Sadullah Khan – Developing a Qur’anic Personality To be and What not to be. #12
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The speaker discusses the importance of not being gouged by bad behavior and not repeating negative things. They also emphasize the danger of g workplace behavior and the importance of being cautious when sharing negative information. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of asking oneself 4 questions before making negative comments.
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Developing the Quran personality to be and what
not to be.
The prophet
said that Allah dislikes certain things and he
mentioned in the hadith,
and among the things that Allah dislikes,
He said, she said, in other words,
telltailing
or gossiping.
And
by when we say gossiping,
which may cause dissension, which may cause hurt,
which may cause humiliation,
which may cause a denigration of another.
And the Quran refers to those who indulge
in such acts,
such diabolical act of
Despicable and slanderous,
preventers of good, and sinfully aggressive.
Some people have a tendency to repeat
everything they hear.
And repeating everything you hear, just because you
heard it, you repeat
it, or you receive a WhatsApp and you
forward it, or a tweet and you just
forward
it, specifically if it's negative.
This is a sign of bad character.
Character.
Sufficient is the sign
and a proof
of you being unreliable.
Sufficient is the sign of you being
unreliable.
In fact, the hadith says, sufficient is the
sign that you're a liar, that you repeat
everything you hear.
So therefore, the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
dissuaded us
from this kind of behavior. In fact, he
said,
He said, the worst servants of Allah are
those who carry gossip,
and by that way separating
loved ones because of the gossip
and causing
harm to innocent people.
There's an incident where a man went to
the sheikh, and he said, sheikh, I have
a habit of gossiping, of carrying tails.
What can I do? How can I get
away from this? How can I get rid
of this bad habit? And the sheikh gave
him a bag of
feathers, and the sheikh said, do me a
favor. Carry this bag with you all the
time. Whenever you do it and you remember
you've done gossip, take a handful of feathers
and throw it out. And then ask Tova.
And he did it for a couple of
times, and the sheikh said, come back to
me when you stop it. So after a
while, he came back to the sheikh and
said,
my bag isn't empty yet. It's almost empty.
But you know what? For the past week,
I didn't gossip at all. Sheikh, am I
okay now? Have I recovered? Is it okay?
And I made over every time I did
it when I drew the feathers. The sheikh
said, yes, you've made over, and you stopped
the deed.
But
the meditation resolved yet.
Can you get me the feathers back? He
said, no, Sheikh. It's over a couple of
weeks now. I threw the feathers. They scattered
all over the show. He said, it's gossip.
Though you've repented,
the gossip and negative things you said about
people is all over the shore. And though
you have repented, you can never get it
back. So sometimes,
you repent of a sin, but the damage
is done.
Sometimes, that's why gossip is worse than maybe
stealing. If I steal, I give your money
back. But gossip?
I don't know who you told it to.
And everyone knows about it, and it's not
even true. You cannot retract it. That's why
it's so dangerous
and so condemned in Islam. Slanderous, the Quran
referred to is as preventers of good and
sinfully aggressive.
And therefore,
Rasulullah
distinctly distanced himself from any form
of gossiping and tail tating. That's why he
said,
The envious people and those who gossip, I've
got nothing to do with them. They're not
part of me, and I'm not part of
them.
The dishonest people, the unjust and oppressive people,
and those who carry tales. He said, why?
He
said,
Because the one
who is,
you know, carrying tales for example, deceives
you. The one who deceives you or deceives
for you or on behalf of you will
deceive you someday. The one who oppresses people
on your behalf
1 who does wrong to other people because
of you will someday do wrong to you.
And if he gossips on your behalf to
other people or says things bad about other
people to you, he may say bad things
to to other people about you. Imam Shafi
kept it very beautiful.
Be very careful who tells you bad things
about other people.
Be rest assured he tell other people bad
things about
Because the gossamer is like this, he'll say
good things and praise you
so much when he's in good books with
you. He'll say things about you so good
which may not even be true. And when
he's angry with you, he'll say lies about
you also which are not true. And, therefore,
be very careful what we say and why
we say what we say. An old Sufi
tradition which says before you speak,
ask yourself 4 questions.
What I'm about to say, are these words
true?
Are these words kind?
Are these words necessary?
Are they beneficial?
If the answer to any of these questions
is no, then rather don't say anything. May
Allah grant
that we never never be of those who
gossip. Rather, say something good or rather remain
silent.