Naima B. Robert – Advice for Muslim Women Be The Hero Na’ima B. Robert

Naima B. Robert
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The speaker encourages attendees to say al Qaeda, love for it all, and write al Qaeda in the chat. They emphasize the importance of choosing the right circumstances for one's life and share their experiences and lessons, including their marriage to a man named Suleiman AmPAR. The journey is about settling into one's success and learning to be the best versions of oneself, while also emphasizing trusting in oneself and one's ability to be the hero. The program is a six-step process to find one's inner awesome, and the goal is to create a "be the hero" journey. The program is open from Monday to Saturday, and costs £99 for the full program.
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Alhamdulillah.

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Alhamdulillah.

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Alhamdulillah.

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Now I always start my talks with

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because

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I know

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how many people

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intended to be here

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and couldn't make it. And there will be

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some of you who never intended to be

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here, but by the Qadr of Allah, you

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are here.

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And personally I think that whenever we find

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ourselves in gatherings of believers,

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in gatherings

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where people are

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people are mentioning Allah's name. People are coming

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together for his sake. You know being joined

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together in love from his sake. This is

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a blessing, mashallah. It is a real nirmah.

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And so I encourage

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every one of you to

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say alhamdulillah,

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you know? Acknowledge the blessing of being here,

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and type alhamdulillah in the chat, you know,

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if you want. But definitely,

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of being here, masha'Allah. So, alhamdulillah, love for

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it all.

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Right now,

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I'm gonna start with a poem, insha'Allah.

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And it's called 'Aren't we strange?'

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Isn't it strange

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that we love,

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although the promise of loss

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is ever present?

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Isn't it strange how we hold,

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although the threat of separation

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is always there?

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Isn't it strange that we birth,

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although the inevitability

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of death is a constant,

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constant reminder?

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Isn't it strange?

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Isn't it strange that our hearts can break

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and heal and break, only to heal again?

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Scar tissue

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crisscrossing

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like embroidery,

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holding

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it together,

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Just like we hold it together.

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Just like he

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holds us together.

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Aren't

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we strange?

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Aren't we strange

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and wonderful?

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I love my crush.

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I am always, always awed

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by

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Allah's plan,

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and his plan for us, and the way

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that he fashioned us.

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And

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this

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session with you, my dear sisters,

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is a chance for us to be reminded

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of the perfection of Allah's plan,

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and the perfection in which he created us,

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insha'Allah.

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The perfection, the

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session,

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we are going to be looking at

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the mistake that many of us make when

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we are faced by challenges in life,

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And I'll be sharing with you 3 mindset

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shifts

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that

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will sh change the way you show up.

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And in the process of that, I hope

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that we will reconnect with something fundamental

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inside all of us,

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Something

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that is in every one of us, something

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waiting to be found.

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And so

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I want to put this to you

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okay. Many sisters, mashAllah,

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who are in my circle. Many sisters want

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to write. I can see many of them

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are here, you know, in this session, alhamdulillah.

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But did you know

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that every one of us is an author?

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Every single day,

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without putting pen to paper, without writing down

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a word,

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we are authoring our own life story.

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It's

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true. The choices that you make on a

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day to day basis,

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the decisions that you make, the perspective that

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you take, all of that is shaping

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the way that your story plays out. Now

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I like to think of it like, allah

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is

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the

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creator

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of all.

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And he is the one who has shaped

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us and shaped our circumstances, right?

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But the interesting thing is,

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Allah did not give each of us a

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book in which everything is predetermined

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for us to basically follow from a to

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b and get all the way to zed.

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He didn't give us that as our book

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of life.

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He gave us circumstances.

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And the amazing thing about that is,

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we get to choose

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how we behave in each circumstance.

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And our choices affect the outcome. Right?

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Our choices

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affect

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the outcome. So Allah

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for every one of us has decreed a

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set of circumstances,

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one after the other after the other. The

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circumstances of your birth, the circumstances of your

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family, the circumstances of your status in society,

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your level of education,

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the people that you meet.

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Who keeps their promises?

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Who doesn't keep their promises?

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Tryouts, failures, opportunities.

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Allah

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has set for every one of us a

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chain of events.

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Okay?

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But the amazing thing is, we

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are the protagonists.

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We are the main characters in our other

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life story. And so in each one of

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those chains of events, we get to make

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choices.

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And that's why I say that every single

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day, we are authoring our own life story.

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Allah

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has set the chain of events, but we

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are navigating

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in those events,

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making choices that have consequences.

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Okay? And the consequences shape the chain of

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events.

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And so I want you

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to do this with me for for a

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few minutes.

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I want you to imagine

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that

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you have reached a ripe old age.

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Okay?

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And you're sitting there, and I need you

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to kind of focus with me here. So

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if you've got, you know, other tabs open,

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or, you know, if you're kind of whatsapping

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people at the same time or checking IG

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and stuff like that, please, please

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come back to me.

