Naima B. Robert – How can writers combat isolation Na’ima B. Robert’s advice

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A guest on a Q&A session with a Muslim writer discusses the importance of writing to take place and finding a community for writing. The guest advises the writer to find a community online or join Facebook groups for writing and network with writers. The guest also suggests finding local writing conferences and working with writers in the community.

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			Assalamu
		
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			alaikum. Welcome back to another Muslim writers Q
		
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			and A session with me Naima B Robert.
		
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			I am an award winning writer, publisher and
		
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			I'm trainer in chief at muslimarwriters.com.
		
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			Today's question
		
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			is from a sister in our Muslimarwriters
		
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			Facebook group and it is a question that
		
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			is very common to anybody who's actually on
		
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			the writing path.
		
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			And she says,
		
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			writing can be quite a lonely and isolating
		
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			pursuit. Do you have any advice?
		
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			Well my dear, it just so happens that
		
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			I do. Okay. So the first thing that
		
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			I would like to advise you
		
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			is to remember
		
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			your goal.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Stephen Covey
		
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			advised Eden's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
		
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			to begin with the end in mind.
		
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			Isolation is necessary
		
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			for writing to take place.
		
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			That solitude,
		
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			that quiet space,
		
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			that
		
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			almost removing yourself from the rest of the
		
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			world
		
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			is necessary
		
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			for us to be able to create
		
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			and for us to be able to actually
		
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			produce the goods. Okay.
		
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			Obviously if we're always surrounded by people, if
		
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			we're always busy, if we're always socializing,
		
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			we will not have any time to write.
		
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			So one of the things that I would
		
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			like you to remember is that that solitude
		
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			is a good thing.
		
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			It's space for your mind to explore, to
		
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			create,
		
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			to to to to to work on this
		
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			on this on this this piece of art
		
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			that you're creating. So the solitude is important.
		
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			It has a purpose.
		
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			A very important purpose. So we don't want
		
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			to kick solitude out altogether
		
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			and we also don't want to make it
		
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			into a negative thing. If you are blessed
		
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			enough
		
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			to have quiet time to write, to be
		
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			left on your own to write. Masha'Allah.
		
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			You actually are privileged beyond measure because I
		
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			know many other sisters who have written in
		
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			and said I can't find any time to
		
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			write. I'm homeschooling. I've got my kids around
		
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			me all the time. I've got relatives on
		
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			the weekend. I can't find any time.
		
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			So mashallah if you are blessed
		
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			to carve that quiet time for yourself. That
		
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			solitude
		
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			then please do take it as the blessing
		
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			that it is and make the most of
		
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			it. So that's the first thing. It's just
		
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			a small reminder. Now my real
		
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			answer to the question
		
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			is find a community.
		
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			You are 100% right.
		
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			Writing can be a very isolating experience especially
		
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			if you're not surrounded by people who understand
		
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			your vision, who are on the same path
		
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			as you. So what I would suggest
		
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			is join up with others who are on
		
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			the same path as you.
		
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			It really does help to be in contact
		
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			with no matter how sporadically
		
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			other sisters who are
		
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			sim you know on the same journey as
		
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			you are. Who are striving for similar goals.
		
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			And there are a few ways that you
		
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			can find such sisters
		
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			and be part of a community so that
		
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			you are able to,
		
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			able to kind of shield yourself from some
		
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			of the darker aspects or the more negative
		
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			aspects of the solitude that we talked about.
		
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			So the first way that I would suggest
		
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			you get in touch with the community is
		
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			get online.
		
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			There are Facebook groups
		
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			of many different shades for all sorts of
		
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			different writers.
		
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			I myself am part of the Muslim are
		
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			writers Facebook groups. You're more than welcome to
		
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			join us there. We have a membership site
		
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			as well which has its own Facebook group
		
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			for people who are actively learning about writing.
		
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			All the links will be in the description
		
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			below.
		
