Nahela Morales – New Muslims Maintaining Family Ties
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The speaker discusses the importance of maintaining family ties during the holidays. They emphasize the importance of faith in one's own family and building a trust and relationship with them. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of staying consistent during difficult times and offers advice on how to be confident in one's Islam.
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I will be documented shaytan al rajim Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem
Subhanallah he will be handy wash shadow Allah ilaha illallah wa
shadow another Hamad Rasulillah Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi
Wabarakatuh, my beloved brothers and sisters in Islam
and in humanity. Today I was asked to do a video on maintaining
family ties. This is something very important, especially upon
embracing Islam. And so it's gonna be brief, short and sweet. Based
on my experience, I think, when we talk from the heart is very
important, and it's relatable. Inshallah, so I want to leave you
with the three C's inshallah. So we know that Allah subhanaw taala,
he commands for us to not break family ties, and the holidays
around the corner, specifically Christmas, the time where we are
with family where we gather where we eat, where we perhaps see each
other once a year. And so this is the one opportunity that you have
to embrace your family, and have a good time. But obviously, for us
Muslims, we don't celebrate this gathering.
And so we need to make sure that we use the wisdom in Arabic is
hikma, we use wisdom when encountering with our families.
And what I mean by that is, if you know there's going to be things
that are not permissible for you, perhaps you want to schedule some
one on one time with some family members, especially if you're
traveling to make the time worth worth it, right. And so when I
talk about the three C's, I talk about our Islam, when you are
going to meet your family, this is perhaps the only Islam they will
see. So your character, your demeanor, your manners are so
important. And therefore, the first C is conviction, you need to
go with full conviction and
make making sure that your intention is a family to maintain
these ties,
to make sure that they they understand that you have not left
the family have not betrayed them, that you have just become someone
better, right. And they will see that through your manners, through
the way you carry yourself during the time you are with them. Number
two,
confidence. So conviction and confidence kind of goes hand in
hand because conviction, you are certain of what your new identity
your new faith is. Confidence is the way you're going to be
carrying yourself when you are with your family during these
holiday seasons.
And so making sure that you are confident and perhaps you you know
already, you know, a little bit about Islam, if not, you want to
prepare yourself prior. That way, if you encounter any questions,
you're able to answer them with confidence. And obviously,
anything that you do not no you, you emphasize that. So my faith
teaches me that I do not speak unless I have
unless I have proof. And so that's something that personally my
family appreciated that they knew that whatever I was going to tell
them was based on scripture or teachings of the Prophet. And it
was I was going to research it basically if I didn't have that
answer. And last but not least consistency, right to be
consistent means that even though you will only see each other
around this time of year or once a year, in some cases, that you are
consistent with your family that you build a relationship and what
does that mean? That means picking up the phone, I know nowadays is
all about texting. So you want to pick up the phone and just say
hello, I love you. I was thinking of you. That goes a long way
especially today that we are in a pandemic where many of us are
still very blessed to be at home.
And so you want to be consistent in building that trust and that
relationship if anything was broken along the way after your
conversion. And
the last thing I really want to say is that you know to hold
onto your Islam means that you hold on to your family as well.
The only time that we do not listen to perhaps our parents is
if they take us out of the fold of Islam, or they ask us to do
something impermissible. Other than that you want to emphasize
how important family is in Islam, especially your mother, how
important she is and your father. And so again, the three C's are
conviction, confidence, and consistency. I hope this was of
benefit to all of you. And Insha Allah, may Allah make your journey
easy, and may your family be guided to our wonderful faith?
Until next time, my name is Anna Halal mirallas A Salam alaykum
Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh