Naima B. Robert – Discover the Book Within Challenge Day 1 Training

Naima B. Robert
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The next five days will be an award-winning book challenges where participants will be interviewed and asked questions about their writing and message. The challenges will involve learning about the book, writing, and promoting it in the world. The importance of preserving and creating a legacy for people with a passion for their story is emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the importance of writing and being a part of one's legacy, and offers advice on how to create a story. The importance of recording live events and getting out of comfort zone is also emphasized. The speaker encourages attendees to leave comments and share their experiences, and mentions a new assignment for the challenge and prizes for those who participate.
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Welcome.

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Welcome.

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Oh, oh, so welcome to Discover the Book

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Within,

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a 5 day challenge with me, your sister,

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Naima b Robert.

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And I just wanna say, alhamdulillah.

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Alhamdulillah.

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Alhamdulillah.

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I always say alhamdulillah at the start of

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every gathering where, you know, we're hoping for

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khair, hoping for good to come out of

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it because it really is a privilege to

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be in this place. And if you're joining

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me,

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know that you've been chosen. There are some

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people who intended to watch this, intended to

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sign up for this, intended to be a

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part of this, and it was not written

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for them. And there are others who didn't

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even know about this until just now, and

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here they are watching it. And if that's

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you, alhamdulillah,

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I'm so so pleased to have you with

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me.

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This is our 1st day of training, and

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I'm so excited to jump in with you

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because

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day 1

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we're kicking off

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over the next 5 days.

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My goal is to rock your world.

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Quite frankly,

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my goal is to shift your

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thinking to help you to dig deep to

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discover the book within

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to find out what is it that story,

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that message, that knowledge that you're carrying inside

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you that deserves to be put into a

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book and put out into the world. And

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in order for us to do that, over

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the next 5 days, we're going to be

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examining

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who you are,

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what your message is,

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what a book is, what yours could be,

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and we're gonna do a lot of shifting

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of beliefs, dealing with those fears, those limiting

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beliefs, you know, really getting ourselves out of

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the comfort zone and starting to see what

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is possible for you. And then we're gonna

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shift into logistical gear. We're gonna get really

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practical. And

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if you stick with me by the you

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know, before these 5 days,

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by the end of it, you are going

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to have clarity about who you are and

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what your message is,

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clarity about the kind of book that you

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could be writing and what that will look

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like. You may even have a book title

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and a book cover and a list of

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contents and a firm and solid way forward

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for you to see this book come to

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life within the next 6 months inshallah. That's

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my goal for you. That's what I have

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pledged to do is to love on you

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guys,

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to serve you guys, my whole team and

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I. That's what we're gonna be doing for

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the next 5 days inshallah. So

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make sure that you

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play full out. Make sure that you show

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up. Make sure that you attend the trainings.

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If you can attend live,

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so much the better.

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If you don't manage to catch the live,

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catch the replay.

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Do the assignments.

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Myself, coach Hind,

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sister Shazia, sister Zubaida, sister Mariam,

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from my team, we're all here to help

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you.

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We're all here

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to

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support you and give you anything that you

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need, anything that you're missing, anything that you're

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concerned about.

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One of our team will be in touch

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with you, Insha'Allah, and so make the most

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of the support.

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Your coach

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So I wanna take a moment now to

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really ask you

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why

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you are here.

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What made you

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sign up for this challenge?

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What made you decide

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to

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show up

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to, you know, to take the to take

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the action? And I always think about this

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because you obviously saw something somewhere. Maybe you

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got an email. Maybe you saw an Instagram

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post. Maybe it was on Facebook. Maybe someone

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that you respect shared the link.

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You read you went on to the page.

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You read the page, you signed up,

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you click the link, and you're here.

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Why are you here?

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Is it that you are one of those

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people who

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is trying to write a book right now?

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Is it that you've been wanting to write

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a book but you don't know how to

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get started?

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Is it that you've been trying to write

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a book for years and you're just not

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making that progress?

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Is it that you just like the idea

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of potentially writing a book, or are you

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just here for the curiosity, you know, just

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to see what it is that we've got

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going on?

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I would like you to just take a

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moment now to think about why you came

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here.

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And just let me know in the

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chat. Let me know in the comments

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what is that brought you here. I'm really,

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really curious to know, and I I will

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be reading everybody's responses.

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So while you take a moment to do

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that, I'm gonna just introduce myself. For those

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of you who don't know me,

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my name is Naima b Robert, and I'm

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an award winning author of over 30 books,

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almost 30 books, for children,

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teens, and adults

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in different

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I've written memoir. I've written self help. I've

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written an anthology. I've published 2 anthologies.

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I've written fiction. I've written written nonfiction. I've

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written children's picture books. I've written young adult

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novels, all sorts. I've been

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also founding editor of Sisters Magazine, and

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we ran that for good and managed to

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launch the careers of dozens of, you know,

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Muslim writers who are out there in the

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world today. And then since 2018,

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I've been a book coach,

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and I founded Muslim writers in 2018.

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And now I help my team and I,

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we help women

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with a story, a message, or knowledge to

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share. We help them to write their books,

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to publish their books, and to launch them

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out into the world.

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We have helped almost 50 sisters become published

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authors, and I'm just gonna put it out

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there. Full disclosure.

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I set myself a huge

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goal, and I set our team a huge

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goal of helping to create 222

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Muslim authors

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by the end of this year.

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Crazy numbers. Right? But the reason that I

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did that is because

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I want us to make a real difference.

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It's one thing for me to write my

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books and have different publishers and have my

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book translated and, you know, win awards and,

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you know, go and visit schools and speak

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at, you know, blah blah blah

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and to build a career as an author.

