Safi Khan – Soul Food For College Students The DuA Series #06

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The importance of writing intentions in Islam is discussed, including the use of sincerity and patient mentality. The transmission of messages in Islam is also discussed, including the use of " Insincerity," and the importance of forgiveness and avoiding negative reactions. The speaker provides advice on living in a state of worship, including avoiding anger and not seing anyone. The importance of writing intentions in Islam is emphasized, and the use of "medicals to avoid offense and avoid offense is also discussed.

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			All right, inshallah, we'll go ahead and start
		
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			Bismillah walhamdulillah, al salatu was salam ala rasulullah
		
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			wa ala aalihi wa ashabihi ajma'in Assalamu
		
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			alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
		
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			How's everyone doing?
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Look outside, it's sunny.
		
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			It's crazy, right?
		
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			Thursday, sunny weather.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, it's awesome to see, masha'Allah, everyone
		
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			here again Heading towards obviously the end of
		
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			the week Hopefully everyone who's in college is
		
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			Either done with their semester or nearing the
		
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			finish line.
		
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			So inshallah the summer the summer vibes have
		
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			already begun and Masha'Allah y'all can
		
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			kind of like start figuring out what to
		
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			do for the rest of your summer Whether
		
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			you're working or just enjoying some time off,
		
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			alhamdulillah, travel, whatever it may be inshallah May
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless everyone's time
		
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			this summer.
		
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			All right So a couple things inshallah today
		
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			we're going to begin the chapter of the
		
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			things that the prophetic tradition Discourages us to
		
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			do while we're making dua.
		
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			So that's gonna be the main theme of
		
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			today And also we have a really cool
		
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			surprise at the very end a really good
		
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			friend of mine a mentor of mine.
		
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			Dr. Sam Ross I don't know how many
		
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			people in here know him.
		
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			He's actually a professor at TCU He inshallah
		
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			is going to come in in the very
		
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			last like 10 minutes of the session today
		
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			To share like a really really amazing project
		
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			that he's doing and it requires a little
		
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			bit of kind of He's gonna give a
		
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			little pitch to you guys about a really
		
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			interesting Survey that him and his team are
		
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			Essentially kind of curating and trying to receive
		
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			and get some data through about like a
		
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			young Muslims experience growing up You know as
		
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			a Muslim or if you're not if you
		
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			weren't a Muslim and you convert to Islam
		
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			he wants to kind of Learn a little
		
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			bit and and do some research inshallah in
		
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			that regard So he's gonna come into the
		
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			last 10 minutes of class today and share
		
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			some some some details about that inshallah So
		
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			for our intents and purposes, we're gonna continue
		
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			on with this particular chapter, which is the
		
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			discourage acts during dua so for the past
		
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			two weeks, we were talking completely about the
		
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			Etiquettes of dua.
		
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			How does one beautify their dua and obviously
		
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			of the many things that one is supposed
		
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			to do during their dua We talked about
		
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			making sure that you know who you're making
		
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			dua to Making sure that you know, you're
		
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			pure in a pure state of mind in
		
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			a pure state of body and spirit and
		
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			soul We also talked about hoping for the
		
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			best of your dua, right?
		
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			Making sure that you praise Allah subhanahu wa'ta
		
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			'ala and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			during your dua All of these different things
		
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			are etiquettes of the dua now.
		
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			What do you do in terms of?
		
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			Avoiding certain things in your dua.
		
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			How can you avoid lessening the quality of
		
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			your dua the scholars the ulama They have
		
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			listed out a really amazing list a compilation
		
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			of the things to avoid during during your
		
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			time making dua So some of these are
		
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			a little bit more technical and I'm gonna
		
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			kind of gloss through the more technical ones
		
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			But inshallah, we can extract some lessons from
		
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			each and every single one of them So
		
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			he says here the author says here the
		
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			first thing to avoid in your dua and
		
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			he titles is something interesting But I'm gonna
		
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			actually kind of amend it a little bit
		
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			and kind of twist it a little bit
		
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			just to make it make more He says
		
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			poetry in dua He says what is meant
		
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			by poetry is Excessive rhyming of words and
		
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			matching word patterns in each sentence and does
		
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			not befit the humility that should accompany a
		
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			dua Now one thing that I will say
		
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			to amend this at least for our intents
		
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			and purposes And he mentioned something really interesting
		
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			here says Imam Khattabi Wrote that excessive rhyming
		
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			is not like during your dua nor is
		
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			it like to exert oneself in order to
		
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			achieve it Now particularly in this regard one
		
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			thing that I would like to share is
		
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			don't worry about the word poetry I want
		
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			you to think about the word performance, right?
		
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			Dua is not a performance Dua is not
		
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			a measure of how elaborate one can make
		
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			their words.
		
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			Dua is not something that is Necessitating a
		
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			person to say.
		
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			Oh, you know what?
		
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			Let me think of the most flowery fruitful
		
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			beautiful Pieces of my vocabulary knowledge that I
		
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			can find in order to express myself That's
		
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			not what dua is right because dua before
		
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			anything else and we talked about this for
		
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			the past couple of weeks is sincerity if
		
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			a person is not sincere in their dua
		
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			then that dua cannot be effective and The
		
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			reason why some of the scholars Imam Khattabi
		
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			He says that don't be excessive in your
		
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			wording in your dua is because when one
		
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			starts to think of like how can I
		
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			make this dua really beautifully kind of like
		
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			vibrant and Really amazing in its verbiage they're
		
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			more focused on the the performative value of
		
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			that dua versus the actual sincerity value of
		
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			that dua and When you look at Islam
		
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			and you cut it in any way you
		
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			want to you'll find that Islam is the
		
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			opposite of what?
		
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			We call performative Islam is not performative.
		
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			It's substantive, right?
		
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			Everything that you do as a Muslim is
		
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			based on substance and it's based on purity
		
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			and intention, right?
		
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			When a person prays they're not praying because
		
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			they're seeing other people watching them pray They
		
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			would pray if there was nobody else watching
		
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			them Theoretically a Muslim should be fasting even
		
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			if there's no other human being in the
		
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			world that exists besides them Theoretically a Muslim
		
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			should be, you know engaging in certain acts
		
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			of worship regardless if there's anybody around them,
		
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			right?
		
