Shadee Elmasry – NBF 144 Prophetic Modesty
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The speakers discuss the lack of diversity and the responsibility of believers to their own ideology, as well as the shaping of the Shema and the manopause. They stress the importance of finding a partner emotionally supportive, avoiding drinking, and finding a partner who is emotionally supportive and will help grow up. They also recommend avoiding drinking and not thinking twice about alcoholism, and avoiding drinking and not thinking twice about alcoholism.
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So Allah rasool Allah while early use of human Voila, all right,
when a billy goat in the top of the mountain is being hunted down,
how does it save itself?
It throws yourself off the mountain. Because it really goat
can survive the mountain.
But the CAT scan.
Interesting. Yeah, literally tosses itself. And it knows how to
go down the mountain. Oh, yeah. Yeah, but the
now, I love this post here. Let me read it for you. I've said this a
million times that the diversity of the West when the West talks
about diversity, it's it's literally just diversity of skin
colors, or ethnicities, but it's never diversity of beliefs. All
right, believers have this sister, I don't know who she is, I think
she's an Egyptian sister from Canada share posts are really
strong. Right? She says one cannot quit her tag as believers hub on
Instagram. And she says one cannot claim the Western demographic
ruling system is unique due to pluralism.
Guaranteeing inclusivity, and nonconformity. Western pluralism
is pluralism only within the confines of its own ideology. In
other words, motherhood within the same ideology. That's essentially
what she's saying, Western pluralism is motherhood within the
same ideology.
It does not allow for coexist, that for the coexistence of
conflicting ideas. Good. The West does not allow or accept. And by
the way, I have no problem with that, but just claim it how it is.
And that's the beauty like in Islam, we claim it how it is that
we can have tolerance for opinions in the Vanya matters, upon which
there's no edge Mau but on the cutter, yet there's no tolerance
for rejecting any of them. She says what the West does not allow
or accept any idea from outside of its ideology to influence society,
nor does the West accept concepts that are contradictory to their
own ideas. The only pluralism the West upholds is a superficial type
of pluralism, not absolute pluralism. If the word pluralism
is intended to represent the differences in views, perception,
intellectual or political understandings, however, this is
all within the bounds of the same ideology, then there is no
uniqueness. Right? If you're saying that all this is is is only
within the same month basically motherhood wouldn't within the
same ideology. That's what she's saying. And that's exactly what
the West promotes just motherhood within the same ideology. Once the
you question the foundations of the ideology, you get cancelled
faster than you can tell you faster than you blink your eyes,
then there is no uniqueness to Western thought from any other
ideological group. Therefore, the West that champions tolerance has
no basis for this claim, except mere lip service, they have no
right or grounds to gatekeeping the idea of tolerance because in
reality, they do not uphold absolute pluralism nor does it
have the capacity to exist in reality in reality, nobody you
cannot possibly
promote an idea and then equally promoted the opposite. In that
case, you don't truly believe in that idea. Right?
You cannot possibly believe in a foundation and then promote the
opposite foundation or the opposite to that foundation may
it's just common sense says that.
So really good piece there and she has a lot of nice posts to be
honest with you and I just posted a couple onto my page. So well
done for her
All right, how are we doing on
with the title different today.
Oh, here we are. Today we are covering the Shema and as always
on Tuesdays we cover the Shema and
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Lebanese Egyptian, Mashallah. But she is her stuff is solid. You all
should follow. You know what she's saying? Because it makes a lot of
sense.
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battlemat Jaffe HYAH Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam had
death and Mr. Moody monovalent her death in a widowed her death in
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autobio had death one evisa eat dinner could recall a canister
Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and shut the higher and mineral
raw II felidia, what can either carry has che and already for a
few words here, so the Messenger of Peace be upon him. And this is
one of the characteristics and qualities of like Western
culture and civilization that is, it's totally not part of Western
civilization, it's the opposite. So we have a concert of higher
that there's certain things you should be ashamed of, you should
be ashamed of nakedness like to be naked, you should be ashamed.
Higher it's something where you should be ashamed to be too open
about certain aspects of your life. Like the main identity
marker in the West is becoming or they're pushing it to become
sexuality basically gender and sexuality and identity I just saw
I just received an absolutely absurd
screenshot about like the official obstetrics organization you know,
every medical field has its
has as its its like, conference, right organization or whatever.
So I remember the pediatricians have one and the oncology
radiation oncologist have one chemotherapy has massive one
cancer has massive one. But this one for obstetrics, it's all
about, it's just woke politics. Like what does this have to do
with obstetrics? Right? I guess it does have a lot to do now that
you're having new customers, they should be happy. Right? All these
gynecologist have tons of new customers now who are dudes.
So that's basically it's just basically all this woke nonsense.
So they're making this we have heard from talking about these
things, you don't talk about these things. You don't speak about what
you're interested in putting your body parts into or or having them
inserted inside of you. Like you shouldn't even discuss this. So we
have concept of hat. This is where it applies most. Right?
This has been killed in the West, it doesn't exist in the West, the
opposite exist, it's marked here is marked modesty, modesty in
revealing your body modesty and talking about money, modesty and
talking about
what we just mentioned, there. These are the subtopics of
modesty, you should have modesty and talking about yourself
actually. And we're in a society where everyone's like self
promoting, now there is permissibility and self promoting
for your tiara. You are allowed to do that. So a company can say you
know, use our company or he's a lawyer you can put your picture up
and say use me as a as a lawyer, whatever that stuff is actually is
permitted. It's not haram for you to do but we see it way beyond
this where it's like constant nonstop self promotion, and you're
not offering anything it's not like you're promoting a service
that benefits you that's where the line is benefit if you're offering
a service that benefits us, okay, I know it's time to bring it but
if you're offering something that doesn't and you're just promoting
yourself
that's something that we would we would tend to have high up from
saying i
You want me to read this thing? Let me read it for you. Let me
read for you this is absurdity.
Okay,
here it is. This is from ACOG they're all got some names like
this AX Sgro ACOG Baba mg. A cup not mo but that's another one.
ACOG is the it's basically the association something of
gynecologists. Okay, top news story says lesbian bisexual
pansexual. Peri menopausal post men's menopausal mean that's the
thing postmenopausal I think that's a real thing. Everything
else was not a thing. All right, physically. Lesbian, that's your
choice bisexual. You just made that up. Or that's your behavior
lesbian that your behavior pansexual
whatever. Okay.
These women so basically all these every deviant categorization of
women, what's the there's more sexually active? Okay, more than
heterosexual women. And they had a better sexual function. The heck
How do you exactly how is this scientific? How is it scientific?
According to a sir
Have a have 198 female veterans aged 45 to 60 498 said this is
better. That's your that's your survey. That's your knowledge
that's this is the association of something something gynecologists.
In addition, depression, anxiety, trauma symptoms, were associated
with lower sexual will functions among heterosexual women. Yeah,
because we're surrounded with new people. That's why we're getting
depressed. Unbelievable. But no such depression amongst lesbian
bisexual pansexual women.
You gotta be lying. This is such a lie. This is a data presented at
the North American menopause society annual meeting. Do you
have a whole society for this? Okay. Besides that?
You gotta be kidding me. Seriously? This is 100 youth you,
you you. You did 198 You asked 198 people so you really sent email
because you found that it's favorable to every deviant type of
sexuality, or what you guys would describe as diverse or whatever.
Nobody even knows half of these words that you're saying. Like
Anyway,
her death and Mr. Moody monovalent her death and our Kia had death in
a Sofia and I'm monsoon and Musa ibn Abdullah near zeal. Caught me.
And Mola Leah Isha. A servant of Asia said that I it's just that I
said, Matt Navarra to Illa Ferengi Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, I have never even gazed at the outer of the Prophet peace be
upon him.
Okay. She never even looked at it. Not once. That's the highest she
had with the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam. Yet
these people all they can talk about these days. mostly
foreigners. Allah says in the Quran. They cannot stop. All they
have is one subject, which is edit footage, basically private parts.
That's the only subject that they have in their life now because you
all went for in the Haram so you're not satisfied. You have to
just go for
the they go when you when you drink saltwater, you keep getting
thirsty. And that's what the Haram is for us. It's like drinking
Salt, salt water you will never be satisfied. Never be satisfied. You
don't see someone looking at let's say Zeno *, casually.
There it's either you're addicted or you don't look at it at all.
Why? Because it's drinking salt water. It's it's drinking. It's
having salty food, and then wondering why you can't ever be
quench your thirst. And that's what the Haram is. That's the
nature of haram.
