Salah Mahmoud – Jumaah Khutbah Art of overlooking trivial things
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The Surah of Optimism is a trap that convenientizes both children and the grandparents. Subhan Curtis's advice is to not cause division between children and to focus on small details. He emphasizes the importance of not criticizing small things and not giving too much information to avoid mistakes. The art of overlooking small things is also discussed, including family time and relationships. It is important to avoid giving up on one's past mistakes and to focus on small things rather than constantly rethinking them.
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Brothers and sisters,
today inshallah, we're going to continue the lecture
series that I started in this blessed masjid
about the surah of optimism.
It has been a long time since I
give Khuba here.
But alhamdulillah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given
me the opportunity and the chance to see
this this bright faces, alhamdulillah, rabaalamin, one more
time.
To talk about and to continue our discussion
on the serum of optimism.
And as we agreed before, whenever you hear
the serum the the word the surah of
optimism,
the very first thing that will come to
your mind that should come to your mind
is Surah Yousuf.
Surah of optimism as the ulama named it
and called it. And the reason why Allah
subhanahu the ulama named
it the Surah of Optimism because it started
with a big tragedy.
Right? And then it ended with victory. So
whenever you're down in your life, then always
always get back to Surah Yusuf. You will
find the happiness and the joy in the
Surah. So to quickly recap what we spoke
before about brothers and sisters, we said from
the very beginning when Yusuf alayhi salam, a
young child, he had a conversation with his
father about the dream that he he used
to see a lot. Right? And subhanAllah, we
said that the lesson we learned from here
is that your child must or should be
comfortable sharing his everyday issue with you.
Right? And as a parent, what you should
be doing, you should always listen to your
child and give them the guidelines and guide
them throughout the whole entire life. This is
your role as a parent. Right? And then
we moved forward and we said, do not
cause divisions between your children. Yaqub alayhis salab
says,
Your siblings are not going to harm you
because they're bad, but because shaitan is bad.
Do not cause divisions and hatred between your
children
with your own hands. SubhanAllah.
Moving forward brothers and sisters,
when
they decided to get rid of Yusuf alaihis
salam,
we asked ourselves question.
Before we we get to this point, they
said we're going to kill Yusuf or throw
him in the well.
And this is the trap of shaitan. Shaitan
tells you and, you know, she puts this
in your mind and, you know, tell you
to do something, tells you to do something
bad
with the intention of making tawba after that.
I will commit this sin but after that
I will repent. I will go to the
masjid and pray and the law of Ghafur
Rahim. This is the trick of shaitan brothers
and sisters. Because again, you never know when
the time will come. So be careful and
be aware of shaitan. This is how he
gets you to commit the sin. We moved
forward and we said that why did Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala allow this to happen to
Yusuf?
Why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is allowing the
evil to happen in the world? Why there
is so much murder and the blood and
destruction in
equal? What about all of these things in
the world? SubhanAllah.
Why did Allah allow this to happen? We
said, subhanAllah,
this is very old question that the angels
ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And they said,
when he told them he was going to
create Adam,
he told them
They said, how come you are creating? Why
would you create
someone
who cause corruption on earth?
They were not objecting or anything. Just curiosity.
They wanted to know.
Right? He said,
all the question. We said, if you are
claiming to be a free free person, free
human being,
then there has to be evil in the
world. SubhanAllah. Otherwise, where is the choice here?
Where is the balance?
Imagine Allah
created us and there is only khair in
the world. Then do you actually have a
choice to commit something
different? No. The answer is no. It's only
khair. Nothing else. SubhanAllah.
And we also said that one of the
reasons could be because the the khair
stems you from evil sometimes.
You ask why there there are a lot
of earthquakes in the world, then we ask,
the scientist, they tell us there are a
lot of also that keeps the balance on
earth. Subhanallah.
What about the wars that children getting, you
know, dying everyday? We're seeing that subhanallah
most of the inventions
happened during World War 1 and 2. Subhanallah.
