Nadim Bashir – Marriage Is Half Of Deen

			till you shall I just want to share with you to tell a very short, a hadith explanation, but it was
someone who came to me and he asked me that. Is this even actually true? Is this hadith even true is
authentic and what is the meaning perhaps, of this hadith and the hadith is something that we have
heard. I'm sure we've heard many times and the hadith is that anyone who gets married either so what
Allah Allah do anyone who gets married, they have completed half of their Deen, you've heard this
before? Yes or no. So this person said to me that so what does this mean? Does it mean that when we
complete when we when we get married, we complete half of our deen. So if I get married to two I
		

			complete my whole Deen you know? So
		

			what about three and fourth Nephi
		

			anyway, so he was saying that what is his Hadith meaning does it even authentic or not? So by the
way, I was looking into this hadith and there are many scholars who have classified this hadith as
the Arief. While there are some scholars such as imam, so ut Rahmatullah Allah, He has put this
hadith in his
		

			email so UT has put in one of his books, I'll be happy, which is also considered and he has
classified this hadith as authentic. And there are other few other scholars who have mentioned this
hadith to be sahih, or Nasser haber Hassan, there is there are different degrees of Hadith one is
Saheeh. One is Hassan, Hassan has a lower is a lower tier than then Saheeh. But nonetheless, it is
considered as a reliable Hadith. So one thing is that you will find across the board that if you
ever hear a lecture on this matter, some people are going to sort of double down on saying, it is so
hated some you're going to hear say that it is completely dark, and so forth. Anyway, there are
		

			different opinions on this matter. Now the question is that, what does it mean that the person has
completed or Dean and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says that they should be cautious
of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the remainder of their Deen. So the question is, what does that
actually mean? And while in my research, I was actually trying to find any kind of explanation on
this hadith and there's only very few explanations that I found number one is that when it comes to
every single problem, or every single fitna, I will say, that can really attack and really diminish
our iman, it really comes down to two things. It comes down to shabiha in a Shahar what it comes
		

			down to really these two things. And these are two things that by the way, are mentioned in one
verse of the Quran, where Allah subhana wa Tada says, federal aid Amanita cada Illa, who Hawa Have
you seen these people who have turned their desires into their gods meaning, the way we show our
commitment to Allah subhanho wa taala. And we follow Allah and we obey Allah subhanho wa Taala
unconditionally. There are some people who obey their desires and they follow their desires
unconditionally, meaning that whatever comes into their heart, whatever they like to do, they do
that without any kind of remorse, without any kind of regret without any accountability. So so this
		

			is one and then Allah subhanho wa Taala says, well Albula who Allahu Allah ailment and Allah
subhanho wa Taala has misguided them. And by the way, Allah Subhan does not just journey misguide
people to begin with, when people have gone far off the right path, then Allah subhanho wa Taala he
misguides people, but Allah subhanho wa Taala saying misguidance comes as a result of what shuba
hurt, which are doubts. So there are doubts and there are desires. These are anything that you look
at, that can take us away from being it will fall into one of these two categories, for sure. So
when we talk about a shallot desires, the desire that the Prophet SAW Allahu Allah He was so he has
		

			also mentioned in another Hadith when he says that anyone who can give me a guarantee that they will
protect what's between their jaws and what's between their legs. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala will
give them Jana, this is I'm paraphrasing the Hadith here. But the point is that there comes a time.
As we get closer and the times of fitna are increasing, that we see that when it comes to protecting
our chastity when it comes to protecting our iman when it comes to protecting our faith from falling
into Zina and so forth. This is one of the greatest challenges of our time. This is without a doubt
one of the greatest challenges of our time when we look at the promiscuity that is being common in
		

			our society. And not only that, but our Dean has taught us
		

			as how to protect ourselves from these kinds of promiscuity behaviors in our society, yet we find so
many Muslims who are falling into that same trap. When we talk about *, * is
something that is very, very common, something that's very common within within a lot of young men,
especially in his happening also even within adults and so forth. But what all that is, is that we
stay away from that to protect our chastity. So when the Prophet SAW Allahu Allah He was sent him he
says that Nika and marriage is half of Dean. What he's trying to say is that when we talk about
shame, when we talk about modesty, when we talk about morality, which is higher, and so forth, a lot
		

			of this can be protected. If you go down the route of getting married, there is that you can protect
yourself from a lot of these issues. If you get married, and Subhanallah, we do find that this is
one of the objectives of Nika in marriage, that it protects you and it protects a person from from
fulfilling, I will say, this human earthly desires that Allah has created within us, instead of
using this the wrong place. Allah subhanaw taala has given us a halal outlet, a halal Halal source,
or Halal means to take care of those desires. Yet, we'd find, unfortunately, still today in many of
our marriages, that there are still you know, things are going on, which I don't want to mention
		

			from here right now. But there are things are going on as a result that were not fulfilling our
objective of the Nika. So that is why this is one of the most common explanations that I have found
in the books of, you know, the hadith of Rosa long while he was selling, as well as the oil Lemma
and how they have explained it. So first of all, is that it protects a person which is one of the
most difficult areas then of course, there probably aren't even some he says that affiliate tequila
that beware of Allah, apply tequila in your life for the remainder, meaning that as far as a shahada
may come into your heart, that may deviate you from Islam and so forth. When we talk about atheism,
		

