Shadee Elmasry – Mothers’ Hour, Being Mom 10
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The importance of building an emotional block during crisis is emphasized, including the Prophet Muhammad Ali's love for women and the importance of storytelling for children at a younger age. The importance of bringing gifts to people at a younger age is also discussed, including building love and building bonds with children. The practical side of bringing gifts to children is also emphasized, including building emotion and bringing them to their emotions.
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All right sound like my clever kettle.
Now, today Insha Allah, we're going to talk about how the
Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam built a new block. Last time we
spoke about the emotional block. And today we're going to speak
about a new block the second block he's placed on top of emotions and
that was Arpita. Or in a simpler word, Eman or belief and children.
And why did we leave this block till later and not start with it?
The reason is, before you ask anyone to believe in anything, you
have to build bridges of confidence and love with them.
And that was what the Prophet Muhammad Salam was exactly doing.
He was cuddling them, kissing them giving them gifts. Remember how he
said he would you know pet someone, you know how to give the
kids you know the dates or kiss them on the forehead, whatever it
was. So that when the moment is right, it would be easy for him to
say Believe in me. I'm the prophets love me because to go to
Jana, you have to love me. Love Allah subhanaw taala because Allah
subhanaw taala sent you whom you love. Do you understand how
actually that was built? Do you understand how Eman was built? How
do we build our Amen? I think our understanding of vaquita today
it's, you know, just a last minute how to have a hand or not, does he
sit or not? What does his throne look like? Or where's the throne?
Is Allah everywhere? Or is he in heaven? This is what we think
about when we think about it the right, it's more of intellectual
debates and struggles. But the question is, do we really love
Allah? subhanaw taala? Do we love His Prophet more than our homes
and our cars and whatever else that we own? And before even
asking this question, do we really know who the Prophet Muhammad
Salah Salem is before we even love him? Because we keep on saying we
love but do we really know him? You see, love is not an
intellectual or irrational endeavor. Love is that if I
mentioned the name of Your Beloved, what happens? Your heart
starts, you know, your heartbeat starts pacing, and your blood
pressure is all over the place. But when I see Muhammad Sallallahu
Sallam would you say? Some a lot he was sending him? That's it? Do
you feel that little tickle in your heart? No, you don't. But
with the Companions, it was not like that at all.
Do you know why? Because whenever the Companions heard, the Prophet
Muhammad Salim speak, they straightaway turned to him
unconsciously, they like would just automatically stop what
they're doing. And once they hear him talking, they would just leave
everything and turn to him. Or when they would hear someone say I
heard the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam See, so and so
they would instantly leave what they were doing, and listen
attentively to that person speaking. Nowadays, if you're in a
conference or in a gathering, you'd have to raise your voice or
maybe, you know, just, you know, you know, you know, Pat, or knock
on the podium to get the people's attention. But with the
Companions, it was sufficient to say the words, the Prophet
Muhammad SAW, Selim said, and everyone would be silent. And some
of them might even weep or be very emotional.
This is what I call genuine love. Because they have been the
recipients of this, these emotions. Remember, we spoke about
last time, and it's a numeric and, you know, you know, and they
didn't have all these people when they were kids. They were the
recipients of this emotion of this love. And therefore afterwards,
when they say, Oh, the Prophet said, they want to hear they want
to listen, what is he going to say? What is he going to order so
we can obey? Do you understand how he built the emotional block
before the block of Akita remaining faith, because he they
built a block of image on top of an emotional block that we spoke
about, as I said, last time, now I think to build a man or architect
of your children,
I would have to tell you immediately first of all, build
their what their emotional block, connect them. And I don't want to
shock you and tell you built first your emotional block. Because
that's the only way you will be successful in building your
child's emotional block. You can expect them to love the Prophet
Muhammad Ali Salam if you don't love the Prophet, Muhammad Salah
you can expect to go and tell them the Prophet Muhammad says you
don't have to be kind or expect you to be kind. When you don't
even show that you know the you don't show that love to the
Prophet. They don't know who the prophet is they don't do not
connect it to him to come and follow his rules. Okay. They have
to see in your face that you love the Prophet Muhammad Salam that
when you hear his name being mentioned, you see some the lady
with Salam that whenever you eat or drink or dress or behave,
you're inspired by the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad sai Salam,
they must see that and they're very intelligent our kids pick up
very easily, they're much brighter than we think. Even those two and
three year olds don't think that they don't understand they know a
lot, a lot more than we think. So she's they see you watching, you
know, last year American Idol or whatever show that's going on now.