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Okay. Come back to me,

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and let's do this together.

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I'd like you to close your eyes,

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and I'd like you to imagine yourself

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as an old woman.

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And I would like you to imagine yourself

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seated,

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surrounded by your family,

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and those who love you.

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And you have center stage. You're the matriarch.

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And your grandchildren say to you, Granny,

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nanny,

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Tell us the story of your life.'

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Just imagine what that would feel like in

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that moment,

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To be surrounded by people who love you.

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To have lived this life. This life that

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you're living now, but you've lived it to

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the end.

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And your children and your grandchildren

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want to know

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your story.

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They want you to tell the story of

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your life.

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What would you tell them?

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Which of those events

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would you evoke for them?

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Which life lessons would you share?

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What descriptions

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will you delve into? Which characters

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will you bring to life?

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Will it be a story of woe

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and pain and loss?

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Or will it be a story of triumph

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and experience and wisdom,

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and prevailing through it all?

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I'd like you to answer,

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in your own mind,

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that question, because we're gonna come back to

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it later, inshaAllah.

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But my point is this:

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in that moment

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where you're telling your life story,

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you only get one shot

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Because the reality is, we only get

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one shot at this life and this dunya.

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And so the story

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that we tell at the end

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is the only story.

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But the amazing thing is, we get to

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choose

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the story that we tell.

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We get to choose

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to be the hero

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of our life story.

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I'm gonna show you how in a short

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while,

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inshallah. Okay.

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Just wanna take a moment to take a

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breath.

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Take a moment. Take a breath with me.

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Take a breath. Inhale.

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Exhale out.

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Kiss me now.

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Okay. Let's do this.

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It's something that I want to share with

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you, my dear sisters,

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and it's something that I learnt from a

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dear friend, Umreyan of Solace, some of you

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may know her.

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And I went to a talk once and

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she

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she, mentioned this in her talk, and

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I now use it all the time. It

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was such an moment for me, And I

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always give her credit because I first heard

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it from her. And

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she said to us,

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sisters, and this applies to all human beings,

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by the way, but she was talking to

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sisters. But she said, sisters,

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we are all in one of 3

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states. We are all in one of 3

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states. If you're taking notes, you wanna write

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this down inshallah.

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We are all in one of 3 states.

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We are either

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we have either

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been tested,

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or we are being tested,

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or we are going to be tested.

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Take a moment with that.

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Take a moment with that.

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And if that resonates with you, give me

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a like or a heart.

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We have we are in one of 3

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states.

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You have either

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been tested in the past,

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or you are going to be tested, or

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you're being tested right now, or you are

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going to be tested in the future.

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And is this not the case with bannie

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Adam, period?

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Is this not the case with every

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single one of us?

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No matter who, no matter what, male, female,

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old, young, black, white, rich, poor, whatever.

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You've been tested,

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you are being tested right now, or you

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are going to be tested.

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So,

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if you have been tested,

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and tried in your life,

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or if you are going through a test

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right now,

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or you anticipate a test in the future,

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or you know that you will be tested

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in the future,

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know that you are in the right place

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here in this class with me. Because tests

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come in in a very important way when

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we're talking about being the hero. Okay? So

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I want you to remember that. Those three

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states, really important. So if you've been tested,

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or you are being tested, or you may

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be tested in the future, trust me, you

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are in the right place right now. Okay.

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Now, it's story time.

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Okay. So, I wanna move back a little

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bit and

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I don't know how much you guys know

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about me. I don't know how long we've

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been in each other's lives, but I just

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want to share with you a little bit

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about, you know, my my circumstances, or the

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life that I lived for a very long

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time.

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So some of you may know that I

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was married to a man called Suleiman Amakwa.

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And, you know, we lived in England for

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10 years, and then we lived in Egypt.

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We moved to Egypt, and we lived there

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for 10 years.

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He was working, I was writing books, I

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had my magazine, we had 5 beautiful children,

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Mashallah.

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We worked for Hajj, we went for holidays.

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You know, we traveled. We we we lived

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a very happy life. Mashallah. Tabarata'allah. And really,

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sometimes I would say that I felt like

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I lived a charmed life. I was a

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kept woman as a stay at home, well,

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not stay at home mom. I was kinda

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like a work at home mom, but you

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know, I was

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extremely,

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extremely in the flow.

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You know, very much

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comfortable

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in my life.

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And I think

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the biggest

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and most abrupt change

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to that situation of comfort and ease and

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delight

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was when

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my husband

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had a stroke

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and went into a coma and passed away

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for 2 days.

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Sorry, I passed away after 2 weeks.

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Well, I hung.

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And,

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that was

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a disruption

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to my ordinary world.

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Okay? I had lived and been his wife

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for almost

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15 years,

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and

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that was what I knew. He was what

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I knew. This family was what I knew.

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This lifestyle was what I knew.

