Riad Ouarzazi – Homemade Happiness #5 – The Father the Friend
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The speakers emphasize the importance of parenting children during the pandemic, emphasizing the responsibility of the father to care for their children and the need for personal commitment. They also discuss topics related to Islam, including the father, friend, and mother of a child who is missing out on their children, and the mother who takes them to work and is sharing tools. The importance of sharing past mistakes with their children and allowing them to learn from them is emphasized, along with the importance of being a father and friend.
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But anyways, those of you who have just joined this is rather zazzy Episode Number Five of homemade happiness homemade happiness and today inshallah tada we're going to be with stiff the father and I call it the father the friends the father the friend call your parents call your father is God your father's because today will be the last episode talking about the father's because tomorrow shallow data we'll be talking about the moms, the mothers. All right. So just give a minute or two a lot more people to join in Sharla so that we can officially start our thing up. How's everyone doing you guys?
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homemade happiness. Yes. Consider law. Great, great and Charlotte, I didn't get to be a dad. If you're not dead already. You're gonna be dead very soon, inshallah. Listening with the wife listening with the husbands listening with the dads listening with the moms. Yes, this is it. This series. We started just a couple of weeks ago, and this is episode number five. Already. It's going fast. And I anticipate this to be
another maybe I'll have maybe 20 more sessions. 30 more sessions. Remember what happened with the end of time, right? The End of Time work, it was 45 episodes 45 episodes so and then never, you know, anticipated it to be 45 episodes so
so having to rely on any this homemade happiness is another measure a lot of love any successful series. And I hope you're you know, you're taking advantage and benefiting from it. And just so you know, all the sessions are recorded, you know, on Facebook, on YouTube. And I don't know if they in on Instagram, you can keep them only for for a day, I think or so. Anyways, my brothers and sisters that are stuck in shallow data. Now this time.
Yesterday, we talked about the vital role of the fathers. Right the Father, and we talked about you know, three main things about the Father. Number one, the The advice I gave, you know, in that first advice that you know, the children they need you they need, they need, of course they need the Father. And they explained the fact that especially between the age of four to seven, you know, this is especially for boys the age where you know, they're Shazia, their personalities been grafted, and they need they need a man in their life. Right. Second advice was that he could be, you know, preventing himself from a very beautiful near map from a very sweet name up from the last panel of
data, if he's not there for his kids. You know, the fact that I said yesterday, some some kids do have parents, yet they feel that they are orphans. Why because the parents are not there for them, you know, the father is not there for them. So it's even worse than being an orphan when you know that your dad is alive, but he's not like he's not there, you know, always busy doing other things. So and number three, you know the responsibility before Allah subhanho wa Taala right, the responsibility before Allah azza wa jal that Allah azza wa jal will ask us about every you know about our children about Amana. You know, when I said yesterday with regard to the the plant the
seeds that were planted
When the Prophet Mohammed Salah virus in them says that if a man was to plant a seed, right and that sees was to grow, and any animal, any bird that comes in eat from that seed, the man will get until the end of time, the men will get you know the measure of sadaqa and reward from the ocean. So imagine you're not planting the seed you are planting the seed but the seed that you have planted, you know is is a son of Adam, you're planting an incense, you're planting an incense in Santa Ana mankind, you and your daughter or the son, so what kind of rewards you'd be getting Allahu Akbar. And they also mentioned you know,
the the blessing of having daughters remember yesterday when I mentioned the blessing of having daughters, you know from three daughters to even one daughter and she will be the main man and my Salah she will be on your right and left in the Day of Judgment preventing you from entering Hellfire and leading you to Jenna inshallah, Tada. And somehow Allah the prophet of Assam said, this a hadith at the time where people just came up from, from from J helia. And, you know, enjoy here, they used to bury their daughters a life, they used to better than others alive. And here comes the Prophet Mohammed to change that mentality to change that concept of change that, that, that somehow
by that act of Jay helia, you know, you people used to kill your children alive, your daughter's alive in STEM comes and tells us, if you were to get three daughters, you know, they'll be there pave the way for you to shut and even if you get one daughter, she will be you know, in your right and left in the Day of Judgment preventing you from entering Hellfire and need you to shine. So here comes this concept, you know that the Prophet assassin was changing. And it's the same with regard to girls with regard to women in general, right, with regard to girls. And then we talked, you know, we gave a message to the, to the single moms as well yesterday, because, you know, when we talked
about the importance of, you know, the role of the Father, and then the Father, you know, the mom, she cannot play the lower of the Father and the Father, he cannot play the role of the mom, everybody has their own some handler, their own responsibilities, their own roles, although they both partake into the disciplining of their kids and raising their kids yet, each have or has their own particular, you know, a role that they have to play, and they don't, and they each cannot play the other person's role. So here comes this mom, who's a, you know, single mom, who's divorced. And so we gave her an advice yesterday, you know, and the advice was to find a role model, you know, men
for their, for their, for the kids, you know, lives like maybe her brother, maybe her heard that and poem, maybe, maybe the grandfather, you know, someone who can be in their lives in sha Allah Tada. And as well talk to the persons or the mothers or dads who have lost their loved ones, we give them a message as well, yesterday, so since we're talking still about the father, my brothers and sisters,
I want to finish today inshallah tada talking about the role of the Father, and also that can move to the role of the mom, the mom, and that would be tomorrow, inshallah huhtala. And three more things that I want to talk about, you know, the, with regard to the Father, the Father, the role model.
And that role model is the one who checks upon his kids.