The automat said there are many types of modesty.
One is a modesty in kindness when someone approaches you, you should
be ashamed to be rough with them basically. All right.
For example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was
ashamed to tell the Sahaba to leave his house after his walima
he had walima for his marriage to say to Xena
and the Prophet loves say designup And he says wedding night but they
kept staying and staying and talking and you know that he this
is not the day for this is this is not the person to do this to the
messenger of allah sallallahu Newsome so what would you do? He
would get up he would go outside. Right? He would do something he
will come back and they will stayed sitting. Then he would go
outside again and wait and they would come back. Right then he
would come back. So ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada Allah who lays to human
and Huck, Allah is not ashamed of the truth. So he says if you come
to the messenger peace be upon him eat and leave, right don't sit
mistakenly seen the Hadith, just sitting enjoying the conversation
why this messenger is not like anybody else.
Number one, he has too much higher to tell you to leave to signal to
you to leave. Number two is the messenger of Allah. He has a lot
of things to do. So allistic nurse will have you been chit chatting
is not going to be from his agenda. There's something that he
can do
no one had more hair than the messenger peace be upon him so
it's such that he never even told anybody no. We read that last
week. Another type of headache here isn't a bad when you do a bad
when you do acts of worship, you have to really be humble. In this
a bad
a bad a should not be like with your feet up in the air and in a
cocky position.
How is their humility in that?
It shouldn't be rushed. It shouldn't be while distracted.
If you came in your boss asked you to to have a meeting or a very
successful rich person as you had to have a meeting
says I want to give you something are you going to be texting while
you while that's happening, so have a bad day while doing a rod.
It's a lack of help, sorry, texting or being distracted while
doing your own odd lack of hat. Lack of hair is also that you only
a bad is while you're driving, for example. So Allah is not worth
your time to sit down, we should make a stick far from this, that
the only time that we do anyway. But now driving, obviously, you
could make use of it by doing a bed and thicker and oh rod while
driving. But that's that can't be the only time that's as if saying
there's, there's no time for you. Except when I'm driving. We should
have heard from that, like we should be ashamed. These are all
types of then there's the higher of the self, which we mentioned
earlier that we want to cover our bodies that we wouldn't say
certain things that we wouldn't
discuss certain aspects of our lives, like your money, it's not
business to anyone to discuss. And this is today. Now, it's a thing
people that have no hair, they just talk about money, their own
money, all the time, other people's money all the time, it's
too much. It's like excessive.
So there's another type
is the deepest type is the hair in your soul, which is that you
should be embarrassed to be covetous of things of the dunya.
Now, certain things are of the dunya, like a nice big fat house,
for example, that you should have heard that from that from that
type of covetousness. Of the minor things of the dunya. Now, marriage
is not of the dunya. It's not considered of the dunya marriage
is not considered that. So wealth that you can need to spend upon
your family is not considered that. Right? So there are certain
things that are not considered of the dunya that you may desire
them. But if it's a covetousness, that's a distraction from Allah,
they should be ashamed of that. That's a type hieght inside your
button. That is a habit that's inside of yourself. That's very
heavy. Right? That's very heavy. And it's very deep level of
dolemite gave two meanings when they said the Prophet peace be
upon him is more modest than a virgin in her veil. Which means
that
it's a girl that
she's never been with men she's never seen. She doesn't know the
world of men.
And, of course, in the old days, they used to be basketball in
front of men. One time said to Khadija narrated a hadith in which
an old man came and told them that the last prophet is going to come
to the city. And the girls looked at each other and ran away, like
why is this man talking to us? We don't know you. Like why are you
talking to us? Are you our Dad Are you they found what he was doing
completely rude and offensive. The fact that he's talking to them
like this.
Then he said and which one of you would like to marry him? They
screamed and threw things at him to discuss the topic of marriage.
When we don't know you, and you're just a strange Mantis said he just
said about that. All the girls became angry and threw things at
him while I knew in my heart, it would be me.
And then she said, years past, and I forgot about it.
But that's an example of that. That is how about the women? Allah
mentions them the two dogs, the daughters, of whom it is said to
be sure, I
will imagine, imagine means the one who lived in Midian, the city
of Midian.
And then said no Musa got them the water when they couldn't get the
water because it was surrounded by men and they wouldn't jostle with
the men. So Sedna, Musa went in and some of those men were rude.
And according to some versions of the story, he fought them off. And
then he said, Let these women drink get water for them for
themselves. And they got water for their whatever they need it. And
then he went back and sat under the tree and he said, I'll be in
the mountains Delta Elaine and Hayden fapy. If anyone wants to
get married, he should recite this. If anyone wants a job. He
should recite this. If anyone is starving for food. He should
recite this. If anyone doesn't have a house. He should recite
this. And in general, anyone who has a serious need in life, he
should recite this I'd be in Neelima and delta ylabel Hydra
fapy Oh lord, my lord. I am for what the goodness that you sent
down I'm in need. The goodness that you have. I'm in need of it.
So the only time she has to hear one of them came walking with
higher
and she said in a beard Oh Kalia juicy. Drama. Sakata Lana, my
father wants to compensate you for what you have done for us. Of
getting us to the water.
And while they're walking, the wind would blow and her whole
figure would show
and said no Musa would have to lower his gaze. So said no Musa
said, let me walk in front of you, and you just tell me go left or go
right.
So that he wouldn't even see her figure.
Let alone her skin, her nakedness. So coverage for us is, it's both
that the garment is neither loose, sorry, to form fitting, nor
transparent. These two conditions. We don't consider coverage. That's
the meaning of coverage for us.
And it's disgusting. Now even guys are wearing
really, really tight sweatpants now, like really tight
and short shorts too tight. I mean,
seriously, the Prophet peace be upon him, once he made to add job,
to our job. And he said that there will come a time where the people
of markets, meaning civilized people who have business and
trade, will walk in the markets with their thighs showing and the
Sahaba that isn't seen showing your thighs, right.
Even Nelson Mandela, if you go back and you watch the movie about
Nelson Mandela, one of the demands that he had is that I want from
the South African government, I want them to send me I want us to
send them to send us pants in the jail because they were wearing
shorts. Right? And like You're humiliating us by making us wear
shorts.
bashfulness is natural for girls, especially the girl who doesn't go
out much.
Why? Because a guy he's got to go out and he's got to he's got to
jostle in life. That's the nature of life. You got to Jocelyn life,
What girl doesn't have to do that she should be provided for.
Some automat have said that by the girl who was whose indoors are
covered or she doesn't have to go outside and jostle in life. That
girl is meant who was brought up in that way? Of course, because
not everyone's brought up that way. I mean, today, girls aren't
brought up that way. And it's not necessarily like a flaw in the
sense that what is the girl going to do in a suburban home all day?
Nothing good? I don't think right? What is she going to do all day,
like you got to come up with something busy. So she's got to
study, learn, do something do activities. I haven't seen someone
healthy, like a healthy mentality and a healthy life way of living.
That just hits home all day. So there are ways now that we're
going to live where people are going to be active and out while
also maintaining.
I, this is how we live.
It's how we live in our community. Right? Do you have activities in
your community center, which is the message if you have physical
activities to get your energy out. You can't sit around at home all
day, back in the olden days, there was nothing outside except that
what things weren't necessarily safe outside. And the climates
were harsh. And there's a reason they live like this.
Alone was best. Maybe there are communities out there where they
do, they did find a way and the girls are super happy. And they
just stay home all day. Right. But I just don't see how that's
healthy for a man or woman these days, there's got to be activity,
but there has to be modesty with activity. You can be active in
life, but modest.
So that's why I didn't expect him to mention this. But he said that
that this is for those who live that way, who are brought up in
this manner.
And many families he says observe this. And it's true. In especially
in decades past, I'm not a fan of
cross decade comparison, what is the point? Right? They lived a
total different context than us. The question is, what would they
do if they live now? That's and many people say this about the
sahaba? Oh, did the Sahaba do this? This? How would you that the
negation of the Sahaba they're not doing something? It's not a proof
of anything? It's not a proof at all? The question is, you know,
the mentality and the purpose and the way this hobby lived? What
would they have done now? Right? That's the question. If they were
in this situation, what would they have been? Like? How would they
have acted? That's the question you have to ask. By looking at how
they made decisions, not what decision they made, what decision
they made, is based on 99% things out of their control. All of us
are handed a deck of cards in life. Right? That's your century
that you're born in that decade, the family all the things that
you're born in, and you make decisions based on that.