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			And so this is a really good kind
		
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			of question to ask ourselves, which is like
		
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			does my worship switch up?
		
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			Depending upon if I'm around people or if
		
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			I'm by myself because the stories and the
		
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			narratives that we hear from the other mad
		
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			the scholars the Pious predecessors the prophets even
		
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			is that their most beautiful moments of worship
		
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			to Allah subhana Was sometimes found in moments
		
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			of extreme privacy There was really nobody around
		
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			them and one thing that I'll share with
		
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			you guys That's kind of amazing is that
		
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			Those moments of privacy those stories that you
		
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			read in the Quran of prophets making dua
		
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			and prophets praying to Allah in privacy There's
		
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			a reason why those stories were collected in
		
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			the Quran.
		
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			It's because nobody else saw them Nobody else
		
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			witnessed certain moments in between Musa alayhis salaam
		
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			talking to Allah subhana wa ta'ala, right?
		
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			We found one of this beautiful beautiful Duas
		
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			in the Quran of Prophet Musa alayhis salaam
		
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			when Allah he told him to go and
		
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			confront the Pharaoh and he was extremely scared
		
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			one of the characteristics of Musa alayhis salaam
		
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			is that he had a stutter and sometimes
		
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			that stutter used to manifest in times of
		
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			like high stress high anxiety and so when
		
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			he was told by Allah to go and
		
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			Confront the Pharaoh about all of his crimes
		
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			and his his his rule and his dictatorship
		
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			Musa alayhis salaam, he made a dua he
		
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			says He basically said in this dua, oh
		
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			Allah expand my chest Right.
		
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			And make the command that you've given me
		
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			something that is easy for me to do
		
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			And untie the knot that's in my tongue
		
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			So they may understand and be able to
		
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			comprehend what I'm saying.
		
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			Nobody else heard this dua by the way
		
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			Nobody else there was not like a group
		
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			of people who were nearby Musa alayhis salaam
		
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			that heard that dua being said rather It
		
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			was Allah subhana wa ta'ala that gave
		
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			it to us through the Quran So, what
		
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			does that tell you that that dua that
		
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			Musa alayhis salaam He said was something that
		
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			was and into our eyes it may seem
		
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			poetic, right?
		
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			رَبِّ اشْرَحْنِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَحْلُوا الْعُقْدَةَ
		
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			مِنْ لِسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي It sounds beautiful in
		
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			its pattern, right?
		
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			It almost sounds like like like poetry It
		
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			sounds almost like a like a like a
		
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			stanza like a couple of beautiful lines of
		
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			poetry But the reality is it just happened
		
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			to sound like that, but it was bred
		
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			from sincerity Musa alayhis salaam did not think
		
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			to himself.
		
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			It's like, okay Let me go back home
		
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			and write this down real quick.
		
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			And then hopefully Allah will record this in
		
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			the Quran No, no, he this is something
		
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			that Allah gave him when I'll tell you
		
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			guys some a really cool recipe in Islam
		
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			when someone's Intention is pure the outcome cannot
		
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			help but be beautiful Does that make sense
		
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			to you guys?
		
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			When someone's intentions are pure and somebody is
		
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			sincere the outcome will be beautiful You guys
		
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			ever seen those pictures of like one person
		
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			praying dhuhr in the masjid by themselves completely,
		
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			but they're all the way at the front
		
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			They're the only person in the entire masjid
		
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			praying at that moment When the person takes
		
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			a picture of them from from behind that
		
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			person doesn't know that they're taking a picture
		
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			The reason why that moment is so beautiful
		
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			is because that person had no idea there
		
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			was somebody behind them Right and so those
		
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			are the moments of sincerity that every single
		
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			believer should try to strive for Because the
		
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			more sincere a person is the more beautiful
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will make a certain
		
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			circumstance for them but the opposite is Dangerous,
		
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			which is when a person they're thinking of
		
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			other people before they think about Allah Allah
		
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			not only will rip away the sincerity of
		
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			that action But Allah will actually make the
		
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			outcome of it something that's a little bit
		
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			ugly to look at right when a person
		
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			is trying They're intending for that action to
		
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			be performative people can tell that there's performance
		
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			within it People can tell that this person
		
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			manufactured it a little bit people can tell
		
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			that yeah This guy is definitely not like
		
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			he did this person is definitely not being
		
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			sincere And again, it's not our role to
		
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			judge people but subhanAllah It is almost like
		
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			it's almost like nature when a person is
		
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			being insincere You can tell that insincerity just
		
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			from looking at them, right?
		
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			You don't have to say you don't have
		
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			to think too hard about it But again
		
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			being sincere Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will beautify
		
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			it So that's one of the advices here,
		
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			and he actually quotes a really incredible You
		
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			know a statement from Ibn Abbas the famous
		
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			companion Well, they all know I know He
		
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			said that he was teaching a group of
		
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			students one time and he gave his students
		
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			some really beautiful advice And he was obviously
		
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			teaching like to love a little like he
		
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			was teaching the students of knowledge that you
		
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			know He he was a teacher too, and
		
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			he was giving this he was giving them
		
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			this advice He said lecture to the people
		
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			once a week and if you wish then
		
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			twice a week And if you have to
		
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			then three times a week maximum Don't don't
		
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			lecture don't put yourself in a position of
		
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			authority over people more than three times a
		
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			week because it's dangerous for your soul Then
		
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			he says do not made the Quran tiresome
		
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			for people like do not make the Quran
		
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			something That's overburdening for people made the Quran
		
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			something that's easy for people.
		
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			Don't make it something that's unattainable I mean
		
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			how many of us have these?
		
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			Experiences as Muslims growing up where we think
		
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			to ourselves like man.
		
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			I'll never get to that level.
		
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			I'll never get to that level I'm just
		
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			like this layman.
		
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			How can I how can I ever achieve
		
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			like that high status?
		
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			Well guess what the the the teachers the
		
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			mentors that are really heavy in quality are
		
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			the teachers and mentors that never make a
		
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			person Feel bad about the level that they're
		
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			at they'll always help them grow But they'll
		
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			never make Islam a burden there will never
		
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			be taklif over a person because of their
		
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			religiosity Everyone grows with their faith.
		
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			It's never something that's overburdening for anybody.
		