			when we talk about all these other things that can cause doubts in the minds of people, this all
falls into a Shiva hut. As far as those matters are concerned, you need to protect yourself in those
areas. Okay, so this is one explanation of the Hadith, the other exponential Hadith that I have
found, which are not very common explanations, but it is that when we talk about a human being and
they have nothing to do, then often they will fall into sin. They say in English, an empty mind is
the devil's workshop. Okay, it's a very common thing. Okay. An empty mind is the devil's workshop,
when you have nothing to do, the chances of you falling into sin and Haram are very, very high. This
		

			is why when parents call me and they say that my son is engaged in Haram, or he's hanging around
with the wrong friends, often what I tell them is, keep them busy. The reason why our kids usually
will, will deviate is because they have too much free time on their hands. And I have come across
parents who say, no, no, I don't want to put so much pressure on them. They're gonna crack, they're
gonna break and so forth. I don't want to put so much pressure on them. But the reality is parents
that if you give them free time, and you give and you give them a gadget, and they have access to
the internet, shame upon comes to them. You see, a lot of times when you talk to these kids, they
		

			will say, Oh, so you doubt me, so you don't have any trust in me. They say these kinds of things,
right? So you don't want you don't trust me anymore. You think I'm that bad. So parents, I'm guiding
you, Okay, the next time when your son or your daughter says something like that, what you tell them
is that I'm not doubting you mashallah, you are a great son, a great daughter, who I'm doubting is
shaytaan, okay, because shaytaan can come to any one of us if shaytaan can deceive the most
righteous man and the most righteous woman in the history of all time, and that he can come and
miss, you know, misguide many other people than you and I are nothing together to okay, even if we
		

			put our eemaan together, it may not be compared to the might of shaytaan. So it's not who you are,
is not who is not you who I'm doubting, is Shaytaan, The I'm doubting, but we have to make sure that
we tell our kids this, but the reality is that when a person does get married, and you know, we have
these jokes, that oh, now you know, you actually had freedom. Now that you're married now you don't
have any freedom and so forth. But the reality is that when you have a family, and you have to take
care of our family, and there are some people who are under your responsibility, their care is your
responsibility, then it does create sort of a restriction in your life, not realizing but that
		

			restriction
		

			may actually prevent you from committing many other sins. When you are a single person and you have
no responsibilities, you can go wherever you want, you can come whenever you want, there are there
is no accountability, you have money and so forth, then of course, then this chances of you falling
into sin can become higher. So that is why another explanation given this hadith is that, that when
you talk about Nikka, it does complete half of your deen because it does, it can help you apply a
lot of Taqwa in your life. And another explanation I found, I mean, once again, it's not very
common, but it is that marriage when a person says I accept When a man says I accept this woman into
		

			my indica and marriage, that's just only one part. Okay? The commitment is there you have committed
that you will take this woman as your wife, and you will look after her and you will care for her.
And not only that, but the children that will come from this marriage, you will look after them
also. That is a commitment that a person is making at the time of the Nika but what happens after
that is still you know it's still undetermined, right? A person can treat his family well, he can
lead his family to Jana, and that family can be a means of happiness for him in this dunya and he
can lead he can inshallah go into Jana, or a person could do against her family and mistreat his
		

			wife and mistreat his family and not teach his children deen and not do their proper tarbiyah and
this can lead them to the fire Jahannam and this is why Allah subhanaw taala says, Yeah, you hola
Dena Manu, who and full circle wa Alikum Nara that protect yourself and your family for the fire,
Johanna. So when a person gets married, it's not that as if now they will go into Jana. What happens
after that for them to go into Jana? Or will they learn in Jahannam, and so forth. A lot of that
will be dictated based on how they spend their life. After they say Pibil to her, or after they say
I have accepted her, all that would happen afterwards. So when a person says I accept that's only
		

			one part of it, but now you have committed that you will also protect your deen and you will protect
your chastity. But a lot of that what happens afterward is based on how we conduct our affairs and
Subhanallah I don't have to go into this right now. But there is a lot while there are a lot of
families who mashallah they take care of their family. And this is why it also lasts a long while he
was sent him says that the best amongst you are those who are the best of their family want to
hydrocone Annie, I was the best to my family. But in many unfortunately, this is majority of the
case. The majority of the case is there's a lot of abuse that takes place within many families. And
		

			there's a lot of mistreatment that happens in many families, whether it's from the husband towards
the wife, or the wife, towards the husband and so forth. And I've talked about this in many other
talks of mine, but the point is that we have to all answer to Allah subhanho wa taala. And at the
end of the day, it's not about whatever I want to do in a marriage, it's an Amana it's a
responsibility and that responsibility we will be questioned about it on the Day of Judgment. So we
ask Allah subhanho wa Taala that once again, this is just a basically a brief explanation what this
hadith means. And once again, there could be many other explanations will Allah who I love, but
		

			someone came they said that this is Hadith does not make any sense to me, what does it mean and so
forth? So once again, their explanation was, you know, the two wives thing right? That was their
explanation. But the other explanations are these other explanations, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala
to grant us Tofik May Allah subhana wa Tala make our family successful. May Allah Subhana Allah
grant us the trophy to protect our families from the fire Jahannam Amitabha Allah mean where does
that come Allah height said I'm only gonna have to live with our cattle
		

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