And the Father, the friend,
the Father, the friend, and that is very, very critically important in my lectures today in shallow data, the father and photo, the role model, and the Father, the friend, and for the father role model, three main, you know, some of golden advice I give to every father here, and by the way, I'm talking to myself before I'm talking to anybody here because I'm a dad, I could not be saying things which I do not practice. So whatever I say, you know, whatever I say, I wouldn't be the first one to be held responsible before advisors, if I don't practice it, right. So, number one, you know, the father the the role model, we have three, three advice, golden advice for each father as a role
model, he has for him to be a role model, he has to provide three things or he has to be ready for three things number one, he has to provide time, he has to provide efforts or it make effort and he has to focus and I would explain shallow title, the father the role model or the Father, the friend, he has, you know, three things he needs, he needs to provide time. He needs to provide you know, efforts and make a lot of efforts and that would explain why efforts and number three focus he needs to focus. Number one, when I say about time, the father that you know we need time he needs time he needs to provide time.
We all can claim to be
Busy,
we all can claim to be busy.
And we understand and we do have responsibilities, you know, especially for the fathers who go out and work and provide for the family. Yes, we're busy.
But I mentioned something really important yesterday that you know more than the food that you feed your kids and more than the and more than the the money that you give them, and more than the stuff that you buy them, what they need from you more is they need your time, and they need your affection, psychologically proven,
psychological, psychologically proven, right?
Your children, our children, they need our time more than anything else, and they need our affection and our love, really, more than the food that we feed them. They may not tell you what I would explain today, and then we'll give you some examples. They may not tell you, but inside of them psychologically, if you're not there for them, they grew up with this complex because you are not there for them. They need to be loved. They need that affection. They need to feel like they are loved and they need to hear it.
Because all parents they claim my children, they know that I love them. True. They know but they don't hear it. They need to hear it from you.
It's like some sort of affirmation to that love. So you translate, you know, or you convert those feelings into action. you convert the feeling of love into action, so it becomes affection. Allahu Akbar,
Allahu Akbar, men sometimes I like how I sound.
Sometimes I like how I sound. You know, when you when you translate the feelings of love, into action, the love turns into affection. And that's what Allah subhanho wa Taala needs from us and that's why Allah Subhana Allah, Allah, He calls himself he calls himself and we're Dude, I dude, the most affectionate alpha dude. Because then we're doing you know, the most affectionate, you know, he did not call himself the lover. Love is a feeling love is a feeling.
But unless and until you translate that feeling into action, it remains a feeling so you need to translate it into action. And that action comes in form of hugs in form of touches in form of Karis curses in form of saying beautiful words and telling them how much you love them. So that will turn into something called wood and wood is affection.
So you need to provide them time you need to give them time.
Number one, number two, you need efforts.
How many does the we have here? And I will explain why. As dads we need to make more efforts. We need to make more efforts. How many does I have here?
How many does I have on Facebook and how many does I have on Instagram?
I think you know that that yet? You need to get married man for you to become a dad.
Oh, who's the dad here?
Who's daddy?
Who is a boo here?
Now who is a boo?
Do we have any dads?
Because I want to talk to them.
Do we have any dads here I need to talk to them. So Mia
ideal all right ideal Meza. Camille is a dad. He's not a dad man. He just wants to be dead but he's he's a he's he dreams to be that inshallah tada
No, dabit is a dad. Who's a dad? Most homie COVID is that who's the dad on Facebook?
Got me? Mashallah. 333 he's a dad. I know
he's just joined he's a dad. You're a day isn't that I like your name? destiny destiny your dad no shows me I made is it that
your husband is listening RF is that as if as if is a dad is listening. Abramoff is a dad he's listening Mashallah Sadiq Khan how to be is a dad in his listening. So, your lawyer
your lawyer a Kiko is a dad Mashallah, right. I'm trying to pronounce my brother's from Nigeria his last name right. So.
Okay, so we have that. I said, we need to provide two things we need to provide time and we need to make efforts as dads efforts. Why efforts. Let me tell you
You tell me if I'm right or right. You tell me if I'm right or right. You see the code sounds right. It's okay. No problem. You tell me if I'm right or right.
You see the kids, they love their moms. It's a natural love. Natural natural. Allah Subhana who has made that love, they come out from her womb, they go into their bread into her *, and then she starts suckling them and breastfeeding them.
And feeding them right. So they drank the milk of the Mum, in that milk is filled with love.
Oh, your mom's You're so lucky moms.
Wait until tomorrow and I'm going to be talking about the mums. So they drink milk filled with love.
So regardless of what a mom could do Turkey, they will always love her.
They will not need to make efforts
to love their moms. This is from Allah. This is nonetheless apana data from them from Allah Xhosa. Allah made it happen this way. Right? They come up from there from her womb. Already. They've been there for at least seven to eight to nine months, right? They've been in her womb. She's been feeding them already and looking after them. And they've been kicking and punching and kick in. And for her. It's Ooh, I love it. Oh, look at punching or looked at moving. And Myskina things are changing inside of her. Things are changing, changing chemistry and changing. hormones are changing. So many things are changing yet for her is a kick is like I said, Yes.
That's why I said sometimes I love how I sound. The kick for her is like honey.
Um, imagine if the husbands were pregnant. And then and then they get a kick from their beat from the baby inside the husband who think he's kicking me and he kicks back his bed, you kick in me you kick in your deck, you kick in, you're dead. The how though inequality level? You know, I'm just thinking, right? The mob Myskina the kicking her from inside. And she says, it's like honey, it's like acid.