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			So he told his students He said do
		
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			not make the Quran something that is burdensome
		
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			for people and then he said make sure
		
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			that when you come across a group Of
		
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			people do not interrupt their conversation by your
		
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			talk and that they get tired of you
		
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			So even a bus he says like when
		
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			you see a group of people and they're
		
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			all hanging out together Don't like come in
		
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			there and just kind of insert yourself in
		
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			the conversation You know, you can do a
		
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			whole series on just this advice of Ibn
		
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			Abbas He said don't go into a group
		
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			of people and just assume that like you're
		
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			the most important voice of that entire group
		
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			Like sit there and he says but rather
		
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			listen Listen to people when you come into
		
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			a new place When you come into a
		
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			new circle and you gathering be patient learn
		
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			from the people around you one of the
		
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			exemplary you know Characteristics of the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam is that he used to
		
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			say that I didn't speak very much There
		
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			was brevity in my speech and the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a master listener
		
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			He used to listen to people and I
		
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			can guarantee you People in here you can
		
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			tell that when you're talking to somebody if
		
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			they're listening to you or they're not Right,
		
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			like there's very obvious signs of a person
		
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			listening to you There will be things that
		
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			you say that they will bring up later
		
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			and be like, yeah I remember you mentioned
		
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			that you're like, whoa, you were paying attention
		
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			to that moment and they'll catch you off
		
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			guard But then you can be talking to
		
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			a person who's not listening to you can
		
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			say all the words in the world And
		
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			then after you're done speaking, it's as though
		
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			they learn nothing.
		
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			They heard nothing, right?
		
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			There's a huge huge component of being a
		
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			beautiful listener in Islam You can only be
		
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			a as good of a Muslim as much
		
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			as you listen to the people around you
		
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			to learn from the people Around you so
		
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			Ibn Abbas.
		
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			He said when you go into a circle
		
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			Don't just insert yourself listen to people and
		
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			then when you are asked speak When somebody
		
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			asks you to speak then you speak you
		
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			don't speak out of turn you speak with
		
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			permission You speak by saying, you know, hey,
		
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			can I can I can I can I
		
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			share something here?
		
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			That's the etiquette of a Muslim and then
		
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			he says Beware of poetry and rhyming in
		
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			your dua for verily I encountered the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his companions avoiding
		
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			this and so this aligns with the Advice
		
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			that we gave now number two Transgression in
		
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			one's dua now, what does this mean?
		
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			Okay, the main thing that I want everyone
		
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			to focus on here is this particular verse
		
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			Allah says our rules are up He says
		
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			a do-ro Rubber-*-toe the rule
		
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			and well Hope you attend in who la
		
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			you have one more attendee that make your
		
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			dua to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala with humility
		
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			and in secrecy Don't make your duos public
		
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			again protect that sincerity that you have Verily
		
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			in the hula you have one more attendee
		
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			that verily he does not like those who
		
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			transgress now What does it mean to transgress
		
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			the first thing of?
		
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			transgression in a person's dua is asking for
		
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			things that are not allowed in Islam a
		
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			Person cannot ask Allah for something that Allah
		
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			has forbidden for them Okay, and and and
		
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			I'm gonna give you guys like a like
		
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			a little bit of an example and some
		
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			people may Google at this Right.
		
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			I I had a person and again, there's
		
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			this is a safe space I don't want
		
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			to you know Create an environment where people
		
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			start to kind of question and judge one
		
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			another but I'm sharing this example for the
		
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			ease of everyone Understanding this point.
		
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			I remember one time a person asked me
		
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			and this is a serious conversation This person
		
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			asked me he was like, I really want
		
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			to marry this girl and I said, okay
		
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			That's you know good intention, right, you know,
		
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			what are you doing to kind of work
		
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			in that in that in that journey?
		
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			And he was like, oh, yeah You know
		
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			I'm trying to talk to her parents and
		
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			I'm trying to kind of make sure that
		
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			I do things the right way But like
		
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			is it wrong of me to like make
		
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			dua that like I get to spend time
		
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			with her before like And I and I
		
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			told him to pause for a second I
		
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			was like, well all the good work that
		
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			you're doing it It's being it's being questioned
		
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			with a dua like that Because you can't
		
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			make dua to Allah who's supposed to give
		
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			you something that's completely pure and beautiful and
		
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			you ask him for something That Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala would be displeased with it's like
		
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			asking Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala You know, hey
		
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			Allah, you know allow me to Delay my
		
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			prayer.
		
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			No, no We don't ask those things why
		
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			because we know that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
		
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			would not be pleased with those things And
		
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			so he says here it is the height
		
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			of transgression to demand from your Creator those
		
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			things that he has prohibited for you Either
		
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			in this life or in the life after
		
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			in the life hereafter a common question.
		
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			That's very interesting I'm gonna see if anyone
		
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			kind of like relates to this a common
		
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			question is the people that I dislike in
		
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			this dunya Can I not see them in
		
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			the akhirah?
		
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			They add there's a very common question amongst
		
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			Muslims, right?
		
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			Like yeah, you know like this person like
		
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			I've dealt with them for decades in the
		
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			dunya Like when I get to Jannah inshallah,
		
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			I was like first inshallah I was like
		
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			like inshallah when I get to Jannah Like
		
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			do I have to like can I like
		
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			can I like, you know just not have
		
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			them around me and the first thing I
		
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			said to this person is all of the
		
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			Bad feelings that you have towards this person.
		
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			It's not gonna exist in akhirah.
		
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			I Know it's hard for you to imagine
		
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			this because we live in such a limited
		
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			mind in this dunya We we feel emotions
		
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			of hate and anger and you know Irritability
		
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			and all these different things that are common
		
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			in dunya But in the akhirah the people
		
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			who annoyed you in the dunya will not
		
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			annoy you anymore If Allah has forgiven that
		
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			person and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala has forgiven
		
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			you Then you will be with this person
		
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			in the akhirah Obviously, you may not have
		
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			to be best friends, but you will not
		
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			be bothered by one another like you are
		
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			in this dunya So don't ask Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala.
		
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			Oh Allah, you know, like I don't want
		
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			that person to be there when I'm there,
		
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			right?
		