They were handed a whole different deck of cards in life. There
Kodaka there is something totally different. So they're gonna make
their decisions. We're gonna make our decisions. But the question
is, the purpose and the method. That's the question
the set
second meaning the ultimate said
is that fi could Didya meaning
the one who is veiled or away from the people is metaphorically, that
modesty shown by a virgin girl on her first night is evident. Okay.
And then he says, It is sad that this does not exist in many
Western oriented circles today.
Forget modesty, there aren't even virgins anymore, right? Unless
you're part of some religion. How? Why would there be? If you don't
have a religion? Why would you limit yourself? Guys or girls?
Explain to me Give me one reason justification. What normal person
if God hadn't brought down a punishment for this behavior, why
they wouldn't have done it.
There's no reason for it except belief. Believe in Allah, we
believe in this profit. And this prophet said Don't behave like
this. And the Quran says, there's a grave punishment in society in
this life and in the next for those who behave like this.
That's the only reason we should admit when something is the only
reason, right? I can't stand when people try to admit something like
this rationally. Oh, it's not good for you. Okay. Yeah. All that
after the fact. Right? That's fine. After the fact that we admit
that the only reason we're not behaving like this is because God
does prophets. So otherwise, every human being would want to do this
all day and all night. Drink wine, drink champagne, committed, you
sleep around. That's what that's what natural human beings would
do. Otherwise, why would Allah come with severe prohibition on
it? Severe prohibition to match great desire, intense temptation.
No temptation, no prohibition, general prohibition, is there a
prohibition on in taking defecation and licking it? No.
Not specifically. But of course, in general, there is, in general
is prohibited to ingest and the Jessa. We know that in general,
but there's no verses explicitly stating, do not drink your urine
do not lick your defecation, all that stuff, because no one wants
to do it. So there's a scale. Insofar as we're tempted to do
something, the prohibition is severe, and the punishment is
explicit and graphic. And the warning is great. And the verse
even says, Don't go near it. Don't even let her caribou Xena, don't
go near it, let alone
to do it, don't even go near it.
But there were there's disgust from the human beings there
doesn't need to be appropriate general prohibition is sufficient,
where human beings are generally disgusted from doing something.
You don't need to prohibit it
the natural modesty of the Prophet peace be upon him,
it was not possible for him to have told his guests to leave.
So the Prophet was bearing it and trying to give
them a signal by leaving the house and coming in.
The most informal and intimate wife of the messenger was say, to
Isha, she was she was informal with the Prophet peace be upon
him. And we see this in many cases.
And she was directly with the Prophet and she was open with the
Prophet and she was just a free spirit
completely, yet she also had hair. So free spirited does not mean
immodest. And she said she would never look at the out of the
Prophet peace be upon him out of higher
wear, whereas in the shittier, it's allowed.
There's absolutely no prohibition on this good. And some orlimar
have even
talks about not avoiding it because if you limit it in a
society, a person may desire something halal, he lived he
limits from himself what his had done and as a result may fall into
the Haram
so don't limit what the Allah didn't limit this is associated in
the visa Allah He was Salam is something special to the Prophet
peace be upon him, that she's just saying, That's how she behaved
towards the Prophet. She did not say that this is an obligation.
Are you allowed to raise your voice over another person's voice?
Yes, you can't, but not over the Prophets, peace be upon him. So
the lot of things specific to the Prophet, if anyone calls you while
you're praying, do you cut your prayer and go, No, you finish your
prayer and go, but with the prophet would have called you you
say salaam aleikum, and you go, or you answer him do exactly what he
asked you to the fullest extent and return to the prayer having
never slammed out that's actually a fatwa, a ruling, and it's all
hypothetical because obviously the prophet is not going to call any
of us again. But that's what they said that answering the Prophet
peace be upon him because this happened to us a hobby. The
prophet called on him while he was praying to Neff Phyllis
And he's the Prophet said, Why didn't you answer me said I was
praying to nothingness? And then the prophets I send them said, Did
you not hear Allah saying, answer the call of Allah and His
messenger when they call to what gives you life? Which means that
to answer the prophet is superior to your own prayer. Your own
prayer is never the answer and the prophets foot
to your messenger has more rights over to you than your mother and
your father, your mother and your father, they give you life in this
world do they guarantee you afterlife, following mother and
father does not guarantee you after that following the Prophet
guarantees you eternal life. So he's more important to us, for us
to obey than our mother and our father. This is important because
especially now Thanksgiving and a lot of questions coming around,
that my parents, they're not eating a lot of food.
And it's a tough situation. But we say that the
obeying the parents is fought.
But disobeying them is also false in certain circumstances, but you
have to disobey them nicely. Disobeying the parents is fun. If
they're asking you to do something haram.
That's the truth of the matter. disobeying your parent is afoot.
If they're asking you to do something that is forbidden.
That's how simple it is.
But you have to do so in a nice way. How do you do so in a nice
way, as people who've done it before, don't ask, it's not a
textbook thing, every parent's going to be different, every adult
is going to be different. Every youth, if you're the youngest
child is very different than you're the oldest child.
youngest kids, they get away with murder.
Right? youngest child of the family, third child, fourth
child's fifth child, they get away with absolute murder. And the
parent laughed off the oldest child, it's like the parent,
overcooked it overly strict with the first child, because he's like
the sets the bar, that's the bar, the oldest kid is like the bar
have the highest level of parenting. And the youngest kid
has like the lowest level of parenting. And in between that
that's like what the parent really believes. Right? But he sets the
first limit on the first kid, these poor kids are burned to the
crisp.
And then the other kid is left raw is never told anything. It's
tough. But that's the reality of things. So nobody could just
advise you. People have to know your situation. Know the
temperaments of your parents know your temperament, know, the actual
background that you have the history that you have with them.
That's important, too. What's your history with them? Are you like
the best kid? Or are you like always causing problems, and now
you're religious and causing problems right? In their eyes,
that this is just another type of problem that you're causing.
Because some people are like that they're problem child's, then they
get into the deen and the parents are like, Oh, here we go. Again,
this is his latest phase. Right? So nobody could just say how it's
to be done. You have to ask people who've done it before, you're not
the only person whose parents have asked him to not eat halal meat.
Okay.
And there's a lot of people who have techniques, they're going to
share them with you. They go and they buy the meat themselves.
That's one of their techniques. Okay. They cook it themselves,
they buy it themselves, or they go in and they bring their own food
with them as like, not like I'm bringing my own food I'm eating
No, like when people get together, one person makes a salad. One
person makes this, that and the other. That's a lot of ways how a
lot of times how families go.
So that's the idea when it comes to
go into family's house where they don't eat.
Unfortunately, I can't, there is no outlet for you. You have to
face the awkwardness and toughen up. And being toughness is
something that we don't do to ourselves, we let Allah bring it
to us. And this is your challenge. This is how you're gonna have to
mentally have the toughness. But on the outside, you have to really
make sure you also never upset your parents because there's a lot
a lot of loss if you angered them, even in matters of Dean but
so so the content of what you're doing will always upset them. But
the way in which you do that can make it far worse or better.
Right. So one of the ways like as we said always in negotiations,
you never want to argue over one thing. So you never want someone's
experience to be with you to be one thing. So we have many things
so you could spend hours of the day with them.
Making them happy in many different ways. And this one issue
just gets tucked in. Also you have to look at your own. Anytime you
go into some awkwardness, you got to look at your own vibes your own
situation, are you coming in tents, if you're coming in tents
and everything like that, then it's going to be tense. But if
you're coming in like relaxed and just your your, your
your massage or your vibes are like really relaxed.
You spread that if you come in tense about the issue, everyone
can sense it and you create a tension that you could cut with a
knife.
There's a lot of stuff that goes into this and that is the struggle
We all have a lot of people in our communities in our society, so
they got to inshallah try to figure it out and deal with it and
do what's right.
And back in the day, there was a time back in the day, Thanksgiving
was treated like haram, right? Because it's a non Islamic event,
but it wasn't also a non religious, it wasn't a religious
event, either. So that's where it's just eating a certain food
that happens to be available and
there shouldn't be anything forbidden or sinful in that, nor
is it recommended, the family part is recommended. The gluttony part
is my crew. How's that? For the answer on and eating the turkey?
This there's nothing right or wrong about it? Neither is it men
do free to do nose, can anyone say is haram for you to do maximum
mcru Because you should be differing with the non-believing
culture around you maximum. Right.
