Naima B. Robert – Advice for Muslim Women Writers Leaving a Legacy your Book Lauren Booth

Naima B. Robert
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In this conversation, speakers discuss the importance of finding out what people enjoyed with the summer and creating a legacy to be passed down. They also emphasize the importance of creating a better story for the writing process and finding a way to access great works of literature. The speakers emphasize the need for respect and education in the writing industry, as well as learning from the genre and reading it in creative ways. They recommend books like In Search of a Holy Land and In Search of a Holy Land as ways to access great works of literature and elevate writing techniques.
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Bismillah.

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Let's go, guys.

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Sister Lauren is here.

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I'm gonna promote her to panelist.

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Sha Allah so she can come on in

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here

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and share

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her talk with us.

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Salaam alaikum everyone welcome those of you who

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are in youtube right now if you're watching

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this live welcome

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please please accept our apologies for the delay

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We had some miscommunication,

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so we were not able to yep. We

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weren't able to start

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Good luck.

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How are you?

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What a lovely surprise. Your mic is not.

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I can't hear you, but that's because my

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voice is off. Can't hear me?

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My bad.

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Can you hear me now?

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Thank you so

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much for joining us.

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No. No. You're good. You're good.

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It's

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I see. Yes.

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I'm completely

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alright. I will introduce you and then, over

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to you. I'll come off camera.

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Give me give me 30 seconds. I just

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need to find my notes.

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Okay. 30 seconds, and I need to find

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my Sure. If I come off camera then,

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inshallah, and,

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Okay, Johnny. Yeah. We'll do here. No worries.

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Out to these folks out here for a

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second.

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Guys,

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we've been we're on day 3, which is

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crazy.

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We're on day 3, and we have one

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more day tomorrow.

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So I'm really keen to hear from you

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what you've

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enjoyed with the summer. Which talks have you

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attend? Have you been listening to the other

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talks that have happened, or is this your

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first one?

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And, what's that for you? You know, what

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have you taken from these 3 days so

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far,

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meeting all these other sisters who, masha'Allah, have

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been writing, have been, you know, making their

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dream come true. Let me know in the

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chat how that's impacted you if in any

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way.

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I know for me, it's always very inspiring

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to see other women who are, you know,

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like,

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doing things that I would like to be

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doing. It's very inspiring. It's motivating.

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And I guess it just makes you see

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that, you know, it is possible. Right?

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More

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more is possible than we think.

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So that's always, I think, a good takeaway

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to get from any endeavor, inshallah, from any

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exposure to what people are doing. So if

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that is what you got out

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these 3 days so far, I'm super grateful,

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and I'm really, really proud of all the

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sisters who came and shared their stories and

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shared them because for many of them, it

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was their first. And, I think they did

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rather well. So,

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Lauren, if you're ready, I am going to

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introduce you and then I'm going to hand

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you the mic. In sha Allah. So just

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give me the thumbs up and then I'll

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introduce you to our to our lovely audience

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insha'Allah

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oh

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thumbs

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up. So alright. Inshallah. Let's go. Right.

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Welcome,

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everyone, to this very, very special session in

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the Muslim Writers Summit 2022.

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Alhamdulillah,

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we are blessed

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to have, you know, somebody who is a

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sister, who is a friend, who is a

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colleague, a partner in crime,

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a partner in arms, mashallah,

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very very dear to me, Sister Lauren Booth.

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Now Sister Lauren Booth has been motivating women

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to explore their authentic voice

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for more than 10 years.

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As an internationally

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recognized motivational speaker, broadcaster, and presenter,

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Lauren draws upon skills from a 20 year

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career

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on stage and on TV to touch lives

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across the world. From keynotes in

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London, Texas and Toronto

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to speaking tours of South Africa, Pakistan and

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Malaysia, her ability to deliver

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a straight to the heart call to action

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sets her apart as a headline speaker, event

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host, and workshop trainer.

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She's spoken at conferences alongside leading lights, including

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Dalia Mujahid,

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Imamzadeh Sharqif, Khaled Siddiqui, I'm reading the list,

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Sheikh Omar Suleiman and many more.

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She is the author of the groundbreaking memoir,

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Finding Peace in the Holy Land about accepting

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Islam in the modern western context.

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In 2019,

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those of you who follow her you will

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know it was adapted

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into Accidentally Muslim, a one woman show she

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performed

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30 times at the 2019

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Edinburgh Fringe

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Festival to brilliant reviews.

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And that memoir is now available as a

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gorgeous

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audio book. Masha'Allah. Sister Lauren Booth, welcome to

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the Muslim writers summit 2022.

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And Bismillah, the stage is yours. Insha'Allah.

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Thanks so much, Sister Naima, for again putting

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on something so worthwhile,

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important and useful

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for our sisters and,

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you know, fellow travelers on the path of

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creativity. I really appreciate you, sis. Jazakam Lecha.

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Thanks for this invitation.

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And to all of you out there, may

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Allah bless you.

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And, thank you so much for inviting me.

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My topic this evening, I'm going to talk

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for about 10 minutes, and then I'll maybe

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a little bit longer,

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see how it goes, and then do a

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q and a because, I know sister Naima

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asks some brilliant questions and really draws people

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out. So I I think this is gonna

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be a a very lively way to do

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things, Inshallah.