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And that's a beautiful and amazing thing When

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people read your book,

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are touched by your book, and to Pamela,

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their lives are changed by your books,

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This is a huge part of what I

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pray will be

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for

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me and for my family.

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So that

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pushes me

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in my

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there's more

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there's more to this than just my own

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personal success.

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I want to see other sisters winning too.

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I want to see other sisters

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experiencing what I've experienced,

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the power of

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doing the work to get you your book

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out there, the transformation that you go through

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in

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that process,

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and then

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that you

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sister-in-law because I've committed myself

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to helping

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make that happen.

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So here,

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these are some of my books. You may

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be familiar with some of them. Just let

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me know in the chat if you know

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any of these books, if you've read any

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of them, if you have any favorites. As

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you can see, you know, there's also different

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genres there, different age groups, etcetera. Alhamdulillahabbalahalameen.

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I'm grateful.

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Sharing

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the writing experience, the publishing experience,

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the networks that Allah

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has blessed me with in order to help

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more women thrive,

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to help

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more sisters

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thrive, to help more sisters achieve their dreams,

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and to help more sisters

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to build a legacy for themselves and their

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families.

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So what I know about you is that

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you

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have something

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somebody else need.

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You may believe

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not. Right? But this is this is this

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is my this is what I this is

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my premise. This is

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that every single one of you has

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a story,

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a story that has relevance

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to people other than just yourself,

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a story that resonates with others,

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and that is of benefit to others. I

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believe there are some of you who have

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a message,

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a message that the world needs, that is

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needed by people out there,

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that I believe that some of you, most

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of you probably have knowledge

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that other people don't have. You have expertise

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that other people don't have.

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And so I know that you have something

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special within you because

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as we go through this journey of life,

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Allah

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puts us into certain situations,

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he tests us with certain

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situations,

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and through those tests,

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They're like little

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taken

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and in the

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and the voice, they are into bubbles.

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With

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your

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experience

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Yes. So it has given you

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these

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pearls of wisdom.

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Right? And so right now,

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those pearls are

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are in here. Right? They're in here.

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You kind of know what's there. You know,

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if you rummage around, you'll be able to

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find them. But what would happen if you

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try to take all those pearls of wisdom

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and hand them to somebody else? Whether that

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person is your child or your loved ones

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or your colleagues or your clients or your

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local community or the whole world. Right?

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How easy would it be for you to

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gather up, firstly, all of those pearls in

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your hands,

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and how likely are you to be able

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to hold them all in your hands without

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dropping any

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and then give them to somebody else

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for them to hold and for them not

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to draw any. What do you think? What's

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the likelihood of them dropping those pearls? What's

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the likelihood of you dropping those pearls?

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Super likely, right?

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Because at the end of the day, you

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know, what we are

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all of us

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through just day to day, as the years

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go by, these pearls of wisdom, these lessons

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that we're learning, if we don't capture them,

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they are literally being scattered. They're being scattered

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never to be found.

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And when you hand them to somebody in

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that form, that person very rarely can hold

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on to all of them, and they end

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up being scattered too. So what I how

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I typify it is when you have these

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pearls of wisdom

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and you string them into a necklace

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or like a set of beads,

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Now

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you've taken the time

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to

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gather all pearls

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and arrange them on the string

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and then put a clasp on it, close-up

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the clasp. Now when you give those pearls,

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you can give them to somebody, and that

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person can hold them in their hand. They're

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not gonna drop them. They're gonna wear them.

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They're gonna wrap them around their wrist. Right?

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They're gonna wear them as a necklace.

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Those pearls have now been preserved. They're not

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going to be scattered and lost the way

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they would be if they were not tied

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on that string.

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And

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this is how it is with you the

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those the gold from your story, those pearls

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of wisdom as from your story,

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you know, the the the nuggets from your

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message,

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the the the the the the nuts and

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bolts of your knowledge.

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Writing it down,

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putting it in a form that can be

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digested by someone else,

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is preserving

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it

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for others

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and for future generations.

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So it's like having

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an heirloom, having, you know, something that others

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will inherit from you. And that's one of

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the reasons why I'm so passionate about this

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because I don't want our stories to be

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lost.

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We

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lost so many of our stories already, and

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we continue to lose stories every day. Many

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of us, if we don't preserve our knowledge,

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there is nothing else out there.

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You know? Our market is not saturated

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with, you know, people reaching out to help

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other sisters like us, like you, like you,

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like you,

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with their expertise and with their knowledge. So

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everybody ends up having to figure it out

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for themselves when they didn't need to do

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that. They could have learned from you. They

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could have learned from you, sis. They could

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have learned from you.

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So that's one of the reasons that I'm

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doing this is because

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I know

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even if you don't,

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I know that you have something to offer,

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someone else out there.

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And what I believe

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is that

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Allah

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brought

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me

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and that you have something in you

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that is needed out in the world. And

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that if you decide and you make the

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decision to invest the resources, the energy, the

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time

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to bring this book out into the world,

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This can be a part of your enduring

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legacy, part of the impact you have in

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the world, and inshallah inshallah count as sadaqa

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jariyah.

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And that's what I want for every single

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one of you who signed up for this

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challenge.

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Some shape or form,

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whether you do it with me in my

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program or you do it somewhere else,

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I would love it if by the end

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of these 5 days,

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you have recognized

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the value in your story, your message, or

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your knowledge. You've understood

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how

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possible it is to actually record it all

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and put it into some kind of book,

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and you now know that it's it's doable

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to put this out into the world and

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that they it's worth doing. Right?

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Especially if you've got that intention and you're

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able to do this, faisa billi Allah, for

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the sake of Allah in order to gain

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not just your dunya but your aqira,

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then then my work is done. Then I

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was a good coach for the week, and

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I gave you guys what you came for,

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Insha'Allah. Right? So let's have a look at

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this diagram now. This is how I break

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down the way in which a book becomes

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a legacy. Right?

