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Bismillah Salam Alaikum guys, welcome to this video. Really,
really excited for this conversation that I'm about to
have today. If this is your first time being here, then welcome
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is part of a new series that I'm working on that seeks to explore
the concept of womanhood as a whole and Muslim womanhood in
particular in the modern day. So we're talking female nature,
femininity sexuality, going onto gender roles, feminism that cannot
Krissy via conversations about marriage, motherhood and meaning
with a variety of amazing guests. So my guest today is popular
YouTube content creator, Rebecca Barrett, all the way from where
are you here from? I'm in Florida. I'm on the east coast of Florida,
the land of the free.
Have you always been in Florida? No, I used to live in New York. I
actually lived all over the place. But New York was my last my last,
you know, couple of years and then I moved back home. I'm from
Florida. So this is home for me. Wonderful. Wonderful. Well, thank
you so much for taking time out of your schedule. I know you have a
precious little baby and a family to take care of as well as you
know very busy on the YouTube.
Guys make sure you check her content out this Rebecca Barrett
okay on YouTube, we'll put the links in the description. But
today, we are here to talk about
all things to do with your journey. As a former feminist, and
if you guys are interested, you can go and check out her own
videos on her journey. You can see all her pictures and who she was
and what she was all about. But I really wanted us to talk about
this today, Rebecca because
the the issue of sort of feminism and how it's changed the way that
we as women show up in the world is it's not tied to any race, any
religion, any class. Really. It's something that's pervasive. So I
want to thank you, firstly, for taking time out to join me on this
platform. And I want to give you the floor, you know, tell me tell
us about your journey from where you were 1015 years ago to where
you came today in terms of your journey from feminism. Okay. Um,
so I'll, I'll try to do this in the most condensed fashion because
I've told this story many times.
So I grew up in a traditional home, both my parents are
Brazilian, both my parents immigrated here to the States. And
I grew up in a very traditional home mother was in the household
dad was working, he was an entrepreneur, since then, my dad
has passed away. So you know, change changes in the family.
But growing up, I saw infidelity in my home. And that was one of
the first, I guess, the wedges in the door to let feminism in. And,
you know, as a young child, I observed my parents relationship,
and I was like, this dynamic is something that I don't want, I
want to make my own money. I want to be the ruler, the master of my
own life. Okay. And so that's the path that I took. I went to
school, after high school, I went to school for mechanical
engineering got a robotics degree. From there, I worked in oil and
gas, which is very, very male oriented. I used to work on
offshore rigs, onshore rigs, for an oil and gas company. And I was
just like, even during college, I went to basically an all male
school, it was one woman to every eight men. So think about.
So think about that. And, and I was a mechanical engineer. So I
was around men, but I had a lot of resentments towards men, if that
makes sense.
I was always challenging and wanting to compete with them to be
the best of the best I wanted to. I had this chip on my shoulder
growing up because I wanted to be this this woman who overcame to
overcome all these obstacles and whatnot. So fast forward, I left
my oil and gas job.
I started my own company at the end of 2015.
And I had moved to New York. Okay, so New York is the
city
parading the breeding grounds for toxic feminism. All right. Sounds
like you've been Boss Baby always.
Yes, yes, I used I was forging my path forward. And you know, I got
very much like, so in high school, I was like, Why would women go to
college to get married and have children made no sense to me? I
was like, so that was the beginning stages, right? And then
during my oil and gas career, I was like, Oh, these men are
annoying, like, I can't stand them. But I have to work with
them. And I was very much one of the guys right. So I would curse
to get the validation of being in the field. I would smoke
cigarettes, which is something I'm repulsed by now. These are the
things that just to like, be one of the boys, you know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah. And so masculine, right to be more masculine.
Exactly. And that was the first time I had cut my hair all off. So
I've cut my hair. I think, well, total four times, like completely
off. So, so in the oil and gas days, that was the first time
because I didn't want to appear feminine. I wanted them to respect
me. And I didn't want them to objectified me in the fields, you
know, and it was almost like a protection.
It was like my forcefield I'm like, oh, yeah, you can just call
me a lesbian, whatever. I don't want you to talk to me.
And so fast forward don't see me like that, like other girls. See
me in that. Yeah. feminine way. Yeah. So fast forward. I'm in New
York, the breeding ground for toxic feminism. And I start really
deep diving into the ideology, you know, you you're a part of all
these women's groups, you're a part of these boss, babe neck
networks, entrepreneurship, you know, I had to fight for my seat
at the table, I had to be at every event, I had to be this, like,
this persona of a boss babe, when inside, inside, I was like,
crumbling, you know, I was like, I was playing this fictional
character that I had created. Right? And I was miserable. I was
miserable. And mind you like this was for years, years of doing
this. Um, so I started my first company sold that company started
my second company. That company failed during COVID At the
beginning of the cold beginning of COVID.
But basically, throughout my whole entrepreneurship experience, I was
tapped into all of the networks, I was at the marches, I was, you
know, every everything possible, and at the same time, I had
chopped off all my hair, I had dyed it, blue, green, purple,
pink, whatever. All the colors, right? And that's something that
I'm sure we'll talk about later on. But feminism really makes
women ugly. Like you're ugly on the inside. And it translates to
ugliness on the outside. Okay. Is the thinking behind that. Wanting
to rebel against traditional ideas of beauty, feminine beauty in
particular? Is that where that comes from? That's exactly where
it came from. For me, right? I was like, I want to be the rebel. I
want to be the outlaw I want to be I want, you know, you would watch
these movies. And I want it to be that, like, superhero or like, you
know, I always loved Mad Max and I liked Charlize Theron in it, and
like the shaved head and she was always, you know, figuring it out
that us
and, and that's what I wanted to be. I wanted to portray that so
desperately so desperately.
But my, that's not my essence. I'm a very empathetic person I have. I
literally am an empath. I've been diagnosed with this. I'm a highly
sensitive person. So when I would get feedback, which was
constructive feedback, I internalized everything broke
down, like, you know, needed space from other people loved being
around other people, but needed to get away and like, be isolated for
two days after that.
And so and so I always look to these, these other women. I'm
like, how do they do this? How like, how are they operating this
way?
The, this is so much time and effort and like building this
character that I, that I portrayed, you know, to the
outside world when inside I was broken and scared and tired and
all of the other things, every other word. And I was also lonely,
you know, I had pushed so many men away, I wanted to compete with
men, I didn't, I had this, like, this attitude against them, like I
was better than them.
And it wasn't until I read Jordan Peterson's book 10 rules for life.
