Naima B. Robert – Advice to Muslim Women Struggling Hijab or Niqab WATCH THIS!
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Hey, guys. It is your sister, Naeema B.
Robert here. What is this now?
Oh my word.
Never mind.
Anyway, guys, hope you are having a fantastic
start to your week. I just wanted to
jump on here because a sis asking me,
about my niqab
and, you know, how I continue to wear
it And, you know, she said that she's
been struggling with with wearing her niqab and
a lot of people around her,
removing their niqabs and she's, you know and
I've had this I've had quite a few
messages like this, so I thought I'd jump
on here
just to share,
some insights and hopefully,
you know, some words of advice for those
of you who are struggling with any aspect
of your faith. So this video goes out
to all of you who may be struggling
with a certain aspect of your iman.
So it was triggered by somebody asking about
the niqab,
but you could be struggling with your hijab,
you could be struggling with your salah,
you could be struggling with maintaining your haya,
you could be struggling with a relationship.
You know, there's so many different things that
can test us in this dunya.
So this advice really is for anyone out
there who is struggling with something
that they are doing for the sake of
Allah. So, miss Mila,
the first thing I want to say
is
really as believers,
our ideal state
is that
our acts of worship become a part of
who we are.
Okay?
Meaning that it's not just something I perform,
it's not just something I do
when I'm around people who expect it of
me, or when I'm around people who will
judge me if I don't,
wear it or do it or say it
or whatever it is. This is something that
is a part of who I am. It
is part of my identity.
It is part of how I choose
to show up in the world.
And now that choosing is choosing is an
important word because it has to be a
choice.
It can't be something that is imposed on
you or that you feel pressured to do
or that you feel embarrassed not to do.
Okay. Because that means that that particular thing,
that act of worship
is not part of you.
It is an external thing. It's a performance,
and you are doing it for the sake
of other people. Okay?
And, unfortunately, as we know, there are two
criteria for deeds to be accepted by Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala.
One is that it is
halal. Okay.
It's something that is or has been ordered
by Allah or by his messenger. Okay. So
it's accordance with the sunnah, it's accordance with
the Quran. And the second is that it
is done only for his sake, subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Okay. So if you're doing anything
what is this stuff? Oh my gosh. My
life.
Sorry guys. So if there's anything in your
life that you are doing
for the sake of the people
or for the sake of your husband or
for the sake of your family or for
the sake of your society, any act of
worship that you are doing for those people,
stop right now
and check yourself.
Because the reality is,
some of us may find that our deeds
are completely lost
because we are not sincere
in performing them only for Allah's sake.
It's only Allah's pleasure that we should be
worried about. I'm gonna be straight with you.
It is really at the end of the
day if Allah is pleased with me, what
does it matter about the people?
And if Allah is displeased with me, again,
what does it matter about the people?
The people cannot benefit me nor can they
harm me unless Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala wills.
And I choose to believe that Allah wants
me to win and that Allah is on
my side and Allah is always
putting me in situations and and and is
always working in my favor.
So I will never, insha'Allah,
I will never want
to swap Allah's pleasure for the pleasure of
the people. In sha'Allah, may Allah accept what
we do and forgive us when we
But the point is this, whether it's niqab
or hijab or your hayah or your salah
or any of these things,
It needs to be a part of who
you are and it needs to be something
that is done with sincerity and humility.
If it's not and you know that it's
not, please, please check yourself.
Examine
why you are really doing this thing and
do everything that you can to purify your
intention.
As the last thing we want is for
us to have been living our whole lives
doing something, thinking that we're doing good. And
at the end of the day, it didn't
matter because it wasn't for the right reasons.
So that's the first thing is that thing
that you do, it needs to be part
of who you are. It needs to become
part of your identity. Okay? And the second
thing that I want to say is that
at the end of the
day, you get to choose how you show
up in the world.
It's your choice.
Just because your friends are removing their hijab
or removing their nakab,
you still have a choice as to how
you are gonna show up. You still have
a choice as to how you are going
to worship Allah, how you are going to
present yourself in the world.
And remember that Allah's dunya is vast, that's
the first thing,
And that everything is under his control.
And so a lot of people I feel
a lot of people are, you know, stopping
doing certain Islamic things because they think that
doing those things is going to disadvantage them
in the dunya.
Okay. So if I, you know, if I
wear hijab or if I wear niqab
or if I, you know, I don't go
to parties or I don't go out drinking,
whatever,
then I'm going to be disadvantaged in the
dunya.
Okay?
And this is very, very insidious.
It's understandable but it's also very dangerous because
what we end up doing,
to all intents and purposes is exchanging
our akhirah
for this life.
Sister asked me, what's your position with nakab?
Is it Wajib? I don't believe that it's
Wajib. You can ask a scholar that you
trust, but I believe that it's musta hab.
But it's a choice that I made,
many, many years ago now, alhamdulillahi rabbilalamin. And
I'm grateful to Allah that he guided me
to it. And I'm also grateful to Allah
that he gave me
the opportunity to live a very very full
life with my niqah.
And I
I have
never allowed myself to feel disadvantaged
because of the fact that I wear niqah.
And in fact, people have told me non
Muslims have told me, just how powerful
my
my showing up like this is.
Because it really does challenge people's perceptions
of Muslim women, of women who cover. And
trust me, if Allah is if Allah wills,
I intend to be
make just really taking up space outside my
comfort zone and being in places,
on stages, on platforms with people that have
never ever, ever, ever entertained a woman wearing
a niqab ever. There are so many people
out there who've never even spoken to a
woman who wears niqab.
Okay?
That's gonna change. They've never heard a woman
niqab speaking. That's gonna change.
But that's my choice and I've chosen to
make the niqab a part of my identity
and I praise Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for
making it easy for me and making it
something that is just it's so natural for
me now. So if you are struggling with
your niqab, with your hijab, with your salah,
with whatever whatever it is that you're trying
to establish from your deen,
Firstly,
make it a part of your identity. Make
it a part of who you are. Purify
your intention. Okay? Get really clear on why
you're doing it and recommit to that. And
3rd, remember that whatever is coming your way
is coming your way. And whatever is not
meant for you is not meant for you.
So
don't sweat it. You know, and don't exchange
your akhirah for this dunya. Okay, guys? And
that's really all I want to say. Thank
you so much for all your support and
all these hearts that are flying up here.
I just wanted to come on here to
say that because
I know that, you know, people do feel
under pressure because, hey, you know, things are
are difficult out there. I know it's tough.
The struggle is real. I know that. But
you have to be strong because if you're
not strong,
if you follow the masses
and give in and cave in,
you will never
you will never stand for anything,
you know.
And at the end of the day, we
all have that one life to live. We
have one opportunity in this dunya
to stand,
to take a stand,
to show up as our best selves.
And
that's what we need to do.
And that's what I'm, we're always saying this.
All the sisters that I reference,
you know, the sisters that I I I,
tag in my posts my you know my
friends you know others who are on this
journey with us we're all saying the same
thing you get one chance in this dunya
Make it count.
Not only make it count, make it count
for yourself in terms of how you grow
and blossom and evolve while you're here.
Make it count in what you put forward
for the akhirah. Make it count in the
legacy that you leave behind you. Make it
count,
you know.
Don't be a chump.
Okay, guys. I'm gonna leave you with that.
Please do,
I think I'll be able to get this
onto IGTV because it's short enough. So hopefully,
it will be there. You could tag your
friends.
I love you all for the sake of
Allah. See you on the next video. Hopefully,
my nakab will be
camera worthy by then. Alright. Salaam Alaikum.