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			I mean, this is this is not of
		
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			the etiquettes of people who are who claim
		
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			to be believers I mean the believer is
		
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			a person who a Even if they even
		
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			if they choose to kind of like not
		
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			be close to somebody in the dunya But
		
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			again ask Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala to forgive
		
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			them How beautiful is it a person who's
		
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			been harmed by another person?
		
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			But they have the heart and the soul
		
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			to ask Allah for forgiveness for that person
		
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			Like I know that this person wronged me,
		
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			but Allah forgive them Imagine the udger that
		
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			a person will get if they can make
		
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			dua for a person that they technically quote
		
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			-unquote dislike What what an incredible thing the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Right people used
		
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			to actually almost question this dua of the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was
		
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			in early Mecca the Prophet made a famous
		
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			dua that He actually benefited from later on
		
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			in his life in the Latin in the
		
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			second stage of the Meccan seerah Which is
		
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			he made dua.
		
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			Oh Allah strengthen Islam with one of the
		
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			two Umars Who are the two Umars?
		
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			One was Abu Jahl.
		
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			Okay, and the other was Umar Ibn Al
		
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			-Khattab These were the two Umars because Abu
		
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			Jahl's real name was Umar And so the
		
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			Prophet made dua and at that point both
		
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			of these Umars Abu Jahl and Umar Ibn
		
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			Al-Khattab were both very very huge opposers
		
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			of Islam and So when the companions that
		
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			were Muslim at that time They used to
		
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			find the Prophet making dua for these two
		
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			people that they really disliked they would be
		
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			like why?
		
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			Why are you making dua for something like
		
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			that?
		
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			Why are you making dua for this?
		
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			And the Prophet says when he says you
		
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			have no idea we want these people to
		
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			be a part of our ummah We're not
		
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			an exclusive ummah We don't we never bask
		
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			and and and and and be and are
		
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			happy and are elated at the at the
		
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			removal of certain people No, we want these
		
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			people to be guided by it by Allah
		
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			There are certain people who we may look
		
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			at now and we're like wow I really
		
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			don't like them, but imagine if you know
		
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			subhanAllah if they experience some more prophetic Character
		
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			an example in their life perhaps they would
		
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			have turned whatever you disliked into something that
		
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			is of benefit to the ummah, right?
		
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			We never know so never make dua for
		
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			someone to be removed or to be you
		
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			know taken away, right?
		
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			We don't we don't make dua for things
		
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			like that And so he says a person
		
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			should realize his place and status in front
		
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			of his Creator and beware of exalting himself
		
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			to where he Thinks that he is above
		
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			his fellow creation again This is a form
		
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			of arrogance and is allowed to do what
		
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			they are prohibited doing prohibited from doing so
		
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			He gives the example of a dua that
		
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			was made in the Quran So we'll kind
		
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			of fast-forward through some of these are
		
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			a little bit hard to understand But inshallah
		
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			if anybody has any questions about them, please
		
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			come to me after class Number three is
		
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			not expecting a response.
		
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			Now.
		
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			This is powerful He says although this has
		
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			been discussed to a certain degree in the
		
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			etiquette of dua Because of its importance it
		
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			needs to be reiterated Too many people expect
		
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			that Allah will not respond to their dua
		
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			and it is possible that the only reason
		
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			that their dua is not responded to is
		
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			because of their presumption of Allah subhanahu wa'ta
		
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			'ala and I quoted this before that there's
		
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			a very famous statement of Allah subhanahu wa'ta
		
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			'ala that says I am as my servant
		
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			thinks of me if You have hope in
		
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			Allah.
		
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			Allah will deliver what you want or what
		
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			you need from him if You have confidence
		
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			if you have yaqeen if you have conviction
		
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			Allah will be there for you.
		
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			Allah will be there for you.
		
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			Do not doubt Allah It's like asking somebody
		
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			for a favor and at the end of
		
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			that favor.
		
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			You're like, yeah, I'm not gonna do this
		
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			for me.
		
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			Anyway The person who you're asking that favor
		
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			for is gonna be like wow Okay, like
		
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			you clearly like don't have any faith in
		
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			me whatsoever And not saying that Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala will treat it like another person
		
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			because Allah is not like creation but that
		
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			same etiquette exists and That if you want
		
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			from Allah, you cannot have Hopelessness in Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
		
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			You continue to hope in Allah subhanahu wa'ta
		
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			'ala no matter how long it takes, right?
		
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			Allah may be keeping something away from you
		
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			because it's better for you to be kept
		
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			away from it and You're sitting here and
		
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			thinking that yeah, you know what like I
		
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			think in my mind I've made kind of
		
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			this equation up in my head that it
		
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			would make sense for me to have it
		
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			right now But Allah knows in his infinite
		
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			wisdom that this would be extremely harmful for
		
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			you I've talked to literally and you guys
		
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			will like find this fascinating I've talked to
		
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			like elders in the community who come and
		
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			they're like I have a lot of regrets
		
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			in my life And so I asked what
		
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			are some of the records that you have
		
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			and they're like, yeah Well, I never got
		
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			to pursue my passion and I never got
		
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			to like fulfill my dreams in my career
		
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			and whatnot I you know, I took like
		
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			a kind of like a regular job and
		
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			kind of went through the motions and I'm
		
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			like well How's your family?
		
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			Like yeah, my family is good Are doing
		
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			this and doing that and you know, I'm
		
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			a Duke are your kids Muslim like do
		
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			they pray?
		
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			Do they keep in touch with you?
		
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			Do they care for you?
		
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			He's like, yeah, everything's good.
		
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			And I said, well, I can I can
		
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			I share something with you?
		
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			I said what if Allah gave you what
		
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			you wanted and another part of your life
		
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			was completely the opposite of what it is
		
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			today Like you got to become that career
		
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			that you that you wanted to pursue you
		
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			weren't you got you got that dream that
		
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			you wanted But none of your kids really
		
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			kept kept up with you.
		
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			None of your kids prayed None of your
		
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			kids had any love for Allah.
		
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			What if is because that you were a
		
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			more of like a low-key Down-to
		
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			-earth person that Allah gave you so much
		
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			more Baraka in your life, right?
		
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			So this is something that's extremely beautiful.
		
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			Don't be a person who thinks like oh,
		
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			you know, it's a I don't I don't
		
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			know about this No, no, no ask that
		
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			do I would convict and make that do
		
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			I with conviction?
		