And I was like, Whoa, everyone's telling me, I have to blame
everyone else. But this doesn't make sense. Like, I have to make
my own bed, right? Like, and that concept really stuck with me. I'm
like, It's my life. And, and the choices that I've made.
are like, it's a reflection of that, right? And so if I'm
unhappy, that's a, that's a reflection of my choices. And
that's when the real work started to begin for me, and I was like,
okay, you know, when I and I talked to friends and family
members, and they're like, Rebecca, you're a miserable person
to be around. Wow, I was like,
I was like,
Okay.
Great.
Didn't expect now and no.
Can I just just jump in? Sure. Say that. The I complete, there's two
things that I would like to pick up on, especially for my audience.
One of them is the appeal of feminism, as a way of liberating
yourself from trauma in your family. Right, whether it's
infidelity, whether it's, you know, seeing your mother or female
family members being treated in a certain way. I know that for many
women within the Muslim community, whenever the conversation about
feminism comes up.
That's, that's what was referred to is that we've seen too much,
okay, we know, you know, kind of, we know how this thing works. And
we're not prepared to take that for ourselves. We're going to do
things differently, we're going to insist that the community change
in this in this way. So I thought I wanted to just flag that up for
my audience in particular, because I think that that will resonate
with a lot of people. But also, all this activist work and this
kind of this performance sounds draining.
It is. And, and you know, you were trying to have heterosexual
relationships at this time, as well. Yes. Yes. Did you even
manage that? Like, even make sense?
It was, it was interesting, because until I met my husband, I
was like, Why do all the men just steer away from me? Like, I would
get into relationships, right. But then, after a couple of weeks, or
a couple of months, it was like, they didn't want to be around me.
I would I would self destruct. Essentially, I'd be like, This is
too good. I need to cause some, I need to cause a ruckus, chaos,
bring some chaos to them. Exactly. And that's what I realized that I
was like, every relationship that I've been in. I'm the one that
made it. destruct. And I thought about that. I was like, because
when you look at when you reflect, like when you actually have time
to reflect on these things, you're like, oh, my gosh, like, I'm the
problem, and then your whole world starts blowing up.
Sounds like accountability. Sounds like kryptonite. What is this? Oh,
no. Wow. Yeah. And that's exactly what happened. And it didn't
happen right away. It took time. And it took effort, right and took
effort for me because it's really easy to just be like, okay, cool,
like, still not my fault. Just blame everyone. Yeah, like, it's
fine. Like, yeah, men suck. It's the patriarchy and that's the go
to. That's the go to response. Right. That's what feminism
teaches you as the go to response. And they're very crafty about
this, too. It's not it's very well designed and well thought out.
And, yeah, I bought into it. But then after I started having my own
accountability, I started coming. And I dropped like this is also a
big things that happened to me. I stopped drinking alcohol. I
stopped going to parties I stopped so
socializing with the same people I've realized, while you're a very
draining individual, I can't be around you, I realized that I'm a
very sensitive person. So any one's energy in any way, and I
hate that word energy. But like, the, the person's spirit was
heavy, you know what I mean? And when I started realizing and
tapping into that, I was like, Wow, I'm a very good judge of
character. Why was I blocking this out? And I realized it was the
drugs, the alcohol, the you know, it was all the things that I was
caught up in, and the ideology.
And again, like, feminism is like, the scapegoat, like, you don't
have to take accountability, because you can just blame
everyone else for your problems, institutions, men, other women. I
wanted to jump on that actually. Because, you know, I want one of
my questions, you know, to you is, you know, what do you think are
some of the most dangerous ideas, right, that feminism sort of
teaches? And kind of the kind of thinking that it breeds and one of
them, you've mentioned, and that is the systemic part, right?
Because if we live in an oppressive patriarchy?
Well, as you know, and as we know, it's easy to blame absolutely
everything on the patriarchy. And the thing is, I see people doing
it all the time, even up to today. I'm sure you kind of saw this,
this video that's been going around, I have a model who had her
her contract revoked because she had put some thirst trap pictures
up on Instagram. And instead of kind of coming away from the
situation with some self awareness, and maybe with a bit of
insight into what's appropriate and what's not. She goes on this
rant about, you know, white supremacy and the patriarchy and
misogyny and that's the reason why she's lost her contract. What do
you think are some of the most dangerous ideas that
there are so many? Oh, no, we have time.
So that I, you know, blaming everyone except yourself, the
patriarchy, institutions, men, other women. anyone except
yourself? A big a big part of feminism, modern feminism, I will
say, Okay. People will come at me for for that. But sorry, Rebecca.
Sorry, I don't mean to be pedantic about this. But where does that
come from? This the lack of accountability? What what is the
root belief behind that? Is it the divine feminine? Is it the kind of
the individualized truth is it everything is subjective? What is
what is it at the root of that lack of accountability? Without no
not not having a need to take personal accountability? Yeah,
it's, it's that whole my truth, that whole my truth is the truth
in my life. And you're right, everything is subjective, we lost
morality. In this culture, there is no morals, there are no values,
because morals and values were very much rooted in faith,
whatever faith you belong to whatever you call such as.
Correct, right? Because a lot of these, a lot of these ideas that
they say are pushed by Christianity and other religions.
And so when you look at these things, they're gonna say, Oh,
well, that's, that's why like, the United States was built off of
Christian men morals and values, we need to do away with those
systems, because obviously, that's not working. And so we need to
dismantle the patriarchy is their, their quintessential line, and
it's dismantling the patriarchy and building something new. But
they're building this new world off of bad ideas. Right. And, and,
and the other things about feminism, oh, my gosh, well,
there's different movements that have spawned off of feminism. So
you have the me to movement, right? Believe all women, which go
hand in hand with that, then you have the sexual liberation
movement, which says, you know, * work is real work.
And, you know, the idea that marriage and children are bondage
and slavery. Yeah, yeah.
All of these ideas are bad. And also we went from our husbands are
our protection are the stronghold of our families to let me now rely
on the government for that assistance. I don't need a man. I
don't I don't need a man. I want a man. That's a huge thing being
spoken about today. And what's the worst part about feminism is that
there's so many women that believe that they're not
In a feminist, but when you start talking to them, it's like they're
spitting out feminist ideology. And it's because it's baked into
our media, our social media, everything growing up, I'm, I'm
gonna give my age, I'm 33. Okay, I grew up in front of the
television, every single show Family Guy, like every, like any
show, you go on, you know, on TV, it's the man is stupid. The
husband stupid, the mother, the wife, the mother is the smartest
one. And the smartest one of the entire family is the daughter.
That's true. That's true. That's facts. That's facts. Yeah, that's
exactly how it's portrayed. And, you know, just as you were talking
about this dismantling, I think that where a lot of religious
women, whether they're Christian, Jewish, Muslim or otherwise,
right, who who find who find ideas that, you know, who find
themselves drawn to feminism, right?
