Saif Morad – Balance In Islam, Give Everything It’s Right Principles For A Good Life #5
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The speaker discusses the importance of finding a balance between life and worship in Islam. He gives an example of a woman who missed her father's wedding party and missed her father's meal, leading to a behavior of abandonment. He emphasizes the importance of understanding different roles and responsibilities and finding a balance between them. He also discusses the importance of finding a balance between personal and professional life, including finding a balance between work and personal life.
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Assalamu alaikum, everyone. Hope you guys are doing
well. One of the things that many people
struggle with is finding the right life balance.
Some people thrive at work, but they are
neglectful towards the rights of Allah
Other people are extremely dedicated in their worship,
but they are neglectful when it comes to
their family. Other people are in service of
their families, but they are neglectful when it
comes to the other areas of their life.
And Islam is a religion of balance. It
teaches us to understand the different areas, the
different roles and responsibilities
we have, and to make sure that we
give each area its how. And one of
the hadith that illustrates this is a hadith
that is recorded by Imam al Bukhari. Abu
Juhafa
narrated that the prophet
made upon a brotherhood
between Salman and Faricy and Abu Darda.
When the people of Mecca and Muhajerim, they
moved to Medina. They left everything they had
behind, and the prophet
made a bond of brotherhood between the Muhajerim
and Ghansal. So Abu Darda became the brother
of Salman.
So Salman visited him one day and found
his wife, Abu Darda, dressed in shabby clothes.
And it's not befitting for any spouse to
be dressed in that state. Rather, a spouse
should beautify herself and look good for her
husband. And, also, the same goes towards the
husband, that the husband should look good for
his wife, just smell good for his wife.
Both spouses should look good for one another
and take care of themselves for one another.
Most couples today, they neglect themselves. They don't
look good for one another. But when they
go out, that's when they look amazing. In
this world that we live in today, there's
so much temptation outside.
So it becomes extremely necessary that each spouse
takes care of themselves and looks good for
the other person. So asked her that, why
are you dressed like this? And she replied
that your brother
has no need for this, He doesn't care
about it. In another narration, she said that
he fasts all day and prays all night.
He has no need for the luxuries of
this world. So what's the need for me
to dress up for him? So in a
way, she was indirectly
telling him about her state. And then
came and he prepared a meal for, and
he told him that he I'm fasting.
And said, no. I'm not gonna eat until
you eat with me. So he made him
break his fast, and this was a voluntary
fast.
And then when it was nighttime, he told
him that you go to sleep. I'm gonna
go pray. And told him, no. You're gonna
sleep as well. And then when after night
passed, Abu tried to get up, and said
man told him to keep on sleeping. And
then when it was the last 3rd of
the night, said man woke up, and he
woke up Abu Darda, and they both prayed
together.
And after this, he told him that indeed
your lord has a right over you. Your
soul and your body has a right over
you. Your family has a right over you,
so make sure you give everyone
their right. And then they went to pray
with the prophet
and
after the salah, Abu Dardasa are telling the
prophet
what had happened. And the prophet
said, the Salman has spoken the truth.
And this hadith is a tremendous hadith and
shows the beauty of Islam that this religion
is a religion of balance. It teaches us
the middle path. It is not praiseworthy
for a person to pray all night and
fast all day and then be neglectful towards
their family members and disregard their rights that
they have over them. It is not praiseworthy
for a person to go out and work
all day
and all night and then be neglectful towards
Allah
Rather, we need to find a balance.
And in order to find this balance, we
need to understand the different roles that we
play, the different areas that we have in
our lives. And the most important role that
we have is the role of a servant
towards Allah. The rights of Allah are the
most important rights, and that includes
understanding
who he is, learning about Allah
and understanding what Islam is
and how do we worship Allah.
We ask ourselves, am I worshiping Allah sincerely?
Am I praying all my 5 times salawat?
Am I praying my zakat? Am I learning
about this religion, what Allah expects from me?
Because we have to worship Allah on his
terms, not on our terms. Because Allah only
accepts those deeds that are done sincerely for
his sake and that are done in accordance
to the sunnah of the prophet.
And our bodies and our souls also have
rights upon us.
Am I getting enough rest?
Am I eating enough? Am I eating healthy,
nutritious food that will give me the fuel
and energy to make sure that I take
care of my rights and responsibilities?
Sometimes we need to take a break mentally
just to recharge and come back stronger. Am
I also taking care of my soul? Am
I giving it what it needs in order
to grow and thrive?
Our families also have rights upon us. Am
I spending quality time with them? Am I
giving them the time of day? Am I
taking care of their education?
Am I giving my spouse a right? When
I'm spending time with them, am I present?
And we look at all the different areas
in our lives, all the different roles that
we play, whether it's an employee or it's
a business owner, it's a child,
parent, sibling,
relative.
When it comes to our health, we look
at all the different areas. We also understand
these different areas and different roles that we
play. Then from on a scale from 1
to 10, what score would you give yourself?
And rate yourself in all these different areas.
This will tell us where we are. And
if we see an imbalance there,
then we need to decide on something that
we can do that would improve these areas.
And not all these areas are equal.
Some demand more attention. Some need more care.
And the most important area is our relationship
with the law. Because if we lose this
area, it's as if we lost everything.
So we try our best to give each
area its and not only the bare minimum,
but we wanna exceed expectations. We wanna go
beyond that which is expected from us. And
if we wanna take it up another level,
then we transform our intention.
Because if we do that, everything becomes an
act of worship even when we're eating because
we understand that this body is a trust
of Allah. And I'm eating so that I
have the energy
to take care of these rights that Allah
has put upon me,
then this eating even becomes an act of
worship. And when we spend time with our
children, our spouses,
we are constantly getting reward from this. And
we ask Allah to give us the strength
to be able to fulfill these rights and
responsibilities,
to put blessing in our time
so that we can dedicate more time towards
his worship, towards growth, towards becoming better individuals.
If Allah makes it easy, then it will
definitely become easy.
Until next time.