And you don't even miss a series they know or they will understand
that you love that show more than the book of the gardens of the
righteous that looks like a lovely piece of Islamic decor, lying in
your library that you've never ever picked up and read about the
Prophet Muhammad says salam.
So this is how it was then feasible for the Prophet Muhammad
wa salam to build the arcade of these children. First, he made
them love him. And then he started telling them about Allah subhanaw
taala and I just want to hit hard again
and say that the children adored the Prophet Muhammad wa salam. And
this is a statement that I have to justify. And before I do that, let
me share with you this quotation, but that I'll even be totally
upset. Rhodiola Anwar
describing him, he says, What? Mandra who had the meaning whoever
seats or saw the Prophet Muhammad seldom feared him. Right? And
they're not being scared, or, you know, or, you know, because they
were scared of him. But it was out of respect, you know, when you see
like a big imam or somebody and you feel like, you know, like, Oh,
my God, you you get like, you feel this respect to them. And you have
that fear, you know, like afraid of them, but you have that respect
in them. And then he continues saying, what woman Hala Tahoma
defeated? Uh huh. HUD and whoever interacted with him loved him,
especially the children. You see him you fear him. But once you
deal with him, and he kisses you, and he Pat's you and he smiles to
you, you fall in love with him. This is the process and when they
fall in love with him, the fall in love with him in every aspect. So
if he comes and tells them, this is what I expect of you, then they
do it because they love him. And I'll clarify, let's focus on
something that she has heard and I'm sure you know, a lot of us
know about it. And think about it. You've all heard of they've never
heard it or write that in the highlighter that was adopted by
the Prophet Muhammad Selim and at some point was called What saved
the Muhammad and the Prophet Muhammad Salim raised them as his
own son. Nowadays father and uncle realize the date was in Mecca,
presented was kidnapped when he was a child, and he was sold as a
slave. Alright. And you know, he was holding Mecca. So they came to
Mecca, they they really they discovered that their son was were
in Mecca. So they came to Mecca to find Zaid and imagine the father
and ultimately your child kidnapped and the you know, the
father of the parents is coming in the uncle telling him I'm your
father, I'm your uncle. Right? And for years, he hasn't seen them.
And the CE O 's de jure fri O Muhammad released him to the
Prophet Muhammad Hassan response saying what? It's up to him. It's
his choice. It's his decision. And that says something that you know,
that constitutes our credo. Right? He says, Oh, Father, oh, uncle. I
will not prefer you prefer you sorry over this man.
Meaning I will not love you more than this man. In other words, I'm
not leaving with you. Why? What happened? Did he brainwashed me
that the Prophet would brainwash him like this? I'm your father and
I'm your uncle? No, no, he says what I have seen from this man
what I have never seen in any other. I have seen what would
never make me prefer anyone over him. Even if it were my father or
my uncle or anyone else dear to my heart.
So what is rp that simply
isn't one of the ministry stations of Arpita is to love the Prophet
Mohammed Salah sale Salallahu Salam more than you love your own
mother and father. Isn't that what Aki that is one of our pita.
Right? She was love God, you know of Allah and His Prophet more than
you love what? Your own family? They didn't hesitate didn't know
that this constitutes Arcada. Right? But that's what he did. And
even if this constitutes Arcada, he was prepared to do it. He
preferred the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam over his own parents,
naturally without being asked to do it. Subhanallah they believed
in a heartbeat and understood it before it was constitutionalized
into books and lectures. They applied it before they even
believed before they were asked to believe this is what hockey that
is Subhan Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Hassan didn't sit with
them and tell them Allah has a hand and his throne look so and so
he never engaged in any of kind of these discussions that we do
nowadays. And if you look at the stories that were revealed at that
time, they met consumers what were they going to Allah I had to
there's only one God, you know, either Wakata Dwarka, when the day
Jasmine happens when Najmi, the Hauer and so on, so forth. They're
all about the creation of who of Allah subhanaw taala. They loved
him so much. But they knew that one day the Prophet Muhammad says
send them all what will die, and they want it to be with him even
after his death agenda. And again, I'm going to keep repeating this
is all because he built the first block. And that's the emotional
block. He knew very well how to make these kids love them. And
again, as I said, he never gathered them in a HELOC or
lecture. It was showering with love, love, patting, smiling,
giving instruction in a friendly way or in a nice way. And that's
how they were so attached to the Prophet Muhammad Salim. And one of
them is Anna Sydney Malik and the book of Bukhari and Muslim
I'm sorry, excuse me, a man came to the Prophet Muhammad says hello
and says, O Messenger of Allah. When is the hour and I'm sure a
lot of you know this hadith, but you look at it from the dimension
of deeds and that you have to perform right in order to go to
heaven with Him right you know, this is that what is the Messiah
or what is the our going to be said like, oh, you know, whenever
he said and what have you prepared for it? This is the Prophet
Muhammad Salim is what responds to it. He's answering the question
with another question. Okay, what is the hour? The Prophet replies
what what
Have you prepared for it? Okay? Because this is more important
than the answer. Okay? The man said, O Messenger of Allah, not
much work, not much action, except that I love you so much. It's the
only thing that I've done in my life is like I haven't done much
having done many good deeds except that what that I love you so much.