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Your book is the thing that is going

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to endure after you're gone. It is a

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faithful record of your story, your message, or

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your knowledge. It's not filtered through other people's

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lenses. It's not kind of subject to someone's

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memory. It is a faithful

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documentation

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of your message.

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So the way in which a book now

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becomes legacy, which is a step up from

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just being a book, is when the messenger,

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and that's you,

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and the message, which is the story, the

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message of the knowledge,

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and the platform, the

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audience,

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when they

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overlap,

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their

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is where this is created.

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I'll give you an example

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of a client of mine, Sisafara Duwale. And

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you're gonna meet her later on this week,

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inshallah. Think I've got a picture of her

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in these slides. Right? But Sisafara

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battled with, infertility for many years,

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and her and her husband have been navigating

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a journey with infertility

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for about 13 years.

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That was her test.

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I haven't gone through that test. Maybe

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you Right?

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She and her husband

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and she navigated through that as best as

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she could

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with nobody helping her really with, you know,

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no no,

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no guidance. She just she had to make

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her way through this test, like we most

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of us do.

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But then

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somehow, somewhere,

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Allah inspired

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her with

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the notion of helping

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others

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through her story, through her message,

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with the idea of benefiting

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other people,

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other sisters, other families

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by what she had gone through. So she

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came to us. She joined our program. When

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she came, she said, help me write this

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book. So we helped her write the book,

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Alhamdulillah.

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The book was picked up by a publisher.

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It's due to be published next month,

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and that book has been written for Muslim

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women all over the world.

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And

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so Farah is the messenger.

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How to navigate

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infertility

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and

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thrive in your marriage is the message. And

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now that she's published that book

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for

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the women, that's her audience.

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That's her.

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And at the heart of those 3 is

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a lay.

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This is her father, Khajaria, Insha'Allah.

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This is how she will impact lives, one

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of the ways. But this is an amazing

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way for her to impact lives. Because imagine

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the 100,000 100 of 1000 of Muslim women

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out there who are dealing with

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this, who have never read a book on

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it, have never heard the topic discussed, live

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in communities where it's completely taboo,

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where there is nobody to help them.

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Allah

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chose sister Farah to be a vessel,

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to be a vessel

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for his Rahmah.

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And whenever I'm coaching my clients

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any one of you, my clients, you know

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you've heard me saying this before. It's not

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about you, sis.

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Everyone who's listening now

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you feel that, you know, you're thinking of

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your story, you're thinking of your message, but

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you have to

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to make this clear. If

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not about

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you, sis,

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even no place here.

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If what you are

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planning to put out into the world is

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khair,

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then you are merely a vessel.

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Allah

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has decided to bless people,

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whoever they are, with this khair, and he's

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chosen and honored you

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to be the vessel for that. Allahu Akbar.

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Allahu Akbar. Seriously.

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Like, I can't

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I cannot overstate

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the value

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of this

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because

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you and I are going about our ordinary

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lives. Trust me. I'm going about my ordinary

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life, going through my trials, going through my

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triumphs, doing crazy stuff. And in the meantime,

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my sisters are reading show up. My sisters

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are reading from my sisters' lips. They're being

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comforted. They're being inspired. They're being motivated. They're

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being helped.

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I will only know the impact of that

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on Yomul Qiyamah. I will never know

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how much khair has been done,

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how much benefit there has been

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until Allah shows me on the last day.

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And it's the same with every one of

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you. So I'm I I I don't I

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can never overstate this.

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This is

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legacy work.

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This is akhira work.

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And I think that when you think of

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yourself as a vessel, when you

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recognize and realize that, actually,

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if I do write this book and, you

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know, that I get the outcome

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and people benefit from it, Allah was just

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using me to benefit the people. Allah

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what an honor

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to be used by Allah

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as a vessel to help the people,

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you know, as an as a vessel for

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his rahma, as a vessel for guidance, as

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a vessel for comfort, as a vessel for

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reminders, whatever is. So when we cover ourselves

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as a vessel, and Shahla deals with a

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lot of the

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the negative thoughts that we may be entertaining,

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the ego stuff.

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Why me?

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Who do I think I am to write

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a book? What may you know, that that

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little mean verb voice that you have in

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your head. What makes you think you're so

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special that you write a book? What makes

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you think you have anything to say? Who

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said anyone's gonna

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people don't buy it? What if people criticize

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it? What if it's not perfect? All of

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that stuff,

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it gets thrown in the bin when you

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realize that

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I'm just a vessel.

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I'm just a vessel for whatever it is

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that Allah

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wants the people to have.

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And all I need to do is make

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intention,

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get out of my own way,

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and let Allah

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take the lead. Right?

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So I want you to clock that because

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it's important.

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Right. So now

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let's do a bit of triage. Let's see

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what people are carrying right now.

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So how do you know if you have

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a story worth telling? I'm gonna tell you.

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So I hope you guys are taking notes.

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How you know you have a story worth

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telling. Now the story can be

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an incident,

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a chapter of your life, or

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your whole life. A lot of people when

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they think, oh, a story to tell, they

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think it's an autobiography. Right? That that they

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have to tell their whole life story. I

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hate to break it to you, but most

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people do not care about your whole life

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story, unless it's, like, for your family, for

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your children,

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for future generations, in which case you're more

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than welcome to tell your whole life story.

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But let's look at you as having a

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story, whether it's an incident that you went

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through,

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a chapter of your life, a certain portion

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of your life, or your whole life story.

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How to know if that story is worth

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telling? Because obviously every one of us has

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got tons of stories. We could tell stories

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all year.

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How do we know if that story is

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worth telling

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and worth putting into a book?

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The first way is to ask yourself,

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does my story have relevance

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outside of just me? Does it does it

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have does it is it relevant to anyone

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aside

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from

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just

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me?

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That could mean your family.

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It could mean, you know, your your people.

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It could mean your community. It could mean

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society as a whole. It could mean, you

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know, people in your profession. It could mean

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people who've been through the same situation as

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you. Does your story have relevance to anyone

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aside from yourself? And

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do the themes of your story

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and those pearls from your story

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resonate

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with others

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apart from yourself?

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Is this something that has

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resonance with others?

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Is there something that others can take from

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your story?

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So that's a question that you need to

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answer for yourself.

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I would argue that any story

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that you have, that you could tell

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in which you learned something, in which you

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grew, in which you changed somehow

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in a good way

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is a story worth telling

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as a story that has relevance to others

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and that resonates with others. But that's that's

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how you

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know if your story is worth telling. Right?

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Does it have relevance for others, and will

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the message of your story and the the

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themes of your story, do they resonate

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with anyone aside from yourself?

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So it's not a very high bar. Right?

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It does is it relevant? Does it resonate?

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That's it. Okay? And then we will deal

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with the the the nuts and bolts of

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it later.

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Next question.

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Do you have a message?

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How do you know if you have a

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message to share? Right?

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Have a message to share is

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is there anything

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that you

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value,

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that you hold dear,

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that you stand for,

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that you wish more people knew,

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that you wish people

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something that you're passionate about,

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something that you currently talk about, something that,

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you know, and and something that you work

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towards.

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If the answer to any of those is

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yes, then I would say you have a

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message to share, something that you stand for.

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And, again,

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whether the

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message is for your children

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and

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community

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and

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which

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is

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an important

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and, is something you're passionate about and

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is pleasing to Allah, obviously,

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then I would say you tick a yes.

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Yeah? You get to say, yes, I have

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a message. Right? So hopefully that's good. Let

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me know in the chat.

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Do you think you more have a story

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to tell or do you think you more

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have a message that you want to share?

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And then here, do you have expertise?

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And how to know if you have expertise

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that's worth sharing is

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have you

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done anything better than anyone else? Have you

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achieved anything

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better or faster than anybody else? Have you

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figured something out that a lot of people

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struggle with? Have you made a success of

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something

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that many people fail at? Have you reached

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the top in any

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in anything? Do you teach?

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Do you train?

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Do you have a system

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that you use with your clients,

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right, or with, you know, the people that

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you work with or in your organization?

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Because if your answer to any of those

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is yes,

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then I would say that you have expertise

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that's worth sharing. And for those of you

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who are thinking to yourself, yes, but I'm

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not the expert. The expert is so and

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so. Why would someone listen to me? Here

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is what I have for you.

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You will always

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be 5, 10, 15 steps ahead of another

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sister, ahead of somebody else. And sometimes those

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people who are 5, 10, 15 steps behind

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you would prefer to learn from you than

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that expert that you think everybody wants to

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learn

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from. Maybe they resonate with you. Maybe they

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feel there's a shared identity

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or

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experiences, and she looks at you and she's

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like, no. No. No.

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I I see what's possible through her. I

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want to use her method because she gets

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me for whatever reason.

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So that's something to think about when you're

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asking

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yourself, you know, do I really have expertise

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to share?

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Have you figured something out that other people

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haven't figured out? If so,

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you need to have some knowledge or expertise

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that could be earned with Cadaver

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right now.

00:28:01 --> 00:28:02

Okay. So

00:28:02 --> 00:28:04

put in the chat whether you're more

00:28:05 --> 00:28:07

think you're carrying a story or thinking you

00:28:07 --> 00:28:09

have a message that you wanna share or

00:28:09 --> 00:28:11

that you have expertise that other people need.

00:28:11 --> 00:28:12

Right? Put them in the chat for me

00:28:12 --> 00:28:13

in the comments. Next. Why

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do we write?

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So I want to go through the reasons

00:28:18 --> 00:28:20

that many of our clients,

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come come to us,

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and the kind of things that they say

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to us, the kind of things that sisters

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that I've been speaking to over the past

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few years

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say. And you can choose any one of

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them, like, any any of them that resonate

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with you. Okay? So let's get started with

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this first one here, which is

00:28:38 --> 00:28:39

some

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sisters

00:28:40 --> 00:28:42

some people in general, but let's talk about

00:28:42 --> 00:28:44

sisters for now because that's who we work

00:28:44 --> 00:28:45

with.

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So some sisters will come to us because

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they want to write

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in order to reflect, to process, and heal.

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Maybe they've been through some trauma,

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maybe they've had some experiences in life, and

00:29:00 --> 00:29:02

they want to and they've been carrying the

00:29:02 --> 00:29:02

story

00:29:03 --> 00:29:05

for years, decades,

00:29:05 --> 00:29:08

and they want to unburden themselves. They want

00:29:08 --> 00:29:09

to get it off their chest. They want

00:29:09 --> 00:29:11

to empty it from their head so that

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they can

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process what happened and heal from what happened.

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Sometimes

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and many times, these sisters are not motivated

00:29:21 --> 00:29:21

by publishing.

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It's not really about what other people will

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say, or other people will read, or whether

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people will buy it, or even getting it

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out there.

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They just want support with the process of

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writing out their story, telling their story, speaking

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their truth, some of them for the first

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time.

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So if you think that's you,

00:29:43 --> 00:29:45

put a heel in the chat. Yeah. Put

00:29:45 --> 00:29:47

a heel in the comments if you think

00:29:47 --> 00:29:48

that that that sounds like

00:29:50 --> 00:29:51

you. Right.