And that's if we take that in general, but usually scholars take
it in specific, you're supposed to differ with the non believers in
religious matters, right, that's another approach to differ with
non believers from you, you be against be different from them or
be distinct from them in what marks their their philosophy,
their ideology and their beliefs. Whereas Thanksgiving is not much
of that, but the gluttony part is definitely mcru.
Okay.
Even the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had higher on
this, and he said that he or she described that he would close his
eyes when he was intimate with his wives. Right.
Out of hire,
but to tell you that this is the what the prophets I said them did.
And this is something costs for him. This is not necessarily this
is not the ruling. He's not stating a ruling here the ruling
is that between husband and wife, there is nothing haram except
a double entering from the back. I mean, not from physically the back
but from the *, for penetration of the * is the only thing that
is forbidden.
Even when the prophets lie, Selim took a ghost.
The prophets always made sure his private parts were covered.
Alright.
And that's it for this chapter. Next chapter is on hijama. hijama
is a nice practice that I did a couple of times, and I really
actually felt a bit lighter in the morning. hijama was good, it was a
good practice. I do it again, I do it all the time, if I could.
It's not painful, you just sit there and they take a warm glass
cup. They warm it up on a candle
where it's warm, but not too hot. And then they put it onto your
back. I can't remember because I really couldn't see how it was
done. But that cup is there and there's something holding it
there. Something pushing it down.
And that you end up when they do this like six times on your back,
then they take them all out. When they take them all off. Actually,
they don't take them off right away. They just they unstructured
it and lift it a little bit. Then they take a little blade and
scrape a couple scrapes on your back and then they put it back. So
all the blood blood comes inside this cup.
And they do that over. And it's supposedly the idea behind it is
it sucks out the heavy and the bad blood.
That's idea. But my My thing is, I don't care about this theory. But
let's see if it works. That's my thing. So I don't care whatever
the theory is, let's see the truth of the matter will be does it
work? And I'm telling you I was waking up the next morning a lot
later on a lot fresher for the next like five six days. And then
it wore off. I'm probably do I'm going to do it soon. If you can
get
someone to do a gem for you. So cupping is different than hijama
because cupping is there's no cutting involved. They don't cut
but in hijama they they do some slicing and then all of a sudden
I mean without realizing it the cutting scars go away. Like maybe
within a few days.
How does it stop bleeding once the Cup comes off because the slits
are really light and then the bleeding just stops. That's really
subtle slits.
I enjoyed it. You get to sit there and you just wait and and the
result is really good to be honest with you.
All right, let's take a
Open QA No. Who or what do we have going here?
Did DTC Tara s era DD estra I'm trying to sit and say this name
properly Don't Don't worry about it. It's actually it does not feel
painful at all. There's no pain in it at all
don't know if we have a hit Do we have a local hygienist?
You know two guys here.
Why don't you get registered?
Get trained?
No, I'll bring my mom she'll train you. She's a doctor.
Like touching people's hearing back to you.
No offense to anyone who has that. But really, you shouldn't. We
should. How?
On your leg? Yeah. On your maybe on your arms and legs in here. But
I don't know if it's the same forehead. I don't know if it's the
same. Last time I went and did it with these guys. This is one guy.
Algerian dude. Yeah.
He was getting it done on his forehead. year on his chin
forehead, scraping the skin. Why would you do that to yourself get
infected if you do. So June. Problems had problems. Oh, he was
having headaches. That's a problem.
Well, he should shave his head and do it on the scalp. Yeah.
That's crazy. That's crazy.
Hey, Gemma, so
don't know who else is out there. We got to find people out there.
No, I just did it with my mom. When I did it, though, I didn't
really have any, like ailment dose? I didn't notice anything.
Yeah. I think it's one of those things that I'm a believer in
like, certain these basic things to always do them. Like, it's
harder to do a JAMA than basic things like stretching. Like
there are certain basic things everybody should be doing all the
time. And they should take it seriously. If you don't, you're
not going to have good health. Like if you don't walk intensely.
And my my exercise of choice is walking uphill on the treadmill.
Like severely uphill on the treadmill. It's better on your
knees. Right? than running. It's, it's good for your legs for your
lungs. People got to stay physically fit. Super important.
Super important. Yeah. And it's just like the basic stuff. Like I
remember the
freeware it came up. Yeah, but someone was saying like the Imam
of a community. And I this could probably extend to Muslims in
general. Like it should be fit. Like you shouldn't you should be
someone worth following. Yeah. Not someone who was, you know, your
deen is put together but your, your stomach is huge or something?
Yeah, that's not acceptable. Because some people said, you
know, don't don't make fun of these people. But wait a second,
Allah didn't create you like that? You ate? Right? And yes, some
people, their metabolism is different. We have to admit that.
We have to admit that. But we can't say that this is something
you physically cannot change. You can't change it. And it's not
really to put anyone make them feel bad, to be honest with you.
But it is something we have to say that it can be altered. You can
physically alter the way you look, it might take effort. And our
society is doing this thing where like, oh, like,
what's it called? overloads. Like accepting everybody, like, Oh, my
God. Well, the you know, the value of that is when I go to Target
now, sometimes you end up in the wrong aisle. You don't have to
lower your gaze anymore. Yeah, the posters are putting up there as
the day you don't have the standard of beauty that normal
people have any more they're trying to warp that. So it's, it's
helping me it's helping a lot of Muslim guys. Right? That this is
not there's no, they're putting up what we would have in the past.
considered not attractive. People. Right. So
Fine with me, in that in that regard, right? I don't mean to for
anybody I love though, because you're gonna have knee problems.
You're gonna have Thank you. Yeah, like if your kid was on that
route, you would say big problem. No, we got to talk. Right? We got
to talk. Because also there's cholesterol problems. There's
unseen, the unseen part of the bodies, there's the physical
aspect. And like the obvious things, like I could tell like
it's just going to be too much on your knees and, and what have you,
but there's also and there's a family part. This could be fitna
for your wife. I was thinking yesterday like when that that
wrote it was I encountered a rota yeah to Jai hurdled it yes my life
I was huge. You couldn't wouldn't be able to hurdle it that road a
lot of times Salah you know is an issue sujood under cool, right?
You don't want to be
deprived from that.
Stretching to me, I haven't there. There's there's some hardcore
stretchers out there. And they claim that this by itself is one
of the most important things in his
trickle fitness like I haven't gotten into the hardcores. I just
gotten into regular stretching like all the time, but not the
hardcores. Alright, Mohammed Mona M has been asking this question
why Q Yes of God. He said taking out interest based student loans
from the government is haram, but not necessarily sinful if there's
no other alternative. So it's basically federal of
permissibility.
What are my thoughts on that? I can't give you a federal on the
permissibility of it, to be quite honest with you. But he said it
and just said it. I'm not in the position to say
I just teach you what rulings are and I direct you to movies that I
am aware of and recognize. So but I can tell you that mg did permit
that from their feds, but that's federal. They're ruling that the
circumstance is different, therefore, it's not simple.
Ozma says I've had a jam a couple of days ago. I feel great. I feel
lighter. It takes all the toxins out of the body. My stomach feels
better my liver area feels good. So I need I'm due for a hijama and
you should try it all
right, Scott, people maybe I learned he knows. These are people
in North Jersey. We need this. We need someone in the community to
be certified or trained. I wouldn't tell anybody that because
I don't want to touch anyone's back. Yeah, if you don't like
touching people don't do it. Yeah. Yeah. Like family and stuff. Yeah.
All right. Let's see what else we got here.
Is it okay to have a female pen pal as a man?
No, it's not.
It's not
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going to be the same
All right, next question is from M star.
People who live with you who do not eat halal food, they can now
say they're vegan
it's more acceptable to say that than to tell somebody that you're
not eating their food because it's haram because there's a massive
you know, like implication on haram and halal versus I'm just a
vegan.
Save Our Souls says
no one even answered Salam let alone spread the love a stock for
Allah and apologies. Oh, they're talking to somebody else. I'm
sorry about that.
Didi says
Who are we giving thanks to and thanksgiving. Oh, thanks. We thank
Allah Tada all day and all night. These people think a lot once a
year by stuffing their faces and then buying stuff the next day.
How does make it make sense to me, right? And then they all buy stuff
the next day, and then Saturday and Sunday. They sleep around and
watch football and the Monday they buy everything on Cyber Monday.
What sugar is that your version of sugar is tough stuff yourself. Why
don't you fast
anyway?
Pointless there's no there's no even pointing going that route.
Some scholars say we can make up Miss Sunnah prayers. It is okay.
You can do that within the day, though not more than that.