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And

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that was

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a huge disruption.

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It was an immense loss.

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And,

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if some of you follow me on Facebook

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you will know that I used to write

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poetry

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and share it on Facebook as a way

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for me to heal.

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And just to give you a feeling of

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of my state at that time, I'd like

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to share

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one of the poems that I wrote at

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that time, if I have your permission, Sharna.

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It is the pain in the voices of

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others

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that breaks me

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because they see what I refuse to see,

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What I turn away from.

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What my heart refuses to accept.

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That my life is changed.

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Changed utterly.

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My other half ripped away, my heart scoured,

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beating abrasions.

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The axis of my world tilted

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unalterably.

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The path of my journey detoured

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permanently.

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All changed.

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Changed utterly.

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This is what I hear in the voice

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of others,

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in their pain, in their tears,

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in their silence.

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They are grieving for me

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because of what they see.

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For how this calamity affects their reality.

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It is my pain

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reflected in the eyes of others,

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that breaks me.

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What is the purpose of this pain?

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That's what I wanted to understand.

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What is the purpose of the loss?

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What is the purpose

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of the trials?

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What is the purpose of the disappointments and

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the frustrations

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and the betrayals?

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I wonder if you have ever lost.

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I wonder if you have had something or

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someone you love taken away from you,

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by the one who has the right to

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take it away.

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But I wonder

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what pain you carry.

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Is it

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a childhood that was lost?

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Was it a spouse?

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Or a parent? Or a child? Or a

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dream?

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Or an ability

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or a future.

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What is the purpose of this pain?

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I wonder if you know what is the

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purpose of your pain.

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One thing I have come to understand, my

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dear sisters, is that great things come at

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a cost.

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And the greater that thing,

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the greater the cost.

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And very often,

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those losses that we bear

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are the cost of something greater.

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And,

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one of the mistakes that we make,

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I think, is that

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we, we think

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that we have to be perfect.

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We think that in order for us to

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be the hero, to prevail,

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to be one of those sisters,

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one of the heroes.

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We have to be perfect.

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But,

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that's not it at all.

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And if you're writing, please write this down,

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because

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the hero

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the hero

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will always

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experience pain.

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Will always experience loss.

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And if you think about the heroes that

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we know from Islam for example,

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look at the lives of every single one

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of the prophets,

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the Sahaba,

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the Sahaviad,

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even the heroes you read about in novels

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or books of history.

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What do you see?

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The hero starts out

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imperfect,

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and the hero usually ends imperfect. The hero

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at the start of the story doesn't have

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all that she needs

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to defeat all the foes, to figure everything

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out.

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She doesn't have that.

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She is less of a person at the

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beginning. She is less in terms of strength,

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in terms of wisdom, in terms of experience,

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and her going through the pain,

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going through the challenges, going through the losses,

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the disappointments, the frustrations,

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coming up against a barrier and falling.

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That

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is where the hero's fire is forged.

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Every single time,

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there is not a person out there, not

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a single one,

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that you can show me who has achieved

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something amazing, either on a day to day

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level,

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or on a massive historical level, and has

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not had to pay a price.

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Not a single one.

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Because this is not the way of this

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life.

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Nothing comes for free. And if you're talking

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about personal growth, if you're talking about iman,

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if you're talking about ihsan, tawakkud,

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strength,

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confidence, all of those things, they come at

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a cost.

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They come at the cost of trials,

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and tribulations,

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and challenges, and frustrations.

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This is the amazing thing. And so when

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we have this in our heads to say,

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you know, I I can't be like them

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because I'm not good enough, I'm not smart

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enough, I'm not strong enough, you know, I'm

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not clever enough, I'm not generous enough. I'm

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not knowledgeable enough. I don't have enough time.

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I don't have enough money. I don't have

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enough resources. I don't have enough support.

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You

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are authoring your life story as you speak

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those words,

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as you think those thoughts,

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as you plan

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because of those

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mindsets that you have,

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you are deciding

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to fall back.

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You are deciding

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to be the victim.

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You are deciding to be the martyr.

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You are giving up your agency.

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You are giving up your power. You are

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giving up

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what Allah has

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put inside you already.

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You're giving up on that.

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So this is one mistake that we as

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sisters, we must, we must, we must

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stop making.

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Thinking that we have to be perfect somehow,

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and that we are not enough as we

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are.

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I do not believe this, and I will

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never believe this. Because you know what? Allah

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promised in the Quran,

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I will not burden us all more than

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it can bear.

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That's it. Cave closed.

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Case closed.

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So if you're being tested,

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know that Allah knows you have the capacity.

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Maybe you don't believe it yet, maybe you

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haven't found it yet, maybe you haven't accepted

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it yet. You haven't

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accepted your role in this.

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You haven't taken hold of your power, but

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know for a fact it's there, my dear.

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It is there inside you.

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Because Allah will never burden you more than

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you can bear.

