Shadee Elmasry – Establishing Social Norms
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The speaker discusses how the social norm has been established in modern society, where people have become more social and interact socially. They suggest that this norm has been established to create small neighborhoods and communities where people interact socially. The speaker also mentions that people may not always be able to marry and may not be suitable for marriage.
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There's just a hobby of Buddha, he had a dinner for his for the
community, basically for the locals in the area. Okay, and he
had moved to a sham, and he was living in Jerusalem, I would go to
that. And he was
basically inviting the Muslims, you know, from the local
neighborhood. And one day a man said to him, you do a lot of this
isn't this excessive? Right? I would not have that set. I would
much rather do this than spend the whole night in attic F in the
masjid. Reason being there's so much wisdom to it dinner
invitations amongst the families of the neighborhood. Don't ever
think that this is nothing, this is a huge deal, because this is
how social norms develop, okay? Like how certain certain normal
behavior, right is developed, even in a person's mind when all 50
people in the house, the moms, the dads and the children, they all
have certain norms of behavior. Okay? So you've become a culture
to certain norms. And in our society today, it's a bit crazy,
hectic, no one, there's no normal anymore. Like one author said,
everyone's weird in the New America, right? Everyone's doing
their own thing. Okay, if you want to be 30 years old, and act like a
six year olds, and wear diapers and eat cereal all day, they
actually have conferences for these types of things. So there's
no normal. So how are you going to create a normal by creating little
neighborhoods and communities where people interact socially on
a regular basis? So that normal behavior is established? Okay.
Secondly, when people need to marry, they don't just marry like
flipping a switch, you're going to look first at the people you know,
so the value of social gatherings again, leads to who will we marry
in the future? All right, who can who is suitable with whom? Who
gets along with whom? All right, and everyone sees that the
families all of this was established at the time of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he used to attend such
gatherings on a regular basis