactly. That's
the idea. HIPAA says lately I have this urgent desire to visit Mecca
and Medina in the last days of Ramadan I tried to get a spot but
still nothing It seems to be happened what mindset to keep well
you just keep trying and maybe you either make it this year or you
make it next year inshallah. So
Saudi says what is a good routine for the last 10 days? The last 10
days you want to always make sure that you don't miss a lot to hedge
it. Right? You're gonna have your Pm you've been doing your p&l
along to hedge Judy, something you don't want ever to be wasted.
That's my opinion on the last 10 Nights, right? Be honest with you.
I sometimes get conflicted last night. There's so much ammo in the
masjid. We establish it in your mouth. Sometimes there's no
private time either. Yeah, right. So if we're calling you like, Oh,
we're gonna nuclear Malay and yeah, it's like you just want to
do
Don't think sometimes we have to, then we have a short break, then
we have, we have a short break, then we have to hedge it, then we
have a short break. And then we have Soho. So you know, my only
quiet time is the suit, or the salah itself is my quiet time make
my own personal time. So, simply saw
if there's a community that does something, the community often
helps out with that. And
it to calf is permitted for men and women if their situation is
allowable. And if you met a woman does that scaffold her house
specific prayer? Okay, but you know, go where we went? Yeah, they
told me they made a floor for the women's yet to go. Oh, yeah.
They're Hanafis Yeah. And we're going glossary. So so sometimes
women do an St. Catherine their homes, right? Yeah. Because they
want to encourage to get I mean, it's kind of good that they do in
the home still, because at least they're bringing the baraka and
that's true. We're in the binder and the home is better to write
home could not be like a graveyard with no salon.
Maryam chef says so talk to your brothers and try to get them to
understand it's unfair for the responsibility of their food to be
on you and your sick mother when you yourself are also a college
student. Mediumship here's my advice to you. You're very nice,
but that's not the way it's done. You know the way it's done? Simply
don't do it. Let them go hungry.
What we call is an unwelcome
okay, like
it's a whole Hey, guys, today, you're getting a notice I'm not
making you so you could deal with yourself
and see what happens. You make your own two eggs, your yogurt,
your milk, your water, you go off on the side, bowl of cereal, and
then something says yeah, I'll deal with. It started today. By
the way, I'm making Iftar for three me my mom and the little
little brothers, right? Or two or four or whatever. And you older
ones who are reachable.
You know how to do everything, maybe even driving cars. Okay,
Michelle, I didn't It's not my hack on you.
So you guys deal with it now.
So when they see that there's no food. You know, it's like waking
up for sometimes kids, they expect you to wake them up once and twice
and three times. Right? You know what I do? I'm waking you up once.
I'm gonna go start the Soho. I'm gonna come back one more time. If
you don't, you're gonna fast on an empty stomach. Right? So enjoy it
then right lips shave no water falling asleep in class. Next time
you wake up.
Ryan
unis saying what is the extent to which we emulate the prophets of
Allah on insulin, every single matter like where he lived, how he
named him. We imitate the prophets of Allah when he was setting them.
And our education on our followership of the prophesy son
is not directly from the book to our lives. We're not the first
person to emulate the Prophet in our time. There are other people
in our time, right? Aren't they're all in our time. So they know how
to make these judgment calls of how do we imitate the Prophet
peace be upon Listen, right? So
for example, furnishing in the house, I've never had furnishing
in the house, maximum, we had these little pillows right on the
floor. So we want that, we want to have the follow the profit in that
respect. But at the same time, we may have family situations, we may
have other situations that cause us to make some kind of
compromise. You're not the first person in that situation, go look
at the shoe and the Messiah, that are of your similar background,
that are maybe two decades or three decades older than you see
how they lived, because they're living the Sunnah just like you.
So that's where we have a live tradition of a chain of
transmission of people also practicing the Sunnah, but dealing
with their circumstances. So you may end up with one room is
furnished according to the Sunnah. And the other room is for the
accommodation for those who cannot sit on the ground who don't know
how to sit on the ground, if they come to the house, and they sit on
the grounds, the purposes of the offer would not be met. Right. For
example, can you imagine some of these older? I mean, you're from
Syria, right, your occasion but Syrian, some of these older Syrian
secular and whatnot, can you please press that? Little bit?
All right, it's good.
Can you imagine some of these?
Could you imagine some of these older Syrian women, right?
Let's say these grandmas, right, yeah. And you come and say, Oh,
we're having dinner on the floor today. Here's the chicken. And
she's like, What, where's the fork? knife, fork and I feel like
if you 10 fingers eat, what's gonna happen? Right? That's like
your imagine you married a Syrian or a Philistine and her
grandmother and you put her in that situation? Is that going to
be a fitna for you? Yeah. And it's going to be a fight and it's,
it's, it's it adds up to right you know that she
Can't sit on the ground, you know, she can't eat with her hands.
