Safi Khan – Soul Food For College Students The DuA Series #06
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The importance of writing intentions in Islam is discussed, including the use of sincerity and patient mentality. The transmission of messages in Islam is also discussed, including the use of " Insincerity," and the importance of forgiveness and avoiding negative reactions. The speaker provides advice on living in a state of worship, including avoiding anger and not seing anyone. The importance of writing intentions in Islam is emphasized, and the use of "medicals to avoid offense and avoid offense is also discussed.
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All right, inshallah, we'll go ahead and start
Bismillah walhamdulillah, al salatu was salam ala rasulullah
wa ala aalihi wa ashabihi ajma'in Assalamu
alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
How's everyone doing?
Alhamdulillah.
Look outside, it's sunny.
It's crazy, right?
Thursday, sunny weather.
Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah, it's awesome to see, masha'Allah, everyone
here again Heading towards obviously the end of
the week Hopefully everyone who's in college is
Either done with their semester or nearing the
finish line.
So inshallah the summer the summer vibes have
already begun and Masha'Allah y'all can
kind of like start figuring out what to
do for the rest of your summer Whether
you're working or just enjoying some time off,
alhamdulillah, travel, whatever it may be inshallah May
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless everyone's time
this summer.
All right So a couple things inshallah today
we're going to begin the chapter of the
things that the prophetic tradition Discourages us to
do while we're making dua.
So that's gonna be the main theme of
today And also we have a really cool
surprise at the very end a really good
friend of mine a mentor of mine.
Dr. Sam Ross I don't know how many
people in here know him.
He's actually a professor at TCU He inshallah
is going to come in in the very
last like 10 minutes of the session today
To share like a really really amazing project
that he's doing and it requires a little
bit of kind of He's gonna give a
little pitch to you guys about a really
interesting Survey that him and his team are
Essentially kind of curating and trying to receive
and get some data through about like a
young Muslims experience growing up You know as
a Muslim or if you're not if you
weren't a Muslim and you convert to Islam
he wants to kind of Learn a little
bit and and do some research inshallah in
that regard So he's gonna come into the
last 10 minutes of class today and share
some some some details about that inshallah So
for our intents and purposes, we're gonna continue
on with this particular chapter, which is the
discourage acts during dua so for the past
two weeks, we were talking completely about the
Etiquettes of dua.
How does one beautify their dua and obviously
of the many things that one is supposed
to do during their dua We talked about
making sure that you know who you're making
dua to Making sure that you know, you're
pure in a pure state of mind in
a pure state of body and spirit and
soul We also talked about hoping for the
best of your dua, right?
Making sure that you praise Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
during your dua All of these different things
are etiquettes of the dua now.
What do you do in terms of?
Avoiding certain things in your dua.
How can you avoid lessening the quality of
your dua the scholars the ulama They have
listed out a really amazing list a compilation
of the things to avoid during during your
time making dua So some of these are
a little bit more technical and I'm gonna
kind of gloss through the more technical ones
But inshallah, we can extract some lessons from
each and every single one of them So
he says here the author says here the
first thing to avoid in your dua and
he titles is something interesting But I'm gonna
actually kind of amend it a little bit
and kind of twist it a little bit
just to make it make more He says
poetry in dua He says what is meant
by poetry is Excessive rhyming of words and
matching word patterns in each sentence and does
not befit the humility that should accompany a
dua Now one thing that I will say
to amend this at least for our intents
and purposes And he mentioned something really interesting
here says Imam Khattabi Wrote that excessive rhyming
is not like during your dua nor is
it like to exert oneself in order to
achieve it Now particularly in this regard one
thing that I would like to share is
don't worry about the word poetry I want
you to think about the word performance, right?
Dua is not a performance Dua is not
a measure of how elaborate one can make
their words.
Dua is not something that is Necessitating a
person to say.
Oh, you know what?
Let me think of the most flowery fruitful
beautiful Pieces of my vocabulary knowledge that I
can find in order to express myself That's
not what dua is right because dua before
anything else and we talked about this for
the past couple of weeks is sincerity if
a person is not sincere in their dua
then that dua cannot be effective and The
reason why some of the scholars Imam Khattabi
He says that don't be excessive in your
wording in your dua is because when one
starts to think of like how can I
make this dua really beautifully kind of like
vibrant and Really amazing in its verbiage they're
more focused on the the performative value of
that dua versus the actual sincerity value of
that dua and When you look at Islam
and you cut it in any way you
want to you'll find that Islam is the
opposite of what?
We call performative Islam is not performative.
It's substantive, right?
Everything that you do as a Muslim is
based on substance and it's based on purity
and intention, right?
When a person prays they're not praying because
they're seeing other people watching them pray They
would pray if there was nobody else watching
them Theoretically a Muslim should be fasting even
if there's no other human being in the
world that exists besides them Theoretically a Muslim
should be, you know engaging in certain acts
of worship regardless if there's anybody around them,
right?
