Nouman Ali Khan – The Sacred Responsibility of Parenthood – Surah At-Talaq
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The conversation covers the completion of the Quran and the importance of family law in the creation of civilization. The first bond between man and woman is the sacred one called marriage, followed by helping parents to become spiritual figures. The spiritual teachings of Islam involve covering for one's parents and helping them to become spiritual figures. Society's potential for civilization is discussed, including the potential for children to become sacred figures. The discussion concludes with a series of questions and prompts for viewers to participate in a deeper look of the Quran.
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You know what that means?
Allah took one sacred relationship To prepare the
child for the ultimate sacred relationship, which is
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we switch gears وَكَأَيِّمْ مِّنْ قَرْيَةٍ عَتَتْ عَنْ
أَمْرِ رَبِّهَا وَرُسُولِهِ فَحَاسَبْنَاهَا حِسَابًا شَدِيدًا وَعَذَّبْنَاهَا
عَذَابًا نُّكْرًا It's gonna feel like it's a
different surah And how many villages, towns, cities
have there been that disobeyed the commandment of
their master and disobeyed the commandment of their
messenger so we took them to account with
an intense audit and we punished them in
a way that was never even heard of
before This is what Allah is saying Destruction
of past nations Where did that come from?
I'm not gonna tell you yet I'll tell
you by the end today وَكَأَيِّمْ Let's start
with the first word اسمٌ لِعَدَدٍ كَثِيرٍ لِعَدَدٍ
كَثِيرٍ مُبْهَن يُفَصِّلُهُ بِمَا يُمَيِّزُهُ بَعْد كَأَيِّمْ means
oh my god how many on top of
many on top of many and then it's
clarified with من something So what an enormous
number of civilizations have there been قَرْيَةٍ have
there been Towns have there been that disobeyed
the commandment of their Rabb Can you name
some of these towns that Allah mentioned Some
of them I mean he's saying there's a
lot more than he mentioned But some of
them that he mentioned do you know Aad,
Thamud, even Firoun for example There's these qura
that were destroyed right And Allah talks about
them أَهْلَكْنَاهُمْ So let's talk now about a
little bit for Maybe I should just tell
you now Fine I'll just tell you now
I call this the first and the last
domino So let me explain what I mean
by that You have family law Which is
what we saw a glimpse of family law
And I told you earlier on in today's
discussions in the previous ayah That the bond
of the man and the woman is sacred
in the quran And actually the first bond
of human beings was the bond of Adam
and Hawa Was the bond of marriage Right
so it's the most sacred bond in existence
between human beings Okay now having said that
Because of that bond being sacred The way
you enter into it, the way a man
and woman can be together Needs to be
sacred And the way they end that also
needs to be sacred Right that's what we
described And as a result of that Because
there's so much care put into how a
man and woman come together As a result
of that the child that is born from
that relationship Is also a sacred responsibility is
it not And as a result of that
the child is also told to honor the
two people that came together To bring that
child into this world And so And the
relationship we have with our parents is also
what?
Sacred So now humanity is building this system
And the first Think about a child The
first instance of shukr Or tawakkul Right Allah
used the parents As a training for a
child Whose mind isn't yet developed To eventually
replace the parents with Allah Everything the child
was doing with Allah As the child grows
older He replaces that with the parents And
that's why you notice the language So you
don't stop thanking your parents But you realize
that the gratitude you have to your parents
Behind that gratitude is your gratitude to Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala But the way Allah
taught the human being The gratitude to Allah
The first training Even the child is born
with fitrah It doesn't come out saying Alhamdulillah
It doesn't do that And the first words
that come out of its mouth Eventually is
not Allah First words You know what that
means Allah took one sacred relationship To prepare
the child For the ultimate sacred relationship Which
is what?
The relationship with Allah So now what I'm
trying to tell you is The marriage is
sacred The child is sacred The child coming
up and learning the relationship with his parents
And being grateful to his parents And her
parents is sacred And all of that eventually
leads to the regard One is supposed to
have for Allah azza wa jalla In fact
You know how the famous hadith of the
Prophet Says مَنْ لَمْ يَشْكُلِ النَّاسِ لَمْ يَشْكُلِ
اللَّهِ If you can't thank Allah If you
can't thank people, you can't thank Allah Well
the first instance of that is If you
can't even acknowledge the best Behavior to your
own mother Who gave you birth That she
brought you into this world Then how are
you going to Thank the one who brought
you into this world That you can't even
see And that's Allah So it's only logical
That you are trained with the seen To
prepare you for the unseen Now having said
all of that From this comes an entire
system Of blood ties being sacred And from
this Then comes this idea That the yatama
Yatama are people whose sacred tie Parents have
been cut So they become yatim So what
does Allah do?
He says اتقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس
واحدة وخلق منها زوجها That ayah Ends with
تقوى أولى الرحم In Surah An-Nisa What's
the immediate next statement?
وَآتُ الْيَتَامَ أَمْوَالَهُمْ Give to the yatama, why?
Because now it's your sacred duty You as
a community must cover for those Who don't
have the shadow of that other Sacred relationship,
their parents So you must go cover for
them You must help them Now imagine a
society in which The man and the woman
coming together Is not sacred They can just
get together Hook up and hook off And
sink their hook somewhere else And they can
just have Casual relationships Nothing is sacred about
it Nothing If such a society existed I
mean you wouldn't know of such a society
But I'm saying hypothetically If such a society
existed Then the child that comes into existence
As a result of that union Is that
child being treated As something sacred?
No Because the union from which he came
Or she came Itself wasn't sacred So the
child is not being treated as someone sacred
And will that child see their mother Or
father as sacred figures To be thankful to
To turn to, to learn from So they
can eventually turn to the ultimately sacred Will
that happen?
No In fact they'll talk to their mom
And say, yeah Jennifer I'm busy right now
They'll call their mom by their first name
I don't know my dad And if I
knew him Beep, beep, beep You'd get a
society where The parents are no longer sacred
Which means, by the way For a child
who's coming up naturally Who are the most
important people In the life of a child?
Parents If you remove the parents from the
equation You know what that means?
There's nobody important left If no one's around
that's left The only one that's sacred Is
who?
No, not Allah Not for that young man
Yourself Now you're sacred Looking out for number
one, baby Now Everyone else is a burden
The only one that matters is Me, the
whole universe revolves around Me Now imagine an
entire society Of millions of people Who have
removed the sacredness Of the man and the
woman coming together And the child becoming a
sacred responsibility What happens to such a society
When you say Listen to your Rabb Rabb
I don't even listen to my mom I
don't even listen to anybody You know who
I listen to?
Me That's who I listen to A nation,
as a nation That entirely rebels Against the
command of the Rabb Because they have no
authority They don't recognize any authority Why would
I listen to a messenger?
Another human being?
He's just human Well the first people you
were supposed to have regard for Were also
human, weren't they?
But you don't have that As a culture
in that society you don't have it Once
you remove The sacredness of family You have
prepared a society for Eventual Not just kufr
but utu And we'll discuss utu in a
second What does that mean?
We'll dig into that a little bit But
what I'm saying is The first part of
this surah Was the first domino that you
need to keep from falling But if you
don't Let that domino fall Dominoes will continue
to fall Until you get to the final
domino Which is what?
حَاسَبْنَهَا حِسَابًا شَدِيدًا وَعَذَّبْنَهَا عَذَابًا نُّكْرًا And all
the other dominoes in between You're too smart,
you can figure that out yourself Hey guys
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