So the Prophet Muhammad Hassan replied, saying, What? Allah Oh
man, and you will be with whom you love. Full stop. The man is asking
when is the hour, he tells him what you're going to be with whom
you love.
Like, it doesn't spell it if you think about the question, and then
the response. Now, and this diplomatic see says this as a
commentator, therefore, I'm gonna be sharing with the time that we
were not happier, okay? Or there wasn't an incident that made me
more happier. Okay, other than this, because I never thought that
there's a possibility of seeing the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu
sallam, or being with him in Jannah. Before this hadith before
the Prophet said that, I never even thought I would have a slight
chance of being with him. I didn't do that much to be with him. But
if the you know, the whole concept is that I'm going to be
resurrected, or I'm going to be with the one whom I love. Then
what does he say? Oh, Allah, I bear witness that I love the
Prophet Muhammad sai Salam, so that I may see him again in Jana.
And the one who is saying this, and this at this time was only 15
years old. Because he was already what his first block the emotional
block was established very well. He was very well attached to the
Prophet Muhammad SAW Salem. He doesn't want to see a movie in the
theater, or go see a girl or this or that. No, he wants to see the
Prophet Muhammad cisilion Salako. But unless you're seeing him right
now in front of you, like he's living with the Prophet Muhammad
salah. He's like his own son. No, I'm not thinking about now. Subhan
Allah, what more of love do you want? What more of passion can you
think of? And not only to love someone is to love what he loves?
Isn't that right? Even if you don't like it? Yeah. So what even
if you don't like it, if your husband loves this, or your mom or
your sister, your best friend, sometimes, like maybe your friend
likes to go to this place and you don't really like it. You just go
because you love your friend. Right? So how about the Prophet
Muhammad, Hassan loved something, you know, again, in the book of
Buhari, and as an American aerates, I went to the Prophet
Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam to a young Taylor's house. Now, what
draws my attention here is he says, I went to the prophet who
can if you look at it in Arabic, you know, like, I went with him.
So imagine the Prophet Muhammad wa Salam is walking with a child,
right? So it was something that he used to do. Remember last time,
also, we said when he went to visit them, so it was a habit, he
used to go and check on the little children, he used to ask about
them. He was building that emotion between them. So when he comes and
tells them what to do next, they're going to listen. And
that's what we need to do nowadays with our children. We have to
build this emotional block, we cannot expect our kids to listen
to us if they don't love us.
Simple as that. Okay, now, he's walking and he's going to want to
encourage also a young Taylor so he's encouraging him he's not
going to older man. So he enters the Taylor's house. And of course,
out of the you know, the Taylor's hospitality, he offers the Prophet
Muhammad says salam, some porridge, and within the party,
there was pumpkin. Okay, that was the food they had back then. It
seems that the Prophet Muhammad wa salam wasn't too fond of the
porridge. Or my more likely he liked the pumpkin more. And he
began searching for the pumpkin in the porridge in the bowl. You
know, sometimes when you see something like there's nuts and
you want you want just the you know, the walnuts are only one of
the reasons he start picking them out. Something like that. Alright.
So and this is his servant, he started realizing what the Prophet
Muhammad Hassan was doing. So under says, I began looking for
the pumpkin pieces with him for him, you know, what is fascinating
about this hadith, is it and suddenly Malik says, from this
incident, I began to love pumpkin because he loved it. Can you
imagine that? You know, the level of love you know, he loves
whatever he loves, your child might not want to wear, you know?
Or they might say you want to wear skinny jeans, or bring you know,
you know, sorry boyfriend for their Barbie doll because you
know, that's what Barbie has on the movie you know? Or whatever it
is. Or do so and so because football player so and so does
Yes, don't be a son. That's what's gonna happen they see a movie for
Barbie, Barbie has Ken with her. So you buy Barbie. So obviously
going to have to get the rest of the family. And then you have to
explain to her maybe his or her husband and have a ceremony to
keep it a Heartland way. But that's what they're watching. You
know, you have to like, you know, bring it around the other way.
