Naima B. Robert – Advice for Muslim Women on Feeling Like a Failure
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The speaker encourages viewers to acknowledge themselves and write a list of 25 things that they do well, including things like learning to make healthy food, being proud of their language, knowing how to do accounts, and being a source of comfort for their family. They also encourage viewers to show their weaknesses and weaknesses that make them a success.
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Do you know how many sisters I have
spoken to who are super women and don't
even know it.
These are women who juggle homes and families
and careers and studies
and extracurricular
activities
and menus and diets and sports and working
out and Quran and Arabic and family and
all these different things, juggles, balls that they've
got in the air, all at once, all
the time.
But when you sit with them
and they're honest and share with you,
they will tell you that they feel like
a failure,
That they feel like they haven't accomplished anything.
That they're not as good as so and
so.
That they haven't done as well as this
one or the other one.
That they don't have confidence.
That they don't know themselves.
That they've lost themselves.
Sound familiar?
If only you knew, my dear sister, how
amazing
you truly are.
I see it.
Anyone with 2 eyes can see
it, including you.
It's time to see yourself
with clear
eyes. Let go of the baggage.
Let go of the guilt. Let go of
the shame.
Let go of the comparison.
Silence the inner critic, silence that inner mean
girl, and see yourself for who you truly
are.
Because I guarantee you,
if you were to see yourself as you
truly are,
you would see the hero
that is within.
She's there.
She's there. She's turning
up. She's showing up every day. She's doing
what needs to be done. She's getting the
job done.
She is the source. She is the comfort.
She is the glue. She is the rock.
She is there showing up every single day.
It's just that you're not recognizing her.
And so what I'm going to invite you
to do,
soon as you finish watching this, just sit
down,
get a piece of paper,
and write down a list of 25 things
that you should justly be proud
of. And when I say anything
and everything, I mean anything and everything.
And I'm including the things that you don't
even think are a big deal. Deal. Things
like making your children pack lunch.
Things like knowing how to make your husband's
favorite dish.
Knowing how to do accounts,
being good with languages,
knowing
how to do a cartwheel,
being able to ride a bike,
memorizing Quran,
helping your neighbor,
being a source of comfort for your family.
All of these things count
because this is who you are.
Because we are not made up
by the sum of our huge accomplishments, the
ones that the world sees and recognizes.
No.
We are made
up of the decisions that we make every
single day.
The small things, the little things, the things
that you think don't matter,
but make the world of a difference
to those around you. Those who love you,
who trust you, who respect you, who need
you.
A lot of women that I spoken to,
they think that cooking a meal every day
is no big deal.
But I say this,
nourishing your family,
giving them healthy food,
food that they enjoy,
ensuring that they are fed
and nourished,
this is an act of Iberda.
All that's that's missing is the intention.
And if you have the ability to do
that, that is a blessing.
So acknowledge it. Because that's what I'm gonna
ask you to do today is
acknowledge
yourself. Go to that woman in the mirror.
Tell her how much
you admire
her, how much you love her,
and how proud you are of her.
And then go and write me that list
of 25 things, 50 things that you do
well.
Because it's time that you showed up.
It's time you saw
how much you already show up
and be the true hero of your own
life story.