Sajid Ahmed Umar – Seerah S01 E09 Part A – A Beautiful Bond – Hisﷺ Marriage
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The Sharia and importance of self-study and learning from experiences are discussed in the loss of time and energy during the last 10 weeks of the year. The importance of marriage as a sign of loss and finding the right person for a marriage is also emphasized. The conversation touches on the historical backstory of Khadija and the emotional and political back stories of her marriage, as well as the importance of being sensitive to women and being a universal witness. The speakers also discuss the importance of financial independence and trustworthiness in the workplace, as well as the best practices in the workplace.
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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
are Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah.
Very
much.
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My dear brothers and sisters in Islam both here in the Melbourne Medina and those joining us from the comfort of their homes. Salaam Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. With the Peace and blessings of Allah Subhana Allah be upon you all, all places belong to Allah subhanho wa Taala always, and we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala especially, because
tomorrow night
marks the first night of the last 10 nights of human performance.
We thank Allah subhanahu Allah praise him for bringing us thus far in this blessing months. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to give us greater health and greater energies and greater diligence for the last 10 that remain. This is the time brothers and sisters where you bring your death tables, you have to bring it bring your aka, right, it's the last 10 nights the greatest nights of the entire year. And in one of these 10 nights is the greatest night in the entire year, and especially the loss of the lover and he was sending towards us it is during one of the last 10 nights of Ramadan. Right. It's during one of the last 10 nights of Ramadan. So this is where you bring it.
This is where you stop trying. You know when you say I've been trying to eat.
I've been trying to do this. I've been trying to do that. This is where I tell you stop trying. This is where you just do it. You just do it. You stop trying and you just do it. This is this is the time there was ever a time you had to just do it by hook or by crook you want to say by crook because it's not likely.
We keep these held. But we say if there was if there was ever a time when you need to just do it it's not consistent. So put your trust in Allah subhanho data and be ready to give it your all if you can take time off work. Take time of what this is the time when a Muslim takes time off work not only for holidays, but I'm amazed by the Muslims who take time off work for holidays but forgets to take time off work for the month of Ramadan forgets that they should freed themselves for the last 10 nights during the nights off. During the month of Ramadan. I'm amazed by this person. Sometimes I meet people and say have you taken time off? See I've used up my days but don't use up your days.
Did you not know every year you have 10 nights, the greatest nights
in the cost of the whole year. It's not as if it comes unannounced. It's not as if it is announced during some years and not during the years. Every year I just don't have an idea.
Right. So this is the time if you can take time off work take time off work, this is the time to eat less
eat some people call do eat Mashallah. Right which will come and you can eat them. This is the time to eat less. So you sleep less at nighttime, right? They obviously we're not eating, you don't want to fill your bellies during a star. So if you do that, it's going to trouble you throughout the night and you need your energies during these nights. I wish I could talk to you about this more but we have a lot to get through today. I'm just announcing to the referee today. There will be extra time inshallah so please be ready for it. Please inform your linesman and inshallah we will dedicate the hotbar tomorrow
during the
proceedings dedicated to this topic of later to other
brothers and sisters yesterday. Well firstly, I welcome you all to our ninth is our ninth episode. who's counting 9/9 episode of the series a blast from the past zero the 21st century's panela days are flying and my time is running out I just realized I have I think eight more slots. So Pamela eight more slots. So the for them and there's so much left to do. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant us Baraka in our time yesterday. We will
Just one lesson where it was a mighty lesson, especially in this day and age. Today, we only going to take one lesson as well. I wanted to take more than one lesson, I need to take more than one lesson. But we can only take one lesson. How many benefits there are from this one incident in the life of Allah salallahu alayhi wasallam but before I tell you that incident, yesterday, very quickly, very quickly, we discuss
and we took on many benefits, who went home yesterday and did their homework and benchmark themselves against some of the lessons that were said especially especially the points pertaining to towards being just in speech in action. Mashallah, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala except from Allah subhanho wa Taala except from you, you watched via the live stream live stream yesterday. You see I saw your faces without you know, who's here. And who's not here, Masha Allah, Allah, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah accept from you this concept of
benchmarking yourself against
that which is ideal, is part and parcel of the Sharia, where we take account of ourselves before Allah subhanho wa Taala takes account of us just one headed brothers and sisters that I forgot to mention yesterday, which related directly to
the last matters we discussed yesterday. The matters of supporting good that Mr. Schary are considered sacred, even if not Muslims do Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in happiness in Allah.
Pay attention.
Open both ears right now.
In I have been nursing in a law firm the most beloved to Allah. We want to be from the most beloved to Allah. Do you want to know who are the most beloved to Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and
last Lucha Allah, from the most beloved people to Allah are those who are of great benefit to the people, people, not just Muslims, to the people.
Never forget this hadith My dear brothers and sisters.
This is what breeds within us a desire to ascertain the quality of selflessness, which was a quality manifest a great buy. The idea was selflessness, not selfishness, selling fish was never good for you.
Unless you were selling it for more than one pound. Do you remember the one conversation? Now you guys are down on?
That's a story the British the British can tell you each other about
being selfish was never a trade taught to us by the mother son.
Know the giants that work the face of this earth that you and I try and walk upon the chambers was never taught to us by them. No, ever was it a trade from amongst their traits. They were self listed. We spoke about this yesterday. This heavy I really wanted to share with you We also learned the importance of Turkey and looking after our to heat. Right. And when we take an oath we only swear by Allah away. It was a footnote. It was a mighty footnote because it pertains to our Athena Ed. And we spoke about the grave mistake of those who say touchwood and Fingers crossed. Today brothers and sisters, we want to discuss the marriage of the best person who walked the face as to
the best female, the best female from the females
has
and that is the marriage of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Hi,
Ravi Allahu Allah. And this incident is well known.
So
this incident brothers and sisters and events is an inspiration to the Muslim, especially the Muslim female and the non Muslim, female
and a spouse, both husband and wife. It's inspiration. This epitomise is what a marriage should be. This epitomise is
the institution of marriage and makes manifest. How indeed marriage is a sign from the signs of a loss kind of a sign that Allah subhanho
data exists, and I mean it.
And you will see why as we traverse through today's session with our mother.
Boyd was a noble and determined, intelligent.
I told you inspiration. She was inspirational and inspirational to the Muslim female and then understand female. Let's say that again. And these are just a few adjectives describing she was determined, intelligent, noble, and elegance. Robbie Allah who she enjoyed a partial lineage, not just any lineage, a partial lineage, a lineage recognized as posh and excellent by the age. And Allah blessed her with material wellbeing and financial standards. She was rich, and not just rich, she was said to be from amongst the richest alive at that time, love a female, a female. So Pamela, she was an entrepreneur, she Well, she had a business. And what did she do, she preserved her
modesty.
She would hire males. And she would give them some of her wealth and let them go and trade with her
share of the profits, a percentage of the profits, right to do them a percentage of the profits.
This is what you would do without the
use read 30 jobs. And obviously this all before prophecy, news reached her of this amazing person admits the people of McAfee. His name was Mohammed, the son of Abdullah, his mother's name was the
US reached her of Muhammad Sallallahu Allah He wasn't. And I she had nothing but greatness about this person is about his manager, about his morals, about his etiquette, about his conduct, about his interest, about his intelligence in trade, about his belief in being financially independent. And we discussed this before, when we discussed how he was a shepherd for a portion of a gold coin, when he looked after the
person who valued financial independence. And he was a person who knew the value of a gold coin, not just a gold coin, but a portion of a gold coin. He knew what it was to earn. He knew what money meant. He knew the weight of money in the pocket of a person. He wasn't one who didn't have the ability to offer diligence with regards to his own wealth or somebody else's. Well, she heard amazing things about him. And this is not strange, for this is Humberto Abdullah sallallahu and he said he was amazing before prophet and even more amazing after prophet. So naturally, Ji
wanted to hire. Next, when you look for the best, this is what you do. You look for the best. She wanted to hire him for her to do trades on her behalf. So she sent someone with an offer to him and offered him work what you and I will
call today a job offer and maybe a JD and it is a job description. And we would also place the package how many of these you get, what percentage you get what's expected of you, and so on and so forth. Someone went to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam with this package, and he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was an intelligent person. He agreed. He agreed, right? He moved on. He was growing his skill sets Salalah and he was he was bettering his CV sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew that it's important to be well rounded, right? Many people, the majority, Hershey shepherds, I've done that. I've done that and I've acquired from right and now I have an opportunity to acquire as the
skill sets, understand other industries and so on and so forth. So naturally, naturally, are sort of
the sort of lasala who went out to trade with the money of deja vu. And her deja sent one of her slaves with him. His name was Mesa, his name was Mesa. Now don't get Don't forget that she already heard great things about him.
Nonetheless, she said Mesa with him. He was not because she didn't trust him. Allah knows best. But what I can deduce is perhaps you
To understand
how true what she heard, how true are the facts that she heard about us?
Right to authenticate, I've heard good things about him. Let me send someone to accompany him. Right, because during travel, you come up during trade, you come up, so perhaps Mesa can determine exactly how cheap the staples about this man is sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Mesa, obviously, Allahu alayhi wa sallam. He was who he was, he wasn't putting on a show, Mesa saw amazing things. He saw how trustworthy he was, how intelligent he was, he was how he was able to look after her finances. Right? And how he valued the money and kept account of itself.
There was no negligence, and there was no lack of due diligence. And not only this Mesa. So some of the amazing blessings that Allah subhanahu Allah gave to us. He was the man you know, right? The trees used to stretch in the shade restriction and cover Rasulullah sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, and so on and so forth. So this slave boy, he understood, he understood that this is amazing. There's something unique about this person. And this went and reported it to Khadija
from
the
testimonies that Mesa received that Mesa received, the battery comes from all of a sudden, the microphones picked up on volume
from the testimonies that Mesa received regarding
in Syria when they stopped in the city, in a city in Syria. And the monk witnessed the tree stretching, and the shade stretching and so on and so forth. testimony was received by Sarah from this month, and he too, went with us to Khadija radi Allahu Ahad right. In fact, this one says that no one stops under the shade of this tree, but a profit. So that we can we get from this that the demand you have a specific tree that was specific to profit or
loss of adequate spiders profit to stop there, and this is the testimony given. So in a nutshell Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam impressed, He impressed?
And as he impressed her reader of the Allahu anhu became depressed. And she decided that she wanted to marry the two of us have Allahu Allah he was. So she sent her friend Nafisa
many years to tell the prophets of Allah who he was
about 30 years desire to
get married.
And also lots of Allahu alayhi wa sallam vegan intelligent man agree sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And the marriage of Khadija Allah who
was arranged by her father who waded according to the most sound report and Allah Subhana Allah knows best reason I'm highlighting this is because most of the reports say her uncle, her uncle
Amara when I said, I'm sorry, but I said he was the one who conducted the proceedings. But the most sound report in Allah subhanho wa Taala knows best is that her father, who was Khadija Boyd way he was the one who took care of proceedings that
is, right of this. There's lessons that are going to come from this brothers and sisters. So try and hang on to every point that I say. Now Khadija was 40 years old at the time and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam was 15 years younger. How was he?
25 he was 25 years old. And Allah Subhana Allah knows best now a footnote for you all. Not only was Khadija Allah and her 40 years old, but she was married twice before she was married first to a man quote it
even eyes
and she was also married to a man after that known as Abu Hala even in the bash attorney.
She was married twice before the marriages didn't last. And even Kathy Rahim Allah is lb Daya sites that have
had children. And I'm citing this again because there's a lesson that you and I are going to take from this
Yamaha brothers and sisters, we heard how
Amazing she was before Islam and before marriage loss of Allahu Allah. She was also amazing, if not even more after marriage Rasulullah sallallahu Allah He was such that in our Sharia we have our Sharia has cited many merits of Khadija rhodiola from her merits is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best of the females is very important, the mother of Pisa and he said that Jesus peace and blessings be upon him. And he said, follow Allah. He was the best of females who studied.
linear time we asked, what should we name our daughters?
Maria, and Heidi, and Don't give me that argument. It's old fashioned.
Don't give me that. This is upon the tongue of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they are the best women to have
walked this earth. Right. This is where you and I give our daughters we are blessed with daughters, great role models to look up to,
and great lives to anticipate to emulate.
So this is from the merit of Hurry, she was the best of all females, and indeed she was the best. For in the Sierra, we find that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to talk so much about Khadija even of meaning especially after her demise after she passed away. There'll be Allah who so much so that his young wife
would become tense. And this is nature. This is nature. So I talked about this, you know, we have this this discussions about taking on a second wife, it's on it's open, your eyes become upset, don't be hard on them. It's also natural for them, to feel what they feel they possessive of their husbands. Right? You should acknowledge that our wives are possessive. So be sensitive. Be sensitive, right. And that's why it's good. To every time you I've done something Italia, you know, I got my second slot free stuff. This is not good. This emotional blackmail is not good. Right? This is emotional blackmail. And it's not good. You shouldn't do that. Because and sometimes you don't
have to be joking you joking You the man when he says
like a female? you joking? How do you know she's received it? You don't know how she's received it. Right? So you shouldn't do talk like that because it's natural that she's going to become affected negative in a negative way, because she's possessive of her husband.
And as I said, sensitive, the female say that right? was supposed to be sensitive the S word. Right? You need to be sensitive, right? Your brothers and sisters, so I shut up you would become upset. And she would say but she mean Khadija was an old woman was red eyes.
You see when when you get jealous what happens? This is the our mother ancient
history she's
she was an old woman with red eyes. It was enough if you said she was an old woman with red eyes.
And then he goes on to say, Allah compensated.
Look at these words, Allah convincingly compensated you with a better and younger feeling I shall, I shall.
And also the loss of a loved one.
This caused him to become upset salallahu alayhi wasallam. And he would say no, indeed, he has not compensated you with anyone better than her. This is this is when we just right? He's not saying it would shut down. He He's saying it as a fact and, and truth. Like Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to say I am. I am the head and the best of all of mankind. Well,
I'm not. I'm not saying it in an adequate way. I'm saying it as a fact. It's a god given fact, Allah has made me the best. There's a difference. There's a difference when somebody says it out of arrogance, and somebody stating a fact Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not putting a shadow of a doubt. Rather, he was stating a fact that no, she is the best. He said he was. She believed in me when all others disbelief. She helped me truthful when others called me a liar. She shouted me when others offended me. She comforted me when as is shown to me and Allah granted me children by her while depriving me of children by bla bla.
Bla.
Lesson, maybe sisters in the audience, the brothers are smiling, rather than saying oh Mashallah, this is the best lesson
Today what I've been trying to tell my wife, she's doing it for us. We'll come to you brothers just now inshallah
we'll come to you in JAMA, right? So look what he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam take note, take note My dear sisters, right? Take note of this. This is what she did. Robbie Allah who. And thus, Allahu Allah He was held in high regard why there's so many lessons flying through my head right now that I haven't listed. Allah, Allah. Allah make it easy.
She was one of the greatest supporters of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a supporter of his every endeavor, and every matter and I want you to pay attention to this point because I have a lesson from this. She was a supporter in every endeavor, and every matter
even when Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam decided to do good to his uncle about Olive and take one son from Abu Talib and bring him up.
And he was poor.
And he had a large family.
And he was good to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is on his feet.
And he wanted to help his uncle who was very old. So he took one of his children. What was the child's name? Ali Ravi Allahu Allah azza wa jal. And all this happened, I mean,
he wanted to take and she supported his taking off. She wasn't against it. She accepted it. And it had a home in the home of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And Khadija, Ravi Allahu Allah, He will be led what Allah we need a few hours with your brothers and sisters to discuss Khadija with Hawaii rhodiola who perhaps we are beyond the scope of this class, but perhaps one thing that we can say before we move on is the narration in Sahih Muslim
whereas philosophy where we are taught with an aeration where also Rasul Allah who teaches us a great marriage of Khadija,
when we are taught that
Allah Almighty Oda gibreel, Allah is the Greatest angel
to pass greetings to her deja vu.
Imagine that, imagine that jabril coming to Hamas and Allah Allah He will send and say Allah has hosta labs you know, I tell us hi Salaam from me as
La.
Yeah.
Yeah. Who are these people like Who are these people?
This is enough for us. This is enough for us to understand the merit of
Diyala one hi in this heavy in this heavy gibreel tells Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam O Muhammad Khadija is bringing you a bowl of food
Khadija is bringing you a bowl of food. This is a rough translation, when she comes to you tell her
that her Lord greets her and convey my greetings to convey my greetings to Pamela and inform her as well that Allah Almighty has prepared for her. A calm house made out of
Pamela look at this light given glad tidings
given
this house, this is the Messenger of Allah but from a from a human perspective we say she didn't you see what I mean? Look look like
he was an upset about how she was there for him all the ways. She made his
he made her husband's house a home so she was deserving of a house in paradise rhodiola horn had to say deserving obviously I want to make it clear we're saying it
in terms of me to you and and you listening to me otherwise nobody deserves anything as we discussed earlier everyone gets it because of Allah's mercy upon Allah, Allah is mercy upon us. I mean, I mean, you should ask Allah for mercy brothers and sisters, Abubakar once asked me he was an intern, I tell you this, he asked me for a to teach me to I wish I can read in Salah, teach me or prophet of Allah, a dua for me to read in Salah.
Think I told you this is one of the early episodes but for those who were not here, you'll hear it now. And for those who are here, this is a reminder. What did he say? Allah
When kathira Well, I have a land
war family, in the character of Rahim and eventually upon me, and have mercy upon me, this is the point you know, we're happy and have mercy upon me. Indeed you are the most forgiving, the Most Merciful. He was taught to ask Allah to shower.
indefinite, indefinite, right? in all of us. You ask Allah, to Allah, to shower all of us, he upon Allah shower all of mercy upon us, I mean, your enemy.
There are many lessons, my dear brothers and sisters, as always, that we can take from this incident, an event in the life of Allah salallahu alayhi wasallam. Firstly, the importance of financial independence. And we discussed this. Secondly, the importance of being trustworthy, my dear brothers and sisters being trustworthy. When you sign a contract, you honor that contract. When you are given a place in the workplace, you honor your position there, and the permission given to you to enter. You don't only work well, when there's a camera above your head, and you don't only be a person of punctuality, when there's a sign in time and sign out time or signing machine and sign
off machine president. You're a person who's on time, every time and if you leave you leave after time. And when you're at the workplace, you look after the rules and regulations of his workplace. If you're not allowed to check email you did not check in. If you're not allowed to browse the internet, you do not browse the internet. We learned this from Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you don't need to be monitored, physically for you to be diligent. The fact that you're a Muslim, should be the greatest, greatest conscience that makes you
be a diligent person in the workplace. The fact that you know that Allah is overseas, and that Allah is a rookie and that Allah is a Shahe. Allah is the old See, allies.
Forgive me I didn't mean to do those actions. We don't know how Allah sees but we acknowledge that Allah says, Allah is the We'll see. I'll go see if Allah is a Ravi is an observer over an observer and allies, a Shahid Allah is the universal witness over you. The fact that you know your rub your Lord. These are from his names and attributes, this should be enough for us, maybe
this should be enough for us. It doesn't matter if my supervisors are watching. It doesn't matter if my line manager is away. It doesn't matter if my boss is away. It doesn't matter if there's no cameras around me. What matters is Allah subhanho wa Taala is a universal witness over everything that I this is what we lead from this story. And we haven't even gotten to the marriage yet. Right? discussing the business sense of things.
We also learn my dear brothers and sisters how to be the best at what we do.
Don't just be mediocre. Be the best. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stood out from all the males that have deja vu and he was the best. He's teaching us that if you do something, do it properly. If you do something, do it properly. And this was the command of Allah to this oma in Allah catchable.
Chico, Alicia, Allah has commanded towards excellence in everything that everything that you do, he has commanded excellence
and excellence. This is an order of excellence. This is not an omen
of average people by a light isn't. It is a matter of being average. second best. This is not the second best practice.
This is not second best for Allah subhanho wa Taala. When he revealed to this oma, he didn't reveal any book but the best book the Quran, Id just any Angel he revealed it via the best angel to breed.
And not just in any language, but the best language, the Arabic language, and not just to any Prophet, but the best of a prophet Mohammed Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and when Allah chose to reveal he did not reveal it just in any month. Rather, he revealed the best of the month of Ramadan, say either Sure.
The best of omens is the month of Ramadan.
Priscilla
Allah says is the second juice
month of Ramadan is the month in which the Quran was revealed. So Allah when he chose to reveal the best book via the best angel to the best prophet in the best language, he chose the best moments to do it. And when he when he chose the night to do it, and he did not just choose any night, he chose the best of all knights, the knight of power Laila to other in
other indeed we revealed the score during the night of powers on the night of power, the best of all Knights in the best of omens. And when he chose the place of Revelation, he chose the best of all places MCO La Hoya, the best, best, best best best and in this best revelation, Allah subhanho wa Taala said to
us, that you this is the best of the nations.
The best of all nations will make you understand my dear brothers and sisters, you want me to give an hour lecture on excellence and being the best Roma here. The Shetty app is not short of any evidences and sources regarding being the best.
The fact that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was naturally the best inspired by Allah subhanho wa Taala and we have been commanded to follow in his footsteps is a sign
must be the best brothers and sisters. We must be the best. Don't be this cold person, just everything laid back. You know somebody has to move you all the time.