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Because Allah never sent a test to break

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you.

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He sent a test to make you stronger,

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to bring you back to him, to open

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your eyes, to bring you to the sujood.

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These,

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these

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are, these are the things that we must

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remember,

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my dear sisters.

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And when we remember that, we realize that

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we are enough.

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We are enough for what Allah

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has put in front of us. Okay? So,

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understanding the true nature of the hero's journey

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is that the

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hero does not have

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everything that she needs.

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She will constantly be learning,

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constantly be iterating,

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constantly

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be tried.

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Okay?

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And it's okay.

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It's part of the journey,

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and it's what makes you so

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amazing.

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It's that amazingness that you can't see, but

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we're gonna talk about that. We're gonna talk

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about that.

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So,

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understanding the nature of the hero's journey.

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Understanding

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you were born for this.

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You were born for this.

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This life that you are living.

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You were born for it. Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala has chosen

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you, has fashioned you, and has put you

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in a situation you are where you need

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to be right now.

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And I'm not saying that if you're in

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a bad situation, that he made you to

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stay in that situation. No.

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He's put you in that situation

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knowing full well

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you have the capacity to do what you

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need to

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do. To do what you need to do

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to prevail

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in that situation.

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You have the capacity.

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You have the resources.

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You have the strength.

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And if you count on

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Allah if you return to Allah

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and have full trust in him,

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you will prevail.

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And being the hero of the story is

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about prevailing in the end.

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It's not about avoiding the pain. It's not

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about avoiding the the fight.

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It's not about avoiding the battles.

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It's about prevailing in the end.

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Being the victor in the end because you

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did the right thing.

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Because you did the noble thing, the honorable

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thing. That may be difficult thing, but the

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right thing.

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That's

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the story we want to tell our children,

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right?

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We gonna sit and tell them,

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you know what guys,

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It wasn't easy, but hey,

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I took every lemon

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that Allah

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sent me,

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and I made the best lemonade that I

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could.

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I got the sugar, I got the cinnamon,

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I got the mint, or whatever it is

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that you do.

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I took those lemons, yes, because I had

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lemons, because life has lemons.

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That's the sunnah of life. We are going

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to get those lemons, right?

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So I took those lemons, my dear children,

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and I made the best lemonade that I

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could. And even though I lost, and even

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though I failed, and even though I fell,

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I rose again. And when I rose again,

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guess what, kids?

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Granny was smarter.

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Granny's imam was stronger.

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Granny's, you know, understanding of the world

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was expanded.

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Granny was cleverer. Granny was more experienced. Granny

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was a better person.

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Nanny was a better person,

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and that's where we want to be.

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Through all these trials and all this stuff

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that's going on,

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we want to prevail

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and become

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the best version of ourselves

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that we can.

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Because that's all that's required,

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to be the best version of yourself.

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Not so and so down the road, not

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so and so at the masjid, not your

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sister-in-law,

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not even anyone from history.

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They had their hero's journey, what's yours?

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Tell me your hero's story. I wanna hear

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it.

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I want you to own your hero story

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because I know that if you're still here,

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you're standing, you're alive, you're worshiping a lot,

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and you made it to this class, I

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know that you're a hero. I already know

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that.

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Because you've been making decisions all along.

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Decisions that will benefit you, decisions that will

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make you stronger, decisions that will get you

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closer to what you want. And so for

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me, I salute you,

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because I see the hero in you.

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Own that hero story and allow it to

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permeate

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everything around you. Trust me, it is transformational,

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subhanAllah.

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Okay.

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Three mindset shifts. If you're writing, do write

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these down.

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So, the 3 mindset shifts that I want

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to share with you, my dear sisters.

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Number 1.

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Trust in Allah's plan for you.

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We have to come from a place of

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tawakkul.

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Because a place of tawakkul

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is a place of abundance.

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When you expect

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Khair,

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Khair will come. Did not Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala say, I am as my servant expects

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me to be?

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So when we expect

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khair,

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we will receive khair.

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Now, khair is not ease. Yeah? So don't

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get it twisted.

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Just because you accept or you expect

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does not mean your life will be just

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an easy ride, no.

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But that's not the point.

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The point is the hag.

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So, the prophet

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told us how amazing is the state of

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the believer.

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When good things come to him,

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he praises Allah and this is good for

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him. And when he is tried,

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okay, when he is tested,

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he is patient, and that is good for

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him. So, khair here and khair there.

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So no matter what your circumstance,

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trust that Allah has khair in it for

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you.

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That khair could be

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being patient, and working through it.

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That khair could be in in turning to

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him and asking for a way out. That

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khayr could be in you guiding the people

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around you. Whatever your situation is, trust in

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Allah's plan for you.

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When Surinaya and Alayrahara passed away,

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I'm gonna share with you something.

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I remember some sisters came over to my

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house,

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and they were talking. We were just talking.