What I'm saying is, that's what the kids watch and expect them to
do that if that's what we're, you know, offering to them if that's
what we're filling their heads with. Don't expect other than
that. Okay, so can we actually reach a point where we love what
the Prophet Muhammad Salim loved and conveyed this love to our
children or to our kids? Okay, forget about pumpkin. Why don't
you do what the Prophet Muhammad Salim did not out of personal
preference, but because this is the Sunnah. If you start doing
that, it's going to be so much easier to tell your kids and
because they see it, they don't hear it. Remember, the kids can
hear and you can preach them night and day. They will hear you but
they're going to only actually do what you're doing. They're not
going to do what you're telling them to do. They're going to copy
you they're going to imitate you, simple as that. So this is the
lesser task taking what the saw
not following what the Prophet Muhammad has set them. And this is
doing the more extreme tasks. He's saying I'm doing everything that
the Prophet Muhammad Salim is doing that I'm also imitating him
and that which he never prescribed almost Muhammad to do because that
wasn't the sunnah to go eat pumpkin or pick up pumpkin out of
porridge. It was a food preference that he did in private. The final
thing here I want to say about love. And this is about the love
of the Prophet Muhammad says salam, okay, what could be a
claim? I love you, I love you. I love you and I get you know, get
me red roses. And I get to I don't know, what's what, you know,
struck with from Godiva and whatever, you know, but what could
be a stronger manifestation of love? What is it? What's the
outcome? Now one day, and again, you might know this Hadith from
the book of Bukhari. Abdur Rahman mouth is one of the in one of the
battles Okay, in the Battle of bed. He was alone. He was one of
the Sahaba and he can kind of felt a little bit, you know, insecurity
felt unsafe, you know, you're in a battle, you're in war and he was
hoping somebody would come and be standing near him, you know, some
other men. So suddenly he counters two boys or two young men. One
stands on his right and one stands on his left. And the one that
stands on the right says, What, uncle Tell me where's Abuja? Is he
among the mushriks he's among one of these people who are you know,
fighting us?
You know, now she replied, I'll tell you when I see him. So then
the other boy says, uncle, Uncle, tell me where's Abuja? You know,
as if Abijah was a celebrity that everybody was looking for a Bucha.
So other random now says I was suspicious. Why are these two
young men asking about Abuja, then he asked one of the boys Why do
you want Abuja now look at the answer or the quotation I'm not
saying about what the boy wants to do, but I'm just saying the
concept and the reason why it's fascinating is what is you know,
the message is gonna give us one of them says, By Allah if I see
him I will never let him go, because he used to harm and hurt
and insult the Prophet Muhammad Ali Salam
and Abuja used to harm the Prophet Mohammed Salim were in Mecca,
Medina and Mecca right now the battles that are happening are
happening were outside where? Medina Okay, so the fact that they
knew that Abu Jihad heard the Prophet Muhammad wa salam from
Mecca, means that these little kids knew the secret of the
Prophet Muhammad Salah right? It tells you that these children knew
the history of the prophet before even the Prophet died because
their parents taught them the Sierra. They knew what happened to
the Prophet. At least they knew his biography during his presence,
at least the Meccan period during the last 10 years. They knew it,
they knew what was going on. They knew who was hurting the new by
name, they knew everything. And these were kids you're talking
about right now the young men, but they knew it. How did they know
unless they were taught at a younger age? And this is what we
should be doing linking okay. And it was enough for them to know
that someone somewhere somehow used to insult the Prophet
Muhammad Salim even if they were underage, to go look for him and
bring him right. If this wasn't enough, then what would it be? If
just hearing that someone has harmed your Prophet peace be upon
you doesn't provoke your insights. Then tell me what is love? Right
What is love them? Again, as I said, you hear somebody hear about
somebody that you love to love a person that you love your heart
what beats and ever somebody you know, when you're engaged yet, you
know, or whatever your fiance and you're like, Well, you know, you
get goose bumps in your face turns red, whatever it was, you know.
And then I said when I say say that Muhammad salallahu Salam but
what happens Do you feel the love Do you feel the tingle? Allah? How
do we make the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam beloved to our
children? This is very, very important in raising our children.