There is a fundamental conflict there, right? Because, as you
said, All societies by and large, were built on a religious
foundation, right? Most societies were built on a moral code that
found its home in faith, right?
If the religion is patriarchal, if the religion is oppressive, which
of course women feminists do say, then that must mean that religions
values are also patriarchal and oppressive, which means that the
values that our societies have been based on for millennia,
you know, mother, father, children, family, the bonds of
kinship, loyalty, you know, you know, all the things right working
hard sacrifice, duty, responsibility, morality, you
know, like holding yourself back him, virginity, hello, all of
these things right now through the feminist lens deemed as
patriarchal, oppressive and unacceptable and antithetical to a
woman's happiness and personal freedom. But then now, we have, as
you said, a situation where a society is being built, that
completely trashes every single thing that I just mentioned, even
though human societies have been stabilized on that basis, ever
since we even you know, ever since we know, right, so it's it's crazy
to me that we are embracing and celebrating and pushing this this
really, you know, toxic feminist narrative. Really, I don't get it
like what's the end in sight? Like, what's the goal is the goal
for us all to be Boss Babes and freeze our eggs? Like, what was
the deal here? I don't know. You know, well, to me, you touch on so
many amazing points and I want to and I also want to double down on
that. So, I, I look at today's society, I look at today's
culture, and I, I see a complete debauchery, okay?
Women are drinking on par with men, on par, one to one. Women are
on more antidepressants than they've ever been. If we are the
most liberated women in history, why are we more depressed? Why are
we more anxious? Why do we have to rely on on drugs and alcohol to
cope with our lives? Okay, that is the question I asked. So many
women, because if all of these things, the sexual liberation
movement, and you know, the ability to push off your
fertility, which is a lie, another lie.
And the introduction of birth control, right? You're detaching
that responsibility. You're removing that responsibility
because with *,
there is the possibility of a pregnancy. It's biology. And the
problem with today is that, like you said, everything is
subjective. So we don't call babies in the womb, a baby. It's
now a clump of cells. We you know, * work is real work. So
prostitution and * is is upheld in our society, but a
mother with four children and having marital * with her
husband is deemed inappropriate and disgusting. So so when I look
at this culture,
it's crazy. When I look at this culture, I'm
I'm, I look at my daughter, and I'm like, as mothers who don't
believe in this ideology, we need to, we need to do a better job at
raising our children in order for them to make the changes in the
next generations because we're gonna get into it right. But we're
seeing what we're seeing today. The lowest birth rates of history.
Okay. All across the board. South Korea is paying women to have
babies. Wow, they have the lowest birth. They have the lowest birth
rates out of any country. Okay, so we're seeing lower birth rates,
we're seeing lower
women's inability to have babies because they're pushing off their,
their, their pushing off fertility for later on in their early 30s,
late 30s, late 30s. And even sometimes in the 40s. Right, well,
yeah. And so and so when you when you do that, you can only have one
to two children, Max. Yeah. Right. Whereas before you could have 567.
Yeah, exactly.
And I'm one of those women that I'm 33 I had my first baby, right,
I'm praying to God, for two more. God willing, right? Yeah, but, but
this is what we're seeing today, because these women are believing
the lie that oh, yeah, I can push off my fertility, oh, I can just
take birth control, oh, I can just have * with whoever I want. But
that's going to that's going to inhibit the my pair bonding with
my husband. And then I'm going to think about divorcing him because,
you know, I can have whoever because social media says it's
okay. So it's a complete degeneracy that we're seeing in
society. And that's exactly what they want. That's exactly. You say
they, the people that are
they that they the big they capital T, we won't get into those
things, but a billion, right. It's the rebellion and the destruction.
That's that was the point, right? Because destruction of the nuclear
family, they want the government they want.
They want the government they want. They want to control the
children, they want to control the mothers, the family, get this
father's out of the home, right? The matriarchy, let the mother's
role the family, get paid by the government to do that, and send
your children off to school to get indoctrinated by the state so that
they can be good citizens of whatever country they're living
in. That's the that's the playbook. That's the playbook, and
destroy the men and just destroy the men destroy the concept of
masculinity destroy Yeah, in fact, just taint the whole concept of
masculinity. And, you know, I was speaking about this with some
friends at the weekend. And we were just saying how, you know, if
you have a generation, which we do now, probably two generations of
boys being raised in single parent homes, right? Either a father
who's been completely like neutralized, okay, through
whatever means it was passive aggression, the nagging the
calling, whatever the case may be, but he's been neutralized as the
father, or he's been kicked out altogether. And then you've got
women, you know, who are raising their sons
to be feminine? Is it to be feminine, right, and to be
feminine? And the thing is that we won't talk about single mothers
today, because, you know, I know that it's a huge issue, we'll
probably have a conversation about this, again, I think that there is
a need to try to heal and teach single mothers, because there are
so many of them, right? And they're not going away anytime
soon, especially if the men have their way because they are done
with marrying them. So no one's gonna marry them. And if men are
not prepared to step in a step fathers, then I think we need to
start talking about how to heal and teach single mothers to raise
their children to do better. But anyway, I digress.
I feel like there's a whole generation I think maybe two,
maybe even going on to three that has missed out on
the, I want to say
the kind of upbringing that our mothers may have had, but more
probably our grandmothers going back where they were brought up
Ready to fulfill their feminine role, right to look forward to
their feminine role to look forward to getting married to look
forward to being a mother to look forward to that whole adventure,
right? Our grandmothers knew what was up. Okay, they knew what was
up, they were trained for what was up, right, just like our
grandfathers, they were trained to take on the role when they got old
enough. I think for many of our mothers, certainly my mother was a
feminist, because she kind of came up in the 60s. So you know, she
didn't raise me like that. Maybe your mother was not the same. But
some of us may have had a traditional more traditional
mothers, but some of us will have had feminist mothers, right. And
then, so you look at our generation, whatever our mothers
did, or didn't do, the education system, the movies, the music, the
the media, and now the social media has brought us in a way. And
I see that the next that sort of the millennials coming up as well.
It's just more of the same being pumped, pumped pumped. Forget
about being a mum who needs to get married, you know, like this, this
whole thing. So what do you think we've missed out on if it's, we
say, our generation of gen xers and millennials? What did you
think we've missed out on in terms of what being a woman is? What I
mean when could be
I think the the entire aspect of homemaking
I think
yeah, go on.
Sorry.
