Nouman Ali Khan – How Taqwa Can Improve Your Family Life

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The importance of small small steps and small deeds in relationships is emphasized, along with the taqwa of Allah, which can lead to small actions and causing small annoyances. Money and bribery are also discussed, and attention to family matters is emphasized. The importance of time and discipline in financial decisions is emphasized, along with signing up for a course on Bayinatv.com to learn the Quran and become a part of one's lifestyle.

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			Right? Allah says even if you do something
		
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			small, Allah will multiply it. You might not
		
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			think much of it, but if you become
		
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			more more mindful when you're making wudu, your
		
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			salah is gonna be better.
		
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			If you just take this little small step,
		
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			you're gonna notice something your your consciousness of
		
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			Allah has changed. If you start just being
		
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			mindful that you're walking into your home with
		
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			the right foot and you're making a dua,
		
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			small little deed takes you less than 5
		
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			seconds to do that, but it might actually
		
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			have a multiplied effect on your consciousness and
		
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			your awareness of Allah. In today's khutbah, I'll
		
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			be speaking to you about a few reflections,
		
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			just some lessons that we can take from
		
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			the opening ayah of Surat Al Nisa. That
		
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			is the 4th Surah of the Quran in
		
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			the Mus'raf order and an early Surah revealed
		
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			to the prophet
		
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			when he was in Madinah. It's one of
		
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			the largest surahs in the Quran also. You'll
		
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			notice that some of the largest surahs in
		
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			the Quran are also in the beginning of
		
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			the Mus'haf.
		
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			Some things you should know about the larger
		
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			surahs is that in the introduction of the
		
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			larger surahs, Allah will mention a few comments,
		
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			introductory comments,
		
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			and those are the most comprehensive rich comments.
		
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			Allah will mention lots of things in this
		
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			surah, but the opening is going to be
		
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			this orientation. And in fact, this time, the
		
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			orientation is just a handful of ayaat, and
		
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			the first of them is extremely comprehensive. In
		
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			the sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam, we learned that this is an ayah
		
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			that Rasul alaihi wa sallam used to encourage
		
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			and also recite in the nikah ceremony.
		
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			So when people are getting married, this ayah
		
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			would be recited. This was a common practice
		
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			of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. You
		
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			ayyuhannasuttaqurabbakum
		
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			Humanity
		
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			so this is an address to all human
		
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			beings, not just Muslims.
		
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			He says, be be spiritually conscious
		
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			of your Master.
		
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			Aladhihalakakum
		
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			minafsinwahidah,
		
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			the one who created you from a single
		
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			person, wakalakaminha
		
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			zawjaha, and from out of that person He
		
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			created His spouse, meaning He's talking about Adam
		
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			and Hawa, salamu alayhima.
		
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			Wabathaminhuma
		
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			rijalalandkathira,
		
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			and through the both of them He spread
		
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			from both of them many men,
		
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			and many women.
		
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			And be mindful and spiritually conscious of Allah
		
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			in whose name you ask each other for
		
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			things. Let me explain what this means briefly.
		
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			In whose
		
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			In whose name you ask each other for
		
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			things.
		
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			You know, in.
		
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			You
		
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			know,
		
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			just I swear just in Allah's name, just
		
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			please stop.
		
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			You know, for god in English, we say
		
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			for god's sake, can you please do this
		
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			for me? Right? We have these phrases
		
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			where we call on Allah's name and we
		
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			ask somebody in the in the
		
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			hoping that their sense of faith to Allah
		
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			will be enough for them to do something
		
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			or stop doing something.
		
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			For Allah's state's sake, please don't do this
		
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			anymore. Please don't do that anymore. You know?
		
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			So the taqwa of Allah, there's a few
		
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			things. There's hundreds of things we learn about
		
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			it, but there's only 2 or 3 things
		
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			that I'm going to mention to you. And
		
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			as I mentioned, each one, we're gonna see
		
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			what we might learn from that from the
		
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			taqwa of Alarham.
		
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			So the first of them I wanna mention
		
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			to you is small deeds.
		
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			Right? Allah says even if you do something
		
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			small, Allah will multiply it. You might not
		
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			think much of it, but if you become
		
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			more more mindful when you're making wudu, your
		
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			salah is gonna be better.
		
