Nouman Ali Khan – Mariam AS Trial – The Real Purpose of Duaa
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And by the way, please remember those words
next time, any of you, if you're expecting
a child, and that you were hoping, and
your mother was hoping, and your father was
hoping, and your extended cousins were hoping it's
gonna be a son, and you have a
daughter.
You remember that Allah didn't highlight the birth
of a child like He did the birth
of Maryam salamun alaiha.
It's an honor to have a daughter. It's
a gift of Allah to have a daughter.
Our duas are a means by which we
connect to Allah. Our duas are not a
means by which this world becomes heaven.
This world is gonna be full of trials.
People that were much better than we are
had difficulty in life. Today's Khubba is dedicated
to a very unique individual mentioned repeatedly in
the Quran.
It's Mariam salamu alayha.
And the reason I decided to give a
khutbah on some aspects of her life that
Allah highlights in the Quran,
are actually inspired by a question somebody asked
me this week. Somebody came to me this
week and said,
that they've had a very close relationship with
Allah since childhood
and that they make du'a. They've made du'a
to Allah from a very early age, praying
tahajjud,
even even, you know, when they were a
teenager
and they whenever they asked Allah for something,
Allah provided. This person actually had a pretty
tough life. You know, father passed away at
an early age, no brothers. And this woman
has lived a pretty lonely life and basically
decided to really truly depend on Allah.
And so
as she grew and developed in
her years,
she found that Allah miraculously answers her prayers.
Every time she asked Allah for something, Allah
has never left her prayer unanswered.
So she developed this reliance and this closeness
with Allah and would always turn back to
Allah. And if I mean, she needs something,
she goes and prays 2 rak'ahs and she
makes dua to Allah. So really beautiful connection
she had with Allah. But where did the
question come from? The question came from a
fact that more recently she went through quite
a series of very unexpected difficulties in life.
And she decided that she's going to increase
her ibadah to Allah and increase her duas
because her problems have also increased.
So you figured the more your problems increase,
the more you're gonna ask Allah to help
you solve your problem.
And so she does that, and she prays
like she's never prayed before, fasts like she's
never fasted before,
begs Allah, cries to Allah, sheds tears before
Allah like she's never done before,
but the problems keep getting worse, they don't
they don't get any better.
And she starts thinking to herself, maybe Allah
is not happy with me because before I
used to pray and everything used to get
answered.
I've never had this problem before Every time
I had a need I turned back to
Allah and Allah solved my problem
But now I'm making dua after dua after
dua
and I continue to beg Allah and my
problems are not getting solved they're only getting
worse
What could possibly be the reason? And in
her mind, the reason was
I must have done something wrong. Allah must
no longer be answering my prayers because somehow
I've been disqualified.
I no longer I'm not in Allah's good
books anymore.
The reason I decided to give this Khutba
is that this is a very common
notion that can creep into somebody's mind
Now I get to Mariam salamu alayhi and
I really when she spoke to me I
remembered her because
the thing with Maryam Salamu 'alayha was even
when she was young
her birth
was strange It was mentioned in the Quran
Not many people's birth is mentioned in the
Quran
And you know the mother was expecting a
son but she had a daughter instead
And Allah says, they said dakarukal untha'
You know, which has a multiple multiple layers
of meaning, but I'll just highlight one of
them. This boy, this girl is like like
no other boy. This girl is special.
And by the way, please remember those words
next time any of you if you're expecting
a child and that you were hoping and
your mother was hoping and your father was
hoping and your extended cousins were hoping it's
gonna be a son
and you have a daughter
You remember that Allah didn't highlight the birth
of a child like He did the birth
of Maryam salamu alayhi
It's an honor to have a daughter It's
a gift of Allah to have a daughter
And it's actually
the behavior of the mushrikoon
to be upset that you had a daughter
وَ يَهِ يهِ يهِ يهِ يهِ يهِهِ يِي
يِيمِي يهِي يهِيمِن غِينِي يهِ يهِيهِهِيمِن
يَيْنِيهِيهِي
attitude because
he had a girl
Girls are a blessing from Allah
and honor and said disrespect not only of
the gift of Allah but of the ayaat
of the Quran when you're upset that you
had a daughter
You should be mindful of that But that's
on a side note
This child is born, she's actually given a
special place in what was then the central
house of Allah
And Zakariyah alaihis salam used to take care
of her and every time he used to
come to visit her to make sure she's
doing okay because she was dedicated living in
the house of Allah Every time he'd walk
in, he'd see fruits, food in front of
her and he'd say, where did you get
these fruits? These fruits don't even grow here
and these fruits aren't even from this season
These fruits grow in the winter. These fruits
go in the summer. You have them in
off season. Where did you get them from?
She would respond
These come especially from Allah.
These fruits come to me from Allah. Imagine
somebody whose duas
are answered in a way that special delivery
from the sky of food for this woman.
And so when the sister was telling me
her duas get answered in life I remembered
Mariam salamu alayhi and how miraculously Allah would
intervene and provide for her even matters like
food things that we can get up and
get ourselves She didn't even have to get
up for that.
Very special child, very special woman.
And so about this woman, what I wanted
to share with you is later on in
life what happens to her.
When she's a young woman, angels visit her,
Tell her that she's going to have a
child The first thought in her mind, I'm
not married
How? What do you mean I'm gonna have
a child? Lam yam sasni bashar
No man has ever touched me What in
the world do you mean I'm gonna have
a child?
That is how your Master declared it It's
I'm sorry. We're just here to deliver the
news We're not here to negotiate whether this
is gonna happen or not That decision has
been made You're having a baby
Now she's in shock, what am I gonna
do?
She's gonna turn back to Allah and hope
that this will not happen to her, which
it's gonna happen.
And I'll fast forward a little bit for
you, just so you appreciate what happened to
this woman,
after she had the baby.
After she had the baby
and she came back to her town,
the entire community that looked up to her
as a as a Zahida, as a spiritual
woman, as a woman of worship and ibadah,
someone who even the Prophet of their community
Zakariyah had endorsed.
She grew up under the tutelage of Zakariyah
alaihis salam.
All the masjid community is standing there, she's
walking back with a baby,
and they all start
collectively, together, start humiliating her.
How could you do this?
What have you done?
Can you There are there are women in
the in the Jum'ah today.
No Muslim woman,
no Muslim woman can ever imagine being in
a situation where she's holding a baby,
and somebody's telling her that child is not
legitimate.
She cannot imagine that kind of humiliation.
No Muslim, and none of us can imagine
that kind of accusation for our sister, for
our mother, for our daughter We cannot imagine
that pain
It's beyond us
For the Muslim,
our dignity is greater to us than our
life
Our the sense of dignity Allah give it
has given us is more valuable to us
than even our life.
And she knows that when she goes back
with this baby, that's what they're gonna say.
It's one thing that they might be saying
it behind her back They're saying it in
public in front of her in front of
her
Now I want to take you back to
how she dealt with this problem
Because no amount of dua she made is
going to change what Allah has decided Allah
has decided that she has to face this
She has to stand in front of this
And what does she do? When the child
comes as she's about to deliver the child
She says
She says,
If only
if only I could die before this happens
Hopefully I die giving birth
That's she's it's all on her mind Because
that will be an easy escape from what
is coming
There is no other place in the Quran
anybody ever wishes for death
This is the only one
Think about that
Why is it there? Allah azzawajal is acknowledging
that sometimes people go through such traumatic humiliating
situations
where they wish they were dead.
Even that happens. That's how extreme her situation
became. And Allah acknowledged that and recorded that
in the Quran,
I read this and I was just insha'
like how did she just say that?
You know our Messenger alaihis salatu wa salam
told us,
None of you should ever wish for death
You should not wish for death
That's not something you should say casually.
