Nouman Ali Khan – Surah Al Jumuah #21 Jealousy and Heedlessness
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The speaker discusses the use of the Quran in Bayina TV, emphasizing the importance of disclaimers and prioritizing one's priorities. They also touch on hedonism and the negative impact of past actions on one's priority. The importance of hedonism is discussed, including how it can be used to avoid negative emotions and avoid hedonism. The speaker also emphasizes the need for protective mechanisms and prioritizing one's stance, and provides a review of a section of the surah on the drivers of speed and the importance of not judge oneself.
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Allah put inside
the mail something.
He put inside the mail the desire to
look at beauty.
He just I don't have to convince you
of this. You already know.
They're like somebody like, oh, I don't I
don't know what you're talking about. Yes, you
do.
He put inside the male the desire to
look at beauty. He put inside the female
the desire to look beautiful.
He put it in her from her from
the early ages. Allah put that in her
fitra.
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Wrapping up our discussion on ayah number 6,
I'm going to read something from I believe
this is, Ibnu Ashur
This is because believers are supposed to be
between hope and fear from
Allah So we don't wish for death because
we are between hope and fear from Allah
And they do not assume
and live with the assumption
that success is guaranteed for them as these
people
assumed.
Okay. Now we get to the next Ayah.
By the way all 3 Ayat are going
to be about death and we get this
kind of philosophy on death also.
They will never wish for it or they
will Yeah. They will never ever wish for
it. Because because now the translation says because
of what their hands
put forward.
That's the literal translation because of what their
hands put forward.
And Allah is fully aware of those who
do wrong.
Now the first thing I want to share
with you is
disclaimers. Like in the previous side the disclaimer
was, if you feel you are saved as
opposed to everyone else. That was the qualifier.
Or if you're Allah's friends as opposed to
everyone else. Right? We should want to be
friends with Allah, but the Muslim will not
think as opposed to everyone else because Allah
already told us,
Other people are gonna join. Allah already told
us, if you step back Allah will replace
you with other people.
So we don't have this absolute guarantee that
it's us and no one else can ever
take our place. We don't have that mentality
because Allah didn't let us have that mentality
in His revelation.
Now in this next ayah, Allah does Allah
doesn't just say they're never going to wish
for death,
but Allah says, why will some of them
never wish for death? Why is it that
they won't wish? Allah gives the reason Himself.
He says,
And now before I explain what that means,
just something about the
What that means is literally
because the word would mean because.
In other words,
they will not wish for death because of
stuff they've already done in the past.
So because of what they've had their hands
have done refers to what they've done in
the past. So the word because would be
the meaning of ba. The other
The other meaning is
they no longer have that that desire. They
used to have it,
but they don't have it anymore
because of something that's happened, because of some
deeds of theirs. In other words, they did
actually
have the desire to meet Allah in a
good way and all of that, But over
time because of sins that desire went away.
The only way we can unlock the meanings
of this ayah is actually to understand the
phrase That's
the core, that's the crux of this ayah,
which is they won't wish for it
because of what their hands sent forward.
What does mean?
To put something in front. That's
So if for example, I'm sitting here, I
put the laptop in front of me, I
made the laptop muqaddam.
I put it ahead of myself. Okay.
Meaning ahead,
And the hands is an expression in Arabic
for earning deeds.
Meaning deeds our actions are done by our
hands for the most part. So when someone
says, this is your your your you you
had a hand in this.
Somebody says, you had a hand in this.
You know what that means? You are involved
in this. Doesn't literally mean you had your
hand stuck in this, means you were involved
in this. So it's a figure speech for
involvement or actions. Now
the Quran repeatedly talks about this concept of
takdeem.
A good way for you guys to think
about that in easy English
is prioritizing,
to make something a priority.
Every day in our lives, we have to
make a decision about what is the top
priority.
Like if you have 1 hour before class
starts,
what is your priority? What are you gonna
do 1st, 2nd, 3rd? And the the morning
you wake up, you have a list of
priorities you gotta get done. Everybody has a
checklist. And in that checklist what is the
most important and second important and third important.
It's either in our head or it's on
your calendar or you've made notes. When when
your wife or husband or whoever they send
you to the grocery store, then you have
a checklist priority items to get, You know,
like if you have a baby you can
forget everything, don't come home without the diapers.
