Naima B. Robert – TMC E3 Clip Should a Muslim Woman Ask for a High Mahr or a Low Mahr
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The speaker discusses the issue of affordability and the need for everyone to have a happy marriage. They suggest that families should be happy with their marriage, but it is important to ensure that everyone is happy with it. The speaker also mentions that many families are not happy with their marriage, but they are willing to give up.
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What do you say? What's What's your Okay, all right, let me put
you on the spot. Because obviously there's team Hi, Maha. And there's
team Loma. So Which team are you on? What? What's your stance?
On social media, the trending one is like Maha. So
about Maha. This is a deep one, the deep one. What do you say?
What's the what's the Okay. All right, let me put you on the spot.
Because obviously, there's team Hi, Maha. And there's team Loma.
So Which team are you on? What What's your stance?
So, yeah, I mean, it's, I wish it was as easy as saying, I'm on one
team. I take one view on this. And this is probably what I ended up
saying to a lot of the couples that come with this question that
like, you know, our families are saying one thing and where we're
kind of like, you know, saying one thing and so Islamically what is
the Mahara? I always get asked this Islamically what is the
Mahara month? Well, what is the Sunnah, Maha, etcetera. And for
me, it's like, you know, it's not a straightforward. It's not like
in the Quran and the Sunnah, in one Hadith, you're going to find
the process, I'm saying, give this Mahara mount, right? If it was as
simple as that, it will be so much easier. There wouldn't be no
questions, we just won't be giving that my hat and job done. Right,
it'd be very easy. But because our faith, Islam is such a
comprehensive, holistic, and Dean, it's a way of life. You know, it's
not as simple as you know, 1400 years ago, the process, I'm in
Arabia, in the time that they were living in saying this is the
Mohammed and now fortunately, is a in a complete different world,
we're going to apply exactly that same amount, because, you know, it
just the world doesn't work like that. And, obviously, our last
pantalla is, you know, the All Knowing, and he knows that, you
know, this is this is something that's going to be until Tiama.
Right? So hence why I say, look, the best way of looking at it, and
you know, and to kind of summarize the whole issue is whatever you
can afford to give. So from the from the man side, it's about
affordability. But I also add, it's it has to be respectable as
well. I think that's that's a really key one. Because sometimes
it's nice thing respectable. Yeah respectable amount, because what
tends to happen is, so people take this word Simple, right? Islam is
all about simplicity. So let's do a simple Nikka. You know, and they
go so simple, that it's like, you know, I give a funny example,
sometimes I'm like, so the mad that you're giving, with no kind
of, I mean, nothing bad here, no offense whatsoever. But the man
that you're giving, you've gotten so simple, that you're basically
you're paying your chauffeur to that your drive that's driving you
to your wedding venue, more giving to your wife, the one that you're
literally committing your life to. And you know, subhanAllah, right,
like, Is that is that? Not that? I use a chauffeur being hired for a
simple Nikka? That's what I want. That's, you know, if we opened up
that kind of coalition and of itself, right, if you're spending
on the wedding, yeah. Maybe you need to be matching that somehow
with the with the My Home, maybe? I don't know. Yeah, well, that's
good. That's that that is going to be a kind of an indication of what
your affordability is like. Right? Right. So you're right, yeah. So
if you have a wedding with a huge wedding with a huge hole, and you
have all of these extra fancy things with it, that's not really
simple. I'm not against that. But if you can afford that hamdulillah
that's, I'm not against that. But you have to kind of reflect that
as well. As, you know, your marriage is more important than
the wedding. Right? So, you know, one of the issues that we'll
probably end up speaking about is too many young couples today are
spending more time preparing for their weddings than they are for
their marriages. Which is a huge issue. So Instagram for that
Instagram. Yeah. under percent fitness upon on that. Yeah, it is,
it is so that so you've got the affordability on one side.
And then you've also got on the other hand, you know, we've spoke
about it being a respectable amount, right. And what the other
side is happy with as well there has to be that you know, Allah
says give it in good cheer, right? So the from the woman's side, she
needs to be happy with it and agree to it. On the guy side,
what's affordable, anything in between that inshallah is a good
Mahara amount as long as it's being reasonable and and what it
with the right intention? Most cases it's okay. I really like
that as kind of a parameter. What I've what I'm seeing the
conversation
aroma that I'm seeing. I think there's a couple of things. One is
the family, right? Obviously I'm in Egypt and in Egypt, the MaHA
has nothing to do with the girl. She doesn't really have much of a
say, her father sets the MaHA. So I'm sure you've, you know, maybe
come across situations where the family sets the high Mahal, and
the couple are like, give us a break. We just want to get
married. And they're like, No, this, this, this this. And so I'm
interested to know whether you understand why families are doing
that.