And so this is a really good kind
of question to ask ourselves, which is like
does my worship switch up?
Depending upon if I'm around people or if
I'm by myself because the stories and the
narratives that we hear from the other mad
the scholars the Pious predecessors the prophets even
is that their most beautiful moments of worship
to Allah subhana Was sometimes found in moments
of extreme privacy There was really nobody around
them and one thing that I'll share with
you guys That's kind of amazing is that
Those moments of privacy those stories that you
read in the Quran of prophets making dua
and prophets praying to Allah in privacy There's
a reason why those stories were collected in
the Quran.
It's because nobody else saw them Nobody else
witnessed certain moments in between Musa alayhis salaam
talking to Allah subhana wa ta'ala, right?
We found one of this beautiful beautiful Duas
in the Quran of Prophet Musa alayhis salaam
when Allah he told him to go and
confront the Pharaoh and he was extremely scared
one of the characteristics of Musa alayhis salaam
is that he had a stutter and sometimes
that stutter used to manifest in times of
like high stress high anxiety and so when
he was told by Allah to go and
Confront the Pharaoh about all of his crimes
and his his his rule and his dictatorship
Musa alayhis salaam, he made a dua he
says He basically said in this dua, oh
Allah expand my chest Right.
And make the command that you've given me
something that is easy for me to do
And untie the knot that's in my tongue
So they may understand and be able to
comprehend what I'm saying.
Nobody else heard this dua by the way
Nobody else there was not like a group
of people who were nearby Musa alayhis salaam
that heard that dua being said rather It
was Allah subhana wa ta'ala that gave
it to us through the Quran So, what
does that tell you that that dua that
Musa alayhis salaam He said was something that
was and into our eyes it may seem
poetic, right?
رَبِّ اشْرَحْنِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَحْلُوا الْعُقْدَةَ
مِنْ لِسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي It sounds beautiful in
its pattern, right?
It almost sounds like like like poetry It
sounds almost like a like a like a
stanza like a couple of beautiful lines of
poetry But the reality is it just happened
to sound like that, but it was bred
from sincerity Musa alayhis salaam did not think
to himself.
It's like, okay Let me go back home
and write this down real quick.
And then hopefully Allah will record this in
the Quran No, no, he this is something
that Allah gave him when I'll tell you
guys some a really cool recipe in Islam
when someone's Intention is pure the outcome cannot
help but be beautiful Does that make sense
to you guys?
When someone's intentions are pure and somebody is
sincere the outcome will be beautiful You guys
ever seen those pictures of like one person
praying dhuhr in the masjid by themselves completely,
but they're all the way at the front
They're the only person in the entire masjid
praying at that moment When the person takes
a picture of them from from behind that
person doesn't know that they're taking a picture
The reason why that moment is so beautiful
is because that person had no idea there
was somebody behind them Right and so those
are the moments of sincerity that every single
believer should try to strive for Because the
more sincere a person is the more beautiful
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will make a certain
circumstance for them but the opposite is Dangerous,
which is when a person they're thinking of
other people before they think about Allah Allah
not only will rip away the sincerity of
that action But Allah will actually make the
outcome of it something that's a little bit
ugly to look at right when a person
is trying They're intending for that action to
be performative people can tell that there's performance
within it People can tell that this person
manufactured it a little bit people can tell
that yeah This guy is definitely not like
he did this person is definitely not being
sincere And again, it's not our role to
judge people but subhanAllah It is almost like
it's almost like nature when a person is
being insincere You can tell that insincerity just
from looking at them, right?
You don't have to say you don't have
to think too hard about it But again
being sincere Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will beautify
it So that's one of the advices here,
and he actually quotes a really incredible You
know a statement from Ibn Abbas the famous
companion Well, they all know I know He
said that he was teaching a group of
students one time and he gave his students
some really beautiful advice And he was obviously
teaching like to love a little like he
was teaching the students of knowledge that you
know He he was a teacher too, and
he was giving this he was giving them
this advice He said lecture to the people
once a week and if you wish then
twice a week And if you have to
then three times a week maximum Don't don't
lecture don't put yourself in a position of
authority over people more than three times a
week because it's dangerous for your soul Then
he says do not made the Quran tiresome
for people like do not make the Quran
something That's overburdening for people made the Quran
something that's easy for people.
Don't make it something that's unattainable I mean
how many of us have these?
Experiences as Muslims growing up where we think
to ourselves like man.
I'll never get to that level.
I'll never get to that level I'm just
like this layman.
How can I how can I ever achieve
like that high status?
Well guess what the the the teachers the
mentors that are really heavy in quality are
the teachers and mentors that never make a
person Feel bad about the level that they're
at they'll always help them grow But they'll
never make Islam a burden there will never
be taklif over a person because of their
religiosity Everyone grows with their faith.
