Naima B. Robert – Nonfiction Authors Speak! Muslimah Author Summit 2022

Naima B. Robert
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A woman introduces her listeners to her book and shares her journey to write non fruct books. She shares her own story and how she wants to share her own experiences and experiences. The pandemic has made people struggle with their own life and the importance of knowing the process to avoid mistakes. The challenges faced during the pandemic have made people struggle with risk and vulnerability, and the importance of vulnerability and fear in writing is emphasized. The speaker encourages others to lean into her journey and share their experiences to benefit others. She provides a book title and links to her book in the after-hours.
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Welcome. Welcome. Welcome, everyone. We should be live

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on YouTube now, so that's

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that's great. Excellent.

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Very, very excited to be here with you

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guys.

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Assalamu alaikum everyone. Welcome to this session in

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the Muslim Writers Summit.

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Very, very, very,

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excited

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to be sharing this particular session with you

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all.

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This session in brings together some of my

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favorite people, some of my favorite clients,

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who have worked with us to write a

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nonfiction book for adults.

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Yesterday, we talked with some sisters who had

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written children's books. Today, we're talking to sisters

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who have written books for adults. And, they're

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going to introduce themselves,

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tell us about their books. What made them

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write their books and what they learned along

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the way, insha'Allah. So that they can benefit

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you guys with their wisdom because they are

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the ones, masha'Allah, who've been on this journey

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and have learned. Whatever that they're gonna share

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with you today, inshallah, and are giving it

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as a gift to all of you.

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So I want to introduce everyone, inshallah. We're

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gonna get us all on the screen at

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one time.

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With me today,

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I have, sister Farah Haduale

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and sister Isra

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Hashimi.

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Oh, it's not Isra Hashimi.

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Oh, you see? SubhanAllah, I'm reading people's Instagram

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profiles here.

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Sister Miriam Elias. Ladies, can we have your

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cameras on and your, your mics unmuted, and

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then we can let you all introduce yourselves

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1 by 1.

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Do I say more? Yes, Farah.

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Yes, please.

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Alright. Yeah. No. I'm really excited to be

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here today. I can't wait to share with

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you my book, what it's about,

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the journey that we took to get here,

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and, Insha'Allah, learn a lot from the other

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ladies as well.

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Hey.

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It's Isra.

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I am Isra Hashmi.

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As my Instagram profile says Isra, go ahead.

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Yep. I'm

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can you hear me?

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Yeah. Okay.

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There we go. Okay.

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My name is Isra

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Hashmi,

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and

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I am so excited to be here to

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talk about nonfiction

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writing.

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If you have a something that you wanna

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tell, and that's probably why you're here,

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then this is,

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the absolute perfect session because

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nonfiction writing is just about

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your story, your message, something that's happened to

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you that you feel you wanna, like, just

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you're gonna burst if you don't share it,

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and that's how I was. And so I'm

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really excited that I can share on this

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platform.

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Mariam, you wanna go? Yes. Sure.

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Can you all hear me?

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Okay. I think the ima froze. Right? Okay.

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Okay.

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So,

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I'm Maria Milias,

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a published

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author, alhamdulillahi rabbil 'Alabin.

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I'm a wife and a mother of 3,

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and it's been an exciting journey. I cannot

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wait

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until for us all to share how it

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has been from the start to finish,

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for us to be here.

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It's been quite a journey. So, yes, I

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can't wait to talk more about my book

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and discuss with my sisters

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and everything else.

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Inshallah. So

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Okay. I think it took Naima.

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Okay.

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Alhamdulillah, send an email. We all we all

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introduced ourselves.

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Can you hear us?

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Okay. I think as, You guys are actually

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actually okay.

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You guys are okay. It was me that

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dropped off. So Okay. Everybody can hear you

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on YouTube, so you're you're fine. Alhamdulillah. Thank

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you so much, Israj. JazakAllah Faran. Wonderful to

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have you with us, Masha'Allah. Sister Maryam, do

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you want to share your oh, tell us

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who you are, my dear, and the books

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that you have written?

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Okay.

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So my name is Maria Milias. I'm a

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mother and a wife.

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Mother of 3 beautiful children, and

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I'm a published author of facing life as

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the girl from Nima,

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about my life and

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yeah. Hopefully, we'll get deep more into it

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in a bit. I'm excited to be with

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my sisters.

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And we definitely will be getting into that.

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So just to confirm, because my Internet connection

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has been a bit crazy, have we all

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introduced ourselves, ladies?

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Give me a thumbs up if we have.

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Okay. Fantastic. Okay.

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So

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writing a book, you know, we know that

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there are different types of nonfiction books out

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there. Right? And just for anyone in the

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audience who's not sure the difference between fiction

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and nonfiction,

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fiction is basically a novel,

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any kind of imaginary story, okay, is is

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classed as fiction,

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Romance, mystery, thrillers, fantasy,

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all of that, that's all fiction.

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And nonfiction

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is basically books that are based in fact

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or opinion but are not imaginary or made

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up stories. Okay? So within nonfiction,

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typically, the authors that we work with are

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wanting to either share their

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story, right, put your hand up if you

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shared your story,

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sharing their message,

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put your hand up if you shared your

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message,

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all and all sharing knowledge that they have.

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All right. And not everybody is sharing knowledge.

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Not everyone is sharing a message. Not everyone

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is sharing a story. But these will be

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typically the types of authors that I come

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into contact with and the ones we end

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up working with. And most nonfiction books are

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someone's story, someone's message, or knowledge that they

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wanted to share.