Why? Because it's recorded that the Prophet did that on the day
and not beyond that.
He made up some nephila that he used to do after the hook, he made
it up afterwards. Abdulhadi says in the same way that we have evil
eye in Islam, is there a good eye from pious people? Yes, there is.
What is the good eye of the pious people? These pious people have
gotten themselves accustomed that every time they their eye glance
gazes upon somebody that make dua for them.
until they've done that so many millions of times that the upon
glancing upon somebody, their heart is always seeking good for
them. And Allah knows best.
How's the marriage website going? Has it been successful? So far?
Yes. And the first wedding is actually set in December. The
first MOA debased wedding is set in September, December
and it's
one person is from here. The other person came to the mawatha event
from New York. That's how they met.
Am I conducting the wedding? If my schedule permitting I'm conducting
the wedding if not, I just attend
what is
The preferred way to make dua in Sajida with desperation that's the
most important with intensity with desperation
in the language of your, in your mother tongue if you have to, if
you can't express yourself in Arabic
I wonder if someone made hajj and they had to shave their head right
then can they do hijama? Because I believe you need to have shaved
your head right?
To do it for people who get headaches. Yeah.
Yeah. Was the Malecon what do you what are your thoughts that creep
in? What do you do with thoughts that creep in your mind saying
Allah won't respond to me because I have since
knowledge will help you with that because Allah Tada doesn't not
respond to somebody because they don't have since he does not
respond to someone if their wealth and their food is haram. So why is
that so important? Because you how you earn your wealth is really a
reflection of what you do in the society.
Right? What you do in the society that's how you earn your wealth
right? So if all day you're earning is in a way of harming
people, or forbidden
in the Cydia then you're committing sins all day and all
night and you're spreading sins all throughout the town, or the
society.
So that's the type of person who doesn't get an answer. Right. So
Allah Tala by knowledge, he does not answer you, just because you
have sins. And secondly, what are the categories of sinners in
Islam? This who is the sinner in Islam, the sinner is the one who
refuses to repent, for instance, but the prophets I said have said
it will make them commit Allah them Bella, beautiful, beautiful
Hadith You must all know, the penitent. The one who was penitent
from sins is as if he has no sins. I hereby make Toba for all my
sins, therefore you are as if you are not a sinner.
You could have spent all night last night committing sins. And
then you sincerely say I'm going to stop this. I repent from this.
You're not a sinner in the sight of Allah.
How beautiful is that?
Any recommendation recommended to out for marriage as there always
seems to be obstacle in the way things proceeding when the process
looking because one reason or another?
Yes, are up in the mountains, Delta la mo hydrotherapy.
That's what you want to say, I'll be in the mountains Alta ilium.
And Hayden faqeer.
Save our soul says there's point up because because of neck, back
of neck province, I set him said that there are certain things
running through hormones, as by modern science to that in the back
of the neck is very good to do. That's what he says. Or maybe it's
a sheet
nobody here should be upset that what we said about the weight,
because some people can't control it in terms of metabolism. And
some people are who are never given the consciousness. And in
many places, they they're never given a consciousness that you're
physically are
not well, because of the food that the fast food that you eat, and
they can't afford anything beyond junk, right junk that gets what
they can afford. So but we're just simply saying that it is very good
to be lean. And the prophets I seldom did see a big stomach on
somebody.
And he said that would be better on somebody else. Right? Meaning
the poor, meaning you eat so much the poor, we better on the poor
people might distribute some of that food that you eat too much of
to the football
game.
In our times, if we wear clothes that go below the ankle, is it
permitted? It's only forbidden if you're intending
arrogance, or being better than somebody.
Okay.
And I don't think anyone does that. Anyway, the problem was
talking about the robes. And in the ancient times of the
Byzantines and the Greeks, the long robe was a symbol. There's
something that doesn't exist today. Right? Nobody goes around
wearing this long robe. But if you go to any ancient depiction of
people, Roman times, Greek times, Byzantine times the long robe,
that was the that was a thing. Okay, that was a thing and that
was what the prophet forbade.
But it was very clear that the Prophet forbade it out of Quebec.
If someone's doing it out of Quebec
are women allowed to do hijama? Yes, they are.
I recently learned as per Hanafi fiqh, women are encouraged to pray
fetch right as it comes in. Men are encouraged to delay fetched
is that due to Allah Allah, what I know about fetches, we're supposed
to wait a little bit to make sure it's in. And the Imams of the
mosque should recite from the wall and Mufasa, which means the length
of sutras from rajyotsava. That's the length that they should
recite, like those sutras so to Raja Raja, what is this length
three, four pages opposite like one page, that length four to one,
one to four pages of length, because people will come late, and
it's dark, and they may have overslept, so they can get
somewhere, and it's only two o'clock as meanwhile, or whereas
if you had recited Nasir Ines, the prayer will be so short, everyone
would miss it.
My family is not Muslim, says Sara. If I order a pizza for
everyone, and then they come and they say add pepperoni to it.
And I pay for that? Is that sinful for me?
You have to work your way around that because it technically would
be for example, if you were to say,
here's my card,
order me
a plane pie. And then you were to walk out of the room.
Then they ordered what they ordered. Without your knowledge.
Maybe you'd be innocent in that respect.
Law. But we wouldn't. We're not allowed to pay for something that
is haram for us to eat. That's the technical ruling. This is this is
not necessarily about rulings this issue we know of to know the
rulings. But it's mainly about finding ways to to live with this
and to get around it.
Or here's another thing.
Here's another thing, openly tell your family what your religion is.
Openly tell them. This is what I don't do. I don't do and it's not
a lot of things. Kahlua pork, alcohol, non halal meat
touching the opposite gender. It's not that hard, right? I'm not
doing it and I'm not paying for it.
Problem is a lot of Muslims are gentle.
And there are a lot of Muslims out there some people out there,
probably a minority.
But they're they're they're they're outspoken. They're allowed
members of the family. And they simply say it as it is. This is
it. I'm not doing it. And I'm not paying for it. And don't ask me to
invent don't invite me. Bah, bah, bah. And the they're bit rough
around the edges, but they get the job done. So you got to see what
works for you. Right. How do you handle it?
Your mom's super open minded, right? Yeah, no, this stuff is
easy. When it goes to extended family. It's harder, though. So
when your core family, they're fine. But when you like so
Italians, you know, it's kiss on the cheek and a hug for cousins
and everything. So I just like stay in the bathroom or something
or like stay far away. Like just like float around the guys. Yeah,
that's rough. It's tough when you're greeting people. Which side
of your family is telling your mom my mom's 100%? Italian? Or Italian
and Irish? Okay. Yeah, a lot of Italians there and stuff. So that
part? They're tough because they're in your face? Well, yeah,
they're the in your face type. They're like, they look at your
plate and see what you're eating and not eating type. Yeah, but
that but that part's fine, because my mom's vegetarian. That part
easy. Okay, that's fun. She got that already for 30 years. Wow. So
that's I don't have to deal with that. She did the work she put in
the work for that. Okay.
The biggest the biggest problem is the gender interactions is not up
to par. Yeah, even Muslim families don't don't observe this right
now. They don't cousins all the way between cousins and all that
type of stuff. Well, yeah, most I should say most Muslim families.
When when the cousins and the in laws. Those are maybe not the car
well, maybe not. But yeah, I know what you mean. And then also the
like, sometimes on these holidays, it'll just be like, the food's
done. And now you're just sitting at a table and everybody's super
drunk, or something really well and then at that point, you just
gotta leave to because like, the only thing about this is drinking
and being drunk or anything else in this part. So every everything
and sometimes the whole gathering is about that just can't go to
those gatherings and so that's that's really weird. Like the idea
of being drunk in your home and once you mess everything up,
everything gets like broken and not just laughing. Just laughing
and stuff. One time I got super dark my uncle was talking about
like, it's this crazy stuff.
Have when I was a kid, but like physically dark or they're like,
the moon was off and like, telling us to put his body on a boat and
said
We're all crazy after that. I was like, Yeah, this is this is wild.
That's crazy. That was at a funeral too. But this stuff is
some point at some point. It's just nonsense and you have to be
away from it. Yeah, well, the I think a lot of the millennial kids
with their cell phone addiction have they've managed to be
antisocial? Yeah, my cousin he just go to the basement and you
won't see him for the whole time the whole time. And no one will
say anything.
Yeah.