If the husband was pregnant, you'd be punching back, you kick me your kick you back.
So and then once they come out, once they come out, she puts them under her chest on her chest, right? And they start drinking her milk filled with muhabba filled with muhabba filled with love.
So they don't need to make effort to love their mom. You understand what I'm saying? Here, moms, that's you understand what I'm saying here. They don't need to make efforts to love their moms.
Whereas we dads, we have to make lots of efforts for our kids to love us.
What did you do, man? You just had some fun.
You know, you just had some fun? And then they came out? Right? Yes, you're the dads. And maybe if you're lucky, you made the ad then in their, in their, in their in their ears, so and hamdulillah. Right. You know, and then they came out. But
you need as a father, we need to make a lot of efforts.
We need to make a lot of efforts for our children to love us. You understand why I'm saying this to demand, why I'm saying this to myself and one saying this to the fathers and they need them to hear me out.
So we need to give them time. We need to give them you know, we need to make a lot of efforts. And number three, we need to focus.
How shall I talk to them? I need to listen to them. I need to think of the best way to approach them.
I need to think of the best way to communicate with them. I need Focus, focus, focus focus.
Right. So these are the three main things and I will give you some more illustrations. You know, especially now that I'm talking to the parents to the Father, especially to give you some more illustrations how we could put this into action.
Right. You will need to focus How can I you know, when is the best time to talk to them. When is the best time to give them some Tobia. When is the best time to you know
to educate them. How should I approach you know what's the best oslob was the best method when to talk when not to talk, when to listen and to keep quiet. We did focus
The mom, my son, he was 17 years old now he's 18 Mashallah. He's gonna be 19. Last year, we had, she got so angry at him. While he messed up. He messed up big time. He messed up big time.
But she never never lays a hand on them never.
That day, he missed up so much. And she was sick. He missed up so much. He she went down. She She started hitting him, her hands everywhere.
Her hands everywhere. And it happened that my son?
Yes, he had the therapy.
And
he had to tell them what happened.
So the social service people, they came to my house.
The social service people, they came to my house
and they wanted to interview us and talk to the moment talk to me and talk to the kids. Is your mom, she's you know, she's this. She's that and she's meeting you. And all of them. Not the mom. Maybe the dad, not the mom. Yes, I deserve it. He said, Yes, I did. But you know, I'm the one who did this. And I'm the one who did that. I know. And my mom's
my mom. That's my mom. She never hits me. She never did that. She never there was all of them just started supporting and defending their mom. And the mom said Yes, I did. She's got a big
Yes, I did. This is why I did I did this because he did this. And he did this. And he did this and it. No, that's no account. Let me show you around. She showed them their rooms, and how pampered they are. She showed them all the things that they have. She showed them this. She showed them. She proves to them, you know, the food that she she cooks for them. You know, she she showed them everything. You know, I'm not a I'm not an abusive mom.
The social service people they came and they said, We're so sorry to waste your time. Thank you very much. Bye. And they left.
Me if the dad if the dad was the one. And then we got Yeah, let me talk to you, you know, separate here and on premise of the day. Yeah, please take him, take him. Take him. Take the dad.
stuff a little late. But you know, I'm not saying I'm just not they love you too. Of course they love us. But for the mom. It's a very, it's very natural love.
It's a natural love. Right? So I'm just giving you an example why you and I as dads we need to give that time and make lots of efforts. And we need to focus.
Right. So
the father the role model.
The kids you have to understand
the kids you have to understand sometimes, you know be learned by looking more than they learn by listening.
Our kids unhemmed they're 5353 years old law medical him and now I've got I've got kids and I am telling you by experience. By experience the kids they learn by looking more than they learn by listening
because you may talk to them and they will forget today or tomorrow they forget what you said but they will not never forget what they have seen.
They will never forget what they've seen. They may come and see you beating up their moms that will stay in their memory forever. Even you couldn't be the best dad in the whole world. The day when they saw you beating up their mom that will stay you know crafted in their mind. They will never never forget it.
They come home they see you drinking or smoking.
They will say a word
but that stays you know crafted in their mind and engraved in their mind for the rest of their life. My dad was drinking when my dad was smoking
every you know move you make as a dad especially when the kids are in that age where their personality like the boys are being crafted the see the dad as the role model whatever the dads does, that means I should do
they see you you don't pray. You don't pray. You're the role model. They see you don't want his job as the mom. Okay? Not a job. So he or she is the role model.
They see you your swear they say oh my dad swears
I should swear to
this she they see you you're using foul language.
This Oh my dad uses foul language. Yeah
you're driving you're cutting off and you're swearing and the look at that and one day they may tell you Baba you said something that day. Baba you said something that they when you were driving you said something you know you said a bad word.
They learn by watching more than they learn by listening.
Example you come home,
you open the fridge, you take a bottle of water, then you drink from it versus drinking from a cup, you know, pouring into a cup and drinking from a cup that you take from the bottle and then you drink from the bottle.
In my house, it's a in my house, it's eight is not a good practice. Don't do that because people drink from you don't know it's not good. Take the bottle and then put it in the water, you know, put in a glass of water to drink from the glass of water. Don't drink, you know from the bottle directly. If you if your son sees you doing that.
So Oh, my dad does it. Why shouldn't I do it? I do it too. He doesn't understand. It's right. You know, it's wrong. No, he doesn't understand because you are the source of all types of education to discipline and for him. So he takes you as the role model. My dad smokes. Oh, my dad smokes that means you know smoking is a sign of manhood, I have to smoke too. You see the message the son gets or the daughter gets.
Especially at that age when there presearch has been built. Right? He sees you doing something he he connects it with the sign of manhood.
Oh my son, my father, he is always mean to my mom. That gives him a message. Maybe when he gets married. This is how we should treat my wife too.
Because that's how my father used to treat my mom.
He may got that message from you. Or, or he would hate you for the rest of his life for it.
He would hate you for the rest of his life for it. He will never tell you. But that in his mind will be memorable. He will never forget it senior beating up his mom.
So you are the role model for your kids, dads, and I'm talking to the dads here today.
We are you know, they look at as the scrutinize us. Our kids scrutinize everything we do and say,
Be careful, that's, that's You be careful. I'm talking to the dads again.
Whereas some panela if you're as a dad was kind and gentle, he sees your brain
and he sees you crying.
That sticks in his mind. Maybe one day he will go and ask my mom, I saw that crying when he was praying
that touches him. He will never tell you but that really touches him.
He sees you the doctor and it stuck in his mind.
He sees you praying pmla waking up and praying pmla sticks in his mind.
He sees you going out and then you take some money then you give sadaqa that sticks in his mind. As you can teach him bad manners. You can also teach him good manners just by your actions.
So you have especially when you have a kid, you know in that age four to seven, you have something like a raw material or raw material, something that you know you can craft that kid as you wish.
As you wish you can craft that person as you wish.
For him for your boy, especially for your boy, you are the source
of manhood.
And then when he sees you doing something, he stores it in his subconscious.
When he sees you doing something, he stores it in his subconscious saying that this is what my dad did. That means it's good.
He sees you smoking. He takes it as an example. So one day when he grows up, he's going to start smoking because he thinks Oh my dad smoke and smoking is you know is is for men. So I want to be a man. Maybe one day he'll smoke too.
If he sees you drinking if he sees you watching something hot, I'm on the phone or the TV or something sticks in his mind as well.
Have the love No mo you know the Sahaba he narrates he says
he was a kid. And he would never no kids suppiler they never you know they buy as I mentioned they store things they don't forget them things that they've seen. He was playing
and then
the Prophet came
to their home. And then his mom, the mom of Abdullah she called him his name is Abdullah.
The mom called him she's Abdullah, Abdullah come and he says I was playing. And then he says, Come, I'll give you something.
No, sometimes when you tell the kids come and they don't come and you say can just come come and give you something.
The Prophet asked her, What are you going to give him?
What are you going to give him? She says, yes. So like, I meant to give him a date, if he was to come and give him a date. The Prophet says, if you if he was to come, and you didn't give him a date, that will be written for you as a lie, you have light,
you have light, it will be written and recorded as a lie. You know, sometimes you see, you know, ice. This is how we teach our kids sometimes, especially in the, you know, culture, I don't know about the Pakistani Indian culture, you know, sometimes you want to, you know, play with your kid and the kids come and give you something come and give you something, then he comes, and then you grab him. He said, kissing and hugging? And where's that thing you said, you're gonna give him He says, No, I just told him to come, though, so that he will come, that is a lie. And he will remember it.
So my brothers and sisters, let me give some advice in sha Allah hota, to the parents to the fathers. Now, you know, as the father, who needs to the friend, the Father, the friend, he is the one because I want to talk, you know, here's Principle number five, five or six, I forgot. principle or foundation.
foundation. Number five, I think it is five.
Five,
the Father, the friend, the Father, the friend,
who is the father, the friend, the Father, the friend is the one who actually checks on his kids. And he solicits like, you know, asking after then he seeks after the just like, so the man that is
just like silly man. And he sent him when he was checking on the hoopy the bird, he's going around because he's a leader. So the leader, he checks on the people that he leads, and you as a father, you are a leader.
The father isn't either. So so the man as a leader, he checks on every member of his of his arena, right? Even the bird, he checked, and he says, where's the whoopee that bird? He's not here. If he was to come and give me unless he gives me that he is lacking a reason as to why he's absent. I'm going to, you know, kill him.
Beat him up.
But he checked, he knew that somebody was missing from his arena. You're as a dad, you as a dad, do you remember? do you do that? Do you know? Where's my kids? Especially somebody who has Mashallah, you know, 10 1115 kids in Africa, in some places in Africa, you know, this, you know, in the villages, they have, like, you know, 1520 or 30 kids, and the guy he says, one is sleeping in the in the farm one is sleeping with the with the chicken, and one is sleeping with the lambs, and the sheep's and one is sleeping with the cows, you know, I cannot go and check from all of them. You know, other guy was saying, you know, I come up and shake on all of them. I know, somebody may be
sleeping with the, with the with the birds and the trees. And when he's sleeping with the, with whoever, you know, you know, am I gonna check on all of them?
You know, so, so the man, I didn't sit out, he checks he saw this. It's Where's Where's everyone? So do we as dads, do we check on our kids? Were they doing in their rooms? What are they doing downstairs? What are they doing in their rooms? Are they going outside with their friends? What are they doing? You know, I'm not saying to to monitor every single thing that they do.
No, no, I didn't say that. Right. I said to to be there to check to be there, you know, to see what's going on in their lives.