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			If you just take this little small step,
		
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			you're gonna notice something. Your your consciousness of
		
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			Allah has changed. If you start just being
		
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			mindful that you're walking into your home with
		
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			the right foot and you're making a dua,
		
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			small little deed takes you less than 5
		
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			seconds
		
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			to do that, but it might actually have
		
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			a multiplied effect on your consciousness and your
		
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			awareness of Allah.
		
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			When you're getting in the car and you're
		
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			making du'a for travel,
		
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			right, a Muslim du'a for travel, if again,
		
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			10 seconds or less you can make that
		
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			du'a. It's gonna be hard for you to
		
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			start the car and go somewhere Allah doesn't
		
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			want you to go
		
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			if you made that dua first.
		
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			You understand? So
		
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			small elements of zikr, what do they do?
		
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			They bring about the taqwa of Allah. Small
		
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			small things add up. And when you start
		
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			getting rid of those small things,
		
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			when by when you're like, that's not fun.
		
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			I don't have to do it.
		
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			It's not it's not mandatory. I'm not kafir
		
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			if I don't do it. Fine. You're not
		
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			kafir.
		
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			You're not non muslim. You're you're you know,
		
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			you didn't you didn't sin technically,
		
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			but you know what you're doing? You're diluting
		
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			taqwa. You're diluting the awareness of Allah. You're
		
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			not I'm not mentioning him as much anymore.
		
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			I'm not thinking about him as much anymore.
		
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			And when I'm not thinking about him as
		
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			much, in my conversations, I might notice that
		
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			I start talking about people a lot more
		
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			or I notice that I'm using foul language
		
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			a lot more.
		
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			I'm noticing that I'm maybe laughing at others
		
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			a lot more. I've become more cruel, more
		
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			I've become I've become meaner. I'm generous a
		
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			lot less.
		
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			So what might we learn from that on
		
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			the side of Al Haram? Al Haram means
		
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			all of our relationships.
		
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			There are small things that you and I
		
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			can do in our relationships
		
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			that annoy each other. A wife can do
		
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			very small little things. Every time you see
		
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			hear her do it or see her do
		
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			it, you're like,
		
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			but you just do, and you just keep
		
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			going.
		
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			Right? And just like when you don't remember
		
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			Allah properly,
		
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			and you don't do these small zikrs, over
		
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			time the heart starts getting harder and harder,
		
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			your these small annoyances that the husband does
		
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			towards the wife or the wife does towards
		
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			the husband, over time, what does it do?
		
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			It starts distancing their hearts. They're still living
		
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			in the same home. They still fulfill all
		
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			of their responsibilities.
		
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			They're still raising their kids together. There's still
		
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			all of those things are going on, but
		
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			emotionally, slowly but surely, because of small, small
		
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			things.
		
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			Like, she always laughs at me when I
		
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			does this, or he always says that when
		
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			I do this, or he's always commenting on
		
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			this or this, and she doesn't bring it
		
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			up and she doesn't say any I'm just
		
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			gonna have sabr. And this sabr sabr sabr
		
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			sabr eventually becomes,
		
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			he I don't like him. He's so annoying.
		
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			And in fact, when the husband says, hey,
		
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			I'm going on a trip for 2 days,
		
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			inside of her heart she's like, takbir.
		
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			Like I'm so happy that he's gone for
		
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			2 days. I don't have to put up
		
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			with those habits. You know, like there's a
		
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			the the
		
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			the absence of the loved one should cause
		
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			distress,
		
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			should cause sadness. But what's happened over time
		
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			because of these small, small acts of insensitivity,
		
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			one to the other, the other to the
		
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			first, that they actually celebrate being far apart
		
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			from each other. They're happier when they're not
		
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			around. Or the you know, you're really happy
		
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			when he's not home. You're like calling your
		
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			friends, you're happy, you're smiling, and the moment
		
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			he walks in you're like, oh,
		
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			And your energy disappears because he's here. Right?
		
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			Or she does the same thing to you,
		
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			you do the same thing to her. And
		
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			you could do this towards your children. Small,
		
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			small things that pull siblings apart from each
		
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			other. Small things that put pull parents and
		
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			children apart from each other. So it's the
		
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			the first thing that we learn about taqwa
		
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			on the on the spiritual side. Our taqwa
		
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			to Allah is small deeds, when you when
		
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			you and I become mindful of them, they
		
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			add up
		
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			and they start affecting bigger things. So that's
		
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			the first. The second thing, let's take a
		
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			little a little bit of a bigger step.
		