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So the topic I'm talking about this evening

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is

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leaving a

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legacy with your book. So I thought, first

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of all,

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we'd look at,

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how do you leave a legacy? What does

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that actually mean?

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Well, we leave a legacy by doing things

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that make other people's lives better. Simple. Right?

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There are many ways to make other people's

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lives better, of course. And a book is

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one of the best ways to do that

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because, well, simply put, it lives on beyond

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us. It lives on further and can be

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reprinted and talked about and

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spoken about and becomes the stuff of legend

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or at least talked about in our own

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families.

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Even that in its own way is a

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legacy.

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Now, historically,

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the word legacy is used to describe a

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financial

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bequest. So something was

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left to people in a will, an amount

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of money, or property. These are under things

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that are understood

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in the islamic context as well, of course,

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spoken about in holy Quran.

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But this very

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narrow interpretation

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has gradually given way to a much broader

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definition, and that's where, inshallah, you and I

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come in.

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And this includes anything that is shared

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or received from someone who went before. So

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a legacy is simply something that is passed

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on, passed down. The baton is being passed.

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That's an analogy

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I'm gonna use a lot because I just

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love it. Passing on the baton.

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So a legacy

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is something,

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anything,

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that a person leaves behind

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that they can be remembered by. So I

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want this to really embed itself in Charlotte

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in our hearts when we're doing our writing

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or our creative works.

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What is what are people taking away from

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this, and what is the point of this

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being remembered?

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Because our gifts to the generations

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that follow us

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are about

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values. They're not about our valuables.

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And, again, you know, it's just fascinating to

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think that this is very much in the

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Islamic

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context.

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SubhanAllah, when the feet walk away

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from the grave,

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it isn't going to be the divvying up

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of whatever mementos

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of dunya we leave behind.

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It is the good works that are gonna

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be the sadaqa jariyah.

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So when we're talking about legacy

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and you're writing your book, the question is,

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can we inspire others to see something

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to its end, to its fruition?

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What do we have, what can we do

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that will outlast our time on earth by

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pleasing a light in the surface of, 1st,

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his message,

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or, b, service to his creation. Now that's

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a really wide remit.

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We don't all have to be, or have

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the knowledge, or the, the, the calling to

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be dayir,

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dayi,

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but we have knowledge in certain areas that

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can be useful,

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inshallah.

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It basically means putting a stamp on the

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future and making a contribution to future

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generations.

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Now in non spiritual terms,

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I guess when I was at drama school,

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I wanted my legacy to be

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in film.

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That incredible moment when you are watching somebody

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in a movie and you think they no.

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They're not alive anymore.

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You know, Sidney Poitier

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died recently

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and watching one of his films is incredible

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because you think he's physically no longer in

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this world, in this state,

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but

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his lexicon of work

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still exists to be appreciated.

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So the other thing, I guess, we do

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is we can get a bit self obsessed

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in that way. At drama

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school, I went to show off school. I

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didn't go to,

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university.

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I went to

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the show off school, which is drama school.

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It's Russell Brand calls it that. And I

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think that's absolutely brilliant.

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That leads us sometimes to become a bit

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maudlin and self obsessed.

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The wrong side of legacy, the imagining of

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people crying by our grave. I knew she

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was good, really. I fully I'd told her

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at the time.

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That's not the legacy we're talking about. Because

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Islamically

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and as Muslims,

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as Muslim creatives with the gifts that Allah

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has given us,

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Our graves

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can be unmarked, sisters.

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In fact,

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truly, our graves should be unmarked.

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One of my grandmother's

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favorite,

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pieces of poetry was, she said she wanted

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it on her grave, actually. I wonder if

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we did that.

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Here lies one

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whose name was writ in water.

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Imagine

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you carve something out in the sand. Here

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is the name, Lauren Booth. Here is your

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name. And the sands of time, the waves

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of time come and wash it away.

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So it's not our name that's important. It's

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the promotion of goodness

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and the positive change. These

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are what became my interest. And, Inshallah,

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they'll be your legacy too.

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So the first question when you're creating your

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book with a legacy in mind is the

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why.

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This is the consideration when writing anything about

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our own experience.

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A first person description of an event or

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a period of life or using our narrative

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as the base of fiction is the why.

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So I've written my first book is an

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autobiography.

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Actually, it's a memoir.

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And I had to ask myself, why am

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I writing this memoir?

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I first wrote it when I was 20

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years old. That's when I started to do

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a draft.

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And it was

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really

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score settling,

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self pity.

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There was a lot of, do you remember

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in the 80s 90s,

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pity lit it was called? There was a

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whole deluge of really, really sad experiences of

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people who'd been had these traumatic childhoods and

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turned them into books. And they were kind

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of,

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you know, lusted after at the time, but

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really it was misery lit. It was called

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misery lit. It was a whole genre.

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And so

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what I originally wrote was about settling scores.

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Dealing with things that at that moment I

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didn't have the

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spiritual or the emotional capacity to deal with

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prophecy

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properly.

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It was a pretty painful read when I

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found the draft years later.

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But instead of billing it completely,

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I felt that there was a nub of

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a story there.

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That there was some good writing,

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but there was no why.

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There was no reason beyond myself.

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And to any of you watching this, if

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you're considering

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writing about your own experience,

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What I

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enjoyed doing

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was

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writing myself out

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of the narrative.