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Other sisters come in because they want to

00:29:54 --> 00:29:57

write to inspire others with their life story

00:29:57 --> 00:29:58

and their experiences.

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These are the pearl stringers.

00:30:01 --> 00:30:03

Yeah? These are the ones who are wanting

00:30:03 --> 00:30:05

to gather all those pearls together

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and string them into something

00:30:07 --> 00:30:08

really beautiful

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so that the people can bend. If you

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are thinking that your life story could be

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an inspiration

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for others, then put inspire

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in the comments.

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Some sisters come because they want to write

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a book that will help and guide others.

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Going back to the example of sister Farah,

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that was her intention.

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She had been through something. She had figured

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it out,

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wanted to give others

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basically game. Right? How to also figure it

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out, how to also get through this. So

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if that's you,

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put guide in the chat.

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Right? This is for ladies out there who

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have expertise, for example.

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Alright? Potentially, those coaches out there,

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this could be you.

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Also, from my coaches out there, this also

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could be you. Sometimes the coaches come in

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and, they want they have a life story

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they wanna share. At the times, it's more

00:31:00 --> 00:31:02

to help and guide others. And then there

00:31:02 --> 00:31:04

are those sisters who come because they want

00:31:04 --> 00:31:07

to write a book to spread a message

00:31:07 --> 00:31:09

or champion a cause. And those are my

00:31:09 --> 00:31:10

clients who

00:31:11 --> 00:31:13

have very strongly held beliefs

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about certain things or they see things happening

00:31:16 --> 00:31:19

in society and they're concerned about them, and

00:31:19 --> 00:31:21

they want to start a conversation,

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And they want,

00:31:23 --> 00:31:26

the community, their community, the community to start

00:31:26 --> 00:31:28

talking about certain things, to start facing.

00:31:30 --> 00:31:33

Right? They want to speak on behalf

00:31:34 --> 00:31:36

of voices that are not being heard. Want

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to make a case

00:31:40 --> 00:31:41

that team. Okay?

00:31:42 --> 00:31:45

Organizations, sisters who have founded charities or founded

00:31:45 --> 00:31:47

organizations, that's you.

00:31:47 --> 00:31:50

Right? And anybody else who feels strongly as

00:31:50 --> 00:31:52

well. I remember one of our clients came

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in,

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and she is writing well, she's finished writing,

00:31:54 --> 00:31:56

actually. She's writing a book about,

00:31:57 --> 00:31:59

just examining the way the relations between Muslim

00:31:59 --> 00:32:01

men and women have been damaged over the

00:32:01 --> 00:32:03

past few, you know, decades.

00:32:03 --> 00:32:05

And, you know, she wants to to to

00:32:05 --> 00:32:07

to be a part of the solution for

00:32:07 --> 00:32:08

that. So she came and she wrote a

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

book with us.

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And our sisters come because they wanna book

00:32:13 --> 00:32:14

to share their expertise.

00:32:18 --> 00:32:20

So if you figured something out

00:32:20 --> 00:32:22

and you want to share it with others,

00:32:22 --> 00:32:24

this is this this could be one of

00:32:24 --> 00:32:25

the reasons why you're writing a book. Reminds

00:32:25 --> 00:32:27

me of our sister Feroza Osman

00:32:27 --> 00:32:30

who had been working in * education

00:32:30 --> 00:32:32

in Muslim schools and Masajid

00:32:32 --> 00:32:35

and youth groups in in Canada for many

00:32:35 --> 00:32:35

years,

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and she'd noticed that Muslim parents were really

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

struggling with this new society that we live

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

in and were not able to speak to

00:32:42 --> 00:32:45

their children about sexual relationships, etcetera. And she

00:32:45 --> 00:32:47

obviously does that for a living.

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

So she wrote a book so she could

00:32:49 --> 00:32:52

share her expertise on this area, and has

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

done very, very well because it's a very

00:32:54 --> 00:32:54

much needed book.

00:32:55 --> 00:32:56

Then

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some of you want to build your

00:32:59 --> 00:33:01

brand to expand your business and attract new

00:33:01 --> 00:33:01

clients.

00:33:02 --> 00:33:05

Got several sisters in the program right now

00:33:05 --> 00:33:08

who are writing books in their area of

00:33:08 --> 00:33:09

professional expertise,

00:33:10 --> 00:33:11

and they would like

00:33:11 --> 00:33:14

to help others beyond just the book. So

00:33:14 --> 00:33:16

if they have coaching services, if they have

00:33:16 --> 00:33:16

consulting,

00:33:17 --> 00:33:18

if they run workshops,

00:33:19 --> 00:33:20

then this book is a way for them

00:33:20 --> 00:33:23

to serve more people and also bring

00:33:23 --> 00:33:25

people into their

00:33:25 --> 00:33:26

professional

00:33:26 --> 00:33:27

funnel.

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Funnel.

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Establish your authority

00:33:32 --> 00:33:34

credibility. And in fact, one of us at

00:33:34 --> 00:33:36

the moment is writing a book.

00:33:36 --> 00:33:38

She's been through a very,

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

very unique test with her son,

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

that brought her and her husband and her

00:33:43 --> 00:33:46

son sort of into contact with this this

00:33:46 --> 00:33:48

the the justice system, and they had to

00:33:48 --> 00:33:51

kind of battle with the justice system. And

00:33:51 --> 00:33:53

she's been at the forefront of conversations about

00:33:53 --> 00:33:55

new ways of caring for young people with

00:33:55 --> 00:33:56

addiction, etcetera, etcetera.