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It was during my eda.

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And we were talking,

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and I remember saying to them

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because actually at the time there was lots

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and lots of messages on Facebook because people

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had heard about it and I remember saying

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to my friend,

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there's a reason for this.

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There must be a reason

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for

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this to be happening to me right now.

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What is the benefit to the people

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who maybe followed me on social media and

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read my book, and got to know my

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husband through my book? Okay?

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And

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saw that he had returned to his Lord.

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Was it a reminder for them?

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Was it a reminder for me?

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Was it a reason for me to open

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my eyes?

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Was it a reason for me to step

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up?

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Was it a reason for me to return

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back to him in trust and reliance,

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knowing that I'm gonna be okay regardless?

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And I'm sorry, but this is what I

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believe.

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No matter what happens, Allah's got my back.

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So no matter what happens, I'm gonna be

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okay regardless.

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And, subhanAllah,

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we don't ask for the test.

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None of us get to choose the chain

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of events. Remember I told you Allah

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chooses the events?

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But we get to choose our response.

00:29:04 --> 00:29:05

And that is so empowering.

00:29:06 --> 00:29:08

We get to choose

00:29:08 --> 00:29:11

our response to those events.

00:29:11 --> 00:29:14

And so for me, when my husband passed

00:29:14 --> 00:29:15

away a light tunnel,

00:29:16 --> 00:29:19

I knew that there was a plan. I

00:29:19 --> 00:29:21

knew there was a wisdom in it. And

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at the time,

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my reaction was

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Allah, thank you for what I had.

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Because I didn't need to have that.

00:29:28 --> 00:29:30

You didn't need to give me all of

00:29:30 --> 00:29:33

that. Those years, the children, the love, etcetera.

00:29:34 --> 00:29:35

It didn't need to be that way.

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But it was.

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And I'm grateful.

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And I know that you have done the

00:29:42 --> 00:29:44

best by him, unlike how.

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And I know that I'm still here for

00:29:47 --> 00:29:48

a purpose.

00:29:48 --> 00:29:50

I'm still here for a reason. Is it

00:29:50 --> 00:29:53

my children? Is it my family? Is it

00:29:53 --> 00:29:55

my friends? Is it the people I touch

00:29:55 --> 00:29:58

through my words, through my books? Is it

00:29:58 --> 00:29:59

the work that I do?

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Whatever it is, I'm still here for a

00:30:02 --> 00:30:04

reason, so stand up.

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That's what I said to myself.

00:30:07 --> 00:30:08

Stand up.

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Own it. You're still here. Your life is

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not over.

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So live it.

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Your deeds are continuing, so keep doing them.

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Your end has not yet been written, so

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make sure as much as you can that

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it will be a good one.

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Because I'm still here, I'm still standing, and

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as I said to you my dear sisters,

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if you've been through a trial, and you're

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still here, and you're still standing, there is

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a reason for it. So the first mindset

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shift we need to have is trust in

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Allah's plan for every one of us.

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Because every one of us has got our

00:30:43 --> 00:30:45

own plan. Every one of us has got

00:30:45 --> 00:30:47

our own chain of events and that story.

00:30:48 --> 00:30:49

So trust that Allah wants to hear for

00:30:49 --> 00:30:50

you in that.

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2nd mindset shift.

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Trust in the process.

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We need to become

00:30:58 --> 00:30:59

more philosophical

00:30:59 --> 00:31:00

about this life,

00:31:01 --> 00:31:02

you know? As I said to you guys

00:31:02 --> 00:31:03

before,

00:31:03 --> 00:31:06

this life is not a place for ease.

00:31:06 --> 00:31:07

This is a place

00:31:07 --> 00:31:09

for shawba, amal,

00:31:09 --> 00:31:10

work,

00:31:10 --> 00:31:11

effort.

00:31:11 --> 00:31:12

Okay?

00:31:12 --> 00:31:15

So trust in the process. Okay? Some things,

00:31:15 --> 00:31:17

they hurt, and the hurt will dissipate.

00:31:17 --> 00:31:19

Some things hurt to teach us a lesson.

00:31:19 --> 00:31:21

Some people hurt us to teach us a

00:31:21 --> 00:31:23

lesson. We must be open to the lesson.

00:31:24 --> 00:31:26

We must always be open to the lessons.

00:31:27 --> 00:31:30

The lessons that come with the circumstances,

00:31:30 --> 00:31:33

with the situations, with the frustrations, with the

00:31:33 --> 00:31:36

pain and the loss, the lessons come with

00:31:36 --> 00:31:39

those things, so we must always be open

00:31:39 --> 00:31:40

to the lessons,

00:31:41 --> 00:31:43

and trust in the process.

00:31:44 --> 00:31:46

The 3rd mindset shift, my dear sisters,

00:31:47 --> 00:31:49

is trust in your ability

00:31:50 --> 00:31:51

to be the hero.