Go ahead. The the aspect of homemaking, homesteading,
learning the skills at home, in my household, and this is something
that I am so grateful for my mother,
she taught, she taught me how to cook, she taught me how to
maintain the house, you know, when we had guests over, I would, we
would get tasks. So I would, I would clean the dishes, and I
would vacuum and I learned how to be a big sister and things like
that. So that was ingrained in me, which I'm so grateful for. Because
now my husband has an amazing cook, he's always so grateful for
the meals that I make him. And for me, you know, we, I, I go to other
women's houses, other wives, other couples houses, and I see an
uncapped home, I'm like, What is going on? Like, don't you don't
you take care of the home, don't. And I have friends that don't even
know how to cook, they don't even know how to microwave like, make
themselves
eggs. These are women, these are women, I started, you know, I
started learning videos on how to sew and how to make my own
clothes, and how to do pattern work and all of these different
things, because these are the things that we miss out on. And
guess, you know, we live in modern society, but my, my goal is to
hopefully have a homestead so I can garden and grow my own food
and, you know, show my children how to live off the land. Like,
that's, that's what I want for my children. You know what I mean?
And especially for my daughter, I want her to grow up and see a mom
and what it the beauty of being a mother and not, and not what we've
seen in western civilization where it's marriages that like you said,
the husband is neutralized the the woman runs the household and the
kids run.
The woman runs the husband, the kids run the household. Right?
And, and that's what we're seeing. I want my kids to grow up and have
a childhood, I think, I think we were the last generation to
actually have like,
an actual childhood, like riding your bicycles and doing that
stuff. Today, everyone's already on the iPad. I see children out at
the restaurants on the iPad, glued to the television. I do if it's
too much. My daughter sees my iWatch and she knows how to mess
with it. She's six months old. Tell me how this works. She I'm
changing her diaper and she's, she's like finicky, like touches
the screen. I'm like, Oh my gosh, what is going on? Like, I need to
get all technology
when I put her to sleep and when I changed her diapers, I take off my
watch, because I don't want her to be distracted by these things. And
it's hard. You know, it's hard to to get away from technology, but
technology is the thing. It's a great advancement, but it's also
changing, changing the brain for these children.
And, and I wish I wish more
Women would see the beauty of homemaking, the beauty of you
know, homesteading, like making your own food, growing your own
food, making your own clothes. You know, learning about food
preservation, I'm doing all this stuff now. Like, I live in a in a
fancy apartment complex, but we're looking to buy property so that I
can have my own garden beds. Yeah, I think is it's so interesting to
me, actually. Because it's like, there's this full circle. And I
think society is like that. I think society just always is the
pendulum swinging isn't. So just as our grandmothers and great
grandmothers lived this life, and knew this very well, you know, I'm
sure our mothers were more than happy to say, that's not for me
and go off and get, you know, degrees and careers. And maybe we
were too. And it's only now that we're seeing your generation,
because we you and I are not the same generation. I'm 45. Right?
Well, 44 really, technically speaking.
But by the time this comes out, I'll be 45. So I'm definitely Gen.
Gen X. And for most of us,
you know, if you didn't pair up when you were younger, Hollis
like, you know, it's over, right? I mean, I'm just I'm feel very
blessed, that I accepted Islam at the age of what 21? I think, and
that's the only reason why I thought of getting married.
Because as you know, with Muslims, like if you want to be with
somebody, you need to get married. So all of us at university, like
that was the hot topic. Were the brothers that were the brothers.
It's true, you know, oh, I know a brother. I know a brother Oh, my
sister knows a brother. Oh, my uncle told me about a brother.
That was the conversation aside from schoolwork at university.
That was the conversation. So anyway, I credit really my face
with me having married at 22. And having had my first child at that
age, because definitely, I was not on that path at all. You know, I
wanted to finish my degree, get my masters have a fantastic career,
make loads of money, and then maybe have three kids on the tail
end of it. You know how it goes? Yeah. And that's, and that's in
the unfortunately, that's where I'm at, right? Like I came to this
realization in my late 20s. And thankfully,
you know, God blessed me with an amazing husband at the time that
he did, because I was on that same trajectory of being single, and
not having any prospects. You know what I mean? And so I feel very
blessed, and also to the people that I surrounded myself
with, because, you know, just like you rediscover your faith, I
rediscovered my faith, and I always had been tapped into my
faith. But when you don't like when you just get into your faith,
and you realize, oh, my gosh, the Bible says, like, what it means to
be a wife, right? And so I have to, I have to re re configure this
brain recalibrate, yep.
And go back to my North Star. Because a lot of us, I think a lot
of us, especially if we were raised,
you know, in a religious home, we fall away, we then we come back,
you know, we have this very much prodigal son, prodigal daughter
mentality, some come back too late. And, and that's where it
breaks my heart. Because you see these beautiful women, these
beautiful women with these beautiful careers. And you're
like, how you could have made beautiful children and had
like five of them. And now.
And now you have zero, so that it breaks my heart. It breaks my
heart because it's when it's too late. It's too late. And biology
doesn't care about how many degrees you have on the wall. How
many? How much money's in your bank account. You know what your
status is in society, it doesn't care. It doesn't care if
Subhanallah is a crazy thing as you're seeing this. I'm thinking
of the bottle, right? I'm thinking back, okay, the push back. It's
always you know, women can do more. We can be more than just
wives we can be more than just mothers, right? We're capable of
doing anything we put our minds to. And then you get the look at
women in this field in that field and this field in that field like
we have, we basically, you know, we've come on out on top in almost
every field right? Which is none of it is untrue. I think we are
capable of doing anything we want, right? But every choice has a
consequence. Right and everything that you choose
Do you pay a price for it? And I think that one of the parts of
this conversation that is
conveniently ignored is that it's not cute in your 40s. And in your
50s and 60s anymore. I was having this conversation with my sons,
and they will say, My mom doesn't leave these girls. You know, like,
if these women want to have careers, if they want to, like,
you know, have their whole phase or whatever, let them do it, like
let them enjoy themselves in their 20s. And, you know, let them enjoy
themselves. That's what they said. They're happy, leave them to it.
And I said, You know what, in your 20s, it's cute. It's a riot. I'm
sure it's a wild ride and the 20s Feels like it will last forever.
Even nowadays, the 30s Feels like it will last forever. Because you
know, you see a difference between a 27 year old and a 33 year old
sometimes you can't see the difference. Like that's good. You
got more money now. They've got you know, kind of, they've got a
higher class lifestyle. If they've played their cards right according
to their rules, right? Then by then they're in their financial
stride. They have their own home, they've got the shoes, I've got
the bags, they've got the girls trips, they've got a lifestyle.
Amazing, beautiful, the Instagram is poppin
it is lit. Okay, it's all good. But it's not cute. When you hit 40
It's not cute anymore at 45 at 50 at 5560 7080, which is how long
pigs be living these days. Especially these wild cat ladies
who be in the gym, you know, and eating organic vegan, well, Allah.