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It was a book

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about me.

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It's a book about my experiences.

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But it was from a much wider perspective.

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Which brings me on to the difference between

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an autobiography and a memoir.

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I'm sure Neymar will have some chat going

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on somewhere, or perhaps there's some comments underneath

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this. So here's a question I like to

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ask when I do,

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talking workshops

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or writing workshops? What's the difference between an

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autobiography and a memoir? It's okay if you

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don't know. I started writing my book and

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I didn't know,

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but I found out. I figured out that

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I was writing a memoir.

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Now here's the difference.

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An autobiography

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is, number 1,

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usually by someone super famous.

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Someone who is so well known around the

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world that they only have one name.

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Let's think. Who lives with one name?

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Ronaldo?

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Madonna?

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Who else? Beckham?

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Yeah?

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Okay. We get the idea. Super famous people.

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They only need one name. They can put

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it. It's an autobiography.

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And then people just want a chronological

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view of events of their lives.

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Born, did a bit of football, became a

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football star, then became a model, married someone

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else famous, had kids, da da da, a

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few dramas along the way,

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autobiography.

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Oh, but a memoir.

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Memoir is something really interesting.

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Because a memoir

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are the events of somebody's life,

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but with a purpose, with a theme.

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Yeah?

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The theme is bigger than the story of

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the person.

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That's the difference between an autobiography

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and a memoir.

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Getting out of the way of the real

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story and the bigger

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message is a really fun way

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to write a book about

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your experiences.

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Many authors mention this saying something like,

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I just want my book to help people.

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But the only problem is that when pressed,

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they often haven't thought about how their book

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will help.

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It's not that it can't. It's just maybe

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we don't know specifically how.

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So the why of the book, why am

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I writing it? And the how of the

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book, how will it help?

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These are important elements

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for writing

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a legacy book, Insha'Allah.

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Now here are some common ways books can

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serve readers which I looked at.

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The first one is, you're solving a problem.

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This is usually the big one and it

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can go across a range of benefits. But

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the point is that every reader is buying

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a book because they anticipate it's gonna get

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something that they want. They're going to get

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something they want out of it. Does that

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make sense?

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So what is the thing that your book

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will help them get?

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The second

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main

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genre,

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main

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topic in that area

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for a legacy book is that you're writing

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to

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give people knowledge, wisdom, or information

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on a specialized subject

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that you know something about.

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So sometimes the reader wants to deep dive

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into an area.

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Sometimes

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this is tied with solving a problem, but

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not always. So a reader will want to

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learn for many different reasons.

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Can you give them that?

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And then 3rd,

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inspire, motivate, and empower.

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This is about how the readers will feel

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coming out of your book. You want to

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help them change their mindset or their emotional

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state. You're going to empower them. You're going

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to take them forward in some way on

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their journey. And then finally, offering a new

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perspective. This is not as common as the

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the other ones above,

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but they're still very frequent. Many readers are

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looking just for an entirely new way to

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to do things.

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Now the 4 are not mutually exclusive, and

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when I

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decided finally to revisit

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the story of how I came to Islam

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and my travels to Palestine and the Muslim

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world,

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I sought to fulfill

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3 of the 4 by the grace of

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Allah.

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I wanted to give people knowledge

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and information

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about the realities of the situation for the

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people of Palestine.

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I wanted to

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motivate and empower,

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to remind people that

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we are able to

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be active,

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even as mothers.

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As

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people locked into our own way of life,

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we don't have to be locked out of

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helping others. And I definitely wanted to give

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non Muslims a new perspective

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on the realities

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of,

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meeting Muslim people, life in Muslim lands.

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I hope I succeeded, Insha'Allah. I believe I

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did.

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I wrote in search of a holy man,

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I wrote in search of a holy land.

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I wrote it who for? That's something else

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we need to consider for a legacy book,

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for any book, actually.

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Who is it for? Who's your demographic?

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Who's your readership? This is

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something that, can be very

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time consuming to work out, but it's absolutely

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vital. If you say you're writing for everyone,

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you're writing for nobody, and that is the

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truth.

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I wrote in search for holy land. I

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wrote it, firstly, for myself at 25.

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What I didn't know about the world. What

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I didn't know about God.

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What I didn't know about,

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the condition

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of women in different places in the world.

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And I also wrote it for non Muslims

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who were dubious about women in hijab,

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who would, unbeknownst to them,

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within a good story,

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get schooled in the Muslim and Palestinian reality.

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That was really something exciting. And I got

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a lot of feedback from people who came

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to see the play

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of all different faiths

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saying that,

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wow.

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We were amused. It was fun. We enjoyed

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it. But I'd never thought of it like

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that.

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If you get any readers who come to

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you after

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interacting with your work and say, I'd never

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thought of it like that,

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bingo.

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Bit of a legacy right there.

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That's the transformation

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that I was looking for. And so this

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is how you as an author and your

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books can help people.

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You can give them information to transform themselves

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and the world around them.

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And we do this all by Allah's grace,

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of course. And to him, we turn in

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humility

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and gratitude because all outcomes

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are with him.

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A lot of people do important work but

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not a lot of people write books about

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it. Writing a book means that other people

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will learn from you and improve on the

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foundations

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you have provided.