It's never something that's overburdening for anybody.
So he told his students He said do
not make the Quran something that is burdensome
for people and then he said make sure
that when you come across a group Of
people do not interrupt their conversation by your
talk and that they get tired of you
So even a bus he says like when
you see a group of people and they're
all hanging out together Don't like come in
there and just kind of insert yourself in
the conversation You know, you can do a
whole series on just this advice of Ibn
Abbas He said don't go into a group
of people and just assume that like you're
the most important voice of that entire group
Like sit there and he says but rather
listen Listen to people when you come into
a new place When you come into a
new circle and you gathering be patient learn
from the people around you one of the
exemplary you know Characteristics of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is that he used to
say that I didn't speak very much There
was brevity in my speech and the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a master listener
He used to listen to people and I
can guarantee you People in here you can
tell that when you're talking to somebody if
they're listening to you or they're not Right,
like there's very obvious signs of a person
listening to you There will be things that
you say that they will bring up later
and be like, yeah I remember you mentioned
that you're like, whoa, you were paying attention
to that moment and they'll catch you off
guard But then you can be talking to
a person who's not listening to you can
say all the words in the world And
then after you're done speaking, it's as though
they learn nothing.
They heard nothing, right?
There's a huge huge component of being a
beautiful listener in Islam You can only be
a as good of a Muslim as much
as you listen to the people around you
to learn from the people Around you so
Ibn Abbas.
He said when you go into a circle
Don't just insert yourself listen to people and
then when you are asked speak When somebody
asks you to speak then you speak you
don't speak out of turn you speak with
permission You speak by saying, you know, hey,
can I can I can I can I
share something here?
That's the etiquette of a Muslim and then
he says Beware of poetry and rhyming in
your dua for verily I encountered the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his companions avoiding
this and so this aligns with the Advice
that we gave now number two Transgression in
one's dua now, what does this mean?
Okay, the main thing that I want everyone
to focus on here is this particular verse
Allah says our rules are up He says
a do-ro Rubber-*-toe the rule
and well Hope you attend in who la
you have one more attendee that make your
dua to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala with humility
and in secrecy Don't make your duos public
again protect that sincerity that you have Verily
in the hula you have one more attendee
that verily he does not like those who
transgress now What does it mean to transgress
the first thing of?
transgression in a person's dua is asking for
things that are not allowed in Islam a
Person cannot ask Allah for something that Allah
has forbidden for them Okay, and and and
I'm gonna give you guys like a like
a little bit of an example and some
people may Google at this Right.
I I had a person and again, there's
this is a safe space I don't want
to you know Create an environment where people
start to kind of question and judge one
another but I'm sharing this example for the
ease of everyone Understanding this point.
I remember one time a person asked me
and this is a serious conversation This person
asked me he was like, I really want
to marry this girl and I said, okay
That's you know good intention, right, you know,
what are you doing to kind of work
in that in that in that journey?
And he was like, oh, yeah You know
I'm trying to talk to her parents and
I'm trying to kind of make sure that
I do things the right way But like
is it wrong of me to like make
dua that like I get to spend time
with her before like And I and I
told him to pause for a second I
was like, well all the good work that
you're doing it It's being it's being questioned
with a dua like that Because you can't
make dua to Allah who's supposed to give
you something that's completely pure and beautiful and
you ask him for something That Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala would be displeased with it's like
asking Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala You know, hey
Allah, you know allow me to Delay my
prayer.
No, no We don't ask those things why
because we know that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
would not be pleased with those things And
so he says here it is the height
of transgression to demand from your Creator those
things that he has prohibited for you Either
in this life or in the life after
in the life hereafter a common question.
That's very interesting I'm gonna see if anyone
kind of like relates to this a common
question is the people that I dislike in
this dunya Can I not see them in
the akhirah?
They add there's a very common question amongst
Muslims, right?
Like yeah, you know like this person like
I've dealt with them for decades in the
dunya Like when I get to Jannah inshallah,
I was like first inshallah I was like
like inshallah when I get to Jannah Like
do I have to like can I like
can I like, you know just not have
them around me and the first thing I
said to this person is all of the
Bad feelings that you have towards this person.
It's not gonna exist in akhirah.
I Know it's hard for you to imagine
this because we live in such a limited
mind in this dunya We we feel emotions
of hate and anger and you know Irritability
and all these different things that are common
in dunya But in the akhirah the people
who annoyed you in the dunya will not
annoy you anymore If Allah has forgiven that
person and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala has forgiven
you Then you will be with this person
in the akhirah Obviously, you may not have
to be best friends, but you will not
be bothered by one another like you are
in this dunya So don't ask Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala.
Oh Allah, you know, like I don't want
that person to be there when I'm there,
right?