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			The taqwa of Allah can also be, you
		
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			know, in in our, you know, our thoughts.
		
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			Allah is directly connecting in the Quran, mindfulness
		
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			of Allah and spiritual awareness of Allah. He's
		
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			directly connecting it with the way that we
		
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			think.
		
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			You know, Why don't you think? Why don't
		
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			you ponder? Why don't you think deeply? Well
		
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			and Allah even says about us says to
		
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			us that there are things we can say
		
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			that are offensive to Allah. You know?
		
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			You can say things about Allah that you
		
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			don't know of. So there's thoughts and there's
		
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			speech. So I'll make a quick comment about
		
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			thoughts and speech.
		
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			You see what happens is we when we
		
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			turn to Allah with taqwa, we make dua
		
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			to Allah for forgiveness. When we pray to
		
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			Allah, we have to be aware of our
		
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			own mistakes.
		
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			Right? I have to be aware of my
		
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			flaws.
		
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			I have to be aware of my sins.
		
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			And I know there's no secrets between me
		
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			and Allah. Allah knows how messed up I
		
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			am.
		
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			Allah knows all of my failures.
		
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			Allah knows all of my flaws.
		
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			I can't pretend in front of Allah and
		
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			say, yeah, Allah, I'm not that bad.
		
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			You know, Allah knows exactly how bad and
		
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			I know that Allah knows. So I have
		
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			I have an unfiltered
		
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			conversation with Allah, and I'm very real about
		
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			myself. And I don't want Allah to judge
		
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			me based on one mistake
		
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			or based on even a 100 mistakes. You
		
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			Allah, I know I've made a 100 mistakes.
		
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			You Allah, you know I made a 1,000
		
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			mistakes, but you know that in my heart
		
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			I want to make a change.
		
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			You know that in my heart I'm not
		
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			I'm gonna try my best never to make
		
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			those mistakes again. You have this if you
		
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			truly have taqwa, you have a confession to
		
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			Allah and you don't pass judgment on yourself,
		
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			you're real about yourself. Right? You're real about
		
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			yourself. But if you gave up on yourself
		
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			Think about that for a moment. If you
		
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			gave up on yourself and say, you know
		
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			what? I've made way too many mistakes, I
		
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			messed up anyway.
		
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			If you give up on yourself then it's
		
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			impossible for you to have a real conversation
		
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			with Allah. In fact, you'll avoid it. What
		
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			what is the point of me talking to
		
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			Allah now? What is the point of me
		
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			praying to Him now? I'm already messed up.
		
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			There's no it's not like he's gonna forgive
		
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			me. So even the taqwa of Allah and
		
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			what results from the taqwa of Allah, the
		
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			du'a to Allah, the prayer to Allah, all
		
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			of that cannot happen if I'm not real
		
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			about myself and vulnerable before Allah. Now let's
		
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			bring that to our relationships. What happens in
		
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			our relationship sometimes is if if I made
		
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			a mistake.
		
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			If I made a mistake, that's because I
		
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			was really mad.
		
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			Or, you know, you did this, this, this,
		
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			that's why I made this mistake.
		
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			Or it's understandable.
		
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			You know. It just It happened. I messed
		
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			up. Fine. I messed up. It happened. But
		
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			if your spouse makes a mistake, if your
		
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			child makes a mistake, if You know, they
		
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			always do that.
		
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			That's how they always are. You're not looking
		
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			at their mistake. You're looking at their heart
		
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			behind the mistake and you're saying, this person
		
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			The the reason they they spoke like this
		
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			is because they're filled with hate, they're filled
		
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			with arrogance, they're this way, they're this way,
		
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			they're this way. I've already judged them,
		
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			Their intentions, not their action. I've already judged
		
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			their intentions. When it comes to myself, I
		
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			only want somebody to judge my action
		
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			and never my intention.
		
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			I messed up, but that wasn't my intention.
		
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			And, you know, it's it it makes it
		
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			a lot more innocent. But when somebody else
		
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			messes up in the relationship,
		
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			you're the first thing we go after is
		
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			their intention. This is who they really are.
		
