Shadee Elmasry – MSA’s What is okay and what is not

Shadee Elmasry
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The speakers discuss the issue of acknowledging pride and the need to address the problem of sexual orientation, which is prevalent among people. They suggest compromise and highlighting the issue of MSA, which is associated with a religious group. The speakers also emphasize the need to deal with issues related to sex, including being educated and informed about deeds, and avoid alienation.

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			If you're not going to determine
whether or not this is permissible
		
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			in your deen, I'm not talking
about permissibility. I'm talking
		
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			about taking the proper approach
to addressing these issues. If
		
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			you're just going to do it on your
own, you're not going to ask
		
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			somebody who knows that religion
knows the tradition knows the fic.
		
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			And you're just going to do it for
the sake of convenience, do it for
		
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			the sake of increasing your
following. Do it for the sake of
		
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			attracting more people, then
you're obviously opening up a can
		
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			of worms and you're obviously
opening up the door to fitna,
		
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			that's not the way to go about it,
you're gonna have to end up
		
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			compromising on things that Islam
has absolutely. Granted, you know,
		
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			permission to compromise on okay,
we're talking about LGBTQ, right?
		
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			We condemn the lifestyle. It's
something which is completely
		
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			impermissible. In our deen, we
don't make judgments about people,
		
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			when people do in their private
lives is nobody else's business
		
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			that's between them and Allah,
okay, this is like an addiction.
		
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			This is like some type of test
that they are battling with. Okay?
		
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			But for us to come out and say
that, okay, we want to make sure
		
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			that you are treated like a human
being, you have your civil rights,
		
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			and you have all of that that's
not what we're against. What we're
		
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			saying is that now this person,
okay, we are condoning or we are
		
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			approving of the choices that
they're making the indiscretions
		
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			that they may be within our
religion, you're going to
		
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			compromise on one thing today,
you're gonna have to compromise on
		
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			another thing tomorrow after 50
years, after 10 years, after five
		
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			years after one year, basically,
the dean and what's halal or haram
		
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			is going to end up becoming
irrelevant for you, I think what
		
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			are you gonna be left with? The
problem is kind of synonymous,
		
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			right? Like you have a brother who
comes in and you know, you might
		
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			not know what he's doing on his
weekend, you might not know that
		
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			he's an alcoholic, you might not
know that he's addicted to pot.
		
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			But he comes in and, you know, he
comes into MSA and he kind of has
		
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			no identity and that I think plays
into the good side of MSA, right
		
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			that you come in with a clean
slate, you might be the world's
		
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			greatest senator, but you go to
federal budget, then you come to
		
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			clean your plate off, right. And I
think what the LGBTQ community,
		
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			the same thing kind of applies,
right? Like if you go in there,
		
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			and no one knows about your, you
know, what, what would we call
		
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			that your preferences? And you
come in there and you're, you
		
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			know, praying with everyone,
you're acting normal that no one
		
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			would know that, you know, you're
not publicizing your sin. But the
		
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			problem, I think, which is more
prevalent now, is that people are
		
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			coming, they're very openly
saying, This is why I am and you
		
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			need to make room for me in terms
of what I do as being accepted not
		
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			room for me as a human. Right,
because that's that's understood
		
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			as something in Assam, like you
just said, Mufti, that, you know,
		
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			we don't judge you, we don't
condone the act, right. So when
		
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			people start to associate
themselves very strongly and say
		
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			this needs to be made. Okay. I
think that's where we start to
		
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			butt heads. And we see MSA is
dealing with this, like, what do I
		
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			do? And here's the thing, right,
like, you have these
		
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			MSA s, and the good thing about a
local massage, right, as a
		
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			massage, it has rules, right?
There is by default, some sort of
		
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			gender gender separation, by
default, because you have to pray
		
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			behind one another, right? There
is by default, you know, a level
		
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			of this is a sacred space, we're
not going to talk about, you know,
		
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			the latest, you know, episode of,
you know, the Daredevil or
		
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			something on it, right? Is it
there's just some level of
		
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			sacredness in it? Right. Whereas,
the MSA is associated with a
		
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			secular or secular organization,
university University, right. It's
		
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			just like a kumbaya of, you know,
you got like, You got different
		
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			demographics of people. You have
people on, like, varying levels of
		
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			Islam, you got people on different
updates, you got people on
		
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			different sexuality, you have all
kinds of people here, and it's
		
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			just like this big Kumbaya, how do
you like, you know, balance this
		
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			because it's just crazy. Now, you
I think you were telling me before
		
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			Hunter, this is where it's like,
you know, people will start having
		
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			discussions about oh, you know,
there'll be there'll be roundtable
		