What are the limits of worship during menstruation? Can she go to
the masjid? No. Can you recite the Quran? Yes. If she's a student of
knowledge memorizing the Quran, she can touch the most half. If
she is a teacher teaching the memorizing the Quran she can touch
the most often hate if she's not a teacher or a student but she just
wants to worship Allah she can recite the Quran from a tablet, an
iPad, not the Quran because she doesn't have she can make any
Salah on the prophet or dua, she can wake up in the middle of the
night for Salah and the Prophet DUA and vicar, all that is
permitted she cannot go into the area of salah of the Masjid.
Okay, what's your advice for someone looking for a job wake up
very early in the morning and start applying
get dressed in your best clothes and go out and try to apply for
jobs all while reciting rugby in edema and Celtic layman heightened
familiar. But if you sleep in,
kiss it all goodbye
Ibrahim, where can we find the lesson on magic method you talked
about yesterday? They'll post it on their website soon.
Abdulhadi says Does Islam have a concept of be careful what you
wish for you might just get it 100% It does. There are times of E
Java and there are moments in which a person's word will be
answered as it is.
So be very careful of that.
Are these people who are getting married for more than two? Are
they from NBF?
Yes, sometimes I see them on coming on NBF
which website are you referring to for marriage NBI C dot orgy
forward slash mo muda
Lavon Brown says Thanksgiving in America in certain communities
have been a time to take care of the traveler look after the
elderly. That's how it should be meet the greater family members.
That's how it should be. Black Friday has never been something
that was part and parcel with thanksgiving. Black Friday is not
a reflection of the people or this tradition. For every person
rushing into a store on Friday the 10 people enjoying their family
and learning their family history.
I think to me to be quite honest with you, my favorite week of the
year is this week, because it's all it's a nice vacation. Right?
Especially when I was working in Connecticut.
It's a nice vacation, but it also heralds the introduction to the
real vacation which is winter break. Right? So it's a it's a
short vacation with looking into and also the snow starts coming
down and that's my favorite time of year personally. What is the
meaning of yeah, you're living in levena, Amendola, tous, ello and a
Shia intubate de la quinta. So
it means that do not ask about questions. Photo, if you're going
to get the answer to it, that you can that you cannot practice.
Right? Then you shouldn't have asked it in the first don't ask
questions that you can act upon, essentially. And the prophesy
Center said the words of someone who keeps asking question and it's
made haram just because of that, if he had left it, it would have
been had already went up to people to discuss, right? So that's the
meaning of that area.
Don't ask too many questions. Take the deen as it is and practice it
to the best of your ability.
Of course, we're saying Don't ask questions on little minor details
that are not explicit in the Sharia. If it's explicit, we got
to learn what our religion is no doubt about them.
Any recommendations for dua of marriage we mentioned that we have
a class in the masjid and sometimes if women are not praying
they talk quietly among each other. While the Quran is being
recited. Well generally when the Quran is recited, we should be
listening, as mentioned in the Quran.
Is it wrong to put the prophets name next to Allah's name? No,
well Allah Himself did that La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasool
Allah says same sentence.
Wedding Dresses can be extremely long that's fine because the
prohibition does not apply to men. Now to women. It only applies to
men
Lodi says I wish we had this vacation in the UK. Oh, they don't
have this type of thing.
They don't have Thanksgiving over there. Thanksgiving here.
Yeah, this
They sent to me and they kicked off the pilgrims who were like
religious extremists, we probably would have kicked them out too.
If you are on hade can you make sense that no you cannot such that
as part of Salah requires will do.
But you can make regular dog
happy lifestyle, how would you lose weight? If walking everyday
and eating healthy doesn't do it
you have to see the people who are good at losing weight. And it's
really has to do with the diet I'm sure more than exercise. From what
I've heard. Because we had a we had a weight loss movement here
before COVID. All of us, huh.
Michelle Obama is all about this, right?
We had a weight loss movement to the point like some of these
people looked sick. They looked ill from how much weight they
lost. It looked like this place looks like a cancer ward. No.
I'm telling you people were getting so because they were
following a guy out in California. He's got he's got a website and he
teaches people about macros. All of a sudden you got these people
coming over to to Darwin and invitations into dinner parties
with a scale. Are you kidding me? You came to my house with a scale
get that scale off and you eat what I put in your plate? Could
you imagine the old days
one of your families one of your uncle sobs one of your guests
comes in with a scale. And he's weighing the food, right? And then
but that's what they all did macros, they kept talking. It's a
big long philosophy that I'm not going to get. I don't have time
for that. Just give me give me certain things to cut out of my
diet and I'll try to cut it out. That's it. But anyway, it worked
for these guys. And they all just within one year they got super
skinny. Right and some of these people it's like, You look sick.
If you're gonna lose that much weight you have to lift to fill in
the skin.
Melodie 21 says Allah loves to hear the servant ask and be in
need not only in need but in greed too. Because you're basically
saying Allah what you have is so wonderful, I want some of it. I
can't and I'm going to ask the true owner of it
how do you make up towards sins towards your parents by being good
with them
by being good with them and if they died then make dua for them
Can I wash man's Iran with scented washing powder? Yes you can and
you could put on scent before you put on your Iran but you can put
it on after
Is it possible to make the ask the Prophet Mohammed to make drop for
you allow annum
we know that the prophet is making dua for us anyway. It's in Hadith
that he is Mohammed Abdullah.
Mohammed the love we're in Wichita ADA daddy Christopher Tula.
Nick says if we should choose a wife based on her religiosity and
do not have chemistry with the girl
I am with Should I continue? No, you should not. Not at all. Okay?
No.
for Nick Scott, when you talk you need to have chemistry you're
going to spend your whole life with this person. You need to have
a chemistry
that's the purpose of talking
good that's the purpose of getting to know each other and you don't
just pick someone for the girl for religiosity only for piety only
you pick her for attractiveness and for some chemistry between you
Okay, so there's nothing wrong with considering those you should
consider those
I like this name Miss organized chaos she calls herself I like
that
a lot of it's organized chaos
I guess everyone's desk
sense and Medic says when doing will do should you wash your face
in a way that takes off your moisturizer or splashing water
enough you must have a light rubbing as well light rubbing may
or may not remove whatever oils you put on. You are not required
to push hard and scrub scrub scrub that's not what you're asked just
a light rubbing of every inch of your face along with the splashing
of the water
that's sufficient for the whoo that's how you make Who do I think
the hub the Hanafi is to though do not have any requirement of
rubbing the face. They don't require that so they can actually
just do this under the sink and as long as they get wet there their
game.
Dino says can you answer my que on Instagram DM when you get a chance
inshallah we'll do that. Now that says Do you have any suggestions
to keep up with your revision for memorized part of the Quran? Yes,
join a group
I get a group,
teach kids, right form crew or be part of a Hibbs Academy where
you all can get together and do revision together. It's much
easier to do it together.
And when you see these kids memorize them more than you, oh,
when you see the kids out doing you
do you think people should learn the outspoken style such as
Muhammad hijab? I generally think that you got to find a way to make
people know what you believe and what you can do and what you can't
do. The method of which you do it is based on what makes you
comfortable, right? But you can't go on living a double life. I'm a
Muslim. I don't I don't eat this meat. Nobody knows it. It's too
stressful for you. Right? It's just not the it's not natural to
have that kind of secrets of isms.
It's not practical. People should know what you're all about. That's
it.
Where can we find the previous jobs if we miss hearing it?
Rob be in Neelima and CELTA li em and hire him for two years.
And there's a whole YouTube video on it.
Sophia says in Morocco it's very common that women who wear hijab
outside don't wear it in their house when their family and
cousins come in Yes, that's that's very popular too. I've seen that
all over Egypt to
show us says it's very common for women in India and Pakistan to not
wear hijab, UNC front of male cousins and uncles as well.
What's the what is UNC mean internet lingo?
Okay
Bucha says Hanafi difference of opinion on reciting and touching
the Quran they cannot recite nor touch the Quran. I believe they
don't have that rasa.
Fatima bint AbdulRahman says how do you not feel guilty for not
proceeding? A proposal based on someone's health conditions which
they relayed later on due to fear of not proceeding? Have to be
honest from the outset. Right? Yes. First of all,
there's absolutely no guilt feeling in not marrying somebody
for any reason.
They have zero rights over you. And guilt in Islam. It's Yes, I
might not like
her hurting someone's feelings, breaking his heart. But that's not
guilt. Guilt is I have views the right of that person.