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			So that's another thing we have to be
		
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			be become when Allah says,
		
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			what I'm telling trying to tell you is
		
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			if we're gonna have taqwa of the relationships
		
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			then that means we have to be mindful
		
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			of the things that can destroy the relationship,
		
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			that can separate the hearts. And taqwa by
		
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			the way is in the hearts.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Quran
		
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			says, That that is from the taqwa of
		
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			the hearts. So this taqwa also has to
		
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			do with the way we feel towards someone.
		
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			The way we feel towards Allah, and in
		
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			this case the way we feel towards family
		
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			members. Right? And and those two things go
		
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			hand in hand. A third one that's a
		
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			little bit more sensitive
		
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			is actually money matters.
		
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			Money matters.
		
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			In our religion,
		
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			money is a big deal.
		
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			Earning halal is a big deal. Giving zakat
		
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			is a fundamental pillar.
		
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			Not consuming haram money is a big deal.
		
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			Right? Riba is a big problem. It's a
		
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			serious thing. So and and stealing is a
		
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			serious thing.
		
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			Not giving the the the widow her share
		
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			or not giving the inheritance, these are big
		
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			crimes. These Allah has elaborated
		
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			financial crimes in great detail. In fact, Allah
		
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			has even talked about bribery
		
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			and using your influence to gain advantage in
		
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			business and things like that or or corrupting
		
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			politicians.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Don't don't don't don't give your money to
		
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			buy influence so some people can consume the
		
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			money at the expense of everyone else. Don't
		
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			do those kinds of things. So financial corruption
		
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			is actually a a major component of taqwa.
		
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			By the way, the ayah that I just
		
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			mentioned about financial, you know,
		
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			consciousness
		
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			and being mindful of not being corrupt with
		
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			your money is mentioned right after the ayat
		
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			of Ramadan,
		
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			the the the month in which we develop
		
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			taqwa. Right after you have taqwa, fix your
		
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			money situation.
		
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			Right? Don't be corrupt with your money. Well,
		
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			we need to bring the money conversation into
		
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			the family matters too. If we're gonna have
		
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			taqwa of alarham then
		
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			it has to be that inheritance disputes are
		
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			solved by Allah's book with taqwa.
		
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			When you when you get married, you have
		
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			to take financial responsibility for your spouse.
		
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			You know, wabi ma'anfaqum minam walihim.
		
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			You cannot I cannot take ask my wife
		
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			to pay the bills.
		
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			I can't tell my wife to go that
		
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			if you couldn't support her financially,
		
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			then you shouldn't be, you know, you shouldn't
		
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			be in the, you know, taking the nikah
		
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			contract on and then saying, well, you know,
		
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			you have to pay your own. Or you
		
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			go to a restaurant, you're like, well, I
		
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			only ate 2 pieces of chicken, that means
		
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			I'm paying 18.37.
		
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			You you ate 3 pieces of chicken, you
		
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			pay 21.30
		
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			it's not gonna work.
		
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			That's not taqwa walarham.
		
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			You gotta spend on the kids, you gotta
		
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			spend on your you you have to take
		
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			care of your parents. And what happens sometimes
		
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			in this taqwa is that because a lot
		
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			of times men are in by the way,
		
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			men are not the only ones in this
		
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			situation. Sometimes women are in a situation where
		
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			they're earning all the income.
		
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			You know that happens too. There there are
		
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			situations like that and there are sometimes
		
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			understandable situations like that, like the daughter of
		
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			the old man in in in, you know,
		
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			in Madyan whose daughters were were basically taking
		
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			the animals out to grace. So they're the
		
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			ones making the money in the house. Right?
		
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			That's in the Quran, in Surat Al Qasas.
		
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			So situations like that can happen, or there
		
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			was a married couple and the husband became
		
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			disabled and the wife has to do work,
		
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			and she's supporting him financially. Khadija
		
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			supported Rasul alaihi wa sallam financially for a
		
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			time. There are situations like that exist that
		
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			are based on mutual understanding.
		
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			That's different.
		
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			That's a separate thing. But outside of that,
		
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			what I'm trying to tell you is I
		
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			cannot impose a financial obligation that Allah did
		
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			not impose.
		
