Nouman Ali Khan – Inspire Your Kids to Love Salah – Khutbah Highlight
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The importance of praying for oneself and others is discussed, with a focus on respecting and respecting others' needs and values. The speaker emphasizes the need for people to feel respect and appreciation for one another, as well as to make sure electrical bills are paid and heating is working. The importance of praying for Islam is also emphasized, as it is crucial for one's health and well-being. The speaker advises the audience to pray for their own happiness and avoid falling into harm, while also maintaining a prayer to remember the person who is studying and avoid falling into harm.
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Why does someone not pray?
I'm not talking about you, my dear son
or my daughter.
I'm not talking about you.
But just let's ask the question, why does
someone not pray?
There could be lots of answers.
But Allah has His own answer to that
question.
It's a pretty scary answer.
It's an answer I read in the beginning
of this khutbah.
He said, فَلَا صَدَّقَ وَلَا صَلَّى وَلَكِن كَذَّبَ
وَتَوَلَّى So the masjid is more full than
usual and I was given a request.
Lots of kids are here, can you give
a khutbah so we can tell them to
pray?
Because these kids, they're at home and they're
not listening to their parents and they're not
praying, so can you just get them to
pray somehow?
The first thing I wanna start by saying
is, there was a time, my dear, that
I didn't know you and you were not
relevant to me.
You didn't exist, I didn't care about you,
never thought about you, you were nothing to
me.
لَمْ يَكُنْ شَيْئًا مَذْكُورًا Quran says, there was
a time in the life of a human
being where he was not remembered at all.
And including me, I didn't remember you, I
didn't know what your name was gonna be,
I didn't love you at all because you
were zero to me, nothing to me.
But then all of a sudden you came
in my life.
And even when I found out that your
mom is going to give you birth while
she was holding you in her belly, and
even the mom, I used to wonder what
you're gonna be like, but I had no
idea, I had no clue.
Part of me was scared you'd be like
me, but I had no idea what you
would be like.
And even as you were growing up, when
you were a baby, I still didn't really
know you, I knew that you need to
be fed and sometimes you smell really bad.
Other than that, I didn't know much about
you.
I had to clean you and feed you,
but I didn't know much about you.
And now that you're growing up and we
can talk and communicate now, and you're going
to school, and we live in the same
house, I just want you to know that
this relationship wasn't always there.
And I also want you to know that
this relationship will not always be there.
We have very little time together.
We don't have a lot of time together.
And very soon, you're going to become an
adult.
You're on the way to becoming an adult.
It's not very far away.
In fact, when you were a baby till
now, feels like a month.
Like blink my eyes and you became this
thing.
And before you know it, you're going to
be an adult, you're gonna go to university,
you're gonna get a job, you're going to
get married.
All these things are going to happen inshallah,
if Allah wills.
And when that happens, it's not going to
be like this.
You're not going to come home to me.
You're not going to spend time with me.
You're going to have your job, your family,
your wife, your husband, whatever, you're going to
have your own life.
You're going to say, okay, dad, I'll talk
to you later.
Okay, I gotta go.
I got another call.
And you're just going to hang up on
me.
And you're going to do your own thing.
And in fact, most of the time, I
will not have any control over the choices
you make.
In fact, when you're at school, and you're
hanging out with your friends, and you're talking
to your friends, I don't control any of
those conversations.
And if I've already given you an iPad,
or a phone, or whatever, and you're communicating
with your friends, I have no control over
the kinds of communications you're having.
But there's someone who controlled every cell in
your body, who controlled the microscopic fluid that
you were, that made it inside the womb
of your mother, that controlled the genetic sequence
with which you would be created, the color
of your skin, the way your hair looks,
your eyes, the way your mind works, how
tall and short you were going to be.
He controlled everything.
He actually has control, I don't.
I'm reminded of something the Prophet ﷺ told
his daughter Fatimah.
He said, يَا فَاطِمَةُ بِنْتْ مُحَمَّدِ اِتَّقِ اللَّهِ
فَإِنِّي لَا أَمْلِكُ لَكِ مِنَ اللَّهِ شَيْئًا Fatimah,
daughter of Muhammad, be mindful of Allah.
I will have no authority with Allah in
your case.
Which brings me to my next point.
Because I don't have control.
The truth is, as protective as I am
of you and I want you to do
good, I don't control that and I'm not
responsible for it either.
Allah made every human being responsible for themselves.
You see that if you get a driver's
license one day and you cut a traffic
light and the cop pulls you over, you're
not gonna say, can you talk to my
dad?
You're gonna have to deal with that yourself.
When your university professor is going to fail
you in the class, you're gonna say, hold
on, let me call my mom.
Nope, you're responsible yourself.
In the court of law, you're responsible yourself.
At the university, you're responsible for yourself.
At your job, you're responsible for yourself.
For your health, what you put in your
body, you're responsible for yourself.
For putting yourself in danger and hurting yourself,
you're responsible for yourself.
The older you're getting, the more freedom you
have, the more responsible for yourself you are.