They're gonna live long lives. And as I said to my sons, no one's got
anything to say to them when they hit 14. Because they can talk all
the talk in their 20s be a blast, babe, secure the bag, you know,
like, you know, make your life you know, any what was it for yourself
anything that doesn't serve you so many slogans right? In the 20s and
30s. It sounds great. They can make songs about they can do
everything. They cannot say anything. When that woman realizes
that, shoot, I've missed my opportunity. There's no one out
there for me. I've lost my chance of having a family. And even if,
you know, the propaganda and all the conditioning has worked, and
she doesn't want kids, because that is a fact as well.
To see children as a burden. And as an all of this stuff, right?
Even if she doesn't want children. There's no woman Well, except for
the outliers. And we know we don't pay attention to outliers. Just
leave them to the side. But very few women who are alone in the
paid off house with their wardrobe and shoes and boxes of wine are
sitting at 4045 50 saying this is the life. It's just not the way
guys it's just not going to happen. And no one's got anything
to say to those women. They can't even say sorry. Because
that's why we're having these conversations right there. So
badan. And at that point, it's like if I don't continue to
perpetuate this lie, like for these youngins, I'm gonna look
bad, I'm gonna look stupid. So I have to play this game, I have to
play this to the end of my life. And what I wanted to also touch on
what you said earlier, right. You know, the devil's advocate is
always playing Oh, you know, like, it's great to have your money.
It's great to have all these promotions and degrees and all
this other stuff. That's amazing. I think all women should get their
education. I think all women should work in their, in a career.
Where I however, where I, I want women to start understanding is
that there is a point biologically and mentally, physically,
emotionally, all that stuff.
Chemically, that happens in your body. When you hit your 30s. And
you desire children, a lot of women I'm not saying all of them.
Well, you said there's outliers, right?
So planning for that, right? How if your amazing career have all of
these things, but keep that in the back of your mind and say okay,
this is a possibility right here. Okay. This is this is a
this is going to happen for for a majority of women, right?
Lock the husband down. Okay. Get all of the like, train to stick
with it. Exactly. To check with your life. Let me let me It's so
crazy. I had a five year plan. I had a 10 year plan. I had all the
plans, okay. of my career, how I wanted to go I wanted to be
A billionaire, blah, blah, tell us Tell me tell me if I had a plan on
how I was going to how I was going to meet my husband. Because I
said, you know, when you say that it reminds me when Kevin Samuels
used to give those women a hard time, and they used to come on
there and talk about their achievements in their career and
all of the things, then he would ask them what they want, and they
would tell him what they wanted. And he would ask them, What are
you doing to get that? That nothing to say nothing? Because
they they chose? See, this is where I want women to like start
grappling, right? You can be a lawyer, but know that there's a
time limit on that do amazing work and the time that you have also
plan to get married and have children know that these things
expire, right? And that's okay. And you can also like, I hate I
hate when, you know, these modern women tell? Well, she's going to
be a stay at home mom, she says no work. What's she going to do?
Okay, listen, there are moms that have that run businesses out of
their home, I do YouTube, you do YouTube, you have books, you do
all of these different things, right? The priority is always the
family, family first, everything else second, but actually that
therein lies the rub. Right? There is the exactly you've just put up.
John, you've just nailed it. The issue is, and I believe this, that
as women, we these generations that have come in since the sexual
revolution, right? We've been groomed to be selfish. And we are
that we are the center of our universe and our wants and desires
and needs are primary. Right? And so that I think is one of the
reasons why, you know, women today feel so much unease when it comes
to prioritizing a a husband and a family. It feels wrong. Why should
I prioritize him? What about me? Right? What about my happiness?
What about my goals? What about my dreams. And the unfortunate thing
is, and this is what I want to tell sisters out there brothers
probably know this already. But sisters, there's actually few
things worse in life than having a mother who thinks like that.
For the children, because
traditionally, throughout time, parents have always understood
that the children's needs come first. Exactly, and must be
protected at all costs. The children, they eat, you know, they
we make sure that they eat, we make sure that they're protected,
we make sure that we got our young, right, like, this is just
human human nature, right human human behavior. So to be in a time
where a mother sees her child or her children as a drain on her
resources, either personal, emotional or physical, where she
resents the care that she gives the child where she resents the
sacrifice, which she resents the time that it takes to truly raise
a human being. This is a really scary time for children. Because
guess what? The forces that want to raise your children for you,
oh, they're ready. They're locked and loaded me. They're locked and
loaded, they're ready.
So we need to do some mental scrubbing, right? To be able to
really kind of just be honest with ourselves and real with ourselves
to say, Okay, well, how much of this stuff has impacted me and the
way I show up, even if I did manage to, you know, get married
and have children because as we were saying, you said be
strategic? Right? Understand that marriage, if you want to get
married, put it as a priority. Don't think, assume that it will
be at the end of your rainbow. Right after you finished living
this wonderful life, living your best life, that there will be a
man waiting at the end of it with two or three kids because that's
what we're seeing is the fairy tale. And that's exactly you
nailed it. That's what women are sold on, write, do these things,
get the college degree, get that amazing job, build your money,
build your you know, reputation and your short social status. And
at the end of all of that, we'll have Prince Charming and your five
kids. I mean, two kids at this point, Wi Fi, Wi Fi.
Two and a dog to it.
But I wanted I wanted to touch on something that you said to
you said protect the children, right. That's something that is
innate in every woman. Think about how insidious it is. Feminism has
taught women to advance in your career.
Get rid of your unborn child
Old
to advance your career to make that career move to make more
money, you can get rid of it in, in the womb.
At any point in time, up until birth in some states, yeah.
If that is not going against nature, I don't know what is. I
don't know what is it sickening to me 16 million unborn children 60
million since since Roe v. Wade. Okay. Think about, think about how
many women regret those decisions, think about the the, the women
that you know, have been hurt by it. And that and this is what
feminism does. This is what you know, this ideology does, it
completely distorts a woman's true nature fitrah her nature, yep. It
in it manipulates her to think, you know, oh, you can be better
than this, oh, you you advance your life, it's your life and no
one else's life. My role as a wife is to serve my family. That is my
role. And it's a beautiful thing, when you can do that, right? It's
a beautiful day I wake, if I knew the love that I have for my
daughter. If I even knew a fraction of that, in my 20s, I
would have never waited this long. I would have never waited this,
the the amount of happiness and joy and emotion that I have, like,
it makes me so it makes me it doesn't I'm not regretful of my
decisions, I own them. And I understand that I've made them and
I have to live with them for the rest of my life. But if I knew
this love, I would have had six of them.
And I'm a good mom, you know, and I didn't know that I was going to
be an amazing mama. And I say that because, you know, I have I
observe and I'm an observant person and like, the love that my
husband and I give to our daughters like shoot like she
hopefully she's gonna grow up really well.
Hopefully we have more of that. But hopefully you do.