I mean, this is this is not of
the etiquettes of people who are who claim
to be believers I mean the believer is
a person who a Even if they even
if they choose to kind of like not
be close to somebody in the dunya But
again ask Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala to forgive
them How beautiful is it a person who's
been harmed by another person?
But they have the heart and the soul
to ask Allah for forgiveness for that person
Like I know that this person wronged me,
but Allah forgive them Imagine the udger that
a person will get if they can make
dua for a person that they technically quote
-unquote dislike What what an incredible thing the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Right people used
to actually almost question this dua of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was
in early Mecca the Prophet made a famous
dua that He actually benefited from later on
in his life in the Latin in the
second stage of the Meccan seerah Which is
he made dua.
Oh Allah strengthen Islam with one of the
two Umars Who are the two Umars?
One was Abu Jahl.
Okay, and the other was Umar Ibn Al
-Khattab These were the two Umars because Abu
Jahl's real name was Umar And so the
Prophet made dua and at that point both
of these Umars Abu Jahl and Umar Ibn
Al-Khattab were both very very huge opposers
of Islam and So when the companions that
were Muslim at that time They used to
find the Prophet making dua for these two
people that they really disliked they would be
like why?
Why are you making dua for something like
that?
Why are you making dua for this?
And the Prophet says when he says you
have no idea we want these people to
be a part of our ummah We're not
an exclusive ummah We don't we never bask
and and and and and be and are
happy and are elated at the at the
removal of certain people No, we want these
people to be guided by it by Allah
There are certain people who we may look
at now and we're like wow I really
don't like them, but imagine if you know
subhanAllah if they experience some more prophetic Character
an example in their life perhaps they would
have turned whatever you disliked into something that
is of benefit to the ummah, right?
We never know so never make dua for
someone to be removed or to be you
know taken away, right?
We don't we don't make dua for things
like that And so he says a person
should realize his place and status in front
of his Creator and beware of exalting himself
to where he Thinks that he is above
his fellow creation again This is a form
of arrogance and is allowed to do what
they are prohibited doing prohibited from doing so
He gives the example of a dua that
was made in the Quran So we'll kind
of fast-forward through some of these are
a little bit hard to understand But inshallah
if anybody has any questions about them, please
come to me after class Number three is
not expecting a response.
Now.
This is powerful He says although this has
been discussed to a certain degree in the
etiquette of dua Because of its importance it
needs to be reiterated Too many people expect
that Allah will not respond to their dua
and it is possible that the only reason
that their dua is not responded to is
because of their presumption of Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala and I quoted this before that there's
a very famous statement of Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala that says I am as my servant
thinks of me if You have hope in
Allah.
Allah will deliver what you want or what
you need from him if You have confidence
if you have yaqeen if you have conviction
Allah will be there for you.
Allah will be there for you.
Do not doubt Allah It's like asking somebody
for a favor and at the end of
that favor.
You're like, yeah, I'm not gonna do this
for me.
Anyway The person who you're asking that favor
for is gonna be like wow Okay, like
you clearly like don't have any faith in
me whatsoever And not saying that Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala will treat it like another person
because Allah is not like creation but that
same etiquette exists and That if you want
from Allah, you cannot have Hopelessness in Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala.
You continue to hope in Allah subhanahu wa'ta
'ala no matter how long it takes, right?
Allah may be keeping something away from you
because it's better for you to be kept
away from it and You're sitting here and
thinking that yeah, you know what like I
think in my mind I've made kind of
this equation up in my head that it
would make sense for me to have it
right now But Allah knows in his infinite
wisdom that this would be extremely harmful for
you I've talked to literally and you guys
will like find this fascinating I've talked to
like elders in the community who come and
they're like I have a lot of regrets
in my life And so I asked what
are some of the records that you have
and they're like, yeah Well, I never got
to pursue my passion and I never got
to like fulfill my dreams in my career
and whatnot I you know, I took like
a kind of like a regular job and
kind of went through the motions and I'm
like well How's your family?
Like yeah, my family is good Are doing
this and doing that and you know, I'm
a Duke are your kids Muslim like do
they pray?
Do they keep in touch with you?
Do they care for you?
He's like, yeah, everything's good.
And I said, well, I can I can
I share something with you?
I said what if Allah gave you what
you wanted and another part of your life
was completely the opposite of what it is
today Like you got to become that career
that you that you wanted to pursue you
weren't you got you got that dream that
you wanted But none of your kids really
kept kept up with you.
None of your kids prayed None of your
kids had any love for Allah.
What if is because that you were a
more of like a low-key Down-to
-earth person that Allah gave you so much
more Baraka in your life, right?
So this is something that's extremely beautiful.
Don't be a person who thinks like oh,
you know, it's a I don't I don't
know about this No, no, no ask that
do I would convict and make that do
I with conviction?