So there is always
behind the test and the trial. And eventually
we said this is the nature of this
dunya. We move forward.
They decided to throw Yusuf
in the will. And subhanAllah,
their father,
he realized that there is something not good
happening. And then he said, Fassabrulun
Jameel, I know there is something fishy happening
here.
However,
He said,
and that was my last talk.
My last Khudba, we talked about the patience.
SubhanAllah.
It's a topic we hear all the time
that sometimes you don't want to hear no
more. But subhanAllah, we discussed it from a
different angle, from different angle. Why do we
have to be patient? What is the benefit
of have impatience in this world?
We said brothers and sisters, there are 2
different types of patients. It's not only that
to be sabr on the trial or on
test, but also to come to the masjid
now and to listen to the khatib, giving
a talk for 30 minutes, requires a lot
of patience.
Right? To abstain away from haram, especially if
you're a youngster. To to stay away from
something haram requires a lot of patience.
That's why patience is very important. And then
eventually, as we said, that life is a
place of test. It's not Jannah brothers and
sisters. Atheists and whoever doesn't have faith in
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, they want it to
be Jannah. I do not consider. I do
not think there would be any other thing
after that. I need everything good this in
this dunya. When something bad hits them, when
calamity hits, they don't
accept it. They reject Allah Why? Because they're
expecting it to be Jannah. But Allah
was very straightforward from day 1. From the
very beginning he said, it's not going to
be Jannah.
We're going to filter you. Jannah is right
there. It's after that.
So brothers and sisters, life
is basically like a novel that has 2
chapters. This is the first chapter. The second
one is coming and this is the hereafter.
Moving forward brothers and sisters, and
Yusuf alaihis salam was thrown in the well.
His father realized what happened.
Or he claimed
that his brothers or siblings were innocent.
Or Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala hid this from
him.
They throw him in the well. They came
back with a shirt, has blood, but there
is no sign of wolf or anything. SubhanAllah.
There's nothing. Nothing. Still it's like full shirt,
has blood. And you're telling me that the
wolf ate Yusuf. How come? How come this
is possible?
Right?
They say that criminals always leave something
behind them. Right? This is how they, you
know, determine
if if if somebody did something
wrong. So they threw him in the well.
Caravan found Yusuf alaihis salam.
He was
invited
to live the rest of his life in
the house of Aziz Masr, the prime minister
of Egypt at
that time.
Waqalatim ra'atul Aziz. And we know the story
what happened, the the whole seduction,
seducing part between him and the martel Aziz.
And this is going to be, insha Allah,
another topic.
But there is one particular ayah that I'm
going to stop inshallah and pause and reflect
with you in this ayah. Allah
told us what happened between Yusuf
and the lady,
the wife of the prime minister of Egypt.
Have ever
Allah did he ever mention the name of
the the wife of the Martel Aziz?
Did he ever mention her name anywhere in
the Quran? The answer is no. It is
very important incident. How come Allah did
not mention the wife the name of the
wife of Umar al Azzie, the prime minister
of Egypt? The question that we can ask.
Right? Why didn't he say, and that woman,
her name so and so, she tried to
seduce Yusuf and he ran away. He didn't
mention that. And the answer, brothers and sisters,
and this is the third part of what
we call the spiritual
prescription if you want to live a healthy,
happy life.
Number 1, to know the answer to the
question why Allah
created evil. Number 2, to know the value
of sabr. And today, brothers and sisters, the
the third element. If you really truly want
to live a happy, healthy life, and you
want to live without any heart disease and
all of these psychological issues,
please learn from today's khutba. It's very important.
Why didn't Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mention her
name?
Because there is an art, brothers and sisters,
and there is khuluq.
A quality that if you master in your
life very well, you're going to be happy
healthy person.
In Arabic it's called
It's the art of overlooking
little things in your life.
That's why
Allah didn't mention her name. One of the
reasons that ulama say didn't mention her name
because of satan. He wanted to cover up,
of course. And the other thing is that
it's not important.
It's not important. Don't pause right there and
say, why did
Allah didn't why didn't Allah mention her name?
It's not important. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is
teaching us a very important,
very good listening here.
Move on with your life. Do not pause.
Do not over all always overlook
things that happen in your life. Brothers and
sisters, because of this we focus in every
little tiny details in our life, whether it
is important or not important.
Subhanallah. We're having a lot of issues. Right?
We're crying in the whole problems in the
world on our shoulders. Why? Because we focus.
He did, she did, he did not. He
told me, Subhanallah,
a brother he passed by and he didn't
salamu alaikum.
He hates me. He doesn't like me. Why
he's treating me
me like this? Yahi move on. Maybe he
did not see you. Right?
This is the art. That's why we call
it It's an art brothers and sisters. It's
If you are really smart
If you are really smart person, let small
things pass.
Overlook them from your wife, and we're gonna
talk about this inshallah further. From your children,
sometimes you just act as if you did
not see what happened. Not because you're passive,
not because you're negative, not because
you cannot change a fact or what's happening,
not because you're a smart person. You are
a generous person, brothers brothers and sisters. This
is the art of overlooking. He did not
mention her name because it's not important. And
looking. He did not mention her name because
it's not important.
And how many insignificant things in our Ummah
nowadays that we pay attention to and we
focus on, subhanAllah.
We will get back to Yusuf alaihis salam,
but after we go to our prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Do we have any story
in Quran? Any example in which the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam mastered this art of overlooking
little things?
Yes.
Beautiful story from Surat Tahrim. And that shows
us in very in a very interesting way,
the human side of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam and his household. He never claimed to
be an angel. SubhanAllah.
So according to the mufasreen,
they said one time the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam,
he told one of his wives, a sayida
Safiyyah a secret.
He told her, according to some mufasreen,
that Abu Bakr Siddiq is going to be
Khalifa after the prophet
passed away.
And he told her, do not tell anybody.
Right? And of course, we know how hard
it is for our sister sometimes to keep
you know, I'm not offended, of course, to
keep keep secrets. Sometimes it's hard. This is
nature. Right? But SubhanAllah,
immediately after she heard that from the prophet
she went to her best friend, Asaydah Isha
And she said,
the prophet told me that your father is
going to be Khalifa after that. He's going
to be a successor after that. SubhanAllah.
Her best friend was Sayeda Aisha. So Jibril
informed the prophet
of the whole entire
conversation.
So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
met with Sayeda Safiyyah again
smiling, of course.
And he's like,
I need to talk to you.
Did you meet with Sayeda Aisha?
Yes.
Did you tell her so and so and
so and so?
Yes. How did you know?
She even thought that Sayeda Aisha told the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
Subhanallah.
Did you tell Sayeda did you tell isha
so and so and so? He said, yes.
So Allah
said something very important here. He said,
He informed her of some of the stuff
or some of the things they shared in
the conversation.
And he overlooked
some.
He didn't say, you said that. Yes. And
you said that. Yes. And you said that.
SubhanAllah.
What did the prophet
did here brothers do here brothers and sisters?
The prophet
focus on the most important part in the
conversation. He told her so and so and
so. But what about the other, the rest
of the conversation? It's not important. So move
on.
Overlook this. Overlook it and just move on.
It's not important. Why would I stop and
pause? But what we do nowadays, subhan
we pause in every single little tiny details
in our life, especially between husband and wife.
SubhanAllah.
Why are you doing this? SubhanAllah. Some brothers
and we we hear this complain from the
sisters all the time. When they as soon
as they step in the house, they're like
police, subhanAllah. They're like FBI, subhanAllah.
Wallahi.
They want to know who turned the light
on, who turned the light off, why the
fridge is open. There was food over here.
There was this. And the students and the
kids, subhanAllah,
they feel like their life life is jahim
al aazubillah. That they don't like the father
to come to the house. Subhanallah. Why? Because
the father is focusing is picking on them.