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You will have made the world better, and

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that will be a great blessing

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pleasing Allah to Allah. And that

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is a legacy.

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Yay.

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Sis. Thank you so much

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for that

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lovely talk. I

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super, super enjoyed that, and I appreciated it

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because

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you have been through the journey that so

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many of our authors, you know, are going

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through twice.

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And, I wanna pick up on a few

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things that you mentioned.

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You brought there.

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A lot of the things that I, you

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know, I love to tell others you've just

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reinforced them and given them, hopefully

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you'd

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understand

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a bit more of a deepening and the

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higher purpose of them

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telling their story.

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Now

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you mentioned something that I find very, very

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interesting, which was that you wrote your memoir

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in your twenties,

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and it was,

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you know, as you say,

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it was full of

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These we can call them I guess of

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negative emotions, right? It was you know point

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scoring it was you know, you had some

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you know, you had Stuff you needed to

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work through right you had stuff you need

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to work through there was self pity there

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There was you know frustration there. There was

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probably a lot of anger there if I

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if I'm if I if I'm getting the

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right gist here

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And it sounds to me like that was

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your cathartic draft.

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That's what we call it in our programme.

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Sometimes we're carrying stuff

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that is part of our journey,

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part of who we have become

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but it's ugly you know. It's it's it's

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it's bitterness. It's anger. It's it's disappointment.

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It's, like you said, you know, point scoring,

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maybe even just hubris. Right?

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But it's stuff that needs to come out.

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Right.

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In order for you to get the clarity

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to then be able to write something that's

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actually presentable to the world.

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And a lot of a lot of sisters

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want to tell their stories.

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It's interesting to me and I I love

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the way that you said that, you know,

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you've done you know, every a lot of

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people do good work, but very few people

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write books about it. That's a huge thing

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for me because I believe people who have

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done good work are the ones who should

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write a book. Right?

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But many people who many especially sisters who

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come and they say I want to write

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a a you know, tell my story.

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It's usually because they've been through something difficult

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and they've overcome it and they want to

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share their journey I guess of triumph and

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inspiration and hope with you know, with with

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other women, other sisters with the world.

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Along the way, there is often a need

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for catharsis

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because most sisters, most women I speak to

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have not

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ever told the full story to anyone.

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They've not

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told you know there's this stuff that's happened

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to them that they have not told family

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members that they've not told their spouse

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that they've never articulated

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you know what I

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mean and and and a lot of that

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stuff they're still carrying they haven't had therapy

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a lot of the time they haven't had

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counselling a lot of the time so there

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is often a need for some bloodletting

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right so when you wrote your first draft

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of what you thought was your memoir, were

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you aware that you needed to work through

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some issues,

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or was it you thought that you were

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writing the real thing? Because that happens too.

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Well,

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I was a performer at the time, so

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I was an actor. And that kind of

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does give you a third eye, but it

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doesn't it doesn't necessarily mean you make a

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good judgment. Right?

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You only have to see what Hollywood is

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like to know that actors are appalling judges

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of

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of technical and business life most of the

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time.

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So, I did feel that I was

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venting.

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I did feel that there was there was

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some good characters in there. But what I

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realized after I got about

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6,

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about 6 chapters in

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was that

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it was

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it was very much from a child's perspective

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a wounded child or a wounded person's perspective.

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Mhmm. And that that

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So as a performer, I looked at it

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and I went if I'm reading this out

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loud, and this is a very important thing

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to do, to read it out loud,

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to hear the sounds

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of the sentences

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that it, I wasn't

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pleased with the writing. I wasn't pleased with

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the creativity.

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I was, I was hearing a whine

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and and honestly

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nobody wants to read a wine. It's it's

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you wouldn't.

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Okay?

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So, you know,

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dynamic experiences can come from pain. There's no

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doubt about it. Most music is made,

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from pain. There was a famous group I

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used to know called Spiritualised and,

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you know, the poor guy was just going

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through breakups and drug addiction and I remember

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an actor saying to me when we were

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watching them live at the Albert Hall, we're

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literally watching someone in pain. Isn't it beautiful?

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And it's very, very strange.

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But he was making

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beautiful art that was that was incredible music

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that I was listening to at that time.

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Don't listen to music now. No fatwas.

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So the point No fatwas. Your hashtag no

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fatwas. Right? But the the point here is,

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how are you going to develop that? I

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I'm glad I didn't bin it. Don't bin

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it. Yeah. Okay? Don't hate it so much

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that you bin it because all of that

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is really, really good information, and I came

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back to

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it 25 years later. Wow.

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I think that you have to take the

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prize then for this year's Muslim Writers Summit

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because,

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the longest we've had so far

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for any of our speakers

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from the day they started writing to the

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day they published

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was 8 years for Khoso, who was in

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our panel yesterday.

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So she had 8 years. She was the

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longest on the panel, but you are was

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it 20 years?

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20 years. Yeah. It would have been 20

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years. And it's and it was rumbling around

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and taking shape. And, you know, I mean

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and also why why would a 20 year

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old think they'd had an interesting enough life?

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I mean, you have you have to think.

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Yeah? You have to really be able to

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to to put your experiences into perspective.

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If you've had if if it's if it's

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a very

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tough emotional

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year,

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let's say it's a very compacted time,

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How is that going to stretch out? How

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is it going to be deep enough?

