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today's goodbyes rather difficult. And I pray especially to allow us origin today that I have
clarity of speech and thought and I'm able to communicate some of these sensitive lessons to you in
a way that you take the best of them, and I take the best of them and apply them in our lives,
allows them to tell the truth of the queer. The 81st surah of the Quran describes a very remarkable
scene of judgment day and it's one Cataclysm after the other one major event after the other, that
is almost impossible for us to imagine. He starts by saying the day when, or imagine a time when the
sun is going to get wrapped up folded up. And when the stars are going to lose all of their light,
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and mountains are going to start sailing. So mountains that we see as fixtures are going to start
moving about within a shower routine at a shot are very expensive camels. And when camels are going
to be left unchecked, the idea of a shower in that culture, the shower, that kind of camel was the
equivalent of a Mercedes or a BMW, that was like a very expensive ride. And it was also your
investment because it's going to give birth to other you know, camels and Sharla is also used for
pregnant camels. Because now you have to take extra care of them because they're about to double
your investment. And so they used to protect them extra use these to feed them the best food. These
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were the most cared for kinds of camels. Okay, so this is like a very sensitive investment.
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And Allah says on Judgement Day, those very sensitive investments that people nowadays people, keep
them in safety deposit boxes, or people keep them in secure accounts, or people keep them behind
safes, places that are you know, very safe. He says they'll be left open unchecked. Imagine the most
expensive car keys are inside ignitions running doors open. Nobody cares. That's the idea of whether
a shower or toilet. So a day on which everything that was valued in the world has no value. People
don't care what's being left behind what is already that way either. Whoo hoo hoo hoo, Sheila and
wild animals that usually are at each other's throats and alligator a lion, a tiger, you know, a
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Python a cobra, these kinds of animals are huge. They show no mercy when they're hungry, or when
they're scared. They attack to kill. They ruthlessly kill they rip through their their victim. And
he says those kinds of animals are going to be herded together like sheep get herded together.
They're all scared of something even more. So they're not even attacking each other. There's
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bunched together. This is the, the, you know, unimaginable shock of judgment day where everything is
defying its nature. Mountains are supposed to stay in their place, they're not staying in their
place. The sun is supposed to be the fixed lamp. For us, as long as human history has been there,
and it's getting folded up, the stars are losing their light. You know, every everything that we
know to be normal has reversed. And so these mountains are these wild animals or are herded
together. And then he says what either new foo Sousou jet and when people are paired together, and
this is also unusual, because there could be someone who is around from 1000s of years ago, and
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there's someone who's acting like phenomena in 2019, and someone else who acted like a drone in the
1700s and they're all bunched together. They're all all the people who acted the same way or bunched
together. All the people of shirker together all the people of pride are together, all the people of
slander are together, all the people of lying are together, all the people of good deeds are
together. You know, all the people that sought forgiveness and the love forgive them are together,
they're bunched by how they are ranked on judgment day. In this world, we get bunched by Who's your
family, you get bunched by what's your neighborhood, you get bunched by what's your country, which
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passport Do you have, you get bunched by economic class, you get bunched by all, we all work in the
same place. These are the ways we group people together today, that's not how we will be grouped on
judgment day is a new fukusa people have a completely different kind of category, completely
different kind of arrangement. So reorganization of humanity, that didn't exist before then, right
now, we don't know there could be someone, we don't even speak their language. We don't belong from
their culture, we may not even belong from their century. But because they did what Allah likes, and
you did what Allah likes, you're standing together. Because you've been paired together, it's a
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rearrangement of net of nature, as we know it now. And then as a climax to all of this, which is
actually the subject of my call. But this is the opening scene of judgment, a when, you know, the
judgment is about to start taking place, and the field for judgment is being prepared, which is why
it you know, I even skipped something way, there'll be harder, so JIRA, when the oceans are going to
boil over, think about this, the mountains are high in the oceans, you know, the bottom of the ocean
is very low, right. And what Allah is doing is he's making the mountains move out of place. So it
gets flattened, and the oceans are boiling over. So the low of the ocean is coming up, and the
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entire Earth is becoming one open field for humanity to gather for this massive judgment to take
place. And people are being grouped now because the field has been prepared, starting from our fine
stretching across the earth. And this field for humanity has been prepared, everybody's grouped
together. And you would imagine, what what would Allah describe Next, you would imagine a level of
describe now our deeds are going to be shown? What is that? When the scrolls of our deeds are going
to lay out, you know, your entire life, my entire life is like a transcript in roles. And it gets
unfolded, like a carpet unfolding in front of you. That's what's going to happen on judgment day.