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			Yakin with istiqamah, right make that do I
		
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			as though Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala, you know
		
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			that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will answer you.
		
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			Okay, so Here he continues and he says
		
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			there was a very Amazing person Sufyan bin
		
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			Uyayna who said when he said let none
		
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			of you think that his dua Will not
		
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			be answered because of their sins that he
		
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			knows of himself.
		
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			Indeed Allah responded to the dua of the
		
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			worst of creation Iblis May Allah curse him
		
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			when he said قَالَ رَبِّ فَأَنذِرْنِي إِلَى يَوْمَ
		
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			يُبْعَثُونَ قَالَ فَإِنَّكَ مِنَ الْمُنظَرِينَ So Iblis asked
		
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			Allah for permission to give him a long
		
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			life To try and distract human beings and
		
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			Sufyan bin Uyayna he's saying that Allah gave
		
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			Iblis permission From his dua if Allah gives
		
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			Shaitaan permission in his dua Who do you
		
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			think you are?
		
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			Are you calling yourself worse than Shaitaan?
		
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			I seek refuge with Allah, hopefully not So
		
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			don't think that you're ever Your duas are
		
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			not heard by Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala Don't
		
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			ever convince yourself that I'm such a bad
		
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			Muslim that there's no point in me making
		
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			dua Because that's not how Allah feels about
		
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			you That's not how Allah sees you That's
		
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			sometimes how we see ourselves That I made
		
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			this mistake and it's so large it's so
		
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			looming that there's no point in me making
		
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			dua anymore That's never gonna be the case
		
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			That's never gonna be the case the story
		
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			of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam of
		
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			the men who killed a hundred people He
		
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			killed a hundred people and he went to
		
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			a sheikh and he said tell me what
		
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			to do with my life And he said
		
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			I want you to go and I want
		
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			you to travel and get away from this
		
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			place You've had one too many bad memories.
		
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			This is literally PTSD in a hadith Because
		
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			you had one too many bad memories here
		
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			you committed one too many crimes in this
		
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			area So I want you to go and
		
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			start fresh somewhere else in the middle of
		
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			that person's journey he passed away and so
		
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			the hadith mentions that the angels of mercy
		
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			and the angels of punishment they came down
		
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			trying to claim his soul and each of
		
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			them said no he belongs with us and
		
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			the other said no he belongs with us
		
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			and The hadith it mentions that an arbitrator
		
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			of them said well, let's see if he's
		
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			closer to his His you know departure Location
		
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			then he'll be taken as a person of
		
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			punishment and if he's closer to his destination
		
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			Then he'll be taken as a person who's
		
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			forgiven and the hadith mentions that Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala shifted the earth Shifted the earth
		
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			for him so that he would be closer
		
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			to his destination So that he was a
		
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			person that was forgiven completely by Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala Imagine that Imagine that I mean
		
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			if a person like that can be forgiven
		
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			for doing things that were so appalling What
		
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			type of person are we to think that
		
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			oh some of my mistakes are too large
		
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			that there's no point in making dua and
		
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			Asking Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala for forgiveness These
		
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			are all things that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
		
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			is not only capable of but Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala loves to forgive those Especially those
		
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			who have mistakes People who have mistakes that
		
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			go to Allah It is a beloved scenario
		
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			for Allah Allah wants you to go up
		
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			to him when you feel broken Allah wants
		
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			you to go up to him when you
		
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			feel shattered Allah wants you to go up
		
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			to him when you feel like you have
		
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			no one else to turn to Wa may
		
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			yattaqillaha yaja'allahu makhraja That when you think
		
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			that you have no one else on your
		
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			side You turn to Allah and Allah will
		
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			find you an exit from whatever situation that
		
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			you find yourself in Wa yarzukhu min haythu
		
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			la yahtasib From places that you thought were
		
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			unimaginable Places that you thought were not even
		
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			there in the first place I always give
		
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			the analogy that a believer when they turn
		
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			to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala With all of
		
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			their mistakes all of their sins all of
		
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			their shortcomings, and they see a dead end
		
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			ahead of them They don't see anything.
		
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			They don't see doors or windows, but they're
		
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			looking straight ahead when they call to Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ta'ala Allah reminds them that they
		
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			can climb up You always had that option,
		
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			but without Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala in your
		
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			heart and in your mind.
		
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			You never knew to look up You just
		
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			thought that there was one road to go,
		
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			but Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala reminded you that
		
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			there's another way But you must have Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ta'ala in the heart and the
		
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			mind in order to appreciate and understand that
		
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			Number four the scholars they say to avoid
		
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			Praying for only matters of the dunya So
		
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			every dua that somebody makes add a little
		
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			bit of akhira within that dua It proves
		
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			that you're not a person of dunya It
		
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			proves that you're not attached to the dunya
		
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			at the end of the day.
		
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			Yes, I live here I live in this
		
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			world that Allah has given me temporarily, but
		
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			my heart does not desire to be here
		
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			forever and My duas reflect that Every dua
		
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			that I make even if it's for dunya
		
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			things Allah give me a good job Allah
		
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			allow me to you know get this degree
		
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			or Allah allow me to marry this person
		
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			Allah allow me to do this or move
		
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			there be with this friend a Part of
		
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			your dua should also reflect that you're interested
		
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			in not only the dunya aspect of what
		
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			you're asking for But also the akhira aspect
		
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			of what you're asking for.
		
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			How do you do that?
		
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			Oh Allah allow me to be close to
		
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			this person not only in this dunya, but
		
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			also in the akhira Oh Allah allow my
		
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			home in this life to be here.
		
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			I love this place Allah allowed this this
		
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			this This you know when I when I
		
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			applied for this apartment or I put in
		
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			a down payment for this house Allah allow
		
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			me to achieve and get this house or
		
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			this apartment, but Allah allow my home the
		
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			akhira to be even more beautiful Allah allow
		
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			me to get this job But also at
		
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			the same time ya Allah allowed this job
		
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			to be something that's pleasing to you Allowed
		
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			this job to be something that I can
		
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			take care of my family with I Can
		
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			send some money to my parents?
		
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			How many of us have been thinking about
		
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			stuff like that right like I want to
		
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			grow up and for the first time you're
		
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			now In a demographic where you're starting to
		
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			think of less of a consumer and more
		
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			of a giver.
		