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How are there going to be enough

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moments and characters

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and people other than ourselves

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to to get interested in? Yeah. Because, you

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know, you'd have to be some dynamic character

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for someone to want to hear about us

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for 400 pages.

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For sure. For sure. And I think

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just as you said there, you know, a

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year in a life can make an amazing

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memoir but only if you're writing in hindsight

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only if you have you had a chance

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to get some distance from it I want

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to say this to everybody who's listening who's

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I say this to to my clients you

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know when it comes to the book that

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you want to publish because we have ladies

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with us who write for healing

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with no intention of publishing

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and ones who come in wanting to publish

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and some of the ones who come in

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expecting and wanting to publish

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find that they actually

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need to write

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appeal first

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in order for them to get that sense

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of distance from the story to decide what

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they want to publish

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but what we say to them is that

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the book that you put out into the

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world should be written from your scars not

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from your wounds

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So if you are writing from your wounds,

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what what is a wound? A wound is

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still

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it's still active right? It still can be

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you know can can be opened up again.

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It's you know it's bleed it's * it's

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pussy it hurts.

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Right? It's raw.

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Right? Now

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in your pre cathartic draft, if you're writing

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from your wounds and you're writing from that

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place of honesty and vulnerability and it's raw,

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you may have some really good writing in

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there. You may get some really you may

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you may get some really good pieces of

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of honest, you know, kind of gut wrenching

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writing, which is wonderful,

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but no one wants a whole book full

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of raw gut wrenching you know kind of

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venting of your pain working through your issue

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so a lot of the time what our

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clients end up doing is they do the

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cathartic draft they get it out of their

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system

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get a bit of distance and then they're

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able to go back in and take portions

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and use portions of it which is why

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I loved your advice of not throwing it

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away because you may still be able to

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use that but writing from a place of

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hindsight

00:29:06 --> 00:29:07

from a place of a little bit of

00:29:07 --> 00:29:08

distance

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and like you said having some wisdom, having

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gained something from the experience

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because if you've been through a painful situation

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but you haven't learned anything

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you don t move into other world. You

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know what I m saying? That s my

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opinion because the fact that you ve been

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through pain

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we've all been through pain. You know what

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I mean? The reason we share those stories

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because the pain has given us something in

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return,

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something that can actually be of use to

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other people. I don't know. Do you think

00:29:40 --> 00:29:41

that that that there is, like, a criteria

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for things that you should share

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and can share or, you know, and things

00:29:46 --> 00:29:47

you should keep private? Or do you think

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everything should be shared, like, you know, there

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isn't a different I liked what you said

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about your why. That that's what made me

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think about that. Mhmm. So there's 2 things

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here. I think I think you've put your

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finger on something brilliant, the cathartic

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historic.

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The cathartic

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historic.

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It's it's now you're you're now the other

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side of the experience and you've got an

00:30:07 --> 00:30:09

overview of it. And and what will help

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is to read, read, read.

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What I started to do was to, 20

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years later on, go, you know what? I

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know there's a good story in there and

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now there's enough real experiences

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and I and I've got these other tales

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coming through.

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But I don't really

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understand

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how a memoir would work. So I read

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other people's memoirs.

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I read things in the same field.

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Yes. And especially

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if you're going to be a writer,

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we have to have some respect for this.

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We must. We must have some, you know,

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respect for ourselves

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not to put things that are unfinished out

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there

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or uncrafted.

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And we must have some respect for for

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for the creative field that we want to

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enter in and some respect for other people's

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time. If we are just, if I'd have

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been sending out

00:31:01 --> 00:31:02

that cathartic,

00:31:04 --> 00:31:05

but not historic

00:31:05 --> 00:31:06

wound,

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

you know, I've just wasted people's time and

00:31:08 --> 00:31:11

I frankly embarrassed myself with too much information.

00:31:12 --> 00:31:14

Yeah. And often here's the thing as well,

00:31:15 --> 00:31:16

if you're writing about a situation,

00:31:18 --> 00:31:20

who are you implicating? This really helped me.

00:31:20 --> 00:31:21

Coming

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I don't think I could have done

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I wouldn't have done as good a job

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if it weren't

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for, coming to Islam, alhamdulillah,

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because Yeah. You know, you have certain criteria.

00:31:32 --> 00:31:34

Don't cause any harm.

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You know?

00:31:36 --> 00:31:38

Don't put other people in harm's way.

00:31:40 --> 00:31:42

Educate and help. Don't backbite.

00:31:43 --> 00:31:45

Mhmm. You know, don't backbite.

00:31:46 --> 00:31:48

You know, I took out great chunks because

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I just thought, I'm just I'm back I'm

00:31:51 --> 00:31:53

not this is not nice stuff. Yeah. Where's

00:31:53 --> 00:31:55

the and where is the good stuff?

00:31:55 --> 00:31:59

Yeah. So I think read, read, read. Get

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get you know, look at things in your

00:32:01 --> 00:32:04

genre. I read Muhammad Assad's Road to Mecca.

00:32:04 --> 00:32:06

I was just about to mention that, SubhanAllah.

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

You too. And you know what? And I

00:32:09 --> 00:32:10

took from it.

