The "monarch" in Islam is a strong foundation that blocks the avenue that leads to "naive" relationships between men and women. The system is not just a gift, but a commitment to the family. protecting women is crucial, and the speaker emphasizes the importance of finding a strong foundation in one's relationship and avoiding small small concessions. The importance of forgiveness and forgiveness in relationships is also emphasized, and the importance of not revealing secret moments is also emphasized. The speaker provides various scenarios where women should refuse to give gifts as a gift, and emphasizes the importance of giving suitable compensation and letting them go graciously.
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Okay.
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Brothers and sisters,
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and
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welcome to our weekly verse
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lesson number 7
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of virtues of Islam delivered by our sheikh,
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Sheikh Salim Al Amri.
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I will pass the mic
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and the screen to the sheikh, Insha'Allah, and
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the sheikh can begin.
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My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, today
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is our weekly class, the virtues of Islam,
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and we are still in the introduction.
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The
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today's
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will be talking about
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the financial
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lives of women in Islam
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And what Islam has given women,
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Islam has given them their financial rights.
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Before Islam,
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women were deprived
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of their
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financial rights.
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They were deprived of inheritance.
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As a matter of fact, they were treated
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and considered as commodities,
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and they would be inherited.
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So Islam
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gave the women what they deserve.
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Allah says,
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the reasons
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we highlight these issues
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is to
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create the awareness
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among the Muslim
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sisters
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to
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educate them
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that Islam has given you all your rights
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from day 1.
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So what Islam has given you, you will
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never find anywhere else.
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You will never find.
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So be grateful
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and know your deed.
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And differentiate
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between Islam and what's
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the wrong practices of some Muslims.
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Yes.
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In some communities,
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Muslims,
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they do not represent
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the true picture of Islam.
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That is their problem. The problem
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with them, not with Islam. Islam has given
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women their rights.
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So Allah
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says in Surat An Nisha,
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he says, subhanahu wa ta'ala, aye number 4.
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See how Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala,
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honored you,
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honored you
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by naming one complete Surah
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chapter.
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Women.
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Surah.
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Surah. Surah.
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Allah says,
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this is regarding
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the marriage
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and the bridal money or the dowry, the.
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Because in Islam,
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the relationship
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between a man and a woman
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has to be legitimate relationship.
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No relationship between man and the woman outside
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the wedlock.
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It's prohibited in Islam
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to have a relationship
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between man and the woman
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outside the wedlock,
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outside the circle of.
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It's totally prohibited. It's just haram.
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Because that leads inevitably
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to the to
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fornication,
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to adultery.
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So Islam
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blocks that avenue.
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And this is the beauty about the law
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and the Sharia of Islam.
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It blocks the avenues that will lead to
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haram.
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So the means to lead the haram in
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itself is haram, the means itself.
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The will
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lead to the Haram,
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privacy
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and privacy
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between a man and a woman.
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Ultimately,
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inevitably,
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this will lead to the hara. They will
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end up having
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illegal
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relationship.
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They will end up committing
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zina.
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So the sharia blocks this way,
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the avenue that will lead to the
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Haram.
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So that
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this will never happen
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because Islam prohibits
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that a man and a woman should sit
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together alone.
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Even if he's teaching how the Quran,
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he cannot.
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A man and a woman.
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Even if it is on the neck,
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they are far away from each other.
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So
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this is the beauty of
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the Sharia
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because the one
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who sent it down is the one who
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created us,
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Subhan, and he knows
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our psychology.
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He knows how the man thinks. He knows
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how the woman thinks
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and what they feel
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towards each other.
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So the only way
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that a man can have contact through the
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opposite *
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is through the pop up channel,
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and that is the legitimate relationship,
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the legal relationship,
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which is the zawad, the nikah, the maddich.
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And the marriage in Islam
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is not just like that. And now the
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women meet and we they get themselves married.
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No.
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K?
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There's a system.
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Needs to be followed,
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and that is to go through the family,
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the building block of the community.
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Because the marriage
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is not a relationship between 2 individuals, man
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and the woman. No.
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The marriage is a relationship between 2 families
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2 families.
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So that's why
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you need
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to go through the system.
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You
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need to go through the proper channel.
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The husband to be has to come and
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propose
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to the family of the girl.
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And the family, they have to do their
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homework
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to find out,
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is this
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suitor? Is this
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husband to be? Is this man who proposes
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suitable
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for our or not.
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So they have to do the their homework.
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They have to ask and find out.
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Because normally, a woman,
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if she loves someone,
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that's it. She just follows her heart.
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She doesn't see the consequences,
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what will happen.
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And those those who run away and they
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get themselves married,
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they regret
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later on.
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So that's why
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there is a system to protect you
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because this man, maybe
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he's not interested to have a longer relationship
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with you.
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So after a few months, he will divorce
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you.
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So that's why the family, they help
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you that you start this relationship
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on a strong foundation.
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But the enemies of Islam, they manage to
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brainwash
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the minds of many Muslim girls
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that this what they call
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it arranged marriage arranged marriage
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is not acceptable
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that you come through the family.
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So what do you need? Do you want
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to get yourself married?
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The
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said,
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the one who gets herself married without the
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consent of her guardian, she's an adulteress.
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Okay?
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So you don't want to be an adulteress?
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That is your choice.
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And he also said, so, a woman who
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gets herself married without
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a then her marriage is invalid, invalid, invalid.
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He said it three times.
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So the marriage in Islam,
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there should be
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the consent
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of
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the the girl,
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the guardian,
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and the.
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These are the components of the valid wudra.
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Conscience, agreement,
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mutual,
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then
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guardian,
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then dowry,
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then the witness.
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These are the 4
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elements
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inseparable.
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So this eye talks about one of these
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four element, which is the.
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So Allah says,
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And give the women
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upon marriage
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their bridal gifts
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graciously,
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bridal money,
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the Mahab, the dowry.
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But if they give up willingly to you
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anything of it, then take it in satisfaction
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and ease.