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			I Know we're at the stage now me
		
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			and my siblings.
		
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			We're at the stage now where we're talking
		
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			about our parents Like what are we gonna
		
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			do?
		
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			How are we gonna take care of them?
		
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			What what situation do we want to put
		
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			them in where they're they're the most comfortable
		
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			and they're the least stressed These are ways
		
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			to make your do on something that's not
		
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			only dunya, but also akhira and Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ta'ala He mentions this in the Quran.
		
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			He says feminine nasi man.
		
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			Ya cool.
		
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			Oh, Rob.
		
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			Ben.
		
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			I had enough a dunya Well, man, I
		
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			who fill akhira tea Min khalaq he says
		
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			that there are people in the dunya who
		
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			will say oh Allah give us this and
		
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			this and this in this life And they
		
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			have no share in the akhira Because all
		
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			they do is they make dua for the
		
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			dunya.
		
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			Oh Allah.
		
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			Give me this car.
		
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			Oh Allah.
		
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			Give me that Give me that shirt.
		
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			Oh Allah.
		
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			Give me this job.
		
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			Oh Allah.
		
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			Give me this thing.
		
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			Give me that thing Oh Allah, allow me
		
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			to go to this place in that place
		
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			Oh Allah, allow me to travel allow that
		
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			ticket to be available still so it doesn't
		
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			get sold out like all these things They're
		
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			fine.
		
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			This isn't against making dua, but then Allah
		
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			he says Women whom many a cool.
		
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			Oh, Rob.
		
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			Ben.
		
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			I had enough a dunya hasana What feel
		
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			akhira tea hasana what can I either been
		
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			are?
		
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			Oh, la ikala home no seabun mimma casabu
		
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			wallahu sari al-hisab He says but then
		
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			there are people who will say oh Allah
		
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			give us the best of this life and
		
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			the best of the hereafter And save us
		
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			from the fire He says oh la ikala
		
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			home These are the people who will have
		
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			a share of what they earned and Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa'ta'ala is swift with his accounting
		
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			his Meaning like you know when you ask
		
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			Allah Like remember always remember the end goal
		
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			dua is not something that's limited to the
		
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			dunya Dua is something actually that is meant
		
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			for the akhira and Allah has extended that
		
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			gift to benefit you here in this life
		
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			right now Okay We can gloss over this
		
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			is a little bit easier to understand improper
		
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			names and attributes of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
		
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			This is decently simple.
		
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			He makes a couple of kind of in
		
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			my opinion comical points He goes likewise if
		
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			a person is asking for forgiveness.
		
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			He should not call out the attributes of
		
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			Allah Shadid al-Iqab That's a no-brainer.
		
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			I ask you for mercy severe and punishment,
		
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			okay?
		
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			so then he says Do not make dua
		
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			to expedite punishment now.
		
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			What does this mean?
		
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			He says that Anas Ibn Malik narrated that
		
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			the Prophet once visited a sick person who
		
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			had become so thin that he was almost
		
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			like a newborn Like animal and the Prophet
		
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			asked him did you make any dua or
		
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			ask Allah for anything?
		
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			and he said yes, I used to say
		
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			whatever punishments are in store for me in
		
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			the hereafter give it to me in this
		
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			world and The Prophet Salaam corrected him and
		
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			he said subhanallah.
		
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			You will never be able to bear that
		
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			Why would you say that you should in
		
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			fact say?
		
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			Oh Allah Give us the best of this
		
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			world and the best of the hereafter What
		
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			can I other than not and protect us
		
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			from the punishment of the hellfire?
		
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			So it's actually not of the etiquette of
		
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			a person to say Allow me to avoid
		
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			the punishment of the hereafter by receiving punishment
		
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			in this in this life a lot of
		
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			people I can see how it Can like
		
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			turn into like oh, that's like it's like
		
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			a super like woke spiritual person, right?
		
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			Like they're asking a lot to free them
		
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			of the punishment of Jahannam And so they'll
		
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			get the punishment of this life rather Ask
		
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			Allah for the best of this life and
		
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			the best of hereafter You know a really
		
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			good example of this by the way, how
		
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			many of y'all are familiar with the
		
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			story of Yusuf?
		
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			I said I'm Generally, okay.
		
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			So there's a portion of Yusuf story I
		
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			don't know how many people remember this but
		
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			there's a person there's a portion of Yusuf
		
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			story where he basically was Almost like he
		
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			was he was the victim of an attempt
		
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			of like seduction by this woman that he
		
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			used to almost like look at as like
		
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			a mother figure and she basically said that
		
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			you know, I'm gonna call all of the
		
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			aunties of the community over and And we're
		
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			all and and and the Quran literally goes
		
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			like they were all cutting fruits one day
		
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			and Yusuf alayhi salam He walked into the
		
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			room and they began to cut their own
		
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			hands because of the beauty of Yusuf alayhi
		
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			salam Which is insane to think about right
		
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			like try to get on that level, right?
		
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			There's like some people named Yusuf here They're
		
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			like I'm almost there But you know Like
		
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			they literally they were there were there were
		
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			literally were so distracted by his beauty Alayhi
		
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			salam that they began to cut their own
		
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			hands and they didn't even notice it and
		
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			so because of this Zulaikha the wife of
		
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			the The the ruler at that time she
		
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			looks at him and she says you see
		
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			this is the person that you judged me
		
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			about How can you judge me?
		
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			I I advanced towards him and now look
		
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			at you You're cutting your own hands because
		
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			of his beauty So all of them made
		
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			this plot to go and try and seduce
		
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			Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam and Yusuf alayhi salam
		
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			He made a dua at that point and
		
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			it's in the Quran.
		
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			He says Oh Allah allow the prison to
		
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			me to be more appealing to me than
		
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			what they call me to and It's a
		
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			very famous verse in Surah Yusuf He says
		
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			Oh Allah allow the prison to be more
		
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			attractive to me or to be more appealing
		
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			to me than the Haram that they're trying
		
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			to invite me to and Everyone knows that
		
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			the outcome of that dua is that Prophet
		
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			Yusuf was put in prison Technically Allah gave
		
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			him what he asked for.
		
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			So there was a commentator of Quran who
		
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			said that if Yusuf alayhi salam had asked
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala To give him a
		
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			way out of the prison and also a
		
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			way out of that situation Allah is so
		
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			merciful.
		