Yakin with istiqamah, right make that do I
as though Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala, you know
that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala will answer you.
Okay, so Here he continues and he says
there was a very Amazing person Sufyan bin
Uyayna who said when he said let none
of you think that his dua Will not
be answered because of their sins that he
knows of himself.
Indeed Allah responded to the dua of the
worst of creation Iblis May Allah curse him
when he said قَالَ رَبِّ فَأَنذِرْنِي إِلَى يَوْمَ
يُبْعَثُونَ قَالَ فَإِنَّكَ مِنَ الْمُنظَرِينَ So Iblis asked
Allah for permission to give him a long
life To try and distract human beings and
Sufyan bin Uyayna he's saying that Allah gave
Iblis permission From his dua if Allah gives
Shaitaan permission in his dua Who do you
think you are?
Are you calling yourself worse than Shaitaan?
I seek refuge with Allah, hopefully not So
don't think that you're ever Your duas are
not heard by Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala Don't
ever convince yourself that I'm such a bad
Muslim that there's no point in me making
dua Because that's not how Allah feels about
you That's not how Allah sees you That's
sometimes how we see ourselves That I made
this mistake and it's so large it's so
looming that there's no point in me making
dua anymore That's never gonna be the case
That's never gonna be the case the story
of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam of
the men who killed a hundred people He
killed a hundred people and he went to
a sheikh and he said tell me what
to do with my life And he said
I want you to go and I want
you to travel and get away from this
place You've had one too many bad memories.
This is literally PTSD in a hadith Because
you had one too many bad memories here
you committed one too many crimes in this
area So I want you to go and
start fresh somewhere else in the middle of
that person's journey he passed away and so
the hadith mentions that the angels of mercy
and the angels of punishment they came down
trying to claim his soul and each of
them said no he belongs with us and
the other said no he belongs with us
and The hadith it mentions that an arbitrator
of them said well, let's see if he's
closer to his His you know departure Location
then he'll be taken as a person of
punishment and if he's closer to his destination
Then he'll be taken as a person who's
forgiven and the hadith mentions that Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala shifted the earth Shifted the earth
for him so that he would be closer
to his destination So that he was a
person that was forgiven completely by Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala Imagine that Imagine that I mean
if a person like that can be forgiven
for doing things that were so appalling What
type of person are we to think that
oh some of my mistakes are too large
that there's no point in making dua and
Asking Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala for forgiveness These
are all things that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
is not only capable of but Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala loves to forgive those Especially those
who have mistakes People who have mistakes that
go to Allah It is a beloved scenario
for Allah Allah wants you to go up
to him when you feel broken Allah wants
you to go up to him when you
feel shattered Allah wants you to go up
to him when you feel like you have
no one else to turn to Wa may
yattaqillaha yaja'allahu makhraja That when you think
that you have no one else on your
side You turn to Allah and Allah will
find you an exit from whatever situation that
you find yourself in Wa yarzukhu min haythu
la yahtasib From places that you thought were
unimaginable Places that you thought were not even
there in the first place I always give
the analogy that a believer when they turn
to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala With all of
their mistakes all of their sins all of
their shortcomings, and they see a dead end
ahead of them They don't see anything.
They don't see doors or windows, but they're
looking straight ahead when they call to Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala Allah reminds them that they
can climb up You always had that option,
but without Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala in your
heart and in your mind.
You never knew to look up You just
thought that there was one road to go,
but Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala reminded you that
there's another way But you must have Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala in the heart and the
mind in order to appreciate and understand that
Number four the scholars they say to avoid
Praying for only matters of the dunya So
every dua that somebody makes add a little
bit of akhira within that dua It proves
that you're not a person of dunya It
proves that you're not attached to the dunya
at the end of the day.
Yes, I live here I live in this
world that Allah has given me temporarily, but
my heart does not desire to be here
forever and My duas reflect that Every dua
that I make even if it's for dunya
things Allah give me a good job Allah
allow me to you know get this degree
or Allah allow me to marry this person
Allah allow me to do this or move
there be with this friend a Part of
your dua should also reflect that you're interested
in not only the dunya aspect of what
you're asking for But also the akhira aspect
of what you're asking for.
How do you do that?
Oh Allah allow me to be close to
this person not only in this dunya, but
also in the akhira Oh Allah allow my
home in this life to be here.
I love this place Allah allowed this this
this This you know when I when I
applied for this apartment or I put in
a down payment for this house Allah allow
me to achieve and get this house or
this apartment, but Allah allow my home the
akhira to be even more beautiful Allah allow
me to get this job But also at
the same time ya Allah allowed this job
to be something that's pleasing to you Allowed
this job to be something that I can
take care of my family with I Can
send some money to my parents?
How many of us have been thinking about
stuff like that right like I want to
grow up and for the first time you're
now In a demographic where you're starting to
think of less of a consumer and more
of a giver.