And she's actually now wishing for death. Why?
Because this is an extreme case.
This is a crazy situation.
And so,
you know, the the humiliation she will face
is far worse than death.
So she says There are going to be
this is in the Quran for a reason
there are going to be people that are
going to be in humiliating situations and there's
no getting out of it there are going
to be people that are gonna have to
face their family
that are going to have to face false
accusations
that are going to have to face up
to a mistake they made in the past
Who knows?
And they're going to have to face that
kind of trauma and they'll have to find
comfort in the example of Mariam salamu alayha
But she didn't stop there. She said,
2 words nasyan,
mansiya.
It was incredible words.
Nasiya in Arabic, they say faal and fi'l.
These 2 ozan, they say nisi also. In
one qira, it's nisiyan. In another qira, it's
nisiyan.
This is similar to dib.
The in the Arabic language, you have two
kinds of words, dib and madbur.
The first of these words is actually used
I wrote this down for you
For an animal, for a goat, or a
ram, you don't call it
until it's ready to be slaughtered. It hasn't
been slaughtered
yet. Once it is slaughtered, it's called
it's called
not before, before it's called
She uses 2 words. Common translations say, I
wish I was dead, I wish I was
forgotten.
That's what the translation says. But there are
2 words of being forgotten. One of those
words
actually means, I wish, even though because she's
away from the Masjid, right? She's not back
home.
I hope nobody ever misses me.
They don't even ask the question, Where did
Maryam go?
I wish I could be invisible,
forgotten from people's memories right now, and nobody
even has the thought of me. This is
Nasi.
Nobody even thinks I existed.
There are people that go through the kind
of depression and anxiety where they don't come
out of home
They don't leave home They don't pick up
phone calls They don't answer text messages They
get anxious being around people They're going through
so much trauma that they wish they were
forgotten. As a matter of fact, even if
somebody knocks on the door, they say, I
wish they didn't remember me. I wish I
didn't have to face anybody.
They want to just crawl away, away, away,
away, but just be by themselves. This is
Nasiyyan,
and I'm and she's hoping already that she
dies
and nobody even comes looking.
And then later on, even if years go
by and nobody found out what happened to
her,
she's completely forgotten. There's no memory of her
in the future either.
I hope nobody thinks of me right now,
and I become invisible in the future also.
I wanted to highlight this woman's trial because
this is a woman of dua whose duas
used to get answered immediately.
She used to didn't even have to ask
for food, any news to come.
And this is the situation Allah put her
in.
This is the trial that Allah put her
in. Think about that.
This is not because Allah hates her. This
is not because Allah forgot about her. This
is not because Allah wants to humiliate her.
This is actually all of this ended up
becoming Allah honoring her. You know, you have
the case of Nuh alaihis salam
who was a very loving father.
He made he made dua he invited his
people to Islam
for 950
years can you imagine you think he made
dua for his son
you think he made dua for his wife
all those years or he didn't care about
them Someone who cares so much about his
nation,
they spit on him, they insult him, and
he goes back to them and makes dua
for them 950 years. You think he ignored
his own son, his own wife?
All those years of dua
and they didn't change
Isn't that the case?
Does he blame himself? Yeah, maybe I didn't
do something right or maybe Allah stopped listening
to me The reason I'm starting with that
is people that were much better than we
are much much better than we are were
also they also had similar problems there are
parents in the audience that make dua for
their kids
and they see that their children are going
away from the religion they're going down a
dark path and they can't control it and
they're making dua for them and they're not
seeing that their dua is being answered and
now they're getting frustrated Is there something wrong
with me? Why isn't Allah answering? Well, you're
not the first one to be put in
that position
Our Messenger
made lots of dua You don't think he
made dua for his uncles?
His family?
You don't think he considered abulaha when he
made dua' for guidance?
And if he did, despite all of that
loving dua' Allah himself tell him
you don't get to guide who you love
you know, there are people among us, there
are children among us who wish their parents
or their elders were acting in a more
guided way I've met so many young people
whose parents are in a haram explicitly haram
business and the children, the son and the
daughter is trying to tell the father and
the mother, please get out of this
We we're dependent on you You're paying my
college tuition You're providing for us But you're
providing for us from haram income And I'm
not in a position to provide for the
family right now But this is wrong And
then they're told you're being disrespectful You shouldn't
talk back to your parents etcetera etcetera Now
it's the flip side, it's the children making
dua for the guidance of their parents.
But things aren't changing, things are where they
were. These frustrating situations happen.
And then on top of that are situations
like health calamity.
Not just family problems, but health calamity.
Or you can't find a job, you have
money problems,
and you're making dua to Allah.
You ask yourself, I even did Iqaf last
year,
and I kept making dua and I didn't
pick my head up from sajda all night
long and still I have this problem still
it didn't go anywhere so the first thing
I wanna remind myself and all of you
is that Prophets
Prophets
all of them
Much before us, Allah mentions their duas consistently
in the Quran
And Allah also mentions their problems consistently in
the Quran
You don't think for example
that Yaqub
the father of 12 sons made du'a for
all of his sons?
And especially for his son Yusuf when he
lost his son Yusuf you don't think he
made dua for a use of safety that
Yusuf should come back home that he could
spend he could look at his beautiful son
once again
we know that he cried so much he
lost his eyesight
he lost his eyes over crying over his
son
and all of those du'as for so many
years go unanswered and then they eventually they
get answered
you don't think that, you know, the mother
of Musa alaihis salaam when she put her
baby in the water
and it the river just takes the basket
away the basket could flip over anytime and
how do you know the basket is waterproof?
How do you know it's not gonna leak?
How do you know it's not gonna hit
a rock and it's done?
You know, it's you're throwing something in a
river It's not a jaw It's a baby
in a river You don't think that mother
is making dua'a to Allah?
And notice the difference In that case, in
the case of Musa's mother, she makes dua'a
to Allah and a few hours later she's
reunited with her son
just a few hours later
by the time the baby is hungry for
the next meal he's back with his mother
and in the other case with the case
of Yusuf alaihis salam he was separated from
his father
but he wasn't reunited with his father for
many years
for many many years
we are going to go through difficulty in
life
and our all of our problems are not
going to be solved because we made a
dua to Allah understand the reality of dua
what is the purpose of
dua? We often confuse
dua with talab
talab in Arabic means to ask for something
to demand something
Dua means literally to call
That's what it means
I called you, I invited you,
I cried out to you This is Dua
When we make dua to Allah, sometimes in
that dua we are making demands It's true
We're making requests
But we should never forget that all of
those requests You know what they are at
the end of the day? It's a humble
slave of Allah turning back to Allah
and begging Allah
to help him with whatever problem But it's
more than Allah solving your problem It's just
the act that you communicated with Allah that's
the most valuable thing Our duas
are a means by which we connect to
Allah Our duas are not a means by
which this world becomes heaven
This world is gonna be full of trials.
People that were much better than we are
had difficulty in life. That's okay.
We created all human beings in toil, and
labor, and struggle. Struggle is a part of
life. The purpose of dua is to help
you and me deal with those struggles, and
to never forget that Allah is with us
whether it's hard times or easy times. May
Allah not make us people that lose faith.
May Allah honor us, and and make help
us remember that no matter how much people
try to humiliate you, people try to put
you down, people insult you like they did
Mariam
Allah still honors you. There's a big difference
between what people say about you and what
Allah thinks about you. Because if you go
what by what people said, said, then Mariam
was the most humiliated insulted person in society.
And if you go by what Allah says,
she's one of the most honored women in
all of human history. So we go by
what Allah says. Allah is the one who
honored us.
We honored the children of Adam.
May Allah make us dignified
before Allah
before He makes us dignified before people.
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