Naima B. Robert – TMC Episode 6 Clip Not Every Muslim Marriage is the Same! REMINDER

commitment is something that is key to the institution of

marriage.

I know, in the past, there was a taboo of having a divorce. But now

we have moved to another extreme where any troubles happen. We

think, Oh, I can't deal with him, or I'm not gonna tolerate this.

The thing is, in every situation in life, there has to be a level

of effort, commitment, and struggle, whether that students

studying for GCSEs, whether it's a businessman trying to make

profits, he's not going to just quit just because he's facing a

hurdle, or difficulty. He's going to make it work because he's

committed.

How does the Islamic model of marriage differ from what we have

learned from popular culture from the media, you know, Hollywood's

Bollywood songs, etc? How would you say the Islamic model differs

from what we've been taught?

And that in that Bismillah Alhamdulillah, WA Salatu was Salam

ala Rasulillah, Allah, Allah, he was happy when I love. So very,

very good question. My Maya, and I think it's very relevant to our

time, because we are affected by the society that we live in. And

what we see what we hear, or to be exposed to naturally has an impact

on our attitude, our behavior, our mindsets, and our expectation. And

I think when we look around, we see in the popular culture,

Bollywood, Hollywood, Lollywood, you know, all the words.

Yeah, the idea of marriage has changed over the years generation.

And what I tend to see in the news, in documentaries, and in

different short stories that's out there.

It's actually feeding people certain ways of thinking with

regards to marriage. And I think it's lacking this whole idea of

being committed.

Commitment is something that is key to the institution of

marriage.

I know, in the past, there was a taboo of having a divorce. But now

we have moved to another extreme, where any troubles happen. We

think, Oh, I can't deal with him. Or I'm not gonna tolerate this.

The thing is, in every situation in life, there has to be a level

of effort, commitment, and struggle, whether that students

studying for GCSEs, whether it's a businessman, trying to make

profits, is not going to just quit just because he's facing a hurdle,

or difficulty, he's going to make it work because he's committed a

student who's struggling with a levels or GCSEs or degree, he

doesn't think, oh my god, this is too much, I'm gonna quit. If he

does, what happens in 510 years time, he hasn't got a degree or he

hasn't got his A levels or GCSEs. Similarly,

when we look at marriage, and if we feel that you know what, I'm

going to quit because it's too hard, then you're not going to

have a successful marriage or long lasting marriage. Now, everything

in life we need to understand

that is meaningful, beneficial, is not going to come with ease. It's

gonna require you to work for it people who are successful

businessman or successful

say, in the studies, or research, whatever form of success you look

at, if you look into their life, you will see there's a lot of

sacrifice hard work, commitment, and priorities. So, I think this

is number one thing that we are seeing in the popular culture,

lack of commitment, and confusion of roles.

Talk on it, talk on it Talk That Talk with me and my husband, we

were watching this program, but home improvement, you know, like

when you do like the declaration, you know, when you do extra, you

know, like,

like transformation of kitchen and, you know, living room area.

So this program on BBC iPlayer and

the the designers always struggle with what the man wants and what

the woman wants. And this particular episode was about the

kitchen extension.

And the kitchen was the man's domain in that particular episode,

so the woman is thinking I just want everything to be clean and

tidy.

it and he's like the chef. And I thought to myself, I wouldn't want

my husband to really like in a heavy say in the kitchen, because

that I feel is my area. And I take pride in that because I really

like cooking and I like to try different recipes. And you know,

this is my area and and I wouldn't like not interference by order,

like, oh, you know, certain like suggestions do like this didn't

like that. I would want to design the area, the way I would see it

fitting for what I want to do the food I want to cook. So there was

this, like confusion is battling. And I was thinking to myself, like

you know, that doesn't sound right. Why? Because I just find

when people step into different roles, just like in workplace.

There's this chaos because nobody knows what they're supposed to do.

And everyone's trying to interfere. And there's no like,

clarity of who is responsible, what area. So anyway, he was quite

interested to see in the end, they have to compromise and that's the

reality of life you have to compromise.

So I find a lot of confusion of roles, whereas Islamically or the

guidelines that we have in our deen there's a clearer view of

what is to be desired for marriage. In terms of the vision

for marriage, what is the vision for marriage, what is the goal,

what is the purpose? And what are the responsibilities