You'd kind of be like also defeating the purpose of bringing
people to the summit because you'll be you're not cognizant of
people's state states or levels. Yeah. And now you're actually
forcing them to or you're trying to make them do something they're
not really don't have that much knowledge or experience about and
they're actually making them feel weird about force bless that
suddenness and you know so and it's force, you're defeating the
purpose. You know, you want people to love even if they can't perform
the summons at least love it and not object to it and not say
anything about it. And you're forcing them in the presence of
other people. It's not like they're alone trying to do it.
Right. And on top of that, what is the role of the author isn't the
author is also a son to be to be a host, for example, to make your
guests feel comfortable? That's the whole point. Exactly. So you
comfort them on their level, not on your level. So if that means
forks and knives and chairs and tables, then Soviet so that's
where for Unisys question, you're not the first person to want to
follow the Sunnah in the West. So look at those who are slightly
older than you. Right and see how they did it. Because they face the
same exact situation as you're going to face.
Samira has a plot twist of this definitely a plot twist. They
don't mind cooking for themselves, but my mom won't allow it.
Wow. I think all moms have that the one thing they're like when
you try to help them in the kitchen. They're like, No, no.
But she wants the sister to do all the cooking. Fine. Mom wants to
certain Lamarr says it's okay. How's this? All the cooking? You
guys do all the cleaning?
That's a fair shake. That's fair. Yeah, fair shake, and do all the
cooking
and they do all the cleaning.
Alright, what are the questions we have here? When I'll head back to
the Instagram and see what's going on?
Is there a situation where a sin was committed? Is there wisdom to
situations where sin was committed and toboe was made?
When it's when a person commits a sin, it is forbidden for us to say
that Allah
even though our Rokita is that
everything is by laws, cuddle and cuddle. But we don't blame our
sins upon Allah subhanaw taala and said the cuddle made me do it or
Allah subhana wa Tada. Maybe that's the way of bliss. But if
you've made Toba
then in general, your entire past, you can say had the color on
Wakata. Right, because you've already admitted your sin. And you
made the Toba? We
have a caller who's gone?
What loan?
I have his number you want me to send him the phone number? Yeah,
the phone number you want his
don't just have his number or give me his phone? I'll type in his
phone number. Yeah.
In the meantime, if someone thinks you have done wrong to them, but
you think you haven't done them wrong, when will this be held
against the person in the Day of Judgment? If well, two people were
in a conflict Allah Tada will solve that conflict. On the day of
judgment. He will be the judge of that calm.
No here he says friend considers himself Salafi and it's not good.
And consider the practice of groups that could have bad
response.
Don't do it. No one's forcing you to
deprive yourself.
But the Adela are very well known. And the benefits are very well
known. Sookie. We have a course on this as salaam aleikum.
Who do we have here?
This is Hamlet. He is on the live stream. Oh, H bas Masha, Allah
Hamid, from. I would like to thank you.
My mother and I have been watching the live stream for months now
ever since the of the new studio and it's been a great benefit. Oh,
that's amazing. That's wonderful. Hamdulillah. I'm the lead. That's
great to hear. So that's great to hear.
Yes, I'm here. Did I hit mute? Oh, sorry. I hit the mute button by
accident. But thank you very much. And that's great to hear. It's
great to Okay, so my question is a follow up to what I asked about
law school. So I made I made visited both schools. I visited
students I spoke to them. And subhanAllah I still I'm still on
the fence. I don't know what else to do. You continue frankness.
Takata. When you're on the fence, you continue to do those
processes, dig deeper, do more Estacada and keep digging deeper.
Now the world's second round of talking to people from those
places, in general is too hot and it's the shot up there or not.
You're not done with it, until Allah makes it crystal clear for
you there are settled and your heart is settled. Right? And your
heart is settled usually, with a reason, like usually something of
this world that you can actually objectively speak and speak about,
manifests or have or happens. Right? So that's, that's one of
the things that you have to take into consideration, is that the
idea that
that
Allah has not, you're not done doing your staccato, maybe he
wants you to do more Salah more dua, so that he can open up for
you and just give you the sign afterwards. And the sign is
usually something that's going to happen that's physically in this
world objectively, that will make you say, this one over the other
one. That's the concept of istikhara and Mr. Shah
and when it comes to so I haven't done like, obviously we're gonna
have to choose these schools.
It's of course to be in proper manners to be rushing in law, but
how can I kind of work with what you're saying? But then also be
mindful of a deadline? No, it is permissible for you to say Oh
Allah, I have a deadline.