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So let us reflect here.
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So Allah commands,
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give women
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their
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So the
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is the, the
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as a gift, nehla.
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Well,
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means a gift.
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Because someone
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gave him something.
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So give women
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upon the marry
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their their
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bridal
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gifts,
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the the pride of money graciously.
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How much?
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Not defined.
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It varies from one community to another community,
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from one society to another society.
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Depending on the cost of living.
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Though,
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as a rule of thumb,
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it has to be reasonable
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and
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affordable
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for the man.
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So the is
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a must.
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And you have no right to touch it
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as a husband
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or as the parents
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because this is a gift for
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the
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wife.
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Have no right to touch it whatsoever.
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Unless
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the girl willingly
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without
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being put under pressure
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or without and without insinuation,
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give us
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something.
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So
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our
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says, but if they give up willingly,
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happily,
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Not because they feel shy, so
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okay. You can't take.
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So Allah says, no.
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If they give up willingly to you, anything
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of it,
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then they can't take
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it.
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With happy.
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K? While they are happy,
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satisfied.
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And take it
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in satisfaction
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and ease, then it is halal for you.
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But if they are not happy to get,
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you have no right to ask or to
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take.
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So this is the right of the woman.
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This you'll not find except in Islam.
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Many of our sisters who are reverted to
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Islam
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are not aware of this.
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And many brothers who married them, they said,
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okay. She's a revert. She doesn't know. She's
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doesn't know.
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And I heard the stories,
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some of those girls,
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when he asked her, what what do you
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want your? She said, buy me the copy
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of Sahih Imam Bukhari.
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Oh, good.
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And he thinks that
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he can't escape. No. He cannot escape.
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So listen to me, my dear sisters,
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who got married
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and you didn't get your.
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It's never too late.
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You can ask for it.
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You can ask for it,
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and he has to give it to you.
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How much?
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What is known in the community where you
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live?
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Muslim girls.
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How much was paid? He has to give
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you that.
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This what the has given you.
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Then Allah said
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so that was.
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And Allah
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said,
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We're in
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we're in
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Allah
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says,
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20.
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If you desire
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to replace a wife with another,
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That means you want to divorce her.
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And you are giving
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the former
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even a stack of gold
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stack of gold as dowry.
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Do not take any of it back.
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Would you still take it unjustly
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and very,
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sinfully?
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So if you divorce a woman,
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you have no right to take any
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portion
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of the that you paid.
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Even it was huge fortune, your gate.
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Stack of gold.
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You know what's the?
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They said.
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They said the
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is the skin
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of the cow.
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The skin of the cow
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filled with gold
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he gave you,
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he had no right to take
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1 gram
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of it.
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If you desire to replace a wife with
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another and you have given
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the former even a stack of gold
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as dowry,
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do not take
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any of it,
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any
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of it. See the beauty of Arabic?
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Remember.
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Undefine noun.
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You are not allowed
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to take
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any portion of it.
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You have no light.
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Allah
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asks the men
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who do not feel
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shy or ashamed of themselves.
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They asked.
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Then Allah asked them,
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would you still take it unjustly
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haram for you to take it?
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It is isn't.
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It is a manifest
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sin.
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Would you still
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take it
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and just pray?
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And very sinfully,
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believe it.
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You forgot
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the sweet days, the happy moment you spent
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with her,
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and now you want to take
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the you gave that's not yours.
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However,
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this is if the man
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decided
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to terminate
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the relationship.
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So he's going to divorce.
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But if the woman
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wants to end the relationship,
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then in that case, he has to compensate
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him. And
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that is called
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So is ending the relationship
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with the ransom, with giving
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money to the husband.
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But if the husband
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is the one who
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initiate
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the divorce
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and he divorced,
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then he has no right to take
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anything of what he has paid.
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Then the ayah 21 after that
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Okay.
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And how could you take it back?
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And how could you take it back after
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having
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enjoyed each other
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intimately?
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And he has taken from you a firm
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commitment.
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Okay,
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And the what justification?
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What is what are your justifications?
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Okay,
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And how could you take it back?
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How could you take it back?
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You confide in each other.
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You confide in each other.
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You bring out your secrets to each other.
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You feel that you are one body.
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He is your mate.
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You see the body of each other.
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So how could you take it back after
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having enjoyed each other intimately?
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You have this intimacy
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and this intimate relationship.
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Having enjoyed each other
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intimately.
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And this is the right of the Kabul.
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And he
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has taken from you,
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the wife has taken from the husband,
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a firm commitment
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to live with you
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under all different circumstances,
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to go along with you, all the ups
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and downs alive,
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to back you, to stand by you.
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You forget all that?
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So that's why
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Allah called
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the ending of the marital relationship.
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When life becomes sour, the relationship
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cannot
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be improved any further
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and they cannot live together,
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then he said,
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honorable
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release,
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kind release,
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graceful
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release
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with mutual
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respect,
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and you do not disclose
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the secrets of each other. Haram.
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Haram. To disclose
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the secrets of each other.
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Secrets of each other
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should be remain
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buried.
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That should not be disclosed.
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So this is the contract.
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Allah call it
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covenant,
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strong
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covenant.
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Firm commitment
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that you will take care of this woman.
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You will not humiliate her.
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You will respect her.
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You will give her her rights.
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You will treat her with dignity.
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Now
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we are going to talk about
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if this relationship
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00:29:25
came to an end,
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00:29:28
And there are different scenarios.
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If
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a man
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divorce his wife
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after signing the wedlock
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and before
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the consummation
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of the marriage
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and before having
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privacy
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or privacy
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together.
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And he
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specified
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the amount of Mahal.
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In this case,
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so wedlock
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happened,
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consummation not yet,
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and didn't happen.
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He didn't sit alone with her and the
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doors are closed.
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Or the said, the curtains are lowered.
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So they have privacy
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or privacy together.
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And then
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the man decided
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to divorce her
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00:31:03
for one reason or another.
