Naima B. Robert – TMC Episode 6 Clip Not Every Muslim Marriage is the Same! REMINDER
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The speakers discuss the importance of commitment to marriage in society, particularly in the Islamic society. They acknowledge that marriage is a core values in the religion, but it is also a core values in modern society. The speakers also touch on the confusion surrounding roles and responsibilities in marriage, and how it can lead to chaos and chaos in society.
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commitment is something that is key to the institution of
marriage.
I know, in the past, there was a taboo of having a divorce. But now
we have moved to another extreme where any troubles happen. We
think, Oh, I can't deal with him, or I'm not gonna tolerate this.
The thing is, in every situation in life, there has to be a level
of effort, commitment, and struggle, whether that students
studying for GCSEs, whether it's a businessman trying to make
profits, he's not going to just quit just because he's facing a
hurdle, or difficulty. He's going to make it work because he's
committed.
How does the Islamic model of marriage differ from what we have
learned from popular culture from the media, you know, Hollywood's
Bollywood songs, etc? How would you say the Islamic model differs
from what we've been taught?
And that in that Bismillah Alhamdulillah, WA Salatu was Salam
ala Rasulillah, Allah, Allah, he was happy when I love. So very,
very good question. My Maya, and I think it's very relevant to our
time, because we are affected by the society that we live in. And
what we see what we hear, or to be exposed to naturally has an impact
on our attitude, our behavior, our mindsets, and our expectation. And
I think when we look around, we see in the popular culture,
Bollywood, Hollywood, Lollywood, you know, all the words.
Yeah, the idea of marriage has changed over the years generation.
And what I tend to see in the news, in documentaries, and in
different short stories that's out there.
It's actually feeding people certain ways of thinking with
regards to marriage. And I think it's lacking this whole idea of
being committed.
Commitment is something that is key to the institution of
marriage.
I know, in the past, there was a taboo of having a divorce. But now
we have moved to another extreme, where any troubles happen. We
think, Oh, I can't deal with him. Or I'm not gonna tolerate this.
The thing is, in every situation in life, there has to be a level
of effort, commitment, and struggle, whether that students
studying for GCSEs, whether it's a businessman, trying to make
profits, is not going to just quit just because he's facing a hurdle,
or difficulty, he's going to make it work because he's committed a
student who's struggling with a levels or GCSEs or degree, he
doesn't think, oh my god, this is too much, I'm gonna quit. If he
does, what happens in 510 years time, he hasn't got a degree or he
hasn't got his A levels or GCSEs. Similarly,
when we look at marriage, and if we feel that you know what, I'm
going to quit because it's too hard, then you're not going to
have a successful marriage or long lasting marriage. Now, everything
in life we need to understand
that is meaningful, beneficial, is not going to come with ease. It's
gonna require you to work for it people who are successful
businessman or successful
say, in the studies, or research, whatever form of success you look
at, if you look into their life, you will see there's a lot of
sacrifice hard work, commitment, and priorities. So, I think this
is number one thing that we are seeing in the popular culture,
lack of commitment, and confusion of roles.
Talk on it, talk on it Talk That Talk with me and my husband, we
were watching this program, but home improvement, you know, like
when you do like the declaration, you know, when you do extra, you
know, like,
like transformation of kitchen and, you know, living room area.
So this program on BBC iPlayer and
the the designers always struggle with what the man wants and what
the woman wants. And this particular episode was about the
kitchen extension.
And the kitchen was the man's domain in that particular episode,
so the woman is thinking I just want everything to be clean and
tidy.
it and he's like the chef. And I thought to myself, I wouldn't want
my husband to really like in a heavy say in the kitchen, because
that I feel is my area. And I take pride in that because I really
like cooking and I like to try different recipes. And you know,
this is my area and and I wouldn't like not interference by order,
like, oh, you know, certain like suggestions do like this didn't
like that. I would want to design the area, the way I would see it
fitting for what I want to do the food I want to cook. So there was
this, like confusion is battling. And I was thinking to myself, like
you know, that doesn't sound right. Why? Because I just find
when people step into different roles, just like in workplace.
There's this chaos because nobody knows what they're supposed to do.
And everyone's trying to interfere. And there's no like,
clarity of who is responsible, what area. So anyway, he was quite
interested to see in the end, they have to compromise and that's the
reality of life you have to compromise.
So I find a lot of confusion of roles, whereas Islamically or the
guidelines that we have in our deen there's a clearer view of
what is to be desired for marriage. In terms of the vision
for marriage, what is the vision for marriage, what is the goal,
what is the purpose? And what are the responsibilities