But I wish women could feel that little bit of that love of a child
looking at you and being like,
just smiling and laughing and you know, of course they grow up. I'm
sure you can talk to that.
Now I allowed to say anything in the comments than AWS right now
Masha Allah, but this is this is the this is the human this is this
is how we're programmed, aren't we as human beings, as parents, as
mothers so that our young can survive, because we don't have
kittens that can survive on their own after three to six months, you
know what I mean? like ours take a little bit longer. So they need
like, we need to have that, that instinctual love and sense of
protection, you know, for our young because, you know, they're
going to be relying on us, right. And, you know, going back to a
point that that was I think I was trying to make earlier which is
it's cute in your 20s is cute in your 30s. But you know, when
you're in your 40s and 50s. It's again, it reminds me of some of
the conversations we've seen in the manosphere where we've got
women out there trying to live their best lives, instead of
enjoying their children's success and celebrating their children's
marriages and celebrating their grandchildren and being
grandmothers and, you know, and being the elders of the community.
So those women that made choices that meant that they never had
children, of course, there's always the COPE, right? I'm the
best Auntie, I'm the rich auntie. I'm the you know, the eccentric
auntie. But let's be real for a second guys. And I want to level
with everybody here, right? Because, like, we all know that
human beings are social creatures are not designed to be alone. But
society forces us to live apart from our family groups. Go back a
few generations, even if there was that auntie who didn't get
married, she would be in the family. Yes, she'd be living with
people she would be living with the other people of her age and
the younger generation you had intergenerational living you'd be
homesteading, she's useful. She's She's part of things right. That's
not the society that we live in today. So I we talk about, you
know, men who are who don't manage to pair up and we know the
loneliness that many of them will feel right and that sense of
isolation.
So I also think that this lie that we're selling women about, you
know, basically, it'll, it'll all work itself out, when you're in
your 40s and your 50s. And you have not had a healthy
relationship and you're on your own. And it's bad enough with
parents, in today's day and age, that they don't get to see their
kids more times. Right, most, you know, parents, grandparents,
they're gonna see their grandchildren a few times a month
at best for most people, if that, let alone aunts who didn't get
married, you know, sisters who are not married, and they're just on
their own, and
the weight of this life that we live, right, and the challenges
that we face health scares, deaths of loved ones loss, and you're
facing all of that on your own, you don't have a spouse, somebody
who's checking in with you, someone to come home to, like I
said, What are the advertisers going to tell those women now?
Because all they can offer them is more wine to drink and animals to
raise? Right? And this cats and dogs? And that's not going to fill
the void? That's that's the sad thing, I think.
But yeah, yeah, you nailed it, you absolutely nailed it. It's sad.
It's really sad. And this is, you know, this is primarily why I
speak on YouTube. Because, who's, who's advocating for this? There's
a small group of us, sure. But the majority of the things that you're
seeing on social media is being a thought rocket, on Instagram. And,
you know, being an * model, when 18 year old girls that
are coming out of high school, strive to be an * model,
we have a problem in our general, like, we have a problem in our
society, we need to fix whatever is going on. Because, you know,
this is this is a huge problem. And, and it's, like you said it's
the destruction of the nuclear family. When you allow children to
be raised by the state, you lose control of your children. Point
blank period. Yeah, yeah, they are now the states to manipulate to
mold to whatever, this is why we're seeing a lot of this trans
ideology, you know, gender ideology being pushed to younger
and younger kids. 342. They're saying that, you know, young
children can can
transition
socially, at a younger ages. And I'm like, What are these parents
doing? What are these parents doing? And it's incredible to me,
you know, that. I mean, I talked about this to the narcissism that
we're seeing, because these mothers are right art are being
told to go to social media, to do whatever the Kardashians are doing
to do whatever social media influencers are doing. And all
we're seeing is bad, the nasty, the dirty, the disgusting. And
when we speak, right, we're countercultural, where we're
controversial.
A decade ago, this was pretty normal. This was pretty much
what's crazy is actually I remember somebody saying, how five
years ago, even even just five years ago, nobody would have
Arthur would have thought that a question like What is a woman
would be controversial? Correct. A question that cannot be answered
in public. Nobody would say that three, five years ago. And you
know, you know, as you said about the state raising the children, I
think there's something else to to add to that, which is that, really
what we're seeing is there's the state on the one hand, which I
guess you could say is through legislation and education
education system, right. But what about the media? Oh, yeah. What
about the advertising? What about Hollywood? What about the music?
It's all along the same lines. It's like, there's a playbook and
everybody's, you know, is reading off the same playbook. It's
following the same rules. And, you know, I, I always say to young
parents, I, for some of us, it's too late. But for some of you, you
still have time to not to give your children access to screens,
like, almost period, right? Because the reason I say almost
period is because a lot of parents think I'll let them have a little
bit and I'll monitor it, and I'll control it, especially when it not
devices. And yeah, it's, it's, it's just, it's a pipe dream.
Because literally, that phone that you give your child to play with
while you're busy doing X, Y and Zed if it's a gateway drug, right?
Yeah, as you said, even your daughter No
is how to work your watch, you know, they pick it up. And it's
really the values that you see on Netflix, the values that you're
hearing in the music, the values on tick tock, that's what they are
imbibing all the time. And another reason why I'm advocating for more
parents to make some hard choices about a partner staying at home,
because in today's economic climate, it's not the easy choice.
It's certainly not the normal choice, like it was, say, in the
50s, or whatever. But to really make some serious decisions about
a parent's staying at home, is because being able to speak to
your children, and having the bandwidth, right, not just the
time, it's the bandwidth, you've got two parents who are working
stressful jobs, whether they're high powered jobs, or not just
that they're working stressful jobs, when they come home, they
don't have the bandwidth, they want to detach, right? Exactly. So
anything that helps them to manage the children, they're going to go
for it, whether it's TV, whether it's Netflix, whether it's giving
them an iPad, let them have a phone, whatever the case may be.
And that's one of the ways that we're losing our children is if
traditionally, is the mother in the home, the mother who is
monitoring what's happening, who's talking to the children, who's
listening to them, who's getting to know them, finding out what's
happening at school, you know, like keeping up with the books,
they're reading like that last.
It's like, you know, it, I see people online all the time talking
about going back to that life, about homeschooling their kids
about, you know, leaving work so that they can work from home.
