Naima B. Robert – Advice for Muslim Women Be intentional to Be the Hero of Your Life Story!

Naima B. Robert
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The speaker discusses the importance of finding one's inner awesome in worship, rather than just being mindful of actions. They explain that actions can be transformed into intentions and that one's intentions can be purified through regular expiration. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of knowing one's intentions and finding one's own value in life.
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Bismillah.

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One of the most amazing things about the

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religion of Islam

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is

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the holistic nature

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of worship, of Ibadah.

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In many religions,

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worship is quite specific.

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It's

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praying or charity or maybe even fasting,

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doing holy related things.

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And one of the amazing things about Islam

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is that

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it's like the whole world's a stage for

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Ibadah. The whole world can be a musalla.

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You know, every action that is halal

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can be transformed

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to a bada

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with the right intention.

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And that's why step 1

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of finding your inner awesome is being intentional.

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It's so important.

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And I mentioned this and Allah knows it's

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a reminder to myself first.

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We as sisters

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so often

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fall into

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a routine

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that is a routine based on good. Don't

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get me wrong. It's a routine based on

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good. You know, we're observing the rules of

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the religion.

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We're taking care of our duties. We're praying.

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You know, we're we're looking after our families.

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We're being good our neighbors. We're we're we're

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doing what we're supposed to do. Alhamdulillah.

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But

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many of us

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lose the sense of intention.

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We stop being mindful of what we're doing

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and it becomes

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part of our daily life. It becomes simply

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routine.

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Now

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there's 2 issues with,

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doing all this fantastic stuff, and it just

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being part of your routine. There's 2 issues.

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1,

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you could cease to earn the rewards of

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a better with that thing because your intention

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is no longer for a better.

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It could be that you haven't renewed your

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intention or purified your intention for years possibly.

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So Allah knows best will that relation will

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that action action be accepted by Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala. We hope so. But there's a

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chance that it could be just become part

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of your normal, and it's not actually something

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you are doing to worship Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala. So that's one issue.

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And the second issue is that

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it doesn't affect us anymore.

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It doesn't reaffirm us anymore. It doesn't strengthen

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our faith anymore. It doesn't give us that

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sense of satisfaction

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anymore

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because we're not intentional about it. We're not

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mindful.

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We're mindless, actually. We're just doing what we're

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supposed to do, what we've always done, what

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our moms did, what we know we have

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to do. It's just duty, basically.

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And the thing about that is

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you lose the sense of the specialness of

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what you're doing.

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Think about this.

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If you are cooking for your family every

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day, for example,

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it's part of your routine. It's something that

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you know you do,

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Yanny. You do it every day without question.

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Okay?

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It's a good thing. It's a nice thing.

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And your family I'm sure will be very

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grateful for it. Or maybe not considering

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the fact that you do it every day.

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They might not be that grateful.

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But the point is it's something that you

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do. It doesn't make you feel great. It

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doesn't make you feel bad. It's just a

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thing. Okay?

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So that's

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neutral on the scale.

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Now imagine if,

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before you cooked,

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you reminded yourself of your intention.

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You said bismillah

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and your intention was

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to feed your family

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with good wholesome food that was halal and

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tayyib

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for them to become stronger so that they

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can worship Allah, so that they can be

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healthy, so that they can look after themselves

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and also learn good habits for their children

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and their families in the future.

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What does that intention give you?

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Well, firstly,

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it becomes an act of worship. So inshallah,

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it goes down as an act of worship

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on your book of deeds.

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But the second thing that you get from

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it is that sense of purpose.

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There's a higher purpose.

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It's not just routine.

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It's not just something you have to do

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or something you've always done or it's just

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taken for granted.

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You have a sense of purpose.

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A higher,

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more noble

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purpose

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with that particular mundane act of cooking for

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your family.

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Now if you imagine

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renewing that on a regular basis so that

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your actions, even to yourself, are no longer

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just ordinary actions.

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These are actions that are investments in akhira,

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that are investments in your family,

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investments in your own sense of self, in

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your own sense of well-being and accomplishment,

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that elevates that.

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It knocks it It elevates it

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beyond anything

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because now you're intentional about it and you're

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mindful

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of what it really means. It has meaning,

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and I think that is the key.

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We want a life of meaning.

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We want to live meaningful

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fulfilling

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lives.

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And my sisters, what I'm saying to you

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right now is most of us are already

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living the life.

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We're walking the walk.

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We just don't see it.

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We just don't recognize it.

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We don't feel it.

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And the first step towards

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feeling the meaning in our lives

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is purifying our intention.

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And so this

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exercise

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invites you to reflect on the hadith of

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Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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about actions being but by intention.

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And then

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we talk about

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actions in our lives that can do double

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duty. Chedre in this life and chedre in

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the next. And to write a list of

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those things.

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And so when you're thinking of that list,

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I want you to think of that example

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of cooking for your family.

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If your life

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because at the end of the day, life

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is is is life. It's it's pretty much

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ordinary most of the time. Okay? There's things

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that you're going to do that you may

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end up doing for the next 20 years.

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You might as well get barakah from them.

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You might as well make them count in

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the akhira

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and you might as well make them work

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for you.

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To give you a better sense of meaning,

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a better sense of confidence and fulfillment.

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And the way to do that is by

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purifying,

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regularly purifying your intention

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and clarifying

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really the true meaning of this that this

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deed that you're doing. And it literally applies

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to everything that we do.

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Every act that is halal

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can be transformed

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into ibadah

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by intention.

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And if we were constantly and if we

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are constantly and allah knows this is a

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reminder to myself first,

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if we are constantly

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mindful of what we're doing,

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renewing our intention,

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imagine the sense of fulfillment we will have

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at the end of each

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day. So when we write in our journal

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or we write in our gratitude papers or

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whatever it is that we do, we truly

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understand

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the barakah that we have been, you know,

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that we've been blessed with throughout that day.

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We truly feel fulfilled that today,

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I invested in my.

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Today

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I put force for the afterlife.

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Today I invested in my relationships.

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I invested in my children. Today I walked

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in my power.

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Today I lived.

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My mean my life had meaning today,

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and I thank Allah for that. And of

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course,

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once we've written that list,

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we purify our intention.

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And next time you do that thing,

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remember

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this little talk.

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Remember the intention.

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Remember

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how important it is for you to have

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a better sense of satisfaction about the way

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you spend your days, the way you are

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living your life.

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Because the key is not what you do,

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the key is your intention

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and how you take from that to feed

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yourself inshallah.

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I hope that serves you.

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