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00:31:05
K?
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00:31:10
Allah has his own wisdom.
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00:31:15
In this case,
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00:31:18
she deserves to have half
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00:31:19
the
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00:31:23
half the.
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00:31:27
He gave her 30,000.
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Dirhams
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00:31:36
or whatever currency,
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00:31:40
think he has to give him back half
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00:31:41
of it and half is.
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00:31:44
That's for her.
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00:31:51
This is what Allah
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00:31:54
commanded.
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00:31:59
Says in Surat al Baqarah,
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00:32:00
ayat
00:32:01 -->
00:32:02
237.
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00:32:06
See the beauty from Islam.
00:32:08 -->
00:32:10
It is a it is a code of
00:32:10 -->
00:32:11
life.
00:32:12 -->
00:32:14
Sharia is a code of life.
00:32:14 -->
00:32:16
You'll never find these things anywhere.
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00:32:19
Don't you know the Christians, Arab Christians,
00:32:20 -->
00:32:22
the Muslim countries, Arab Christians,
00:32:22 -->
00:32:23
like in Egypt?
00:32:26 -->
00:32:29
How they they they they don't have
00:32:29 -->
00:32:30
family law?
00:32:31 -->
00:32:32
They don't have.
00:32:36 -->
00:32:38
So how how they solve their problems
00:32:38 -->
00:32:39
or inheritance?
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00:32:41
They come to the Muslims.
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00:32:44
They go to the Muslims.
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00:32:52
So there are
00:32:53 -->
00:32:54
special section
00:32:55 -->
00:32:55
for the Christians
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00:32:59
who will come to the Muslim party,
00:33:00 -->
00:33:03
and he will rule according to what Allah
00:33:03 -->
00:33:03
said.
00:33:06 -->
00:33:08
So the Sharia
00:33:08 -->
00:33:09
of Al Islam
00:33:12 -->
00:33:14
addresses all issues
00:33:15 -->
00:33:17
of human beings.
00:33:20 -->
00:33:22
Don't you know Napoleon
00:33:22 -->
00:33:22
Napoleon,
00:33:23 -->
00:33:25
one of us, the French
00:33:27 -->
00:33:28
emperor,
00:33:29 -->
00:33:30
when he invaded Egypt,
00:33:31 -->
00:33:33
you know what they did?
00:33:34 -->
00:33:36
We don't read history.
00:33:38 -->
00:33:40
He took a copy
00:33:41 -->
00:33:43
of the law of the family in Islam
00:33:45 -->
00:33:46
because it was
00:33:46 -->
00:33:47
itemized
00:33:48 -->
00:33:49
and put in bullet forms.
00:33:51 -->
00:33:53
So he took a copy of it to
00:33:53 -->
00:33:54
France,
00:33:54 -->
00:33:57
and they are following it. And it was
00:33:58 -->
00:33:58
mainly
00:33:58 -->
00:34:00
from the Maliki madhah.
00:34:02 -->
00:34:03
And yet,
00:34:05 -->
00:34:08
Muslims are running, and they want to imitate
00:34:08 -->
00:34:09
the kuffar
00:34:10 -->
00:34:11
and pick the leftover.
00:34:18 -->
00:34:21
They don't appreciate what Islam has given them.
00:34:22 -->
00:34:24
So the Islamic law addresses
00:34:25 -->
00:34:26
all issues and problems.
00:34:36 -->
00:34:36
Inheritance
00:34:36 -->
00:34:39
is mentioned in few verses in the Quran.
00:34:41 -->
00:34:43
This complete science.
00:34:44 -->
00:34:46
And when you want to study it,
00:34:47 -->
00:34:48
you will need
00:34:48 -->
00:34:50
to go through massive volumes
00:34:52 -->
00:34:55
because the one who talks is Allah.
00:34:59 -->
00:35:01
And this is his speech.
00:35:03 -->
00:35:06
So he has provided solutions for our problems.
00:35:12 -->
00:35:14
So if you follow this light,
00:35:15 -->
00:35:17
this Quran, which leads
00:35:20 -->
00:35:20
guides,
00:35:21 -->
00:35:21
to
00:35:23 -->
00:35:24
the master straight
00:35:24 -->
00:35:25
way,
00:35:26 -->
00:35:27
upright way.
00:35:33 -->
00:35:35
May Allah guide all Muslims
00:35:36 -->
00:35:38
and bring them to the deen of Allah
00:35:38 -->
00:35:39
as
00:35:40 -->
00:35:42
to understand this beautiful deen.
00:35:45 -->
00:35:46
Humanity is suffering.
00:35:47 -->
00:35:48
People are suffering.
00:35:49 -->
00:35:50
People are
00:35:50 -->
00:35:51
searching,
00:35:52 -->
00:35:54
and we have the solution.
00:35:57 -->
00:35:59
But we don't appreciate it.
00:36:05 -->
00:36:06
So Allah says in Surat
00:36:07 -->
00:36:08
Allah
00:36:08 -->
00:36:10
says in 2 30
00:36:52 -->
00:36:53
And if you divorce them
00:36:54 -->
00:36:55
before consummating
00:36:56 -->
00:36:57
the marriage,
00:36:58 -->
00:37:01
but after deciding on a dowry,
00:37:02 -->
00:37:04
pay half of the dowry.
00:37:05 -->
00:37:07
Unless the wife graciously
00:37:07 -->
00:37:08
waves it
00:37:09 -->
00:37:10
waves it,
00:37:11 -->
00:37:12
or the husband graciously
00:37:13 -->
00:37:14
pays in full.
00:37:15 -->
00:37:16
Graciousness
00:37:17 -->
00:37:19
is closer to righteousness.
00:37:21 -->
00:37:24
And do not forget kindness among yourselves.