Also, they can just concentrate on these children, because, like I
said, if we are too distracted to raise these kids, trust them
believe someone else is doing them. Exactly, exactly. And I want
to touch on something that you said as well. Right? You know,
it's like, in, in everything, it's all strategy, it's all having the
foresight as well. So my husband is the primary breadwinner of our
household, he goes to work, I stay at home, we live in a we live in
an amazing area. We have an amazing life. We live below our
like, we live out our means, okay? We're not living these lavish
lifestyles, if people could dial back the amount of Starbucks, they
drink, the amount of things that they're buying on Amazon, because
trust and believe, like, Amazon's a button away. And there's things
showing up at the house every two seconds. It's about discipline,
okay? And having the understanding that like, you can budget this
stuff in I know a family. I know multiple people that, that the
woman stays at home, the mom stays at home. One of them has seven
children, and she's going about she's pregnant with her eighth
child, I have another friend who has she's working on her fifth
child, okay.
She's percolating in.
He's got a bun in the oven. Oh, she's something else.
So So, and they and they live. And they live? Well in their means,
right? It's these lavish lifestyles that people want to
portray for social media. So of course, you have to have these
high skilled jobs, because we know that if you just paid the if you
just lived in the right house, with the right house payment,
right, your right mortgage payment, didn't buy the luxury
cars, the luxury vehicles go on those luxury trips, you can save a
lot of money. And guess what your wife can stay at home. And mind
you a lot of a lot of jobs are now online, part time work. There's
there's this there's this website called the mom project, and you
can get part time jobs from the comfort of your home. Right. And
so what I'm saying is that, if you do require to, to income
household, there are ways to do it without both parents leaving the
home. Right. And hopefully, it's the mother staying to raise the
children. And for us, I want to homeschool. I want to homeschool
River and hopefully more children that we have. Because I see like,
first of all, that's a full time job like homeschooling all of
that, right or finding a school that doesn't have the ideologies
that we that we see. But it all infiltrates and so we have to be
very mindful of it and allowing the allowing the mother to be at
home to really understand these things because we we know like we
know what our children are into
Stress, we know when our children are going through something we
pick on that we pick up on that very, very easily, right? So we
can tune into what our children need at the time that they need
it. And trust and believe it's not an iPad, trust and believe it's
not putting the TV on, you know, and I mean, and so we have to be
mindful and strategic in our, in our decisions that we're making
and how we spend our money and how we operate our household. Right.
And I think, I think if more people sat down and budgeted it
out.
It could work for a lot more people than we think maybe if it's
not in a big city, maybe you have to move out of that big city to be
in a in a better in a bigger home, a bigger environment, whatever,
right. But these decisions are not easy. But they're very doable,
still in this economy, still, with inflation still with these things?
Because I see many people doing it, many people doing it. So that
excuse that excuse is a problem with you and your spouse, if you
can't manage that, that that's the issue. And right. Like, if that's,
you know, you guys have to really have these conversations. And I
hope this is practical. For for your viewers. Because 100%,
because I because I think that the excuses always going to be out
there. Inflation. Did you see gas prices? Do you know what groceries
costs? Just says I do. And I make sure that I that I cut my chicken
correctly. And I make sure I make my meals stretch? Right?
And I'm very, I'm very mindful of how I'm going to prepare these
meals, how I'm going to what I need for my children? Do they need
all of the toys? No, you could probably do away with it. You can
shop secondhand, there are many things that you can do
practically, that don't take a lot of effort in order to save that
money. So that hopefully you can transition out of the workforce
and into the home.
I'm off my soapbox. I love it. This is so so good. And you know,
as you said, you know,
it's doable, right? But also there's, I think it requires two
things. One is the will has to be there. Right? You have to know
what you want to do and why right. So if you are wanting to cut costs
or to to live more simply or for one, you know, for the woman to
stay home, you need to have a really a good reason why. Okay,
and for many of us, it's a faith imperative, right? Certainly
within my audience, you know, if we've got women who are making a
decision to say, you know, what, the tarbiyah the nurturing, and
the education of my children is my primary responsibility. And that
is what God is going to ask me about. When I meet him. He's not
going to ask me about whether I got to work on time, per se,
whether I hit the sales targets, whether I hit a million bucks or
whatever, he is going to ask me. I entrusted you with these children.
What did you do with them? I entrusted you with this man with
his husband. What did you do with him? I entrusted you with these
parents. What did you do with them? Right? So there's the the
the why of the peace. And also understanding that this this
lifestyle, as you said, it's a full time gig, being present,
mentally and physically, right being, you know, creative and
active mother, enjoying motherhood, dare I say is a full
time job and you need to have your head in the game. You need to have
your head in the game. Because if you don't have your head in the
game, you become one of those stay at home moms who basically you
know, you know what it looks like, alright, we know what that I know
many of them to the house, the home is not a priority, the
children are not a priority, the children are being kind of fobbed
off any excuse to kind of get away whether it's to watch you know,
the soaps or to be on your phone or to go out for coffee or
whatever. And and that's what I mean about firstly, having a
really strong intention for why you're doing what you're doing.
And understand that it requires it requires it requires all of those
skills and talents that we are so eager to give to the workplace.
Exactly. required at home. Exactly. Like Intel Turles Yeah,
so that intellect okay, that creativity, that you know, the
math skills, the time management, the you know, just the
organization, okay? It needs it's needed in the home if you're going
to run a successful home, an efficient home, a loving home, a
fun home. We need all of those skills.
holes in talents that you've been blessed with, that we want to go
out and run off and give to some workplaces. Our children need them
our homes need them, our husbands want us to bring our full selves
to this role. And subhanAllah we can do that. The kind of children
that grow up in a home like that, there's no comparison with
children who grow up in a home where the mom is checked out.
That's actually my little soapbox, absolutely. I tell people, my
husband's A C E L, I'm the CEO, I'm the operations team over here,
okay. And I have to end I have to make sure that the operations is
and this is me being the entrepreneur, right? Like, I know
how to time manage, I know how to do logistics. And so I'm, I'm
doing logistics all day long. If you can apply the skills that you
learn from the workplace, the skills that you learned from your
education, I'm a mechanical engineer, best believe that my
daughter is going to grow up learning math before everyone
else. Okay. And my and my other children, okay. So we have that
was that was the primary. Like, that was the primary role for
women. If you think about it, the reason why we get educated, the
reason why we learned how to read is so that we can read to our
children so that they we can teach them how to read how to do math,
how to have the skills. And I think it's so important. And that
is why the education is so important for women, having those,
having those hard skills are very important, and also the soft
skills for women so that we can translate it into the home, you're
not deluding yourself, you're not doing away with your old self, you
are transforming into the what who you are supposed to be, you're
taking all those skills that you learned all of those hard times to
like, like my dad used to say, you know, it's the school of hard
knocks, and you're going to learn from them. And so and so you can
apply them to your children, and your children can learn these
skills, I would love for my daughter, I put my daughter on the
calendar so she can watch me cook, right and I and I show her
everything, she has no idea.
I was like, I'm cutting the chick in DC, I'm putting spices we have
to put we have to flavor the chicken. And she's looking at me
like, Okay, you are indoctrinating that child.