You're focusing every little tiny thing. I'm a
high school teacher myself and I know there
are yeses. There are troublemaker in the class.
I know that. Sometimes I pick on them.
Yes.
To tell them that you're doing something wrong.
But a lot of times I overlook. I
know she or he is doing something wrong,
but I overlook this because for the future,
it's going to be better.
Because children do not like when you pick
on them all the time. Yes. You know
they're doing something wrong. Brothers and sisters, here,
where is the balance? Are you, you imam,
are you telling us to be passive and
not to correct? If something wrong in the
masjid or in the house, I should not
be correcting. I'm not saying that. I'm saying
be generous and know that human beings, they
slip and they make mistakes. Look be like
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam or prophet Yusuf
alaihi wasallam.
Right? Ignore little things because they're not important.
My dear sister, ignore little things in your
in your husband's, you know, life. Do not
ask him every single moment, where are you
going? Whom did you meet? And we know
that as men usually, we don't like to
be asked this question all the time. Right?
Why? Because you feel like you are you
are not free man.
Right? And this is the nature from the
nature of men that we always tell our
sisters, yes, it is your right to know
who your husband is, but sometimes you might
need to skip this or just overlook this.
Why?
Because life will go on.
Your life is not going to be in
jail. Subhan If that's why brothers and sisters
say it's it's a fun. SubhanAllah.
Umair Abdul Aziz radiAllahu anhu one time.
He went to the masjid at night
and there was someone sleeping. He did not
see him. So he just kinda tripped in
his body.
And that
person. So that person, that man, he looked
and he didn't know he was Amir al
mumineen,
Omar Abdul Abdul Aziz.
And he said,
Are you crazy?
Like, you know, you didn't see me. Are
you crazy? Omar Abdul Aziz Khalifa.
He's the leader. Imagine the ruler. He said,
no, I'm not.
There was a bodyguard with Omar Abdul Aziz.
And subhanallah, the bodyguard wanted to, you know,
harm the man. Omar Omar Abdul Aziz say,
leave him alone. He asked if I was
crazy and they said, no, I'm not.
And move on.
Did Omar Abdul Aziz lose anything in this
situation?
He did not. Matter of fact, he gained
the respect of the man, man, the respect
of the bodyguard or the soldier, and the
respect from Allah
and the reward from Allah
Yes, brothers and sisters.
When they are addressed,
approached by al jahilun, the ignorance and there
are a lot of jahilun in the world.
Uneducated.
When they are they are they are harming
you, they are attacking you, avoid them. Say
Say salaam. It's not important. I am not
going to talk to you.
This is the art of overlooking brothers and
sisters. There is another situation insha Allah at
the end of surat. It's the end of
surat, Yusuf. It's coming, we'll talk about it.
But I'll share with you inshallah as
well. Yusuf alaihis salam,
when the whole family were united, when they
came together at the end of the story
and he told them what happened to him
in jail and all of these things. SubhanAllah.
Yusuf alaihis salam,
he did not believe them.
Right?
He said,
Allah was was great.
Was carrying with
me because he helped me to ski to
to get out of jail.
And we're all together now. And then he
said,
After shaitan did
what he did.
After shaitan divided
us.
SubhanAllah.
Imagine you are in this situation and your
brothers,
they harmed you that much and now it's
time for you at least
to blame them. Even Yusuf alaihis salam is
not believing them. Why do you think he
did not blame them and say, after you
guys threw me in the well, after you
guys ruined my life, after you guys did
all of this to me, and the harm
that you did to me and to your
father. He didn't do that. Why? It's not
important.
What is more important now is the quality
family time that we're having right now. SubhanAllah.
Didn't I tell you it's an art?
It's a skill
that you need to know when and how
to use it.
Brothers and sisters, we're talking about the art
or the skill of overlooking little things in
your life. Again, I know some brothers and
sisters here might have this in their mind
right now. Might think that the imam still
has to be passive and not to correct.
If my child is doing something wrong, I
should not correct him or, you know,
the wife should not tell her husband anything.