I Know we're at the stage now me
and my siblings.
We're at the stage now where we're talking
about our parents Like what are we gonna
do?
How are we gonna take care of them?
What what situation do we want to put
them in where they're they're the most comfortable
and they're the least stressed These are ways
to make your do on something that's not
only dunya, but also akhira and Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'ala He mentions this in the Quran.
He says feminine nasi man.
Ya cool.
Oh, Rob.
Ben.
I had enough a dunya Well, man, I
who fill akhira tea Min khalaq he says
that there are people in the dunya who
will say oh Allah give us this and
this and this in this life And they
have no share in the akhira Because all
they do is they make dua for the
dunya.
Oh Allah.
Give me this car.
Oh Allah.
Give me that Give me that shirt.
Oh Allah.
Give me this job.
Oh Allah.
Give me this thing.
Give me that thing Oh Allah, allow me
to go to this place in that place
Oh Allah, allow me to travel allow that
ticket to be available still so it doesn't
get sold out like all these things They're
fine.
This isn't against making dua, but then Allah
he says Women whom many a cool.
Oh, Rob.
Ben.
I had enough a dunya hasana What feel
akhira tea hasana what can I either been
are?
Oh, la ikala home no seabun mimma casabu
wallahu sari al-hisab He says but then
there are people who will say oh Allah
give us the best of this life and
the best of the hereafter And save us
from the fire He says oh la ikala
home These are the people who will have
a share of what they earned and Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'ala is swift with his accounting
his Meaning like you know when you ask
Allah Like remember always remember the end goal
dua is not something that's limited to the
dunya Dua is something actually that is meant
for the akhira and Allah has extended that
gift to benefit you here in this life
right now Okay We can gloss over this
is a little bit easier to understand improper
names and attributes of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala
This is decently simple.
He makes a couple of kind of in
my opinion comical points He goes likewise if
a person is asking for forgiveness.
He should not call out the attributes of
Allah Shadid al-Iqab That's a no-brainer.
I ask you for mercy severe and punishment,
okay?
so then he says Do not make dua
to expedite punishment now.
What does this mean?
He says that Anas Ibn Malik narrated that
the Prophet once visited a sick person who
had become so thin that he was almost
like a newborn Like animal and the Prophet
asked him did you make any dua or
ask Allah for anything?
and he said yes, I used to say
whatever punishments are in store for me in
the hereafter give it to me in this
world and The Prophet Salaam corrected him and
he said subhanallah.
You will never be able to bear that
Why would you say that you should in
fact say?
Oh Allah Give us the best of this
world and the best of the hereafter What
can I other than not and protect us
from the punishment of the hellfire?
So it's actually not of the etiquette of
a person to say Allow me to avoid
the punishment of the hereafter by receiving punishment
in this in this life a lot of
people I can see how it Can like
turn into like oh, that's like it's like
a super like woke spiritual person, right?
Like they're asking a lot to free them
of the punishment of Jahannam And so they'll
get the punishment of this life rather Ask
Allah for the best of this life and
the best of hereafter You know a really
good example of this by the way, how
many of y'all are familiar with the
story of Yusuf?
I said I'm Generally, okay.
So there's a portion of Yusuf story I
don't know how many people remember this but
there's a person there's a portion of Yusuf
story where he basically was Almost like he
was he was the victim of an attempt
of like seduction by this woman that he
used to almost like look at as like
a mother figure and she basically said that
you know, I'm gonna call all of the
aunties of the community over and And we're
all and and and the Quran literally goes
like they were all cutting fruits one day
and Yusuf alayhi salam He walked into the
room and they began to cut their own
hands because of the beauty of Yusuf alayhi
salam Which is insane to think about right
like try to get on that level, right?
There's like some people named Yusuf here They're
like I'm almost there But you know Like
they literally they were there were there were
literally were so distracted by his beauty Alayhi
salam that they began to cut their own
hands and they didn't even notice it and
so because of this Zulaikha the wife of
the The the ruler at that time she
looks at him and she says you see
this is the person that you judged me
about How can you judge me?
I I advanced towards him and now look
at you You're cutting your own hands because
of his beauty So all of them made
this plot to go and try and seduce
Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam and Yusuf alayhi salam
He made a dua at that point and
it's in the Quran.
He says Oh Allah allow the prison to
me to be more appealing to me than
what they call me to and It's a
very famous verse in Surah Yusuf He says
Oh Allah allow the prison to be more
attractive to me or to be more appealing
to me than the Haram that they're trying
to invite me to and Everyone knows that
the outcome of that dua is that Prophet
Yusuf was put in prison Technically Allah gave
him what he asked for.
So there was a commentator of Quran who
said that if Yusuf alayhi salam had asked
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala To give him a
way out of the prison and also a
way out of that situation Allah is so
merciful.