This is a problem. Okay, Barbie, they can see Barbie Barney they
can see Barney Mickey Mouse, they can see us I don't know singer who
they can see that singer, or this actor or this actress, they can
see them there in front of them, right. But unfortunately, the
Prophet Muhammad says alum they cannot see Him. And this is
challenging. Specially that stories are built on personalities
and their choice. If you see you know, if I tell you a story, or
you watch a story or a movie, you can really relate because you see
the personalities and the characters. That's how a story is
built. There are two things that can be done. The first thing is
that you represent to them the living Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam. And I know this is an extreme statement. Is it possible?
Well, I confess Rasulullah he also has an isn't the Prophet Muhammad.
So Salam was a role model for us as adults, and an example for us
to emulate so your children might be able to see the Prophet
Muhammad Hassan physically,
isn't what Allah says. He says, what the Prophet Muhammad Salim is
a role model. Well, it can feel so light or certain Hasina. So
basically, we're supposed to be imitating Him, not just for
ourselves, but because our kids are going to imitate us. If they
can see the Prophet Muhammad says, and then we have to be that
living, you know, Prophet, I don't mean as a living prophet, but I
mean in his morals, his actions, his kindness, his thesis,
generosity is forgiving, whatever it is that you want to instill in
your child, right? But he will certainly see you as a mother and
father and they will copy you. You're the first person they open
their eyes to the first person they see when they open their
eyes. Is you or your dad, or maybe the doctor. God knows if their
eyes are still shut, you know? But I mean
we're the first people that they encounter it, and they're the
first people that they see. So if we're not, you know, imitating the
Prophet, if we're not the role model, you know, my little mini
picture of what the Prophet Muhammad said was, they're not
going to know they're not going to love him, and they're not going to
be the way we want them to be, or expect them to be. Okay. And we
spoke about working on ourselves previously, say summarize that,
um, you know, when his name is mentioned, make it a fact that
he's the son of Allah, Allah was salam. Okay? Whenever the event is
called, make sure your kids are solid, and they listen. And they,
you know, they repeat the event, whenever there's a possibility to
relate your actions to him Salallahu Salam in any way, you
must do that. And the more you do that in an indirect way, the more
you'll be, they will be attached, without even realizing just what
I'm saying. Just like when they now you know, the most half, they
have the crayons, if something drops, if they see you your heart,
like pounds, like oh my god, the cranfill you see some of the
crystals, like, literally, I see it in some of my kids, they will
like, you know, they're like, oh my god, it's the end of the world
that cranfill They like stuff along, they'll pick it up. And
other kids, they're like, whatever, you know, it's again,
it's what you convey to them. You know, I'm not just saying I'm just
giving you a simple example, but in every other aspect of our life,
right? So but before you do that, before you do all of this, you
have to build the emotional block again, so you don't mess up the
process. It has to come in order. You can order your kids to go pray
if they don't love Allah subhanaw taala I can tell them go pray and
go fast. If they don't know who they're praying for and fasting
for even if they know a lot, okay, and then what is their love? Did
you build that love or that connection with Allah subhanaw
taala with your child. The second thing is stories. And we said
about that we always kept repeating since the beginning
story stories, you have to share stories with your kids make up
stories for them, especially at the younger age. And the young
companions did this. Now it's my the son of Mohammed, the son of
Sodom interview, aka sadhana mucus, is one of what the very
famous companions. So this grandson of Saturn, who cos who
was as well, a companion is called Ismail, he used to say my father
was the son of sads, used to teach a Sierra the life of the prophet
Muhammad Salim. So you presume who taught the father, the Sierra? His
father, of course, the companion, right? So the companion is
teaching his son, and his son is teaching his son, what would you
expect from the grandson of Solomon, of course, when he grows
up, what he's going to what's going to happen, he's going to get
married, he's going to have children, and he's going to teach
his kids the Syrah to, not from a book, not from you know, Sahih
Bukhari or son or whatever. Not from a big content, one of these
big brown books, no, but from the mouth and the memory of his own
whole grandfather. Stories, storytelling, right? This was
exactly how the love was inherited. Unfortunately, we kind
of just cut the chain.
And this is what you should be thinking about. And before your
kids get married, instead of having them sit and read books
about marriage, have them read books about the Sierra, read about
the Prophet Muhammad Salim and sit and think how can I make this book
accessible and interesting and appealing to my three year olds?
You could tell them now how was the Prophet Muhammad, Allah went
to the garden. And so a camera and the camel was weeping because its
owner used to torture him. So the Prophet Muhammad has said and
placed his hand on his head, and the camel stopped weeping or
crying. You see how you know how kinds of Mahathir was you could
tell them that see how the Prophet was kind and how he was planning
the camel? Seize the moment, seize the time to instill the love of
the Prophet Muhammad? SallAllahu wasallam. This is a Judy and
Amanda upon you that last Panatela will ask you, what have you done?