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			Perhaps he would have actually given him a
		
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			way out of both scenarios but because Yusuf
		
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			asked for the prison or he said beautify
		
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			the prison for me more than what they
		
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			call me to Allah gave him the prison
		
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			Now, of course, there's an element of qadr
		
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			Allah in there No matter what would have
		
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			happened Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would have given
		
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			him what was already predestined for him But
		
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			this is a powerful lesson that proves to
		
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			us that you if a person asks for
		
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			something from Allah Allah will give it to
		
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			that person if it's the best, you know,
		
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			if it's for the best for that person
		
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			so if you find yourself in a tough
		
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			situation don't just say Oh Allah allow me
		
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			allow my Sins to be expiated and allow
		
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			me to avoid punishment in the hereafter and
		
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			give me all the punishment in the dunya
		
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			Don't ask for that.
		
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			Ask Allah for forgiveness for everything because this
		
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			is a reflection of how you see Allah
		
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			because a person who says Allah give me
		
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			the punishment in this dunya is like saying
		
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			that Allah has to punish you some way
		
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			or the other Allah does not have to
		
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			do anything Allah does not have to punish
		
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			you in the afterlife or in this life
		
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			Allah can forgive you in this life if
		
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			he wants to so you have to ask
		
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			for it Okay, so a very very beautiful
		
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			point the next couple ones inshallah are not
		
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			too difficult to understand He says the dua
		
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			against oneself and one family inshallah Hopefully no
		
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			one makes dua against themselves or their family.
		
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			If you do, please come to me and
		
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			we'll talk privately Number eight.
		
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			This is important to curse someone.
		
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			This is powerful to curse someone It is
		
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			not the character of a Muslim to curse
		
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			others the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He
		
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			said that a Muslim is not given to
		
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			harming others or cursing them or being vulgar
		
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			or being obscene Once the companions were whipping
		
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			an individual that had committed or had been
		
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			caught drinking wine or alcohol and Omar ibn
		
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			al-khattab out of his anger.
		
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			He cursed this man and hearing this the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He said don't
		
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			say that do not help shaitan against this
		
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			person Do not help shaitan against this person
		
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			and the author he says what character and
		
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			nobility even in such a severe Circumstance the
		
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			punishment for drinking intoxicants is that a person
		
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			be whipped for a certain number of times
		
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			yet Even while inflicting this punishment it is
		
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			not allowed to curse or harm in any
		
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			other manner That a person is not allowed
		
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			to curse somebody as a Muslim Don't curse
		
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			somebody as a Muslim and what I will
		
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			almost parrot this as is don't allow your
		
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			anger to get the best of you in
		
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			your duas Don't allow your anger to get
		
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			the best of you in your duas Don't
		
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			allow yourself to say Oh Allah curse this
		
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			person curse that person There was a famous
		
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			story of Abu Bakr and Umar when they
		
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			one time got into an argument with one
		
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			another And they got into an argument with
		
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			one another and by the way This shows
		
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			you kind of like how close of friends
		
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			they were and by the way It shows
		
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			the humanity of the companions radiallahu anhum right
		
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			like we always sometimes think to ourselves that
		
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			oh, you know These people they never got
		
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			angry.
		
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			They never got they never got upset.
		
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			No.
		
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			No, they got angry.
		
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			They got upset at times This is the
		
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			humanity of people right?
		
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			So I'm gonna Abu Bakr.
		
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			They were arguing with one another.
		
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			Okay, and Abu Bakr said something to Omar.
		
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			Okay that Omar radiallahu anhum took offense to
		
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			and So I'm gonna be hot Bob He
		
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			makes a statement to Abu Bakr and he
		
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			says yeah, I'll be Bakr.
		
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			I'm going to take this to the day
		
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			of judgment It's a very heavy statement.
		
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			All right And so Abu Bakr got like
		
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			and by the way, he's a soft-hearted
		
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			man very soft-hearted man He's bothered by
		
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			that right?
		
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			Like some of us were like if someone
		
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			tells us that it takes me to do
		
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			it We're like, all right, cool.
		
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			Sounds good.
		
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			See you there slugger You're like no, no,
		
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			like I'm not like Abu Bakr was like
		
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			he was a very God conscious person He
		
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			got bothered by that.
		
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			He got very quiet And so the Prophet
		
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			saw something he noticed the demeanor change of
		
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			Abu Bakr over the next couple of days
		
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			And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			He says yeah Abu Bakr.
		
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			What's wrong?
		
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			Because like yeah, I know snitch like I'm
		
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			not gonna I don't want I don't want
		
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			to say it I don't want to say
		
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			it.
		
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			And so the Prophet says no.
		
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			No, I insist What is bothering you Abu
		
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			Bakr?
		
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			And this is how by the way Abu
		
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			Bakr was a prophets.
		
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			What?
		
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			Was father-in-law He was his father
		
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			-in-law.
		
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			He was married to Aisha Abu Bakr's daughter
		
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			Like this is family man.
		
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			Like this is a family thing here So
		
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			he goes he goes yeah, I'll be back
		
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			here.
		
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			Like what is what's bothering you so much
		
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			like if you're hurting I'm hurting and Abu
		
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			Bakr like relentlessly He said Me and I'm
		
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			gonna go into an argument the other day
		
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			and he told me something that really scared
		
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			me and the Prophet says Tell me what
		
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			he said.
		
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			He said that he's going to take whatever
		
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			I said to him to the Day of
		
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			Judgment And like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam he was like, okay he gets up
		
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			walks over to Amr ibn Khattab and he
		
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			says yeah Amr and Amr looks at the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he says
		
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			Are you sure you want to be the
		
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			person that's gonna separate me and Abu Bakr
		
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			on the Day of Judgment and Amr ibn
		
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			Khattab the narration says that he was so
		
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			scared by that statement He was so terrified
		
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			by that statement of the Prophet that he
		
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			ran to Abu Bakr and he said I
		
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			forgive you for everything You've ever done in
		
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			your life.
		
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			And if you ever do anything to me
		
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			ever again, just know it's already been forgiven
		
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			by me He goes I do not want
		
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			to feel that wrath ever again in my
		
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			life What he just told me do I
		
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			want to be the one responsible for separating
		
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			you and him on the Day of Judgment?
		