So
sometimes you don't even check on their kids and that you realize you find out that your kid is a drug addict. You didn't even know what were you. They came to complain to me many times, oh, my son ran away or my son is a drug addict. Your son is a drug addict for him to become a drug addict, a drug addict. He doesn't come with you know, between a day and night to turn into a drug addict. It does not happen overnight. Right? It takes you know, it takes it takes months if not years to become a drug addict. So in that period of time, you as a dad were where you
were Where are you?
Have you checked on your kids? What are they doing?
You know,
You understand what I'm saying here What I mean by checking you know, and checking on them and making sure you know and being there for them
as you
have the best of the best Look how he checks the Sahabi you know he goes into the house of omo maimunah right? And then he asked her about the son a son Luna So when did my son pray did the boy pray? Did the boy pray
and he checks did you do your numbers? Did you do Salah Baba sometimes in our you know in our you know some of the families you care about the grade that your son or daughter gets at school more than whether he has prayed or she had prayed or not
I just want my kid to have you know to be a student amazing great. He prays he does not pray inshallah Allah for Allah Hey, I love
I love forgiveness traveler he's a kid he would grow up when he grows up he would pray to Allah but now he's okay
I know my kids sometimes they don't like it when I asked them you know did you pray Baba Did you pray mama? Did you press Baba? This is the only thing you have to say no pray pray pray say no I have to I have to you don't like it but I'm sorry you know one day inshallah when you become a dad you would understand
you pray Did you pray Baba Did you pray your bone up your hustle? Do you pray mother? You know when we pray together, we pray together. But you know, they're afraid to make sure that not found out and you probably did you make your
the Sahaba used to do the same thing.
But as in sisters, I want to share with you an amazing, amazing idea from the end. And this is for the fathers to be here to listen to it. And also the wives they would love it. But that's please be with me here. I want to share with you an ayah from Surah Baqarah verse number 132 and 133 I want to check on all the dads Oh, man. Oh, man. Sad. And
all of you here, huh? Can I share with you this area? From the end? Can I share it with you? But I have is in Syrah and Mariana and shaida and, and oh man, and nazwa an ad if you know all of you out there Sharjah, and Where is everyone? Where's everyone? Where's everyone? Are you all there? You know, I'd like to share your scene. Yes, in the rice, you always come late. Go back and listen to this from the very beginning, man. Don't, don't come back late again. Next time. Go back because there's a lot of stuff that you guys miss. And when you come in late, you miss out on lots of Gore. All right. So are you guys in Sharla you're ready for this. I want to share with you this amazing,
amazing, amazing AI for the parents, especially the dads when you're ready. Now you're ready. Later you relate to you back and forth. You know, I don't know what you're doing. But I know what's going on here. Right? You know, you guys are missing out on a lot just because you're not a dad. But I spoke about the moms and you missed out the thing about the moms right, so I know who's dead and I know who's not there. manisa Where's your dad?
manisa manisa hold on a second. There is a guy I know Hakeem is right there. It is right there. Money So how old are you?
Is your dad there? How old are you when he said
I'm sorry to ask this question but it's okay. I mean
when you say hold Are you
okay if I'm doing something man on the side just just just be patient.
manisa you're there?
And you answer Are you there? I was just asking.
He Oh, your dad is here. I want to talk to you dad. How old How old is your daughter a boy manisa How old is your daughter?
I've got something good for that for her inshallah.
Ah 22 yay Mashallah. 32 Okay, I bet I bet I bet
you do something is happening. I bet all right, okay. If you do something wrong, I'm gonna kill you man. I'll kill you. I know that I kill you don't know that. She hasn't that she hasn't died before that kills you. I kill you. I'll kill you. There is no Instagram marriage. There is no Instagram marriage. We're gonna talk to the dead inshallah Tada. I love you. But I will kill you.
I love you but I'll kill you don't talk. We will talk to the dad in Sharla. Brother bernisa brother money.
I want to talk to your dad manisa I want to talk to your dad. Let me bring him a live here.
I want to talk to your dad Please let me talk to you that's just monisha
come bring him a life bring him live inshallah I want to talk to him just to say set up.
I don't know his name, but I want to talk to him. So why do you go
you're not a dad man. You're the brother.
No, no, no, no, no. Go get me the dad. You cannot be that man.
How are you?
Where are you? Where are you in the UK? Or where are you? Yeah, UK Manchester. Oh, yes, I came up it
is in London. I think we're Manchester or something. You know, very, very good guy. He attended. He attends my retreats. His brother went with me for the ombre he's very established Mashallah. The quality level he knows got a job. Are you Pakistani?
Pakistani? No, no, he's Pakistani too.
Okay, he talks like this too, you know.
So, so I just wanted to have this live in Charlotte. He says, Look at this is what Coronavirus did to us. Nobody would ever imagine this happening myself on a coffee table. But I'm so happy I got to meet you. So happy to talk to you. Thank you so much. May Allah bless you bless your daughter and bless your children. Bless your wife and shout out to you say Bless you. Bless you.
I mean,
I mean,
inshallah, but after this is your future in sha Allah, your future father in law, all right. When you see next time, Please kiss them because we are as weak as the hand of the file, which is the head. So next time you see him, kiss his hand and make sure make sure I give you
exactly what
it's like laughing so mighty Cool.
All right at the Shangri La blend me.
Who's next? Who's next? sumiya Samia. But I paid I spoke to him all you have to do is you know what to do next house. All right. So where was I? No, no, I want to mention this in the end.
I
How can I do what I have to do now? It's your turn inshallah. Tada. He's gonna please tell brother, your dad to text me privately privately to text me inshallah. Tada tell your dad to text me privately. Okay, text me privately so that I can get his contact info and then we'll hook him up in Sharla with title and by the RP inshallah Okay.