What have you done with your children? Remember, we said, last
time I was telling you, I'm giving you a white piece of cloth, that's
how your child is when he's born, whatever you write, or put on that
piece of cloth on that paper, is what you're going to see. If you
draw roses, you're going to see roses, if you draw, you know, just
black cloud, you're gonna see a black cloud, whatever it is that
you draw on, there is the worst you can see. It's your duty, it's
your Amanar not anybody else, not the teacher at school, not your
babysitter, not your you know, your parents, it's your duty, not
anybody else's.
Okay, so you have to seize the time to instill the love of the
Prophet Muhammad wa salam in a way in a mentality that they can
appreciate and recognize. You can sit them down and start reading
from them to them from the Quran. They're not going to understand
anything, okay? Tell them about the animals tell them the snake
that spoke to the Prophet Muhammad Salam, tell them about the tree
trunk the tweet and cried because it missed the touch of the Prophet
Muhammad wa salam used to lean on it when he used to do the hotbar
these can all be fascinating stories for your children. So you
wouldn't have to reside to all these characters that have invaded
our kids lives at large, especially our younger kids. So
many characters, so many cartoons and this and that and this and
that. You can make stories up, you know, little stories, read about
the Sierra and see how you can, you know, tweak, you know, turn
around a little bit, bring it down to their level, something that
would interest them. And we should have started with building the ark
leader with Allah subhanaw taala before just with the Prophet,
okay. And again, they didn't see Allah subhanaw taala and they can
understand who Allah subhanaw taala is right. But the last one
was pinata Allah, because the companions of that time they
realized and recognized and interacted with the Messenger of
Allah right. And then certainly they love to the God that sent
lovely man right? For them. It was simpler. Do you see how Arcada was
built? No books, no lectures, no tapes, no conferences, no big
terminology and definitions. You will love the man. I love him
because he's a decent man, a decent human being, but he's not
just a decent human being. He was a decent human being that was
receiving what inspiration or why I love him as a messenger of Allah
subhanaw taala. But then you love that who sent him as well because
you love him. And that's the same way if you make your kids love the
Prophet Muhammad wa sallam,
aren't you going to natural of Allah subhanaw taala who sent the
Prophet Muhammad says,
Don't you think it's just natural? You know, if I go and get my child
something, they're going to love me for getting that something.
Right, because I got them that something it's the same way that
Allah sent the prophets, they love the Prophet, they're gonna love
the person who's at your, you know, whoever sent the Prophet and
that's Allah subhanaw taala and the same aspect.
Okay, you can't imagine how Allah subhanaw taala is, if you cannot
imagine how the Prophet Muhammad wa Salam is and this is what you
have to focus on with your kids. So if you love the Prophet
Muhammad wa salam, then by default, you will have to love
who, Allah. Do you understand how he builds up here, that's how
Allah you know, the Prophet was going. And this is one way of
building the Eman and the love of Allah in the minds of the
children. And you know, this hadith of Naga says, Once I was
writing behind the Prophet Muhammad Salam, and he said to me,
I will teach you some words. He's giving him an introduction, right
introduction, sorry, which is a brief reminder. And then he says
what he's telling he's a little child, for the lawyer for that,
okay? Preserve Allah and Allah will preserve your protect you be
mindful of Allah and you will find him in front of you. If you ask
ask Allah. And I want to ask you something and stop and ask
something. What is the essence of al Qaeda? Right, or Eman or faith?
That is a party that is to believe what that no one has power? Or is
more powerful than what? last panel to Hello? Okay. Now is the
draw of the Prophet Muhammad Salam answered or not? It's answered, of
course, right. The Prophet Muhammad says Allah never ever
said, if you want to ask, come and ask me and I'll make job for you,
because you know, I'm your uncle or whatever, or I'm your father,
come to me, Fatima. I'll make dua for you know, he wants to break
all human links. Yes, I'm the Prophet. You love me and you adore
me. But at the end of the day, I'm only a human being. I'm only a
prophet. When you ask Who do you ask? Allah subhanaw taala? Isn't
this a step of building Arcada or believing in Allah subhanaw taala.