00:33:57 --> 00:33:59

So because she's already in that space,

00:33:59 --> 00:34:01

she now wants to tell their story, make

00:34:01 --> 00:34:02

it official,

00:34:03 --> 00:34:05

and establish herself as an authority in this

00:34:05 --> 00:34:07

area so that she can go on to

00:34:07 --> 00:34:09

open the door to other opportunities

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

to be invited to speak because when you've

00:34:12 --> 00:34:14

written a book, people start to take you

00:34:14 --> 00:34:17

a lot more seriously. Right? Because now you've

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

kind of put you've raised your

00:34:20 --> 00:34:21

head above the pulpit,

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

and you've put in the time. You've invested

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

the time, the energy, the resources

00:34:27 --> 00:34:28

to actually write a book.

00:34:29 --> 00:34:32

Trust me, it changes the way people see

00:34:32 --> 00:34:35

you, and for good reason. It's not just

00:34:35 --> 00:34:37

a vanity thing. You know, you have decided

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

to show up in a way that most

00:34:39 --> 00:34:40

people don't.

00:34:41 --> 00:34:43

So it does make people take you more

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

seriously and open the door to other experiences.

00:34:45 --> 00:34:45

However,

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

no matter one which of these

00:34:50 --> 00:34:51

resonated with you,

00:34:52 --> 00:34:55

I know that the majority of my clients

00:34:55 --> 00:34:57

and certainly our best clients,

00:34:58 --> 00:35:00

and I suspect that with every one of

00:35:00 --> 00:35:01

you,

00:35:02 --> 00:35:03

that the big why,

00:35:04 --> 00:35:07

the reason that we write, is to create

00:35:07 --> 00:35:08

and leave a legacy.

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

There is a feeling that Allah

00:35:11 --> 00:35:12

has

00:35:12 --> 00:35:14

blessed us with certain things,

00:35:15 --> 00:35:16

put us in certain situations,

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

allowed us to rise or learn

00:35:21 --> 00:35:23

due to certain circumstances,

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

and it's almost like an obligation

00:35:26 --> 00:35:28

to help someone else with that,

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

to

00:35:30 --> 00:35:34

offer what we've learned to others so others

00:35:34 --> 00:35:35

can share

00:35:35 --> 00:35:37

the benefit of what we have have been

00:35:37 --> 00:35:38

through. Right?

00:35:39 --> 00:35:41

So others can benefit from our journey.

00:35:42 --> 00:35:45

And so that becomes a part of our

00:35:45 --> 00:35:46

impact in the world,

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

part of what we leave behind,

00:35:48 --> 00:35:51

and what we call, of course, sadaqa jaria,

00:35:51 --> 00:35:52

which is a continuous

00:35:53 --> 00:35:55

charity, a charity that continues even after you're

00:35:55 --> 00:35:58

gone. These are some of our wonderful ladies

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

who have created legacies with us. You may

00:36:00 --> 00:36:03

be familiar with their faces. That's Amina Uddin

00:36:03 --> 00:36:03

there

00:36:04 --> 00:36:04

who

00:36:05 --> 00:36:08

wrote a memoir of her late father,

00:36:09 --> 00:36:10

and she wrote it primarily

00:36:10 --> 00:36:13

for his grandchildren who would never really know

00:36:13 --> 00:36:14

his story.

00:36:14 --> 00:36:17

And I want to challenge everybody who's here

00:36:18 --> 00:36:19

and just ask

00:36:19 --> 00:36:21

you, how many of you have ever thought

00:36:22 --> 00:36:24

of writing your family story

00:36:25 --> 00:36:28

or even just collecting the quotes? You know,

00:36:28 --> 00:36:30

the things that your father and your mother

00:36:30 --> 00:36:31

always say,

00:36:31 --> 00:36:33

the things that your grandfather and your grandmother

00:36:33 --> 00:36:36

always say, or the stories that they always

00:36:37 --> 00:36:38

tell. How many of you have ever thought

00:36:38 --> 00:36:39

that

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

once that

00:36:44 --> 00:36:46

their stories die with them,

00:36:46 --> 00:36:49

and your children will probably never hear those

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

stories. So there's

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

a now where the children don't know really

00:36:52 --> 00:36:55

where they came from, have no understanding of

00:36:55 --> 00:36:56

their history, their family history.

00:36:57 --> 00:36:59

And I say this because, again, I want

00:36:59 --> 00:36:59

you to

00:37:00 --> 00:37:04

be thinking about this this whole story, message,

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

knowledge, this book. I I want to I

00:37:06 --> 00:37:08

want to open your mind to what that

00:37:08 --> 00:37:10

could look like and what that could mean.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:11

So

00:37:12 --> 00:37:12

that's

00:37:13 --> 00:37:13

the challenge.

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

I wanna ask you now to see if

00:37:16 --> 00:37:16

anybody

00:37:18 --> 00:37:19

decides by

00:37:21 --> 00:37:22

I'm going to parent

00:37:23 --> 00:37:24

interview

00:37:24 --> 00:37:27

and I'm gonna it's a beautiful book, and

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28

it's gift,

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

and everyone in the family is gonna get

00:37:30 --> 00:37:30

one,

00:37:30 --> 00:37:32

and that will be my impact. That will

00:37:32 --> 00:37:34

be my legacy. I wanna see who's gonna

00:37:34 --> 00:37:36

do that. Anyway, that's Sami Noidine over there,

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

and that's sister

00:37:37 --> 00:37:38

Farah

00:37:38 --> 00:37:40

who I mentioned earlier,

00:37:40 --> 00:37:41

who has now

00:37:44 --> 00:37:45

of

00:37:46 --> 00:37:47

women to to

00:37:47 --> 00:37:49

to survive infertility.