Perhaps he would have actually given him a
way out of both scenarios but because Yusuf
asked for the prison or he said beautify
the prison for me more than what they
call me to Allah gave him the prison
Now, of course, there's an element of qadr
Allah in there No matter what would have
happened Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala would have given
him what was already predestined for him But
this is a powerful lesson that proves to
us that you if a person asks for
something from Allah Allah will give it to
that person if it's the best, you know,
if it's for the best for that person
so if you find yourself in a tough
situation don't just say Oh Allah allow me
allow my Sins to be expiated and allow
me to avoid punishment in the hereafter and
give me all the punishment in the dunya
Don't ask for that.
Ask Allah for forgiveness for everything because this
is a reflection of how you see Allah
because a person who says Allah give me
the punishment in this dunya is like saying
that Allah has to punish you some way
or the other Allah does not have to
do anything Allah does not have to punish
you in the afterlife or in this life
Allah can forgive you in this life if
he wants to so you have to ask
for it Okay, so a very very beautiful
point the next couple ones inshallah are not
too difficult to understand He says the dua
against oneself and one family inshallah Hopefully no
one makes dua against themselves or their family.
If you do, please come to me and
we'll talk privately Number eight.
This is important to curse someone.
This is powerful to curse someone It is
not the character of a Muslim to curse
others the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He
said that a Muslim is not given to
harming others or cursing them or being vulgar
or being obscene Once the companions were whipping
an individual that had committed or had been
caught drinking wine or alcohol and Omar ibn
al-khattab out of his anger.
He cursed this man and hearing this the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He said don't
say that do not help shaitan against this
person Do not help shaitan against this person
and the author he says what character and
nobility even in such a severe Circumstance the
punishment for drinking intoxicants is that a person
be whipped for a certain number of times
yet Even while inflicting this punishment it is
not allowed to curse or harm in any
other manner That a person is not allowed
to curse somebody as a Muslim Don't curse
somebody as a Muslim and what I will
almost parrot this as is don't allow your
anger to get the best of you in
your duas Don't allow your anger to get
the best of you in your duas Don't
allow yourself to say Oh Allah curse this
person curse that person There was a famous
story of Abu Bakr and Umar when they
one time got into an argument with one
another And they got into an argument with
one another and by the way This shows
you kind of like how close of friends
they were and by the way It shows
the humanity of the companions radiallahu anhum right
like we always sometimes think to ourselves that
oh, you know These people they never got
angry.
They never got they never got upset.
No.
No, they got angry.
They got upset at times This is the
humanity of people right?
So I'm gonna Abu Bakr.
They were arguing with one another.
Okay, and Abu Bakr said something to Omar.
Okay that Omar radiallahu anhum took offense to
and So I'm gonna be hot Bob He
makes a statement to Abu Bakr and he
says yeah, I'll be Bakr.
I'm going to take this to the day
of judgment It's a very heavy statement.
All right And so Abu Bakr got like
and by the way, he's a soft-hearted
man very soft-hearted man He's bothered by
that right?
Like some of us were like if someone
tells us that it takes me to do
it We're like, all right, cool.
Sounds good.
See you there slugger You're like no, no,
like I'm not like Abu Bakr was like
he was a very God conscious person He
got bothered by that.
He got very quiet And so the Prophet
saw something he noticed the demeanor change of
Abu Bakr over the next couple of days
And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He says yeah Abu Bakr.
What's wrong?
Because like yeah, I know snitch like I'm
not gonna I don't want I don't want
to say it I don't want to say
it.
And so the Prophet says no.
No, I insist What is bothering you Abu
Bakr?
And this is how by the way Abu
Bakr was a prophets.
What?
Was father-in-law He was his father
-in-law.
He was married to Aisha Abu Bakr's daughter
Like this is family man.
Like this is a family thing here So
he goes he goes yeah, I'll be back
here.
Like what is what's bothering you so much
like if you're hurting I'm hurting and Abu
Bakr like relentlessly He said Me and I'm
gonna go into an argument the other day
and he told me something that really scared
me and the Prophet says Tell me what
he said.
He said that he's going to take whatever
I said to him to the Day of
Judgment And like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam he was like, okay he gets up
walks over to Amr ibn Khattab and he
says yeah Amr and Amr looks at the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he says
Are you sure you want to be the
person that's gonna separate me and Abu Bakr
on the Day of Judgment and Amr ibn
Khattab the narration says that he was so
scared by that statement He was so terrified
by that statement of the Prophet that he
ran to Abu Bakr and he said I
forgive you for everything You've ever done in
your life.