Show me a sign by before this time make it clear to me before the
deadline that's there's nothing haram about that.
That's not considered rushing. Please keep me in your doors of
course.
Please let us know Chicago inshallah. Definitely, I always
like to go out to daata Salam and those brothers are really really
nice and the
account always accommodating. So in sha Allah when anytime we're
out there, you will know from the social media
does that look?
Like?
A sister or a brother named a Munna says, Are you allowed to
make dua in Arabic in front of prayers? Now? I've had so many
questions on this. Are you allowed to make dua in the Font prayer? Is
this something in the humble Hanafy method that you're not
allowed to make dua in the place of sujood Yeah.
I remember our teachers will tell us that if you're if it's a form
of prayer, and you're making sujood making dua answer do they
actually
kind of caution against against in the form of prayer anything that's
not a must noon dua Yeah. And then especially if it's not a Muslim
dua for example, if you make dua O Allah, Allah Mirza, which ni
Falana are for example, Allah let me marry so and so. If you're
basically making dua, you're asking a law for something you can
ask the creation from, right? I can I can technically ask someone
Hey, can you marry me your daughter? I can certainly ask
someone Hey, good. Can you give me this car? So that's why the safest
thing is if you're going to make dua in solid shouldn't be a
misnomer to do, I've never understood and that's why I say
lace them and kill them in this. They sort of kill them. And that's
exactly because colorblindness is something I can ask another
person, I can ask the nurse, I can say, Crimea, you know, how can you
give me this? Okay, so, and then nebula? Yeah, and the nebula
there's more. There's more. It's more lacks. So you could be making
a lot in your scheduled, but preferably keep it a misnomer. Ah,
so that's why the NF are saying that. So if you're a Hanafy,
you've heard the Hanafi answer. Yeah. And if you're not a Hanafi,
in the medical method, we don't have this concept you're allowed
to make
any kind of DUA and you're also allowed to make it outside the
Arabic language as well, in the language of your ability, whatever
you're able to.
Or the cell phone is about to die, unfortunately. But Ryan, what do
you have a
question from so hey, are what I'm now following up on his son's
question. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged his
ummah, to expand the ways things are expressed and done.
Can you repeat it? Did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
encourage the Ummah to expand the ways that things are expressed and
for sure the
ways of the Dawa, we should use every means possible based on the
Quranic verse where I do LA home, Mr. Bottom mencoba on the rebuttal
height, and by saying rebuttal, Heil, shows tools, it's a
reference to to the butterfly means and the horses and the way
that you use horses is pointing to a tool. So we are obligated as a
general Phadke failure to use the tools that Allah give us. Right?
Someone in Omaha must give Dawa on the mediums that we're using here.
It's not fun, it's ain't upon everybody, but for Cuba, that the
Dow will be done in any place that that it can be done. Right. So
that's why we have to use every means possible, whether it's using
Zoom live streaming all these things. And I'd be Walmart says
Allah has not created a single when it comes to technology, a
single means of communication between the butcher and the Hulk.
It
except that its chief purpose is to spread hate.
Because that's the greatest benefit that a person could have
is to know that they have a creative with these attributes,
these secrets, then it releases you from so many anxieties and
limitations.
Let's only take one more from Instagram and one more from Ryan.
So let's read through these and we're going to see which one is
the, you know, the broadest question.
Alright, Ryan, what do you have?
This one is interesting question. What did the scholars say about
disobeying is the harder after it's been made clear, you were the
response to it is the harder?
What do you think, was the question exactly, so obeying is
too hard if and it's Takata, was made clear to you when you disobey
it. I mean, if Allah subhanaw taala of His Mercy has made
something clear to you that this is the proper thing for you to
take, and you don't take it. Then it's like turning away from a
subject, whether he has given you a rock, whether he has given you I
just think it's very foolish. And you have to remember that alquila
to FEMA, federal law, the best thing, the best decision is what
Allah chooses for you the best thing Allah knows what's best for
you. So if Allah is telling you, this is what's best for you, then
you decide, you're going to do the opposite. It's as if you're
thinking, you know, better, I will be less so. I just I think it's
very foolish. If you I also think then why did you make a stick out
in the field? Yeah. Why don't you the whole point of a staccato is
that you're resigning your decision to Allah's knowledge?
Yeah. So what you know, it just doesn't make sense to go against
what you just have to trust that Allah knows best for you and
follow through. That's it. And one thing that I really don't like is
to think about a matter, come to a conclusion, make a decision, a
thought out decision with this Takata is to shot etc.
and then change my mind. Yeah, because now next time I make a
decision, I won't trust myself. Yeah. So I like the idea that if I
make a decision, I'm going to see it through. I don't care how long
it's going to take. Not gonna give it up. Even if I have to pause if
I get tired of it if I have some setbacks, but we're still going,
right? Because that means next time, if I did that, let's say I
did worked on it for two years, then I quit.
