Nouman Ali Khan – Marriage Careers & Dealing With Societal Pressure – Q&A

Nouman Ali Khan
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The speaker discusses how people are stressed to get married and become desperate, causing problems such as negative behavior and negative consequences. The speaker suggests that people should not make decisions about their future and that they should focus on making decisions about their life. The speaker also mentions that people may receive punishment for their actions, but it is not their responsibility to do so.

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			but when you start thinking my life is
		
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			ruined if I don't get married or if
		
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			you know and then you start to keep
		
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			becoming desperate then you're going to make a
		
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			desperate decision and that decision will create even
		
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			bigger problems any
		
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			questions anybody mashallah thank you for coming everyone
		
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			yes of course you
		
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			know Allah says we created the human being
		
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			in difficulty so your difficulties were designed for
		
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			you my difficulties were designed for me right
		
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			and Allah would not give us those if
		
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			we didn't if we we couldn't handle it
		
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			so the question isn't how to deal with
		
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			it it's how do you how do you
		
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			do the right thing even when you're under
		
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			pressure and like that you know for example
		
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			you said the pressure to get married okay
		
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			well that pressure actually if you look at
		
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			it in the grand scheme of things is
		
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			meaningless is meaningless why because when the right
		
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			person you have to get married to will
		
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			come along then you'll get married if not
		
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			it's okay alhamdulillah but when you start thinking
		
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			my life is ruined if I don't get
		
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			married or if you know and then you
		
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			started becoming desperate then you're going to make
		
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			a desperate decision and that decision will create
		
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			even bigger problems right so you just have
		
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			to trust in the rizq of Allah and
		
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			not live not not get anxiety over one
		
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			thing that is not happening or another thing
		
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			that is not happening just do the right
		
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			thing Allah will make open doors Allah will
		
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			open doors but you know sometimes people say
		
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			oh you're getting old so you have to
		
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			get married this proposal came like but he
		
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			doesn't have one eye why should I get
		
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			no but it's better than nothing and but
		
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			but that's not your choice you shouldn't make
		
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			a choice because of desperation you know we'll
		
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			talk about that that's coming that one's coming
		
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			yeah I'll talk about that inshallah everything
		
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			is everything is a test in this life
		
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			no no no like you know like Yusuf
		
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			is in jail I'm sorry Yusuf is in
		
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			jail is that a punishment no Ibrahim is
		
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			kicked out of his house he does but
		
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			he for special things like Allah for example
		
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			mentions people who humiliate others or spread rumors
		
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			about others that they get cursed in this
		
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			life and the next life for example so
		
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			there are some things Allah mentions that they
		
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			might get punished in this life for but
		
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			generally speaking things we go through are not
		
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			punishments they're just trials yeah hey everyone you
		
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