00:37:25 -->
00:37:26
Surely, Allah
00:37:26 -->
00:37:29
is all seeing of what you do. Let
00:37:29 -->
00:37:30
us
00:37:37 -->
00:37:39
reflect. If you divorce your woman,
00:37:41 -->
00:37:41
k,
00:37:42 -->
00:37:42
before
00:37:43 -->
00:37:44
the consummation,
00:37:45 -->
00:37:46
before touching them.
00:37:48 -->
00:37:49
Touching them here
00:37:49 -->
00:37:51
is in the figurative speech,
00:37:53 -->
00:37:53
k,
00:37:55 -->
00:37:55
means having
00:37:57 -->
00:37:58
intimate relationship.
00:38:03 -->
00:38:04
That's why Allah says
00:38:10 -->
00:38:10
breaks
00:38:11 -->
00:38:13
the. So it's not the physical touch,
00:38:13 -->
00:38:15
it is the
00:38:15 -->
00:38:16
intimate relationship.
00:38:20 -->
00:38:21
Before consummating
00:38:21 -->
00:38:22
the marriage,
00:38:28 -->
00:38:29
You already specified
00:38:30 -->
00:38:31
the amount of
00:38:32 -->
00:38:34
dowry that you are going to give to
00:38:34 -->
00:38:35
them.
00:38:40 -->
00:38:41
So now
00:38:42 -->
00:38:44
you divorce them before the consummation,
00:38:48 -->
00:38:49
before having
00:38:51 -->
00:38:52
relationship,
00:38:57 -->
00:39:01
But after deciding and and you decided already
00:39:01 -->
00:39:02
the amount
00:39:04 -->
00:39:04
of
00:39:06 -->
00:39:09
then you have to give her whether this
00:39:09 -->
00:39:10
paid or not paid.
00:39:12 -->
00:39:13
If it is paid,
00:39:14 -->
00:39:16
then she will give you half of it
00:39:16 -->
00:39:17
back.
00:39:20 -->
00:39:21
If it's not paid,
00:39:22 -->
00:39:23
you have to give a half of it.
00:39:24 -->
00:39:25
Paid half of the
00:39:38 -->
00:39:40
So there's an exception here.
00:39:40 -->
00:39:41
Unless the wife
00:39:42 -->
00:39:44
says, I don't want the.
00:39:45 -->
00:39:45
I don't want.
00:39:46 -->
00:39:46
Okay?
00:39:47 -->
00:39:48
Fine. Unless
00:39:50 -->
00:39:51
the wife graciously
00:39:52 -->
00:39:52
forgives
00:39:53 -->
00:39:54
and
00:39:54 -->
00:39:55
waves it
00:39:55 -->
00:39:56
to
00:39:56 -->
00:39:59
say, you're forgiven. I don't want anything from
00:39:59 -->
00:39:59
you.
00:40:00 -->
00:40:01
Or the husband
00:40:01 -->
00:40:02
who paid
00:40:05 -->
00:40:05
the Mahal
00:40:06 -->
00:40:06
fully,
00:40:10 -->
00:40:11
He said, I don't want Annie to take
00:40:11 -->
00:40:12
anything.
00:40:12 -->
00:40:13
I don't want anything.
00:40:14 -->
00:40:15
It is yours.
00:40:16 -->
00:40:17
Keep it with you.
00:40:20 -->
00:40:22
Or the husband graciously
00:40:23 -->
00:40:24
pays in full
00:40:25 -->
00:40:26
pays in full.
00:40:30 -->
00:40:31
Then Allah said,
00:40:39 -->
00:40:41
If you pardon,
00:40:43 -->
00:40:44
if you forgive graciously,
00:40:47 -->
00:40:47
then
00:40:48 -->
00:40:49
this hardening
00:40:51 -->
00:40:51
and forgiving
00:40:54 -->
00:40:55
is closer to
00:40:56 -->
00:40:57
righteousness.
00:41:04 -->
00:41:05
Then Allah says,
00:41:07 -->
00:41:10
see, the one who talks is the creator.
00:41:11 -->
00:41:12
Creator.
00:41:13 -->
00:41:14
Yes.
00:41:15 -->
00:41:16
When
00:41:16 -->
00:41:17
relationships
00:41:17 -->
00:41:18
become sour
00:41:19 -->
00:41:21
and now a divorce
00:41:23 -->
00:41:26
that's why many of the divorces, they end
00:41:26 -->
00:41:26
up with
00:41:30 -->
00:41:32
in in a in a bad way.
00:41:36 -->
00:41:38
So they cover they're not in good terms
00:41:38 -->
00:41:39
with each other.
00:41:43 -->
00:41:44
Because,
00:41:44 -->
00:41:46
my dear brothers and sisters, is not something
00:41:46 -->
00:41:47
easy.
00:41:49 -->
00:41:50
No. It has psychological
00:41:54 -->
00:41:56
consequences and impacts
00:41:57 -->
00:41:58
on both sides.
00:42:01 -->
00:42:02
I remembered
00:42:02 -->
00:42:03
I was in the court
00:42:04 -->
00:42:05
few years ago,
00:42:06 -->
00:42:07
not few many years ago.
00:42:12 -->
00:42:13
And the husband came.
00:42:14 -->
00:42:15
He was
00:42:15 -->
00:42:16
very, very
00:42:17 -->
00:42:17
angry.
00:42:19 -->
00:42:19
K.
00:42:21 -->
00:42:22
Boiling.
00:42:25 -->
00:42:26
He said to the
00:42:27 -->
00:42:29
to the guy there who registers,
00:42:35 -->
00:42:36
I want to divorce
00:42:38 -->
00:42:39
my wife.
00:42:42 -->
00:42:43
So this
00:42:46 -->
00:42:47
the employer
00:42:47 -->
00:42:50
employer the employee of the
00:42:50 -->
00:42:53
the the the the guy who's in charge,
00:42:53 -->
00:42:54
who's who are the sisters,
00:42:56 -->
00:42:59
it's he he was not he
00:42:59 -->
00:43:02
I can say he didn't have
00:43:02 -->
00:43:03
ill
00:43:03 -->
00:43:05
and wisdom, young.