Right? That was the most important thing. How
did you forget that, etcetera. So there's always
this concept of priority, meaning something that takes
more importance. And every one of us knows
at the end of the day, we were
not able to do all the things we
were supposed to do. There's always things that
are left that we were supposed to do.
Right? But those things became
They got delayed because other things became
They became forward.
Also means some things became priority for these
people,
some behaviors,
some goals
became a bigger priority,
and those goals took them away from the
friendship of Allah.
Actually,
the previous ayah basically says, if you truly
were friends of Allah, then you would wish
at least for a good death, in one
one way you can take the meaning. So
now they won't wish it because they're not
really friends with Allah. So then the question
is what did they do that took them
away from Allah's friendship?
Allah's closeness,
Allah's protectiveness.
And that is some, some wrong things became
priority for them. So this discussion is brief
but important. And that is, what does it
mean that the wrong things become priority? There's
2 things I want you to note here.
One is things that are prohibited or forbidden
or evil.
Meaning your my my my my desire, my
lust,
my greed,
you know, my jealousy, these kinds of things
when they become
the top thought in your mind. I actually
wrote this down in my notes. I wanna
read this to you because this has to
do with, Tasgiyah also.
You know how the ayaat said this gonna
Allah purifies them with the ayaat. So here
are some things I want you to make
note of.
Anger,
jealousy,
comparison,
worthless, and I know there's a lot, I'm
talking fast it's okay. You can repeat, what
was it?
Anger, jealousy,
comparison,
worthlessness,
loneliness,
greed,
lust,
heedlessness.
Hedlessness basically means
I don't fear
anything.
I don't worry about anything. I just, I
like a heedlessness is basically
I don't care.
That's heedlessness.
Okay. That's the I don't care attitude. Okay.
Hedonism.
Hedonism means my ultimate objective is to please
myself,
to have a good experience.
A good definition of hedonism in easy English
would be YOLO.
You guys know YOLO?
That would be hedonism. Okay. And materialism,
right? So,
it's materialism takes many forms. For some people,
materialism is about their house.
Some people, it's their car. Some people, it's
how many followers they have on social media.
For some people it's what kind of what
brand of bag are they wearing? What brand
of shoes are they wearing? What you know.
So he didn't this materialism takes different kinds
of forms. Basically shallow things.
You know shallow petty things that they become
obsessions. Anyway, the Quran comes and it cleanses
us
from all of these or at least controls
them. Because at the end of the day,
anger is a part of my life. I
can't get rid of it.
Some things are gonna make me angry. But
dazkiyah does is it keeps it under a
cont under a limit.
Keeps it within a healthy limit. Jealousy, you
might think, oh, jealousy. So evil. No jealousy
is a part of life.
It happens.
Jealousy happens. Comparison happens,
but it has to stay within a healthy
limit and needs to be directed in a
healthy direction.
You know, so you could take someone who's
doing better than you and you could be
jealous of them or you could be inspired
to do better yourself. So you could take,
you could feel that they're doing better and
you can take it in a positive direction.
Right? So that's what this does.
Worthlessness,
oh, it doesn't matter what I do anyway.
I'm a loser anyway.
Who cares about me? You know like those
people that say, Dunia is nothing. Well then
eventually they start saying, I'm nothing.
When you're nothing, then your actions are nothing
which means that you can be mean, you
can be rude, you can be whatever, but
doesn't matter because I'm worthless, I'm gonna treat
everybody else worthless too.
A lot of times people that are really
insulting to others, deep down inside they actually
have no respect for themselves.
They have a deep worthlessness within themselves and
they project that on others. The Quran makes
me feel that I'm worth something.
I'm worth enough of a miracle that all
the angels were commanded to do sajda.
I'm worth enough that Allah says,
We honored all children of Adam, which means
Allah Himself honored
me, which means Allah sees me as worth
something. So I shouldn't see myself as worthless.
Loneliness,
I, you know, nobody loves me, nobody understands
me, nobody listens to me. It's like I
don't even exist,
etcetera, etcetera. Well, we're the religion of Ibrahim
alaihis salaam. I don't think there was anybody
who was more lonely than Ibrahim alaihis salaam,
but Allah gave him his company, didn't he?
Wataqhavallahuibrahim
akhalila.
Right? So we don't actually know what
true loneliness
in the end will actually never be loneliness
for a believer.
They'll still have someone and doesn't mean that
you don't need anybody in you. I have
Allah, I don't need anyone. I'm like Ibrahim
alaihis salam, I don't need you. No, no,
no. Even Musa alaihis salam needed haroon.
Right? He asked for haroon. He didn't say,
I'm gonna go do this alone. But at
least you know how to cope with loneliness,
at least you know how to work through
loneliness because of the tazkiyah of the Quran.
Then greed of course, we all want more.
Let's be honest, There's a car you don't
have that you like.
There's a house that, you know, you drive
by, you drive a little slowly
and then go.
You know there's a job that you might
like,
there's a, you know, we have greed, we
have we have some some things that we
want that we don't have, but that that's
kept under control.
Quran says, whoever can be protected
from the greed they have inside them. Meaning
you're it's there but you're it's not letting
you it's not taking over you. Right? It's
being controlled.
The same way
Allah says, another place for example,
Allah put explosive
content inside us, and He also put inside
us the ability to protect us from that
explosive content. Fujur means sin, but fujur actually
comes from
which means explosion. Fajr is called fajr because
the light explodes.
Right? So there's my anger is explosive. My
jealousy is explosive. My desires are explosive. My
materialism can be explosive. All this stuff is
explosive, man. It could take over. It could
blow up. But Allah gave us protective mechanisms
to keep it under control. And that's what
the revelation does. It it it starts putting
a check on these things. So now I
mentioned these things when when I say that
they did, they will not wish for death
because of what their hands prioritize.
Some of these things, greed, jealousy,
you know, status,
you know, your own pride, even I'm adding
other things, heedlessness,
they become priority.
They take over somebody's life.
And then, when that happens, the religion, the
deen of Allah becomes secondary.
The deen of Allah is only going to
be practiced when it doesn't get in the
way of my own priorities.
My priorities are first, the religion is second.
So easy example would be for example,
you're in you're in university, you're on campus,
it's time for the prayer, and you're hanging
out with a bunch of friends.
Right? And you're like, you know, it's gotta
use time for prayer, but most of your
friends are non Muslim.
So if you're gonna go pray, then they're
gonna look at you funny, or they're gonna
say something. Don't blow up the library,
you know,
99.
Okay.
And you're like, I don't wanna hear those
comments. So you know what? I'm just not
gonna pray.
Not this time.
I'll delay it. Now the thing is, in
that moment, what did you prioritize?
You prioritized
your
your the preservation of your dignity.
Right? Because you thought you'll preserve your dignity.
They you won't you won't have to hear
those comments.
Right? You won't have to hear that ridicule,
or you won't have to hear their criticisms
later on, and you saved yourself from that,
you put that as a priority.
People's opinion of you became a priority over
what Allah said.
Some people asked a question, it was in
the comments.
I I mentioned that there's the letter of
the law and the spirit of the law
and there's the letter of the hijab and
there's the spirit of the hijab. And I
did mention the spirit of the hijab and
people were like, what's the spirit? What's the
spirit?
I've given long lectures on Surat An Nur
and the ayah of Hijab. But I will
tell you guys because I like Stuttgart. So
I'll tell you briefly.
Allah describes in the Quran that a female
the way Allah made. I didn't say this.
This is in the Quran. Take it up
with Allah. Okay?
Allah says,
The baby girl is described as someone who
is decorated in jewelry.
The young young female, the young she's a
little baby girl,
but she already has a desire to be
beautiful.
The boy never comes, puts on a shirt
and says, Look at my shirt. Dad, look
at my shirt.
But a little girl, you put on anything
on her, you put on a band on
her wrist, a rubber band on her wrist,
you put on a necklace made of paper,
you put on you put on anything. What
you gonna do?
Say something. Say something.
And then you just tell, You look so
pretty. I'm
like, I know.
Allah put inside the mail something.
He put inside the mail the desire to
look at beauty.
He just I don't have to convince you
of this, you already know.
They're like somebody like, I don't I don't
know what you're talking about. Yes, you do.
He put inside the male the desire to
look at beauty. He put inside the female
the desire to look beautiful.
He put it in her from her from
the early ages. Allah put that in her
fitra.
Now,
suratul nur, where Allah describes the covering the
head covering,
Allah describes that men must guard their eyes.
They must guard their eyes. Why? Because the
most
the thing that men get the most
pleasure out of is looking at beauty.