00:31:53 --> 00:31:55

Anything I say to you, I can say

00:31:55 --> 00:31:58

a 1,000 things to you, but until you

00:31:59 --> 00:31:59

you

00:32:00 --> 00:32:01

choose to believe

00:32:03 --> 00:32:04

that you are enough.

00:32:05 --> 00:32:06

That you have the resources.

00:32:06 --> 00:32:08

That Allah has

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

created you for this, that you were born

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

for this and you can do this,

00:32:14 --> 00:32:15

it won't make any difference.

00:32:16 --> 00:32:18

So that 3rd mindset shift is

00:32:19 --> 00:32:20

trust in yourself.

00:32:20 --> 00:32:21

Trust in yourself

00:32:22 --> 00:32:24

that you can be that hero.

00:32:25 --> 00:32:26

For me,

00:32:27 --> 00:32:28

what I learned was

00:32:29 --> 00:32:32

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala did not take my

00:32:32 --> 00:32:35

husband away to break me

00:32:35 --> 00:32:37

In some ways, you could say that it

00:32:37 --> 00:32:37

made me

00:32:39 --> 00:32:41

it's never something that we choose We never

00:32:41 --> 00:32:42

choose the tests

00:32:43 --> 00:32:45

But sometimes when we look back,

00:32:45 --> 00:32:47

we realize that

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

because of that test,

00:32:49 --> 00:32:50

because of that loss,

00:32:51 --> 00:32:52

I'm a different person.

00:32:54 --> 00:32:55

I'm a better person.

00:32:55 --> 00:32:58

I have more to offer the world.

00:32:58 --> 00:33:00

I have more to offer my children.

00:33:00 --> 00:33:01

I've been

00:33:01 --> 00:33:02

through the wars,

00:33:03 --> 00:33:04

and I'm still standing.

00:33:06 --> 00:33:07

And that

00:33:07 --> 00:33:09

event, that loss,

00:33:09 --> 00:33:11

that whatever it was in your life,

00:33:12 --> 00:33:12

divorce,

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

losing a child, losing a parent, missing out

00:33:15 --> 00:33:18

on school, you know, whatever it was,

00:33:19 --> 00:33:21

that needed to happen

00:33:21 --> 00:33:24

in order for you to grow into the

00:33:24 --> 00:33:26

person that you are becoming today.

00:33:27 --> 00:33:28

If you decide,

00:33:29 --> 00:33:30

from today

00:33:31 --> 00:33:33

to see everything in your life

00:33:33 --> 00:33:34

as part of your growth,

00:33:35 --> 00:33:37

trust me, you will not be the same

00:33:37 --> 00:33:38

in a year's time.

00:33:39 --> 00:33:40

You will be a different person.

00:33:41 --> 00:33:44

You will be a better version of yourself.

00:33:44 --> 00:33:44

And again,

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

that's the most important thing.

00:33:48 --> 00:33:50

That you're a better version of yourself.

00:33:51 --> 00:33:53

And so those three mindset shifts I have

00:33:53 --> 00:33:54

found to be

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

extremely beneficial for me,

00:33:56 --> 00:33:58

and what I learned is that I'm here

00:33:58 --> 00:33:59

for a reason,

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

And I'm here to do work, I still

00:34:02 --> 00:34:04

have work to do, and insha Allah, I

00:34:04 --> 00:34:07

pray that I keep doing it. So ask

00:34:07 --> 00:34:07

yourself,

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

what do you need to take from the

00:34:11 --> 00:34:13

trials that you've been through?

00:34:13 --> 00:34:16

What have you learned? How have you grown?

00:34:16 --> 00:34:19

What work do you still have to do

00:34:19 --> 00:34:19

here?

00:34:20 --> 00:34:21

Have a think about that inshaAllah.

00:34:25 --> 00:34:25

When we

00:34:28 --> 00:34:28

walk

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

with the knowledge

00:34:32 --> 00:34:35

that Allah wants good for us.

00:34:35 --> 00:34:37

That there is a process,

00:34:37 --> 00:34:38

and that the process

00:34:39 --> 00:34:42

will be as it will be. And that

00:34:42 --> 00:34:45

we have the capacity to deal with anything

00:34:45 --> 00:34:47

that Allah's quanta decrees

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

for us, guess what happens?

00:34:50 --> 00:34:51

We connect

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

with our inner hero.

00:34:54 --> 00:34:57

We connect with our inner hero, that inner

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

awesome, that's what I like to call it.

00:34:59 --> 00:35:01

The inner awesome. The amazingness that is inside

00:35:01 --> 00:35:04

us. I'm sorry sisters. I'm sorry. I'm just

00:35:04 --> 00:35:05

gonna keep it real. We

00:35:06 --> 00:35:09

we don't acknowledge ourselves enough.

00:35:10 --> 00:35:10

Okay?

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

We've grown up, many of us, with criticism

00:35:14 --> 00:35:16

and comparison, and as a result of that

00:35:16 --> 00:35:17

we

00:35:17 --> 00:35:18

don't truly

00:35:18 --> 00:35:19

appreciate

00:35:20 --> 00:35:21

what Allah

00:35:22 --> 00:35:23

has created inside of us.

00:35:24 --> 00:35:24

Okay?

00:35:25 --> 00:35:25

And so

00:35:26 --> 00:35:29

connecting with the inner hero is really connecting

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

with what makes you amazing.

00:35:32 --> 00:35:33

And that is very powerful.

00:35:34 --> 00:35:34

Very powerful.

00:35:35 --> 00:35:36

And so,

00:35:37 --> 00:35:39

what I'd like to invite you to do

00:35:39 --> 00:35:40

is to

00:35:40 --> 00:35:42

do another visualization with me, inshallah.

00:35:44 --> 00:35:46

Okay? Again, I would like you to close

00:35:46 --> 00:35:49

your eyes. Shut off the distractions, come back

00:35:49 --> 00:35:49

to me,

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

close your eyes,

00:35:52 --> 00:35:54

and think of that setting that we described

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

at the beginning of the class.

00:35:56 --> 00:35:57

You,

00:35:57 --> 00:35:59

in your older years,

00:35:59 --> 00:36:02

surrounded by your children, your grandchildren.

00:36:04 --> 00:36:08

And imagine yourself telling your hero story.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:12

How you showed up,

00:36:13 --> 00:36:14

how you

00:36:16 --> 00:36:19

grew, how you fell and you rose,

00:36:20 --> 00:36:21

how you learnt,

00:36:22 --> 00:36:23

how you optimized,

00:36:24 --> 00:36:25

how you changed tactics,

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

how you prevailed.

00:36:31 --> 00:36:31

And allow

00:36:32 --> 00:36:32

yourself

00:36:33 --> 00:36:34

to feel

00:36:35 --> 00:36:36

the feelings

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

that would come with telling

00:36:39 --> 00:36:41

such a powerful hero story.

00:36:42 --> 00:36:43

So powerful

00:36:43 --> 00:36:46

that your family and your friends look at

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

you with so much respect

00:36:48 --> 00:36:51

and love and pride that they were part

00:36:51 --> 00:36:52

of your story

00:36:53 --> 00:36:55

and that you are a part of who

00:36:55 --> 00:36:56

they are.

00:36:57 --> 00:36:58

Imagine how that feels.

00:37:02 --> 00:37:03

Imagine how that feels.

00:37:08 --> 00:37:08

Not impossible.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:12

Not impossible at all.

00:37:16 --> 00:37:18

Let's recap some of the lessons.

00:37:20 --> 00:37:21

You don't have to be perfect to be

00:37:21 --> 00:37:22

the hero.

00:37:23 --> 00:37:24

You are enough.

00:37:25 --> 00:37:26

Trust in Allah's plan,

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28

trust in the process,

00:37:29 --> 00:37:30

and trust in yourself.

00:37:30 --> 00:37:32

And know that this life is a journey,

00:37:32 --> 00:37:35

and you are authoring your life story every

00:37:35 --> 00:37:36

day.

00:37:36 --> 00:37:39

Every decision that you make is interacting with

00:37:39 --> 00:37:41

the events that Allah has decreed for you,

00:37:41 --> 00:37:43

and is writing that story.

00:37:44 --> 00:37:46

And so now that you know better,

00:37:46 --> 00:37:47

you can do better.

00:37:48 --> 00:37:48

InshaAllah.

00:37:49 --> 00:37:51

And I pray that Allah makes it easy

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

for you to rise and be the

00:37:54 --> 00:37:56

hero. And if you want to go on

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

this journey with me,

00:37:58 --> 00:38:00

then it is my pleasure to invite

00:38:01 --> 00:38:04

you to a programme that I've been building

00:38:04 --> 00:38:05

since last year.

00:38:06 --> 00:38:06

And

00:38:07 --> 00:38:09

it was called the 6 steps to finding

00:38:09 --> 00:38:10

your inner awesome.

00:38:10 --> 00:38:12

It's now the be the hero program.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

And this program is

00:38:17 --> 00:38:18

my way of

00:38:18 --> 00:38:19

making sure

00:38:20 --> 00:38:22

that you put into action

00:38:23 --> 00:38:26

the lessons that we have been learning today.