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

Like, he starts

00:32:12 --> 00:32:14

at in in,

00:32:15 --> 00:32:16

in the middle and then goes back and

00:32:16 --> 00:32:19

then comes forward and he jumps about. And

00:32:19 --> 00:32:21

Yeah. And at first, it's a bit disorientating.

00:32:21 --> 00:32:23

But when you get into the rhythm of

00:32:23 --> 00:32:25

it, you're like, wow. It's the camel. It's

00:32:25 --> 00:32:28

the camel. It's the dramaturities that he mentions,

00:32:28 --> 00:32:31

yes, in every the beginning of the captions.

00:32:31 --> 00:32:33

Yeah. I love it. It's that so

00:32:34 --> 00:32:35

everyone is watching,

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especially those of you who are either clients

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

of mine writing your memoir or who are

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

thinking of writing a memoir,

00:32:42 --> 00:32:43

please do

00:32:43 --> 00:32:44

get,

00:32:45 --> 00:32:47

sister Lauren's book. Okay? It has a new

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

title now, Lauren. What's the new title? It's

00:32:49 --> 00:32:52

called In Search of a Holy Land.

00:32:52 --> 00:32:55

Because I went searching for the holy land

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

of my heart, that truth, and I was

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taken to the holy land of Palestine and

00:33:00 --> 00:33:01

to the holy land,

00:33:02 --> 00:33:04

by the Kaaba as well. And so it's

00:33:04 --> 00:33:07

those 3 holy lands all in 1 on

00:33:07 --> 00:33:10

a real spiritual journey. And you can find

00:33:10 --> 00:33:11

it on Amazon, on Goodreads.

00:33:12 --> 00:33:13

I really recommend,

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

if you don't have time to read right

00:33:15 --> 00:33:17

now, listen to the audio book which I've

00:33:17 --> 00:33:19

recorded myself, and it's really good fun if

00:33:19 --> 00:33:21

you can listen to it with the family.

00:33:21 --> 00:33:22

Yeah. And, yeah.

00:33:23 --> 00:33:25

I I just wanted to just reiterate because

00:33:26 --> 00:33:27

why I'm saying it's not just because she's

00:33:27 --> 00:33:29

a guest here that I'm telling you to

00:33:29 --> 00:33:29

read her book,

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

especially for, you know, those of you who

00:33:32 --> 00:33:34

are interested in writing a memoir and you're

00:33:34 --> 00:33:36

just not sure how a memoir works.

00:33:37 --> 00:33:38

Sister Lauren you can cover your ears if

00:33:38 --> 00:33:39

you like but

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

she can really write you know like like

00:33:43 --> 00:33:43

really

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

Sister Lauren's writing,

00:33:47 --> 00:33:48

her storytelling

00:33:49 --> 00:33:49

skills

00:33:50 --> 00:33:51

are top notch.

00:33:51 --> 00:33:53

So, you know, we have a list, and

00:33:53 --> 00:33:56

we're creating a list actually of memoirs that

00:33:56 --> 00:33:58

our clients can kind of dip into to

00:33:58 --> 00:34:00

get a feel for what is out there.

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

Sister Lawrence is definitely one of them. I

00:34:02 --> 00:34:04

think Muhammad Asad as well from my sister's

00:34:04 --> 00:34:06

lips is also a memoir so if you're

00:34:06 --> 00:34:07

not sure of the genre

00:34:08 --> 00:34:09

that's another one and there are a few

00:34:09 --> 00:34:10

others that we recommend

00:34:10 --> 00:34:13

But definitely, Lauren, your one is, is in

00:34:14 --> 00:34:16

terms especially the story itself is interesting. Of

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

course, it's fantastic.

00:34:18 --> 00:34:19

So many rollicking tales in there.

00:34:20 --> 00:34:23

But specifically your your writing voice and your

00:34:23 --> 00:34:25

storytelling style

00:34:25 --> 00:34:28

I would love more sisters to just absorb

00:34:28 --> 00:34:30

that because you know this is a writing

00:34:30 --> 00:34:32

conference so the right summit so I want

00:34:32 --> 00:34:36

to reiterate what sister Lawrence said which is

00:34:36 --> 00:34:36

that

00:34:37 --> 00:34:37

your writing

00:34:39 --> 00:34:42

oh, I've put my teacher's garb on now.

00:34:43 --> 00:34:43

Your writing

00:34:44 --> 00:34:46

cannot transcend your reading.

00:34:47 --> 00:34:48

Your

00:34:48 --> 00:34:51

your level of writing your writing voice will

00:34:51 --> 00:34:52

not so

00:34:55 --> 00:34:57

you'll find that people who typically I remember

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

when I was, you know, I had my

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

baby girl, Miriam and I was you know

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

in my, what's it called me first whatever

00:35:04 --> 00:35:05

and I had the whole collection of Jane

00:35:05 --> 00:35:06

Austen's novels

00:35:06 --> 00:35:08

and I just read them all in one

00:35:08 --> 00:35:09

and

00:35:10 --> 00:35:11

I started writing emails

00:35:12 --> 00:35:14

how they speak in Jane Austen's novels, you

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

know. Yeah. I started

00:35:16 --> 00:35:17

You read. Words, the vocabulary.

00:35:18 --> 00:35:22

Right? The cadence changes. Yeah. Your syntax changes.