00:43:05 -->
00:43:07
So he asked him, how many I should
00:43:07 -->
00:43:08
delight?
00:43:08 -->
00:43:09
How many?
00:43:12 -->
00:43:13
How many times?
00:43:15 -->
00:43:16
He told him 100 times.
00:43:17 -->
00:43:19
He was very upset.
00:43:22 -->
00:43:23
So he told him, no. No.
00:43:24 -->
00:43:25
Only 3.
00:43:25 -->
00:43:26
Said I 3.
00:43:27 -->
00:43:29
I told him, I I held the hand.
00:43:29 -->
00:43:31
I remember. I held the hand of the
00:43:31 -->
00:43:32
man,
00:43:32 -->
00:43:33
this
00:43:33 -->
00:43:34
angry husband,
00:43:35 -->
00:43:35
and told,
00:43:36 -->
00:43:37
can I have a word with you? I
00:43:37 -->
00:43:38
took him outside.
00:43:42 -->
00:43:43
I told him,
00:43:45 -->
00:43:47
You are going to divorce her anyway.
00:43:49 -->
00:43:51
And one divorce will do
00:43:52 -->
00:43:54
One divorce will do.
00:43:55 -->
00:43:56
No need to say,
00:43:57 -->
00:43:58
I divorced this time. No need.
00:43:59 -->
00:44:01
Because once it is registered,
00:44:01 -->
00:44:03
you cannot have her back.
00:44:05 -->
00:44:06
No. You cannot
00:44:06 -->
00:44:07
because it's already
00:44:08 -->
00:44:08
there,
00:44:09 -->
00:44:09
written.
00:44:11 -->
00:44:13
If it is outside, that's a different issue
00:44:14 -->
00:44:15
between scholars,
00:44:15 -->
00:44:16
but now registered
00:44:17 -->
00:44:18
in the docket.
00:44:20 -->
00:44:21
So don't do this.
00:44:22 -->
00:44:24
Divorce her once. You want to divorce? Say
00:44:24 -->
00:44:26
once. You write once. That's it.
00:44:27 -->
00:44:28
So
00:44:29 -->
00:44:31
all the all I know is you cool
00:44:31 -->
00:44:34
down later on. You regret. You want you
00:44:34 -->
00:44:35
have children.
00:44:35 -->
00:44:37
You want to take a while back.
00:44:37 -->
00:44:39
There's a leeway. You can go back.
00:44:41 -->
00:44:42
He looked at me and said,
00:44:44 -->
00:44:45
at the side, only
00:44:49 -->
00:44:50
once. Because
00:44:52 -->
00:44:54
listen to me, my dear sisters.
00:44:56 -->
00:44:57
Most of the
00:44:57 -->
00:44:59
cases of Palak
00:45:00 -->
00:45:02
have been for silly reasons.
00:45:05 -->
00:45:06
Silly reasons.
00:45:10 -->
00:45:12
And then both of you regret.
00:45:15 -->
00:45:16
So if your husband
00:45:16 -->
00:45:18
is upset and angry,
00:45:19 -->
00:45:20
cool down.
00:45:22 -->
00:45:23
Play it safe.
00:45:24 -->
00:45:26
Don't challenge him.
00:45:27 -->
00:45:28
Don't provoke him.
00:45:29 -->
00:45:30
Don't incite him.
00:45:31 -->
00:45:33
Don't don't challenge his manhood.
00:45:35 -->
00:45:37
For some women when they are upset.
00:45:38 -->
00:45:38
I
00:45:39 -->
00:45:40
challenge you.
00:45:43 -->
00:45:44
If you are a man,
00:45:46 -->
00:45:48
give me my word. Divorce me.
00:45:49 -->
00:45:50
That's what they say.
00:45:51 -->
00:45:53
And listen to me, my dear brothers.
00:45:56 -->
00:45:56
Don't
00:45:57 -->
00:45:58
react and don't respond
00:46:00 -->
00:46:03
when she is that angry and she's boiling
00:46:04 -->
00:46:06
because she doesn't know what is coming out,
00:46:07 -->
00:46:08
what she's saying. She doesn't know.
00:46:10 -->
00:46:12
That's why whenever the says, if your wife
00:46:12 -->
00:46:13
tells you,
00:46:14 -->
00:46:15
divorce me.
00:46:17 -->
00:46:18
Don't believe her.
00:46:19 -->
00:46:22
What she wants to say, love me more.
00:46:26 -->
00:46:27
So don't
00:46:28 -->
00:46:29
believe what she says.
00:46:31 -->
00:46:33
So when your husband is upset, leave him
00:46:33 -->
00:46:35
till he's it cools down.
00:46:36 -->
00:46:38
Your wife is upset, leave the house
00:46:39 -->
00:46:41
until things cool down
00:46:42 -->
00:46:42
because
00:46:43 -->
00:46:45
the now, this is his chance. He comes
00:46:45 -->
00:46:46
in between.
00:46:49 -->
00:46:51
What is wrong with you? You are not
00:46:51 -->
00:46:52
a man?
00:46:53 -->
00:46:54
How dare
00:46:55 -->
00:46:55
she reigns
00:46:56 -->
00:46:57
herself aishe?
00:47:00 -->
00:47:02
She doesn't respect you.
00:47:04 -->
00:47:06
There are many women there.
00:47:07 -->
00:47:09
That's what the she's done.
00:47:12 -->
00:47:14
Because that's what he wants.
00:47:15 -->
00:47:17
He wants to destroy this family
00:47:18 -->
00:47:20
because he knows what will happen.
00:47:21 -->
00:47:24
Children will be lost, will be the victims.
00:47:28 -->
00:47:29
And if you read
00:47:31 -->
00:47:32
what psychologist
00:47:34 -->
00:47:35
had written
00:47:37 -->
00:47:37
and the stories
00:47:38 -->
00:47:40
and those children
00:47:40 -->
00:47:42
and those who became criminals
00:47:43 -->
00:47:45
because they came from broken
00:47:46 -->
00:47:46
families.