And the proof of that
is in all of the online and media
industries
that attract the eyes of men towards female
beauty
in the worst ways.
And those industries make 1,000,000,000, if not 1,000,000,000,000
of dollars
all
because of these that men
have. You know that, right?
Like the proof there's there's
1,000,000,000,000 of dollars of proof of something Allah
has said.
Okay.
On the flip side,
on the flip side,
Allah put a desire in women not to
even though they wanna look at beauty, but
they have a much stronger desire than looking.
What's the stronger desire for them?
To look beautiful.
And there are 1,000,000,000,000 of dollars of investment
in the makeup industry, the fashion industry,
advertising
industries across the planet
that are evidence to that fact that Allah
mentions in Surat An Nur.
He mentions these are facts that human beings
are living evidence of it everyday.
Economies,
entire gigantic economies
are evidence of this. If you know people
that work in social media, and they work
in social media advertising, they know about Google
Trends, and they'll social media trends, video trends,
you know what I'm talking about.
You know exactly what I'm talking about. Now,
having said
that, the thing that men desire the most,
they have to control it if they have
to keep the light in their heart.
The thing that women desire the most, they
have to control it if they have to
keep their light in their heart.
So men were told what?
Lower your eyes.
Women were fault and when women are told
lower your eyes, that's way easier for women.
Way it's like, whatever.
Every one in 1 in 10000 men, they're
like, Oh.
Otherwise, men, it's not 1 in 10000 women.
Women don't have major fitna when they're walking
in an airport.
Every 1 in a 1000 men,
sometimes. Some some use of flight type, you
know
situation.
They're like oh okay
but men
Different problem. Different
but what is the what is the hardest
thing for a female?
As hard it is for a man to
lower his eyes, you know what's equally hard
for her?
Not to look pretty.
That's the hardest thing for her. It is
so hard for her. It is If you
wanna understand how hard it is for her,
it's as hard as it is for you
to what?
Lower your eyes.
You know how every second
you have to fight that?
Every minute you're like, Yo, Alhamdulillah.
I finished the lower eyes problem. Now I
used to have that problem last year, I
no longer have that problem anymore. Autumn it's
on autopilot. Is it ever on autopilot?
No. You have to guard it every single
time.
Guess what women have to go through?
The desire to look beautiful, does it go
away?
They see another woman with beautifully hair done,
they're like, she's got nothing on my hair.
My hair is so much nicer under this
hijab though.
And every time they see a woman
with beautiful hair,
with with her looks
and they're like,
oh my God,
I can show this so much better than
she can.
She didn't even know.
And it's it's killing them because it's all
hidden. It's hidden all the time.
And it's like
I don't I look so ugly. I look
so ugly right now. And they get to
they're not even that pretty. And people think
they're pretty. People don't even know. I'm so
much prettier.
And there's this deep down inside struggle, and
Allah says, Yeah, you're gonna control that one.
You're gonna control that one. To in order
to what?
To keep the light in your heart.
To keep the light in your heart. The
the most
the the strongest impulse
of men that will destroy the state of
their heart
is that.
And the strongest impulse for women that will
destroy the state of their heart is that
this was about protecting their hearts.
That's actually what it was.
It's
the Quran We say, oh it's farad, it's
farad. Hold on. How did the Quran talk
about it?
Why is it in Surat An Nur?
Why is it in the surah that protects
the Nur inside the heart?
Why is it there?
Why is it talked about like this? Anyway,
that's not my subject, but I'm just saying.
But imagine if that's if for some people,
they can't wish how can they wish for
meeting with Allah
when their desire,
their other priorities
became more important. And you know what happens
then?
My desire to look or my desire on
the female side to look beautiful
was too strong, I couldn't control it.
Now I'm gonna say, you know what? Just
because I don't do it doesn't mean I'm
not a good believer.
I'm really spiritual, you know. And I'm gonna
make lots of Instagram posts about how I
fast on Monday Thursday, and how I do
tahajjud, and how I do this, and how
I do that. And you know, who are
you telling this to? Instagram?
Who who needs to hear this?
Who who needs to hear Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
Do I need to broadcast how many nafil
I prayed? What what I how much I
fasted? What sadaqah I did? What dhikr I
did, what Nah, this is just you know
something deep inside,
you know
that you're doing something that's not okay and
you're trying to tell yourself, but at least
I'm doing so much other good. Don't judge
me. Don't judge me. I said don't judge
me.