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			And I cannot
		
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			make Just like in the taqwa of Allah,
		
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			I cannot make haram
		
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			what Allah has made halal. And I cannot
		
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			make halal what Allah has made haram. The
		
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			same way in my financial dealings,
		
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			I cannot tell my wife, hey, I don't
		
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			like my mother I don't like your mother.
		
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			Don't give her a gift to say it.
		
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			I can't do that. Why is she she
		
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			doesn't have a right to give her mother
		
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			a gift?
		
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			She doesn't have a right to take care
		
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			of her cousin who needs a loan or
		
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			what? It's her it's her choice. That's the
		
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			goodness that Allah has made that halal for.
		
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			In fact, it's even an act of rebadah.
		
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			Why would I stop her from doing that?
		
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			And the same way she cannot stop the
		
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			husband. Hey, you said you're gonna give your
		
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			mom this, this, this. Why are you gonna
		
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			give her this, this, this? Your mom has
		
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			enough,
		
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			you know, or your dad has enough,
		
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			you know. She can't do that to you.
		
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			And your mother can't come along and say,
		
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			I see you're taking your wife on a
		
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			vacation,
		
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			Don't take me on a vacation.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Your wife has a right.
		
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			She has a right. And your mom can't
		
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			come and impose her judgments on how you're
		
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			gonna spend on your spouse or your children.
		
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			So you're stuck in the middle. Everybody hates
		
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			you because whoever you spend on you makes
		
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			somebody else angry. Congratulations on being a man.
		
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			Right? But
		
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			but the idea is the idea is that
		
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			you have to have taqwa of Allah and
		
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			that you don't you're mindful that you're being
		
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			fair in all of your financial dealings, in
		
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			all of your financial responsibilities,
		
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			and you're giving people what their rights are,
		
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			that's actually part of wataqul arham.
		
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			In fact, early commentators on this ayah said
		
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			that this wataqul arham has to do with
		
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			inheritance law first because inheritance law is coming
		
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			later on. In other words, they understood Taqwa
		
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			of the close relationships will have to do
		
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			with money matters.
		
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			The ugliest family dispute happens when the wealthy
		
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			father dies and the children are at each
		
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			other's throats.
		
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			Oh, when somebody dies and everybody's like, who's
		
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			gonna get the house? Who's gonna get the
		
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			car? Who's gonna get the land? Who's gonna
		
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			get the farm? Who's gonna get this? Who's
		
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			gonna get that? And there's this people that
		
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			used to be brothers and hugging each other
		
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			at Eid are now taking each other to
		
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			court.
		
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			For what? For a goat? For a house?
		
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			For just a patch of land, which you're
		
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			gonna be under it in a little bit,
		
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			but you're destroying family ties because of it.
		
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			So money is yet another thing that we
		
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			have to be mindful of in terms of
		
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			Allah, but also in terms of family.
		
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			The final thing I'm gonna mention is time.
		
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			It's time. Allah has created this this system
		
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			of taqwa
		
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			with him, and it revolves around time.
		
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			There are specific times when I'm supposed to
		
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			pray. There's a specific time when we go
		
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			to Hajj. We're in Hajj season now. May
		
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			Allah accept the Hajj of all of the
		
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			Hujjaj. And those of us that haven't had
		
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			the rizq to go to Hajj, that Allah
		
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			provide you the rizq to go to Hajj.
		
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			So
		
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			there's a specific time for hajj, there's a
		
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			specific time for fasting, there's a specific time
		
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			for prayer, there's a specific time for 'id.
		
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			The entire religion and our taqwa of Allah,
		
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			mindfulness of Allah is actually about
		
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			taking advantage of particular times. And even voluntary
		
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			times, there are special times to make dua.
		
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			There are special times to make adkar. Wal
		
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			mustaqfirina
		
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			bil ashar.
		
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			Hayna tusbihoon.
		
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			You know, early mornings, late at night. There
		
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			there are there are times, times, times, and
		
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			times. Well, if we apply that formula and
		
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			what it could mean for our families,
		
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			then there are times that we have to
		
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			give. Rasool alaihi wasallam used to give allotted
		
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			times to his spouses.
		
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			There's a there's there has to be dedicated
		
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			time where people that have a relationship with
		
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			you feel like they got your individual attention.
		