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So with that being said, within this genre,

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we have, you know, books that are there

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to, to tell the store someone's personal story,

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their own life stories or stories from their

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life, as in a memoir,

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or a more of a self help book,

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a book that helps the reader to

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form, or a knowledge based book that is

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actually teaching particular principles,

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tools, or habits to the, you know, to

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the reader. And, of course, there are plenty

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of other nonfiction books as well, collections of

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essays, collections of poetry,

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anthologies, you know, which have several different authors

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that contribute to those. And, of course, the

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topics range

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across every

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conceivable notion. But today,

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I'm really, really pleased to have these particular

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authors with you because I would like them

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to tell you

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what their book is about. And just,

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sis, tell us

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what made you want to tell this story

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or share this message? What was

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what was the calling on your heart that

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made you make the decision

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to make this a nonnegotiable

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and commit

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and do the work required, which we know

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is, you know, not,

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is not negligible

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in terms of work required,

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in order for you to get this book

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to where it is today.

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Israel, do you wanna do you wanna answer

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that one? Start start us off.

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Sure. Sorry, miss Mila.

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It's a loaded question, and I think for

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each person, it's gonna be so unique, but

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there is something that's probably the same in

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all of them.

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For me, personally,

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about 3 years ago

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so I live in the United States. I'm

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sure you can tell from my American accent.

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We moved,

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to Spain.

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We up and moved to Spain, me and

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my family. We have 3 young children

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Because we were kind of tired of this

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capitalist

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fast paced life,

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we wanted to just slow down, enjoy the

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family more, be with the kids more,

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and not be so concerned with

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just making money and paying bills and just

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living on this, like, hamster wheel. So we

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moved. We left for Spain.

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After we got there, I started sharing my

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life there, what I was doing there. You

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know, you share it on Facebook and stuff,

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family, friends, and I started noticing that, like,

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a lot more people started tuning into what

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I was saying, and they wanted to know.

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And I was getting, you know, questions. And

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if you're sitting there thinking, man, I'm always

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the one who I who gives advice to

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other people. I'm always the one who people

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keep coming and asking me things. Why did

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you do that? Or, you know, you always

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give good advice.

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That's kind of what kept happening.

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And then I realized that I there's this

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is a book. Like, all this that I

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keep posting about,

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what if I could just

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put it, everything that I learned, all my

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lessons, everything that I wish

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I could tell people, even people who don't

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know about our move

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could learn from something that we did, and

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they don't have to move to Spain to

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learn from it. And so that's

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how my idea for the book was born.

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We moved in August 2019,

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and by

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September, I was looking up Naima to to

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say, okay. I have something. I know there's

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something that I wanna say.

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And it doesn't mean you have to have

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everything planned out. I had no idea what

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I was gonna actually

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put pen to paper and say,

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but I knew there was something.

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And

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that's, I think, the crux of it. When

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you kind of have that nudge,

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that feeling where I know there's something. I

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know I wanna say something. I've been through

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something in my life. I wanna share it.

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I have this experience. People keep coming to

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me and asking me for advice.

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There's something bigger there. So that's how I

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started.

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I love that. Love that story. And it's,

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you know, very, very powerful.

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Maniam,

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what made you what is your book about

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firstly, and what made you want to tell

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the story?

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So my book is about facing life.

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So the title of the book is facing

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life as the girl from Nima.

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And,

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for me, growing up so Nima is a

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gangster neighborhood in in in Ghana, West Africa.

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So growing up in this, poor neighborhood, which

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has so many talents and, people just don't

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know about it. And it's just it it

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has the stereotype that everything bad, the people

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that come from there are just bad, like,

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so it's just gangster people. It's like one

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day I have to share my story, and

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I've had

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so many experiences from then. I remember I

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was 19,

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just hired from university 1 week, and I

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came home and I was sitting in the

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chair. And my younger brother said, you know

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what? You have to write a book and

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share about your life and, like, what you're

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going through because you're always, like, reminding people,

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writing the short,

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write ups here and then sharing with people.

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I'm like, oh, no.

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Writing a book is for those people, not

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like, not me. So I'm like, okay. He's

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like, oh, no. There are so many things

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you can do. Maybe go for the outstanding

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African, award something, African youth award that was,

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coming up at the time. I was like,

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no. No. No. So I said, okay. So

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I'm we're just gonna take a compromise. If

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I don't write a book by the time

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I turn 30, then I'm not gonna write

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a book. So this is something I just

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said when I was 19 and 3 without

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that.

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Fast forward 10 years now. I mean, so

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you know that with the pandemic and everything,

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it's like, you know what? Sister's writing to

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me, calling, and I I had my own

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thing I was going through. I was pregnant

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during the pandemic. And sisters were just reaching

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out like, oh, I think I need a

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divorce. I'm I'm I'm going away. It's the

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kids are driving me crazy. It's just so

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much, and I'm like, you know what? We

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are all facing life.

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You know, we're just taking it one day

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at a time, and it's different for everybody,

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but everybody nobody has a perfect life. We

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are all going through something. So I was

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like, you know what?

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Maybe let me share. Let me open up

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very vulnerably

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raw to others to know that, look, this

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sister that you think has it all together

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and has this perfect life, it's not perfect

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really. We are all facing life. So I

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said this

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with the amount of people dying, I was

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like, what if I just pass away in

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this, you know, in this pandemic and then

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that's it? Like, what do I have left?

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So I started just 20 pages. I was

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like, yeah. And you know how that's that

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feeling and fear comes in, and I gave

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up. And then I had my daughter and

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everything changed. It's like, no. I I became

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so protective. I'm like, no. I have to

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leave a legacy for

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for my children and the children of the

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Ummah. So for me, it's like, you know

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what? This is it. I have to write

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this book now. It's it's either now or

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never. And then, I mean, God in fact,

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her sister Naima, and here we are.

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Okay. I don't think it's the name. Okay.