The next time I'm working on something, and I'm, and I'm on the
second year, I said, Well, how do I know I might quit? Right? Yeah,
you can't trust yourself anymore. So if you stick with something,
and it's the same thing with like, a plate of food, I have this
habit, no matter what the plate of food is, I finished the whole
plate. Right? If it's just one of those things about like, from
wasting, not wasting food, so I put the cereal here. Why do I put
it in there? Throw it away. So I'm constantly negating myself that
right? If I put this amount of food in my plate, I'm gonna eat
the whole plate. If someone else put it for me, that's a different
story, because I didn't do it. But anything that you start, yeah, you
want to finish it? Yeah, it's a great habit to have. And also,
I'll tell you another great habit to have. If you start any action,
don't do a second action at the same time. Like for example, if
you say, Okay, I'm gonna read a chapter, don't check your text
messages, finish the whole chapter, no matter what happens,
finish the whole chapter, if the whole world is burning down,
finish that whole chapter before going on to the next thing. And in
fact, I think that it is an insult to Allah subhanaw taala
to be doing a better and thicker and then checking the cell phone
and texting and doing that at the same time. I think it's a subtle
insult to the Creator, that his Vic is remembrance is worthy of
being double test. Therefore then maybe your DUA won't be answered
for that reason, you're not paying attention to what ALLAH SubhanA
which is, you know, his name is mentioned and you're double
tasking. Now there is multitasking is okay, if you're listening to
something not put on
and doing something else like a chore, right? And if the chore is
mindless, then it can be a Quran because you could still able to
focus 100% while driving for example,
or some mindless task you can listen to the Quran.
Listening and reciting Quran they both have the same reward but we
said listening, reciting has more benefits, more learning benefits.
What do I do when I pray bind to a heavy mm. Both according to some
of the more Tennesseans they pray with their own intention, they say
the movements will match the gym out because we have no other
choice, but we're gonna have our own intention. And we are not
praying behind the men we're praying when fed them.
My friend said to me, people in your religion get angered so
easily and are intolerant. How should I better respond to him
that could change his mind.
We get angry when people insult the Prophet so I said and we're
intolerant for insulting the prophets of Allah when he was
seven, and that's a sign of faith and belief. We're not let me ask
you this
If you're in a house and that house is on fire,
some people said, no, no, we're just gonna sit here. Is that
tolerance to accept it? Or do you use everything in your power to
get them out of the house? This house is on fire. So sometimes
there's a reason for being intolerant. At this moment we're
in, we're not tolerant of somebody who's going to kill himself, he's
going to harm himself, and he's going to harm others. He's
spreading. Hey, guys, don't believe him. It's not a real fire
stay where you put stay put, it's not a real fire. So if there's a
building on fire, there's a fire on the on the top floor, and which
you know, is going to fall into the bottom floor. And the people
in the bottom floor, they don't feel the heat, they don't see it.
And they say,
It's okay. Right? There's no fire don't believe him?
Are we gonna say, let's be tolerant of differences of
opinion.
Right? So difference of opinion here, right? This is a complete a
danger to your existence of certain things. We're not taller
enough
for the Instagramers or the phone died, but
we will introduce you pick up on YouTube.
All right, bye, brother says how do you heal your heart from
heartbreak because the person I love married somebody else, I
really believe that. I really believe that a victory 16 is a
Shiva
Sakina is a Shiva. You know, when you bring it down to your heart
issues that also you have to remember yourself that remind
yourself that whatever allowed this person to reach you, nobody's
going to take and whatever he does tend not to reach you. You're
never going to get it's part of our human to believe that that
whatever, whatever reach this, whatever reaches the servant,
whatever is destined to be yours, no one is going to take Yeah, so
if this person ended up marrying someone else, and you wanted that
person, just understand that that person was not written for you.
And the person that you are going to marry is going to be yours. And
no one's going to take that personally. And we can also say,
that's your destiny. Now, you don't know in two years, she may
the situation may change also, I wouldn't necessarily the live my
life based Yeah, I wouldn't live my life based upon that. Two years
things might change, so I won't get married. And if they're
waiting if she's divorced, yeah, right. She gets divorced or if her
husband dies, I wouldn't sit there waiting for that work according to
what's happening currently taking place. And if something it's
in your heart, Allah knows what's in your heart, but you can't live
based upon that. That's what's important.
All right, we have to stop here. The Instagram phone has died,
unfortunately. So does that come along here and everyone subchronic
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