00:38:28 --> 00:38:28

If

00:38:29 --> 00:38:31

you would like an opportunity

00:38:32 --> 00:38:32

to

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

reconnect with your inner hero,

00:38:36 --> 00:38:38

if you'd like an opportunity

00:38:38 --> 00:38:39

to plan

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

your hero journey with me,

00:38:42 --> 00:38:45

if you would like to connect with what

00:38:45 --> 00:38:47

is amazing and brilliant inside you,

00:38:47 --> 00:38:50

the circumstances that you have around you to

00:38:50 --> 00:38:51

optimize and maximize

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

your opportunities

00:38:53 --> 00:38:56

for reward, then I invite you to join

00:38:56 --> 00:38:56

this program

00:38:57 --> 00:39:00

because it is something that I have found

00:39:00 --> 00:39:00

transformational

00:39:01 --> 00:39:02

in my life

00:39:02 --> 00:39:04

and with the people that I've worked with.

00:39:04 --> 00:39:06

The link is there in the chat.

00:39:06 --> 00:39:08

This program is open today.

00:39:09 --> 00:39:11

We're starting on Monday, and I'm so excited

00:39:12 --> 00:39:14

because I will basically be your coach

00:39:15 --> 00:39:16

and your mentor,

00:39:16 --> 00:39:18

and I will be working with you

00:39:19 --> 00:39:20

through

00:39:21 --> 00:39:22

where you've come from,

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

where you're at right now, and

00:39:26 --> 00:39:26

mindfully

00:39:27 --> 00:39:28

and intentionally

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

looking at where you want to go.

00:39:32 --> 00:39:33

So we're looking at the past,

00:39:34 --> 00:39:35

we're looking at the present,

00:39:36 --> 00:39:38

and the opportunities in the present,

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

and we're looking at the possibilities of the

00:39:40 --> 00:39:43

future, and the goals that you have for

00:39:43 --> 00:39:45

the future, future, and why you have those

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

goals, and how you're going to achieve those

00:39:47 --> 00:39:47

goals.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:48

InshaAllah,

00:39:49 --> 00:39:50

if you join today,

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

we get started on Monday.

00:39:52 --> 00:39:55

We go through the 6 steps to finding

00:39:55 --> 00:39:58

your inner awesome from Monday to Saturday,

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

and then I get to have a 1

00:40:00 --> 00:40:03

on 1 session with you to talk through

00:40:03 --> 00:40:05

your hero plan.

00:40:06 --> 00:40:07

And your hero plan

00:40:08 --> 00:40:10

is all about asking you,

00:40:11 --> 00:40:12

this month,

00:40:12 --> 00:40:14

where will you be the hero?

00:40:15 --> 00:40:18

Which role will you play and claim the

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

title of hero?

00:40:20 --> 00:40:22

Is it as a worshipper?

00:40:22 --> 00:40:23

As a woman?

00:40:24 --> 00:40:24

As a wife?

00:40:25 --> 00:40:26

As a mother? As a boss? As a

00:40:26 --> 00:40:27

friend? As a daughter?

00:40:28 --> 00:40:31

Which role will you choose to elevate to

00:40:31 --> 00:40:34

hero status? So we'll be working together on

00:40:34 --> 00:40:35

that.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:38

We will have a private Facebook group, and

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

I will be doing trainings in that group.

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

Trainings just like this,

00:40:43 --> 00:40:44

every week inshaAllah.

00:40:44 --> 00:40:46

And so we will have our coaching in

00:40:46 --> 00:40:49

the group and our accountability in the group.

00:40:49 --> 00:40:51

So once you start the program with me,

00:40:52 --> 00:40:53

I will be

00:40:53 --> 00:40:56

by your side making sure that you

00:40:56 --> 00:40:58

act on what you've decided,

00:40:58 --> 00:41:01

that you implement the breakthroughs that you've

00:41:01 --> 00:41:04

had and that you continue to grow. And

00:41:04 --> 00:41:06

you continue to fashion

00:41:06 --> 00:41:09

the most amazing and the most heroic

00:41:09 --> 00:41:10

year that you've had inshallah.

00:41:11 --> 00:41:15

The program is open from today. We start

00:41:15 --> 00:41:17

on Monday, and the program is £99,

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

which was supposed to be £497.

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

And in fact, I'm happy with it as

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

a £497

00:41:26 --> 00:41:26

course.

00:41:27 --> 00:41:28

But I want

00:41:28 --> 00:41:31

you to be able to take this leap.

00:41:31 --> 00:41:33

I don't want to put any barriers in

00:41:33 --> 00:41:34

the way. I don't want to make it

00:41:34 --> 00:41:36

something that is difficult on anyone financially.

00:41:37 --> 00:41:38

I want to make it accessible.

00:41:39 --> 00:41:40

And so it's £99

00:41:41 --> 00:41:43

for the full program, the superhero.

00:41:44 --> 00:41:44

And

00:41:44 --> 00:41:45

if you

00:41:47 --> 00:41:50

can't, don't, want to, cannot do the £99,

00:41:50 --> 00:41:52

we have a £47

00:41:53 --> 00:41:54

option

00:41:54 --> 00:41:57

which is crazy. I know. But I want

00:41:57 --> 00:41:58

you to have this.

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

I want you to have this. Well, love

00:42:00 --> 00:42:00

it.

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