00:37:49 --> 00:37:52

And she is probably the first and so

00:37:52 --> 00:37:55

far the only sister who has published a

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

book like this. And so you can imagine

00:37:57 --> 00:37:59

what her book will

00:37:59 --> 00:38:02

mean for all those sisters who had nothing

00:38:02 --> 00:38:03

up until now,

00:38:04 --> 00:38:04

who had

00:38:05 --> 00:38:06

nobody who looked like them talking

00:38:07 --> 00:38:08

about this issue from

00:38:10 --> 00:38:11

this viewpoint. Right?

00:38:11 --> 00:38:13

So big, big legacy there.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

Big, big legacy. And, again,

00:38:16 --> 00:38:18

we go back to this diagram.

00:38:18 --> 00:38:19

And as I

00:38:20 --> 00:38:23

when the messenger and the message of audience

00:38:23 --> 00:38:24

along, that's legacy.

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

So I'm just gonna give you the 2

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

statistics to show you what legacy can look

00:38:28 --> 00:38:31

like in a ways because Tamina Udi now,

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

she is a legacy maker for her family.

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

And, of course, lots of other people have

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

read and loved the book,

00:38:38 --> 00:38:41

but her primary audience was always her family

00:38:41 --> 00:38:43

and the grandchildren, specifically.

00:38:43 --> 00:38:45

And so now the family

00:38:46 --> 00:38:46

has

00:38:47 --> 00:38:48

a piece of history

00:38:48 --> 00:38:49

preserved.

00:38:50 --> 00:38:52

How amazing is that,

00:38:52 --> 00:38:54

And how many of us can say that?

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

I know I can't say that. That

00:38:57 --> 00:38:58

just saying.

00:38:58 --> 00:39:00

So on the one hand, you've got Sameena

00:39:00 --> 00:39:03

Uddin who has created legacy within her own

00:39:03 --> 00:39:03

family,

00:39:04 --> 00:39:07

something that will be passed down down the

00:39:07 --> 00:39:08

generations

00:39:10 --> 00:39:10

after

00:39:11 --> 00:39:11

my

00:39:12 --> 00:39:14

is passed and returned to her lord, the

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

great grandchildren.

00:39:20 --> 00:39:20

Right?

00:39:20 --> 00:39:23

How cool is that? So we need to

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

get with this program, guys, because you know

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

communities, we don't write down.

00:39:27 --> 00:39:29

We came from oral traditions,

00:39:30 --> 00:39:33

and we don't write stuff down. So, anyway,

00:39:33 --> 00:39:35

I'm just saying it. Just like, you know,

00:39:35 --> 00:39:36

planting seeds.

00:39:36 --> 00:39:38

And then on the other hand, you have

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

sister Farah, whose method is probably more

00:39:50 --> 00:39:50

impact

00:39:51 --> 00:39:52

with her message,

00:39:53 --> 00:39:54

and that's her legacy.

00:39:54 --> 00:39:56

And I'm sure that anybody any one of

00:39:56 --> 00:39:59

us can say that whether the beneficiaries

00:40:00 --> 00:40:01

of your message

00:40:02 --> 00:40:04

are your family, your children, and your children's

00:40:04 --> 00:40:05

children,

00:40:05 --> 00:40:06

or

00:40:07 --> 00:40:08

100 and thousands

00:40:08 --> 00:40:09

of women

00:40:10 --> 00:40:11

around the world,

00:40:12 --> 00:40:14

you can say that it's worth it. Right?

00:40:14 --> 00:40:16

Right? I hope so. I'm banking on it.

00:40:17 --> 00:40:18

So

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

this again

00:40:19 --> 00:40:20

is what we want.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

We want the message, the messenger, and the

00:40:23 --> 00:40:23

audience

00:40:24 --> 00:40:25

to line up inshallah.

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

And so my question to you

00:40:29 --> 00:40:31

from this training,

00:40:31 --> 00:40:32

what we shared today,

00:40:33 --> 00:40:34

what resonate

00:40:34 --> 00:40:37

most with you? Let me know in the

00:40:37 --> 00:40:37

comment

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

what resonated the most with you. I want

00:40:40 --> 00:40:41

to know. I'm gonna be reading all the

00:40:41 --> 00:40:44

comments. We wanna see what came up and

00:40:44 --> 00:40:45

whether you picked up what I was putting

00:40:45 --> 00:40:48

down because today's assignment

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

is is a fun one. Alright? Very fun

00:40:50 --> 00:40:52

assignment inshallah. All you need

00:40:53 --> 00:40:56

is make sure that you have recorded that

00:40:56 --> 00:40:56

live

00:40:57 --> 00:40:58

in the group.

00:40:58 --> 00:41:00

Whether it's a video and you post,

00:41:00 --> 00:41:02

or you go live in the group and,

00:41:02 --> 00:41:04

you know, when you create a post, one

00:41:04 --> 00:41:06

of the options is to go live. The

00:41:06 --> 00:41:08

reason I ask you to go live is

00:41:08 --> 00:41:10

because I know you don't want to. I

00:41:10 --> 00:41:12

know you don't want to. I know that

00:41:12 --> 00:41:14

you're scared. I know that you feel self

00:41:14 --> 00:41:17

conscious. I know that you're uncomfortable with it.

00:41:18 --> 00:41:20

Is why I'm asking you to do it.