And if you ever do anything to me
ever again, just know it's already been forgiven
by me He goes I do not want
to feel that wrath ever again in my
life What he just told me do I
want to be the one responsible for separating
you and him on the Day of Judgment?
no, I do not want to be the
one and This is why by the way,
you know, there's a really special Beautiful like
almost like an imagery type of hadith that
later on happens the Prophet's life And again
this proves to you how close these three
were the Prophet Abu Bakr and Amr One
time they were walking into the masjid in
Medina and they were holding arms like they
were like locked in arms like that Um,
I was it looks strange to like an
American context But let me you go overseas
and you see like dudes holding hands all
the time in the haram Like it's like
there's walking with each other And so the
Prophet Amr Abu Bakr they were holding like
they're locking arms together and walking to the
masjid for salah one day And all the
companions were just kind of like daydreaming looking
at them They're like wow, like it's like
it's like iconic man, you know, like that
scene is iconic I wish like now I
wish I could like a I like Photoshop
myself right in between like right there, you
know Nobody would know But and so they
walked in and the Prophet says he noticed
that some of the other companions were looking
at them with like this Kind of like
beauty.
They're like almost like like nicely jealous of
them and the Prophet says when he looks
at me He says the way that we're
walking together in this life will be the
same way that we walk together in Jannah
He says it's about each other So imagine
like, you know, subhanAllah this friendship is something
between these three that Really withstood the test
of time wallahi, and it's something that subhanAllah
and you see to this day When you
go to Medina when you go to Medina
Where are these three buried one two and
three the Prophet is buried on the left
Abu Bakr is right next to him and
Amr Abu Khattab is right next to him
The way that we live in this dunya
with our friends and our companions is very
reflective of the way that we'll live with
them in the akhira Ask yourself what type
of friend we are right inshallah We'll end
with that There's a couple of more that
I wanted to share with you guys but
inshallah ta'ala we can inshallah probably wrap
up here and And and continue on next
week and one thing that I'd like to
share here as well You know There's a
couple of advices of the Prophets when he
shared about you know Making sure that you
don't let your anger get to the best
of you and especially in your state of
worship and dua He said, you know people
used to curse the wind at that time
and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He
said, you know Don't ever curse the wind
because the wind is a helper of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala It brings his mercy
and his punishment.
So when you see it, do not curse
it And then he says even don't curse
the rooster, right?
I mean like how many of y'all
have cats in here, right?
They wake you up for fajr like 40
minutes early every single morning, right?
They're asking for food, but you wake up
and alhamdulillah you end up praying So the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would say
to his companions like don't even curse the
rooster But for it wakes people up for
fajr It wakes people up for tahajjud.
It wakes people up for qiyam al-layl
Like don't don't don't be angry at things
like that.
Like live a life.
That's not led by anger Anger destroys things
like fire destroys wood.
Do not allow anger to take over your
life There were so many examples of the
companions not letting their anger get to the
best of them And this is why when
they made dua they would make dua with
the clearest of minds and the clearest of
hearts They would never hold grudges against people
Ali ibn Abi Tarib would forgive people in
the middle of the battlefield There were literally
people who he used to be fighting There's
a story of a man He was fighting
one time and he had him on the
ground and the guy he had on the
ground spat in his face and Ali radiyallahu
anhu says He like stopped himself and the
guy is like literally like waiting to die
He said why'd you stop?
He goes because right now if I were
to kill you I would kill you because
you did something to me that was personal
I'm, not going to kill you like that.
He left him.
He goes somebody else can do it I
don't want to do this in a state
of anger the men who urinated in the
corner of the prophet's masjid The prophet said
don't don't attack him Don't harm him.
Why?
Because we are not people who act in
a state of anger.
That's not what we do.
That's not who we are We never act
from emotions like that, okay So inshallah what
we'll do next, uh Next thursday, we will
finish up with these last few points Uh,
some of them are beautiful to limit the
mercy of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Uh,
and then he says, uh to pray for
certain things particularly are discouraged.
He talks a little bit about over here.
You can see Uh dua for evil or
hastiness in dua will cover that Um to
imply that that one will not ask anything
else After they ask I mean, this is
something that's actually kind of i'll preview this
one.
This is interesting here.
He says, um That a person says something
like oh if allah you give this to
me, i'll never ask for anything ever again
And it's it's so incredible.
I see the smiles breaking across the the
audience right now But subhanallah think about how
many times we get caught in this right
allah if you give me this I will
never ask for anything ever again And and
that's not something that's within the etiquettes of
a person who makes dua why because giving
even the most Incredibly vast and luxurious thing
to allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is like
nothing It's like nothing.
So why would you say to allah?
Oh allah after I asked I'm never going
to ask anything else from you ever again
Every single creation of allah can go to
jannah and allah will not even be afflicted
by one small piece of his mercy So
don't think that oh, there's like limitations to
what I can ask allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala for and then inshallah We'll continue on
and there's a couple more of these and
we'll um, we'll wrap up with this next
week.
Okay