I'm not saying this. Communication has always to
be there. Always. If something needs to be,
cleared, please do this. But if something that
you think it is not important right now
or maybe this is not the time, please
move on with your life. I have
read about
couple, you know a couple, husband wife. They
were fighting
over a furniture,
a furniture that they were going to buy
for a house that they were going to
purchase in 5 years from now. Allahu Akbar.
Allahu Akbar. Akhi, choose your battle.
Brothers and sisters,
choose your battles.
If this is not the right time for
this argument, do not argue. If something in
the future, why would you bother yourself today?
Allah
has given you 24 hours, only today. But
the problem is, we waste 20 hours or
12 hours
regarding things we've done in the past. What
about the next to 12 hours? Subhanallah. We
worry ourselves about the future and this is
what happens.
Where is the balance here brothers and sisters?
The balance is that when can I overlook
things for my wife or for my husband?
I will give you some
some things,
criteria,
and everyone is different. If you think that
you can do these things,
overlook
and seek the word from Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Number 1,
overlook
a problem or an issue
if you think there is no way that
it will
change. Something it's a habit
that your wife or your husband
or your child is having. It's a habit.
Like, for example, your child
laughs with a very loud voice.
Sometimes kids cannot control.
It's hard no matter how I say it.
Lower your voice.
Right? No matter how much you tell him
this, it's not going to change.
So rather than every time picking on him
and he's like, I told you a 1000000
times, you're still laughing out loud.
Right? Or he's speaking a certain way, you
cannot correct that. If something cannot be changed,
then overlook it. Don't pause.
Move on.
That's the first thing.
Number 2, if something that you can bear,
which means what? Which means,
yes. I don't like when someone eats next
to me in that way, and they make,
you know, sounds and and stuff, but I
can take it. It's fine. I can let
it go. They let it go.
Right? Let it go.
So if something cannot be changed, let it
go.
If something that you can bear yourself,
let it go.
And finally, if something
rarely happens, it doesn't happen. Your child is
always good. But sometimes he does this. Your
wife is always good. Your husband is always
good. But sometimes this happen. Overlook these things.
If they really happen brothers and sisters.
Right?
Do not overlook something.
If it's, if if the Haqq of people
is going to be wasted here.
If there is Haqq and you're able to
change it, you are able to bring it
back to the, you know, to
the the the one who owns the Haqq,
do not overlook here. It should not be
passive. If something needs to be changed in
the community, in the masjid, do not be
passive and say, the imam told us not
overlook. No. We're not overlooking everything. We're only
overlooking things that are not important. Or maybe
they're not important right now but in the
future they will be important.
Right? This is what I'm talking about brothers
and sisters. If there is monk or something
needs to be changed because it's a haram.
Do not overlook look this thing.
Right?
Do not overlook calling people to the path
of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. But anything else
you can overlook. If someone didn't say salamu
alaykum to you, you can overlook that. If
someone didn't comment to you and post in
Facebook, you can overlook that. It's not important.
Right? This is these are the things that
we call
And my Arab brothers here will understand this.
They're laughing
now. It means
if you let things go,
your life will be fresh all the time.
Try this article brothers and sisters.
I will
finish and conclude
with the saying, good statement, beautiful statement from
Ibn Al Qaym Al Jawziyah
when he said,
one of the best qualities
of generous people overlooking.
Human being
were created
to slip and to make mistakes.
If you focus on every single little
thing, you will be tired.
You will have heart disease.
You will always have high blood pressure.
Right?
And also people would not like to be
in your company because you focus too much.
You look like that. You're doing this. You're
doing that. People don't like that brothers and
sisters. People are free. They don't like somebody
to please them all the time. SubhanAllah.
And then he says,
do this overlook everything with your family, with
your your people, with the society, with the
Arrahman, Abadurrahmanu
wathama.
May Allah
perfect our manners and our may Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala accept all our deeds.
Like
war. A long
like war.
A long wackopper.
A long
wackopper.
A
long.