They have no rights. A guy's proposing he's the happiest dude
in the world. He can't wait. And you don't like him? Why? Because I
don't
you have no obligation? Right. Let's see if I understood your
question. How do you not feel guilty for not proceeding a
proposal based on someone's health conditions? So so she's basically
saying later on they admitted to a health issue
and she wants to break it off. You should have told me in advance but
how do I not feel guilty of it? About that
it's them who did that? They should be the ones feeling guilty.
They're the ones who put you in this position right
that's a great way to do it.
displace it feeling guilty now would you rather feel guilty for
the next by the way you're going to forget him as soon as the next
suitor comes? Okay. Is and he's going to forget you as soon as you
find another woman
you rather go through that it's going to take one month by 40 days
it's all forgotten
or go for two years. How could you get you can't base for two years
she's definitely not going to base for two years on on not making
someone feel guilty. Right or feel sad. So but how do you do it? Tell
your mind he's gonna love the next he's gonna fall in love with
someone else. As soon as this is done with
it's tough. If someone is love loves you and you're and you're
not loving them back. I guess I can understand that but I'll find
somebody else. You gotta keep telling yourself that a low these
says a lowly low D I think is the last name. It's an order to what
advice would you give someone looking to get married?
The best way to find the spouse to be honest with you classes,
circles of knowledge. Because circles of knowledge is is where
people are like minded people are coming together and you know
exactly how they're going to live their life. That's why the circle
of FIP is one of the best ways because we
We're going to live our lives the same way we respect the same
authority.
How long is it okay to speak with someone when seeking marriage,
when parents are already involved.
You can meet with them as many meetings as you need, as long as
those meetings are in the huddle, and I don't and I highly
recommend.
I highly recommend not are highly discouraged getting on text and
WhatsApp. It doesn't do any good. What's the best they could survive
the spiritually dead heart, the vicar of la ilaha illallah in the
1000s of times a day, or 1000s of times a day, Arthur man a queue.
This is also known as us, also known as The Wizard of Oz. How to
deal with newly married couple if one finds that have a terminal
illness or life changing disease.
That's going to be tough, that's really tough. Like you marry
someone in the next sit in the first six months, you realize that
they have
a severe cancer that's gonna last the next three years of your life,
and then they're gonna die. But statistically, that's really
tough.
It goes back to the person to be honest with you and his advisors.
Are they going to say Okay, hello, we can't continue this. And we're
going to have a divorce, or where I'm going to stick it out with
this person. I'm going to be loyal. And that means the next
five years of my life is supposed to be the happiest, right?
I'm going to be a nurse
then I'm going to be a widow.
Then I'm gonna probably try to redo it all over again. And now by
this time I'm older and I'm married once already.
tough situation. tough situation.
Okay.
Start Stark says how do you reconcile the moulded and Muslims
having to AIDS? Yes, the prophesy said I said we have to OMA wide
obligatory holidays meaning that it is fun to Keifa communal
obligation to uphold these holidays. And it did not say that
it is forbidden. There is no statement in there forbidding
celebrations, even if annual celebrations, but they are not at
the level of the obligatory communal obligations of those two
aids. Just like every school, every school has an annual
memorization of Quran celebration, right? Nothing wrong with that.
Had enough I never got a link to the ark view Whatsapp group, go
check the email that you should have received as soon as you join
Ark view and you should have it there. What was the pagan Qureshi
beliefs into heed the pagan Qureshi beliefs was that Allah to
Allah created the world but to work to get nearer to him? You
worshipped his daughters, which are the angels or that you
worshipped idols, sorry, not his daughters, they said the angels
are daughters of Allah, but they worship these idols in order to
draw near to Allah and they would ask their needs from the idols,
they would not ask their need from Allah. Prophesy son said, Who do
you call to to a mushrik? He said, I call my idol. He said, What
happens when you're drowning in the sea? Who do you call to? He
said, Then I call to Allah. He said, you only have one God is
Allah. Right? So in the real serious matter, who do you call to
call to Allah?
Osama a century, by the way, who saw Saudis
upset of Zionist loving, messy, that was fun to see this messy
face in his hand. That was fun to see. And I was surprised that all
the names of the Saudi players were actually Saudis. I thought
they would have imported a bunch of professionals from different
countries, but no, the actual Saudis are the ones who were
playing the game. Most of the teams are actual Saudis. You know,
these a lot of these countries, they import a lot of players. So
they just give them citizenship. Anyway, with Samuelsson curry
says, Is it allowed for someone with a better recitation to lead
the prayer over someone who knows more Quran it would be valid. Yes.
And anyway, it's not about who memorizes more Quran it's about
who knows more FIP who has more FIP
women are being told You're being too picky and letting a good man
go. You need advisors. You need the people who know you your
sisters, your brothers, right? Because that is no sorry, not your
brother, your sisters, your mom your aunt's.
It's not something that is far fetched to say that some women and
some men, I've seen a guy, this guy, he had it all.
He had it all. But one thing he didn't have is anyone to talk
sense in him. And he went his entire 30s Not married.
And just rejecting, rejecting, rejecting rejecting so
evidently,
he was getting rejected for being too old.
So
I think that you have to actually have advisors talk to you and, and
tell you like where you're being it's too much like, what at what
is the line of being too picky? What's that line? Who's going to
determine that line? It's got to be you and your family and the
people who are
close to you.
Those who are looking says m star need to be open and honest about
health issues from the beginning. Of course, that's necessary. And
you should, you're really should have asked that question. The
money of the girl should have should have done the interrogation
part.
I need to see your credit score to see if you can rent an apartment
and rent a car, whatever I need, I need to see your health your
medical report.
Okay. And I need to see your tax returns.
You submit that stuff to any job that you take, right?
So I need to see that. You don't want to you don't want you think
that's that's too much? No problem. There are a lot of other
girls go married, go reply to them.
Abrar says I heard it's wadge have to disclose vitiligo, you're gonna
make me go to Google, go to Google Doc, tell us what does that mean?
The tilicho like dizziness, you're only obligated
to disclose that which will effect affect the intimacy between the
two.
So
white patches of sin,
you would, you would only really need to disclose the things that
would affect intimacy.
If it would affect intimacy, then you should disclose it. So for
example, if the person's face will one day be half white, and half
brown, she might not like that. So you would disclose that if you
have a problem with your reproductive organs, you have to
disclose if you have an STD, you have to disclose that. If you're
in debt for $500,000, and you can never maintain her financially
have to disclose that.
Because that's your obligation. That's what's understood you're
you're bringing to the table, these things you're bringing to
the table maintenance.
We expect you to be alive in general. So you tell me if states
for cancer, that's something we got to know that from the
beginning, or that you have a problem with your reproductive
system or your your your skin or something like that, to the point
that she may be unattracted to you at that point, you have to
disclose that on the women's side.
It's everything except for the maintenance because that's not her
obligation. She doesn't have to maintain maintain you she can be
in in debt. And that doesn't affect to her obligation, she has
no obligation to give you any money in the first place.
That makes sense.
Lavon says people must think this is what older people have to go
through in marriage. Many times spouses and children are dependent
or depended upon to take care of
the health of their family members.
Is that a Jabba or a suit coat? I'm going to leave you in suspense
about that.
Can young unmarried Muslims of the opposite gender be friends? Not
that young as in 4567? Maybe beyond that?
Because the Allah has set a boundary that renders friendship
with them impossible. golden moment, you know what? I'm sorry.
Tell the believing men to lower their gaze until the leading women
to lowercase How can you have be friends that you can't look at
each other? Hey, what's happening? How are you?
It's not gonna work.
So that's something that Allah told us in the beginning.
And Manny Khalifa, is it okay for women to do the background check
themselves? Yes, yes, no problem. But it's just easier to have
somebody
ask the hard questions for you. That they could say for example,
you could bring an event and you can bring in a member of the
community
and say, I need you to ask him for these documents.
The background check.
Oh,
checking his Instagram yeah yeah oh you could do that. Yeah, this
is his public life
so you can go check his Instagram and see what kind of person he is
and see who's liking and Who's Who is he answering on the Instagram
is it allowed for okay said that one dealing with emotionally
abusive in laws says Hamida
constant argumentation, drama. Khabib lies, interference in my
life. Stay away. We don't cut family members off but we can
protect ourselves from harm. Stay away. No problem
how would you guide us to go from being boys to men? Yes. Hang out
with men in the masjid.
off man is going to get himself bent.
He says washed shackled Islam Andrew Tate. So Nick Scott, I
would say hang out with other men around the Masjid. Okay. Get a
job. Get married. You'll become a man. That's it. Three things. Hang
out with other guys who you admire like guys who have a job guys who
are respected. Hang out with them in the masjid. Get a job that will
force you to grow up, get married. It'll really force you to grow up.