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Because if I can get you out of

00:41:23 --> 00:41:25

your comfort zone now and get you in

00:41:25 --> 00:41:28

the stretch zone, then I know you're going

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

to get so much more out of these

00:41:30 --> 00:41:33

next well, now for days. Right? You're gonna

00:41:33 --> 00:41:35

get so much more out of these 5

00:41:35 --> 00:41:37

days if you can get out of the

00:41:37 --> 00:41:40

comfort zone now. So the first thing is

00:41:40 --> 00:41:41

to go live in the group.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:45

Put those fears to rest and go live

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

in the group. And the second thing is

00:41:47 --> 00:41:48

we'll be dropping a video

00:41:49 --> 00:41:50

later on today

00:41:50 --> 00:41:50

in

00:41:51 --> 00:41:53

Facebook group. So that video is a guided

00:41:53 --> 00:41:54

visualization,

00:41:55 --> 00:41:57

and your assignment is to go

00:41:57 --> 00:41:58

watch the video,

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

do a visualization,

00:42:00 --> 00:42:02

and comment with

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

well, the the post is there. It will

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

tell you I want to see what you

00:42:06 --> 00:42:07

saw in the visualization,

00:42:08 --> 00:42:11

who was there, and how it felt. I'm

00:42:11 --> 00:42:13

not telling you anything more about the visualization

00:42:13 --> 00:42:15

because you have to watch the video. I

00:42:15 --> 00:42:17

walked you through the entire process in the

00:42:17 --> 00:42:19

video, so not to worry. But,

00:42:20 --> 00:42:21

there are prizes

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

for those of you who do your assignments

00:42:24 --> 00:42:26

and want and and show up, because my

00:42:26 --> 00:42:27

goal for you is that you get your

00:42:27 --> 00:42:28

outcome,

00:42:28 --> 00:42:30

and you will only get your outcome if

00:42:30 --> 00:42:32

you play full out. So that is it

00:42:32 --> 00:42:35

for me. This was a replay of day

00:42:35 --> 00:42:36

1.

00:42:37 --> 00:42:38

I hope that

00:42:39 --> 00:42:41

I hope you enjoyed it, and I pray,

00:42:41 --> 00:42:43

be'in Allah, that Allah

00:42:43 --> 00:42:45

makes this a source of khair for you,

00:42:46 --> 00:42:47

everyone in the challenge.

00:42:47 --> 00:42:49

And every one of you, remember,

00:42:49 --> 00:42:50

we've had,

00:42:50 --> 00:42:53

over 4,000 sisters register for this challenge,

00:42:54 --> 00:42:58

and I pledge to serve 10,000 sisters during

00:42:58 --> 00:43:00

the time that our challenge is open and

00:43:00 --> 00:43:01

that the group is open. And so for

00:43:01 --> 00:43:03

us to be able to do that, all

00:43:03 --> 00:43:06

that is required is for you to invite

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

2 sisters

00:43:07 --> 00:43:10

to join in the Facebook group. That's

00:43:10 --> 00:43:12

it. If you're in the Facebook group right

00:43:12 --> 00:43:14

now, if you benefited from this training, if

00:43:14 --> 00:43:16

you love the community that we have so

00:43:16 --> 00:43:17

far,

00:43:17 --> 00:43:18

invite 2 people.

00:43:19 --> 00:43:22

Tell them, I attended the training today. It

00:43:22 --> 00:43:23

was great. I think you really like it.

00:43:23 --> 00:43:25

Come and do it with me. 2 people.

00:43:25 --> 00:43:27

Every one of you, just to invite just

00:43:27 --> 00:43:28

2 people.

00:43:28 --> 00:43:31

We will have 10,000 sisters in this group.

00:43:31 --> 00:43:32

And for me,

00:43:34 --> 00:43:35

if even half,

00:43:35 --> 00:43:38

if even a third of you get that

00:43:38 --> 00:43:39

breakthrough

00:43:40 --> 00:43:41

and you're able to recognize

00:43:42 --> 00:43:43

those pearls

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

and understand the process of stringing the pearls

00:43:47 --> 00:43:47

and

00:43:48 --> 00:43:51

take the next step to actually creating

00:43:51 --> 00:43:53

that necklace so that you can gift it

00:43:53 --> 00:43:56

into the world. Whether you decide to do

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

it with me and my team or you

00:43:58 --> 00:43:59

do it with someone else,

00:44:00 --> 00:44:01

if you get

00:44:01 --> 00:44:02

that outcome,

00:44:02 --> 00:44:04

my work is done.

00:44:04 --> 00:44:07

I'm your coach for these 5 days.

00:44:08 --> 00:44:10

I'm here to help. I'm here to tay

00:44:10 --> 00:44:12

train. I'm here to support. I'm here to

00:44:12 --> 00:44:15

chew. I'm here to get you that outcome.

00:44:15 --> 00:44:16

I pray

00:44:17 --> 00:44:17

that Allah

00:44:18 --> 00:44:19

gives you your breakthrough,

00:44:20 --> 00:44:23

gives you what you need, and allows you

00:44:23 --> 00:44:25

to move forward upon khair.

00:44:25 --> 00:44:27

And, of course, if you

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

do it with us,

00:44:29 --> 00:44:31

we're here. We're ready to serve you. But

00:44:31 --> 00:44:32

regardless,

00:44:32 --> 00:44:34

the goal is a breakthrough.

00:44:35 --> 00:44:37

I Wait to read all your comments.

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

I can't wait to see all the new

00:44:39 --> 00:44:41

people that you invite to join us, and

00:44:41 --> 00:44:45

let's keep it going in the Facebook group,

00:44:45 --> 00:44:47

and make sure you do your assignment later

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

on. K. I will be checking,

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

and my team and I, we are looking

00:44:51 --> 00:44:53

out for those of you who are showing

00:44:53 --> 00:44:54

up. We have some nice prizes,

00:44:55 --> 00:44:56

So please, you know,

00:44:57 --> 00:44:58

play full out this whole week. And that

00:44:58 --> 00:45:00

is the end of this for me. That's

00:45:00 --> 00:45:02

your sister signing out. I will see you

00:45:02 --> 00:45:03

tomorrow, Insha'Allah.

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