00:35:22 --> 00:35:22

And

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

while lucky, I know even to today

00:35:27 --> 00:35:29

some of the books I've had published out

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

there, I recognize

00:35:31 --> 00:35:35

where I got that ideology from. I recognize

00:35:35 --> 00:35:36

and I remember

00:35:39 --> 00:35:42

from books from childhood or magazines that I

00:35:42 --> 00:35:44

used to go into was, you know, even

00:35:44 --> 00:35:45

though in the time in the moment when

00:35:45 --> 00:35:47

I was writing it, I didn't actively copy

00:35:47 --> 00:35:49

anything When I read it back after it

00:35:49 --> 00:35:50

was published, I was like, hold on a

00:35:50 --> 00:35:52

minute. This sounds familiar. This refrain is familiar.

00:35:53 --> 00:35:54

And I realized, oh,

00:35:54 --> 00:35:55

it's from that book that I used to

00:35:55 --> 00:35:58

read to the children. These things impact you,

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

you know, and it's almost like you are

00:36:00 --> 00:36:02

you're filling your mind with

00:36:03 --> 00:36:03

tools,

00:36:04 --> 00:36:05

images,

00:36:06 --> 00:36:09

you know, words, descriptions, adjectives, verbs,

00:36:10 --> 00:36:10

characters,

00:36:11 --> 00:36:13

descriptions, settings, you know, ways to Let let

00:36:13 --> 00:36:15

let let me jump in here.

00:36:15 --> 00:36:17

Please do. Yeah. Let me let me jump

00:36:17 --> 00:36:19

in here, Habibati, because I I'd like to

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

say this. If you're going to write a

00:36:22 --> 00:36:23

movie script and you've never been to the

00:36:23 --> 00:36:26

cinema and you've never watched a film, would

00:36:26 --> 00:36:28

that make any sense? There are too,

00:36:29 --> 00:36:29

many,

00:36:31 --> 00:36:33

people wanting to be authors who say I

00:36:33 --> 00:36:34

don't like reading.

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

People will not like reading what you write

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

in that case.

00:36:38 --> 00:36:40

Now it doesn't mean that there's no chance

00:36:40 --> 00:36:42

for you, but it does mean that you're

00:36:42 --> 00:36:44

gonna need to find a way of accessing

00:36:44 --> 00:36:46

great works of literature. And if you're an

00:36:46 --> 00:36:49

oral person, if you really find that difficult,

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

if you're gonna get someone to help you

00:36:50 --> 00:36:53

write, that can still work. But you must

00:36:53 --> 00:36:56

start listening to the spoken word. You must

00:36:56 --> 00:36:56

start listening

00:36:57 --> 00:36:59

in a creative way. You must start using

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

that time, and you must start taking those

00:37:01 --> 00:37:04

tips because we basically stand on the shoulders

00:37:04 --> 00:37:04

of giants.

00:37:06 --> 00:37:08

You know, from from Mohammed Assad,

00:37:08 --> 00:37:10

I took the start of my book. I

00:37:10 --> 00:37:12

read his book again recently and I went,

00:37:12 --> 00:37:13

oh my God.

00:37:14 --> 00:37:17

That's literally what I wrote. I started my

00:37:17 --> 00:37:18

book in Iran

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

when I wake up in a mosque.

00:37:20 --> 00:37:22

And it's at the end, and then I

00:37:22 --> 00:37:25

go back to to, you know, North London

00:37:25 --> 00:37:26

in 1970.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

And, you know, it's like, you know, my

00:37:29 --> 00:37:31

my my daughter said, that's really disorientating. And

00:37:31 --> 00:37:33

I said, no. It's a technique.

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

It's a brilliant technique. It works in movies.

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

It works in plays, and it works in

00:37:37 --> 00:37:39

books. But if I hadn't been reading around,

00:37:40 --> 00:37:41

I'd have been so lost in my own

00:37:41 --> 00:37:43

story. I wouldn't have had those techniques. So

00:37:43 --> 00:37:45

we all need to learn on this journey.

00:37:45 --> 00:37:48

Yes. Yeah. 100%. I love that. And really

00:37:48 --> 00:37:48

what it's about,

00:37:49 --> 00:37:51

you know, for everyone listening, it's really about

00:37:51 --> 00:37:51

elevating

00:37:52 --> 00:37:53

your writing,

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

the actual skill of writing, the craft of

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

writing and like you said and like I've

00:37:58 --> 00:38:01

just said, you know your writing will never

00:38:01 --> 00:38:02

be better than your reading you will never

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

be able to transcend that because you just

00:38:04 --> 00:38:06

don't have the vocabulary like the the tools

00:38:06 --> 00:38:08

of the the raw material isn't there

00:38:09 --> 00:38:11

so Whatever it is that you want to

00:38:11 --> 00:38:12

write

00:38:12 --> 00:38:13

whatever genre,

00:38:13 --> 00:38:14

whatever style

00:38:15 --> 00:38:18

Read the best books in that category read

00:38:18 --> 00:38:20

the best books in that genre whether it's

00:38:20 --> 00:38:22

memoir whether it's children's books whether it's middle

00:38:22 --> 00:38:23

grade fiction

00:38:24 --> 00:38:24

You know mystery,

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

You whatever it is.