And what's more important is that he's building our Cleator in a
state of joy. He's riding a camel with him. He's not sitting him
down in the masjid with a frowning face and you know, you know, big
beard and, you know, Allah said, this, was it, no, they're riding a
camel is telling him, you know, you when you preserve Allah, Allah
will protect you, when you be mindful of Allah, you know, so
that's how he's doing it, you know, the riots in the mall,
where, you know, put these three quarters in there and they start,
you know, swinging back and forth with your children. Imagine that
you teach your child or key that the love of Allah, while you're
doing this, will your child ask for another turn, can I go again,
and you put three more quarters and you teach operate in another
three quarters and you teach Arcada? Right. And this is more
beneficial than when you go, you know, pay 50 or $70, on a set of
you know, you know, kids tapes or books about talking about, you
know, Allah has a throne and Allah sitting on the throne, they're not
going to remember this stuff. Or even if they remember it, they
won't have that, you know,
personal, you know, personal experience. They can't really
relate it to relate to it. It's just words in a book, okay? Put
him on the right and teach him or her Arcada. That's exactly what
the Prophet Muhammad Salam was doing. And make it short and
brief. Don't say Don't let your kids do not let triggers.
Remember, we spoke about the methods of teaching in the
beginning. And he said the big big no, no, one of them was lecturing.
Do not let your kids I don't know how to do that. But just don't
make dark.
All right. And imagine when the Prophet Muhammad says salam
teachers predestination to a child, and he says, What to this
child.
Know that the owner of Muhammad, if they were together, to harm
you, we wouldn't be able to harm you unless what Allah says what
Allah says so and imagine when you gather your mom and your dad and
your uncles and aunts and cousins and neighbors and the government
that present everybody who loves you to come and bring you a gift,
right to Omar Muhammad, imagine the millions coming from every
country, China and India and Egypt and Turkey, and God knows where,
right? And you're telling me so six year old, and a six year old
cannot run away and you can't run away from them, right? And then
Allah subhanaw taala says, this is not going to happen. They're not
going to be able to get you that gift. You can tell these gifts to
the sun or the oil coming to haunt me and Allah doesn't want you to
behind, you're not going to get harmed. Right, you can bring it
down to their level. That's what the Prophet Muhammad Hassan was
saying, right? They will not be able to do so if Allah subhanaw
taala doesn't say so. This is Arpita Simple Stories, simple
things. Isn't the Prophet Muhammad so Salam telling to the child
basically, that no one on this earth including me, can help you
without Allah subhanaw taala if you think about it, if you say
this to your child, that's what you're doing. You're building
Imagine our PA without even realizing you don't have to sit
down and lecture them about Arpita simple things simple story simple
Hadith. Simple, you know, you could just even role model in
front of them. Now, I want to pose a question here. How do we make
our children love Allah subhanaw taala. Right? If you do research
people will tell you, Oh, you know, maybe can breed some
pictures of the cabin and, you know, put in their bedroom or some
Quranic verses are telling me, you know, this is Baitullah haram.
And, you know, maybe one day we'll go visit there and make two off
and so and so forth. You know what, I'll tell you something,
forget about all of this. This, this won't take you anywhere.
Okay? Look at what your child loves. That's what you need to do.
For example, if your child likes, you know, ice cream, okay? Or if
your child likes bouncy castles, or you whatever it is, tell them
guess what, inshallah and Jana, they'll be bouncy castles. And
it's going to be rivers of ice cream, chocolate chip cookie
dough, or whatever flavor that they like, Okay? And you're not
kidding them. Because the Quran says what, in Jannah, you'll have
mash it whatever you desire. If you desire to have a bouncy
castle, you will have a bouncy castle. If you want to ask for a
burger. You can have a burger Halal burger without having to
look for a halal store Hamdulillah you know, whatever you want that
you know that hot dog, and you know what sells pretzels you're
dying for but you know, it's not hot. So you're like, kind of
refrain Sharla there's gonna be lots of there. So whatever it is
that you desire. So if your child likes bouncy castles, why not. And
not just that it's free. Not that they care, of course, but we care
versus it's free to write another thing, if your kid hates sleeping,
for example, tell them guess what, in general, there's going to be no
sleeping. And maybe there's no brushing of your teeth. And maybe
don't even have to take a bath since we don't even sweat in
Jannah. And if they're older, tell them you know, there's no school,
there's gonna be no homework. Can you imagine telling these kids,
you know, you have to lengthen with gender. If they love gender,
and they look forward to what they're going to find in gender.
They're gonna love Allah subhanaw taala? Do you see what I'm saying?