And you better believe she's gonna be a great cook. Okay, and her
husband's gonna tell me that.
All right, so I want to I know that we've taken so much of your
time. And I know you need to rest up after you know, your day and
baby's asleep. Just a couple more questions first sure is, what will
you be teaching your daughter, maybe three things that you'll
want to pass on to your daughter about being a woman.
I want her to respect men respect, firstly, her father, right? And
then her husband, because once she leaves our home, she's going under
the care of her husband. And so me being respectful to my husband and
showing her what love is between husband and a wife. That is the
first thing I want to teach her that that love that we have
is very fundamental to her to her growing up and learning to trust
in a man, right, because that's what I lacked. That's what I
lacked from the beginning. And that's what turned me I was like,
I can't see my father, I can't respect my father, therefore, I
need to be the man I need to be the one to take over. And I don't
want her to experience I want to see I want her to see a loving
home where, you know, I, I kiss my husband and I hold like I hug my
husband when he comes in, she can see that you know, so just the
living example of what it means to be a woman what it needs, what it
means to be a virtuous woman what it means to be a feminine woman.
But also those those those skills like cooking and cleaning and
learning how to sew like learning these things together. Right? I
want her to love these things. The way that we were supposed to write
that nurturing nature and hopefully she'll grow up with a
brother or sister and I can show her you know, what, being a
pregnant like being pregnant mommy and you know, having her love on
the baby and all that stuff. And, and honestly, you know, kids, I
feel like I was raised amazingly, right. Kids will always go off and
experience themselves they always have their you know product. I'm
not saying always I shouldn't say always. A lot of them have their
practical son prodigal daughter moment, but knowing that I
It taught her the skills and also our faith, right? Faith is so
important, and showing her how we pray and showing her, you know,
respect for God. All of these things, that's number one, I
should have started with that. But that's number one, right? Because
that's who we are. That's who we get our morals and values from, so
that we can see our physical relationships and say, Okay,
that's how God, you know, God. That's how God loves. Like,
exactly. And, and that's what I want to teach her, you know, and I
know that she will eventually go into the world, I know that I
can't control my kids, I can just do the best job as a mother that I
possibly can do, and that's hopefully instilling our morals
and values
to her and to our other children.
And, and yeah, that's, I mean, and then those hard skills, I want her
to be a great cook. Okay, she's gonna be, you're gonna be chef
river.
River. I love that. I love that. And so lastly, Rebecca Barrett,
what do you love about being a woman? I love everything I love. I
love my nurturing nature. I love being a mom. I've never loved
anything more than being a mom. And, and
oh, gosh, don't get emotional. Okay. And it's okay. I know. But
just
once I stopped, once I took away that facade, that character that I
was playing, I could be, I can be at peace. I don't. I don't
question myself the way that I question myself before I know who
I am. Right. And that's such a beautiful thing. Because once you
stop questioning yourself, once you start, stop, like, believing
what the world says about you, right? You're just not. You're
just in peace. And
you can just be exactly. And I'm not apologetic for being a good
mom. I'm not apologetic for being a homemaker. I'm not apologetic
for loving my husband the way that I do. I'm not apologetic for any
of these things, because that is who I'm supposed to be. Right?
That's, that's who we're supposed to be. And it's such a beautiful
thing when you can tap into that, when you see the strength. When I
delivered my daughter, I deliver her all natural in a pool of
water. Okay, I baby. I felt what the empowerment that I felt I was
like, I am Superwoman. I
know. And that's a feeling that no one can take away from me that
ability to carry this baby, all the way to birth and experience
that it's like our bodies are powerful are like, and I wish, I
wish that's something that women knew is like, our femininity is so
powerful, right? Submitting to our husband is a powerful thing,
because it's easy to rebel to Rasmi it's easy to rebel, right?
But having that discipline, having that ability to just trust in what
he has to do. I can just rest. I'm not stressed. I'm not on
antidepressants. I'm not on. Like, I don't drink alcohol, I can just
live my life and I feel free for the first time in my life. I feel
free from what the world says I have to be what the world wanted
me to be and all of these like burdens and, and chips on my
shoulder. I feel free. And it's so amazing. I wish more women could
feel this feeling of freedom of like, oh, like taking that deep
breath from within and like just relaxing. And
that's what I mean. That's a whole long winded that's beautifully
said of why I love being a woman and I love being in my feminine.
Sounds like you love being this woman. This woman that you are now
who is on her purpose, right? Who is doing what she was created to
do this. That's what I'm hearing. Yeah. And I smile more. I lost my
smile. It's crazy. People are like, wow, you're like you're
glowing. I'm
Like, No, I'm just happy like, and it changes you. I'm telling you
when I was, I'm gonna send you a photo of me. When I was a
feminist. You're gonna see, okay.
I am familiar guys, you can go to her channel to see she's got a
video with pictorial evidence. Yeah, no, I, I've seen the
transformation. And it's a beautiful thing to see well as a
mom of five. I want to send you lots of love and light to you and
your baby and your husband and in sha Allah, God Willing your
growing family.
Keep us posted.
Where can people find you? How can people reach out to you tell us
where to reach you? Yes. So I am on YouTube. At Rebecca Barrett is
my name. You can search me there. And then I'm also on Instagram.
Not really. I just, you know, I'm just not one that I just pop in
here and there to make people upset, apparently. But you can
find me on Instagram and Tiktok at I am Rebecca Barrett. And yeah,
and I also have a podcast if people don't know this as well.
It's called probably problematic. It's different.
It's different from my YouTube content. It's more political. I
love talking about you know, political commentary, social
commentary, things of that nature. So if you want to find me there as
well.
We I hosted with four other women and they're amazing. But yeah,
that's where you could find me. I love it. Love it. Love it. Thank
you so much. This I am so it was just wonderful. You guys could see
well, those of you who know me on this channel, you can see I'm
chiming.
I'm teasing. That was just so so wonderful. Thank you so much. Now
this is over to you guys. It is time for you to pay your dues. It
is time for you to put in the comments. What did you love about
this conversation? What are your takeaways? What are your
reflections on the conversation that we had, make sure that you
give the video a thumbs up, make sure that you subscribe to the
channel and make sure that you follow and go and check out
Rebecca Rebecca Barrett's channel as well. We are not stopping this
conversation. We are continuing with this conversation and we are
not going to stop talking about womanhood and the challenges that
womanhood is facing and reclaiming. Really, if I can say
natural womanhood, reclaiming the space to be women, fully women.
And hopefully my goal is to inspire the next generation coming
up with natural womanhood and getting them excited about what it
really means to be a woman. So Rebecca, thank you so much. It's
been a fantastic, fantastic conversation. Love to you guys.
And thank you everybody. So
much