All right. Okay, Jonah, come live with me. Let me let me bring you live let did that. See you man. Hold on. Let me bring up babe life. I've been come. I want to talk to your life. I want your father in law to see you inshallah. Come out and come come It's okay. Don't be shy. He declined. He's so scared. You chicken, you chicken. You chicken you Chicken.
Chicken. Chicken, your chicken. Your chick chick. chick chick chick. My hair is a mess. I know your chicken. That's all you are. If you are cheeky, cheeky, You cheeky chicken.
I don't care about your hair. She does not care about your hair. They care about your manhood. They care about you.
They care about your heart. They care about your gentleness, your tenderness about your your memories of your moral your character. That's what they care about. Your hair could be everywhere. I don't care. Okay, maybe I do. Right? But there's other things so yes, you are the chicken Come come
again. I've given you one more chance don't decline. Don't decline. Do not decline. Come come
come you're like Wait, don't decline I'll kill you man. Just accept my invitation.
is doing this to his hair now he's doing this he declined me again the how long ago he declined me.
May Allah forgive you? How can you decline me man?
I just want to see the heck out of you. Yeah, neither of you want to see that man. What's going on? Yeah, anyways, yeah, exactly. They're all defending you, man. They all say Oh, one second half. One second. Okay, babe.
Let him do his hair. Okay, do your hair man. everybody's watching.
Facebook is also watching man. What's going on here today? What is going on? I'm sorry.
fixing something you know, just be patient with me Facebook. I'm fixing something. Well, like this was spontaneous. I never planned this whatsoever. I never planned it was so spontaneous. I'm fixing something. I'm trying to fix something up. All right, so
yeah, where are you, man? Where are you? Where are you?
Where is he? You're laughing I'm giving you a chance again. One more time. Go ahead. Except
there was more than a second man. You said one second. Where the world are you come on Yella
Yella, he's running around everywhere now. Ah, so maybe he's running around everywhere. The other way. No.
Don't worry, man. I'm with you, man. I'm shallow. Tada. Don't worry, Yella come except this can be everybody's invited for his wedding. charlo Chad, everybody in Aden Sharma district coming up. We're gonna have big yellow, yellow.
Yellow. Except quickly.
Yes, look, this is all as a family now. All of us as a family yellow. We're all other family. And they're telling you go for it. All the people on Facebook that that Jerry
sees you look amazing.
Exactly. Yeah, so
Well, no, no, there's nothing. I see. You're perfectly fine.
No, no, this is good, man. This is a coffee mug, a coffee mug.
I see you. That's what matters.
That's what matters. We see you. You don't have to see yourself or say we see you and that's what matters. And of all mohnish I see in you know, the whole world is seeing you now. Right? The whole world is seeing you. You see you see don't see yourself.
It's not very well. Let me let me tell you what's what's happening there. A lot of hearts been popping up now. A lot of hearts of hearts. People I send a lot of hearts my shout out. Are you from Manchester? Not London. London. I know London to Manchester is only like three hour drive. Three hours. three hour field, right? Yeah, it's okay. charlo
can drive down to Manchester. Okay. charlo How in the world are you doing my men?
Okay, okay. How's that? How sad?
How sad. I always forget Serbia. Serbia is good.
How's mom
have recovered from the coffin? The breathing I'd had had had a quite bad so don't even say Don't say that. Like don't say don't don't think this guy has gone don't say that man. Don't tell them about your
Coronavirus. Okay, good. Okay. hamdulillah. Okay, one thing I need to ask you. You have you have your own place, right? You have your own apartment or house or something?
Well, yeah, I can afford rent, which is fine, but I have. I've got my own. I've got my own room. If that if that helps you? No, no, no, no.
What do you mean like a house or you can move out you can live by yourself inshallah. Right? Yeah.
Essentially, no, no, don't tell me potentially. I want my daughter because she's my daughter. Sharla. monisha. She's my daughter. I want her to live. I want her to be the queen. You don't have to.
Yes, yes. Yes. Yes.
It can happen. You can make the happy. I love you. I love you.
I can't guarantee Yes, but I know it can happen. I'm sorry. It's okay. It's okay. Initially in the beginning, it's fine. Yeah. Initially, the beginning is fine. Because you need to prepare yourself and move on to things and whatnot. You have your own job my show but you're you're in it right. I see. Myself. Okay. Okay, cool. That's good. You know, so we're, we're good to go.
We're good to go. I'm so long. I'm so happy now. I'm good to go. What's the next step? What's the next step now?
The next step
it's going to be pm private messaging, you know, through me through me Don't go and text her eyes kill you.
Yeah, you know who she is now. But But
no, but you you know them on
either on Instagram but I don't think I will
kill you again.
All right, this out loud to Allah. We will
put Baraka in whatever we're doing. Shout out to Adam Allah choose for you and choose the best for everyone. Hands on.
Please make set my set out to the family for me inshallah. All right, send the set out to the family metallization bless us like lucky for coming on. I love you
so much.
Okay, we're happy.
Well, you know what?
I wanted to mention this.
And then I just kept on going and going and going by the talk. It was a good thing. It was a very good thing. So Mia is next. So Mia is next. And Ahmed is next. So me and Amanda Sharla who Tada. So
you know what?
I'm gonna pause here. I'm going to pause here. I'm going to pause and let me call Oh, man.
Let me call Oh man. I want to see this guy. Oh, man. Oh, man. Come on.
