Sadullah Khan – 24th Post Witr Talk Ramadaan 1444 2023
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The speaker discusses a disturbing incident in their family where a woman killed her own mother while young children were born. The woman killed herself while on her way to her fourth birthday, and later killed herself and her mother while on her way to her seventh birthday. The speaker emphasizes the importance of rewarding parents and thanking them for their support.
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Moral guidance for everyday experiences.
There is a heart rendering incident
that relates to situations in our contemporary
society.
And, this
is a neglect
of aged parents.
It's not uncommon in our days to find
this
as part of the reality in some families.
A particular incident,
a frail old lady.
Had a hard life.
Working as a janitor.
Coming from a poor family.
Married a man who was a night guard,
a watchman.
And they only had one son.
Though they lived a poor life,
nonetheless, they saved whatever pennies they could
and
made sure that their only child, their son,
got the best education
and eventually
got a good job.
They stayed in the house which they had
rented all the years, the outhouse.
But then the old man passed away
And the old lady went to live with
her son, his wife, and by that time,
a 4 year old boy that he had.
So years of hard life had weakened her.
Her sight was not too good.
Her hands were trembling.
She would occasionally when she eat drop the
spoon or drop a fork out of her
hand and sometimes knock over the plate
or spill the soup or something on the
table.
And. The young couple were quite irritated by
this sometimes. And on one particular occasion
they had some guests.
And of course, the old lady unfortunately,
knocked over the soup and it broke
and she dropped the spoon or the fork.
And after the friends left, they told her,
mom, you're overdoing this. It's just getting all
the time.
So we're rather gonna put you one side
and you eat on the table. And you
know what? Breaking all the the
the crockery and the the plates, you rather
have a wooden bowl and you eat from
that, so it doesn't break.
And then from that time onwards, the old
lady was sitting on the side on the
side table eating from the wooden bowl.
She tried not to spill anything, but now
and then she still dropped her fork and
the 4 year old boy would go and
pick up the fork or the spoon and
say, here grandma, here's your spoon.
When he came to the boy's 5th birthday
now,
he told his parents they always buy him
a toy for his birthday and he told
his parents don't buy me a toy rather
give me R50.
I said okay.
At the evening of his birthday and they
asked him, so what gift did you buy
yourself?
He said, no mom and dad I bought
something for you.
And he went to fetch a packet and
in the packet
were 2 wooden bowls.
So they asked him,
why did you buy this?
He said, mom and dad, someday you too
will be old and you too will drop
the ball so I bought it for you
now so when you're old you use it.
See how often
we forget the trials that both parents go
through in bringing up,
bringing us up, in particular the mother.
Consider the case of our beloved prophet Muhammad
He lost his mother,
of course, father before he was born. Mother
at the age of 6, Halima to Sadia
took care of him, Umayman took care of
him. But then his grandfather, he lived with
him for 2 years, and the grandfather, Abdul
Muttalib,
passed away.
And then he stayed with the son of
Abdul Muttalib, Abu Talib,
and his wife
whose name was Fatima Fatima Binti. I said,
He lived with Abu Talib who was his
father's brother.
And he went to live with them.
And
when
Fatima
Binti Asad passed away, the mother of Sayid
Ali, the wife of Abu Talib,
what the prophet said
by her head when she had laid there
in her last moments or when she passed
away
is a tribute to how people appreciate parents
particularly the mother.
It's not his his real mother, of course.
He he lost his mother very young. But
the appreciation that he showed to someone who
cared for him, He said the following words.
They document this in the in the books
of
of
May Allah have mercy on you, my mother.
You were like my mother after my mother.
He said when I was hungry, you fed
me to my food
while you yourself remain hungry at times.
You clothed me with the best of clothing
that you could find and afford,
Adorning me and denied yourself
to look good.
And, you filled all my needs
despite you are not being able to see
to your own needs at times.
You see, this is an appreciation, a tribute
of the prophet
as he is speaking on behalf of us
to our mothers.
How does one ever compensate
a parent and more particularly the mother?
An incident which I want to conclude with,
son of Said Na'amur, the second caliph, Radi
Allah 1.
After the time of Rasulullah,
they say,
He was carrying his mother
on his back as he made the waf.
And he said, I am like a humble
camel, you know, a humble ride carrying my
mother.
And perchance, the man did the whole Hajj
with his mother on his back, but he
was now doing the tawaf.
And when he finished
that, he turned to Abdul Abi Umar, a
companion of Rasulullah
you, Umar. Do you think I have repaid
my mother
for what she has done for me?
So Omar said, not even for the first
push when she gave birth to you.
Have not even paid her for the first
push she gave or for any she fell
during her pregnancy.
And Allah reminds us in the holy Quran.
What was saying
Allah has enjoined upon you, made it he
advises us and guides us and commands us
to be good and appreciative of our parents.
Your mother in particular, she bore you within
herself and you she was the one who
you're solely dependent upon for 2 years.
With hardship, with pains, with difficulty, with anxiety,
denying herself.
For 2 years.
When you are thankful, be thankful to me
and to your parents.