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But the incredible thing in the sutra is before he lays out all of our deeds for our entire life, he
mentioned something unexpected in the middle of all of this, which is actually the subject of my
whole book. In the middle of all of this, he says, We're either mo ooda to so ealert be IE them
being kottelat when the little girl who was buried alive, is going to be questioned. What crime was
she killed for? The little girl who was buried alive, is going to be asked, What did you deserve to
get killed? Why were you killed? What in the world is this, and this is mentioned, after the
mountain St. Louis, after the oceans are boiling over, after all of that stuff. And right after all
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of this, including the wild animals are herded together, and human beings are paired by their deeds.
And one of the first scenes after that is a baby girl is being questioned, why was she killed? You
need to understand some background to this. You know, the ancient Arabs, they were pretty big on
lineage. And the way their name carries forward is by their sons. So they were very proud to have
sons. But when they had a daughter, it was embarrassing for them. If a girl was born in the family,
there were a couple of things that were sad about it. One thing was sad about it, the guy wasn't man
enough to have a son. That's why he had a daughter. So there's something missing in his manhood.
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That's why he couldn't bear his wife couldn't bear birth to give birth to a daughter. So it was
embarrassing for him that I wasn't man enough. But more importantly, how is she going to carry my
name? She's going to marry somebody else's family. She's going to give them children. I just gave I
just law, I have to feed her. I have to provide for her. I have to take care of her. And she doesn't
add anything to my resource. She's just an expense. She's a liability only and not an asset. She's
an asset to some other family. She's gonna give them children. She's gonna give them value.
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The only they'd prefer she camels. Remember the sea, camels, female camels are better because at
least they give me more investment. They increased my wealth. But these daughters, they're just an
expense. They're just an embarrassment. And I can't even use them and say, Look what kind of
security I have. Nobody messes with me, I have 10 sons, nobody can get in touch me, I have this
much, because sons were also power. Sons also increased your numbers, your tribe look stronger.
Women are just a weakness, they're a liability, you have to protect them, we have to pay for them.
And then they go on to somebody else. So the thought of women like that they thought of their
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daughters like that. And some of them, the more merciful among them, you know, what they used to do?
The more merciful among them used to say, Well, you know what, it is embarrassing, but what can I
do? So they will take the wife who gave birth to the daughter, and the daughter, and they would make
a separate tent for them and never speak to them, again, you live there or leave food outside, don't
ever talk to me again, neither the daughter nor the mother, that was the that was the merciful
arrangement. And the other arrangement was, they would take the baby girl, and you know, either
immediately or within a couple of years pick, take the baby girl out of the desert somewhere and
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bury her alive, just literally bury her dead. I don't even want to think about it. This is the
sickness that the Arab mind before Islam used to have in that desert. And Allah mentions this crime
on Judgment. A why, because allies describing something, there are people in the world who don't
have a voice.
