Nadim Bashir – Khatira – Doing Favors for Others

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The speakers discuss the importance of impressing others through small favors and doing the most amount of loss in order to impress others. They stress the historical backlash from their parents and the difficulty in remembering certain things. The speakers emphasize the importance of remembering to do things with honor and being done with honor. They also emphasize the historical backlash from their parents and the difficulty in remembering certain things. The speakers emphasize the importance of doing small favors in order to avoid forgetting them.

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			Hello Today in this brief Hydra, I want to talk about that our Dean has taught us everything about
life. Even the basic things about our life, ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala through the prophet saw some has
taught us some basic idea of life. Today, Inshallah, and as we've heard that I want to talk about
doing favors for other people, we always do favors, sometimes we decline a favor, whether we are
doing favors or taking a favor from someone else. There are a few things that have been taught to us
by our dean. Number one is that if I'm doing someone a favor, it has to be done with the utmost
amount of loss and in sincerity. Many times we're doing a favor for someone else. Why? Because I
		
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			want something back from them in return, or I'm doing it because I want to impress them, and I'm
gonna go back to them, I want something from them. So first of all, it has to be done with the
utmost amount of sincerity, because when things are not done with sincerity, we're always going to
go back to them and remind them about that favor. A Buddha or the Allah on one time was sitting with
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and listen to this hadith because it's a very scary Hadith.
The Prophet SAW Selim said that Allah subhanho wa Taala on the Day of Judgment, will not look at
this person, He will not speak to this person and he will not purify this person. So three things
		
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			Allah will not talk to this person. Allah will not look at this person. Allah will not purify them
on the Day of Judgment. Rasul Allah says some said this three times meaning that there's a lot of
emphasis in regards to this matter of what are the Allahu and there's a hadith in Sahih Muslim, he
says Yara Sula, please tell us who are these people so that we can protect ourselves? There are
three different types of people, the Prophet, somebody mentioned this hadith, I'm not going to get
into the other two right now. But one of them is a person who does a favor for someone else, and
then goes back to them and reminds them of that favor.
		
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			How many times we do favors for other people? And when we go back and we ask them for a favor, and
they said no, we often remind them of that favor. If I'm doing someone a favor. I should be
expecting the agile in the desert only from Allah subhanho wa taala. That is our mentality and that
should be our attitude. So next time when I'm doing anyone a favor, then make sure that first of
all, we have a sincere heart. And number two is we're expecting the desire only from Allah subhanho
wa taala. That's the very first thing. The second thing that we learned that has been taught to us
by our deen is that do not forget about the favors of those who have done or do not forget about
		
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			those who did favors for you in your life. Shaimaa was the foster sister of Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam the Prophet Salam did not have necessarily Sisters of his own. He did not have
brothers of his own, but he had foster brothers. He had fostered sisters after the Battle of ponine
when there were captives, this woman shaman, she came forward and she says that I want to visit my
brother Rasul Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, the Sahaba they said, We don't ever and we have never,
ever heard Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talking about him having a sister and she said
that I'm not his biological sister. I'm his foster sister. But if you go and you remind him, perhaps
		
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			he will remember she came she was brought before us, Allah Allahu Allah send them and you have to
understand when to the Battle of Cronyn take place. And when was Rasul Allah some living with his
foster mother, Halima Saudia, we're talking about almost 60 years, a 60 year gap. So she was brought
before us law Salem, and she says I'm your foster sister the problem someone says you have you made
a claim, what's your evidence was your proof she then showed and she said that I was holding you one
time. And she showed a she showed a mark on her body where she was bitten by Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wasallam. And at that time, Russell was a Salam he remembered and what he did was he got up
		
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			and he put down his sheet and he says this is my sister and he honored her to the point that he even
offered her that if you want you can go back to us, to with with us to Medina. And you can stay in
Medina with honor and dignity and respect. Or if you want I can give you some of this dunya and you
can go back and I can escort you back to your to your tribe. And she chose that I want to be
reunited with my tribe and I want to be sent back home and you can send some gifts are away. But the
point is that many of us we forget about the favor as we move so much faster in our dunya and we
grow up that we forget about the favors of those who did things in our life. And sometimes we see
		
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			that even people grow up and Masha Allah Allah has given them some intellect Allah has given them
some dunya and may times Allah has given us some certain favors in our in life that even we know
those people, but we completely ignore them. Why? Because I feel that I'm in a position of advantage
where we have been taught
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is, do not ever forget about the favours and those people who
did things for you in your life, and the very first group of people that we should never, ever
forget about is our parents. Our parents have done so much for us in our life. They made immense
amount of sacrifices in our life for us, we should never ever forget. Yes, we get married. Yes, we
move on in life. Yes, life in America is so fast that we forget about our parents, but we should
never ever forget about their son. And yes, we may not able to call them here and there, but always
keep them in your drawers and always make dua for them. The third thing when it comes to doing
		
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			favors is that our deen has permitted that if you want to make a condition you are allowed to make a
condition for example, you're doing someone a favor, you can say this is my condition you want my
favorite i This is my condition. And if they accept then they accept why how do we know this from
the story of Musa and harder harder said he's he moves out in some came to huddle and said, I want
to travel with you. I want to learn from you what others say. He says that Yes. Now he's doing him a
favor, right? But he says on the condition that Fela does a neon che and you cannot ask me about
anything that I do. Whatever I do, they don't make sense to people is very unique in nature. But you
		
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			cannot ask me about anything musalla you some ask them the first time. Why did you wreck the ship?
He says I told you not to ask me questions. The second time he took the life of that child he again
asked Why did you do this? He says I told you not to ask me questions. The third time he did it he
says hi that fed up with a neat well being. So what we learned from the story is that if you someone
that comes to you, or you're doing a favor for someone else, they need your help and support on
something then you can make a condition and all the formula the show after the the 100 the Maliki
and the Hannah Bella they all say that you can make conditions as long as they're not against the
		
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			tenants and the teachings of our deen you cannot make an unlawful expectation from the person you're
doing a favor for. So that is why we understand that if you want to do a favor for someone else,
that you can do an affair do a favor for them. But at the same time you want to make conditions you
can make conditions and lastly, even if someone is not willing to help you, or you are in need of
help yourself, when you go out of your way to help someone else out there, Allah subhanho wa Taala
will always help you in your affairs. That is one thing that we always learn Wallah who feel loved
man can have the fear only Okay, at the end of the day, I can get someone else's help or I can get
		
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			the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala who's helped do we want we want Allah's help? So even if you go
out of your way, yes, you are in need of help. But when you help someone else out, remember that in
sha Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala will always do a favor for you and Allah subhanho wa Taala will
always help you. So these are just few things that we learn from our deen regarding doing favors for
someone ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala to give us Tofik does that como la Hey, salaam aleikum wa
Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh in
		
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