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			If you, for example, have 3 children,
		
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			right,
		
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			and the only time you talk to them
		
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			is, How was dinner? How's school? Blah blah
		
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			blah. But you know what? There's a time
		
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			where it's just you and your daughter. Even
		
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			if it's 10 minutes, it's just you and
		
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			her. She got exclusive
		
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			time from you.
		
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			Right? And you made it into a habit.
		
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			You disciplined yourself. This is the time. Hey.
		
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			It's daughter time. Come here.
		
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			And there's there's a set time.
		
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			Like I said before, it could be a
		
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			small thing. Could it it could be life
		
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			changing in the psyche of that child.
		
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			It could be life changing.
		
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			It could be that you're living with your
		
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			wife. You're living with her for 20 years,
		
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			but you never actually take time other than
		
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			the groceries, the shopping, the bill, the kids,
		
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			the commute, the this, the that. The other
		
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			somebody's always around. We're always talking about, No.
		
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			No. No. There's a time. We're just gonna
		
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			go for a walk.
		
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			Just you and I are just gonna go
		
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			for a walk and we're gonna talk. This
		
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			is our time. No. There's no phone. Everything's
		
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			on airplane mode. Everything is everything else disappears.
		
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			It's just you and me and we're just
		
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			gonna talk. We're just gonna take our walk,
		
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			whatever's on our minds.
		
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			Right? There's that exclusive time. What does that
		
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			do? Just like in our religion, it strengthens
		
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			our relationship with Allah. Right? The daily prayers
		
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			on their times.
		
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			The same way, if we can figure out
		
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			a way to discipline our time with our
		
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			family members,
		
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			idi, you don't have to give them all
		
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			day. Allah didn't ask for all day. Even
		
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			Allah only asked for a few minutes every
		
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			few hours, doesn't He?
		
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			So human beings actually need a lot less
		
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			even. But that time, it it it's not
		
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			this the length of it or the shortness
		
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			of it, it's the quality of it. If
		
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			you're sitting with your kids watching a show,
		
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			watching a TV show, dude, that's not quality
		
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			time.
		
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			Even though you're present there, you're not actually
		
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			talking to them. So you didn't spend time
		
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			with each other, you both spend time with
		
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			a screen. You understand?
		
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			So it it can include
		
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			allotted times
		
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			that can slowly but surely, one drip after
		
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			another after another in a few months, in
		
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			a year, and sometime you'll notice that relationship
		
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			becomes a lot healthier.
		
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			It's a lot easier to protect.
		
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			So we come back to the meaning of
		
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			the word taqwa. Taqwa actually, I keep translating
		
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			it as spiritual consciousness and protection.
		
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			We are we're protective of our relationship with
		
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			Allah. Wa taq'ullah
		
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			Protect yourselves
		
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			from hurting the relationship you have with Allah.
		
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			This is the kind of a nuanced translation
		
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			of this word. If I lose my taqwa,
		
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			my feeling towards Allah will get weak.
		
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			I won't feel anything when I pray, I
		
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			won't feel anything when I make dua, I
		
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			won't think about it anymore. I'm just gonna
		
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			live my life and I happen to be
		
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			Muslim. That's a that's a life of a
		
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			Muslim without any taqwa. Taqwa is about consciousness
		
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			and awareness and a wear a protectiveness.
		
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			I wanna protect my feelings towards him the
		
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			same way I wanna protect my feelings towards
		
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			alaham.
		
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			That's the command Allah has given.
		
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			And Allah at the end adds that he's
		
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			always been watchful over you. He's he's protecting
		
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			over you. In other words, this instruction, one
		
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			way you can look at this aya is
		
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			this is Allah's way of trying to of
		
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			of asking to protect you, guiding you, guiding
		
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			me so that we can live a life
		
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			where both of these things go hand in
		
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			hand. And I would finally argue that one
		
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			of the lessons we can learn from this
		
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			ayah is the taqwa of Allah and the
		
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			taqwa of Alarham are in fact hand in
		
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			hand. You cannot have taqwa of Allah and
		
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			you're not mindful of the family relationships.
		
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			1 will affect the other. And if your
		
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			relationships are going bad, your relationships with Allah
		
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			will also suffer.
		
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