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There are people who can't speak for themselves, they can't defend themselves, because they are
under other people's care. And the first group of those kinds of people are children. Children
cannot speak for themselves, they cannot close themselves, they cannot feed themselves, they cannot
give themselves a place to sleep. They cannot protect themselves. They are at the mercy of their
parents and their guardians and their caretakers, whether it's their biological parents, whether
it's adopting parents, or step parents, or grandparents, or uncles or older brothers who are raising
them or older sisters, they have to have some Guardian taking care of them. And in this society,
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there were certain categories of children that were just considered a burden, and people could do
whatever you want with them. What are they going to do? What are they going to do? This ayah isn't
just about little girls that were buried alive. This is about children throughout the ages, that get
abused, that get mistreated, that gets humiliated and degraded. Allah says What crime was she killed
for? You can kill someone's body. You can physically choke someone, bury someone suffocate, someone
stabbed someone, you can do all of that. But there's many kinds of killing. You know, when little
kids are hit, when they're beat, when they're cursed when they hear, you know, it rips the heart out
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of my body. Sometimes, you know, a lot of times I go around, and I do events, and in different parts
of the world. And a lot of times children come up to me and talk to me. And they tell me things.
This is what I have a conversation. And they say a few things. And I'm no therapist or counselor.
But sometimes they say things that literally I don't know what to do with myself. When when a little
girl comes up to me and tells me Yeah, my mom, mom and dad, they yell at each other all the time. I
get really scared. And you know, especially sometimes my dad is really mad, and my mom gets really
loud. So I get an extra blanket and hide under my blanket. But it's okay, I'm used to it. Now. I
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still get scared but just a little bit. What are you doing to this child? You know, for a child, the
most important thing the child makes a lot gives us the drop of children. That when you get older
you make draw for your parents. Everybody knows that. Well, corruptor Houma, camara biani sarila My
master show both my mother and father mercy, show them love and care. Just the same way they made
sure I grew up safe and sound, just the same way they nurtured me is this nurturing? Is this how you
nurture a child that they are terrified to go to sleep in their own home. And there are other kids
who physically get hit, physically get attacked, beat Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam one time
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saw a donkey with a mark of a slap on his face. And it upset him. And he actually made he spoke
against the person that a loss curse can be on a person who does this to an animal to an animal. And
in some of our Muslim households, it's completely okay to smack a child across the face. To push a
kid to slap a kid to punch a kid to hit them against the wall to kick them. And it is this. It hurts
for me to say this, but this is a reality. It's a disgusting reality. And these children you think,
Oh, you know, I know what they what happens is they grow older. as they grow older. They say well,
it's okay. Everybody got that? It's normal. It's normal. And some of you went through it when you
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were little. And it was like everybody got a little bit. We used to it on places where I come in
country. I come from Buxton. When we did, if we got in trouble at school, the teacher had to get a
real good one. Give you a noxious
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sinesses into place. But if your parents find out that you got hit by the teacher, they hit you
again.
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And later on, we say, Ah, you know, I needed it, I was bad. You know, your parents tell themselves,
it's okay. That's what everybody got. But here's the problem. If I asked you, you were five, six at
the time, when that happened to you, and you say, it's okay. Everybody used to get it. And I asked
you, you'd be okay. If somebody did that to your child.
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You'd be perfectly okay. If they're your child is that isn't that happened? No, I'll never let my
child get hit like that. It was okay for you. Hmm. It wasn't because we made abuse, okay. And for
some people, you know, two things happen when people get abused. Either they grow up, and they do
everything they can to make sure nobody else gets abused like they were. Or they repeat the behavior
that they experienced. They become exactly what they experienced, these children are going to be
asked on judgment that you didn't deserve this. Why did this happen to you? Why was this done to
you? The empathy that a baby's being asked a little girl that was buried alive as being us and being
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and I'm not just talking about physical abuse, I wanted to start with physical abuse. But there's
many other kinds of abuse, you can kill someone with words, you can make someone feel worthless. You
see to the Arabs, this girl was worthless. So before they physically buried her, they probably
talked a lot about her.
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What is what is she going to bring to our family? Oh, my God, I have to pay this bill. When you're,
when you're arguing with your spouse, about the bills about school about their clothes about winter
coats or whatever else and they can hear you in the other room? How worthless do they feel, they
feel like I'm a burden. I wish I didn't exist. They're always fighting because of me. And they have
no value for themselves, the sons and daughters, and especially daughters, that don't have value for
themselves, you're breaking them and killing them, and not letting them have a real life, they never
have a chance. They never even have a chance. And there are many other ways to bury children alive.
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I just want to list a few of them. So you and I can think about what it means to raise kids, you
know, abuse of children of different kinds, not just physical, but inappropriate contact. This is a
reality in many parts of the world. And unfortunately, a reality in the Muslim world. I know that
goodbye is not a, you know that there are different ages here. But difficult things sometimes have
to be talked about. And I as bad as I feel I feel that it's a necessity. These things happen because
of uncles and cousins. And this happens in families. And these little kids who this happens to they
want to tell someone this happened. This shouldn't have happened. I shouldn't have been alone. I
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shouldn't have been left unsupervised. Why was I left here? Why was I left overnight? Why did you
allow me to go to the sleep over a seven year old can make that decision, a nine year old can make
that decision. And when they go through something terrible like that, they are thinking a million,
they're told Don't tell anyone.
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And if the in some kids have the courage to even tell their parents tell someone. And you know
what's even more sickening. When they tell someone, instead of actually fixing the problem. Those
parents that don't tell anyone must have been your fault.
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And they bury those children alive. They teach those children it's okay to be abused. They teach
those children that they have no rights, that their voices mean nothing, that it must be their
fault. So their entire life, they're going to get abused, and their abusers will never get blamed.
And they'll just take it on themselves. And their entire life, they're going to get even worse and
worse and worse abuse. And actually, at the end of the day, they'll believe if my own parents, they
didn't hear what I had to say. They didn't hear my cries. They didn't hear my voice. In fact, they
laughed at me. They made fun of me. They got angry at me, then who am I going to tell nobody's safe?
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Nobody's safe. I asked somebody who went through such an experience. What did you feel afterwards?
And you know, what so many of them told me was that one of them told me I used to have a
conversation with Allah. Now why do you hate me so much? Why do you let this happen to me? Why Why
did that happen to me? Why does my family not care about me? Why am I in a place where I'm not loved
or respect? You know, this is this is a child having a conversation with a large religion like that.
Can you imagine? Another person said I shouldn't I probably shouldn't be alive. I used to ask God
just take me because I don't belong here. I don't want to be alive. Because why what you know,
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because I'm a burden to everybody. And I just I just keep on suffering.
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There's people that were children that were buried alive physically. And there are kids that are
buried alive every single day of their life, buried life every single day of their life. And Allah
will question them on Judgement Day, because they didn't deserve it. And Allah will ask them who did
this to you?
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Who did this to you? Who allowed this to happen? And there are two kinds of abusers. There's the
abuser who does the abuse who does the hitting? Who does the insulting? Who does the degrading, who
does the all all manner of inappropriate is there's that kind of abuser and then there's the silent
parties all around.
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The people who watch it happen and they're quiet.
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They watch the evil happen and they're quiet. I remind you of a famous and terrifying Hadith of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam it's a hadith godsey in which allows the will commanded the
angels to destroy a town.
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He commanded the angel, this town is full of sinners destroy them. And the angels come back to Allah
Allah, you have someone in that town who worships you, day and night. There is not a moment they're
not doing they could have you. You still want to destroy this town, yo, yo, we don't understand.
Allah xojo tells them, start with him.
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Destroy him first, then the rest. He is the biggest of all the criminals. Why? Because he saw evil
happening all around him. And he was too busy just worshipping me and not addressing any of the evil
that's happening. When there's evil happening in your family. When there's evil happening in front
of your eyes, doesn't matter who does it. It doesn't matter if your brother's doing evil, your
cousins doing evil, your father's doing evil, your mother's doing evil, your spouse is doing evil,
it doesn't matter who's doing the evil. If you remain silent, then Allah azza wa jal in this hadith
is teaching us that he'll start with you. You knew the truth, you knew to stand up for justice. So
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she when she's asked, What crime was she killed for? Why did nobody stand up for this child? How was
that even possible? It's not just even the crime of one person taking a child and taking them to get
buried. Where were the other 10,000 people in the village? Who said will bury you if you touch this
child, nobody gets to touch this child. Nobody, you know, sees that happen. This is the kind of
defense we're supposed to have for our children. This is how we're supposed to stand up for our
kids. And you know, these things have a lasting impact on our kids lives. If they if they experience
these kinds of things. And we remain silent to them. Again, there's physical abuse. There's, you
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know, other kinds of abuse, other kinds of physical abuse, and there's also psychological and verbal
abuse. And it gets so bad. Eventually, kids learn that they have no voice. And these Daughters of
ours grew up in many Muslim cultures who have worse practices than before the times of Islam. You
know, there are some some Muslim cultures today. Before Islam they used to be Hindu or Buddhist.
Before Islam they used to be some other religion. And even after Islam, some of the jahi Leah from
before Islam is still there.
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Before Islam women had no honor. And after Islam, women still have no honor. You will tell your
daughter you are going to marry this person. I don't like him. Don't be ungrateful Allah subhanho wa
Taala says Don't be ungrateful. Are you serious?
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Allah will ever says to someone that they can. They have no right to refuse a proposal, and they're
being made to feel religiously guilty that they turned down a proposal. They're being made to say
Allah sent this narrow your way you're kicking it away. You have no right to say that. You have no
right to say that to a daughter. A daughter can choose who she wants to marry. And she can choose
who to refuse. Your job is to approve it. Your job is to say this is okay. This is not okay. It's
the example of Busan asylums marriages in the Quran. It's clear, it's very clear. Allah gave our
daughters that right to refuse without being made to feel guilty without being told, you know, if
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you turn this down, who's gonna marry you? Have you seen yourself? You're past the expiration date?
Get married already. When you do this to your daughters, you're burying them alive. You're
suffocating them. This is not okay to do. And you know what the crazy times we live in. We don't
even just bury our daughters alive. We bury our sons alive too. We humiliate them too. We degrade
them too. We don't let them live their own lives. A lot as a wizard has given us this profound Dean.
You know, one of the things that baffled me about what on when you think about your team. Your team
is someone an orphan is someone who either the mother or usually the father, isn't there, the
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provider? The caretaker, isn't there? When you think of a caretaker? What do you think of
financially, they're taking care of someone, you know, they're providing housing, they're providing
education, they're protecting them all of these things? How many people in the world how many
children in the world have both parents or at least one parent physically alive, but there's still
your team.
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They're still your team. They have no protection. They have no dignity. They have no respect and why
am I mentioning dignity? What does the law say Kayla? Bella, he doesn't say two three Muna team. He
says Carla Bella to Cremona let him
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know you people don't honor the orphan, honor the orphan. What does that teach us? That Allah azza
wa jal wants us to honor children, especially children who have a lack of protection, especially
those children. And we're living in the craziest times. Forget about honoring orphans. We're not
even honoring our own children. We're not even listening to them. Think of the example of use of an
A Sam, who comes to his dad and he tells him a dream. And when he tells him a dream, just a dream.
The father sets him down and gives him so many compliments and so much validation.
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was the last time you told your son or your daughter? I'm proud of you.
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I'm sorry for the way I was harsh to you. All our kids know as we criticize them, they didn't eat
right? They don't sit right. They don't stand, right. They don't talk, right. They don't this right
they don't. We just constant criticism. We don't care about their comfort or their dignity, you
know, even subtle things. I, I'm not angry about this. I'm just sad about it. When I go to different
events, people want to come and they bring their children and they want to take a picture next to
me. It's cute. I don't mind. I love meeting with children. But sometimes you bring me a three year
old girl, a four year old girl, a five year old boy who's scared of me. They're like, Oh, my God,
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this guy came out of the iPad. He's real, you know.
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So they get terrified. And they're holding on to their mom or their dad. And the dad is pulling them
off their own bodies saying, brother, no mind. This one loves you. They really want to take a
picture with you. And this kid is holding on to his dad for life. Please don't do this to me. And
I'm like, I'm pretty sure they're not comfortable. No, no, he's really happy. Just hold him.