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

I remember how many, ladies used to say

00:38:30 --> 00:38:32

to us that they wanted to write children's

00:38:32 --> 00:38:33

books and then when we would have the

00:38:33 --> 00:38:34

workshop, we'd ask them, you know, what are

00:38:34 --> 00:38:37

some of your favorite children's books? And just

00:38:37 --> 00:38:38

as you said, they said, oh, I don't

00:38:38 --> 00:38:39

read children's books.

00:38:40 --> 00:38:43

You got no business writing children's books if

00:38:43 --> 00:38:45

you don't read children's books because you don't

00:38:45 --> 00:38:48

know what's you don't know what this genre

00:38:48 --> 00:38:50

requires, you don't know what it sounds like,

00:38:50 --> 00:38:52

what it looks like, what the possibilities are

00:38:53 --> 00:38:54

and similarly with memoir I love the fact

00:38:54 --> 00:38:57

that you know you were reading Muhammad Asad

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

and then you you saw it coming back

00:38:59 --> 00:39:01

to you in the books that you ended

00:39:01 --> 00:39:02

up publishing.

00:39:02 --> 00:39:03

I love it.

00:39:03 --> 00:39:04

Lauren

00:39:05 --> 00:39:07

how can people continue to learn from you

00:39:07 --> 00:39:09

because you are as we everybody heard at

00:39:09 --> 00:39:09

the beginning

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

you know very well rounded

00:39:12 --> 00:39:15

system mashallah you know lots of skill sets,

00:39:15 --> 00:39:17

lots of, you know, wonderful accomplishments.

00:39:18 --> 00:39:21

How can people learn from you? So

00:39:21 --> 00:39:23

learn? Yeah. Well, you can learn with me

00:39:23 --> 00:39:24

at laurenbooths.co.uk.

00:39:26 --> 00:39:28

You can sign up. I've got new courses

00:39:28 --> 00:39:31

coming through after Ramadan via Nelita Allah.

00:39:31 --> 00:39:33

And, you can also go to kcmedia.co.uk.

00:39:36 --> 00:39:38

And kcmedia is where we do media training.

00:39:39 --> 00:39:41

And that is if you're a professional already

00:39:41 --> 00:39:44

or you are looking to,

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

improve your interview skills, you want to get

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

on your your face on TV or on

00:39:50 --> 00:39:51

your voice on the radio,

00:39:51 --> 00:39:53

and you want to know the how, the

00:39:53 --> 00:39:55

what, and the why from people who have

00:39:55 --> 00:39:58

been doing it. We're 2 trainers, and between

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us, we've got 60 years, 70 years experience

00:40:00 --> 00:40:01

in the media.

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So, you know, in in all different areas,

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but a lot of news and a lot

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of commentary

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and, a lot of, commercial TV. So,

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you can go to those two places. There's

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2 websites there. And, of course, follow me

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on Instagram as well. Send me a message.

00:40:15 --> 00:40:17

Let me know. I've got a YouTube channel,

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which is mostly for my dower, but it's

00:40:20 --> 00:40:22

some of my thoughts as well on, the

00:40:22 --> 00:40:24

way the world is today. And so Lauren

00:40:24 --> 00:40:24

Booth

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official on YouTube.

00:40:31 --> 00:40:34

I think, sister Naima has either sister Naima

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has frozen or I've frozen,

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but I've loved this love love love love

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this session. Thank you.

00:40:44 --> 00:40:46

Thank you so much, Lauren, and we will

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put the links to all of those in

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the description once the video goes up.

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

And I hope that you guys can hear

00:40:53 --> 00:40:56

me. But, Lauren, thank you so much for

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that brilliant session.

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

I certainly learned a lot. I know that

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our audience did too. We've got over a

00:41:01 --> 00:41:03

100 people watching live on YouTube, which is

00:41:03 --> 00:41:06

great. Oh, no. Over 200 actually watching live,

00:41:06 --> 00:41:07

which is fantastic.

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

We will put the disc the all the

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links guys will be in the description. Make

00:41:11 --> 00:41:12

sure that you do take sister Lauren up.

00:41:12 --> 00:41:14

We are so blessed to have so many

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

amazing sisters in the community who are sharing

00:41:16 --> 00:41:18

their skills who are opening their doors to

00:41:18 --> 00:41:19

share what they've learned

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

in all their years of doing this work

00:41:21 --> 00:41:24

masha'Allah. So please make dua for sister Lauren

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

and her family and all her work and

00:41:26 --> 00:41:28

My dear friend, you know, I love you.

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

I love you and I continue to bless

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

you May Allah continue to bless you bless

00:41:32 --> 00:41:35

your work allow us to continue working together

00:41:35 --> 00:41:37

for his sake and the evening just kind

00:41:37 --> 00:41:39

of bring a whole army of, you know,

00:41:39 --> 00:41:42

of sisters along with us, inshallah. May Allah.

00:41:42 --> 00:41:42

I mean, inshallah.

00:41:43 --> 00:41:44

Mhmm. I mean I mean, may we be

00:41:44 --> 00:41:46

Is that okay though? Will we all be

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beloved by Allah to Allah? Lots of love

00:41:48 --> 00:41:50

to you, sisters. Keep up the great work.

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And, you know, may may may Ramadan bring

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blessings to you.

00:41:55 --> 00:41:56

Oh, yes.

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Shalom Habibti.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:03

Assalamu alaikum, guys.

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