He declined. is another chicken. Here's another chicken. Oh man. You're cheeky cheeky cheeky, you chicky chicky chicky
who's the chicken
All right, let's do the inshallah Tada.
Let's do the iron shot of Lodi.
The ayah is in Surat Al Baqarah
verse number 132 and 133 Allah subhanho wa Taala says by the Lw Shalom, this is the advice the wasa yet that Ibrahim alayhis salam and Yaqoob right, and Jacob.
When Jacob when Jaco was dying,
he gave an advice to his children.
And Tom Shahada verse number 133 133 in South America
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to his bodily Bernie is already Benny.
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de Bono him My wife is mad, you know what is hot in our home? One afternoon
when yaku was about to die when death was coming to Ibrahim yaku when death approached him, he gathered his children, and he told them all my children, what are you going to worship after me after I stopped? What after you What are you going to worship after I die?
After I die? What are you going to worship?
Look what they have said here.
Look what they have said. They said
now abou Illa haka. Illa Habakkuk. We shall worship your Lord and the Lord of your grandfathers, your grandfather's, your forefathers, Ibrahima way Smith either what is how you buy him, and he's married and is held in a hand wash, the only Lord the Lord, the one and only one that knew the homeless, the moon and we are submitting ourselves to Him. subhanho wa Taala. The club said, we will worship Allah. This is why I'm saying this is such an amazing area. And for the dabs they would love you know, some have imagined because they could have said we will worship Allah. But instead of saying they will worship Allah, they said, Oh, that we will worship You, Lord, whatever you have
taught us, we will stick with whatever you have taught us to more information to the dad in a formation to the dead. Oh, that yes. They could have said they want to worship Allah and it is perfectly correct. Of course, they will worship Allah. Yet they said we will worship your God and the God of your forefathers, Ibrahim and his mate and his hack, because this is what you taught us that.
You see what I'm saying here? This is what you taught us at that you taught us to worship Allah We shall worship your God. Allah subhana wa Tada.
Don't you as a father, wish your children to say the same thing one day
To tell you one day that don't worry.
We don't we know we feel Allah Xhosa before anything else, don't worry. We pray. We pray to Allah Xhosa. We fear him before we feel anything else.
We are conscious of him. subhanho wa Taala before anything else, don't you want your children one day to come and tell you? This is what you taught us, dad.
This is where you spent all your life teaching us. Oh Dad.
This is the father the friend. And this is my foundation for today. Brothers and sisters, the Father, the friend.
The father, the friend be a friend. You know, here's the foundation, the father the friend. Are you a friend to your children?
That's a you friend to your children.
From
Five, four years old to six to seven, until he's 2025 entities boy. He wants to you know he wants you to be your friend. His friend. You traveled with him? You go out with him. You bond with him.
Sports with him
have an intelligent conversation with him?
The father the friend He's the one who who? Who
shows interests at his children's You know what, what do they like? What what are their interests? He is there. He's present. He's not absent. The father the friend. He's the one who he's always you know, sure, you know, my my children they they like sports. I'm gonna go into the sport just so I can know that interest and and, and merge and, and be with them. What did they like? They like cricket, they like basketball. They like soccer. What did they like?
He shared the interests, the Father, the friends, he is the one who who who understands the needs of his children before they even come to say or mentioned about their needs. They he he the father the friend, he knows about their needs, just like Moosa and the father of you know the the father of that lady that Moosa got to marry right this lady with Moosa, he came and he wanted for them. You know that story when Moosa he went and he fell in the water for them, and then the lady wants to her father that there was this man he came in he wanted for us that you know, Dad, why don't you invite him? Okay, invite him, she went to invite him and then that why don't you you know, hire him. The
dad is not stupid. He understood
the daughter, you know, talking about this man and then he proposed to him would you like to marry my daughter in you know, in return you you know, you work for me for eight years and 10 years, you know, and then you stay with us?
He understood that that dad might this man this man this he understood? versus what men What did you see him? Where did how did you meet him? Did you talk to you? Did you did you and you start you know,
sisters and brothers from Facebook. I mean from Instagram, I'm not done. I'm not done. It's in two minutes is going to be over. I'm not done.
Because the father the friend, he is the one who actually
shows interest in his children activities and takes them to activities. He's always there for them. Not only Salah Sana, Sana and other things other than Santa.
You can worship Allah in so many ways with your children.
The father, the friend, he's never shy to teach his children from his past mistakes.
Did you hear me? The father the friend, he is the one who is not and never shy, to share his mistakes with his kids his past mistakes, when they this thing happened to me, you know, and that thing happened to me. He's okay to teach him. Teach them from your past mistakes. So don't do this. Because this road does not take you to where you need to go. This path does not take you to where you need to be, you know, it's okay to teach them from your past mistakes.
The father the friend, he is the one who imposes his his his his mastery and full control with love. The father the friend, he imposes his his his control, you know, and his mastery with love, not with fear. That is Horeb right away. The Angel of Death is here. The Angel of Death has come he just came right away. No, the father the friend is the one who imposes his mastery with with love, not fear. You don't want them to fear you want them to love you.
It's going to end right now. Please come back again.
comeback you know, it's the grand comeback I'm gonna go live again Charlottetown so mighty Khan
Facebook please hold on with me here I'm just gonna do this and shallow tada and then just give me a second Facebook and Sharla so I'm
Amina happiness
five
one second please.
I have lost it. I don't know how to do this now.
Pamela What am I doing here now?