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You know what that teaches your children. We don't realize we just think oh, there's an opportunity
to take a picture. And there's just one second, you got to be happy about it.
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What does that teach these kids, these kids are taught my fear my reservation, my discomfort means
nothing. That means nothing. This picture is more important than my combined feelings. That's more
important. And you're also teaching them It's okay. For some stranger, the whole I'm a stranger to
them. It's okay for some stranger to hold you. And that's not an okay thing to teach. That's not an
okay behavior to accept. This is why honoring children, not allowing them to be buried alive is so
important. to dignify them is so important to engage them in real conversation is so important. Our
religion does teach us the value and the importance of parents. But when parents don't become people
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of Serbia,
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but they don't do the proper tambien when they don't validate their children, when they don't teach
their children. You know how to feel their make their children feel loved, valued, heard, even
respected. But some parents, they want to impose their authority and expect respect back, the only
thing you gave them was fear.
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You give them fear, and you want back respect, guess what's going to happen? Eventually, they won't
be scared anymore. And when they're not scared anymore, you're not going to get an ounce of respect.
You're not going to get anything. As a matter of fact, what they will have is hatred towards you
will have hatred towards you, because all you gave them was fear. If a lot ask yourself this
question again, if Allah is telling us, we have to honor the orphan. How much more do we have to
honor our own kids? You know, what will our homi Bhabha, whom Allah be battling ticket habila the
people of the room are more priority to Allah.
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The ties of blood are a bigger priority than anything else. This is something we really seriously
have to think about. You know, don't yell at your children in front of other people. Don't Don't
even yell at your children in front of other children. As a matter of fact, you shouldn't be yelling
at your children anyway. You keep yelling at your kids, they're not gonna, though, that just means
all man the radios on again.
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Oh, here he goes again. They're going to hear eventually, they're not going to hear nothing. All
you're going to do is yell. That's all you're going to do. You know, who which parent wants to hear
you, you could yell at them your whole you know, in their early years when they turn 2021 22 you
yell at them and they say You're not the boss of me. Who wants to hear that?
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Put your voice down. I'm not a child anymore. who's looking forward to hearing that?
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None of us did our messenger oxytocin raise his voice in the Quran. Not say when you raise your
voice, you sound like a donkey. The Quran didn't say that. How is it okay for us to raise our voice
at home and sound like a donkey according to Quran, according to the Quran. And if you sound like
one, you'll end up getting treated like one.
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So we have to learn a different approach. We have to learn a dignified approach to discipline. You
know what our messenger used to do. Salallahu alaihe salam when he was really upset. When he was
really upset, he used to be silent.
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When he's really upset, he used to be silent. And the family would know something is wrong. Just
from his silence, just from his silence. Have we tried that approach? And why are we upset all the
time anyway, when a child misbehaves or child does something wrong, it's an opportunity to teach
them something good. Not just to yell and scream, that's not gonna get us anywhere. That's not going
to build. And then we say, well, we want them to be good Muslims, how are they going to ever become
good Muslims, if you're not even letting them feel like dignified human beings. Let them feel like
human beings first. Then the beauty of Islam is on top of that, that's on top of that. Don't yell at
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them in front of others. Don't discipline them. It's embarrassing. I was just reading
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Something I'll be sharing the story of God on Sunday. One more minute, I'll be done. Just wanted to
remind yourself to something. And offered the prophet SAW Selim said, we should defend Medina from
inside the city.
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And some of the companions, young Sahaba, who did not fight in
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this era. So a lot. No, let's go fight the enemy on the battlefield. We want to taste Shahada. We
want to be like, We're not afraid of the enemy. We don't have to stay inside the city will go out in
front of the enemy and fight them. And we missed out on the chance of butter. So give us that
opportunity. Or they give this fiery speech. The prophets lie Selim acknowledged their emotions.
These were the young guys in the army. He acknowledged their emotions, he goes inside he puts his
armor on the prophets I said and puts his armor on. And when the prophets eyes on went inside, the
older companions, yelled at the younger ones, and said, What are you doing? If Rasulullah wasalam
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said, we should fight from inside you should have just listened. Why did you say this? When there
are people that have fought battles before you? We want to fight in the path of Allah to we're not
afraid to but it's a bad idea. Why did you give this bad suggestion. And the young guys felt guilty,
like they said that. So they change their mind. And they sent him some of the Allahu anhu, a senior
the uncle of the prophets, I send them to go inside and say they've changed their mind. But that's
I'll tell you that story on Sunday. But tell you for now, the Sahaba that were older, they could
have corrected those young Sahaba immediately in front of the Prophet slicin them. As soon as they
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open their mouth, they would have said child You don't know anything. You haven't been on no battle.
You don't know. You just watch yourself. There. their elders here the old the adults are talking
Know your place.
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They didn't do any such thing. They allowed the prophet SAW Selim to leave and then they spoke to
them. Why? Because if they got corrected in front of the prophets lie Selim, they would have felt
humiliated and worthless.
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And the most senior of the Sahaba understand that you don't make anyone feel worthless, even when
you disagree with them. Even when they do something wrong. Even then, you don't put them in their
place. You don't humiliate them and embarrass them. This is the kind of courtesy that was even shown
to young men who acted immaturely, when children act immaturely, it's expected because they're kids.
So you don't have to come down on them so hard, that is not going to help them become better, more
mature, refined adults. So I pray that this these words that Allah has given us, of the kids who
don't have a voice for themselves, who may be suffering, physical or worse abuse, or they may be
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suffering emotional abuse, don't, don't you and I should never think that they're never going to
have a voice. It might even seem that on Judgement a level start with children that were victims,
before even the scrolls are laid out. Where the sort of ownership is both afterwards, either No,
that was allowed to be even been put the letters before that. Eliza will make us all responsible
parents, and really check ourselves and lower our voices inside our homes and say things that are
dignified to our family members, our messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the best of you are the
ones that are the best to their families,
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the best of their family. So if you speak to outside people with respect, and you have a smile on
your face, and you have courtesy, and he says, Hi.
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How are you? Mashallah Alhamdulillah. But when you go home, your face turns into a military
commander. And you look at people like, hey, I want to go,
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where's dinner? Where's lunch? What happened to you? And Tom says, the best of your face, the best
of your voice, the best of your manners should be to your families, those are the best of you. And
that means if the worst, the worst of us are the ones whose worst behaviors with their families,
isn't it? It's the opposite is also true. You know, showroom showroom nearly that's also true, then,
if the best of you are the best of your families, then the worst of all, people are the ones that
are the worst to their families. like everybody else. They treat nicely, their family, they trade
poorly. Don't become like those people who are so nice when guests come over. And as soon as they
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leave, you go back to fit on mode. Don't become like those people. That's a warning from Rasulullah
sallallahu where instead of everything positive has a negative side and everything negative has a
positive side, we allow God to allow us to really take this advice into our hearts and check
ourselves and become better parents, better guardians, better older siblings, better uncles better
grandparents, and May Allah azzawajal not make us testify against one another on judgment day.
barakallahu li walakum Khurana Hakeem when finally we can build it with the
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hamdu lillahi wa kafa wa salatu wa salam O Allah, Allah Dino Safa. Susana, Allah, Allah him mahatama
been hammered in. I mean, while early he was a Marine, Colonel Maharaj elfi kitabi him carrying an
akula below him in a turnover gym in the LA Mola. eketahuna soluna lmdb Yeah, you Halina amanu sallu
alayhi wa sallam Otis Lima Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed, Hamas Allah tala Rahim Ali
Ibrahim al al Ameen in the middle Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad Ali Mohammed
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Ibrahim Ali Ibrahim Fei, let me
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In nikka, hamidah Majeed about a la rahima como la jolla in the La Jolla San Juan del kotoba. When
hurricane in Florida he will link up with adequate Allahu Akbar, Allah Allah.
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Allah in the salata Cana mini Nikita makuta