00:47:54 -->
00:47:55
Broken families.
00:48:01 -->
00:48:01
So
00:48:04 -->
00:48:06
when someone is upset, angry,
00:48:06 -->
00:48:08
the other one has to
00:48:09 -->
00:48:11
become cool and leave the other.
00:48:13 -->
00:48:15
If you want to maintain
00:48:16 -->
00:48:16
the household,
00:48:17 -->
00:48:18
the family together.
00:48:19 -->
00:48:22
So now listen to what Allah is saying.
00:48:22 -->
00:48:24
After he mentioned this, Allah
00:48:26 -->
00:48:28
that you divorce them before you
00:48:31 -->
00:48:32
had consummation
00:48:33 -->
00:48:35
and had intimate relationship
00:48:35 -->
00:48:38
with them, then you have to give them
00:48:38 -->
00:48:39
half of it
00:48:40 -->
00:48:42
unless she forgives you
00:48:42 -->
00:48:45
or you decide to give her the fully,
00:48:47 -->
00:48:49
and that is a sign of righteousness.
00:48:50 -->
00:48:51
Then Allah said,
00:48:56 -->
00:48:57
He reminds us
00:48:58 -->
00:49:00
reminds the husband and the wife.
00:49:06 -->
00:49:07
And do not forget
00:49:07 -->
00:49:09
kindness among yourselves.
00:49:13 -->
00:49:14
Remember,
00:49:15 -->
00:49:16
you live together.
00:49:22 -->
00:49:23
Remember you were
00:49:24 -->
00:49:24
planning
00:49:25 -->
00:49:26
to build a family.
00:49:29 -->
00:49:30
Remember you had dreams.
00:49:33 -->
00:49:34
Well, as I'm sure,
00:49:36 -->
00:49:38
And remain kind to each other,
00:49:41 -->
00:49:43
and do not forget kindness among yourselves.
00:49:52 -->
00:49:52
Surely,
00:49:53 -->
00:49:54
Allah
00:49:55 -->
00:49:56
is all seeing
00:49:57 -->
00:49:58
of what you do.
00:50:00 -->
00:50:03
So this relationship has to be ended
00:50:05 -->
00:50:06
in a kind manner,
00:50:07 -->
00:50:08
gracious manner,
00:50:11 -->
00:50:11
respectful
00:50:11 -->
00:50:12
way.
00:50:13 -->
00:50:14
Allah is watching.
00:50:16 -->
00:50:17
It should not be end in a way
00:50:17 -->
00:50:20
that you are taking revenge on each other.
00:50:23 -->
00:50:25
Allah is all seeing.
00:50:28 -->
00:50:29
What you do,
00:50:29 -->
00:50:30
Allah says it.
00:50:34 -->
00:50:35
So this is
00:50:36 -->
00:50:37
now a scenario
00:50:40 -->
00:50:41
that a man
00:50:42 -->
00:50:43
signed the wedlock,
00:50:44 -->
00:50:45
married a woman,
00:50:45 -->
00:50:47
and before the consummation
00:50:48 -->
00:50:49
or before the halwa,
00:50:49 -->
00:50:53
he decided to divorce her. She deserves half
00:50:53 -->
00:50:54
the Mahar.
00:50:54 -->
00:50:56
Scenario number 1.
00:50:56 -->
00:50:58
Case number 1. Another
00:50:58 -->
00:51:00
case, another scenario,
00:51:02 -->
00:51:05
and, of course, he specified the here. In
00:51:05 -->
00:51:07
this scenario, he mentioned
00:51:07 -->
00:51:09
your is this much.
00:51:11 -->
00:51:12
2nd scenario,
00:51:15 -->
00:51:17
the Mahal is not specified
00:51:24 -->
00:51:25
Mahal is not
00:51:26 -->
00:51:27
specified.
00:51:33 -->
00:51:34
So Allah
00:51:36 -->
00:51:38
says, in this case, he doesn't deserve.
00:51:39 -->
00:51:40
He doesn't
00:51:41 -->
00:51:42
have the right for the
00:51:47 -->
00:51:48
because
00:51:49 -->
00:51:49
no consummation
00:51:51 -->
00:51:52
and no Khalilah
00:51:55 -->
00:51:57
happened. Says in Surat Al Baqarah,
00:51:59 -->
00:52:01
that is Surat Al Baqarah 237,
00:52:03 -->
00:52:04
where you'd a woman
00:52:05 -->
00:52:07
has the right to have the half the,
00:52:08 -->
00:52:09
and here
00:52:09 -->
00:52:09
is
00:52:10 -->
00:52:11
aya 236
00:52:12 -->
00:52:13
in.
00:52:13 -->
00:52:14
Allah says,
00:52:18 -->
00:52:19
Allah says,
00:53:04 -->
00:53:04
The meaning,
00:53:06 -->
00:53:07
and what
00:53:07 -->
00:53:09
is, there's no blame.
00:53:10 -->
00:53:12
If you divorce women before the marriage is
00:53:12 -->
00:53:13
consummated,
00:53:15 -->
00:53:16
all the dowry
00:53:16 -->
00:53:17
is settled.
00:53:19 -->
00:53:21
But give them a suitable compensation.
00:53:23 -->
00:53:25
The rich according to his means and the
00:53:25 -->
00:53:27
poor according to his.
00:53:27 -->
00:53:29
A reasonable compensation
00:53:30 -->
00:53:31
is an obligation
00:53:31 -->
00:53:32
on the good doers.
00:53:33 -->
00:53:34
Let us reflect.
00:53:35 -->
00:53:35
So let's
00:53:37 -->
00:53:39
say, There's no blame. There's no sin.
00:53:40 -->
00:53:42
If you divorce women,
00:53:45 -->
00:53:47
before the marriage is consummated,
00:53:52 -->
00:53:52
or the dowry
00:53:55 -->
00:53:56
is settled.