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			But in Facebook groups you
		
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			can read other people's writing. You can comment
		
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			on it. You can post your own writing
		
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			and get feedback. You can also learn because
		
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			usually in Facebook groups there are so, there
		
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			are so many people posting valuable information for
		
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			writers.
		
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			In my own group, I post, videos. I
		
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			do live training,
		
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			and we have so many other wonderful sisters
		
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			in the group who will actually get involved
		
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			and answer questions.
		
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			So Facebook groups is a really easy way
		
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			to feel part of a community.
		
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			Social media in general,
		
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			if at the moment you are on social
		
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			media, maybe you're on Facebook or Instagram, Twitter,
		
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			Pinterest
		
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			all of those platforms
		
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			have writers on them.
		
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			So in order for you to kind of
		
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			feel part of the community you need to
		
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			seek them out, find the writers and the
		
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			editors and the publishers and follow them and
		
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			be part of the conversations. You know, see
		
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			what they're talking about. You know, check out
		
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			the links that they share. That also will
		
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			help to combat any feelings of isolation because
		
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			you'll see that to be honest, you're actually
		
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			part of a really huge sisterhood, you know,
		
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			a huge community
		
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			of writers who are at different stages of
		
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			their journey and are all pretty much striving
		
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			for the same thing.
		
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			The other thing I would like to advise
		
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			you to do that you might want to
		
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			try is sign up for a couple of
		
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			writing based newsletters.
		
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			There are too many for me to list,
		
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			available online but if you have a particular
		
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			author that you like
		
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			or a particular writer's group or publisher that
		
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			you admire
		
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			or any blogs actually that you follow that
		
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			you know, are, are teaching you, that are
		
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			giving you good content, sign up to their
		
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			newsletter because that will help you to keep
		
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			in regular contact with the content
		
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			from the blog, and also with the people
		
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			who are reading the same content as you
		
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			Insha Allah.
		
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			There's a link to, my writing newsletter down
		
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			below. If you want to join that, you're
		
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			more than welcome to do that.
		
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			Another really cool way to be part of
		
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			a community is WhatsApp groups.
		
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			And this is super cool way for sisters
		
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			who usually just take it upon themselves to
		
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			say, hey, guys. I'm starting a WhatsApp group
		
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			for accountability, for example. Who wants to be
		
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			on it? If you join that WhatsApp group,
		
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			you will
		
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			find sisters who are, you know, just as
		
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			motivated as you, possibly more,
		
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			who are working towards the same goal as
		
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			you are. So that's another really cool way
		
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			to get to to be part of a
		
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			community.
		
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			Another way is summits.
		
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			Online summits
		
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			are basically conferences for writers, editors, publishers, and
		
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			there are several of these.
		
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			Muslim and Writers just held 1. The Muslim
		
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			Writers and Publishers Association has 1 every year.
		
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			There's also women in publishing which is, is
		
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			a is a mainstream summit.
		
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			But those types of events really bring you
		
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			together with kind of sometimes thousands of other
		
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			women
		
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			who are on the same journey as you.
		
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			And it's a fantastic place to make new
		
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			contacts, to network, to learn new things. And
		
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			again, feel part of a community.
		
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			My last piece of advice is if you
		
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			can find any local groups in your area
		
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			where writers are coming together, either to write
		
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			or to discuss writing, or just simply to
		
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			network, that's another way. And if you can
		
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			work that into your schedule, then that will
		
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			be,
		
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			a nice antidote to the necessary
		
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			solitude
		
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			of being a writer.
		
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			So I hope you found that advice useful.
		
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			As I said, you're welcome to join us
		
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			in the Facebook group. You're also welcome to
		
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			sign up to my mailing lists, to get
		
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			writing tips and techniques
		
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			and exercises etcetera. All links are in the
		
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			description
		
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			but whatever you decide to do,
		
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			just be aware that the solitude is a
		
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			blessing and the community is a blessing and
		
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			we say Alhamdulillah for both of them. Please
		
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			do like, comment and subscribe to my channel
		
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			and let me know in the comments what
		
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			other questions you have so that I can
		
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			answer those too inshallah. For now, salaam alaikum.