Nobody's judging you, but actually deep down inside
you can't help but also judge
yourself.
Balili li insanooala
nafsihi basi'a.
A human being has full view of their
own selves. No one has to judge you.
You have to judge yourself
and you should judge yourself.
And this new nonsense,
be merciful to yourself.
Give yourself room to be human.
It's okay.
It's okay. That it's okay is so the
Quran's expression for that is,
You
made something convenient for yourselves.
Yusuf's brothers made something convenient for themselves. It's
okay.
Obviously dad doesn't love us. It's okay if
we just take 1. We're not killing all
the brothers, we're just killing 1 of them,
and we're gonna be good after that.
You
know,
this is actually something that we have to
really, really, learn about.
What is it that we are prioritizing?
Is it that impulse that is a bigger
priority than the word of Allah?
For men or for women?
What is, what is keeping me from praying?
What's keeping me from giving up the haram
money that I'm making? What's keeping me?
What's keeping me from lying? What's keeping me
from giving the money that I owe?
To I borrowed somebody's money, I didn't give
it back. What's keeping me from giving me
giving back that money? Something else became a
priority over the word of Allah, and those
are the kinds of people who will never
wish to meet with Allah.
They can't. How can they?
How can they?
By the way, those kinds of people, when
they have that, that it's called the cognitive
dissonance, meaning they're believers,
but they prioritize the wrong thing and they
know they're violating the word of Allah. You
know what they do then? It's the Quran
is so accurate. You know what they do?
They talk a lot about the mercy of
Allah.
Those people talk a lot about how Allah
forgives, how Allah is merciful, how Allah is
so loving, how Allah is so kind, how
Allah Allah knows what you're going through. Allah
is Why?
Because there's another side to your relationship with
Allah that they don't wanna deal with. You
know what that side is? You're gonna stand
in front of Allah, you're gonna explain yourself
why what you did, what you did.
I don't wanna deal with that part of
it. I wanna deal with Allah is my
friend. What did what did the I say?
Why do they think they're friends with Allah?
Because if you're friends, Allah is always gonna
be okay with me. I'm gonna be saved.
Allah is merciful, Allah is loving, Allah is
guaranteeing me Jannah.
That's because the wrong priorities. It's the wrong
priorities that say, I'm gonna look at one
dimension of my relationship with God, not the
other.
Not the other.
By the way, and understand from this,
the Christian concept of God is God is
love.
Right?
For the Israelites, the God is the savior
of the Israelites.
He's the God of Israel. Actually, he's the
God of Israel.
For Muslims,
Allah is
many names at the same time.
So He loves us more than we can
love ourselves.
He can judge us more than anybody else
can judge us.
He can hold us responsible, accountable more than
anybody else can. It's not one relationship,
it's multiple relationships. We don't get to pick
one of them and say, I'm gonna ignore
the others
because of our own issues.
So what we do is we because we
have our own issues
we hold on to some names of Allah
and forget other names of Allah.
And that's that's exactly what they did.
Allah knows
who the wrongdoers are. Allah knows the wrong
you're doing. Allah knows fully well. You see
how
interrogative that is? What a precise
like surgical response that is from Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala. Now, oh, that's a scary picture,
but okay.
Thank you Leen. Okay. Let's let's see why
that's scary.
Here's what's coming up in the next episode
and this deeper look of Surat Al Jumuah.
Amal means to do something and
also means to do something, but when you
do something without thinking about it it's a
So
any action can be a breathing right now
for me is a When I open my
eyes and I see you guys, that's a
faal. But if I choose one person to
stare at, then that would be a 'amal
because it's a conscious act.
So includes intent.
Does not include intent
necessarily but absolutely includes intent. So Allah is
saying, he will inform you of the things
you did intently,
knowingly,
consciously. Okay. Now we're coming to the most
exciting part before the break.
I need 5 minutes, guys. Is that okay?
5 minutes.
Okay.
We've gone We finished 2 sections of the
surah
today,
and I'm gonna give you a review of
section 1.
Section 1
was like this, everything in the skies and
the earth does to speed. You said,
You remember that?
Then He was the King, Al Malik, then
Al Quddoos,
then Al Aziz, then Al Hakim. Then Allah
said,
He sent