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			no, I do not want to be the
		
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			one and This is why by the way,
		
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			you know, there's a really special Beautiful like
		
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			almost like an imagery type of hadith that
		
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			later on happens the Prophet's life And again
		
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			this proves to you how close these three
		
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			were the Prophet Abu Bakr and Amr One
		
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			time they were walking into the masjid in
		
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			Medina and they were holding arms like they
		
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			were like locked in arms like that Um,
		
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			I was it looks strange to like an
		
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			American context But let me you go overseas
		
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			and you see like dudes holding hands all
		
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			the time in the haram Like it's like
		
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			there's walking with each other And so the
		
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			Prophet Amr Abu Bakr they were holding like
		
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			they're locking arms together and walking to the
		
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			masjid for salah one day And all the
		
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			companions were just kind of like daydreaming looking
		
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			at them They're like wow, like it's like
		
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			it's like iconic man, you know, like that
		
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			scene is iconic I wish like now I
		
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			wish I could like a I like Photoshop
		
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			myself right in between like right there, you
		
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			know Nobody would know But and so they
		
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			walked in and the Prophet says he noticed
		
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			that some of the other companions were looking
		
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			at them with like this Kind of like
		
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			beauty.
		
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			They're like almost like like nicely jealous of
		
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			them and the Prophet says when he looks
		
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			at me He says the way that we're
		
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			walking together in this life will be the
		
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			same way that we walk together in Jannah
		
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			He says it's about each other So imagine
		
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			like, you know, subhanAllah this friendship is something
		
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			between these three that Really withstood the test
		
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			of time wallahi, and it's something that subhanAllah
		
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			and you see to this day When you
		
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			go to Medina when you go to Medina
		
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			Where are these three buried one two and
		
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			three the Prophet is buried on the left
		
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			Abu Bakr is right next to him and
		
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			Amr Abu Khattab is right next to him
		
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			The way that we live in this dunya
		
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			with our friends and our companions is very
		
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			reflective of the way that we'll live with
		
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			them in the akhira Ask yourself what type
		
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			of friend we are right inshallah We'll end
		
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			with that There's a couple of more that
		
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			I wanted to share with you guys but
		
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			inshallah ta'ala we can inshallah probably wrap
		
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			up here and And and continue on next
		
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			week and one thing that I'd like to
		
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			share here as well You know There's a
		
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			couple of advices of the Prophets when he
		
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			shared about you know Making sure that you
		
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			don't let your anger get to the best
		
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			of you and especially in your state of
		
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			worship and dua He said, you know people
		
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			used to curse the wind at that time
		
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			and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He
		
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			said, you know Don't ever curse the wind
		
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			because the wind is a helper of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala It brings his mercy
		
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			and his punishment.
		
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			So when you see it, do not curse
		
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			it And then he says even don't curse
		
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			the rooster, right?
		
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			I mean like how many of y'all
		
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			have cats in here, right?
		
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			They wake you up for fajr like 40
		
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			minutes early every single morning, right?
		
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			They're asking for food, but you wake up
		
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			and alhamdulillah you end up praying So the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would say
		
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			to his companions like don't even curse the
		
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			rooster But for it wakes people up for
		
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			fajr It wakes people up for tahajjud.
		
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			It wakes people up for qiyam al-layl
		
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			Like don't don't don't be angry at things
		
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			like that.
		
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			Like live a life.
		
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			That's not led by anger Anger destroys things
		
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			like fire destroys wood.
		
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			Do not allow anger to take over your
		
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			life There were so many examples of the
		
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			companions not letting their anger get to the
		
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			best of them And this is why when
		
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			they made dua they would make dua with
		
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			the clearest of minds and the clearest of
		
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			hearts They would never hold grudges against people
		
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			Ali ibn Abi Tarib would forgive people in
		
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			the middle of the battlefield There were literally
		
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			people who he used to be fighting There's
		
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			a story of a man He was fighting
		
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			one time and he had him on the
		
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			ground and the guy he had on the
		
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			ground spat in his face and Ali radiyallahu
		
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			anhu says He like stopped himself and the
		
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			guy is like literally like waiting to die
		
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			He said why'd you stop?
		
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			He goes because right now if I were
		
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			to kill you I would kill you because
		
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			you did something to me that was personal
		
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			I'm, not going to kill you like that.
		
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			He left him.
		
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			He goes somebody else can do it I
		
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			don't want to do this in a state
		
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			of anger the men who urinated in the
		
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			corner of the prophet's masjid The prophet said
		
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			don't don't attack him Don't harm him.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because we are not people who act in
		
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			a state of anger.
		
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			That's not what we do.
		
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			That's not who we are We never act
		
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			from emotions like that, okay So inshallah what
		
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			we'll do next, uh Next thursday, we will
		
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			finish up with these last few points Uh,
		
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			some of them are beautiful to limit the
		
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			mercy of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Uh,
		
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			and then he says, uh to pray for
		
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			certain things particularly are discouraged.
		
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			He talks a little bit about over here.
		
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			You can see Uh dua for evil or
		
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			hastiness in dua will cover that Um to
		
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			imply that that one will not ask anything
		
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			else After they ask I mean, this is
		
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			something that's actually kind of i'll preview this
		
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			one.
		
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			This is interesting here.
		
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			He says, um That a person says something
		
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			like oh if allah you give this to
		
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			me, i'll never ask for anything ever again
		
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			And it's it's so incredible.
		
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			I see the smiles breaking across the the
		
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			audience right now But subhanallah think about how
		
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			many times we get caught in this right
		
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			allah if you give me this I will
		
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			never ask for anything ever again And and
		
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			that's not something that's within the etiquettes of
		
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			a person who makes dua why because giving
		
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			even the most Incredibly vast and luxurious thing
		
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			to allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is like
		
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			nothing It's like nothing.
		
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			So why would you say to allah?
		
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			Oh allah after I asked I'm never going
		
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			to ask anything else from you ever again
		
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			Every single creation of allah can go to
		
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			jannah and allah will not even be afflicted
		
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			by one small piece of his mercy So
		
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			don't think that oh, there's like limitations to
		
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			what I can ask allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala for and then inshallah We'll continue on
		
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			and there's a couple more of these and
		
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			we'll um, we'll wrap up with this next
		
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			week.
		
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			Okay