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			discussions between males and
females and people are talking
		
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			about either coming out of the
closet, or they're talking about
		
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			losing their faith, or one guy is
like on some other angle and he's
		
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			talking about being super
religious and some other guy just
		
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			hates the opposite gender like
there's just people who are coming
		
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			from all different angles that an
MSA and how do you like corral
		
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			these people together? Two things
is one is the law is the law. All
		
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			right, this happens all the time.
Young person comes up to me and
		
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			says mufti, I got class, I can't
make it for Joomla. I said, Look,
		
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			you're an adult saying Free mail.
You fulfill the criteria for
		
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			Joomla you have to come for Joomla
It's a sin to skip Joomla and it's
		
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			a sin to skip other parts of the
deen as well. That being said, you
		
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			don't pray Joomla that's between
you and Allah subhanho wa Taala it
		
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			doesn't make it right and move
these we don't make things halal.
		
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			And we don't make things haram, we
show you and we explain to you and
		
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			we put in front of you what the
law says. Second point is though
		
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			if a person has, you know, an, a
preference when it comes to LGBTQ,
		
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			right has that type of
indiscretion that they have to
		
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			deal with. That doesn't make them
a bad person. Absolutely not.
		
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			Right? That doesn't make them
anything. That is something that
		
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			they have to battle with. It's a
it's a sin just as any others
		
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			It's similar to you know, a person
who's addicted to watching
		
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			* in prison who's
addicted to drinking and a person
		
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			who is involved in any other
thing, which is haram. Okay. And
		
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			if we look at our lives
objectively, and we point fingers
		
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			at ourselves, yes, there's a lot
of things that we are doing, which
		
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			are maybe not as bad or maybe even
worse, right, that we could, you
		
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			know, put ourselves on the spot
for I think, I think it was you
		
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			that was telling me before where
the sin of Zina right is the sin
		
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			itself, whether that's as in our
with a man or a woman, it's all
		
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			under the same level, you've
committed the same sin right then
		
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			right? The problem is, you just
cannot get married to, you know,
		
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			someone of the same gender.
Otherwise, you know, there is no,
		
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			you're just a sinner just like
everybody else, right? There's no,
		
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			there's no preferential treatment
or in preferential treatment, you
		
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			know, outside of that, right?
Unfortunately, we have now kind of
		
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			convoluted when we talk about, you
know, should they be treated
		
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			differently? Or should they have
the same civil rights? Or should
		
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			we champion them? Or should we,
you know, protest for them, love
		
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			that comes from a whole culture of
ignorance and a whole culture of
		
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			taboo that is obviously completely
Islamic to start off with, we
		
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			don't treat people differently
because of them being involved in
		
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			a particular sin. Right, right.
Unfortunately, if that happens in
		
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			MSA, that I'd be the first person
to call that out. We don't treat
		
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			people differently, because they
happen to commit that type of a
		
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			sin per unit, if they're not
properly observing the hijab, or
		
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			even if they're not properly
dressing up, when they're praying,
		
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			Salat, the unfortunate reality is
that a lot of people don't like
		
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			these Muslim circles because of
those same reasons that, you know,
		
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			like, it's I can't tell you the
number of times I've heard a guy
		
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			saying I don't come to msa because
they judge me because I'm a part
		
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			of a fraternity or they don't
judge me because you know, I have
		
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			an earring even or, you know, for
sisters, the hijab when it's
		
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			something you hear on and on
again, right. And, you know, I
		
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			can't emphasize how important what
you just said is the people who
		
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			are in these positions, making
decisions that MSA and organizing
		
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			and the ones who basically create
these cliques, they shouldn't be
		
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			trying to eliminate these lakes,
where they're the ones who are
		
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			pioneering and promoting these
lakes, subtly, unintentionally,
		
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			they have to be held accountable,
they have to be educated and they
		
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			have to be told to, you know,
behave when it comes to the way
		
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			they talk. They have to learn
above and they have to be people
		
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			who have, you know, some sound
knowledge of the deen. Okay, be
		
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			able to appreciate what our
tradition has to offer, and how we
		
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			deal with these issues. These are
issues that are not going to go
		
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			away. We live in a country where
these issues now we're going to be
		
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			exponentially, you know,
exaggerated over the next we're
		
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			living in a generation where it's
in front of our eyes. Okay, if we
		
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			look at MSA 4050 years ago, they
had different types of issues that
		
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			they had to deal with. Right? This
is a very, very serious issue that
		
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			we have to deal with. And if we
are compromising in our values, if
		
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			we don't go back to what guidance
our deen has given us, then you're
		
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			going to alienate a person not
just from the MSA not just from
		
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			the masjid but from the deen
altogether.