That's how you do it.
As salaam aleikum was the intro, dramatic effect recorded Yes.
I was stuck in surgery. So So are you a surgeon? Or are you
receiving surgery? Maybe he doesn't want to say, but I respect
doctors. I think that there was some of the best students of
knowledge.
What's the best way to purify your heart and soul? It's a big
question. But the first thing is study. Study what Allah wants us
to do, internally and externally. And what he wants us to avoid
internally and externally. A sister wants to get married at
ombre, but there is no Muharram
don't get it. She wants to take a trip of ombre for ombre.
She got proposed to
and she wants to get married.
Now that's not the right way to do things you will barrel in dirt on
the trip is eight days.
She's getting this to me it doesn't sound right or look right.
Okay.
How about you say, You like me that much. You want to marry me?
Well go come to my house. Take the ticket over and fly over to my
house and talk to my meet my dad and bring your mom and dad with
you to if they're if that's possible, and meet my mom and me
my dad.
Right? explained to me the situation because I'm sort of
interested.
That was from seeking erudition.
Or she's already engaged from her home country and they want to have
the wedding at the blessitt cities. If you're what he can't be
there, but you're Willie approves of that, then he can approve of it
from a distance. That's fine. That means like, I met a guy, we're
here in the same state and everything and we said hey, let's
get married in Hitomi should you feign in Mecca or in Medina. If
the willie approves of that, he's approved, then they can go and do
it there. That's not a problem.
So he says he's a respiratory therapist, he specializes in EC mo
he controls the lung and the heart during transplants that's I really
respect these types of people to be quite honest with you.
Yeah.
These people they're worth every dollar that they go the way they
save lives like this.
What time is magic effect today?
Today we have youth at 530 We're youth and after maghrib youth
class should end at 615 ish.
Finish is at 730 So we start at 640 Right right 646 30 Let's say
630 to be safe 630 medically FIP and then shut Sahih Muslim
Now we saw her Muslim
is it me sm 45
Are we still getting hounded humbly updated videos from shift
use if yes, we got four of them already. We just have to put them
up we're waiting on him to finish it. Can I give Dawa to non
Muharram women now this is the big trick of shades on the bit the
biggest trick of shades on let me go give Dawa
and do this law of a non Muharram woman. I guarantee you it's one of
the tricks shaytaan guaranteed
we don't give Dawa to them. Let the women give out. There's plenty
of women in the OMA that can do that
did you ever speak about people who embrace Islam and the same day
they get married? This is abuse. A woman becomes Muslim and then they
trick her into getting married right away. I've seen this too
many times. It's abuse on Allah.
Sansone ma Maddox is what if you wake up five minutes before Fajr?
Can you still make 100%?
How long will you be doing these lives on Instagram for? Well insha
Allah to Allah
Inshallah, we make the intention to do it in perpetuity, as long as
Instagram is a relevant app, you know, these apps are always
changing. So Facebook was the hot thing for a while YouTube is
stronger, Instagram is stronger now.
Periscope was a thing for like, two years now. I don't even know
it exists. But the key is the intent to do Dawa to the Muslims
in the best way possible. This is what we call Dawa. I'm Gen Tao.
And it's like an online Holika type of thing.
And, and whatever the apps that are relevant at the time, that's
what we're going to use. And hopefully we hope to bring people
on board. Who are the experts in you know, where where's tech
going? You know,
I'm very resistant towards the
those goggles, right? What are they called again? Like the VR?
Yeah, I'm very resistant to that. I don't want to see that. Like, I
don't want to go into that because it will make real life seem to be
like lame in comparison. Right? I did it one time. One time a long
time. Yeah. How did it feel? I was in space. Yeah, looking around.
Now, but for the kids, that stuff is crazy. I think it's gonna mess
them up. They shouldn't go on. They shouldn't go on to even I
shrunk my phone. I was picking up someone have the iPhone 14 or
something took a TV. It felt like my whole like, it felt like a
spiritual experience. My whole everything of me was being sucked
in. Yeah, that's what that's what it feels like. A magnet and my
whole entire soul was being Yeah, all your attention is just going
so much. I highly recommend that in this day and age, that we're in
alcoholism, and everybody sets their alarm every night as a norm
for about half hour before fetch. And don't care, work, not work.
Just do it. Don't think twice. You can't think twice. There's no time
in life to think twice. You're never going to have the time. So I
highly, highly recommend nobody miss out on this blessed time to
be with Allah alone.
Daydream of autumn. She's making dua for the mbf team. I thank you
very much. We need those.
Okay, here's the question. Knowing that Allah is just as Abdulhadi
wire do us, that may be bad answered word for word during
specific times of each other.
Because that's what you said. You have to be careful. Where's your
responsibility? Right.
Where is your responsibility?
So if you had no taqwa in the way in which you made dua and no
conscientiousness then why do you blame Allah for that? But Allah
does not play tricks on people
all right. Allah does not play tricks on people if it's something
that
you you made a type of dua without thinking twice maybe it's a lesson
Think before you make a prayer.
But when a lot how to answer someone word for word and it's bad
for them. That only happens if they were being conniving about
it. Right? If they were trying to be tricky about it. That's
when you wash the feet says autoCrat man in will do is it
enough to what the hands and then wipe over the feet and if your
shear that's how they make will do mess
but you we have to run the water like water has to flow. If you cup
your hands and you pour the water like that a couple times the water
has to flow around your foot
Have you ever thought of bringing NB F to Tiktok I don't even know
how that would
Work is their lives on tick tock right. So why don't we do with
them?
Yeah
Yep.
The what I did the intro to Maliki method, thematic method. Once they
get the recordings and they edit them, they're going to splice them
up and they'll put them on whatever channel they'll put them
up and they'll advertise and I'll advertise it already.
Okay
last question
we will take today, unfortunately, what's the schedule of when mbf
goes live?
130.
Monday through Thursday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, of course,
this Thursday. We're all off like all schools are off. So we don't
have an NB f this Thursday. So we're, we're on tomorrow. We're
back on Monday. sha Allah Tada.
All right, that's very, very good for today. I highly recommend
everybody. Never forget to be intense in your job. And never
forget Allah Kadeem. Like this is one of the most relaxing things
you could ever you know, say to yourself, Allah Kadeem, and if you
want a lot to be generous to you be generous to other people. And
this is one of the you know, one of the nicest things about
when you deal with Allah Tala is formulas. What you do to this idea
of Allah, Allah will do for you. So be generous to Allah's
creation, when the poor are asking you or begging from you, be
generous with them, be kind to them and that ALLAH SubhanA wa
Tada will reciprocate that to you and for better as well. So
are we able to change our destiny? Yes. Labradoodle cada Illa da da
firstly, you don't know your destiny. That's the first thing so
it's in a sense it's a moot point because you really don't know your
destiny. You may think you know your destiny but you don't you may
think something's never gonna happen but it could
right so you don't know your destiny in the first place. But if
you do think you it's things are completely locked. And even if
Allah Himself was to tell you this is the destiny. The province I
said them said Laya Rudolph kala Illa dua, so your DUA can alter
that. Okay.
Where does the DUA Allahumma journey Mooji Bertie
la Murjani mudgeeraba Dawa? Yes, you can make that dua Oh Allah
make me my prayers always answered. And the way you do that
is by purifying your food and make sure your food is always had. on
me. MJ says it is it's hard in today's world to keep up with
friendships. Is it okay not to partake? It is okay, but it's not
good for you. You need SAPA tell you about you need good friends,
we need good friends, too. Isolation is bad. shaytaan can
easily attack someone who's in isolation. But you do your best.
If we don't regularly pray five times a day can our da still be
answered? It's going to be decreased greatly if you don't
pray five times a day. And the reason of that for that is that
when sin is equity is dot was answered.
Look at what Allah says about him. It's every single time he says
while He was praying while He was praying while He was praying.
While he was praying. Salah is the fastest means to have your prayers
answered, to observe your five prayers. And that's the best place
to make dua in the sujood of the five prayers.
If one does Java and Scala where he was supposed to what it
requires to do to sell and the answer is yes, it would require us
to do this. So if you make a DUA, if you recite out loud, what
should it be silent, silent, we should have been out loud, it
requires to do this So brothers and sisters does that come along
later on Subhanak Aloha Moby Dick no shadow in La ilaha illa Anta
iStockphoto Kona to equal us in Santa Fe, of course Illa Allah the
man who already had water was sober Huck, water was sober, sober
was salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.