You see how you link it, you don't go tell them. You have to love
Allah stuff for love. And I always you don't do that. You can't do
that. Because a lot of us do that. Unfortunately, you know, like,
what is wrong with you, kid, you cannot do that. You have to build
it through a love relationship. Okay. But on you know, and more on
the human side, of course, we said bouncy castles and ice cream and
whatever it is or burgers. But more on the practical side, this
is you know, this is going to happen. So if you don't line if
you're kind, if you're generous, you're going to get this and that.
So you have to also relate it to their actions. Okay, so you begin
to build this emotion. And I see people really like daydreaming
about what's in general see, like, alright, so you begin to build
this emotion, and your child starts to look forward to Jana.
Like, you look forward, you know, to like, nice, clear, instead, you
know, Lord and Taylor or whatever it is, that feel is going to
happen, or some stores closing, you gotta get some like crazy
deal. And you will. So looking forward to it. The same idea,
they're going to be looking forward to Jana. And if they're
looking forward to Jana, they're going to try to please Allah
subhanaw taala. And if they're pleasing Allah subhanaw taala,
they're going to be definitely pleasing you. Right? It's just
like a chain Subhanallah you work on one thing, and then it just
like, you know, it just keeps going, the effect keeps going on.
Another thing we spoke about before, again, just a few minutes
ago, stories, and I'll give you an example of a story could tell 236
year old, okay, this somebody was saying he was saying like, you
know, there was a mother and she had like her three kids, and then
the little youngest one got really ill. So she had to run off to the
hospital, you know, the father wasn't there. So you don't have to
leave the other two young kids. Not a real story. But anyway, so
he could tell you children so and then there was the older daughter
and the younger daughter, and then you know that they had a power
cut. So the younger daughter started crying. And the older
sister started thinking, you know, she's starting to freak out, like,
you know, it's dark. And then she remembered her words of her
mother, because this is what we're supposed to be doing that what
Allah is always with you, even from not here, Allah is what
always with you. So she started calming down, and she opened up
the curtains. And then she saw the moon. And she started telling her
sister look at the beautiful moon, you know, look how beautiful it is
and how Allah created and so on, so forth. And then their mom came
back with the baby. And they told her what happened. And so what
would the mom do at that point? You know, she told them, Okay,
tomorrow, we're gonna go to the library, get a book about the
moon, you know, and we're going to, you know, read certain karma
because there's a certain degree and called the moon, and it kind
of like kind of relate everything together. Right? The thing I want
to say that out of the story is, it shows you that first of all
children can control themselves. And they can remember very well
what you tell them. And again, I'm not telling telling them as in the
form of lecturing them, or you know, being sarcastic of them or
yelling at them, telling them when you're sitting in a nice friendly
environment, sharing a story maybe about their grandparents or
something that happened in a humorous, humorous way. Sorry,
Kate. And their parents, they also know that their parents, right, as
much control as they may seem to have they're way, way weaker than
the last panel.
Right? It's a very simple story. You could tell your child or the
light went out and they were scared, whatever, you know, but
then they remember that Allah's pantallas with them and then they
said, oh, let's open the curtain. We have to also take action. So we
open the curtains, and then you know, and so on, so forth.
Whatever stories you can make, you know, make up story
Always make up stories as much as you can try to tweak them around.
Whatever it is you even want to address to your child, you see a
certain you know, something that you don't like about them, don't
go into them, oh, you're doing this and this and this is wrong,
find a story that will come and you know, and that will, you know,
how would you say like,
I'm sorry, kind of like address this issue that's bothering you in
an indirect way. Because confrontation is not something
good. Once you confront somebody, they start to become what they
start to defend themselves as if it's like a war. But if you come
from another side and try to you know, approach it from a different
side, they're going to hear you because they know you're not
talking to them, or you're not pointing a fault at them. You're
talking about somebody else and then they can definitely relate to
Pamela Okay. As much as you can build that love and build that
bond with them. First of all, with the Prophet Muhammad says send
them through your actions through your kindness to them you know,
remember we said how sometimes one of the alternatives for punishment
we were talking about how you have to be merciful you know, when you
tell them Yeah, I could have punished you but I've decided what
to be merciful. Tell them like the Prophet Muhammad says and then was
merciful. Try to bring it Wincott that this action of mercy that I'm
going to have upon you is not because I'm like that it's because
it's the Prophet Muhammad has elements like that. So if you link
them to you link them to the Prophet Muhammad says when they
have that love, it's very easy as that to build our Kedah and build
their belief in the last panel.
Okay, so that's it for today Inshallah, any questions?
No.
Salako