You cannot be controlled by anyone and no
one else is responsible for you.
لَا تَزِيرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَى أُخْرَى Nobody will carry
anybody else's burden.
I am actually not responsible for you because
Allah will...
And on judgment day, absolutely, everyone of us
will come in front of Allah alone.
Right now we're together, we live together, we're
a family, we hug each other, I love
you to death, I think about you all
the time.
But there's a day coming where we're going
to be just as alone as we ever
were in our existence.
In fact, even if you come running to
me on judgment day, it could happen that
I'm gonna run away from you.
I don't know you, get away from me.
I got my own issues right now.
Because my relationship with you was these few,
you know, microseconds compared to my relationship with
Allah which is a much bigger relationship, it's
a lot older, and it's gonna last a
lot longer.
Right?
And I have to deal with that relationship
right now on judgment day.
So this relationship, يَوْمَ يَفِرُّ الْمَرْءُ مِنْ أَبِيهِ
وَأُمِّهِ But you know, and all those ayaat.
A person will run from his mother, his
father, his children, his siblings, his spouse.
Some of you say, running from the spouse,
I already do that.
Okay.
Anyway.
So, the next thing I want you to
know is that I need to feel that
you respect me.
I need to feel that you love me.
Just like you need to feel like I
care about you.
When you love someone, you kind of have
some needs from them.
You need for me to make sure that
the house is taken care of.
You need to make sure...
My responsibility, you need for me that the
electricity bills are paid, and the heating is
working.
And you need for me to make sure
that you can get to school.
You need for me to make sure that
you have clothes.
Those are my responsibilities.
And I need to make sure that I
feel some respect from you, and regard from
you, and obedience from you.
I get that.
But the relationship you have with Allah is
different.
You have a lot of needs from Him.
He has no needs from you.
He doesn't need you at all, actually.
He doesn't need anyone or anything.
And let's just talk about you.
When you say, why do I need to
pray?
Why does Allah need me to pray?
Allah doesn't need for you to do anything.
It's not about Him at all.
Allah even says, when nothing will remain.
Let me just give you an example from
the Quran.
When nothing will remain in this universe.
Let's talk about the glory of Allah for
a second.
Recently I was in Qatar during the World
Cup.
And the team that wins, so Argentina wins.
And it's a glorious event.
And they're being celebrated as champions, right?
But imagine if they were...
If the athlete was being celebrated, but there
was no crowd, no cameras, no stadium, nothing.
A guy lives on his own on an
island, and he kicks a ball into a
goal, and says, glory!
And nobody's there.
That sounds psychotic, doesn't it?
To have glory, you need to have an
audience.
To be acknowledged, you need to have people
around, somebody to be acknowledged.
To have praise, to have appreciation, you can't
have appreciation by yourself.
You gotta have someone doing it for you.
But Allah says, كُلُّ مَنْ عَلَيْهَا فَانَ وَيَبْقَى
وَجْهُ رَبِّكَ ذُو الْجَلَالِ وَالْإِكْرَامِ He says, everything
will stop existing on this earth.
And yet the face of your Rabb will
remain, and it will still possess glory.
Allah is the only one who is glorious,
even when there's no one glorifying Him.
Only one.
Anybody else needs somebody else to do it.
So Allah does not need my prayers.
Allah doesn't need me to eat halal chicken.
Allah doesn't need me to not say bad
words.
He doesn't need any of that from me.
So just get that thought out of your
head, that somehow you're doing anybody a favor.
Allah even says, يَمُنُّونَ عَلَيْكَ أَنْ أَسْلَمُ They
think they're doing you a favor by accepting
Islam.
Allah said, لا تَمُنُّوا عَلَيْيَا إِسْلَامَكُمْ Don't tell
me that you're doing me a favor with
your Islam.
بَلِ اللَّهُ يَمُنُّوا عَلَيْكُمْ Allah is the one
doing you a favor.
Now, the next thing.
Why does someone not pray?
I'm not talking about you, my dear son
or my daughter.
I'm not talking about you.
But just let's ask the question, why does
someone not pray?
There could be lots of answers.
But Allah has His own answer to that
question.
It's a pretty scary answer.
It's an answer I read in the beginning
of this khutbah.
He said, فَلَا صَدَّقَ وَلَا صَلَّى وَلَكِن كَذَّبَ
وَتَوَلَّى He didn't actually accept the truth.
And nor did he pray.
Allah says, He was talking about disbelievers, and
He said two things, they didn't accept it,
this person doesn't accept the truth, and he
doesn't pray.
Interesting.
So, if you say, if he didn't accept
the truth, I would expect him to say,
لَا صَدَّقَ وَلَا آمَنَ But he says, لَا
صَلَّى What that means is, something is missing
in you accepting the truth about Allah.
No, no, no, the child says, I believe
in Allah, I'm Muslim.
Yeah, you're Muslim here, you're Muslim in your
head, but this truth isn't just for your
head, this truth is also for your heart.