Well, I've got it all wrong I don't know how to remove this I want to go back and now I cannot go back I don't know what happened.
I don't know what happened.
I want to go back to Instagram and I messed it up.
So I'm just gonna log out and log back in and Sharla
There we go.
How's everybody doing on Facebook sister Felicia says and Shazia and Sadie and are you guys doing all right?
are you guys doing okay hamdulillah
Tamara shallow Tada. It's going to be with the moms. Tomorrow is the session for the moms and please come please don't miss it. Tomorrow inshallah tada the session with the moms do not miss it. inshallah. Mariana I shall shalonda coetail ebla
Okay, there we go.
Here
we're going back live with him the letter so here we go. So I'm going to come back over cat so here we go back live.
Why do you consider my Isha I can sell them at Isha and Isa and Shazia and moves, Amir COVID. And he has seen the rice I'm back. I'm back. I'm here. I'm back on Instagram.
I'm back live on Instagram.
It's back. I'm back. I'm live on Instagram. All right, while it comes out.
All right, we're back live handle them on Instagram. So we're still talking about the Father, the friend. As I mentioned the Father, the friend, he is the one who checks you know about his kids, the Father, the friend, he is the one who who who understand his children needs the Father, the friend, he is the one who gets active, you know, and search for his kids activities and participate in his kids activities. The father, the friend, he is the one who who who
who knows when to hold hands and what to let go. This is very, very, very important. The father the friend, he is the one who knows when to hold hands and when to let go.
You know, this is like a this is a golden advice really knows when to pull and when to push when to let go. The father the friend, the Father, the friend, he is the one who is not shy and embarrassed to share his past mistakes with his children, so that they can learn from his past, you know, mistakes. The father the friend, he is the one who imposes his, you know, his, his his full control through love, but not through,
not through through fear. He knows how to make them love him, you know, but just because they want to love him that they want to fear him. The father the friend, he is the one who builds a very a very special relationship with his children. The father the front He is the one who involves his children and participant and bees and goes with them. You know he takes them to work sometimes he takes them to meetings.
instance times he takes them he wants to know he from the from the early age, take them with you let them see how you make, you know, how you run your meeting sometimes and how you know, make decisions they learn just by watching as I mentioned and looking versus you know, listening the you know, this is how they you know, it works with with the children, my brothers and sisters
What can I say about the father the friend
you know, whatever I say, you know, it's it's a it's like somebody said it is it is sometimes easier said than done than done Yes. But you know, all we can do here is like as I mentioned, for me to share with you these foundations and these principles, and then it will be you know, it will depend it will be up to us whether we want to actually make a change in our lives and and and go and for the better or we can remain as we are and honestly as fathers we are missing out on a lot really we are missing out on a lot if we don't actually come back and and and do something about our lives with our children. Try your best. Absolutely try and do your best that's always saying here we are,
I'm providing you with tools I'm sharing with you tools, right? I'm sharing with you certain you know, ways of maybe how to better yourself and how you can have that homemade happiness in your homes inshallah tada Other than that, it will be our decision whether we want to make a move for the better or not my brothers and sisters as I said now there's no more cliffhanger and I'm not today again no cliffhanger because tomorrow I want to talk to the moms
I want to talk to the to the moms tomorrow the month tomorrow is about moms in Sharla who tada all the moms you do not want to miss for tomorrow No no no no no ma'am should miss tomorrow inshallah to Allah please come have the aunties come have the sisters come have the daughters come have the grand moms come have the cheese come have you know the family come because I have a message for the moms tomorrow in sha Allah who to Allah May Allah bless you all may Allah reward you all male legged and auto fifth all right oh man you're you're ready my men now
that me bringing home man with me life huh then we bring on man live inshallah tada let's try to you know do some some help and who can help and who can yell at Oh man, come on. I don't know you. Maybe I do.
Maybe I do if I see you because I know a lot of domains.
Yes, sister Felicia and sister Nadia. So I'm gonna go Oh, man.
I know who you are.
I've seen you somewhere. We're having we're having
a student who
just got
Oh, from Birmingham
Yes, yes yes. Mashallah Your hair looks looks
stylish. Mashallah.
Nice. I like your smile. Yeah, beautiful smile. How old are you? I mean, I'm too young. You're too young.
What does that mean? Like what?
How old do you think I am?
You're 20
yeah
okay, yes, yes, I think you know 20 I'll give you another maybe inshallah five years
No, thanks.
already married though. No, not yet.
Mashallah, as well so you You're what do you do? You go to school, university or you go to university Mashallah. Mashallah. Mashallah, may Allah bless you. I shall allow sister says she did the way
Okay, my son
All right, so I'll check on you in five years in Sharla Okay.
I'll check back on you. Hopefully sound like you would have your haircut done by then inshallah.
Mashallah, you're so handsome Mashallah, you're very handsome boy. I love this you take care
so many How old are you?
How old are you so many you
so me
Ah, my shadow president, but a heck Mesoamerican. How are you? Let me bring by the hickmott here.
Oh, you're 21 Okay.
I know you don't want to you don't want to you don't want to.
Yes, I know. I know system a a you you you want to be a babysitter you want
To be a wife.
I just want to ask this question sister Samia, you want to be a babysitter or the wife?
Those of you on Facebook is that Kamala hair? You know I'm here on Instagram you can join me anytime you want. Baraka Luffy consider Monica hotline tadoba because this is recorded though, this is recorded, so it's going to be on my Facebook when a coffee comes today, Michael matava we'll see you tomorrow. Ciao.