00:53:56 -->
00:53:57
You didn't specify
00:53:58 -->
00:54:00
how much you are going to give her.
00:54:01 -->
00:54:03
So in this case, what should happen,
00:54:14 -->
00:54:14
So
00:54:15 -->
00:54:15
you
00:54:18 -->
00:54:19
give
00:54:20 -->
00:54:20
something
00:54:21 -->
00:54:22
which you can afford.
00:54:24 -->
00:54:25
No specific
00:54:26 -->
00:54:29
but give them suitable compensation
00:54:30 -->
00:54:31
as a gift.
00:54:33 -->
00:54:35
The rich according to his means. If you
00:54:35 -->
00:54:36
are well off,
00:54:36 -->
00:54:38
according to your means.
00:54:40 -->
00:54:42
And if you are poor, also according to
00:54:43 -->
00:54:45
your means, according to your ability.
00:54:48 -->
00:54:49
A reasonable compensation
00:54:50 -->
00:54:52
is an obligation on the good doers.
00:54:52 -->
00:54:53
So now
00:54:56 -->
00:54:56
this
00:54:57 -->
00:54:59
talks that that if you divorce
00:54:59 -->
00:55:00
before
00:55:01 -->
00:55:01
the consummation
00:55:02 -->
00:55:03
and you did not specify
00:55:04 -->
00:55:04
the previous
00:55:05 -->
00:55:06
2
00:55:06 -->
00:55:07
137,
00:55:07 -->
00:55:08
you already
00:55:09 -->
00:55:09
specified.
00:55:10 -->
00:55:12
So here, you didn't specify,
00:55:12 -->
00:55:15
so there's no for her. No except
00:55:16 -->
00:55:18
that you give her something
00:55:19 -->
00:55:21
as a gift as a gift.
00:55:26 -->
00:55:27
Now the third scenario,
00:55:33 -->
00:55:35
he divorced her
00:55:35 -->
00:55:36
before the consummation,
00:55:39 -->
00:55:39
but
00:55:41 -->
00:55:41
halwa
00:55:43 -->
00:55:43
happened.
00:55:45 -->
00:55:47
They were alone by themselves.
00:55:48 -->
00:55:49
They closed the door.
00:55:52 -->
00:55:52
Wetlock is high.
00:55:53 -->
00:55:56
So he sat alone with his wife.
00:55:57 -->
00:55:58
Door is closed.
00:55:59 -->
00:56:01
All curtains are lowered.
00:56:05 -->
00:56:06
So maybe he touched
00:56:06 -->
00:56:08
her, kissed her,
00:56:12 -->
00:56:13
in this case
00:56:14 -->
00:56:15
and then he divorced
00:56:16 -->
00:56:17
her. In this case,
00:56:18 -->
00:56:20
he deserves the full Mahal.
00:56:21 -->
00:56:23
The Mahal fully.
00:56:24 -->
00:56:25
The has
00:56:26 -->
00:56:27
to be paid fully,
00:56:27 -->
00:56:28
and
00:56:29 -->
00:56:31
she has to go through the
00:56:32 -->
00:56:33
waiting period.
00:56:38 -->
00:56:39
Of course, this issue
00:56:40 -->
00:56:40
is controversial
00:56:41 -->
00:56:42
between the
00:56:47 -->
00:56:50
Fuqaha, school, Hanafi school, and the Maliki,
00:56:51 -->
00:56:54
they hold this this what they are saying.
00:56:55 -->
00:56:56
Imam Shabiri
00:56:57 -->
00:56:58
in his new mad hub,
00:57:00 -->
00:57:02
he doesn't consider
00:57:02 -->
00:57:03
this privacy
00:57:06 -->
00:57:07
like the confirmation.
00:57:08 -->
00:57:11
Though before in the old Mahat,
00:57:11 -->
00:57:12
he used to
00:57:13 -->
00:57:14
say like the rest.
00:57:15 -->
00:57:17
But the strongest opinion
00:57:19 -->
00:57:19
that
00:57:20 -->
00:57:21
if happened,
00:57:22 -->
00:57:23
doors are closed,
00:57:24 -->
00:57:25
then she
00:57:25 -->
00:57:26
deserves
00:57:29 -->
00:57:30
the totally,
00:57:32 -->
00:57:33
and she has to go through
00:57:34 -->
00:57:36
the waiting period.
00:57:41 -->
00:57:42
Now, also,
00:57:46 -->
00:57:48
if no halua happened,
00:57:52 -->
00:57:53
and no consummation,
00:57:55 -->
00:57:57
then in that case, there is no
00:57:57 -->
00:57:58
waiting period
00:57:59 -->
00:58:00
for the
00:58:01 -->
00:58:02
because the we
00:58:03 -->
00:58:03
have
00:58:04 -->
00:58:05
because of
00:58:06 -->
00:58:06
waiting period
00:58:07 -->
00:58:08
because of divorce,
00:58:08 -->
00:58:11
and waiting period because of
00:58:11 -->
00:58:12
death.
00:58:15 -->
00:58:17
The waiting period for doctor for
00:58:20 -->
00:58:22
women who gets her,
00:58:23 -->
00:58:25
menstrual cycles,
00:58:26 -->
00:58:28
there are 3 menstrual cycles.
00:58:29 -->
00:58:31
If she reach mother pose,
00:58:31 -->
00:58:32
then 3 months.
00:58:35 -->
00:58:39
But the waiting period for death for months
00:58:39 -->
00:58:40
and 10 nights.
00:58:43 -->
00:58:44
Now
00:58:45 -->
00:58:45
a man
00:58:47 -->
00:58:48
signed the red law.
00:58:53 -->
00:58:54
And before the consummation
00:58:58 -->
00:59:00
before the consummation,
00:59:09 -->
00:59:10
He died.
00:59:14 -->
00:59:16
Then he devotes her, and he die.
00:59:22 -->
00:59:24
And this is what is
00:59:29 -->
00:59:31
known as the.
00:59:37 -->
00:59:38
So if
00:59:40 -->
00:59:42
he divorced her before the consummation
00:59:42 -->
00:59:43
and,
00:59:45 -->
00:59:47
there's no waiting period.
00:59:49 -->
00:59:50
But if it is,
00:59:52 -->
00:59:53
But if it is death,
00:59:54 -->
00:59:55
he needs to go through
00:59:56 -->
00:59:56
the.
00:59:58 -->
01:00:00
The 4 months 10
01:00:01 -->
01:00:01
days.
01:00:13 -->
01:00:14
So here, the scenario
01:00:15 -->
01:00:16
that
01:00:16 -->
01:00:17
he divorced her
01:00:19 -->
01:00:20
before the consummation,
01:00:20 -->
01:00:22
but there is halwa happened.
01:00:22 -->
01:00:23
In this case,
01:00:24 -->
01:00:24
she deserves
01:00:26 -->
01:00:27
the whole the
01:00:29 -->
01:00:30
whole of it, and
01:00:35 -->
01:00:36
she has to go through the.
01:00:38 -->
01:00:39
So Allah says,
01:00:42 -->
01:00:43
insurances, I have
01:00:44 -->
01:00:45
49.
01:01:09 -->
01:01:10
All believers,
01:01:11 -->
01:01:13
if you marry believing woman
01:01:13 -->
01:01:15
and then divorce them before
01:01:16 -->
01:01:17
you touch them
01:01:18 -->
01:01:19
before you touch them.
01:01:20 -->
01:01:22
They will have no waiting period for you
01:01:22 -->
01:01:22
to count.
01:01:24 -->
01:01:26
So give them a suitable compensation
01:01:27 -->
01:01:29
and let them go graciously.
01:01:30 -->
01:01:31
So here,
01:01:31 -->
01:01:32
Allah's saying,
01:01:33 -->
01:01:35
that you're living in Amalu or you believe,
01:01:35 -->
01:01:37
is that the customer will
01:01:38 -->
01:01:38
not.
01:01:39 -->
01:01:40
When you marry,
01:01:41 -->
01:01:42
you live in,
01:01:43 -->
01:01:43
women,
01:01:48 -->
01:01:50
So you divorce them before the confirmation.
01:01:52 -->
01:01:53
So before confirmation
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and before.
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The
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are very important.
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So no
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no consummation,
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then Allah says
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Then
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so if you divorce them
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before the consummation,
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before you touch them, they will have no
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waiting period for you to come,
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which means what?
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A man
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shine the red light
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to a woman,
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the needy voter,
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before having
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the consummation
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and.
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In this case,
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there's no hijab for her. She can't get
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married the 2nd day
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2nd day.
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But if happened,
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then she has to go through the.
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This is very important you have to keep
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in mind.
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Then Allah said,
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So give them a suitable compensation
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and let them go graciously.
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Remember,
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now he
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married her
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and consummation
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happened.
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We recap. Okay?
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Consummation
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happened.
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Then
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she has to go through the,
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and
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he will not pay him any single penny,
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or the Mahal is.
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Is hard.
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Second scenario.
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He
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married her, no consummation,
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and he specifies
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the Maha.
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Then he divorce,
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he deserves
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half of it.
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Unless
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or until
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he forgives him
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or he decides to leave the, all of
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it for her.
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Thirdly,
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he divorced her before the confirmation, but hallowed
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happened.
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In this case, she deserves the whole
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all
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the
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the
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fully
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is hard because of the,
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and she has to go through the,
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the waiting period.
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Finally,
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how about the gifts
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that he gave?
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K.
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Some husbands,
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when they
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after signing the wedlock,
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they give their wives gifts.
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And then he divorced her before the consummation.
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And not how it happened.
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It's he. Does he have the right to
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ask to give him
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back what the gift that he gave her?
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They differed on this issue.
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They said,
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if he decided
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to terminate
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the the marriage,
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then he has no right,
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because this is a was given as a
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gift
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as a gift.
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Unless it is known in the community,
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the earth, the gnome in that community,
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that whatever the husband gives
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is considered to be part
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of the Mahab,
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part of the Mahab.
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Like in some
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countries,
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Arab countries,
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the earth in that country
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that this gift considered to be part of
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the.
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So if it is part of the,
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then
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it will be treated like the.
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If it is
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after
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the
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consummation,
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nothing.
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Before the consummation
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and no privacy,
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then half of the gifts will be given
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back
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to him
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giving back back to him.
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If the earth consider these are gifts
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and not part
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of the,
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then he's not entitled, and he has no
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right to ask for,
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to take back the gifts and the law
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knows best.
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So this is, my dear sisters
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and dear brothers,
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what
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Islam
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has given women.
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The
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these financial
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rights.
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May Allah
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strengthen the marital ties and marital
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relationships among all couples,
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all Muslim families. May Allah strengthen
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their marital relationship,
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and may Allah make their managers happy
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and fruitful,
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and may Allah still love in their hearts
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for each other. May
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Allah
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keep us to remain steadfast on this beautiful
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deen al Islam
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till we meet Allah
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and he is pleased with all of us.
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May Allah forgive us our faults, mistakes, and
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ignorance.
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And may Allah
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unite
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our all of you, my dear brothers and
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sisters
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immensely
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for your patience and attendance.
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Brothers and sisters, we'll start now the question
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and answers. Please
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send in your questions if you have not
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sent them already, and we will address them
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as soon as possible.
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We have received some questions. We will start
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with those.
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Okay. The first question.
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What about the gifts other than Mahar, which
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has given
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but
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which was given by the man or the
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family? In the case of Talaq or
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Hula, do women have to return those gifts?
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Yes. I think I explained.
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It depends on the norm and the community.
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It is considered
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part of the or not. And when that
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comes to the, it is here, the man
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has the upper hand.
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He dictates what he wants.
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So if he says, I want the gifts,