Something is you're not feeling how true this
is yet.
You're not feeling how serious this is yet.
You don't realize what it is.
Sometimes you know something, but you don't think
about it.
It's true.
You know something, you don't think about it.
And so, because that's missing, that's why it
becomes easy for me to miss prayer sometimes
and you to miss prayer sometimes.
That will happen because our heart becomes a
little distracted.
And that truth of this deen, the truth
of who Allah is, that truth goes in
a shelf in the back of our mind,
and we get distracted and don't think about
it.
That's what Allah is saying.
So, Allah doesn't need you to pray.
And even if you prayed, because I'm telling
you to, what are you gonna do?
I'm praying for...
How are you gonna make the intention?
I'm praying for raka'ah because my dad
won't get off my case.
Allahu Akbar.
Allah even told us, the Prophet told us,
actions have no value unless they have the
right intentions.
إِنَّمَ الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ Actions have no...
So even if you did this action, but
your intention was, I'm annoying, that's your intention,
then it benefits me in no way, and
it will benefit you in no way.
The only one that can benefit from your
actual sincere prayer is you.
Now, okay, fine.
That's the answer to the question, why would
someone not pray?
Two more things to talk to you about.
One of them is, what's the purpose of
praying?
Like, what's the point?
Because you might think, the purpose of praying
is so you don't burn in *.
The purpose of prayer is because if you
don't pray, Allah is gonna hate you.
The purpose of prayer is if you don't
pray, you're just gonna get punished, or you
won't even be a Muslim anymore.
The angels will curse you, and all this
negative stuff.
Allah didn't mention those purposes.
The purpose of prayer is not to get
away from something negative.
The purpose of prayer is to run towards
something positive.
That's the purpose of prayer.
Do you know the difference between the student
who's studying, so they don't fail, and the
student who's studying because they love the subject?
One student is studying because of something positive.
The other student is studying because they're trying
to escape something negative.
An employee who loves their work, and an
employee who just doesn't want to get fired.
They're doing the same exact job, same exact
job, but one of them is so happy,
so filled with joy, and one of them
is so depressed, and so miserable.
Why?
Because one of them is doing this to
escape something negative.
And the other one is doing it to
go towards something positive.
Allah in the Qur'an, when He told
me about the prayer, and why we should
pray, what's the point of the prayer?
He told Musa a.s. this when he
met him.
He said, أقم الصلاة لذكري It's make sure
you maintain the prayer so that you can
remember me.
Maintain the prayer so you can remember me.
I told you already, my relationship with you
is very limited.
But your relationship with Allah started a long
time before you even came in this world.
And your relationship will continue with Him a
long time after you even leave this world.
And that relationship is worth remembering, because every
good thing that comes to you comes from
that relationship.
Some good things come because I'm your dad.
Some good things.
But all the good things that come to
you, only come to you because of that
relationship.
So if you want all the positive things
to stay in your life, you must remember
where all of the khair comes from, all
of the ni'mah comes from, all of the
rizq comes from, all of the guidance comes
from.
So Allah says, the best way you can
remember that is that you remember Allah by
prayer.
The best way to remember Allah is the
prayer.
أقم الصلاة لذكري That's why you should pray.
And finally, okay, that's why you should do
it.
But just because you're doing it for the
right reasons, Allah says that's not enough.
There's some benefits too.
Some good things will come your way when
you truly remember Allah.
When you truly remember Allah the way He
wants you to.
And the way He wants you to is
these prayers.
If you can do this, Allah says, إِنَّ
الصَّلَاةَ تَنْهَى عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنْكَرِ And even in
this ayah, وَلَا ذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ He says,
prayer has the benefit of stopping you from
falling into things that are indecent.
Because indecency is all around you and I,
son, cannot stop you from being exposed to
it.
Indecency is on your device.
Indecency is at your school.
Indecency is among your friends.
Indecency is at a party when you're going
to corner talking to your friends.
Indecency will be everywhere.
And every time you go towards indecency, your
heart will get damaged.
And Allah says, if you can maintain this
prayer, it will prevent you from falling into
indecency.
And once you fall into indecency, then you
become...
You know like if you're breathing in pollution,
at first you will cough, right?
But if you stay long enough, you just
get used to it.
Well, indecency is like that.
When you're taking it long enough, it's not
that big of a deal anymore.
You don't feel like protecting yourself from it
anymore because your immune system has gotten corrupt,
right?
And then you're ready for even more toxic
behavior, even worse things, والمنكر, even worse things
that you can do.
And this prayer will stop you from going
down a negative path in your life.
That's why you should pray.
Now, these are the reasons you should pray,
not because I'm telling you to pray.
At the end of this whole journey, the
decision is entirely yours.
Because I might...
Allah might take me tomorrow.
Allah might take me a year from now.
And that relationship you and I have, even
if we lived a hundred years, we can't
live longer than that.
There's a time where this is gonna end.
But that relationship, if you really wanna respect
and honor that relationship, pray.
That would be my advice to you.
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