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Let me continue. It's the name. It's not

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so yeah. So I love that, Cecil. I

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love that. I love that.

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And I think the pandemic did give a

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lot of people

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some food for thought and also some time

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to reflect on, you know, that whether they

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had a message to share, whether they had

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a book, or maybe just gave them the

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time to actually write. So I'm so glad

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that you took advantage of that. Thank you

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so much. Sister Farah, what about you?

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Yeah. You'll need to unmute yourself. Unmute for

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a minute. Hi, everyone.

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Josakala here for the question.

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First of all, something I've noticed is quite

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interesting. I think all 3 of us so

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far probably styled our books

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during lockdown, during the pandemic, the last couple

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of years. So that's quite interesting, right, that

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that something so drastic happened, but then it

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kind of forced many of us to do

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things that we said

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we'll do one day. Well, for some of

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us anyway, so that that's quite interesting to

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see.

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So my book is called, Taking Control,

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A Muslim Woman's Guide to Surviving Infertility.

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And what happened is that,

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I've experienced infertility for many years now.

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My husband and I have gone through the

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journeys of trying to conceive and struggling with

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that.

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And about 6 years ago, I qualified as

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a a coach, a personal development coach,

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and I instantly thought I knew what niche

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I wanted to work in and it was

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to help Muslim women navigate infertility

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because I saw, as you can imagine, that

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it was a very tough,

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trial to get through for many women. It

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was confusing. It was shocking. It was,

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demoral. Like, they they felt stuck in in

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such a drastic way

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that I knew

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I wanted to help my sisters

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get through that in the healthiest way possible,

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but also to realize that there is,

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a life

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whilst trying to conceive. And I had all

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these things. I just wanted to say to

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every sister I met that I was going

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through this, and it hurt I I I

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always felt

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quite heavy after speaking to its sis sisters

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about this, because I just felt like I

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had so much to say. I'm you know,

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I just don't have the time. And so

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I, went into coaching thinking that I would

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do infertility coaching. And then within about 6

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months, I realized I couldn't do it. I

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I really struggled considering that I'm still in

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the midst of trying to conceive

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and the the the hardships of that for

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myself and the toll that that has on

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me day to day. And then to try

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and help other sisters around the world

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get through that when they're in such a

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dark place

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was so difficult.

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And so I stopped, and I moved

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the direction of my coaching.

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But for the first time in my life,

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I actually felt guilty about

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feeling like I had

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a responsibility

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to do something about this because I felt

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like the way

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God had allowed me to deal with this,

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you know, difficult,

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trial,

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was a gift, and I really didn't wanna

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waste it. At the same time, I knew

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I couldn't do the day to day

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day to day of it, and so that's

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where the book the idea of the book

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was born because I thought I could put

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the message in there. I could make this

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available.

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The assistance could keep coming back to this

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and digest it in a way that is

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easy for them, but it also freed me

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from being

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in that world every single day as well.

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So it was it was it felt like

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the thing that needed to happen, but

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that was years ago. And I and I

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just kept saying it'd be someday. I one

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day, I wanna write a book. One day,

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I wanna write a book. Inshallah, before I

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die, I need to do this for my

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sisters. And then lockdown happened. A post on

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Instagram

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from Naomi Roberts just came. You know, I

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saw it. I reacted, and then this is

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where we are today.

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I wonder if everybody can,

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see the common theme,

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amongst all these women. They

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saw a post on Instagram.

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And it really is amazing,

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the power that you know, just seeing something

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that reminds you of a dream that you

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had, that reminds me of something you told

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yourself a long time ago, or something that

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you started to realize is is actually necessary,

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there's Allah sends you

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a sign of some kind, you know, some

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kind of reminder, some kind of opportunity,

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and, you

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you you you take you take him up

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on that, you know, you take that chance,

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and you decide to commit.

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And I wonder for for all of you,

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firstly, thank you so much for for sharing

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those wonderfully personal stories. And it always is

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a reminder to me, Masha'Allah, of how fortunate

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we are

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to work with such heart centered women because

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everyone that we work with has

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such a beautiful intention with their book. And

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that's why I love to work in this

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space. I love to work with sisters because

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I know

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every one of you, you're you're here for

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amazing reasons, for beautiful reasons. And I pray

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that Allah

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blesses all of you, you know, with the

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results of your labor, with much barakah in

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this life and the next because we know

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it wasn't easy. Right? So

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tell us some of your biggest challenges

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along the way. I think the audience needs

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to hear, like, the raw truth from you

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guys. Who wants to tell us the biggest

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challenges that you faced along the way?

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Go ahead and unmute. Talk is the I

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can start. Yeah.

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I'll start because they all just came flooding

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to me.

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So there's the

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moment where you start and you are incredibly

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excited, and you're like, this is it. I'm

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gonna finally do this.

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And then there's the reality

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of actually doing it. And I think Farashi

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mentioned something that was really critical for us

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is we all started this,

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during the most

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world changing

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life event ever, right, during the pandemic. So

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already that,

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coupled with us trying this new thing of,

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like, writing a book for the first time,

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already presented challenges. When I started

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Spain,

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I don't know how much you know about

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what happened to Spain during,

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pandemic, but we were really one of the

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first countries that went into a lockdown that

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really wasn't even seen until now anywhere in

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the world. Kids couldn't go out.

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It was literally you have to stay in

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your house. One person could go to the

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grocery store.

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Nobody else can leave. You have to, you

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know, and on top of that,

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my husband had gone to Boston. He had

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come back to the United States,

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because, you know, he's still working and and

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his company and stuff. So he came here.

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Now,

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the day after he left,

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Spain went into the lockdown and said flights

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are done. We are locked. Nobody coming in.

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And so now he's there. I'm in Spain

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with the kids,

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a language I don't speak fluently,

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relatively new country. We had not been there

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even 6 months.

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And now I have 3 little kids, and

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I'm thinking about survival. I'm not thinking, oh,

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no. I'm gonna just have all this beautiful

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time to write a book. And that's what

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a lot of people thought. Like, oh, it's

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a pandemic. You're doing nothing. You're just sitting

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at home. When in fact, it was it

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was a really challenging time. But

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something I always remember that sister Naima said

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is

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you have to just, you know, keep yourself

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in it. Even if it's showing up for

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a meeting, even if it's, like, answering an

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email,

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it may not be writing the whole chapter,

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but don't ever, like, remove yourself.

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And pushing myself during that time to say,

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I'm still gonna write a little bit,

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actually gave me so much

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peace. It gave me so much purpose. I

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was able to kind

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of, you know, deal with whatever was happening

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at home, but also it was like my

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way of, like,

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kind of my retreat and my relaxing and

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my, like, you know, let me process what's

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happening right now.

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And everything that happens, all those challenges that

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come up

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just made the book

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deeper.

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It made it so much more relevant and

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deeper because that is life is real things

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will come up.

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And so you don't take it as, oh,

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I'm gonna just now stop everything.

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I actually

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would take it and use that as content

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for the book that, you know, what I'm

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going through

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can be what anybody is going through in

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life when they pick this book up. And

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I hadn't mentioned, but, I don't have a

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a permanent title, but my working title is,

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Muslim are simple living, the handbook.

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And that's really what I wanted. Just not

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necessarily a book you read from beginning to

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end, but wherever you are and whatever you're

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doing, however overwhelmed you feel, you can just

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pick it up.

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Pick up one of the principles that I

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put in there that has helped me to

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get through that and several other things that

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happened.

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So,

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I think that's one of my biggest takeaways

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for myself. And my lesson that I want

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other writers to know is those things are

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going to come up 100%,

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but it doesn't stop you. I would actually

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look at it and use it as a

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reflection and say, okay,

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You know what? I'm gonna use this and

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bring this into my book. How can I,

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like, use this and share it? So

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I love that. Who else would like to

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share the biggest challenges along the way?

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I can go next. Yeah, please. That's alright.

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Okay. So I might shift

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the possibilities

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of going through a journey like this slightly,

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and I hope the audience

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can also,

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know that there's a possibility as well. So

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for me,

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unlike,

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I found the process relatively easy. Alhamdulillah.

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Alhamdulillah. I think the I think the things

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just aligned at the right time. I think

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there was a lot of barakah in it.

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Alhamdulillah.

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And so for me,

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I think going in, I had

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probably no expectations.

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I'm not necessarily somebody who is a writer

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by any stretch of the imagination. I much

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prefer to speak than to write,

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and and

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I just have no expectations.

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So,

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the fact that I joined the coaching group

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and then I just, you know, was able

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to just start

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meant that whilst I had no expectations and

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whilst I was confused about what this meant,

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what happens next, and things like that at

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first,

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like I said I've said in the past

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that I wrote the draft and completed the

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draft within 6

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weeks of the of the journey.

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And then

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after

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And after that, I worked with,

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Hind Hind Haqaseh from, again, the the coaching

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group. Again, that was really smooth. She's an

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amazing editor,

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I don't even mean her skill of editing.

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I mean, as a person, the way she,

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like, looks after you and supports you through

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it. And then after that, all I wanted

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to do was just put on Amazon and

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just make it available.

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And then for somebody just to suggest, hint,

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why don't I just send it off to

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a few publishers? Just see what happens.

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I don't know how to write to a

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publisher. I don't know what the process is.

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I don't know anything.

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But I did. I I wrote a few

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letters out. I sent it off to about

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6, publishers, and 3 of them wanted the

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books of Halalah,

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And then now it's coming out. So

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for me, I wanna let people know that,

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yes, whilst for some people, there will be

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huge challenges. I know some I know some

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people on the journey of the coaching group.

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Some people have got sick. Some people have

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had children in that time. They've moved countries.

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So much happens in life

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that then it can derail you from completing

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something. But I really want the audience to

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understand that sometimes it can happen the other

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way as well where you're expecting everything to

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go wrong and everything just goes right by

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the will and the mercy of our last,

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so

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you never quite know. So just as long

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as you have that clear message and you

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understand that why, then it always comes back

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to,

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just try it out. Just try it out.

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Subhanallah. Just see where it goes.

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So that's that was the journey for me.

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I think one thing that I will add

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that was maybe the clearest challenge for me,

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and I think this is gonna be the

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case for any nonfiction writers who want to

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maybe write their story, and their story has

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a heavy element of it. Maybe there's been

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abuse. Maybe there's been divorce. Maybe there's there's

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been something.

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And for me, what I found as a

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challenge is that we were in the 2020

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lockdown. I was actually going through counseling and

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therapy at that time for my own fertility

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issues for the first time in my life.

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And I was writing the book, and I

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was in it every single day, which meant

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that I think, emotionally,

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I had, like, this overdose of, like, emotional

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stuff stuff to process

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And so I think emotionally and mentally it

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was challenging

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And a lot of things was happening at

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that time But the practicalities

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of writing the book and kind of going

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into this industry wasn't difficult

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so yeah, there's there's a lot there's a

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lot of possibilities. I think so harrower

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No, that would be 100%

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correct. And obviously, because, you know, we've worked

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with, you know, dozens now of writers, we

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can see

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everyone's journey is different. So even though everybody's

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destination is a published book,

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it's

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I liken it to those destinations being dotted

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around the map of the world. Right?

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Even though the destination is the same, the

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location is different. So everybody's book is different.

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Everybody's approach to the book will be different,

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and everyone's journey towards the book will be

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different. Right? And you'll gain something,

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you know, you'll be challenged in different ways,

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and you'll gain differently from each one. But,

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Maryam, what about you? Because you're writing a

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memoir, so you were doing something quite different

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from what our other two guests were doing.

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What were the biggest challenges that you faced,

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would you say?

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So for me, I think the 2

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topmost was fear and doubt.

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The first one was the fear of,

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what will people say?

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Can I really do this? Like, sister Dua

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Farah said, like, yeah. When you started, you're

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excited. It's like, yeah. I'm starting. And then

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once you stop pouring it down, it's

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then the fierce kicks in, and it's like,

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can you do it? And then the doubt.

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It's like,

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who am I?

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Who wants to hear my story?

00:28:00 --> 00:28:02

Is this really going to have an impact?

00:28:02 --> 00:28:04

Like, who cares? Yeah. Right. For your kids,

00:28:04 --> 00:28:06

put it there somewhere. Like, nobody wants to

00:28:06 --> 00:28:08

hear your story. And then it's also

00:28:09 --> 00:28:12

things like, like my sister shared. Things just

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start happening.

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Somebody is sick. You're taking care of somebody,

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and it's like, wait. The book is facing

00:28:18 --> 00:28:19

life. So if

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if if the book is talking about facing

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life, this is life that is happening. So

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why

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why write a book about facing life and

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trying to, like, avoid living life and trying

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to make everything perfect? It's not gonna be

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perfect.

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So I I just had to say, you

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know what? I have to face it. And

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this is a memoir. I'm gonna pour it

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out all out.

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Just going back to the why. So, yes,

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it's a legacy for my children

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and other children and also my African sisters,

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basically. That's my target audience. The African Muslim

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community.

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And I feel like there's a lot of

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things that have been hush-hush-hush.

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And families are suffering. The youth are suffering,

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and we're not talking about it. And if

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nobody's gonna talk about it, hey. I'm I'm

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gonna do it.

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And in my in my undergrad years,

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I I have a bachelor's in business administration,

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so I'm used to taking risk. I'm used

00:29:05 --> 00:29:07

to taking risk, but it's like, this is

00:29:07 --> 00:29:09

the scariest thing I've ever done, I think.

00:29:09 --> 00:29:12

Because it's I'm I'm private. I'm private. I

00:29:12 --> 00:29:13

wanna do my own thing. Nobody should know

00:29:13 --> 00:29:16

about me, and this is very uncomfortable. Putting

00:29:16 --> 00:29:19

your life out there, being vulnerable, it's like,

00:29:20 --> 00:29:22

I'm like, Mariam, you've taken so many risks.

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Like, this is the biggest shit. Like, it's

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worth it. It's worth it. And I had

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a sister 2 days ago call and was

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just crying.

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She said, for 26 minutes, we're on the

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on the on the on the phone. She

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said, you know what? I was I was

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in such a dark place in my pregnancy,

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and I felt nobody understood me. But once

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I read your book

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and the struggles of pregnancy and what you

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went through, it's like,

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finally, there's a sister who gets it. So

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When you hear that, you're like,

00:29:50 --> 00:29:52

it's worth it. So if it's if it's

00:29:52 --> 00:29:53

facing life as the girl from Neema is

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gonna change one life,

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I love that. That's excellent.

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I love I love I love, and yes,

00:30:01 --> 00:30:03

it is. That's what we say, isn't it?

00:30:03 --> 00:30:05

Is that even if one life is touched

00:30:05 --> 00:30:06

by your book, it could be 1, it

00:30:06 --> 00:30:07

could be 10, it could be a 100,

00:30:07 --> 00:30:09

it could be 1,000, it could be a

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100,000.

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Whatever Allah has willed for you,

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subhanallah, that is, you know, that's worth it.

00:30:15 --> 00:30:17

You know? So I think people have if

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they've been following

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the the summit videos this year, they will

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have heard the word vulnerability

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coming up again and again. They will also

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have heard the word fear coming up again

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and again.

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So I think my final question before we

00:30:30 --> 00:30:32

kind of, like, get you to remind us

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about your books Insha'Allah was,

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did fear play a role for you? And

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what about vulnerability? Was it easy for you?

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Was it something that you you felt uncomfortable

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with? Or did you shy away from it?

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Fear and vulnerability, what was your relationship with

00:30:48 --> 00:30:49

them during this journey?

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Go ahead. Yeah. Smilla. Okay. I'll stop, Smilla.

00:30:59 --> 00:31:00

Okay. Vulnerability,

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I think yep. I I think, as I

00:31:03 --> 00:31:04

said, at that time, as I was writing

00:31:04 --> 00:31:05

the book,

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

I think going through counseling as well had

00:31:09 --> 00:31:12

kind of pushed me to really embrace that

00:31:12 --> 00:31:14

side of myself, and I think I am

00:31:14 --> 00:31:16

somebody who previously was slightly

00:31:16 --> 00:31:19

detached from the vulnerable side of myself.

00:31:20 --> 00:31:21

And so

00:31:21 --> 00:31:23

I think the book there were moments where

00:31:23 --> 00:31:26

I although this book focused on the message

00:31:26 --> 00:31:27

rather than my story,

00:31:28 --> 00:31:30

my stories weaved into the book itself.

00:31:31 --> 00:31:33

And so there were moments where you think,

00:31:33 --> 00:31:34

oh, should I be writing this?

00:31:35 --> 00:31:36

Will the family feel a certain way?

00:31:37 --> 00:31:39

You know, who gets to read it? Do

00:31:39 --> 00:31:40

I want all of these people to kind

00:31:40 --> 00:31:41

of know

00:31:42 --> 00:31:43

my deepest feelings,

00:31:44 --> 00:31:46

about certain things and about something that's so

00:31:46 --> 00:31:47

close to me.

00:31:48 --> 00:31:50

And so, yeah, that that was the only

00:31:50 --> 00:31:52

time where I was like, oh, god. This

00:31:52 --> 00:31:53

is scary. And then I think the other

00:31:53 --> 00:31:55

fear, Maria might have touched upon it, is

00:31:55 --> 00:31:56

this idea of,

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although I think the message of this book

00:31:59 --> 00:31:59

is needed,

00:32:01 --> 00:32:03

there's still that fear of, will I do

00:32:03 --> 00:32:04

it justice?

00:32:05 --> 00:32:07

And, you know, in terms of the writing

00:32:07 --> 00:32:08

style and things like that, will I do

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

it justice? Will people care enough? Will enough

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

people read it? And then we just have

00:32:12 --> 00:32:13

to go back to what we're saying about

00:32:13 --> 00:32:15

just one step at a time and let

00:32:15 --> 00:32:17

let the rest unfold as it's supposed to

00:32:17 --> 00:32:18

unfold.

00:32:18 --> 00:32:21

But definitely I think vulnerability was something that

00:32:21 --> 00:32:23

was strengthened, developed and I had to just

00:32:23 --> 00:32:24

lean into and embrace

00:32:25 --> 00:32:27

throughout writing the book and now in particular

00:32:27 --> 00:32:28

the fact that it will come out. So

00:32:28 --> 00:32:31

now people will actually have this book and

00:32:31 --> 00:32:32

they will read some of my deepest thoughts

00:32:32 --> 00:32:34

and things like that. So,

00:32:34 --> 00:32:37

yeah. I'm leaning into it further and further.

00:32:38 --> 00:32:39

I love that. Mhmm.

00:32:40 --> 00:32:43

Mhmm. Big growth. Big growth. Isra, what was

00:32:43 --> 00:32:45

your relationship with fear and vulnerability

00:32:45 --> 00:32:46

throughout the journey?

00:32:48 --> 00:32:49

It's so lovely, you know, when you hear

00:32:50 --> 00:32:51

I I love this gathering because

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

even, you know, as a writer, when you

00:32:54 --> 00:32:57

start hearing this running theme of, okay, so

00:32:57 --> 00:33:00

even with infertility, even with memoir, even when

00:33:00 --> 00:33:01

I talk about finances,

00:33:02 --> 00:33:04

In the Muslim community, there's this, like, you

00:33:04 --> 00:33:06

know, taboo. We don't talk about these subjects.

00:33:06 --> 00:33:08

We don't bring them up. It's just, you

00:33:08 --> 00:33:10

know, you can talk among yourselves,

00:33:10 --> 00:33:13

but we're actually publishing them and making them

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

you know, normalizing them. And I think that's

00:33:15 --> 00:33:16

where

00:33:16 --> 00:33:17

that fear and vulnerability

00:33:18 --> 00:33:20

kind of line, you know, we are kind

00:33:20 --> 00:33:21

of you've gotta cross it and just say,

00:33:21 --> 00:33:24

you know what? The message is bigger than

00:33:25 --> 00:33:28

your fear of people

00:33:28 --> 00:33:30

judging you in any way. And in fact,

00:33:30 --> 00:33:31

the people

00:33:31 --> 00:33:32

who

00:33:32 --> 00:33:35

it gets into their hands, they see themselves

00:33:35 --> 00:33:37

in a way that they haven't seen before.

00:33:38 --> 00:33:40

And so when I started my book,

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

as you know, it was more conventional. It

00:33:43 --> 00:33:45

was not, you know, geared towards, you know,

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

specifically Muslim women. But as I went through

00:33:47 --> 00:33:49

it, I said there's no way for me

00:33:49 --> 00:33:50

to separate

00:33:50 --> 00:33:52

my belief from what I am trying to

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

explain here. So

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

when I approach things like,

00:33:57 --> 00:33:59

debt and mortgages, and I do, I I

00:33:59 --> 00:34:01

talk about all those things in the book.

00:34:01 --> 00:34:03

These are things that, you know, is really

00:34:03 --> 00:34:05

kind of contentious in our community. You know,

00:34:05 --> 00:34:06

there's the whole

00:34:06 --> 00:34:09

side that says don't ever buy a house

00:34:09 --> 00:34:10

unless you have cash. And there's the other

00:34:10 --> 00:34:13

side that said, well, there's Islamic financing and

00:34:13 --> 00:34:15

there's this. So, you know, I talk about

00:34:15 --> 00:34:16

those things, and I just kind of say,

00:34:16 --> 00:34:19

look. This is my take on it. Obviously,

00:34:19 --> 00:34:21

everybody can take whatever they want, and I

00:34:21 --> 00:34:23

know people will be like, wow. Is she

00:34:23 --> 00:34:26

judging me? And I think what that's always

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

our idea in Islam is, like, we're so

00:34:28 --> 00:34:30

worried to kind of, like,

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

express ourselves

00:34:32 --> 00:34:35

that we're not trying to put ourselves on

00:34:35 --> 00:34:37

this pedestal. You know, people always say, hey,

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

be careful. Put yourself down. Put yourself down.

00:34:39 --> 00:34:40

Be humble.

00:34:40 --> 00:34:43

And so I think it's that fear of,

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

like, I don't want to look like I'm,

00:34:45 --> 00:34:47

you know, on this pedestal or something. It's

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

always this idea that I don't wanna look

00:34:49 --> 00:34:51

like I'm arrogant or I'm trying to like

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

preach to them. But then at the same

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

time, you know, you just check yourself and

00:34:55 --> 00:34:56

you say, you know,

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

Allah gave me this experience for a reason.

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

It's what I always go back to. You

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

know, not everybody will go to Spain. Not

00:35:03 --> 00:35:05

everybody will get this, you know, 180

00:35:06 --> 00:35:08

experience of what it's like to live in

00:35:08 --> 00:35:09

this type of culture and what it's like

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

to live in this type of culture. I

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

didn't get it for myself. I really believe

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

it was meant to

00:35:15 --> 00:35:18

share with other people. Whether they take it

00:35:18 --> 00:35:19

or not is not my

00:35:20 --> 00:35:20

responsibility

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

how they react to it. My responsibility is

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

is done. I I shared my message. And

00:35:26 --> 00:35:28

so I think that's kind of where you

00:35:28 --> 00:35:30

you just have to push yourself, and that's

00:35:30 --> 00:35:32

what I had to do over and over

00:35:32 --> 00:35:33

again. Yeah.

00:35:34 --> 00:35:36

I totally love that. And I I you

00:35:36 --> 00:35:39

know, sometimes when I hear my my clients

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

or graduates from our programs talking, I'm just

00:35:41 --> 00:35:44

like they're nodding saying, yep. Yep. That's what

00:35:44 --> 00:35:46

we say. That's what we say. And this,

00:35:46 --> 00:35:47

idea of

00:35:48 --> 00:35:48

Allah

00:35:49 --> 00:35:51

putting you on a particular journey and giving

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

you particular knowledge or wisdom

00:35:54 --> 00:35:55

that it's not just for you, that there

00:35:55 --> 00:35:57

is a gift in that for others as

00:35:57 --> 00:36:00

well. That there is something in your experience

00:36:00 --> 00:36:02

that is beneficial to others who are on

00:36:02 --> 00:36:03

that same journey,

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

you know, is exactly what we we talk

00:36:05 --> 00:36:07

about, isn't it, in our coaching calls, etcetera.

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

So I'm so glad that you leaned into

00:36:09 --> 00:36:09

that.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:13

Maryam, you shared with us, you know, the

00:36:13 --> 00:36:14

fears that you had,

00:36:14 --> 00:36:16

you know, and sort of how tough it

00:36:16 --> 00:36:18

was, you know, to be, you know, sharing

00:36:18 --> 00:36:20

your life, really,

00:36:20 --> 00:36:22

with others. And I'm really glad that you

00:36:22 --> 00:36:25

did that because you worked extremely hard.

00:36:25 --> 00:36:27

And you were with us in the program

00:36:27 --> 00:36:29

at a time when the calls were off,

00:36:29 --> 00:36:31

but you did not stop writing. She is

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

one of those sisters who calls, no calls.

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

I don't get. I'm writing, and she did,

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

and she wrote

00:36:38 --> 00:36:41

many, many thousands of words. How many words

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

was your first manuscript? I wanna hear from

00:36:43 --> 00:36:46

everyone before we wrap up and tell us

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

about our books. How many words was your

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

first draft?

00:36:50 --> 00:36:51

120,000.

00:36:54 --> 00:36:55

A 120,000

00:36:55 --> 00:36:57

words. Farrah, how many was yours?

00:36:59 --> 00:37:00

I think mine was about 50.

00:37:01 --> 00:37:03

Yeah. 50,000. How about you, miss Ross? Yeah.

00:37:03 --> 00:37:05

Mine was, like,

00:37:05 --> 00:37:07

43, 44, my first dress.

00:37:07 --> 00:37:09

Mariam's book was, like, 3 of mine, I

00:37:09 --> 00:37:10

think.

00:37:12 --> 00:37:14

But, you know, it's very, very common for

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

memoirs to be much longer than other books.

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

So we know this. So, Inshallah, in conclusion,

00:37:20 --> 00:37:21

guys, I would love for you to if

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

you have a copy of your book, I

00:37:23 --> 00:37:25

think, Mariam, you have a copy, so we'd

00:37:25 --> 00:37:26

love to see it. Yes.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

Tell us where we can find the book,

00:37:29 --> 00:37:31

yalla. Give us a pitch. Tell us what

00:37:31 --> 00:37:33

the book is named. Say the name again,

00:37:33 --> 00:37:35

what it's about, who it's for, and where

00:37:35 --> 00:37:36

can people find it.

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

Okay.

00:37:38 --> 00:37:40

So the title of the book is facing

00:37:40 --> 00:37:41

life as the girl from Neenah,

00:37:41 --> 00:37:44

memoir of an African immigrant. You can get

00:37:44 --> 00:37:44

it on Amazon.

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

And soon it should be in the bookstore.

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

Soon, InshaAllah, like a week or so, InshaAllah.

00:37:49 --> 00:37:51

It should be in the bookstore. Shabla. Yes.

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

So the book this book is, it's just

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

a story about my life and I hope

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

that it's it reaches my African Muslim sisters

00:37:59 --> 00:38:00

in a way that they can relate to

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

because to be honest, there's not a lot

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

of books out there for African Muslim sisters

00:38:04 --> 00:38:06

that is really sharing our story of the

00:38:06 --> 00:38:08

African Muslim community in general.

00:38:09 --> 00:38:10

I talked about taboo topics that we don't

00:38:10 --> 00:38:13

talk about identity crisis that African Muslim youth

00:38:13 --> 00:38:15

face as they're growing up,

00:38:16 --> 00:38:17

staying married,

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

the challenges in the marriage,

00:38:19 --> 00:38:19

pregnancy,

00:38:20 --> 00:38:23

the lack of support of, yeah, the lack

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

of support from our men during pregnancy, and,

00:38:25 --> 00:38:26

you know, parenting,

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

and just where we are in life and

00:38:28 --> 00:38:29

just to take each life one step at

00:38:29 --> 00:38:31

a time. So, hopefully, what I hope to

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

achieve is to reach my African Muslim community

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

in a way where our men are gonna

00:38:36 --> 00:38:38

be intentional and conscious towards their wives,

00:38:39 --> 00:38:41

for parents to be more conscious about their

00:38:41 --> 00:38:42

parenting as well,

00:38:43 --> 00:38:45

and for the African Muslim youth to be

00:38:45 --> 00:38:47

confident and know and know that they have

00:38:47 --> 00:38:50

a place in this community, not to feel

00:38:50 --> 00:38:51

like less than

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to come up and show up as who

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

they truly are. So it it has something

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

in there for everybody. You read it and

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

you feel like somehow, I think I went

00:38:59 --> 00:39:02

too wrong. I'm gonna, well, let me Alright.

00:39:03 --> 00:39:05

Excellent. And, guys, we'll have the link to

00:39:05 --> 00:39:07

the book in the after this is published

00:39:07 --> 00:39:08

on YouTube.

00:39:08 --> 00:39:10

So if you're watching this, not the live

00:39:10 --> 00:39:14

version, please go to the description and follow

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

all our wonderful,

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

speakers, authors on Instagram,

00:39:17 --> 00:39:19

and check out the links to their books

00:39:19 --> 00:39:21

in the description box as well.

00:39:21 --> 00:39:23

Farah, tell us your book title,

00:39:24 --> 00:39:26

what it's about, who it's for, and where

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

people can find it.

00:39:27 --> 00:39:30

Okay. My book is called taking control, a

00:39:30 --> 00:39:32

Muslim woman's guide to surviving

00:39:33 --> 00:39:33

infertility.

00:39:35 --> 00:39:38

It will be on so it's kind of

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

on Amazon already, and it will be available

00:39:40 --> 00:39:42

in a lot more places very soon,

00:39:42 --> 00:39:45

but it's not yet available to buy.

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

So probably the best thing to do is

00:39:47 --> 00:39:49

if people want to go over to Instagram

00:39:50 --> 00:39:51

and follow me on farrah_dually,

00:39:53 --> 00:39:53

so farrah_dually,

00:39:54 --> 00:39:57

then that's where you can see when the

00:39:57 --> 00:39:57

book's available,

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

you know, preorder as soon as it's available,

00:40:00 --> 00:40:01

which will be very, very soon, and it

00:40:01 --> 00:40:02

should be out in June.

00:40:04 --> 00:40:04

Yay.

00:40:05 --> 00:40:06

I love it. Isra,

00:40:07 --> 00:40:08

I know that your book is with editing

00:40:08 --> 00:40:10

right now, but I think that you have

00:40:10 --> 00:40:12

other ways that people can connect with you.

00:40:12 --> 00:40:15

Can you tell us, please? 100%. Yeah. So,

00:40:16 --> 00:40:17

the name of the book, Muslim as Simple

00:40:17 --> 00:40:18

Living, the handbook

00:40:19 --> 00:40:21

is named after actually my

00:40:21 --> 00:40:24

Facebook group, which you can, find because that's

00:40:24 --> 00:40:26

where I'm putting all the updates, and that's

00:40:26 --> 00:40:27

where we're already living

00:40:28 --> 00:40:29

actually the book.

00:40:29 --> 00:40:32

On Facebook, it's a group. It's called Muslima

00:40:32 --> 00:40:33

Simple

00:40:33 --> 00:40:35

and Decluttered Living,

00:40:35 --> 00:40:37

and we are currently in a great

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

space. We're all getting ready for Ramadan,

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

and it's a book

00:40:43 --> 00:40:45

really on just living a more purposeful life.

00:40:45 --> 00:40:47

And it's almost like a love letter to

00:40:47 --> 00:40:49

my Muslim sisters on just,

00:40:51 --> 00:40:52

more geared towards

00:40:52 --> 00:40:54

Muslim women who live in the west,

00:40:55 --> 00:40:58

not getting caught up in all this, consumerism

00:40:59 --> 00:41:00

and capitalism

00:41:00 --> 00:41:02

and just going kind of more back to

00:41:02 --> 00:41:03

the sunnah.

00:41:04 --> 00:41:05

I love.

00:41:06 --> 00:41:08

Fantastic, guys. If you're gonna take a screenshot

00:41:08 --> 00:41:09

of this session,

00:41:09 --> 00:41:11

take it now. I don't have a book

00:41:11 --> 00:41:13

to show, but I've got my thumb. It's

00:41:13 --> 00:41:14

alright. You have to put your thumb up

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

now because you don't have a book yet.

00:41:16 --> 00:41:18

Everybody would love and just take a screenshot.

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

Please do share it on the socials, guys.

00:41:21 --> 00:41:23

Tag me, and we will share it with

00:41:23 --> 00:41:24

everybody.

00:41:25 --> 00:41:27

Thank you so much, ladies. I love you

00:41:27 --> 00:41:29

so much for the sake of Allah. Coach

00:41:29 --> 00:41:31

Hind and I, we're just like proud, you

00:41:31 --> 00:41:33

know, mother hens with you guys and your

00:41:33 --> 00:41:36

projects and your books. Masha'Allah. Absolutely love what

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

you're doing. May

00:41:38 --> 00:41:40

Allah only increase you in

00:41:40 --> 00:41:42

faith. Bless you and your families and your

00:41:42 --> 00:41:45

books with success and make this the beginning

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

of an amazing chapter in your

00:41:47 --> 00:41:48

lives.

00:41:49 --> 00:41:50

Thank you so much

00:41:50 --> 00:41:52

for joining us and we'll see you in

00:41:52 --> 00:41:55

the next session Insha'Allah. Thank you ladies.

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