Nouman Ali Khan – Guilt Forgiveness Balancing Faith & Modernity – Q&A

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The segment discusses the importance of forgiveness in Islam, as it is used to deal with past mistakes and allow people to make mistakes again. The segment also touches on the modernity of Islam, including the use of the word of Islam to describe people's behavior and the importance of showing proper figures and behaviors in public.

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			And we start thinking people's judgment because people
		
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			say Allah will never forgive you, but what
		
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			they're really saying is I will never forgive
		
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			you I'm
		
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			gonna give them.
		
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			I'm gonna give the guys a turn this
		
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			time.
		
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			I'll give you one Because
		
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			usually like the test But what if it's
		
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			like For example, like when you did something
		
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			really bad That you're really unsure How do
		
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			you can actually forgive yourself because it's sort
		
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			of like you did something a long time
		
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			ago And now you're like your past caught
		
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			up with you and you just think like
		
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			everything is messed up because of what you
		
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			did Like how do you can actually forgive
		
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			yourself?
		
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			so When you have a hard time forgiving
		
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			yourself, it's usually because people have convinced you
		
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			that you're unforgivable And they have planted that
		
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			idea in your head Right because they're bringing
		
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			it back up and then you start thinking
		
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			that that's your own thought It's not your
		
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			own thought because Allah gave us a relief
		
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			from that Allah told us that when someone
		
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			makes a stick bar when someone repents and
		
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			asks for forgiveness, it's done There's no there's
		
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			no reason to go back to that same
		
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			mistake again Even something as serious as murder
		
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			like in the case of Musa alayhis salaam
		
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			when he accidentally murdered someone Immediately he asked
		
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			for forgiveness and immediately Allah forgave him and
		
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			it's not because he was a prophet because
		
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			he wasn't even a prophet yet When that
		
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			happened, so that was for every believer Right.
		
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			So what happens is we start we start
		
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			underestimating how much Allah forgives and We start
		
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			thinking people's judgment because people say Allah will
		
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			never forgive you But what they're really saying
		
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			is I will never forgive you.
		
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			So we confuse people's judgment with Allah's judgment
		
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			And then we make that our own judgment
		
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			if Allah won't even forgive me.
		
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			How can I even forgive myself?
		
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			Right, so you have to detox from that
		
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			with the word of Allah.
		
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			The word of Allah is telling you when
		
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			you made a mistake Yes, and people will
		
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			bring it up and people will use it
		
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			against you like Firaun used the killing against
		
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			Musa But that doesn't mean Allah didn't forgive
		
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			You have to be clear about your relationship
		
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			with Allah separate from your relationship and your
		
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			comments from people Even though the person cannot
		
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			forgive you And we're gonna talk about forgiveness
		
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			in the fourth episode not the third one
		
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			The third one's about jealousy, but the fourth
		
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			one will be about forgiveness.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes You always mention about the modernity right?
		
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			How we deal with the modernity We as
		
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			Muslim Millennials want to fit with this modernity
		
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			but we want to enjoy this Islam You're
		
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			already doing it right now What do you
		
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			mean how?
		
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			You're a millennial and you're here Where's the
		
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			complication?
		
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			The complication is I cannot relate with my
		
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			circle, not only in this circle but in
		
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			other circles in my company, in my community
		
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			I cannot relate with them So how can
		
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			we give them the hikmah or we can
		
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			have to be dominant as a Muslim Millennial
		
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			I think that Islam is firstly about principles
		
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			And when you demonstrate that your principles even
		
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			at the company even in your other environments
		
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			Make you a better employee make you a
		
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			better manager make you a better person Those
		
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			qualities start speaking for themselves You know, so
		
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			and you're the most reliable person in the
		
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			company like, you know, Rasool sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam We were told about him.
		
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			He has a great character Right, so one
		
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			of the evidences of the truth of Islam
		
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			was his character Right.
		
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			So in this environment where Islam is associated
		
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			with extremism with narrow-mindedness With backwardness and
		
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			all those things your character can break those
		
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			stereotypes not your words, but your character That's
		
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			okay loneliness is it comes with Islam People
		
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			that follow the right way will always be
		
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			more isolated Right, but then Allah will give
		
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			them each other's company at
		
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